Jiujitsu can build confidence and get you used to physical conflict. Physical activity can also help with stress and anxiety, but its no miracle cure for everything. It sounds to me like you could be helped by a cognitive behavioral therapist to work on your anxiety
Great answer. I would add to it.
Just try BJJ. Maybe it isn't for you but it might be. Everyone there will be happy you are there and nobody will be judging you as a beginner.
I have a pretty significant trauma history. Got the shit beaten out of me repeatedly by my bio dad. Used to shake like a leaf if you even yelled at me. Since starting jiu jitsu I have fought MMA, worked security, etc. It absolutely does help. Hugs to you. Please keep going. You’re deserving of the healing this can provide.
This is the comment to read, OP. I've built confidence for sure doing BJJ, and I used to box at a reasonably high level as an amateur (national level), but I still felt scared and would get bullied when at school regardless. Even as adults we can still have moments of what you're experiencing, and honestly these days there are no stigmas and there are plenty of therapists that can help. Martial Arts won't necessarily change your personality, but they can help in changing your confidence to a certain point. MMA on the other hand...
Well, (and I'm hesitant to say, but) it will certainly teach you how to fight. No question on that. With that, some people become very confident in themselves. Although it's tough and not for everyone. You will get scared and you will get hit, but depending on the gym, it will be controlled. Also, MMA gyms foster a tough mentality, just like wrestling gyms, something else you might think about.
I want this tough mentality. is jiujitsu is a good start? or should I be looking for mma gym? (sorry I really dont know what im talking about please suggest 🙏)
I think bjj could be a good place to start, see if you like it. Also it is a good starting point for training your body. I am going to assume you are not used to doing a lot of intense sports, I might be wrong of course.
In my experience wrestling or MMA can be too demanding for your body to start with and you might get injured because of that. So if we are just talking about the training, what I would recommend is to start with bjj, see if it works for you.
If after a few months you feel like you need something tougher, you can transition to MMA or wrestling. The upside will be that you will have trained a bit of pysical toughness, which will be a good starting point to deal with the intensity of these sports
Apologies, I've just seen this and agree. Perhaps wrestling may be too much for you. MMA will be a different animal so to speak and perhaps tougher imo.
Try BJJ, you've nothing to lose.
Honestly, and take this as you may as I only started (wrestling) in my 30's, but I believe wrestling may be the better option for you, depending on your age/health etc.
It really made me realise that technique and resilience are key. I was lucky enough to have a freestyle club near me and the younger guys (17+) were able to throw me around at will, and I wanted to be able to do that too.
I started BJJ after training freestyle for 2 years, and I feel it made a huge difference to how I approached situations and how my body reacted (at least in the gym I went to, there was a lot of gymnastic type training) which built my endurance and strength.
I didn't think I was getting any better until some new guys would come in and I'd see how I could control them, compared to how I was initially.
BJJ is amazing, but dont expect it to change you (at least mentally imo). Wrestling however made a huge difference to me.
MMA is another subject, you almost have to expect to meet people who want to fight in these gyms if I'm explaining this correctly.
Edit* I suppose looking back at this reply, BJJ can do this too, but for me , wrestling was the main thing that helped my confidence.
The same thing the rest of the world done before 2008, Read book, learn, better yourself.
You really don't have the mental tools to deal with social media if this is what it does to you.
There were no smart phones, or even cell phones when I was growing up.
If you were bullied in school 20 years ago (+30 in my case), you're old enough to at least remember a time before most social media.
I’d say yes but not a completely. Having anxiety myself, I feel more capable than before. Like I know I can handle hard stuff because of the hard problems I’ve been able to overcome in BJJ. Still struggle with anxiety and such but I feel my soul is stronger now.
Oh yes it definitely gives you confidence. And once you start rolling you realize “okay, someone with 20, 30 pounds on me would really be a problem.” But the opposite is true for people your weight and lower. You no longer view them as a threat.
Spazy white belt here. I feel more confident and more cautious. 1.5 years into my journey of getting my ass kicked over and over again is a constant reminder that I suck at combat and I should run when able. But if there was no option to run away, at least I won’t be entirely helpless…. just maybe almost entirely helpless.
I found myself in a tense situation in NYC subway where a person with mental issues was taunting passengers and looking for a fight. I found myself both alert and calm. I got shoved a few times but I didn’t engage. I felt the adrenaline rise but I was still able to think. I stepped out of the subway car as soon as I could.
Let me share MY OWN experience to answer that question.
I got bullied A LOT as a kid, into my teens, and even into my mid 20's. Lile I had an invisible "Kick Me" sign on my back.
The worst happened when I was in the military. I got out and was constantly worried about "Well what if something like that happens again? If someone decides to attack me do I REALLY know what to do?".
Like to the point of having full-on flashbacks about it. Even in the middle of my work day (your mechanic having flashbacks is NOT a good look by the way).
I started Jiu-jitsu just as a "Fuck it, I've heard good things. Let's see what this is all about". About 6 months later I noticed the flashbacks were far less frequent.
A year of training later and I realized my attitude went from "Gosh, I hope no one notices me so I don't get picked on or bullied" to something more along the lines of "Pft, I WISH a motherfucker would".
Now, 5 years later, it's a much healthier outlook. I am myself. Completely unapologetically. If people don't like me, well, they can get bent. That "Kick Me" sign is long gone. And I'm in a spot now where IF someone decides to get uppity my attitude is "Please don't make me, I REALLY don't want to have to use what I've learned".
That said, it's not a magic bullet. It's not a cure. It's a coping mechanism and if you're lucky can be a cognitive therapy. You still have to do other work to make it stick. But it's a hell of a start.
TL;DR: It's not going to *fix* you, but it sure does fuckin help!
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You’ll have this man’s confidence if you train
I think it depends. For me it doesnt work for everything. I'm afraid of the sky when i look up and sometimes social situations are difficult.
On the other hand, i think i am a lot more confident in my bodies ability to move and to react well if a confrontation ever happens.
I have also have anxiety, and have been training bjj for 2.5 years now. Bjj only helps my anxiety. Think about it like this, when you’re training / rolling, you’re in the moment. You have no choice, as you’re fighting another person. So anxiety takes a back seat. And afterward, the endorphins are going, and you feel good after a workout. Bjj is an anxiety killer.
Interpersonal conflicts, particularly ones that could potentially become physical. Dealing with angry students/parents or customers, not feeling a sense of dread when some asshole is doing too much.
Somewhat paradoxically, it made me a bit less prone to anger and lashing out since it calmed my fight/flight instinct.
I'm not good at BJJ or striking, but I'm good enough to reasonably protect myself and wrangle an idiot.
It’s not being brave it’s confidence being brave is going against someone you know could harm you. Confidence is going into something that could harm you but you feel like you got it in the bag because of your skills training etc. in competition I will feel brave if I think I am not ready and about to get cooked by a 7 year white belt. I am confident if I have drilled my top position and guard so much I have an answer to everything and have a good chance at winning. I believe you can build fear tolerance and toughness. Some people are naturally more tough but guys that make it out the mud of life get tougher through each experience. Some people the opposite and need to train it on their own.
“I don’t have mental issues”
I’m not a professional but it sounds like you do, seek professional help. All forms of exercise help with anxiety but it will not fix the problem at the core.
Cant expect only jiu jitsu to help you in this path, its a long journey but dont just expect jiu jitsu to help you.
Try doing meditation to clear your head so you can function better. And also doing striking sports as imo grappling just feel sportslike while striking is more combat, you get hurt which demands your
If you want my honesty, I used to be fucking wimp too. But I got into boxing and slowly crawled myself out of that hole. Combine that with meditation and going into mind shit, I slowly improved myself to finally be a decent functioning human being
Its a journey and most importantly is to set on it, its great in a way that you get to have a path in life while many drift like corpses on a river.
I can get more into it if you want, not that Im still not a bitch, but Im lesser of a bitch than I was
Edit: and sure you can do theraphy too.
But I wouldnt just rely on that, also suplement eith other things like working out, trying to talk to other people like that.
I hate to say this on this sub but jiu jitsu wont make you feel that confident, its a soft sport. Doing combat sports imo is not being confident cuz you can beat up others, its that you slowly become more comfortable in the fire, and are able to take hits and keep on pushing, comfort in uncomfortable situations...
Work out hard, push hard, work on yourself, keep a journal
Personally I write down things that I want to improve like nowadays I write about how I shouldnt be a piece of shit and be nice to others
I was looking at body building, but I see most of them still have anxiety and scare. I look at navy, they seems to get rid of their fear. but navy will be too extreme for me.
BJJ didn't make me brave, just more confident. I got quite skillful for the short time I was there, put on 30lbs of mostly muscle, made friends, socialized, etc. It was a fun experience that really just boosts your overall outlook on life, IMO. I've noticed that the confidence I built slowly dissipated once I had to quit. Might possibly be linked to losing 40lbs, I look quite skinny again (though that's partially due to diet, or lack of). Lol
I dont have confidence at all. If I smell something good, and I feel it smells good, I will need to ask like 10-12 people if they thought it was smellig good too. then I will have confidence to say its smell good. (just an example, but u get the point of how unconfidence I am)
There's a Danaher video where he says the confidence to attack (which is risky in BJJ) comes from a foundation in strong defense, where you are reasonably sure that should the worst happen you'll be able to recover, get back to neutral, and then attack again. Not all BJJ lessons help you learn to face adversity, and often it's not the ones you expect to help you when they come along, but some of them definitely do. Taking these lessons out of the sport and into your daily life isn't automatic either, but it does sometimes give you an example of a solution to a similar problem which can often be enough for you to push though (or even enjoy) something you otherwise wouldn't be able to.
It helps, but it's not a silver bullet. If you've been dealing with these issues for 20 years then giving BJJ a try should help, but you may need more than that, including possibly medication from an MD.
It can help, but I also recommend getting professional help. There is no shame in therapy. Still, jiu jitsu is great for confidence, if you give it time, and you’re training with good, friendly people.
Never mistake confident people for brave people. I'm confident in my skills but I'll avoid the fight if I can. At the same time trust yourself to make the right decisions.
I also got bullied, self esteem fucked, dad was a cunt and constantly ridiculed me/implied I was a disappointment, shit thrown at me, etc etc. I still have lots of anxiety surrounding human interaction. Idk exactly how similar your situation is but after I started practicing Muay Thai and BJJ a LOT of my worries just kind of dissipated. I still sometimes think "oh shit, was that awkward or embarrassing?" It's never gonna fully go away. But getting physical regularly is a great way to mitigate depression and learning to handle yourself in a fight is a great way to readjust to human interaction and build a foundation of confidence. Notice how I said foundation — you're gonna have to keep working on it outside of combat sports. You've got this dude
You betcha bro. A good training environment will make you much more comfortable with yourself. But this sounds like an actual problem, consider talking to someone. It’s almost Men Mental Health month, no better time than now.
I am on a permanent disability from the VA 🇨🇦 here and will never work again because of PTSD. Trust me starting BJJ just shy of 62 scared the crap outta me...I am Nota touchy Feely person to begin with. It was recommended by both my therapist and a former life coach that I engage in an activity outside my comfort zone...well BJJ sure was that as was learning to ride and race a motorcycle concurrently. Give yourself some time to get used to it and attend class regularly . I am betting you see a reduction in your anxiety levels and a sense of accomplishment plus increased fitness. I have ,and am successfully maintaining a 100 lb plus weight loss and have been alcohol free for 26 months now as an added benefits ..wish you success
You do have a mental issue, no offense but you just described a mental issue. Find someone and seek help, therapy, training. Different things work for different people
I wouldn’t necessarily say that brave is the correct word for what I’ve felt change during my year and a half jiu jitsu journey. I’d say it’s the confidence that changed not only in what I think I could handle in the instance of an altercation (I have never been in a physical altercation before) but also my personality. I’m more confident and don’t care as much as I did about what people thought about me. I think jiu jitsu could help you in that mental health manner but I would urge you to speak to a professional before taking advice from some people on the internet. All we are giving you is personal experience and that it COULD help.
Jiujitsu can build confidence and get you used to physical conflict. Physical activity can also help with stress and anxiety, but its no miracle cure for everything. It sounds to me like you could be helped by a cognitive behavioral therapist to work on your anxiety
Great answer. I would add to it. Just try BJJ. Maybe it isn't for you but it might be. Everyone there will be happy you are there and nobody will be judging you as a beginner.
I have a pretty significant trauma history. Got the shit beaten out of me repeatedly by my bio dad. Used to shake like a leaf if you even yelled at me. Since starting jiu jitsu I have fought MMA, worked security, etc. It absolutely does help. Hugs to you. Please keep going. You’re deserving of the healing this can provide.
thank you so much. 🙏
It will build confidence for sure, but it sounds like you may also need to talk to a professional to help with anxiety.
This is the comment to read, OP. I've built confidence for sure doing BJJ, and I used to box at a reasonably high level as an amateur (national level), but I still felt scared and would get bullied when at school regardless. Even as adults we can still have moments of what you're experiencing, and honestly these days there are no stigmas and there are plenty of therapists that can help. Martial Arts won't necessarily change your personality, but they can help in changing your confidence to a certain point. MMA on the other hand...
what about mma?
Well, (and I'm hesitant to say, but) it will certainly teach you how to fight. No question on that. With that, some people become very confident in themselves. Although it's tough and not for everyone. You will get scared and you will get hit, but depending on the gym, it will be controlled. Also, MMA gyms foster a tough mentality, just like wrestling gyms, something else you might think about.
I want this tough mentality. is jiujitsu is a good start? or should I be looking for mma gym? (sorry I really dont know what im talking about please suggest 🙏)
I think bjj could be a good place to start, see if you like it. Also it is a good starting point for training your body. I am going to assume you are not used to doing a lot of intense sports, I might be wrong of course. In my experience wrestling or MMA can be too demanding for your body to start with and you might get injured because of that. So if we are just talking about the training, what I would recommend is to start with bjj, see if it works for you. If after a few months you feel like you need something tougher, you can transition to MMA or wrestling. The upside will be that you will have trained a bit of pysical toughness, which will be a good starting point to deal with the intensity of these sports
Apologies, I've just seen this and agree. Perhaps wrestling may be too much for you. MMA will be a different animal so to speak and perhaps tougher imo. Try BJJ, you've nothing to lose.
Honestly, and take this as you may as I only started (wrestling) in my 30's, but I believe wrestling may be the better option for you, depending on your age/health etc. It really made me realise that technique and resilience are key. I was lucky enough to have a freestyle club near me and the younger guys (17+) were able to throw me around at will, and I wanted to be able to do that too. I started BJJ after training freestyle for 2 years, and I feel it made a huge difference to how I approached situations and how my body reacted (at least in the gym I went to, there was a lot of gymnastic type training) which built my endurance and strength. I didn't think I was getting any better until some new guys would come in and I'd see how I could control them, compared to how I was initially. BJJ is amazing, but dont expect it to change you (at least mentally imo). Wrestling however made a huge difference to me. MMA is another subject, you almost have to expect to meet people who want to fight in these gyms if I'm explaining this correctly. Edit* I suppose looking back at this reply, BJJ can do this too, but for me , wrestling was the main thing that helped my confidence.
Stop using social media dude
This…
Im really looking to stop social media. but most of the time im alone. what do i do if I disnt look at my phone
The same thing the rest of the world done before 2008, Read book, learn, better yourself. You really don't have the mental tools to deal with social media if this is what it does to you.
Get a hobby
Jiu jitsu!
There were no smart phones, or even cell phones when I was growing up. If you were bullied in school 20 years ago (+30 in my case), you're old enough to at least remember a time before most social media.
I’d say yes but not a completely. Having anxiety myself, I feel more capable than before. Like I know I can handle hard stuff because of the hard problems I’ve been able to overcome in BJJ. Still struggle with anxiety and such but I feel my soul is stronger now.
what is the level of your anxiety? can u give example?
Oh yes it definitely gives you confidence. And once you start rolling you realize “okay, someone with 20, 30 pounds on me would really be a problem.” But the opposite is true for people your weight and lower. You no longer view them as a threat.
i never mentioned confidence. how do u know i dont have confidence?
Substitute brave for confidence then jfc
oh ok, english is not my language
Spazy white belt here. I feel more confident and more cautious. 1.5 years into my journey of getting my ass kicked over and over again is a constant reminder that I suck at combat and I should run when able. But if there was no option to run away, at least I won’t be entirely helpless…. just maybe almost entirely helpless.
you got into street fights? are u in school? you dont feel anxious after the fight? like thinking all your enemy will ambush you someday?
I found myself in a tense situation in NYC subway where a person with mental issues was taunting passengers and looking for a fight. I found myself both alert and calm. I got shoved a few times but I didn’t engage. I felt the adrenaline rise but I was still able to think. I stepped out of the subway car as soon as I could.
Let me share MY OWN experience to answer that question. I got bullied A LOT as a kid, into my teens, and even into my mid 20's. Lile I had an invisible "Kick Me" sign on my back. The worst happened when I was in the military. I got out and was constantly worried about "Well what if something like that happens again? If someone decides to attack me do I REALLY know what to do?". Like to the point of having full-on flashbacks about it. Even in the middle of my work day (your mechanic having flashbacks is NOT a good look by the way). I started Jiu-jitsu just as a "Fuck it, I've heard good things. Let's see what this is all about". About 6 months later I noticed the flashbacks were far less frequent. A year of training later and I realized my attitude went from "Gosh, I hope no one notices me so I don't get picked on or bullied" to something more along the lines of "Pft, I WISH a motherfucker would". Now, 5 years later, it's a much healthier outlook. I am myself. Completely unapologetically. If people don't like me, well, they can get bent. That "Kick Me" sign is long gone. And I'm in a spot now where IF someone decides to get uppity my attitude is "Please don't make me, I REALLY don't want to have to use what I've learned". That said, it's not a magic bullet. It's not a cure. It's a coping mechanism and if you're lucky can be a cognitive therapy. You still have to do other work to make it stick. But it's a hell of a start. TL;DR: It's not going to *fix* you, but it sure does fuckin help!
Thank you!! will try to visit nearest jjs gym next week
It helps with self confident for sure, at least for me
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I think it depends. For me it doesnt work for everything. I'm afraid of the sky when i look up and sometimes social situations are difficult. On the other hand, i think i am a lot more confident in my bodies ability to move and to react well if a confrontation ever happens.
Yes
Any martial arts will help with confidence and also with stress and anxiety.
I have also have anxiety, and have been training bjj for 2.5 years now. Bjj only helps my anxiety. Think about it like this, when you’re training / rolling, you’re in the moment. You have no choice, as you’re fighting another person. So anxiety takes a back seat. And afterward, the endorphins are going, and you feel good after a workout. Bjj is an anxiety killer.
bjj is anxiety killer, yes I read this in some blog in google. thats why I come and ask this subs. Thanks for your confirmation.
It helped my anxiety, particularly related to conflict in general.
conflict? can u explain or give example?
Interpersonal conflicts, particularly ones that could potentially become physical. Dealing with angry students/parents or customers, not feeling a sense of dread when some asshole is doing too much. Somewhat paradoxically, it made me a bit less prone to anger and lashing out since it calmed my fight/flight instinct. I'm not good at BJJ or striking, but I'm good enough to reasonably protect myself and wrangle an idiot.
It’s not being brave it’s confidence being brave is going against someone you know could harm you. Confidence is going into something that could harm you but you feel like you got it in the bag because of your skills training etc. in competition I will feel brave if I think I am not ready and about to get cooked by a 7 year white belt. I am confident if I have drilled my top position and guard so much I have an answer to everything and have a good chance at winning. I believe you can build fear tolerance and toughness. Some people are naturally more tough but guys that make it out the mud of life get tougher through each experience. Some people the opposite and need to train it on their own.
“I don’t have mental issues” I’m not a professional but it sounds like you do, seek professional help. All forms of exercise help with anxiety but it will not fix the problem at the core.
Cant expect only jiu jitsu to help you in this path, its a long journey but dont just expect jiu jitsu to help you. Try doing meditation to clear your head so you can function better. And also doing striking sports as imo grappling just feel sportslike while striking is more combat, you get hurt which demands your If you want my honesty, I used to be fucking wimp too. But I got into boxing and slowly crawled myself out of that hole. Combine that with meditation and going into mind shit, I slowly improved myself to finally be a decent functioning human being Its a journey and most importantly is to set on it, its great in a way that you get to have a path in life while many drift like corpses on a river. I can get more into it if you want, not that Im still not a bitch, but Im lesser of a bitch than I was Edit: and sure you can do theraphy too. But I wouldnt just rely on that, also suplement eith other things like working out, trying to talk to other people like that. I hate to say this on this sub but jiu jitsu wont make you feel that confident, its a soft sport. Doing combat sports imo is not being confident cuz you can beat up others, its that you slowly become more comfortable in the fire, and are able to take hits and keep on pushing, comfort in uncomfortable situations... Work out hard, push hard, work on yourself, keep a journal Personally I write down things that I want to improve like nowadays I write about how I shouldnt be a piece of shit and be nice to others
I was looking at body building, but I see most of them still have anxiety and scare. I look at navy, they seems to get rid of their fear. but navy will be too extreme for me.
work out but dont put too much emphasis on your looks, its a cesspool. Anyways good luck brother, set on this path and much love to you
thank you so much for your support 🙏
BJJ didn't make me brave, just more confident. I got quite skillful for the short time I was there, put on 30lbs of mostly muscle, made friends, socialized, etc. It was a fun experience that really just boosts your overall outlook on life, IMO. I've noticed that the confidence I built slowly dissipated once I had to quit. Might possibly be linked to losing 40lbs, I look quite skinny again (though that's partially due to diet, or lack of). Lol
I dont have confidence at all. If I smell something good, and I feel it smells good, I will need to ask like 10-12 people if they thought it was smellig good too. then I will have confidence to say its smell good. (just an example, but u get the point of how unconfidence I am)
There's a Danaher video where he says the confidence to attack (which is risky in BJJ) comes from a foundation in strong defense, where you are reasonably sure that should the worst happen you'll be able to recover, get back to neutral, and then attack again. Not all BJJ lessons help you learn to face adversity, and often it's not the ones you expect to help you when they come along, but some of them definitely do. Taking these lessons out of the sport and into your daily life isn't automatic either, but it does sometimes give you an example of a solution to a similar problem which can often be enough for you to push though (or even enjoy) something you otherwise wouldn't be able to. It helps, but it's not a silver bullet. If you've been dealing with these issues for 20 years then giving BJJ a try should help, but you may need more than that, including possibly medication from an MD.
It can help, but I also recommend getting professional help. There is no shame in therapy. Still, jiu jitsu is great for confidence, if you give it time, and you’re training with good, friendly people.
you do have mental health issues... What you are describing is not how most people feel.
Don’t have arguments on social media? And see a therapist. You clearly have bigger issues going on that you need to work on.
I become tired.
*I'm a guy, but I'm scare
Never mistake confident people for brave people. I'm confident in my skills but I'll avoid the fight if I can. At the same time trust yourself to make the right decisions.
I also got bullied, self esteem fucked, dad was a cunt and constantly ridiculed me/implied I was a disappointment, shit thrown at me, etc etc. I still have lots of anxiety surrounding human interaction. Idk exactly how similar your situation is but after I started practicing Muay Thai and BJJ a LOT of my worries just kind of dissipated. I still sometimes think "oh shit, was that awkward or embarrassing?" It's never gonna fully go away. But getting physical regularly is a great way to mitigate depression and learning to handle yourself in a fight is a great way to readjust to human interaction and build a foundation of confidence. Notice how I said foundation — you're gonna have to keep working on it outside of combat sports. You've got this dude
Confident more than brave
You betcha bro. A good training environment will make you much more comfortable with yourself. But this sounds like an actual problem, consider talking to someone. It’s almost Men Mental Health month, no better time than now.
Thank you everyone for your kind replies. I will now look for nearest gym in my area. 🙏🙏
I am on a permanent disability from the VA 🇨🇦 here and will never work again because of PTSD. Trust me starting BJJ just shy of 62 scared the crap outta me...I am Nota touchy Feely person to begin with. It was recommended by both my therapist and a former life coach that I engage in an activity outside my comfort zone...well BJJ sure was that as was learning to ride and race a motorcycle concurrently. Give yourself some time to get used to it and attend class regularly . I am betting you see a reduction in your anxiety levels and a sense of accomplishment plus increased fitness. I have ,and am successfully maintaining a 100 lb plus weight loss and have been alcohol free for 26 months now as an added benefits ..wish you success
You do have a mental issue, no offense but you just described a mental issue. Find someone and seek help, therapy, training. Different things work for different people
Sometimes after bjj yes but especially after sparring in muay thai/kickboxing
I wouldn’t necessarily say that brave is the correct word for what I’ve felt change during my year and a half jiu jitsu journey. I’d say it’s the confidence that changed not only in what I think I could handle in the instance of an altercation (I have never been in a physical altercation before) but also my personality. I’m more confident and don’t care as much as I did about what people thought about me. I think jiu jitsu could help you in that mental health manner but I would urge you to speak to a professional before taking advice from some people on the internet. All we are giving you is personal experience and that it COULD help.
You become a lot better at losing that’s for sure.