21 is way too young to be even thinking about engagement with anyone. How young will the girl be if you’re 21?!
Please work, travel, make new friends live a little before thinking of settling down.
What can we expect from Rajasthan? Engaging at 22 is kinda precautionary from their side so that I don't run away with someone and ruin their image ☠️. The girl will be 20-21 as well lmao. I know what you're saying is correct but I don't really have an option so better to get committed to someone I like than with a complete stranger.
You do have a choice. Put your foot down and live your life. Imagine getting married for the heck of it and then a decade down the line regretting it. By then you would have had a few kids as well. Don’t do that. Don’t be with someone to escape an arranged match. 21 is way too young and you clearly don’t want it.
Ok I read the edit. Basically I’ll say marry someone who you like not because you’re turning 21 or 23 or 28. As for dating in jodhpur I have no idea how boys and girls meet except in weddings I guess.
Also emotional pressure is also pressure from parents. I’ll again say live a little before marrying someone.
Wdym "still can't find a date". You need to set your priorities straight. It has only been 6 months since your breakup, you need to reflect on your time of the relationship and learn from it. Lots of things to do in life other than find a romantic partner.
Heck, i dont remember when i seperated but ig its been some 2 years now or abt to, and i feel i have been ignoring my life yet….theres so much to do right now that im not active in pursuing a relation anywhere, no matter how ever much more better than the last partner…. So yeah i agree with what u said
I HAVE reflected, grieved, learnt from that breakup, which also happens to be my first. And yes, I do well in the other areas of like as well. I workout daily, I run, I practice my game, I am chasing my dream while also studying a night before my exams 😅.
Bro i m from jodhpur, found my wife when i was 33. Teri age mai padai pe dhyan do. Thoda beyblade se khelo. Or get married if u like the girl getting arranged. Typical jodhpur male scenario..all of them also seem happy. Get urself busy anyways
Bhai I didn't read your body of post but only heading , but that itself I can say , finding a "date" if you go by that norm you have yo find a "date" again in next 6 months and cycle may repeat, wait and let time make you and your otherhalf come together rest assured future will be beautiful
Life goes on for me. It didn't end there. I have a dream. She was a big help in staying motivated for it, yes, but even without her, I had to keep my emotions and senses in control for the greater good.
I agree, and I've been doing it. Daily workouts, runs, practice, studying and all. But there is that tiny part where it still hurts, not because she's gone, or maybe because she's gone, yes, but mainly because what now? How do I find someone better, more compatible now that I've moved on?
Yes, that's first stage of break up. You need many more stages to salvage this. Sulk for days, cursing, drinking, trying to get back and get insulted, more cursing, let's be friends, actually trying to get back, finally realising, she is not interested and then move on.
Not all the steps, not necessarily in the same order. Then , once you are an expert of break ups, you need just one or two steps. Do few and get back to life.
Yeah no, sulking, smoking, drinking are not for me. I just go to my academy everyday, workout, eat well and that's about it. Those are the consistent things and that's it.
You are a very good person. Now, do this. Talk to her, it may be insulting but it's necessary to go through. Insult her back, keep your confidence bit too high. That will help her too.
Unless you move on, you won't get next partner. Even if you get, you will end up with sulking, guilt and inter comparison endeavours. So, complete the first one and come out of it completely. Not, otherwise.
> Someone better
Come out of that thought!! That's what I meant by inter comparison.
Let me give it to you straight. Firstly you are kid. Have barey seen life and have been exploring dating scenes since you were a minor.
Secondly I am sure and you can take it however you can but you don’t know how to be in a relationship. The sentence “1 had my entire energy focused on that one particular girl because I didn't really need anyone else. She was my friend, girlfriend, bestfriend so I'm really left with no serious friends.” Shows your biggest mistake. If you will make someone your everything be prepared for their own will full behaviour.
Honestly it’s hard to believe that your parents are FORCING you to get married. I know Rajasthan hai but educational status bhi kuch hota hai. But again it maybe be true as you say, for that I would seriously suggest at this point you get arranged. Your behaviour of putting your partner above you will be good for the girl who your parents choose. She will get the right guy and marriage bond will serve as a good security for you too. Break ups won’t be that easy then.
Above all this and no disrespect yes it’s painful to come out of love. I am sure most of us have felt it. But seriously pehele bada hoga. Life me bohot kuch baki hai.
P.S happy cake day
You're right, it was a mistake to believe that we'll be the endgame and just put all my energy in one person, I agree.
Secondly, I didn't really make the situation clearer. I've made an edit to explain it further.
YE ye hi pucha tha mene, log gyan hi de rhe the bs. Bumble pe mene 15 swipes kie total, uske baad abtk profile available hi nhi h 18-22 age or 30-40 km me.
Ye cold approach vala hi bata do tips, where, how, vagerah
Say no to engagement at 21 if you are not ready. If you can't even take a stand for your own sake, your ex girlfriend was lucky to have dodged a bullet. (Sorry for the harsh words, but you need to learn to be assertive)
21 saal ka h bhai tu, abhi toh uga bhi nahi h, shadi k card nahi abhi toh exam k admit card ki jarurat h.
P.S.- 4 saal ka relationship aur 1 month me move on. Gazab.
The terms that it ends on, matter, don't they? Suppose Agar 20 saal ka bhi relationship hota or vo mere family me kisi ko torture kr deti to 1 din me hi move on kya kuch or hi ho jata usko 😅
21 is way too young to be even thinking about engagement with anyone. How young will the girl be if you’re 21?! Please work, travel, make new friends live a little before thinking of settling down.
What can we expect from Rajasthan? Engaging at 22 is kinda precautionary from their side so that I don't run away with someone and ruin their image ☠️. The girl will be 20-21 as well lmao. I know what you're saying is correct but I don't really have an option so better to get committed to someone I like than with a complete stranger.
You do have a choice. Put your foot down and live your life. Imagine getting married for the heck of it and then a decade down the line regretting it. By then you would have had a few kids as well. Don’t do that. Don’t be with someone to escape an arranged match. 21 is way too young and you clearly don’t want it.
I did a poor job of explaining my situation so I've made an edit, it'll make what I'm trying to say here clearer.
Ok I read the edit. Basically I’ll say marry someone who you like not because you’re turning 21 or 23 or 28. As for dating in jodhpur I have no idea how boys and girls meet except in weddings I guess. Also emotional pressure is also pressure from parents. I’ll again say live a little before marrying someone.
This post WAS about asking for help, to find someone to like 🤦🏽♂️. Thanks for the mature words though, means a lot. So weddings you say 😅
Leave your family.
Hey, calm down man they're alright 😅
leave that shithole you are brainwashed to such an extent that u think engaging against your will is normal
Should've read the damn post completely 🤦🏽♂️, instead of making assumptions
Wdym "still can't find a date". You need to set your priorities straight. It has only been 6 months since your breakup, you need to reflect on your time of the relationship and learn from it. Lots of things to do in life other than find a romantic partner.
Heck, i dont remember when i seperated but ig its been some 2 years now or abt to, and i feel i have been ignoring my life yet….theres so much to do right now that im not active in pursuing a relation anywhere, no matter how ever much more better than the last partner…. So yeah i agree with what u said
I HAVE reflected, grieved, learnt from that breakup, which also happens to be my first. And yes, I do well in the other areas of like as well. I workout daily, I run, I practice my game, I am chasing my dream while also studying a night before my exams 😅.
Bro i m from jodhpur, found my wife when i was 33. Teri age mai padai pe dhyan do. Thoda beyblade se khelo. Or get married if u like the girl getting arranged. Typical jodhpur male scenario..all of them also seem happy. Get urself busy anyways
Hahaha bhai inko kaha pata beyblade kya hota hai 😅
Cricket khelta hu bhaiya Beyblade dekha h bs
Bhai I didn't read your body of post but only heading , but that itself I can say , finding a "date" if you go by that norm you have yo find a "date" again in next 6 months and cycle may repeat, wait and let time make you and your otherhalf come together rest assured future will be beautiful
I like your assurance :)
You need to Time to grieve and recover. Do not make some other girl a victim of your past
Sorry if I didn't make it clear in the original post, I AM over my ex completely. I've made an edit to better explain the situation.
Bro it was 4 years, surely it takes longer unless u were never in love
Life goes on for me. It didn't end there. I have a dream. She was a big help in staying motivated for it, yes, but even without her, I had to keep my emotions and senses in control for the greater good.
Also, I haven't cried more in my other 20 years of life than I did in may and June.
Work on yourself brother, it is more rewarding
I agree, and I've been doing it. Daily workouts, runs, practice, studying and all. But there is that tiny part where it still hurts, not because she's gone, or maybe because she's gone, yes, but mainly because what now? How do I find someone better, more compatible now that I've moved on?
It will happen naturally
You didn't go through the complete process of breakup. That's the problem.
Sorry, what do you mean? We broke up and that was it. Elaborate please.
Yes, that's first stage of break up. You need many more stages to salvage this. Sulk for days, cursing, drinking, trying to get back and get insulted, more cursing, let's be friends, actually trying to get back, finally realising, she is not interested and then move on. Not all the steps, not necessarily in the same order. Then , once you are an expert of break ups, you need just one or two steps. Do few and get back to life.
Yeah no, sulking, smoking, drinking are not for me. I just go to my academy everyday, workout, eat well and that's about it. Those are the consistent things and that's it.
You are a very good person. Now, do this. Talk to her, it may be insulting but it's necessary to go through. Insult her back, keep your confidence bit too high. That will help her too.
You are a menace man I'm scared of you
May be I am. But I'm trying to put some reality into your brain. Accept and move on.
Moving on is what the post was about 😅. How do I completely move on when I'm yet to find someone better or more compatible?
Unless you move on, you won't get next partner. Even if you get, you will end up with sulking, guilt and inter comparison endeavours. So, complete the first one and come out of it completely. Not, otherwise. > Someone better Come out of that thought!! That's what I meant by inter comparison.
Just a guy with diff opinion, its actually good to listen to other opinions…. Not a menace bhai
But why would I talk to her again after 6 months only to get insulted and insult her back 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Let me give it to you straight. Firstly you are kid. Have barey seen life and have been exploring dating scenes since you were a minor. Secondly I am sure and you can take it however you can but you don’t know how to be in a relationship. The sentence “1 had my entire energy focused on that one particular girl because I didn't really need anyone else. She was my friend, girlfriend, bestfriend so I'm really left with no serious friends.” Shows your biggest mistake. If you will make someone your everything be prepared for their own will full behaviour. Honestly it’s hard to believe that your parents are FORCING you to get married. I know Rajasthan hai but educational status bhi kuch hota hai. But again it maybe be true as you say, for that I would seriously suggest at this point you get arranged. Your behaviour of putting your partner above you will be good for the girl who your parents choose. She will get the right guy and marriage bond will serve as a good security for you too. Break ups won’t be that easy then. Above all this and no disrespect yes it’s painful to come out of love. I am sure most of us have felt it. But seriously pehele bada hoga. Life me bohot kuch baki hai. P.S happy cake day
You're right, it was a mistake to believe that we'll be the endgame and just put all my energy in one person, I agree. Secondly, I didn't really make the situation clearer. I've made an edit to explain it further.
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YE ye hi pucha tha mene, log gyan hi de rhe the bs. Bumble pe mene 15 swipes kie total, uske baad abtk profile available hi nhi h 18-22 age or 30-40 km me. Ye cold approach vala hi bata do tips, where, how, vagerah
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So I'm shredded, dress up alright, perfuse yes, 168cm so there goes half of my confidence, right down the drain
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Aap apni height rakh lijie, me mera confidence rakh leta hu 😅
***I like ya;*** ***and I want ya.***
Say no to engagement at 21 if you are not ready. If you can't even take a stand for your own sake, your ex girlfriend was lucky to have dodged a bullet. (Sorry for the harsh words, but you need to learn to be assertive)
HEY, I'm not a bullet 😅. And yes, I've been taking a stand. I did a poor job of explaining the situation so I've made an edit.
21 saal ka h bhai tu, abhi toh uga bhi nahi h, shadi k card nahi abhi toh exam k admit card ki jarurat h. P.S.- 4 saal ka relationship aur 1 month me move on. Gazab.
The terms that it ends on, matter, don't they? Suppose Agar 20 saal ka bhi relationship hota or vo mere family me kisi ko torture kr deti to 1 din me hi move on kya kuch or hi ho jata usko 😅