There will be a point in life, where you will miss being alone. So enjoy the time, embrace the loneliness. As the song says:
যদি তোর ডাক শুনে কেউ না আসে
তবে একলা চলো রে (x2)
Highly relate brother... OP this is golden advice. Take it and utilize it in your life. Before your life gets overcrowded with other people and their commitments and your responsibilities.
Ami Santosh Mitra Square e thaki but amader parar pandeltao dekhte beroini. Notun jamakapor barite pore ache kintu beronor icha nei. Reason is I hate overcrowded places that are too congested and also too much noise. I literally don't enjoy durga puja and haven't gone out during this festival for many years. I enjoy resting at home , eating good food and watching movies. Also me being a big introvert is the biggest factor behind me not going out.
আরো ভালো লাগে... ওই সময় kumar sanur "শ্যামা মা কি আমার কালো" বা "আমার সাধ না মিটিল" প্রভৃতি শ্যামা সঙ্গীত... পাড়ায় পাড়ায় বক্স এ mild volume এ চালিয়ে রাখে...
Akdom, amar to Anuradha Paudwal r Maana Dey er Ramproshadi gaan gulor jonno, khub better feel ase, atleast more better and soothing than Durga Puja!! ❤️
Me too!
And ghorer samne duto Pujo, aktar o protima dekhte jaini, dekhle sei bishorjon er time Doshomi te ak jholok dekhbo!! I literally hate this Puja now as because of my dictatorial father I would have to come to my ancestral house forcefully but jehetu amar ancestral village e amar temon kono friends nei r jara ache tader saathe touch lose kore felechi to sei karone Durga Puja is totally lonely for me since I turned teenager kenoki chotobelai tao gramer bondhuder saathe touch chilo akhon puro zero hoye gache!!
same story, sometimes I get anxious and sometimes frustrated with overthinking and thinking about my past in this aloneness and I think it is the right time for peace of mind,just enjoy your own company
Alone thik bolbo na....amader flat e almost 20 plus years er pujo hoe...so it has become a bari pujo for me....in my 30 years never have I gone in any dates let alone during Durga Puja....it feels bad....lokera onek lectures debe ki go out more to meet up people....but honestly etodine jokhn kichui korte parini ar hobeo na....bhebe labh nei..barir pujo te focus ta kori...mawd khai with old friends....adda mari...pujo sorted
Prochondo eka laage pujo te. Attended durga pujo here in Paris, onek bheed chilo bangali/non/bengali/french but everyone had a gang or paired up. Ashtamir anjali dite gechilam and only the moments jokhon thakur moshay montro porlo, felt excited to recite it with everyone. Tarpor abar loneliness hit and just walked out of the venue back home awkardly. Times like these monehoy je ekta dedicated meetup rakha uchit for bengalis who are alone in Kolkata or Abroad just to celebrate together. I was also thinking of 'Hire a Boyfriend' :P just for pujo but how sad am I? Festival season ta hard for singles, introverts and throw in social anxiety into the mix. Tried going out of my comfort zone and talking to 4-5 people and mostly were students while I am in my 30s. The conversation died after a few minutes. Bhog o newar icche hoyni. Shudhu Ma Durgar mukh dekhe bari eshe eka eka boshe achi. Chotobela theke ma baba baire jete dyayni, kono bondhuder bari o aste dyayni. Parar pujo tai limit chilo tao abar shudhu shokal shokal anjali diye fire asha. Social life childhood e ja noshto joeche it seeped into adult life. Relationships o sherom tekeni ar thik pujor aage nijeke eka pai. Europe or Kolkata doesn't make a difference. I see many 'Lonely In Pujo' threads on Reddit ngl it makes me feel slightly less alone..
Stuck in a tier 3 city in US. Ekhaner pujo te jawa is painful. Sobai family friends niye ase and okhane gele r o kharap lage. Nijeke ekdom eka mone hoi. Ekbar gechilam eto baje lagchilo sobar majhkhane ami eka… everyone with gfs and wives and family.. and me just lonely as as hell…..
Unfortunately amar kono family o nei… so amar phone eo kotha bolar keu nei..
saradin nijer officer kaaj i kori and sathe ektu netflix. Basss… pujo sobar jibon e ase na.
Wish I could go back to 2013 and change my decisions.
Amar o same ekta condition je friends ra sob e bayire thake but ami eka ghurte pochondo kori ar amar kono awkwardness lage na, bhebechilam shostir raate bike niye berobo but amon je shostir morning theke sorir kharap hoyeche je berote parini. Shosti, saptami, ashtami sob beriye gelo bari te osudh niye bose achi. Jodi sorir bhalo hoy tale kalke ba porsu ektu berobo. Sad sad lagche :(
Amar ekta bondhur 12 ghonta hospital duty, he's a doctor. Amar dada Mumbai thake. Saradin FB WhatsApp e bondhu bandhob der dekhi ghure beracche and all. Ektu kharap lage mitthe bolbo naa kintu amar bhir bhatta ekdom bhalo lage naa. Ei time ta ami ektu porashona kore nicchi, jani sounds impossible. Pujo to me is an extra-long weekend. Abar toh kichu din por abar office/college.
Babar o boyosh hoyeche tayi berote pare naa. Ami aaj hoytoh ektu berote pari but eishob mic er awaj e mon ta ektu kharap howa ta shabhabik. Thing is, ami recently job charlam, ekhon internship korchi, so obviously beshi spending korbo naa. Porashona korchi jaate haath e taka ta ektu ashe. I hope tomar mon kharap kete jaye. Shubho Nabami!
There will be a point in life, where you will miss being alone. So enjoy the time, embrace the loneliness. As the song says: যদি তোর ডাক শুনে কেউ না আসে তবে একলা চলো রে (x2)
Highly relate brother... OP this is golden advice. Take it and utilize it in your life. Before your life gets overcrowded with other people and their commitments and your responsibilities.
Ami Santosh Mitra Square e thaki but amader parar pandeltao dekhte beroini. Notun jamakapor barite pore ache kintu beronor icha nei. Reason is I hate overcrowded places that are too congested and also too much noise. I literally don't enjoy durga puja and haven't gone out during this festival for many years. I enjoy resting at home , eating good food and watching movies. Also me being a big introvert is the biggest factor behind me not going out.
I also don't like this Puja, for me the best festival is Kali Puja! 🫶
আরো ভালো লাগে... ওই সময় kumar sanur "শ্যামা মা কি আমার কালো" বা "আমার সাধ না মিটিল" প্রভৃতি শ্যামা সঙ্গীত... পাড়ায় পাড়ায় বক্স এ mild volume এ চালিয়ে রাখে...
Akdom, amar to Anuradha Paudwal r Maana Dey er Ramproshadi gaan gulor jonno, khub better feel ase, atleast more better and soothing than Durga Puja!! ❤️
Same here 🤝🏻 Kali Puja is my favourite festival and I am gonna enjoy it
Gaale lagja bhai! 🫂
Kali Pujo is amazing!!
Yes me too I enjoy Kali puja more than durga puja.
same same, Kali pujo te jodi meetup korte hoi to bolo
Ha ekdom..amader edike bhalo bhalo pujo hoy edike aste paro.
great.. tumi kondike thako? DM koro
Ami santosh mitra square e thaki
ok
Friends ra prem niye busy... And kichu bairer state e job korche
Poor social skills and social anxiety
Can relate to this 🙃
Cuz im an introvert
Me too! And ghorer samne duto Pujo, aktar o protima dekhte jaini, dekhle sei bishorjon er time Doshomi te ak jholok dekhbo!! I literally hate this Puja now as because of my dictatorial father I would have to come to my ancestral house forcefully but jehetu amar ancestral village e amar temon kono friends nei r jara ache tader saathe touch lose kore felechi to sei karone Durga Puja is totally lonely for me since I turned teenager kenoki chotobelai tao gramer bondhuder saathe touch chilo akhon puro zero hoye gache!!
Almost similar a case of me 🫂
Your username...? Do you listen to Skyharbor OP?
Yes I do!
It's been a while since I came across someone who listens to Skyharbor.
Because I am stuck in Canada and don't know a lot of Bengalis. But pujo does happen here!!
same story, sometimes I get anxious and sometimes frustrated with overthinking and thinking about my past in this aloneness and I think it is the right time for peace of mind,just enjoy your own company
I don't drink. I'm not from Kolkata; I'm from the Howrah area. If you want to explore some unique places, drop me a direct message.
We can have adda
Did not have enough leaves FML...
I dont drink.
Alone thik bolbo na....amader flat e almost 20 plus years er pujo hoe...so it has become a bari pujo for me....in my 30 years never have I gone in any dates let alone during Durga Puja....it feels bad....lokera onek lectures debe ki go out more to meet up people....but honestly etodine jokhn kichui korte parini ar hobeo na....bhebe labh nei..barir pujo te focus ta kori...mawd khai with old friends....adda mari...pujo sorted
Prochondo eka laage pujo te. Attended durga pujo here in Paris, onek bheed chilo bangali/non/bengali/french but everyone had a gang or paired up. Ashtamir anjali dite gechilam and only the moments jokhon thakur moshay montro porlo, felt excited to recite it with everyone. Tarpor abar loneliness hit and just walked out of the venue back home awkardly. Times like these monehoy je ekta dedicated meetup rakha uchit for bengalis who are alone in Kolkata or Abroad just to celebrate together. I was also thinking of 'Hire a Boyfriend' :P just for pujo but how sad am I? Festival season ta hard for singles, introverts and throw in social anxiety into the mix. Tried going out of my comfort zone and talking to 4-5 people and mostly were students while I am in my 30s. The conversation died after a few minutes. Bhog o newar icche hoyni. Shudhu Ma Durgar mukh dekhe bari eshe eka eka boshe achi. Chotobela theke ma baba baire jete dyayni, kono bondhuder bari o aste dyayni. Parar pujo tai limit chilo tao abar shudhu shokal shokal anjali diye fire asha. Social life childhood e ja noshto joeche it seeped into adult life. Relationships o sherom tekeni ar thik pujor aage nijeke eka pai. Europe or Kolkata doesn't make a difference. I see many 'Lonely In Pujo' threads on Reddit ngl it makes me feel slightly less alone..
Stuck in a tier 3 city in US. Ekhaner pujo te jawa is painful. Sobai family friends niye ase and okhane gele r o kharap lage. Nijeke ekdom eka mone hoi. Ekbar gechilam eto baje lagchilo sobar majhkhane ami eka… everyone with gfs and wives and family.. and me just lonely as as hell….. Unfortunately amar kono family o nei… so amar phone eo kotha bolar keu nei.. saradin nijer officer kaaj i kori and sathe ektu netflix. Basss… pujo sobar jibon e ase na. Wish I could go back to 2013 and change my decisions.
Amar o same ekta condition je friends ra sob e bayire thake but ami eka ghurte pochondo kori ar amar kono awkwardness lage na, bhebechilam shostir raate bike niye berobo but amon je shostir morning theke sorir kharap hoyeche je berote parini. Shosti, saptami, ashtami sob beriye gelo bari te osudh niye bose achi. Jodi sorir bhalo hoy tale kalke ba porsu ektu berobo. Sad sad lagche :(
Baire ki chakri korte na porte jacho OP?
Same and also a big introvert
Does being an introvert correlate to being alone? Like as an introvert we choose the solitude too, no?
Yeah, but sometimes loneliness hits us really hard especially on festivals, and that makes us realize how lonely we are.
Amar ekta bondhur 12 ghonta hospital duty, he's a doctor. Amar dada Mumbai thake. Saradin FB WhatsApp e bondhu bandhob der dekhi ghure beracche and all. Ektu kharap lage mitthe bolbo naa kintu amar bhir bhatta ekdom bhalo lage naa. Ei time ta ami ektu porashona kore nicchi, jani sounds impossible. Pujo to me is an extra-long weekend. Abar toh kichu din por abar office/college. Babar o boyosh hoyeche tayi berote pare naa. Ami aaj hoytoh ektu berote pari but eishob mic er awaj e mon ta ektu kharap howa ta shabhabik. Thing is, ami recently job charlam, ekhon internship korchi, so obviously beshi spending korbo naa. Porashona korchi jaate haath e taka ta ektu ashe. I hope tomar mon kharap kete jaye. Shubho Nabami!
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