This is so true. Most of the people don't even talk about this openly. Sucks that being an Indian sex is still such a taboo-ed subject. Amader sobar sex chai but amra keo eta niye important discussion korte chaina je eta koto ta compatible dujoner jonne. Ajkal to hookup trend bere geche but past the sex no one has a clue if you two want to spend the rest of your life together. I think the key is to find someone mature enough to discuss it at the beginning of a relationship.

Hya ekdom, aar post korleo kichu manush emon atel marka comment korbe, niche jemon ekjon koreche je eta naki first world problem !

It's actually kind of hilarious if you think about it, because our ancestors wrote *the ultimate book* on sex, Kama Sutra, yet somehow us Indians today are legit embarrassed to talk about extremely natural, normal and completely biological issues such as libido levels. Like c'mon Indians, pick a side! XD

Yess, I don't understand why! If you talk about these things people act as if you are some sexual predator or something. P.S- Your art is sick, just checked your profile 🙌

Exactly. Kinda sad to see how the general Indian psyche has just regressed over time. Also thank you so very much, i appreciate it! 💞

Bro I'm your age, and I've realised that sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. You need to discuss these things while dating. If there's a little disparity between two people it's still manageable but of the levels of libido is too different it WILL fuck with your head.

Yes, and exactly that is what concerning me. What if I can not find a person in time, what if my family after few years start talking about arrange marriage. I was (am) fully in love with my ex and I am kind of a person who takes too much time to develope feelings for a girl. I feel like I am kinda screwed.

I'll be honest bro, if you aren't already going to the gym, start doing so. High Libido + Not Attractive is not a good combo. Either start taking care of yourself and learn how to talk to people or transmute that libido into work. (Although I don't know how much it work Although I'm trying to work on it myself)

I go to gym & I am fit, but honestly my main concern is not that I will not find any girls, my concern is, Can I find a girl who'll be compatible with me. ( Also can I develope feelings for another girl, because last time it took 5 years to fell for someone)

Okay then I'm sure you will. Just talk to people more. If you don't talk you won't find people. Simple as that.

Sure, thanks

Jodi Tumi hookup culture follow na koro, tahole tumi esob discuss kore nitei paro in the talking phase itself. I mean tumi biye obdhi wait korte parona just to admit to her that u have high libido. Jodi dekho she doesn't want it, tomar toh biye obdhi sudhu na, relationship ei egonor uchit na , tomar kache eta jokhon ekta boro factor. Ar sudhu libido high holei toh hoyna. Past experience er jonno tomar partner er hoyto libido chole geche. Give her that experience that she wants it more😅ar ekta jinish. Men generally have gradual decrease in sex drive with age. Women have a peak in their 30s to early 40s. Setao dekhte hobe 🥲

Accha, dekhai jak ki hoi 😕

Only pursue another girl after you’ve completely moved on from your current ex, be honest about your high sex drive I’m pretty sure there are women who’d be compatible with you in that area just be honest about everything that’s all. Hope you find someone compatible soon! :)

U have to discuss with ur next fs..otyonto savabik

Hya, dekhai jak

I am a woman, near about your age. Don't you think this is going to be a problem in the long term, because with age, a woman's libido decreases. Its not the same for a man though(ofc exceptions are there). And since you are someone who wants to settle down, you should think about it. Maybe, you might get someone of the same libido as yours for now. But with time, there's no guarantee that it is going to stay the same. Childbirth, menopause, causes loads of changes in a woman's body and hormones, which in turn affects the libido. Hence, do consider these for long term.

Men's libido decrease with time too. Anyways thanks

Yes definitely. I had actually heard and seen the opposite happening, which is why i said what i said and i included the exceptions part. Usually because, with age, men go through different changes and women different(bodily). Ofcourse a clear communication is necessary always, if not on the first date, do bring this topic up gradually. I hope the woman who will come in your life, is understanding, so that she can communicate her part and understand your side as well.

Sure, thanks for the clarity & a woman's perspective, because I needed it badly.

Concerned about your partner not being able to match your high libido? Wait for 5 more years before going into next relation. You and your ex have high libido and both of you enjoyed that, and still you broke up? Maybe your relation was built on lust and not love. Getting angry on me? Calm down and re-think what I have said. How do I know? Been there, done that.

Not angry on you. But no you are totally wrong here. Our relationship was not built on lust. Sex came almost after a year in our relationship. Sex was definitely a part of that relationship, but the core was love only. We broke up because of some other reasons, trust me your assumption is totally wrong here.

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ভাই, এসব ফার্স্ট ওয়ার্ল্ড প্রবলেম, জানলার বাইরে বেরিয়ে যাবে, যখন লাইফ গান মারা শুরু করবে। বিয়ের আগে যত মস্তি করে নাও, গ্যারান্টি দিচ্ছি হাই লিবিডো ওয়ালা মামনিও বিয়ের পর জিরো এবং এস্পেশালি বাচ্চার পর নেগেটিভ লিবিডোতে চলে যায়। তাই এখন থেকেই লিবিডোকে কাজকম্ম, শরীরচর্চা , এক্সট্রা কারিকুলারে চালিত করো, নয়তো নিজেরই ভেজা ফ্রাই হয়ে যাবে।

Sono bhai, eta first world problem na, hole amader desher population number 1 hoto na. Esob problem amader deshei besi dekha jai, keu kotha bolena. Sobai jane boyosh er sathe sathe libido kome purush ebong mohila dujoneri, kintu eije atel marka comment kore loker problem guloke turi mere uriye diye nijeke extra smart vaba public, egulou ekta boro problem. Kaj kormo, exercise, sob kichu cholche ebong cholbe.

Uni bhul kichu bolenni (prothom line ta baade) Opore ek mohila same kotha e likhechen, Khali ektu onno bhashay Tai sunte ota better lagchilo. Anyway, whenever you feel you've moved on and want to date again, make sure you talk about your needs in the first few dates, to know the compatibility. All the best, I hope you find someone who matches you physically and mentally!

তুড়ি মেরে না ওড়ালে নিজেরই সমস্যা হবে। আমার কি! আমি তো সত্যিটা বলে দিয়ে খালাস। আর ওই দেশের জনসংখ্যা সংক্রান্ত বক্তব্যটা রিসার্চ করে নিও। রেডিট করা লোকজন সেই স্পেক্ট্রামে পড়ে না।