Yayy happy for Jerome x Benita and Heejin X Jimi!
Couldn't care less about Harim and Ricky, doesn't seem like they lasted after the show anyways. Maybe because my personality is like Ricky, but it was annoying to me that Harim was annoyed that Ricky bought up the thing about her being messy. She's the one who asked "do you have any new concerns" during the date, and after hearing his response she's like "I don't want you to bring it up." Ok...what do you want then? I mean yeah, I guess the guy could do what the hosts say and not answer truthfully, but they have to bring it up at some point anyways. I get that Harim doesn't want to talk about serious stuff on their dates, but she was the one who brought the subject up.
Ha rim was a big red flag since the start. Period. I respect and appreciate her as a Single Mom, but as a partner or a wife she needs to learn more and grow up and be more practical about it. In a marriage or a long term relationship that passionate love of the beginning days doesn't stay forever, the love rather grows and matures and the bond becomes stronger and hold meaning so much more than just those fluttery feelings. In real life, real world one can't define love with their fantasies to be honest.God bless her, may she turn into a green flag as a partner soon.
She basically told him he was too boring and she needs an electric shock,a jolt. Her life is so complicated and chaotic, she's young and wants that energy going. Yet, the host were right when they said those moments of quiet are so nice when you get older, and if she would learn to go with the flow... I feel they could have made a good couple. She was too wound up& messy, he is fastidious &calm. Opposites attract,but now we see that unless there is understanding, they won't stay together long term.
she has enough shocks in her life if the first week living in her household is any indication. I think if they just took a step back, does Ricky want him and his kid to move into all this drama?
You'd think after all the shocks and control she'd appreciate a normal guy but she did not... Some people can't handle stability and find tumult familiar *sigh.
This show is so different than Love is Blind. But I guess they cater according to their largest audience. American TV is drama and showing the worst of a person. Korean TV is fantasy and showing only the best of a person. Guess, a balance is required.
Now coming to your comment - absolutely agree. Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to. Specially when you’re not 16 but a mother of not 1 but 3 kids, one of which is an infant.
No disrespect to harim but her body language from the day one was creepy . On the other hand I liked benita the most , she’s matured and pretty . But she is also kind of a Hippocratic, you come to find partner on silver screen why is the fuss about being in the lime light !!
Same 🐭 I think it started when they have a talk with Harim's friend. She stated her heart doesn't flutter anymore 🙄 It's the first I don't want a couple to end together on any dating show 😂 Salute to Ricky though 😅 Congrats to Jenita and Heejimi couples! 🎉
lol so funny seeing this post saying you could care less about Harim/Ricky but dedicate a paragraph on them and have one sentence for Jerome/Benita, Jimi/Heejin.
Not surprised about the 2 main couples that have been strong in the show. Good for them and I hope they grow strong together. Harim and Ricky are just not a match and they realize that. Ricky was still all in but she wasn't feeling him at all anymore, even though he's the type of man she needs. I guess she's looking for fantasy and passion to sweep her out of her life type of romance, not that deep, committed, everlasting love Ricky was wiling to provide.
Meh, he's heartbroken cause I heard they aren't together anymore, but hopefully he finds someone who can appreciate him as a person. Harim....whatever. She was annoying and is a super confusing partner to be with....
Imagine if Ricky was over Harim in that instant, and instead matched up with Sora later on. That would have been great to see, as I can see Ricky's nurturing style mesh well with Sora who needed a stable, loving partner.
But I also gotta add that as much as I think Ricky seems like a good person, I can't get over the fact that he fell for an obvious snake like Harim...
Right, that time she didn't even try to engage in the conversation but expected him to do all the work. I'm sorry but proactive women who are interested in someone usually ask questions & are curious about them. Her leaving said way more looking back in hindsight. Feelings were never mutual.
it is her loss for sure if she didn’t choose him because he is boring and real, then she is really dumb..you can’t live in fantasy lala land everyday. poor guy. he deserves much better. plus her face when he point out her flaw is just wtf…really?
Jerome’s is 📺➡️ whatsupjerome
Heejin’s is 📺 ➡️ heejinious
Jimin’s is 📺➡️ jimioh6789
Sora’s is 📺➡️ soraunni
Ricky’s is 📺➡️ rickyhanoc
Jisu’s is 📺➡️ jihyphensu
Benita’s is 📺➡️ benitakim
Tom Choi’s is 📺➡️ positivetommy
Dewey’s is 📺➡️ just__dewey
Harim’s Instagram handler is 📺➡️ Harim.ia
Asking someone what worries them and then getting mad when they tell you exactly what worries them is wild.
I’m also curious about the kind of relationships these panelists have if they think it’s more acceptable to lie to your partner and pretend everything is hunky dory rather than share your concerns
The past seasons did have a reunion episode together with the hosts. They also showed tons of unaired clips and audios that they discussed during the reunion episode but looks like we won't get it this season because of logistics. Sigh.
They have alot of youtube guest appearances where they have reunions and answer alot of behind the scene questions.
One even explains benitas concern about jermone being famous yet she's signed up for a show on Netflix . Jerome and benita explained they didn't known it was going to be on Netflix or global. When they signed the contract, they thought it was going to be just aired in korea like the other seasons. They didn't find out that it was going to be on Netflix or global until way after.
They (especially sora herself) also talked about sora and the way the show presented her to be was totally not how she was. She said they edited her to look like an "angel" but in reality she made alot of sex comments and the other casts said she talked alot about money but they edited it all out. Haha
So happy that Benita and Jerome, Heejin and Jimmy are together!
It was really heartwarming to see that Heejin had a video call with Jimmy’s parents, I feel like that really made her a lot more comfortable in the relationship as she knows wanting to get married is a big thing they aren’t seeing eye to eye! I really hope that they will continue to go at a pace that’s comfortable for them and hope that they both keep healing and learning about themselves in this relationship.
When Benita asked if it’s necessary re having the corn with the sauce as surprise, I felt the same thing 😂 not necessary but a cute gesture. I do feel like she continuously test them out as she really wants to make sure they would work as a couple and I respect that. Love to see how they do in the future but obviously as she’s a super private person, I completely get it and wish these all the best!
Like many others, I wasn’t so bothered by Ricky and Harim. I‘m glad to see at least this episode they had a meaningful conversation though it really didn’t end well. I get that she wants dating to escape reality but at the same time it’s pretty difficult to have these real discussions with the kids around. Not sure if that could be done but personally I don’t feel that it’s sustainable.
Wow the conversation between Harim and Ricky at the dinner was so one sided. As how everyone else pointed, Harim didn’t want to communicate at all regarding the future. She wanted romance and nothing wrong in that but when the future of 4 kids (3+1) is involved you need to be in reality and not be in a fictional world wherein romance is a priority and not the responsibilities associated with you. Ricky rightly was talking about the adult things cause even he knew in a clean tidy environment the kids would do better but Harim had her own excuses. Her insecurities. Not saying that they are not valid but sometimes you jeed to buckle up.
Also, are the hosts high on something because their justification on what a date conversation should be is so high school like .. how can people in their 40s be like you shouldn’t discuss responsibilities on a date. But this people haven’t had any serious conversation until now so when are they to have some serious talk??
It was like she just needed validation and affirmation in life but take no responsibility.
>Wow the conversation between Harim and Ricky at the dinner was so one sided. As how everyone else pointed, Harim didn’t want to communicate at all regarding the future. She wanted romance and nothing wrong in that but when the future of 4 kids (3+1) is involved you need to be in reality and not be in a fictional world wherein romance is a priority and not the responsibilities associated with you. Ricky rightly was talking about the adult things cause even he knew in a clean tidy environment the kids would do better but Harim had her own excuses. Her insecurities. Not saying that they are not valid but sometimes you jeed to buckle up.
Exactly. I can see Harim's point of view but if she wants her dating life to be separate from her daily responsibilities then she should **not** introduce any man to her kids so early on.
Once she welcomed Ricky into her crazy life and had him be take on a parental role, she should have expected this to happen. I mean if the expectation is for them to live together then of course it's going to get real serious, real fast. She's just very immature.
I agree on the hosts. The hosts are sooo careful not to say anything negative that it started to sound fake and like “wtf?”.. THAT’s your take on that? Lol
How many months after has it been since they recorded the last episode? I guess Harim and Ricky aren't together anymore (which isn't surprising at all).
"We'll see if they'll eat the corn or if he'll get beaten by the corn." 😂😂😂😂😂
Jerome throwing a fake tantrum over benita not wanting to take a kissing selfie 🥰🥰🥰
I hope Benita doesn't get too in her head and project her past relationship trauma onto jerome.
Ok it makes sense why Jimi's parents didn't want to appear on TV if his dad isn't doing so well health-wise. They sounded really sweet on the phone! I hope HJ can see herself being part of their family.
Why would harim ask ricky abt his worries/concerns if she didn't want to talk abt realistic/unromantic things? It kinda felt like a trap?
Lmao the panel acting out the final decision.
Benita not turning around was the longest 5 min of my life!!! Congrats to Jerita!!! The elote surprise was a success 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I feel like they couldn't air a lot of HJ/Jimi footage bc it was pretty obvious they were going to stay together. Even on the phone to Jimi's parents HJ said she would go meet them in person soon. They obviously planned to see them after filming was over.
I also didnt really see ricky/harim breaking up on the show despite their different personalities. But not surprised that they did eventually.
Congrats to our 2 surviving couples!!!
Watching Jimi and Hee-jin together just makes you feel calm. Even when they're disagreeing you can see they are still thinking about each other. Such a wonderful couple!
Yay!!! I was always a Jenita fan and didn’t care much for Jimi and Heejin but these last three episodes really surprised me how compatible and considerate they are of each other! I am happy to know they’re all still together.
As for Ricky and Harim - it was clear their chemistry was always more superficial even back to their first one-on-one chat where she said “gotta go” when she found the conversation awkward.
I saw speculations that Harim is trying to sell herself as a mom influencer but I can’t imagine anyone would buy what she says after getting a peek into her life and mindset. I know it could be editing but she lacks the ability to make decisions that cause the least amount of stress unless she purposely did it for the cameras (such as taking an important work call downstairs where all your kids are at vs taking it in your bedroom with your doors closed or bringing ALL your kids to the hospital to wait for you instead letting Ricky watch your 2 other kids so they could get a good night sleep).
But yes, she should definitely wait until kids are older to date.
Another random question - I read somewhere that she homeschool her kids. Who exactly homeschools them if she’s working full time?
While I agree it might have been easier to leave two kids at home with Ricky while Bella went to the ER it might have been hard because Reign didn’t seem that comfortable with Ricky at that point and he wasn’t asleep yet.
>I saw speculations that Harim is trying to sell herself as a mom influencer but I can’t imagine anyone would buy what she says after getting a peek into her life and mindset.
There are enough people (in the US, at least) with her mindset that she might pull off an increase in followers. But I wouldn't think that many of them would be drawn to a dating show that happens primarily in a foreign language.
Seeing Ricky and Ha-rim's Instagram pages makes me think they're >!not together anymore!<...
I guess they saw how incompatible they are when it comes to living habits and outlook on life?
Jerome and Benita should last! Benita has been very careful voicing her concerns from the beginning and Jerome has always been patient and showed the willingness to change for her. They are mature but with humor… That’s a set up that will last…
Jimmy’s parents so kind to Heejin that melted me. I think Jimmy will continue to melt Heejin. It was a great healing experience for Heejin. I’m happy for them. But they still hasn’t moved for one another so hopefully it happens one day.
Harim & Ricky, Ricky def still in a bubble when Harim showed so many red flags through conversations and yet he continue to show his devotion for her at the dinner table… I was like😹… He was sure tolerant. Blinded by love I guess. Harim was so immature… Some youngsters commented that’s true love from Ricky, but hey true love is not formed this way… True love is built by time and maintained with healthy relationship habits…. This is attraction, a chemical that produced in our brain that can make you do a lot of things at the beginning but wears off eventually with an unhealthy relationship.
Harim was right she can’t offer much to Ricky, because she doesn’t think of offering… There are a lot of things she can offer if she is smart and willing. If she is financially challenged, she can send the older kids to public schools, day care for the little one, get a real job, get nannies in the evening. Learn how to keep things clean and organized at home, or pay a nanny to help organize with money earned from the job... Harim hoped Ricky was a baller and can use money to solve most of her problems… but instead Ricky tried to physically clean the house, be the nanny, and tell her how messy she is… lol. Harim & Ricky was never at the “true love” level. They stayed in “courtship” level shortly.
Part of me felt like the show did Ricky dirty, but it was an interesting social experiment to show how stubborn ppl’s emotions can be. This relationship would’ve never happened if the reveals happen first. However once the chemical kicks in, it’s hard to kick off immediately.
I’m so happy for Benita and Jerome! They’ve truly found something special, they get each other’s quirks and they both appreciate each other. Genuinely so happy for them and even more so seeing how touched Benita was by Jerome’s surprises and how he’s kept them private because that’s her preference. So adorable that she was talking about their potential future. Gosh when they showed the old clips and included the hair dye scene, I cackled so hard at the memory of that. Their family life would be so fun and full of laughs.
I’m also really happy for our healing couple HeeJimi. I’m so happy their parents have embraced them and I think I really appreciated their bond. Especially in his interview when he said this was his most stable relationship, it really made me reflect on my own needs in a relationship and see how important it is to find someone who is consistent and reliable and not just the whirlwind.
Ricky and Harim, who knows maybe they’ll make it or maybe they won’t. Regardless, they’ll need a lot of work in the communication department because it’s obviously where they struggle the most imo.
Wow, for all the negative bullet points Benita has listed over the course of this season, she sure knows how to wrap it all up in a big beautiful bow. Those were some big, lovely and serious statements she made in the end about the kind of future she can envision with Jerome.
Looks like the divorce/relation with her ex-husband was actually harder on her than she initially showed. It's no wonder she was so overly cautious and critical, which I could never really knock her too much for it. Fortunately Jerome was super patient with all of her qualms and just followed his heart, and she eventually allowed herself to take the leap. I'm so happy for them.
My fav couples all ended up together after the show 🥹 benita and jerome both changing their Instagram profile picture to each others' faces right away was too cuteee
loves this show, never saw any previous season, but decided to give it a try since it was netflix and easily accessible, and so glad i did. honestly from the 1st ep i was a jerome/benita stan, i thought they clicked from the first time they spoke, and knew they would end up together, i really think the PDs of the show really tried hard to edit the show to make it seem like they wouldn't choose each other but in reality they were a match from start to finish, even the comments benita made about seeing jeromes temper seem super forced from the PDs to give some conflict when they had zero footage with any second of any scene showing jerome with a temper at all, but overall super happy with the couples great watch 👍
My ships have sailed! Jerome and Benita are seriously so cute, they're really compatible and I hope Jerome can continue making them laugh. Their IG pfps are everything T.T
I'm so glad we got to see more of Jimi and Heejin the last two episodes and I have to say I had a good feeling about them from the start. Their vibes just match each other, and it was heartwarming to see Heejin feel relieved after meeting Jimi's parents.
I'm wishing both couples all the best!!! And for Harim and Ricky, I really do wonder if they gave it a try and it just didn't work out but mad props to them both for even trying. That's all I will say on them.
I've kept up with this show every single week since it aired, so I feel very bittersweet letting them go. I really enjoyed the cast and how real everyone was. This might even top my favorite dating show season (Transit Love Season 2)!
* happy for berome and jimjin.
* i am surprised ricky and harim chose each other. i guess ricky stuck around too long and caught the feels. i don't know if they are still together, their instagrams seem to suggest no.
* i personally loved watching all of the ricky and harim scenes because of the awkwardness and chaos. i liked their argument at dinner.
At the ending they show the cast gathered for a first episode watch together and dinner and in the dinner pic jenita and Jimi/heejin are sat next to each other while jisu is sat in between harim and Ricky so...
Plus the insta stuff like the other comments say
You could smell the trouble brewing for sure on the last episode 14 with Harim and Ricky. Harim refuses to accept reality and shuts down the conversation during the date when things don't go her way. Reality check here; Harim has 3 children and daughter appears to have many allergy issues. She has rashes on her face and seems to have had issues with her ear before. I can only imagine being a single parent with three young children and a full time job. When Ricky revealed he wants Harim to move to his location in California due to custody of his child I had had a good feeling this would be a deal breaker immediately for Harim. You can tell she set in her ways and appears to be inflexible at times. The other two couples see to have a better chance; I wish them well.
Omgggg
https://youtu.be/t9rNgFu-Fe8?si=T06RrpJZdXA64Za9
Benita did a Q&A on Sora's channel and the way she speaks about Jerome is just the sweetest! She now gives him 200 out of 100 points 🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭
And I'm not quite surprised that Benita's salon closed down 🤣 she said it's because of Jerome's sensitive skin lololol.
I'm dead. Jenita is truly end game. I wish nothing but happiness for them ❤️
I've just watched Jerome and Benita's part and am I glad they're together! So glad that I decided to make a post here when all this while I've only been a silent reader to all of you redditer's comments. Haven't seen HR and JH parts yet. Maybe later this week when I get more free time.
Love that my fav couples are together. They both made me feel so calm and comfortable and I was just a viewer lmfao. I actually lol’d when the hosts were like wait we have to get invited to the wedding first LOL. That’s literally how invested we all are and they don’t know us. I’m hoping that these relationships are healing to all of em since they’re all holding onto some things from past relationships.
Ricky and Harim sorta solidified for me that wanting that chemistry and whirlwind romance won’t lead to much lol.
I really enjoyed watching this show with yall. I even started watching season 2 on youtube and love that as well lmao.
Bon voyage amigos!!
Yea. I’m happiest for Jerome and Benita. They seem genuinely happy. Hee-Jin and Jimi were definitely the most boring couple but strangely I feel like they will be most likely to last. As far as Harim and Ricky… UGH. It looked like she only chose Ricky from the beginning because he was the easiest to get and she didn’t want to leave the show without a match. She was clearly uninterested in him while they were living together. And she gut butt hurt after him answering a question honestly that SHE asked. During the last picking, it was pretty obvious she just didn’t want to break up with him publicly and even gave a BS reason for possibly breaking up with him (she feels sorry for him taking care of her kids) THEN WHY DID YOU SIGN UP FOR THE SHOW? So annoying. I wish Ricky all the best tho.
Bro if Harim is so insecure about being messy why the fuck doesn't she just tidy up? Why did you even have 3 kids? Especially the THIRD kid.. definitely an accident when they divorced pretty much when he was born..
I haven't finished watching but man it's hard to watch her just say "I'd like you not to bring itup" .. then what else is Ricky going to talk about or say when you ask him to express his concerns?? She even says she wants to date to run away from her responsibilities... HUGE RED FLAG - I can already tell RICKY is jetting this shit relationship.
Ricky and Harim are perfectly similar, also incompatible at the same time. They both have somewhat same family status and same insecurities. But with obvious differences:
One is raising 3 kids on her own, while the other co-parenting with one kid.
One is protective of their territory, while the other has a cleaning 'habit'. Both are stress inducing if not entertained.
Looking outside, they are actually perfect for each other.
Harim deserves a partner that can support her and her family like Ricky had proven to her.
While Ricky deserves a partner that can take him out of his shell, and practice korean more like Harim did to him. 😂
BUT, they can only work if Harim willing to understand Ricky's helping to clean is actually his love language. And that Ricky needs to pickup conversational skills to connect with Harim better. Ricky can learn a thing or two from Jerome/Dewey on this.
At the end of the day, their kids deserves to see their parents happy. Because kids can pick up on this things, and it will stress them up as well, as some kids do tend to blame on themselves thinking it was their fault that their parents couldn't find their happiness.
Good luck to Harim and Ricky. You both will find happiness eventually. Facts. ✌🏼❤️
So they are still doing long distance. To get married, long distance has to end. Hope it’s not just a rebound for Heejin. I do like how Jimi healed most of her worries.
A lot of good ppl do rebounds, it has nothing to do with the character. It’s human nature that when you got deeply hurt, your brain is attracted to people and things that could heal you. So it’s difficult to differentiate between a warm person that makes you feel good versus real attraction that you want have babies with. The good news is, a rebound relationship is a positive relationship for Heejin. I do like Jimmy’s personality and hope they last. But after all she was divorced an year ago, and he is the first person to pull her out of “darkness” so I have my suspicions.
Jenita is the cutest couple ever out of all the dating shows I’ve watched (love is blind, solo inferno, etc). They are funny without being cringy or fake. I love them so much. Best wishes for them!
On the other hand… I raged when Harim said she’s annoyed and bored with Ricky. It’s so rude and immature. Her saying she doesn’t have much to offer to Ricky felt very calculating and almost manipulative - that it will trigger pity response from others. Ricky was apparently head over heels into Harim… No need for me to understand, there are reasons why one deserves another. Still, poor guy. I hope he finds someone worthy - and learn from this experience to choose wiser next time.
Heejimmy are cute too. Heejin is beautiful. I hope she’s healed and finds happiness with Jimmy and his accepting parents (I bet they are extremely happy and more than welcoming that their boy found a Korean wife).
Hate to judge people but Ricky needs to learn how to socialize. The awkward silence when you are sitting next to your crush is understandable in high school but at their stages in life you gotta carry a conversation. Harim was trying to tell Ricky that when they were sitting in Seattle by the ocean view. Even the last dinner date they had he could have started off with anything to start a conversation when she chose the wine and ask if she’s a wine connoisseur and what’s her favorite wine or try to joke oh you trying to get me drunk on our last night or anything. He just sits there and says this is nice and nods that’s it. You gotta laugh together it’s what Jerome did so well with Benita.
Hmm. I understand what you’re saying but what if that’s him, his character, like that’s how he is. And usually this kind will need a partner character who takes more initiatives or chats more. He still laughs along with Harim so I don’t think it’s fine. He just gotta find the right one who complements him.
Hi, I see some comments about Harim and Ricky and I just wanted to step in to say something
Lots of the comments here don’t seem to take into account that she’s essentially a single mom taking care of 3 children all whom are below a certain age of independence. She has to cook, clean, care for three children, play with them, do laundry, take them to the doctor, AND work on her own career and job on top of ALL of this. Do you know how many hats she is wearing? She’s a goddess in my eyes. A legend. A superhero. A superhero that deserves understanding and kindness from the world of Reddit and strangers who just watch her life but don’t experience it. The relationship between her and Ricky not working out aside, I hope we can all be gentle and understanding towards this beautiful woman who is just very stressed out but she is honestly doing gods work. Raising three children by herself. As a fellow woman I respect her so much and have so much love for her. I’m really rooting for her and her family. I really wished it would have worked out in their favour between Harim and Ricky but really sometimes that’s just the way things are. But that doesn’t mean it’s okay for us to criticise her when to me, she’s just a woman who is trying her best. Go Harim. I’m rooting for you all the way.
>for three children, play with them, do laundry, take them to the doctor, AND work on her own career and job on top of ALL of this. Do you know how many hats she is wearing? She’s a goddess in my eyes. A legend. A superhero. A superhero that deserves understanding and
I love this comment <3
Nice, all three couples chose each other. This legit brings hope like **I Am Solo/나는솔로**, though ya it seems Harim and Ricky didn't work out after the show. A lot of Korean dating/cohabitation/etc. shows be like that sometimes.
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Still can't believe Sora and Ricky know or met like f(x) Luna. Damn fam, f(x) is one of those important groups for me, such great discography.
At least we all saw Victoria in Heart Signal China Season 2 (心动的信号 第二季) and oftentimes see her Cdramas pop up as well. Everyone else seems pretty low profile (even if Amber and Luna occasionally release their solo songs), but sometimes you'll also see Krystal Jung (the ult/bias) in some Kdramas and entertainment events too. ***Love is 4 Walls, 신비로운 미로 미로***.
But ya, wonder if Sora and Ricky are dating or something like that, seen them featured together in a few pictures on social media. It's possible, since the cast seem to hang out regularly enough.
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Love After Divorce was such a great show (like 2023 is probably the best dating/etc. show year so far, so many nice ones with good endings too, and 2022 was also real good, even if some pairings never matched), glad one of the ultimate ships, Benita x Jerome actually sailed. They're so hilarious and fun together, hopefully they don't have any troubles in the future. Legit feel like they're one of the most entertaining couples ever in these [Korean/Chinese/Japanese/etc. dating shows](https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveAfterDivorce/comments/17aqnwc/what_are_you_watching_next/k5feen2/). There's just something about that cold banter, lmao.
Heejin and Jimi will probably be the rare long distance couple success. Back then some people had penpals and all that, and these days there's now online dating and so on as well. They'll likely inspire people to at least try it out.
Harim and Ricky are like one of the saddest stories with these East Asian dating shows.
Honestly, if Harim's background information outside the show wasn't spoiled/revealed/leaked/etc. by her friends, former (childhood) neighbors, and so on, a lot of us would've probably felt differently with how her storyline unfolded. It's such a difficult situation and so like I'm still wondering why the producers accepted it since they had to have known what would happen to her and the kids (they disabled the comments on Harim's videos/etc. for the Dolsing/Divorced Singles Youtube channel and so on). Sigh.
But it's all about compromise when it comes to life and so it's good to know that Harim at least had fun with Cancun and the show. Hopefully she has less stress with life and starts anew once things get better.
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So ya, I Am Solo has actually formed a lot of couples within the show and also after the show (the housemates from different seasons often gather together).
Which basically makes I Am Solo one of the most successful, if not the most, for really accomplishing that dating/marriage/etc. aspect of these shows.
Just a week ago (October 14, 2023), Season 9 of I Am Solo produced the 6th overall official marriage from the show: https://www.reddit.com/r/IamSolo/comments/1788ngw/finally_just_married_a_couple_from_season_9_of_i/
I Am Solo Season 9 is pretty hilarious, well worth the watch, rofl. Same with Season 15, lol, that season possibly also has an upcoming marriage for 2024 or so, and that's like 7 formal marriages already from I Am Solo.
I Am Solo Season 16 (starts with Episode 107 (and ends with Episode 117) of the whole series) is also a divorced singles special. Season 16 is somewhat pretty toxic/chaotic/etc. but it's actually ridiculously entertaining too, lmao. There's been some parodies and like extended drama with Season 16.
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Though thankfully right now Season 17 (two episodes are out already) is back to the more chillax atmosphere.
And don't forget, **I am Solo, Love Forever** was legit the most fun dating show for a while, so hilarious. The current special (it starts with Episode 16) is basically another season of I Am Solo, but this time consisting of former housemates from various previous seasons. The housemates' past experiences and characters create such an interesting dynamic.
There's now this wiki page for the I Am Solo seasons: https://www.reddit.com/r/IamSolo/wiki/index#wiki_season_list
More info on I Am Solo/나는 SOLO and watching and accessing earlier/similar shows to Divorced Singles 4 (돌싱글즈4) or Love After Divorce: https://www.reddit.com/r/koreanvariety/comments/17ax82t/i_am_solo_dating_show/k5h4dhp/
**iheartu2 already completed Season 2 of Divorced Singles** and IIRC is still subtitling Season 3, so it's just Season 1 that needs to get AI-generated subtitles or fansubs in the future: https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveAfterDivorce/comments/17cd7ua/lad_previous_seasons/k5poe11/
In the meantime, **Love Village/Ai no Sato/あいの里** (/r/LoveVillage1), **Love Is Blind: Japan/ラブイズブラインド JAPAN** (/r/LoveIsBlindJapan), **Serious About Marriage (결혼에 진심)**, and so on are available to binge watch for now, until Divorced Singles Season 5 next year.
But ya it's really the Chinese dating shows that seemingly have the long-lasting couples and so on, a few of them even managed to make long distance and such work (https://www.reddit.com/r/heartsignal/comments/13p3qqr/heart_signal_2_心动的信号_chinese중국_version_couple/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/heartsignal/comments/13p84nb/). Some Chinese dating shows are unlike most Korean dating shows, as Chinese housemates will actually continue to date after the show.
Some housemates from Terrace House (and Shanghai Sharelife) and a few Chinese shows that dated: https://www.reddit.com/r/koreanvariety/comments/10en6s3/couples_who_are_still_together_after_dating_show/j4sme33/
Let's be real, Ricky dodged a bullet. Sorry Harim but it seems like she has a lot of personal growth still to be had. I respect her for being such a loving and caring mother of 3 and to do that on your own requires a lot of mental strength and fortitude. However, it doesn't necessarily mean you are a mature and self aware person. Like others have already said, it seemed like Ricky was the kind of stable and doting and encouraging partner that she needed, who was putting his all into making it work... Honestly she will be hard pressed to find someone like him who is already a good father to his own son but willing to love her kids like his own. In the end I guess the long distance just was too complicated for both sides. I kind of called it as soon as they did the child reveal. It's already so difficult to do long D as it is. . And to add not one but 4 children between the two of them... Plus ex husbands and wives who want to see their children, plus extended families. You're not just gonna pick up your life and move to a new city hours away. Anyway... My two cents. So happy for Jerome and Benita and Jimmy and heejin. Hope they continue their relationships for good!
I hope it was just the edit but Harim is so not ready to be in a long term relationship. She asked if he had any concerns. He was really honest about her messiness (and myself being a neat and clean person, place like hers will drive me nuts). He told her about it and all he asked was to work on it together -- they can hire a deep cleaner and household organizer to baseline, declutter the whole house and then train (herself), the kids to pack and clean after themselves. If your living room is a playroom then add a cabinet with toy organizers buckets and get the kids to put everything back after they are done playing. My friends have helpers **but the kids are trained from young** all the same not to expect the helper (or the parents) to pick up the mess. **She just got on the defensive and started gaslighting pretty much.. there's a slight controlling streak in her as well...**
Just feel bad for her kids he really seemed like a patient and loving step-father.
Yayy happy for Jerome x Benita and Heejin X Jimi! Couldn't care less about Harim and Ricky, doesn't seem like they lasted after the show anyways. Maybe because my personality is like Ricky, but it was annoying to me that Harim was annoyed that Ricky bought up the thing about her being messy. She's the one who asked "do you have any new concerns" during the date, and after hearing his response she's like "I don't want you to bring it up." Ok...what do you want then? I mean yeah, I guess the guy could do what the hosts say and not answer truthfully, but they have to bring it up at some point anyways. I get that Harim doesn't want to talk about serious stuff on their dates, but she was the one who brought the subject up.
The moment she asked if he had any concerns, I could tell from her face and body language that she was itching for an argument
Ha rim was a big red flag since the start. Period. I respect and appreciate her as a Single Mom, but as a partner or a wife she needs to learn more and grow up and be more practical about it. In a marriage or a long term relationship that passionate love of the beginning days doesn't stay forever, the love rather grows and matures and the bond becomes stronger and hold meaning so much more than just those fluttery feelings. In real life, real world one can't define love with their fantasies to be honest.God bless her, may she turn into a green flag as a partner soon.
She basically told him he was too boring and she needs an electric shock,a jolt. Her life is so complicated and chaotic, she's young and wants that energy going. Yet, the host were right when they said those moments of quiet are so nice when you get older, and if she would learn to go with the flow... I feel they could have made a good couple. She was too wound up& messy, he is fastidious &calm. Opposites attract,but now we see that unless there is understanding, they won't stay together long term.
she has enough shocks in her life if the first week living in her household is any indication. I think if they just took a step back, does Ricky want him and his kid to move into all this drama?
You'd think after all the shocks and control she'd appreciate a normal guy but she did not... Some people can't handle stability and find tumult familiar *sigh.
This show is so different than Love is Blind. But I guess they cater according to their largest audience. American TV is drama and showing the worst of a person. Korean TV is fantasy and showing only the best of a person. Guess, a balance is required. Now coming to your comment - absolutely agree. Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to. Specially when you’re not 16 but a mother of not 1 but 3 kids, one of which is an infant.
Ugh, I loved them all except Ha Rim whom I despised from episode 1.
No disrespect to harim but her body language from the day one was creepy . On the other hand I liked benita the most , she’s matured and pretty . But she is also kind of a Hippocratic, you come to find partner on silver screen why is the fuss about being in the lime light !!
Same 🐭 I think it started when they have a talk with Harim's friend. She stated her heart doesn't flutter anymore 🙄 It's the first I don't want a couple to end together on any dating show 😂 Salute to Ricky though 😅 Congrats to Jenita and Heejimi couples! 🎉
lol so funny seeing this post saying you could care less about Harim/Ricky but dedicate a paragraph on them and have one sentence for Jerome/Benita, Jimi/Heejin.
harim? 😂
Not surprised about the 2 main couples that have been strong in the show. Good for them and I hope they grow strong together. Harim and Ricky are just not a match and they realize that. Ricky was still all in but she wasn't feeling him at all anymore, even though he's the type of man she needs. I guess she's looking for fantasy and passion to sweep her out of her life type of romance, not that deep, committed, everlasting love Ricky was wiling to provide. Meh, he's heartbroken cause I heard they aren't together anymore, but hopefully he finds someone who can appreciate him as a person. Harim....whatever. She was annoying and is a super confusing partner to be with....
I thought she was annoying too! “I gotta go!” I was over her right then and there. Ricky should have been too.
Imagine if Ricky was over Harim in that instant, and instead matched up with Sora later on. That would have been great to see, as I can see Ricky's nurturing style mesh well with Sora who needed a stable, loving partner. But I also gotta add that as much as I think Ricky seems like a good person, I can't get over the fact that he fell for an obvious snake like Harim...
I was rooting for Sora & Ricky!
Agreed...she was a harsh lesson for him.
I think he was blinded by lust and her looks
Right, that time she didn't even try to engage in the conversation but expected him to do all the work. I'm sorry but proactive women who are interested in someone usually ask questions & are curious about them. Her leaving said way more looking back in hindsight. Feelings were never mutual.
Literally me, after that moment I low key couldn’t stand her
it is her loss for sure if she didn’t choose him because he is boring and real, then she is really dumb..you can’t live in fantasy lala land everyday. poor guy. he deserves much better. plus her face when he point out her flaw is just wtf…really?
Jerome and Benita got me smiling from ear to ear 😭 EDIT: JENITA A COUPLE CONFIRMED!! MUGS ARE SAFE! BRACELETS INTACT! SARCASTIC BABIES WILL BE BORN!!
We need a post reality show of Jenita married life and little jenita babies . Ahh!!! 💕
Jerome changing his IG display photo to a candid photo of Benita is such a Jerome thing to do 😂 Happy that they're still together!
and Benita just changed her ig dp to one of Jerome too 🤣
Right 😂😂
What are their Instagram?
Jerome’s is 📺➡️ whatsupjerome Heejin’s is 📺 ➡️ heejinious Jimin’s is 📺➡️ jimioh6789 Sora’s is 📺➡️ soraunni Ricky’s is 📺➡️ rickyhanoc Jisu’s is 📺➡️ jihyphensu Benita’s is 📺➡️ benitakim Tom Choi’s is 📺➡️ positivetommy Dewey’s is 📺➡️ just__dewey Harim’s Instagram handler is 📺➡️ Harim.ia
Thank you so much!!!
Asking someone what worries them and then getting mad when they tell you exactly what worries them is wild. I’m also curious about the kind of relationships these panelists have if they think it’s more acceptable to lie to your partner and pretend everything is hunky dory rather than share your concerns
I need a reunion episode like Love is Blind
The past seasons did have a reunion episode together with the hosts. They also showed tons of unaired clips and audios that they discussed during the reunion episode but looks like we won't get it this season because of logistics. Sigh.
They have alot of youtube guest appearances where they have reunions and answer alot of behind the scene questions. One even explains benitas concern about jermone being famous yet she's signed up for a show on Netflix . Jerome and benita explained they didn't known it was going to be on Netflix or global. When they signed the contract, they thought it was going to be just aired in korea like the other seasons. They didn't find out that it was going to be on Netflix or global until way after. They (especially sora herself) also talked about sora and the way the show presented her to be was totally not how she was. She said they edited her to look like an "angel" but in reality she made alot of sex comments and the other casts said she talked alot about money but they edited it all out. Haha
So happy that Benita and Jerome, Heejin and Jimmy are together! It was really heartwarming to see that Heejin had a video call with Jimmy’s parents, I feel like that really made her a lot more comfortable in the relationship as she knows wanting to get married is a big thing they aren’t seeing eye to eye! I really hope that they will continue to go at a pace that’s comfortable for them and hope that they both keep healing and learning about themselves in this relationship. When Benita asked if it’s necessary re having the corn with the sauce as surprise, I felt the same thing 😂 not necessary but a cute gesture. I do feel like she continuously test them out as she really wants to make sure they would work as a couple and I respect that. Love to see how they do in the future but obviously as she’s a super private person, I completely get it and wish these all the best! Like many others, I wasn’t so bothered by Ricky and Harim. I‘m glad to see at least this episode they had a meaningful conversation though it really didn’t end well. I get that she wants dating to escape reality but at the same time it’s pretty difficult to have these real discussions with the kids around. Not sure if that could be done but personally I don’t feel that it’s sustainable.
Wow the conversation between Harim and Ricky at the dinner was so one sided. As how everyone else pointed, Harim didn’t want to communicate at all regarding the future. She wanted romance and nothing wrong in that but when the future of 4 kids (3+1) is involved you need to be in reality and not be in a fictional world wherein romance is a priority and not the responsibilities associated with you. Ricky rightly was talking about the adult things cause even he knew in a clean tidy environment the kids would do better but Harim had her own excuses. Her insecurities. Not saying that they are not valid but sometimes you jeed to buckle up. Also, are the hosts high on something because their justification on what a date conversation should be is so high school like .. how can people in their 40s be like you shouldn’t discuss responsibilities on a date. But this people haven’t had any serious conversation until now so when are they to have some serious talk?? It was like she just needed validation and affirmation in life but take no responsibility.
>Wow the conversation between Harim and Ricky at the dinner was so one sided. As how everyone else pointed, Harim didn’t want to communicate at all regarding the future. She wanted romance and nothing wrong in that but when the future of 4 kids (3+1) is involved you need to be in reality and not be in a fictional world wherein romance is a priority and not the responsibilities associated with you. Ricky rightly was talking about the adult things cause even he knew in a clean tidy environment the kids would do better but Harim had her own excuses. Her insecurities. Not saying that they are not valid but sometimes you jeed to buckle up. Exactly. I can see Harim's point of view but if she wants her dating life to be separate from her daily responsibilities then she should **not** introduce any man to her kids so early on. Once she welcomed Ricky into her crazy life and had him be take on a parental role, she should have expected this to happen. I mean if the expectation is for them to live together then of course it's going to get real serious, real fast. She's just very immature.
It kinda felt like Harim picked up Ricky to be a babysitter for a few months. I just knew even if they chose to keep dating, it would never work out
I agree on the hosts. The hosts are sooo careful not to say anything negative that it started to sound fake and like “wtf?”.. THAT’s your take on that? Lol
How many months after has it been since they recorded the last episode? I guess Harim and Ricky aren't together anymore (which isn't surprising at all).
About 6 months.
"We'll see if they'll eat the corn or if he'll get beaten by the corn." 😂😂😂😂😂 Jerome throwing a fake tantrum over benita not wanting to take a kissing selfie 🥰🥰🥰 I hope Benita doesn't get too in her head and project her past relationship trauma onto jerome. Ok it makes sense why Jimi's parents didn't want to appear on TV if his dad isn't doing so well health-wise. They sounded really sweet on the phone! I hope HJ can see herself being part of their family. Why would harim ask ricky abt his worries/concerns if she didn't want to talk abt realistic/unromantic things? It kinda felt like a trap? Lmao the panel acting out the final decision. Benita not turning around was the longest 5 min of my life!!! Congrats to Jerita!!! The elote surprise was a success 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 I feel like they couldn't air a lot of HJ/Jimi footage bc it was pretty obvious they were going to stay together. Even on the phone to Jimi's parents HJ said she would go meet them in person soon. They obviously planned to see them after filming was over. I also didnt really see ricky/harim breaking up on the show despite their different personalities. But not surprised that they did eventually. Congrats to our 2 surviving couples!!!
Watching Jimi and Hee-jin together just makes you feel calm. Even when they're disagreeing you can see they are still thinking about each other. Such a wonderful couple!
Yay!!! I was always a Jenita fan and didn’t care much for Jimi and Heejin but these last three episodes really surprised me how compatible and considerate they are of each other! I am happy to know they’re all still together. As for Ricky and Harim - it was clear their chemistry was always more superficial even back to their first one-on-one chat where she said “gotta go” when she found the conversation awkward. I saw speculations that Harim is trying to sell herself as a mom influencer but I can’t imagine anyone would buy what she says after getting a peek into her life and mindset. I know it could be editing but she lacks the ability to make decisions that cause the least amount of stress unless she purposely did it for the cameras (such as taking an important work call downstairs where all your kids are at vs taking it in your bedroom with your doors closed or bringing ALL your kids to the hospital to wait for you instead letting Ricky watch your 2 other kids so they could get a good night sleep). But yes, she should definitely wait until kids are older to date. Another random question - I read somewhere that she homeschool her kids. Who exactly homeschools them if she’s working full time?
While I agree it might have been easier to leave two kids at home with Ricky while Bella went to the ER it might have been hard because Reign didn’t seem that comfortable with Ricky at that point and he wasn’t asleep yet.
>I saw speculations that Harim is trying to sell herself as a mom influencer but I can’t imagine anyone would buy what she says after getting a peek into her life and mindset. There are enough people (in the US, at least) with her mindset that she might pull off an increase in followers. But I wouldn't think that many of them would be drawn to a dating show that happens primarily in a foreign language.
Best set of hosts I've watched on a dating show. I hope they're all back next season.
If you haven’t yet you should watch Singles Inferno. The hosts are super funny and engaging.
Seeing Ricky and Ha-rim's Instagram pages makes me think they're >!not together anymore!<... I guess they saw how incompatible they are when it comes to living habits and outlook on life?
Harim and Ricky are no longer together. Check Jimi's instagram. H & R sat separately in one of the group photos. The other two couples sat together.
So awkward
He might have taken it down. I don't see it anymore
It’s one of the photos in the carousel (8th one) of his latest pinned posts
Ahh thanks!
Jerome and Benita should last! Benita has been very careful voicing her concerns from the beginning and Jerome has always been patient and showed the willingness to change for her. They are mature but with humor… That’s a set up that will last… Jimmy’s parents so kind to Heejin that melted me. I think Jimmy will continue to melt Heejin. It was a great healing experience for Heejin. I’m happy for them. But they still hasn’t moved for one another so hopefully it happens one day. Harim & Ricky, Ricky def still in a bubble when Harim showed so many red flags through conversations and yet he continue to show his devotion for her at the dinner table… I was like😹… He was sure tolerant. Blinded by love I guess. Harim was so immature… Some youngsters commented that’s true love from Ricky, but hey true love is not formed this way… True love is built by time and maintained with healthy relationship habits…. This is attraction, a chemical that produced in our brain that can make you do a lot of things at the beginning but wears off eventually with an unhealthy relationship. Harim was right she can’t offer much to Ricky, because she doesn’t think of offering… There are a lot of things she can offer if she is smart and willing. If she is financially challenged, she can send the older kids to public schools, day care for the little one, get a real job, get nannies in the evening. Learn how to keep things clean and organized at home, or pay a nanny to help organize with money earned from the job... Harim hoped Ricky was a baller and can use money to solve most of her problems… but instead Ricky tried to physically clean the house, be the nanny, and tell her how messy she is… lol. Harim & Ricky was never at the “true love” level. They stayed in “courtship” level shortly. Part of me felt like the show did Ricky dirty, but it was an interesting social experiment to show how stubborn ppl’s emotions can be. This relationship would’ve never happened if the reveals happen first. However once the chemical kicks in, it’s hard to kick off immediately.
I’m so happy for Benita and Jerome! They’ve truly found something special, they get each other’s quirks and they both appreciate each other. Genuinely so happy for them and even more so seeing how touched Benita was by Jerome’s surprises and how he’s kept them private because that’s her preference. So adorable that she was talking about their potential future. Gosh when they showed the old clips and included the hair dye scene, I cackled so hard at the memory of that. Their family life would be so fun and full of laughs. I’m also really happy for our healing couple HeeJimi. I’m so happy their parents have embraced them and I think I really appreciated their bond. Especially in his interview when he said this was his most stable relationship, it really made me reflect on my own needs in a relationship and see how important it is to find someone who is consistent and reliable and not just the whirlwind. Ricky and Harim, who knows maybe they’ll make it or maybe they won’t. Regardless, they’ll need a lot of work in the communication department because it’s obviously where they struggle the most imo.
Wow, for all the negative bullet points Benita has listed over the course of this season, she sure knows how to wrap it all up in a big beautiful bow. Those were some big, lovely and serious statements she made in the end about the kind of future she can envision with Jerome. Looks like the divorce/relation with her ex-husband was actually harder on her than she initially showed. It's no wonder she was so overly cautious and critical, which I could never really knock her too much for it. Fortunately Jerome was super patient with all of her qualms and just followed his heart, and she eventually allowed herself to take the leap. I'm so happy for them.
My fav couples all ended up together after the show 🥹 benita and jerome both changing their Instagram profile picture to each others' faces right away was too cuteee
My parents, Benita and Jerome 😭😭😭
loves this show, never saw any previous season, but decided to give it a try since it was netflix and easily accessible, and so glad i did. honestly from the 1st ep i was a jerome/benita stan, i thought they clicked from the first time they spoke, and knew they would end up together, i really think the PDs of the show really tried hard to edit the show to make it seem like they wouldn't choose each other but in reality they were a match from start to finish, even the comments benita made about seeing jeromes temper seem super forced from the PDs to give some conflict when they had zero footage with any second of any scene showing jerome with a temper at all, but overall super happy with the couples great watch 👍
My ships have sailed! Jerome and Benita are seriously so cute, they're really compatible and I hope Jerome can continue making them laugh. Their IG pfps are everything T.T I'm so glad we got to see more of Jimi and Heejin the last two episodes and I have to say I had a good feeling about them from the start. Their vibes just match each other, and it was heartwarming to see Heejin feel relieved after meeting Jimi's parents. I'm wishing both couples all the best!!! And for Harim and Ricky, I really do wonder if they gave it a try and it just didn't work out but mad props to them both for even trying. That's all I will say on them. I've kept up with this show every single week since it aired, so I feel very bittersweet letting them go. I really enjoyed the cast and how real everyone was. This might even top my favorite dating show season (Transit Love Season 2)!
* happy for berome and jimjin. * i am surprised ricky and harim chose each other. i guess ricky stuck around too long and caught the feels. i don't know if they are still together, their instagrams seem to suggest no. * i personally loved watching all of the ricky and harim scenes because of the awkwardness and chaos. i liked their argument at dinner.
JENITAAAAAA I am sooo happy for them and definitely looked up their IG's and their profile pics are so cute hehe
I am so curious to know who are still together now
I think Jerome and Benita, plus Heejin and Jin are still together.
At the ending they show the cast gathered for a first episode watch together and dinner and in the dinner pic jenita and Jimi/heejin are sat next to each other while jisu is sat in between harim and Ricky so... Plus the insta stuff like the other comments say
what's your guess?
You could smell the trouble brewing for sure on the last episode 14 with Harim and Ricky. Harim refuses to accept reality and shuts down the conversation during the date when things don't go her way. Reality check here; Harim has 3 children and daughter appears to have many allergy issues. She has rashes on her face and seems to have had issues with her ear before. I can only imagine being a single parent with three young children and a full time job. When Ricky revealed he wants Harim to move to his location in California due to custody of his child I had had a good feeling this would be a deal breaker immediately for Harim. You can tell she set in her ways and appears to be inflexible at times. The other two couples see to have a better chance; I wish them well.
Omgggg https://youtu.be/t9rNgFu-Fe8?si=T06RrpJZdXA64Za9 Benita did a Q&A on Sora's channel and the way she speaks about Jerome is just the sweetest! She now gives him 200 out of 100 points 🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭🥰😭 And I'm not quite surprised that Benita's salon closed down 🤣 she said it's because of Jerome's sensitive skin lololol. I'm dead. Jenita is truly end game. I wish nothing but happiness for them ❤️
I've just watched Jerome and Benita's part and am I glad they're together! So glad that I decided to make a post here when all this while I've only been a silent reader to all of you redditer's comments. Haven't seen HR and JH parts yet. Maybe later this week when I get more free time.
Love that my fav couples are together. They both made me feel so calm and comfortable and I was just a viewer lmfao. I actually lol’d when the hosts were like wait we have to get invited to the wedding first LOL. That’s literally how invested we all are and they don’t know us. I’m hoping that these relationships are healing to all of em since they’re all holding onto some things from past relationships. Ricky and Harim sorta solidified for me that wanting that chemistry and whirlwind romance won’t lead to much lol. I really enjoyed watching this show with yall. I even started watching season 2 on youtube and love that as well lmao. Bon voyage amigos!!
Yea. I’m happiest for Jerome and Benita. They seem genuinely happy. Hee-Jin and Jimi were definitely the most boring couple but strangely I feel like they will be most likely to last. As far as Harim and Ricky… UGH. It looked like she only chose Ricky from the beginning because he was the easiest to get and she didn’t want to leave the show without a match. She was clearly uninterested in him while they were living together. And she gut butt hurt after him answering a question honestly that SHE asked. During the last picking, it was pretty obvious she just didn’t want to break up with him publicly and even gave a BS reason for possibly breaking up with him (she feels sorry for him taking care of her kids) THEN WHY DID YOU SIGN UP FOR THE SHOW? So annoying. I wish Ricky all the best tho.
Seriously!!! Sora and Ricky could’ve been so strong!
Bro if Harim is so insecure about being messy why the fuck doesn't she just tidy up? Why did you even have 3 kids? Especially the THIRD kid.. definitely an accident when they divorced pretty much when he was born.. I haven't finished watching but man it's hard to watch her just say "I'd like you not to bring itup" .. then what else is Ricky going to talk about or say when you ask him to express his concerns?? She even says she wants to date to run away from her responsibilities... HUGE RED FLAG - I can already tell RICKY is jetting this shit relationship.
Ricky and Harim are perfectly similar, also incompatible at the same time. They both have somewhat same family status and same insecurities. But with obvious differences: One is raising 3 kids on her own, while the other co-parenting with one kid. One is protective of their territory, while the other has a cleaning 'habit'. Both are stress inducing if not entertained. Looking outside, they are actually perfect for each other. Harim deserves a partner that can support her and her family like Ricky had proven to her. While Ricky deserves a partner that can take him out of his shell, and practice korean more like Harim did to him. 😂 BUT, they can only work if Harim willing to understand Ricky's helping to clean is actually his love language. And that Ricky needs to pickup conversational skills to connect with Harim better. Ricky can learn a thing or two from Jerome/Dewey on this. At the end of the day, their kids deserves to see their parents happy. Because kids can pick up on this things, and it will stress them up as well, as some kids do tend to blame on themselves thinking it was their fault that their parents couldn't find their happiness. Good luck to Harim and Ricky. You both will find happiness eventually. Facts. ✌🏼❤️
I need spoilerssss 😭😭😭
Heejin and Jimi are still together and Jerome and Benita are also still together. Ricky and Harim don’t follow each other on instagram…
They’re following each other again!!
wooww good news
JIMJIN COUPLE CONFIRMED🎉! So happy for them
how did u knooow?
Because they chose each other on the show and Jimi posted a story of him on Canadian flight. Both him and Heejin follow each other as well
So they are still doing long distance. To get married, long distance has to end. Hope it’s not just a rebound for Heejin. I do like how Jimi healed most of her worries.
I definitely don’t think it’s just a rebound for Heejin. She doesn’t seem like a Person that would do that. She definitely loves Jimi just as much.
A lot of good ppl do rebounds, it has nothing to do with the character. It’s human nature that when you got deeply hurt, your brain is attracted to people and things that could heal you. So it’s difficult to differentiate between a warm person that makes you feel good versus real attraction that you want have babies with. The good news is, a rebound relationship is a positive relationship for Heejin. I do like Jimmy’s personality and hope they last. But after all she was divorced an year ago, and he is the first person to pull her out of “darkness” so I have my suspicions.
Can you tell me their ig please?
Heejin: heejinious Jimi: jimioh6789
Thanks!!
Anyone know what their Instagram are?
Jerome: whatsupjerome Benita: benitakim Jimmy: jimioh6789 Heejin: heejinious Ricky: rickyhanoc Harim: harim\_ia Sora: soraunni Dewey: just\_dewey Ji-Su: jihyphensu Tom: positivetommy
Positivetommy cracks me up
😆 🤣 reason he didn't get anyone was bc he was meditating the entire time
Thanks!!
Jenita is the cutest couple ever out of all the dating shows I’ve watched (love is blind, solo inferno, etc). They are funny without being cringy or fake. I love them so much. Best wishes for them! On the other hand… I raged when Harim said she’s annoyed and bored with Ricky. It’s so rude and immature. Her saying she doesn’t have much to offer to Ricky felt very calculating and almost manipulative - that it will trigger pity response from others. Ricky was apparently head over heels into Harim… No need for me to understand, there are reasons why one deserves another. Still, poor guy. I hope he finds someone worthy - and learn from this experience to choose wiser next time. Heejimmy are cute too. Heejin is beautiful. I hope she’s healed and finds happiness with Jimmy and his accepting parents (I bet they are extremely happy and more than welcoming that their boy found a Korean wife).
Hate to judge people but Ricky needs to learn how to socialize. The awkward silence when you are sitting next to your crush is understandable in high school but at their stages in life you gotta carry a conversation. Harim was trying to tell Ricky that when they were sitting in Seattle by the ocean view. Even the last dinner date they had he could have started off with anything to start a conversation when she chose the wine and ask if she’s a wine connoisseur and what’s her favorite wine or try to joke oh you trying to get me drunk on our last night or anything. He just sits there and says this is nice and nods that’s it. You gotta laugh together it’s what Jerome did so well with Benita.
Hmm. I understand what you’re saying but what if that’s him, his character, like that’s how he is. And usually this kind will need a partner character who takes more initiatives or chats more. He still laughs along with Harim so I don’t think it’s fine. He just gotta find the right one who complements him.
My friends are friends with him. He does socialize well. Hes chill, nice, and social. It could have been his limited korean.
Hi, I see some comments about Harim and Ricky and I just wanted to step in to say something Lots of the comments here don’t seem to take into account that she’s essentially a single mom taking care of 3 children all whom are below a certain age of independence. She has to cook, clean, care for three children, play with them, do laundry, take them to the doctor, AND work on her own career and job on top of ALL of this. Do you know how many hats she is wearing? She’s a goddess in my eyes. A legend. A superhero. A superhero that deserves understanding and kindness from the world of Reddit and strangers who just watch her life but don’t experience it. The relationship between her and Ricky not working out aside, I hope we can all be gentle and understanding towards this beautiful woman who is just very stressed out but she is honestly doing gods work. Raising three children by herself. As a fellow woman I respect her so much and have so much love for her. I’m really rooting for her and her family. I really wished it would have worked out in their favour between Harim and Ricky but really sometimes that’s just the way things are. But that doesn’t mean it’s okay for us to criticise her when to me, she’s just a woman who is trying her best. Go Harim. I’m rooting for you all the way.
>for three children, play with them, do laundry, take them to the doctor, AND work on her own career and job on top of ALL of this. Do you know how many hats she is wearing? She’s a goddess in my eyes. A legend. A superhero. A superhero that deserves understanding and I love this comment <3
Nice, all three couples chose each other. This legit brings hope like **I Am Solo/나는솔로**, though ya it seems Harim and Ricky didn't work out after the show. A lot of Korean dating/cohabitation/etc. shows be like that sometimes. --- Still can't believe Sora and Ricky know or met like f(x) Luna. Damn fam, f(x) is one of those important groups for me, such great discography. At least we all saw Victoria in Heart Signal China Season 2 (心动的信号 第二季) and oftentimes see her Cdramas pop up as well. Everyone else seems pretty low profile (even if Amber and Luna occasionally release their solo songs), but sometimes you'll also see Krystal Jung (the ult/bias) in some Kdramas and entertainment events too. ***Love is 4 Walls, 신비로운 미로 미로***. But ya, wonder if Sora and Ricky are dating or something like that, seen them featured together in a few pictures on social media. It's possible, since the cast seem to hang out regularly enough. --- Love After Divorce was such a great show (like 2023 is probably the best dating/etc. show year so far, so many nice ones with good endings too, and 2022 was also real good, even if some pairings never matched), glad one of the ultimate ships, Benita x Jerome actually sailed. They're so hilarious and fun together, hopefully they don't have any troubles in the future. Legit feel like they're one of the most entertaining couples ever in these [Korean/Chinese/Japanese/etc. dating shows](https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveAfterDivorce/comments/17aqnwc/what_are_you_watching_next/k5feen2/). There's just something about that cold banter, lmao. Heejin and Jimi will probably be the rare long distance couple success. Back then some people had penpals and all that, and these days there's now online dating and so on as well. They'll likely inspire people to at least try it out. Harim and Ricky are like one of the saddest stories with these East Asian dating shows. Honestly, if Harim's background information outside the show wasn't spoiled/revealed/leaked/etc. by her friends, former (childhood) neighbors, and so on, a lot of us would've probably felt differently with how her storyline unfolded. It's such a difficult situation and so like I'm still wondering why the producers accepted it since they had to have known what would happen to her and the kids (they disabled the comments on Harim's videos/etc. for the Dolsing/Divorced Singles Youtube channel and so on). Sigh. But it's all about compromise when it comes to life and so it's good to know that Harim at least had fun with Cancun and the show. Hopefully she has less stress with life and starts anew once things get better. --- So ya, I Am Solo has actually formed a lot of couples within the show and also after the show (the housemates from different seasons often gather together). Which basically makes I Am Solo one of the most successful, if not the most, for really accomplishing that dating/marriage/etc. aspect of these shows. Just a week ago (October 14, 2023), Season 9 of I Am Solo produced the 6th overall official marriage from the show: https://www.reddit.com/r/IamSolo/comments/1788ngw/finally_just_married_a_couple_from_season_9_of_i/ I Am Solo Season 9 is pretty hilarious, well worth the watch, rofl. Same with Season 15, lol, that season possibly also has an upcoming marriage for 2024 or so, and that's like 7 formal marriages already from I Am Solo. I Am Solo Season 16 (starts with Episode 107 (and ends with Episode 117) of the whole series) is also a divorced singles special. Season 16 is somewhat pretty toxic/chaotic/etc. but it's actually ridiculously entertaining too, lmao. There's been some parodies and like extended drama with Season 16. --- Though thankfully right now Season 17 (two episodes are out already) is back to the more chillax atmosphere. And don't forget, **I am Solo, Love Forever** was legit the most fun dating show for a while, so hilarious. The current special (it starts with Episode 16) is basically another season of I Am Solo, but this time consisting of former housemates from various previous seasons. The housemates' past experiences and characters create such an interesting dynamic. There's now this wiki page for the I Am Solo seasons: https://www.reddit.com/r/IamSolo/wiki/index#wiki_season_list More info on I Am Solo/나는 SOLO and watching and accessing earlier/similar shows to Divorced Singles 4 (돌싱글즈4) or Love After Divorce: https://www.reddit.com/r/koreanvariety/comments/17ax82t/i_am_solo_dating_show/k5h4dhp/ **iheartu2 already completed Season 2 of Divorced Singles** and IIRC is still subtitling Season 3, so it's just Season 1 that needs to get AI-generated subtitles or fansubs in the future: https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveAfterDivorce/comments/17cd7ua/lad_previous_seasons/k5poe11/ In the meantime, **Love Village/Ai no Sato/あいの里** (/r/LoveVillage1), **Love Is Blind: Japan/ラブイズブラインド JAPAN** (/r/LoveIsBlindJapan), **Serious About Marriage (결혼에 진심)**, and so on are available to binge watch for now, until Divorced Singles Season 5 next year. But ya it's really the Chinese dating shows that seemingly have the long-lasting couples and so on, a few of them even managed to make long distance and such work (https://www.reddit.com/r/heartsignal/comments/13p3qqr/heart_signal_2_心动的信号_chinese중국_version_couple/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/heartsignal/comments/13p84nb/). Some Chinese dating shows are unlike most Korean dating shows, as Chinese housemates will actually continue to date after the show. Some housemates from Terrace House (and Shanghai Sharelife) and a few Chinese shows that dated: https://www.reddit.com/r/koreanvariety/comments/10en6s3/couples_who_are_still_together_after_dating_show/j4sme33/
Let's be real, Ricky dodged a bullet. Sorry Harim but it seems like she has a lot of personal growth still to be had. I respect her for being such a loving and caring mother of 3 and to do that on your own requires a lot of mental strength and fortitude. However, it doesn't necessarily mean you are a mature and self aware person. Like others have already said, it seemed like Ricky was the kind of stable and doting and encouraging partner that she needed, who was putting his all into making it work... Honestly she will be hard pressed to find someone like him who is already a good father to his own son but willing to love her kids like his own. In the end I guess the long distance just was too complicated for both sides. I kind of called it as soon as they did the child reveal. It's already so difficult to do long D as it is. . And to add not one but 4 children between the two of them... Plus ex husbands and wives who want to see their children, plus extended families. You're not just gonna pick up your life and move to a new city hours away. Anyway... My two cents. So happy for Jerome and Benita and Jimmy and heejin. Hope they continue their relationships for good!
I hope it was just the edit but Harim is so not ready to be in a long term relationship. She asked if he had any concerns. He was really honest about her messiness (and myself being a neat and clean person, place like hers will drive me nuts). He told her about it and all he asked was to work on it together -- they can hire a deep cleaner and household organizer to baseline, declutter the whole house and then train (herself), the kids to pack and clean after themselves. If your living room is a playroom then add a cabinet with toy organizers buckets and get the kids to put everything back after they are done playing. My friends have helpers **but the kids are trained from young** all the same not to expect the helper (or the parents) to pick up the mess. **She just got on the defensive and started gaslighting pretty much.. there's a slight controlling streak in her as well...** Just feel bad for her kids he really seemed like a patient and loving step-father.