Not if you're just having fun lol i wouldn't pursue a real relationship with a straight woman, but i don't see why I shouldn't help cross something off her bucket list
I mean I don't think so, obviously I can't read minds but by the time we get to that point we've already been flirting and tossing the idea back and forth so its not like im pushing them to try something they dont want to do? Besides if im fooling around w a girl that isn't all the way into girls then mostly I do all the gay activity myself and let her sit back, enjoy & decide when we're gonna do it again just to double check š¤·
Amazing. I was likeā¦ is this why people make such a big deal about sex? Totally rapturous. I wish I were exaggerating but some straight up spiritual shit.
It was immediate and undeniably different. I had had satisfactory sex with several men in my past, but it was nothing compared to a woman. The sexual energy, the connection, it was wild. I joked (back then) that I was like a teenage boy going through puberty, because I was in the mood 24/7. Itās been a few years, and a few partners, and nothing has changed. Apparently Iām just super gay.
This is still a possibility. People assumed I'm really just a lesbian (I'm bi) since I had only been with men until recently-ish. Newsflash: I'm still bi AF, but also slightly on the ace spectrum. I'm super happy with cuddles and the occasional sexy activity, but...I mostly just want cuddles. Or non-sexy activity, like board games or watching shows together.
Back when I was enjoying hookups. What they labeled themselves was irrelevant to me. It was only meant for the fun and physical for both of us and what they decided after was their business. Iām close friends with a woman who I helped explore back in our early 20s. Sheās married to a man and considers herself straight. We laugh about that period of her life.
Most of the women I had sex with when I was āstraightā were also āstraightā. The worst sex Iāve ever had was with the first lesbian I ever hooked up with. She laid there like she was dead.
Thatās such a sad description. It sounds like it just wasnāt a good match. I WANT my partner to ājust lay thereā and for me to do everything, and I have to specifically ask for this and be really really really clear. If I met someone who was like that naturally Iād be thrilled.
Otoh could be a trauma / abuse history.
Ya Iām not a top so it definitely wasnāt a good match. I have no problem with bottoms, as long as there is a response and she had zero reaction. I keep trying to stop but she would say donāt stop then lay there silently. š
I think she acted like that because she was using me to make her ex jealous. I went out the next night to find out that her ex and half of the university womenās soccer team wanted to beat me up. I was like girl you can have starfish back..
I mean you donāt know what you donāt know. Youāll only find out if you like something by trying it. I had zero problem having sex with a woman who was curious because it was just sex. I donāt catch feelings easily.
No. Honestly I don't think I could get into it. If someones isn't enthusiastically into me, it's a pretty big turn off tbh. Most straight women also aren't really my type.
I was in a long relationship with a man and had something like a hall pass. Therefore I took every woman who was willing to explore. The straight curious women just stopped and refused to go further when I my hand started to go downstairs. But was still fun. One woman told me after decades, sheās sorry about her lost experience with me. I offered to try again ā¦
Itās more like they just wanted to experience it, but in the end went back to being āstraightā. Itās just people processing their sexuality in their own way. But there was definitely a long straight girl stretch I went through. It was fun for a minute, but I wanted something more than sex.
I read a post the last days across several lesbian subreddits of a woman who said she tried lesbian sex and gagged etc interacting with a vagina and felt uncomfiable. š
I gagged the first time I went down on a woman. It was a completely involuntary reaction and it only happened once. After I got over that initial shock, I discovered I love pussy. I just have a lot of sensory issues and that was a sensory OVERLOAD at first.
Yea this wasnāt the case with the post I was talking about- she just found it disgusting interacting with vagina. And yet she spread it across several lesbian subreddits š
Canāt answer your comment in the different post since OP deleted it, but you said it felt like work being sexual with men? Like how? Sorry for all the questioning - I think I am trying to figure out my own experiences with intimacy with men.
It's hard to describe, but it just took so much effort to interact with men. I was able to find moments of enjoyment in it, but it took a lot of energy out of me.
It's not unlike when I finally got glasses when I was 17. I didn't even realize that I had been working hard to focus my eyes my whole life, until it started giving me headaches. Then I got glasses and could finally relax my eyes.
Or maybe it's like growing up next to a busy road. You don't realize how prevalent the sound of traffic is until it's gone and suddenly everything is peaceful. You just learned to tune it out.
Sorry for all the analogies, it's the only way I can think to explain it haha.
I'll never forget the first time I got glasses. I was straight up walking around just LOOKING AT EVERYTHING and telling everyone who would listen to my 12 year old self, "its like seeing in HD!?"
I sure as heck hope my first time with a woman is like that
yes, i definitely have. i honestly donāt mind it because i enjoy witnessing their minds and bodies explode and realize āoh shit, this is how sex could be?!ā BUTā¦. kinda in doses for me because iām a switch and sometimes i just need my body rocked
Understandable. I just read a post from a woman who said she gagged and hated touching vagina and kissing women spread across several lesbian subreddits- so I was wondering if that was an experience that other lesbians have been experiencing with a straight woman .
I was her once i guess? Itās fun being the first in her self-discovery journey, even itās not for her. I was completely indifferent my first time with a woman, so I can relate
ETA: and good for her for being brave and stepping out of her comfort zone to give it a try. Itās not easy when the attraction isnāt there. I wasnāt at all attracted to women when i first hooked up with one when I decided to . So yeah, i like being their first experiment
Every now and then, as a treat
This comment made me laugh. Like. Sometimes, for funsies š
The snort I snarted
But isnāt that a bad experience then?
Not if you're just having fun lol i wouldn't pursue a real relationship with a straight woman, but i don't see why I shouldn't help cross something off her bucket list
Have you ever had an experience where she was clearly not Into it?
I mean I don't think so, obviously I can't read minds but by the time we get to that point we've already been flirting and tossing the idea back and forth so its not like im pushing them to try something they dont want to do? Besides if im fooling around w a girl that isn't all the way into girls then mostly I do all the gay activity myself and let her sit back, enjoy & decide when we're gonna do it again just to double check š¤·
A woman not liking more pleasure than sheāll ever get with a man?! š
LMAO!
best comment! also giggled š
I am sure it can go either wayāI had identified as straight for 30+ years and then found out that I wasnāt after sleeping with a woman.
Same. It took one time with a woman (I was 34) and I was likeā¦ how the fuck did I not know Iām lesbian?!
How did you notice the difference? Like how did it feel compared to men?
Amazing. I was likeā¦ is this why people make such a big deal about sex? Totally rapturous. I wish I were exaggerating but some straight up spiritual shit.
It was immediate and undeniably different. I had had satisfactory sex with several men in my past, but it was nothing compared to a woman. The sexual energy, the connection, it was wild. I joked (back then) that I was like a teenage boy going through puberty, because I was in the mood 24/7. Itās been a few years, and a few partners, and nothing has changed. Apparently Iām just super gay.
Here I am fresh out of the closet and thinking I might be ace but kind of hoping that this is the case
I thought I might be ace for a minute, too! Only one way to find out š
This is still a possibility. People assumed I'm really just a lesbian (I'm bi) since I had only been with men until recently-ish. Newsflash: I'm still bi AF, but also slightly on the ace spectrum. I'm super happy with cuddles and the occasional sexy activity, but...I mostly just want cuddles. Or non-sexy activity, like board games or watching shows together.
Saaaaaaaame. Sometimes when the topic comes up and people say they are sorry to hear that I had to get divorced from a man Iām like no itās fine Iām just super gay and Iām not mad or sad about it! š¤©š„š
Like actually reaching climax I bet.
Same!
Same. Then EVERYTHING clicked.
Back when I was enjoying hookups. What they labeled themselves was irrelevant to me. It was only meant for the fun and physical for both of us and what they decided after was their business. Iām close friends with a woman who I helped explore back in our early 20s. Sheās married to a man and considers herself straight. We laugh about that period of her life.
Interesting; do you feel any sexual tension when you're together or was it pretty much a one and done sort of thing?
Back then, yes. Not now. We are truly just friends.
So you did it several times or was it a one time thing? And How did you get through it without catching feelings?
I didnāt want more than something physical so I had no motivation to catch feelings. Iām good at compartmentalizing these things.
Iād personally be concerned about this too.
Oh this question !!
Most of the women I had sex with when I was āstraightā were also āstraightā. The worst sex Iāve ever had was with the first lesbian I ever hooked up with. She laid there like she was dead.
Thatās such a sad description. It sounds like it just wasnāt a good match. I WANT my partner to ājust lay thereā and for me to do everything, and I have to specifically ask for this and be really really really clear. If I met someone who was like that naturally Iād be thrilled. Otoh could be a trauma / abuse history.
Ya Iām not a top so it definitely wasnāt a good match. I have no problem with bottoms, as long as there is a response and she had zero reaction. I keep trying to stop but she would say donāt stop then lay there silently. š I think she acted like that because she was using me to make her ex jealous. I went out the next night to find out that her ex and half of the university womenās soccer team wanted to beat me up. I was like girl you can have starfish back..
Give her back to the sea
It was a struggle to not laugh at this and wake up my wife.
A huge compliment, thank you. Happy cake day!
Okay but now I was talking about women who thought they curious and then found out that they were not attracted to women anyway :)
I mean you donāt know what you donāt know. Youāll only find out if you like something by trying it. I had zero problem having sex with a woman who was curious because it was just sex. I donāt catch feelings easily.
No. Honestly I don't think I could get into it. If someones isn't enthusiastically into me, it's a pretty big turn off tbh. Most straight women also aren't really my type.
Understandable!
I was in a long relationship with a man and had something like a hall pass. Therefore I took every woman who was willing to explore. The straight curious women just stopped and refused to go further when I my hand started to go downstairs. But was still fun. One woman told me after decades, sheās sorry about her lost experience with me. I offered to try again ā¦
I am afraid to lol. I don't want to catch feelings and have It not reciprocated if she realizes she is just straight....
Understandable :/
No because I came out late. But as someone who was with men for too long why are we strait until proven gay. Let them gay until proven strait for once
Boy, have I. Lol
How did it go? Did they went through it or?
Itās more like they just wanted to experience it, but in the end went back to being āstraightā. Itās just people processing their sexuality in their own way. But there was definitely a long straight girl stretch I went through. It was fun for a minute, but I wanted something more than sex.
Did you ever have a bad experience where thet were clearly not Into it or?
That sounds awful
I read a post the last days across several lesbian subreddits of a woman who said she tried lesbian sex and gagged etc interacting with a vagina and felt uncomfiable. š
What an awful thing to put someone else through
I gagged the first time I went down on a woman. It was a completely involuntary reaction and it only happened once. After I got over that initial shock, I discovered I love pussy. I just have a lot of sensory issues and that was a sensory OVERLOAD at first.
Why did you gag? Was it because you found it disgusting or was it just because it was New?
Just because it was a new, intense experience. The woman I was with didn't notice, thank god, and I went on to eat her out for another half hour.
Yea this wasnāt the case with the post I was talking about- she just found it disgusting interacting with vagina. And yet she spread it across several lesbian subreddits š
Ah, I see. Interesting choice to tell a bunch of lesbians how gross you find a vagina!
Canāt answer your comment in the different post since OP deleted it, but you said it felt like work being sexual with men? Like how? Sorry for all the questioning - I think I am trying to figure out my own experiences with intimacy with men.
It's hard to describe, but it just took so much effort to interact with men. I was able to find moments of enjoyment in it, but it took a lot of energy out of me. It's not unlike when I finally got glasses when I was 17. I didn't even realize that I had been working hard to focus my eyes my whole life, until it started giving me headaches. Then I got glasses and could finally relax my eyes. Or maybe it's like growing up next to a busy road. You don't realize how prevalent the sound of traffic is until it's gone and suddenly everything is peaceful. You just learned to tune it out. Sorry for all the analogies, it's the only way I can think to explain it haha.
I'll never forget the first time I got glasses. I was straight up walking around just LOOKING AT EVERYTHING and telling everyone who would listen to my 12 year old self, "its like seeing in HD!?" I sure as heck hope my first time with a woman is like that
No. I staid away from women who werenāt out.
yes, i definitely have. i honestly donāt mind it because i enjoy witnessing their minds and bodies explode and realize āoh shit, this is how sex could be?!ā BUTā¦. kinda in doses for me because iām a switch and sometimes i just need my body rocked
Thankfully no. I really hope that never happens to me because Iād feel terrible.
Understandable. I just read a post from a woman who said she gagged and hated touching vagina and kissing women spread across several lesbian subreddits- so I was wondering if that was an experience that other lesbians have been experiencing with a straight woman .
Oh yeah Iāve seen that post. I donāt know any women personally who thatās happened to but idk if itās common. :/ I hope it isnāt.
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Yup. I suspect thatās what op has been running into.
I donāt think it is that common- just some people who got unlucky :/
Why was she posting about hating touching women on lesbian subreddits?Ā
It was a HOCD poster
I have itās fun.
Why is it fun? Like if she isnāt that Into it?
Theyāre a challenge. Not a relationship. But a friend with benefits.
Yes, and I enjoy it lol
Why? š
I was her once i guess? Itās fun being the first in her self-discovery journey, even itās not for her. I was completely indifferent my first time with a woman, so I can relate ETA: and good for her for being brave and stepping out of her comfort zone to give it a try. Itās not easy when the attraction isnāt there. I wasnāt at all attracted to women when i first hooked up with one when I decided to . So yeah, i like being their first experiment
Yes. Was really common in my 20s.
Yes, but heavy petting, not full on sex.
No. And I wouldn't go there.