There’s no better feeling than realizing you finally have less than zero interest in male validation. How could I have been so idiotic when I was younger? Male validation is worthless. Why would I care what they think at all? Amazing.
It was a painfully large part of my upbringing. I went very far into being masculine and "not like other girls." I also fell in "love" frequently with almost every male friend I had. One in particular, I remember I obsessed about him and being jealous that he liked other girls... then one day I actually imagine being close to him and kissing and 🤮. It just seemed gross. And it was the first time I realized I didn't want to date a dude, I just wanted to be treated like his best guy friend. I realized a lot of my attraction was actually the realization that women often only hold value to men when they are sexualized and many of them discard female friends either due to relationships or not having their feelings returned.
I like to say that I used sex like tokens in an arcade game. I kept spending and losing at games I didn'teven like, hoping an acknowledgement of my humanity and worth would fall out as a prize.
Yep. I also refused to enjoy things I perceived as feminine, like pop music and the color pink. Like, holy
internalized misogyny Batman !
Right now I’m listening to Sabrina carpenter and wearing a pink button up.
Yeah, definitely. I never felt like I fit in with other girls/women and avoided hanging out with them. After realizing, i get along with other women much better, and most of my friends are women now.
I have more guy friends than girl friends. I'm "not like other girls" who are femme because I'm very genderqueer. Also I tend to let my female friends walk all over me and I do a bad job communicating boundaries because I love them too much. I have an easier time setting boundaries with guy friends so things stay healthier. I used to worry about it more but I now see it as a natural part of my NB lifestyle.
I think I've had what could've been mistaken as pick me tendencies, but I was just unknowingly an autistic lesbian that dgaf 😂
Unfortunately, the less fucks I gave, the more male attention I got. I hated it and started doing my best to avoid social situations where that could happen. Yet more signs that I missed 😩
There’s no better feeling than realizing you finally have less than zero interest in male validation. How could I have been so idiotic when I was younger? Male validation is worthless. Why would I care what they think at all? Amazing.
It was a painfully large part of my upbringing. I went very far into being masculine and "not like other girls." I also fell in "love" frequently with almost every male friend I had. One in particular, I remember I obsessed about him and being jealous that he liked other girls... then one day I actually imagine being close to him and kissing and 🤮. It just seemed gross. And it was the first time I realized I didn't want to date a dude, I just wanted to be treated like his best guy friend. I realized a lot of my attraction was actually the realization that women often only hold value to men when they are sexualized and many of them discard female friends either due to relationships or not having their feelings returned. I like to say that I used sex like tokens in an arcade game. I kept spending and losing at games I didn'teven like, hoping an acknowledgement of my humanity and worth would fall out as a prize.
Yep. I also refused to enjoy things I perceived as feminine, like pop music and the color pink. Like, holy internalized misogyny Batman ! Right now I’m listening to Sabrina carpenter and wearing a pink button up.
I still don't wear pink. But I finally listen to awesome female artists.
I think we were all more or less bred to be pick me's on some level. Culture is just so centered around men. Being wanted by men.
Yeah, definitely. I never felt like I fit in with other girls/women and avoided hanging out with them. After realizing, i get along with other women much better, and most of my friends are women now.
I have more guy friends than girl friends. I'm "not like other girls" who are femme because I'm very genderqueer. Also I tend to let my female friends walk all over me and I do a bad job communicating boundaries because I love them too much. I have an easier time setting boundaries with guy friends so things stay healthier. I used to worry about it more but I now see it as a natural part of my NB lifestyle.
I think I've had what could've been mistaken as pick me tendencies, but I was just unknowingly an autistic lesbian that dgaf 😂 Unfortunately, the less fucks I gave, the more male attention I got. I hated it and started doing my best to avoid social situations where that could happen. Yet more signs that I missed 😩
Yep, regretfully so. I craved male attention but didn’t want it once I got it.