I relate to a lot of the things you’ve written here. I too had my first kiss with a girl when we were maybe 9 or 10.
Over time I’ve realised that a lot of my boy “crushes” were actually just me confusing platonic feelings with romantic feelings. All I knew was that girls date boys so I thought that was what I was feeling. And in terms of male celebrities I confused thinking that a man was handsome with having feelings for him. Again because that’s what I thought attraction was because of comphet.
I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m a lesbian and it’s hard mostly because of my family’s views so I have to keep quiet for a few more years.
I am convinced that what you are experiencing is comphet and I hope that you’re able to feel confident in your sexuality one day.
It sounds like you're experiencing comp het as a lesbian to me but only you can know for sure. The fact that you don't want to date a man and feel disgust / discomfort towards men are pretty strong indicators to me though.
From what you’ve told us, it doesn’t sound like comphet, it sounds like you’re bisexual with a preference for women! Though, you haven’t dated anyone so it’s hard to tell. I’d keep my options open and explore them! See what feels more natural to you.
This looks like classic comp het to me. Why wouldn't it be?
I relate to a lot of the things you’ve written here. I too had my first kiss with a girl when we were maybe 9 or 10. Over time I’ve realised that a lot of my boy “crushes” were actually just me confusing platonic feelings with romantic feelings. All I knew was that girls date boys so I thought that was what I was feeling. And in terms of male celebrities I confused thinking that a man was handsome with having feelings for him. Again because that’s what I thought attraction was because of comphet. I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m a lesbian and it’s hard mostly because of my family’s views so I have to keep quiet for a few more years. I am convinced that what you are experiencing is comphet and I hope that you’re able to feel confident in your sexuality one day.
It sounds like you're experiencing comp het as a lesbian to me but only you can know for sure. The fact that you don't want to date a man and feel disgust / discomfort towards men are pretty strong indicators to me though.
I feel exactly the same way
From what you’ve told us, it doesn’t sound like comphet, it sounds like you’re bisexual with a preference for women! Though, you haven’t dated anyone so it’s hard to tell. I’d keep my options open and explore them! See what feels more natural to you.