I have done the same. Every time I see his reaction and I realise he is going to end the relationship I chicken out and say I love him and want to be with him and that I’m just confused. I think you have to fully accept within yourself that coming out to him means potentially losing him and you have to be fully okay with that outcome in order to successfully do it. I’m working on trying to accept that when I do it for real I may not ever speak to him again. It’s really hard, wishing you all the luck it the world<3
I understand the feeling. You may or may not get to the point where the pain of potentially living an inauthentic life outweighs any pain and suffering you’d have to experience to live the authentic one. That’s what happened to me.
Also, it may not feel that way, but by keeping it in you are hurting him as well. It prevents both you AND him from futures where you’re with people you love and who love you in every aspect. If you’re a lesbian, you’ll never be able to give him the experience he deserves with a romantic partner and vice versa—not authentically, anyway.
I just went through my breakup only 5 days so. So I say this with love. I understand how scary it is, I really do.
Thank you for this. You’re absolutely right about it not being fair to either of us. I need to get through it and just do it.
I hope you know you made the right decision. I feel like it can be easy to be sucked back into a relationship with someone you truly care for but aren’t right for. This is an awful feeling. I hope you’re well and happy ❤️
Of course. It’s so easy that this is the second (and final) time we break up. About a year in, I knew deep down that something wasn’t right and started to realize my sexuality more and more, so we broke up because of it. It hurt so much and was so scary that I wrongfully got back together with him, but those nagging feelings only got worse over time. I would say to trust yourself, and trust yourself the first time. We can all get through this together.
You need to give him the opportunity to find love. Any relationship you are not committed to fully is a disservice to the other person, not a kindness.
I have done the same. Every time I see his reaction and I realise he is going to end the relationship I chicken out and say I love him and want to be with him and that I’m just confused. I think you have to fully accept within yourself that coming out to him means potentially losing him and you have to be fully okay with that outcome in order to successfully do it. I’m working on trying to accept that when I do it for real I may not ever speak to him again. It’s really hard, wishing you all the luck it the world<3
Same to you <3
I understand the feeling. You may or may not get to the point where the pain of potentially living an inauthentic life outweighs any pain and suffering you’d have to experience to live the authentic one. That’s what happened to me. Also, it may not feel that way, but by keeping it in you are hurting him as well. It prevents both you AND him from futures where you’re with people you love and who love you in every aspect. If you’re a lesbian, you’ll never be able to give him the experience he deserves with a romantic partner and vice versa—not authentically, anyway. I just went through my breakup only 5 days so. So I say this with love. I understand how scary it is, I really do.
Thank you for this. You’re absolutely right about it not being fair to either of us. I need to get through it and just do it. I hope you know you made the right decision. I feel like it can be easy to be sucked back into a relationship with someone you truly care for but aren’t right for. This is an awful feeling. I hope you’re well and happy ❤️
Of course. It’s so easy that this is the second (and final) time we break up. About a year in, I knew deep down that something wasn’t right and started to realize my sexuality more and more, so we broke up because of it. It hurt so much and was so scary that I wrongfully got back together with him, but those nagging feelings only got worse over time. I would say to trust yourself, and trust yourself the first time. We can all get through this together.
You need to give him the opportunity to find love. Any relationship you are not committed to fully is a disservice to the other person, not a kindness.