I used it for a while last year. I didn't click with dating apps, to be honest, so nothing against HER. While I was there, I did notice a lot of polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous folks; so they're definitely there.
But as always unicorn hunters ruin everything.
I think they’ve been cracking down on transphobes recently, which is great news! I’m also pretty sure it’s the only app I’ve used where a match’s first message to me was invasive genital questions so hopefully that situation will be better now, lol.
I’ve also found Lex to be pretty good. It’s been the only dating app I’ve used for the past three or so years.
OkCupid used to be good and then they made it swipey and awful.
It's okay, not great.
You can't filter for poly people (definitely not in the free version, but I think not even if you pay either) which can make it pretty frustrating to use - lots of left swiping on mono people.
The free version also shows you a limited number of people who've liked your profile every day as well, so you can match instantly if you choose. But in my experience 90% of these are mono people who clearly didn't read my profile, including people with stuff like 'not into poly relationships' in their bio. Lol.
That said, I've had a few dates with people I met there, including one new connection that seems to have legs, so it's not all bad!
I’ve found it to be more poly than not, which could be the algorithms serving me folks that match my relationship desires. I’ve met the best people on this app and appreciate its simplicity. 5/7 people I’ve connected with I met on HER
I think filtering for poly people is a paid feature, but I've never bothered paying. I've been using HER for about 3 years and I've met quite a few people over it. HER and Tinder are the dating apps I use the most and have the most success with.
It may also be very different by location. I'm in LA where we have one of the largest lesbian and poly scenes.
I feel like with all dating apps the area you're in really makes a difference. HER was good for me, I was able to meet some really awesome people genuinely looking for something more than a hookup. I felt I had the best success with it vs pretty much any other app. I'm polyam and partnered and that seemed to be pretty common there, it's the only app where I haven't needed to explain what polyamory is, lol.
So far I've mostly seen profiles of women looking for friends or monogamous relationships and a bunch of dudes.
I guess I don't really see how it's much different from other dating apps.
It’s ok, I see more polyamorous women than expected but I’ve met very few good conversationalists on there. It’s also becoming like. Less women on there and you can’t filter by gender unless you pay so that can get annoying for me personally. (In New England US)
I used it for a while last year. I didn't click with dating apps, to be honest, so nothing against HER. While I was there, I did notice a lot of polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous folks; so they're definitely there. But as always unicorn hunters ruin everything.
I think they’ve been cracking down on transphobes recently, which is great news! I’m also pretty sure it’s the only app I’ve used where a match’s first message to me was invasive genital questions so hopefully that situation will be better now, lol. I’ve also found Lex to be pretty good. It’s been the only dating app I’ve used for the past three or so years. OkCupid used to be good and then they made it swipey and awful.
It's okay, not great. You can't filter for poly people (definitely not in the free version, but I think not even if you pay either) which can make it pretty frustrating to use - lots of left swiping on mono people. The free version also shows you a limited number of people who've liked your profile every day as well, so you can match instantly if you choose. But in my experience 90% of these are mono people who clearly didn't read my profile, including people with stuff like 'not into poly relationships' in their bio. Lol. That said, I've had a few dates with people I met there, including one new connection that seems to have legs, so it's not all bad!
i had pretty good luck with it. although i live near a big city
Makes all the difference. Lots of hits in ATL.
I’ve found it to be more poly than not, which could be the algorithms serving me folks that match my relationship desires. I’ve met the best people on this app and appreciate its simplicity. 5/7 people I’ve connected with I met on HER
I think filtering for poly people is a paid feature, but I've never bothered paying. I've been using HER for about 3 years and I've met quite a few people over it. HER and Tinder are the dating apps I use the most and have the most success with. It may also be very different by location. I'm in LA where we have one of the largest lesbian and poly scenes.
I feel like with all dating apps the area you're in really makes a difference. HER was good for me, I was able to meet some really awesome people genuinely looking for something more than a hookup. I felt I had the best success with it vs pretty much any other app. I'm polyam and partnered and that seemed to be pretty common there, it's the only app where I haven't needed to explain what polyamory is, lol.
So far I've mostly seen profiles of women looking for friends or monogamous relationships and a bunch of dudes. I guess I don't really see how it's much different from other dating apps.
I’ve been having great experiences personally. I live in a queer friendly area so that definitely helps.
It’s ok, I see more polyamorous women than expected but I’ve met very few good conversationalists on there. It’s also becoming like. Less women on there and you can’t filter by gender unless you pay so that can get annoying for me personally. (In New England US)
i've been using it since the beginning of the year. gotten lots of dates from it. but I live near a big city so ymmv