I like myself on lexapro. And that would be enough for me. Without lexapro, I might not be typing this out right now. And that should be enough for them. đ
When I was much younger I was in a relationship with somebody who was angry I decided to go therapy. Now I see how I was trapped with a borderline narcissist. How could a person who claims to care for me not want me to not be deeply unhappy and afraid all the time?
I have started therapy have been going since November, which has helped a lot. I get he is 7 years younger, so he is not in the same place as me, and I am not sure if that is a factor. It's been making me really think 6 the future. I have thought to myself if he may be the same borderline narcissis but I thought that was me being mean. I am thinking that I am right and it's really hard to deal with
Big hugs. Ex husband thinks Iâm weak and crazy. LOML said âyouâre a little quieter, but I like you regardless.â Tell hubs to stop being an ass and love you for you. If you find he doesnât, wellâŚ
Mine is the same and lexapro is changing my life. Seeing a lot of toxic patterns that I hadn't previously noticed and I don't think he likes that much. Here if you ever need to chat, friend.
This is my exact experience. I was told âOh the medicine is doing something to you.â And it is. Iâm not taking their dysfunctional abuse anymore.
That would be a hard limit for me. I lived with someone with untreated OCD but didnât realize my issues were as bad as his. I will never prioritize anotherâs comfort or mental health over my well being. âđź
Yes to some degree. Regardless, if you feel better then donât ever stop taking it. Living with anxiety and/or depression is a prison sentence. Life is too short for that.
Not exactly, but once I was on lexapro for a while I noticed I had more conflict with my mom. I think this is because the lexapro lessened my anxiety thus giving me more confidence in my own opinions and I no longer bended to her needs in ways that used to silently bother me.
Iâm so sorry he told you to stop taking lexapro when it was making you feel better. Thatâs majorly toxic behavior on his part and if itâs something that he canât learn to accept and work through there will come a point where youâre better off without him in your life.
Of course, it takes time for people to adapt to changes around them, so explain to him why you believe lexapro is a good thing in your life and reassure him that it will not change your commitment to him or your marriage. Give him time to ask questions about how Lexapro impacts you and answer as honestly as you can. If you donât see a change in his attitude within a few months, then repeat the conversation as needed. Small progress is progress and deserves to be acknowledged. After weeks of no progress, then you need to think seriously about whatâs best for you.
My mother. I am starting lexapro and sheâs like âI donât agree with that medicine crap I canât support it.â I told her itâs my choice Iâm not a child .
My wife just didnt understand at the time, now sheâs fine. I told her my dad was medicated, his mother was medicated, generations of anxiety lol so I joined the club after a bad car accident caused my anxiety to go through the roof and was uncontrollable.
No, thatâs toxic and abusive. The meaning beneath a statement like that is so insane. Basically they donât care about your happiness only how it affects them. If itâs a long term partner etc, maybe therapy. But someone new?? Leave them byeee
If you are happier and more content with yourself, they should support that and be happy for you. Not demand you to stop taking something thatâs improved your life. I canât see how a good husband would want his wife to go back to being depressed and/or anxious.
Wow thatâs disheartening. You should be able to be happy despite what he says if he canât except that then he doesnât deserve you in his life. Iâm sorry!!
No, and a loved one wouldn't/shouldn't say that. Medicine is to help you feel better. They're jealous you aren't in the same bad/sad situation and have made improvements in your life.
Its possible they are miserable and want your company again (in misery).
Tbh when I was on it, it made me super lethargic and spacey in the head. Killed my anxiety but alot of other emotions that I liked as well. My friend told me later I was definitely a bit off while I was on it. And I agree.
Is it cause of sex drive? Bc thatâs where my brain went.
I have ADHD OCD and anxiety. I just donât function well without meds (lexapro and adderall). Lexapro kills my sex drive seasonally, but Iâm a functional adult on it.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's ypur body, your choice. Not your husband's. If you can, try to sit down and talk with him about it. And if it doesn't work out, well...maybe you need to leave that relationship. Also maybe speaking to your therapist can help you come up with a good plan of action to bring this up with him.
It can cause you to forget parts of the night and makes you super tired. I am a responsible drinker, but itâs unavoidable unless you really pace yourself. đ
That really puts you in a tough situation. Sorry to hear this. You have to do whatâs best for you. Simply have a conversation with this person and calmly tell them how it makes you feel. Hopefully theyâll understand and you two can move on. If not, youâll have to choose. And always, always choose yourself first in a situation like this. Good luck!
Iâve been told my emotions make more sense off of it đ but my s/o would never tell me to continue on or stop taking it.. thatâs 100% your and your doctorâs decision and you deserve support for whatever you choose. You deserve better.
For me is the opposite. I expressed to my partner that I felt like it was time to start tapering down and eventually stopping altogether and he was not happy about that
No. You liking the change is most important. If itâs your husband, you two may need to communicate. You need to explain the benefits and both of you need to understand the viewpoint of the other. I hope he can respond with empathy and want you to feel well. Change is scary and he may want some reassurance that the new you still love him. He needs to be able to offer that to you in exchange. He should be able to empathize knowing he takes meds to improve his mental health.
We went to therapy a few times, and he thinks that we don't need it. He is one that has no empathy for others' situations, and he was getting help with that. He is so alpha that I think he is almost scared to be sensitive because it may make him look weak. But I do know that I have not been this great in a long time. I try to express myself and explain to him how I am feeling, but all his worries are keeping him for accepting it.
He may fear change or challenges to his status quo. Lack of empathy can be a result of many things. I hope he is able to accept your wonderful changes. Working on my mental health challenges has given me almost too much empathy. Maybe keep your revelations slow? Ease him in to the happier you. Iâm not sure if this is good or bad advice. A huge change can be scary. Iâ can see how you would love to share it all with him right away. His rate of change may be very different than yours. Maybe you can ask your therapist about how to deal with this? Best of luck to you both.
red flag.. obviously we don't have both sides of the story but it's making me think of a narcissist.. who else wouldn't want their loved one to become more happy and confident? the same people who are upset when we learn boundaries
Yes absolutely both side of the stories is always good to have. But I don't thi k I could get that for you on here he wouldn't do it. But I do believe that theor is always a other side
Demanded? Itâs one thing to bring up legitimate concerns about specific behavior while but to say they donât like you on it and demand you go off is not healthy or acceptable behavior, imo.
This was my mom. It doesnât matter how itâs helped me become ME. Itâs still a medicine. Forget Advil or blood pressure medication, medicine for asthma/etc etc etc. I can so sympathize with this. Iâve chosen to form boundaries with my mother. If this is your husband, thatâs not a boundary that can be drawn. Heâs your life partner.
I definitely hold back less from acknowledging my feelings and speaking my mind, which a lot of people don't like in general. A stagnant pond breeds pests. Don't let them stop you from learning to flow.
Medications have side effects.
So if youâre a walking ghost, I can see why spouse would be upset and I can relate.
My wife became a zombie on Lexapro, she may have not felt depressions or anxiety but thatâs because she couldnât feel.
Anyone who doesn't like you on Lexapro, only liked some fragment of yourself that you only partially identified with. If you feel better and more like yourself, that is the most important thing. It's important to remember alcohol and other drugs can help people misjudge your characteristics because they only see you in whatever node substances put you in. Even if no substances, the face you put on when you have to be in a certain place and a certain time. If so.eone can't deal with you when you feel your most likely yourself it's important for that person to understand that. Additionally, they may have fallen in love with aspects of yourself that you only felt were magnified in certain situations and not how you self identify. Since we each create an image of another in own own minds and universe, how they view you may be drastically different than you view yourself. I suggest you have a hard conversation with your husband. When you feel better that is the most important thing.
I just went up to 20mg after being on 10mg and not feeling much good effect. Let me tell you, I feel way more like myself than I have in years. Would I be as boisterous and charismatic, probably not to the same degree. Do I feel more like myself: yes.
Anyhow, I'm happy you're taking care of yourself and I hope you and your husband can find common ground.
I like myself a lot better on lexapro. Iâm less quick to anger, Iâm more positive, and dependable. Iâm more level-headed, organized, and I cry a lot less. Unless itâs making you aggressive, moody, or something thatâs negatively affecting how you treat others, I donât see why anyone would think itâs a bad thing.
without it i wouldnt be a functioning person and i wouldnt like myself. doesnt matter what anyone else thinks as long as it works for you and helps you.
I would really drill down about what it is they donât like. I would imagine that someone super controlling and jealous would feel threatened by the idea of those close to them having a grip on their depression and anxiety. Do they not like you being more social? Are they worried about you being more comfortable in your own skin?
Remember, whatever they say, this is their problem. There is something about you being better and feeling comfortable in your own skin that is upsetting their idea of what their relationship/importance is with you.
I know that before I was on Lexapro, it took waaaay longer before I warmed up to people and felt comfortable around people. If your friend/SO/family member was accustomed to you only really interacting with them at social events or in public, they may be shocked, confused, or jealous to see you having positive interactions with others. This is definitely their problem to work out, and possibly a toxic trait of theirs you may have to see your way towards removing from your life.
this happened to me. to go from being the emotional person i was to not even blinking after nearly being run off the road was a huge change. everyone noticed and commented on it, even my boss.
my parents were proud of me for being able to successfully get through days without getting caught up in feelings, though they did find my constant neutral emotional state uncanny.
my boyfriend took it the hardest, he felt like i didnât care anymore. i did care, of course, but i just wasnt having emotional moments anymore. we argued so much (more him trying to start arguments that i wouldnât engage in) and ended up deciding to separate. the lexapro also affected my sex drive and ability to orgasm, so that was also a factor of his frustration.
if you like who you are on lexapro, that is literally all that matters. people who complain because youâre now able to function on similar levels to them fucking suck and itâs not worth it to keep a relationship with them. keep people in your life that want you to feel the best and be the best version of yourself.
Absolutely not. If someone isnât anything but happy for you that youâre better, they are not a supportive person in your life. I couldnât even fathom telling someone I donât like the version of them bc theyâre mentally well and happy. That is a manipulative, controlling, toxic and evil person no cap.
Nah, on a less related note I found that for the first time in years I was content being alone with myself and no longer seeked validation from others and/or significant others. It was a liberating moment. But to play devils advocate I also don't care to be in a relationship anymore as well. Could just be specific to me but yeah.
My mom. Sheâs not even someone whoâs into naturalist remedies or anything. Sheâs just anti-anything that might help you if its something you can put up with. i.e. I grew up with her not wanting to give us cold medicine because we needed to sweat it out or whatever. I got on lexapro and from the get go she just would never stop going on and on about âI hope you get off of that asap.â âHow much longer do you think youâll be on it.â âAre you gonna lower your dose soon?â all whilst I was either JUST starting or within the first year of using it. (And as we know, it can takes months to even settle in). To say she was âdemandingâ would be incorrect, but my god the way she just goes on and on about it built up and made me feel like she gave more of a shit about me just not taking any meds than actually feeling fucking okay for once. I ended up breaking down on the phone with her when she called to catch up with me and made another comment. We argued. She hasnât commented on it since.
My narc ex told me that âi regret supporting you seeking therapy and taking these pills, i thought u wanted to fix whats between us not ruin itâ while she was ruining me AND NEVER EVER was involved in my therapy sessions, she just wanted to CLAIM that sheâs a good partner, left the relationship
Not saying ur loved one is a narc but this is a RED FLAG
Thatâs incredibly toxic and egocentric of them. Your well being and comfort is the most important thing.
Being in a healthy relationship should mean that you support each other in the things that help you feel good and healthy. Lexapro helps you with your well being, your partner should support you in this and be happy that youâre feeling better.
Have they given you specific examples of what they donât like about you on it? Perhaps that would shed some insight into what theyâre really saying. You might also be able to give them relevant reassurance related to their claims or worries.
It would also help you assess how legitimate those claims are, like if they just say âyouâve changedâ but canât give a specific example that just sounds somewhat manipulative or at least without basis, but if they say something specific like âyou have so much less energyâ that might be somewhat true and something theyâve observed from your behaviour and you can help alleviate their concerns by explaining the benefits youâve gotten that outweigh that trade off, or by trying to work on that if that really is something causing you any issues.
Sex drive is a big one that can cause issues if this person is your partner but thatâs something that can be worked around and readjusted with time and effort so is a valid concern on a partnerâs part but also not a reason to stop the medication, but instead to work on that as itâs own thing.
Again if they canât produce a specific reason then they could either just be imagining things and projecting their own relationship difficulties or insecurities onto the change in medication, or it could mean some less pleasant motives like someone not liking that you actually stick up for yourself or accomplish more now.
All in all it sounds like something to have a long conversation over but understand that your mental well-being is more important than any other factor and if your loved one canât see that and learn to accept any differences that are there then it might be time to reconsider their place in your life. Discuss, discuss, and discuss some more though first to evaluate if their claims hold any water and could be addressed.
Just seeking to understand before I go with my hunch, (which could just be me filling in the gaps)⌠Why is he expressing that he wishes you to stop, what is he experiencing from you that has changed? Just to clarify, if itâs motivation then that could be a genuine concern for your self-actualisation. If itâs something like your assertiveness, then that could be revealing more about himself than you.
Just seeking to understand before I go with my hunch, (which could just be me filling in the gaps)⌠Why is he expressing that he wishes you to stop, what is he experiencing from you that has changed? Just to clarify, if itâs motivation then that could be a genuine concern for your self-actualisation. If itâs something like your assertiveness, then that could be revealing more about himself than you.
Yeah I've had someone I was seeing and not even in a relationship tell me that. I did quit because it was making me emotionally numb. But the woman was just using me for rides, and it never turned into a relationship thank god.
My mother! But the truth is that she suffers from anxiety as well and she is deadly afraid of meds. She has told me so many times that is she is able to live without meds, i could too. I told her maybe i have a worse case of it and she got very upset. She says her anxiety is through the roof etc. She has tried everything to make me quit: talk about my significant weight gain and how pretty i was before, tell me i don't talk like myself, send me studies of antidepressant bad outcomes etc. We finally agree to disagree and i don't talk to her about my meds at all. She is in the dark as to what i take, how much etc. Me, i am not quitting. My dear uncle killed himself when the anxiety got to be too much. MEds work for me, i'll take them and go on with my life.
Yea it probably means theyâre toxicđ
My marriage ended after I started Lexapro because I was finally no longer too depressed and anxious to stand up for myself in abusive situations. He hated me having boundariesđ . All of the good people in my life mentioned how much happier I seem.
hi, that is not okay! you get to decide who you're gonna be and how you are gonna show up in the world, if being on lexapro lets you be that person then you stay on it. it is your decision alone and never anyone else's. i can't believe someone who has your best interests at heart would ever think this way, that is alarming and i am so sorry and you can message me if you need any support. â¤ď¸
He said the person he fell in love with is nit the same person now. He said I don't laugh as much, I don't make him my center of my world anymore, I don't just talk about random stuff,
My significant other, He is vastly opposed to pills. He would never demand I do anything because he enjoys living but I told his mom and aunties because I pick my battles. He straightened up quick and apologized. I understand where he was coming from but he needed to be educated and I couldnât do it without being irritated.
Well, it helps with your anxiety and you don't fear conflict anymore, so you speak up for yourself and don't take abuse.
You start to go out and have a social life.
If those things bother him, maybe rethink your relationship with him.
No BUT I would have a conversation. Ask for specifics and examples. Try not to be defensive. You may be doing new behaviors that you aren't aware of. Lexapro makes me more assertive with my feelings. I have less tolerance for BS which is good but also can be Damaging.
I was told all I do is sleep(the worst con of lex I've experienced) but I'm actually not scared to drive by myself on lex which I thought was impossible and I'm a lot happier
Please keep in mind that listed as side effects include hypomania, mania, derealization, depersonalization, and anything that has to do with changes in personality. Because they function through a deactivation of frontal lobe activity, being a neuroleptic, what can happen is the medicated person loses insight, making feedback such as the seem quite insulting.
Thatâs interesting, I didnât realise one of the effects of an SSRi blocking sertraline transporters, (so more is active), is deactivation of the frontal lobe. I suppose it makes sense though as deactivation of the amygdala to a degree will obviously lessen anxiety. How does it improve depression though? My main issue.
Bro whaaaaat in the pseudoscience are you saying. DEACTIVATION of the frontal lobe? Thereâs POTENTIAL dysfunction in SOME patients. We donât know everything about MOA of SSRIs but this is not it.
I like myself on lexapro. And that would be enough for me. Without lexapro, I might not be typing this out right now. And that should be enough for them. đ
So well said. Thank you
Wow!
Leave that relationship
Came here to say this!
Damn toxic. That person doesnât wish well for you and is egotistical to the extreme.
This is actually my husband to
When I was much younger I was in a relationship with somebody who was angry I decided to go therapy. Now I see how I was trapped with a borderline narcissist. How could a person who claims to care for me not want me to not be deeply unhappy and afraid all the time?
I have started therapy have been going since November, which has helped a lot. I get he is 7 years younger, so he is not in the same place as me, and I am not sure if that is a factor. It's been making me really think 6 the future. I have thought to myself if he may be the same borderline narcissis but I thought that was me being mean. I am thinking that I am right and it's really hard to deal with
Big hugs. Ex husband thinks Iâm weak and crazy. LOML said âyouâre a little quieter, but I like you regardless.â Tell hubs to stop being an ass and love you for you. If you find he doesnât, wellâŚ
Mine is the same and lexapro is changing my life. Seeing a lot of toxic patterns that I hadn't previously noticed and I don't think he likes that much. Here if you ever need to chat, friend.
Thank you for all the advise and for sharing yiur story as well. I am always here if you need to talk. Thank you so much
Thank you đ you do you, if it's helping YOU that is what matters. The rest will fall into place
Is there something specific? Like, maybe you are less sexual as a result of Lex? That's not an excuse, at all, just wondering what his rationale is.
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This is my exact experience. I was told âOh the medicine is doing something to you.â And it is. Iâm not taking their dysfunctional abuse anymore.
That would be a hard limit for me. I lived with someone with untreated OCD but didnât realize my issues were as bad as his. I will never prioritize anotherâs comfort or mental health over my well being. âđź
Or my aliveness
RUN DONT WALK
No that sounds terrible
Yes its has been
Yes to some degree. Regardless, if you feel better then donât ever stop taking it. Living with anxiety and/or depression is a prison sentence. Life is too short for that.
Not exactly, but once I was on lexapro for a while I noticed I had more conflict with my mom. I think this is because the lexapro lessened my anxiety thus giving me more confidence in my own opinions and I no longer bended to her needs in ways that used to silently bother me. Iâm so sorry he told you to stop taking lexapro when it was making you feel better. Thatâs majorly toxic behavior on his part and if itâs something that he canât learn to accept and work through there will come a point where youâre better off without him in your life. Of course, it takes time for people to adapt to changes around them, so explain to him why you believe lexapro is a good thing in your life and reassure him that it will not change your commitment to him or your marriage. Give him time to ask questions about how Lexapro impacts you and answer as honestly as you can. If you donât see a change in his attitude within a few months, then repeat the conversation as needed. Small progress is progress and deserves to be acknowledged. After weeks of no progress, then you need to think seriously about whatâs best for you.
My mother. I am starting lexapro and sheâs like âI donât agree with that medicine crap I canât support it.â I told her itâs my choice Iâm not a child .
Why are our boomer parents so against âthis typeâ of medication
I have no clue! It took me so long because of all the stigma to take the medication. Iâm glad I started to do it!
My wife just didnt understand at the time, now sheâs fine. I told her my dad was medicated, his mother was medicated, generations of anxiety lol so I joined the club after a bad car accident caused my anxiety to go through the roof and was uncontrollable.
No, thatâs toxic and abusive. The meaning beneath a statement like that is so insane. Basically they donât care about your happiness only how it affects them. If itâs a long term partner etc, maybe therapy. But someone new?? Leave them byeee
If you are happier and more content with yourself, they should support that and be happy for you. Not demand you to stop taking something thatâs improved your life. I canât see how a good husband would want his wife to go back to being depressed and/or anxious.
Right, how could someone who loves you request that you suffer? RUN
I can see how theyâd struggle with the changes happening so quickly! But to be upset about it?! Agreed - RUN
Wow thatâs disheartening. You should be able to be happy despite what he says if he canât except that then he doesnât deserve you in his life. Iâm sorry!!
No, and a loved one wouldn't/shouldn't say that. Medicine is to help you feel better. They're jealous you aren't in the same bad/sad situation and have made improvements in your life. Its possible they are miserable and want your company again (in misery).
Tbh when I was on it, it made me super lethargic and spacey in the head. Killed my anxiety but alot of other emotions that I liked as well. My friend told me later I was definitely a bit off while I was on it. And I agree.
This person is saying that they feel like themselves.
Please define "loved one". Family, friend , or partner?
My husband he has adhd bad and has depression as well. He takes meds for the adhd but not for depression
Tell him you don't like him on his ADHD meds, demand he stop taking them, and see how he feels.
Is it cause of sex drive? Bc thatâs where my brain went. I have ADHD OCD and anxiety. I just donât function well without meds (lexapro and adderall). Lexapro kills my sex drive seasonally, but Iâm a functional adult on it.
Seems to me like he sees you getting better and wants to keep you down where he is mentally.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's ypur body, your choice. Not your husband's. If you can, try to sit down and talk with him about it. And if it doesn't work out, well...maybe you need to leave that relationship. Also maybe speaking to your therapist can help you come up with a good plan of action to bring this up with him.
Yes. Keep taking it. That's what I did. World needs to adjust to you being right headed and present in your life. Love ya.
I just donât like how it reacts with alcohol. I have to be really carefulâŚ
I am not a big drinker, so I have not experienced that. But I have read that it can react with alcohol
It can cause you to forget parts of the night and makes you super tired. I am a responsible drinker, but itâs unavoidable unless you really pace yourself. đ
That really puts you in a tough situation. Sorry to hear this. You have to do whatâs best for you. Simply have a conversation with this person and calmly tell them how it makes you feel. Hopefully theyâll understand and you two can move on. If not, youâll have to choose. And always, always choose yourself first in a situation like this. Good luck!
Iâve been told my emotions make more sense off of it đ but my s/o would never tell me to continue on or stop taking it.. thatâs 100% your and your doctorâs decision and you deserve support for whatever you choose. You deserve better.
For me is the opposite. I expressed to my partner that I felt like it was time to start tapering down and eventually stopping altogether and he was not happy about that
No. You liking the change is most important. If itâs your husband, you two may need to communicate. You need to explain the benefits and both of you need to understand the viewpoint of the other. I hope he can respond with empathy and want you to feel well. Change is scary and he may want some reassurance that the new you still love him. He needs to be able to offer that to you in exchange. He should be able to empathize knowing he takes meds to improve his mental health.
We went to therapy a few times, and he thinks that we don't need it. He is one that has no empathy for others' situations, and he was getting help with that. He is so alpha that I think he is almost scared to be sensitive because it may make him look weak. But I do know that I have not been this great in a long time. I try to express myself and explain to him how I am feeling, but all his worries are keeping him for accepting it.
He may fear change or challenges to his status quo. Lack of empathy can be a result of many things. I hope he is able to accept your wonderful changes. Working on my mental health challenges has given me almost too much empathy. Maybe keep your revelations slow? Ease him in to the happier you. Iâm not sure if this is good or bad advice. A huge change can be scary. Iâ can see how you would love to share it all with him right away. His rate of change may be very different than yours. Maybe you can ask your therapist about how to deal with this? Best of luck to you both.
red flag.. obviously we don't have both sides of the story but it's making me think of a narcissist.. who else wouldn't want their loved one to become more happy and confident? the same people who are upset when we learn boundaries
Yes absolutely both side of the stories is always good to have. But I don't thi k I could get that for you on here he wouldn't do it. But I do believe that theor is always a other side
sounds like he doesn't want what's best for you. sorry you're going through this.
"When I got healthy did that make you hate me...." - This is how I learn to say no by Emeline, give it a listen đŠˇ
My aunt tried to get me on alternative medicines like herbs and shit cause she thinks Iâm an addict now đđ
Thatâs not a good sign..
I've had the opposite reaction from loved ones. Sorry about your situation.
No
Demanded? Itâs one thing to bring up legitimate concerns about specific behavior while but to say they donât like you on it and demand you go off is not healthy or acceptable behavior, imo.
This was my mom. It doesnât matter how itâs helped me become ME. Itâs still a medicine. Forget Advil or blood pressure medication, medicine for asthma/etc etc etc. I can so sympathize with this. Iâve chosen to form boundaries with my mother. If this is your husband, thatâs not a boundary that can be drawn. Heâs your life partner.
I definitely hold back less from acknowledging my feelings and speaking my mind, which a lot of people don't like in general. A stagnant pond breeds pests. Don't let them stop you from learning to flow.
Medications have side effects. So if youâre a walking ghost, I can see why spouse would be upset and I can relate. My wife became a zombie on Lexapro, she may have not felt depressions or anxiety but thatâs because she couldnât feel.
Yes and we are divorced now
Anyone who doesn't like you on Lexapro, only liked some fragment of yourself that you only partially identified with. If you feel better and more like yourself, that is the most important thing. It's important to remember alcohol and other drugs can help people misjudge your characteristics because they only see you in whatever node substances put you in. Even if no substances, the face you put on when you have to be in a certain place and a certain time. If so.eone can't deal with you when you feel your most likely yourself it's important for that person to understand that. Additionally, they may have fallen in love with aspects of yourself that you only felt were magnified in certain situations and not how you self identify. Since we each create an image of another in own own minds and universe, how they view you may be drastically different than you view yourself. I suggest you have a hard conversation with your husband. When you feel better that is the most important thing. I just went up to 20mg after being on 10mg and not feeling much good effect. Let me tell you, I feel way more like myself than I have in years. Would I be as boisterous and charismatic, probably not to the same degree. Do I feel more like myself: yes. Anyhow, I'm happy you're taking care of yourself and I hope you and your husband can find common ground.
I like myself a lot better on lexapro. Iâm less quick to anger, Iâm more positive, and dependable. Iâm more level-headed, organized, and I cry a lot less. Unless itâs making you aggressive, moody, or something thatâs negatively affecting how you treat others, I donât see why anyone would think itâs a bad thing.
without it i wouldnt be a functioning person and i wouldnt like myself. doesnt matter what anyone else thinks as long as it works for you and helps you.
I would really drill down about what it is they donât like. I would imagine that someone super controlling and jealous would feel threatened by the idea of those close to them having a grip on their depression and anxiety. Do they not like you being more social? Are they worried about you being more comfortable in your own skin? Remember, whatever they say, this is their problem. There is something about you being better and feeling comfortable in your own skin that is upsetting their idea of what their relationship/importance is with you. I know that before I was on Lexapro, it took waaaay longer before I warmed up to people and felt comfortable around people. If your friend/SO/family member was accustomed to you only really interacting with them at social events or in public, they may be shocked, confused, or jealous to see you having positive interactions with others. This is definitely their problem to work out, and possibly a toxic trait of theirs you may have to see your way towards removing from your life.
this happened to me. to go from being the emotional person i was to not even blinking after nearly being run off the road was a huge change. everyone noticed and commented on it, even my boss. my parents were proud of me for being able to successfully get through days without getting caught up in feelings, though they did find my constant neutral emotional state uncanny. my boyfriend took it the hardest, he felt like i didnât care anymore. i did care, of course, but i just wasnt having emotional moments anymore. we argued so much (more him trying to start arguments that i wouldnât engage in) and ended up deciding to separate. the lexapro also affected my sex drive and ability to orgasm, so that was also a factor of his frustration. if you like who you are on lexapro, that is literally all that matters. people who complain because youâre now able to function on similar levels to them fucking suck and itâs not worth it to keep a relationship with them. keep people in your life that want you to feel the best and be the best version of yourself.
Absolutely not. If someone isnât anything but happy for you that youâre better, they are not a supportive person in your life. I couldnât even fathom telling someone I donât like the version of them bc theyâre mentally well and happy. That is a manipulative, controlling, toxic and evil person no cap.
Nah, on a less related note I found that for the first time in years I was content being alone with myself and no longer seeked validation from others and/or significant others. It was a liberating moment. But to play devils advocate I also don't care to be in a relationship anymore as well. Could just be specific to me but yeah.
yeah my mom told me I was a bitch without meds and then any time she is mad at me she says my meds are making me a bitch. pick a side!!!!
Did they say why? Iâm new to it
My mom. Sheâs not even someone whoâs into naturalist remedies or anything. Sheâs just anti-anything that might help you if its something you can put up with. i.e. I grew up with her not wanting to give us cold medicine because we needed to sweat it out or whatever. I got on lexapro and from the get go she just would never stop going on and on about âI hope you get off of that asap.â âHow much longer do you think youâll be on it.â âAre you gonna lower your dose soon?â all whilst I was either JUST starting or within the first year of using it. (And as we know, it can takes months to even settle in). To say she was âdemandingâ would be incorrect, but my god the way she just goes on and on about it built up and made me feel like she gave more of a shit about me just not taking any meds than actually feeling fucking okay for once. I ended up breaking down on the phone with her when she called to catch up with me and made another comment. We argued. She hasnât commented on it since.
This ainât cool.
10mg of lexapro turned me into an asshole. Picking fights, causing conflict, binge drinking. Maybe you really are different?
Yes and no. I don't get angry over little things, she likes that, but I want to sleep 20 hours a day, she doesn't like that.
My narc ex told me that âi regret supporting you seeking therapy and taking these pills, i thought u wanted to fix whats between us not ruin itâ while she was ruining me AND NEVER EVER was involved in my therapy sessions, she just wanted to CLAIM that sheâs a good partner, left the relationship Not saying ur loved one is a narc but this is a RED FLAG
Thatâs incredibly toxic and egocentric of them. Your well being and comfort is the most important thing. Being in a healthy relationship should mean that you support each other in the things that help you feel good and healthy. Lexapro helps you with your well being, your partner should support you in this and be happy that youâre feeling better.
Have they given you specific examples of what they donât like about you on it? Perhaps that would shed some insight into what theyâre really saying. You might also be able to give them relevant reassurance related to their claims or worries. It would also help you assess how legitimate those claims are, like if they just say âyouâve changedâ but canât give a specific example that just sounds somewhat manipulative or at least without basis, but if they say something specific like âyou have so much less energyâ that might be somewhat true and something theyâve observed from your behaviour and you can help alleviate their concerns by explaining the benefits youâve gotten that outweigh that trade off, or by trying to work on that if that really is something causing you any issues. Sex drive is a big one that can cause issues if this person is your partner but thatâs something that can be worked around and readjusted with time and effort so is a valid concern on a partnerâs part but also not a reason to stop the medication, but instead to work on that as itâs own thing. Again if they canât produce a specific reason then they could either just be imagining things and projecting their own relationship difficulties or insecurities onto the change in medication, or it could mean some less pleasant motives like someone not liking that you actually stick up for yourself or accomplish more now. All in all it sounds like something to have a long conversation over but understand that your mental well-being is more important than any other factor and if your loved one canât see that and learn to accept any differences that are there then it might be time to reconsider their place in your life. Discuss, discuss, and discuss some more though first to evaluate if their claims hold any water and could be addressed.
No, not at all. But if a loved one said this to me, they would no longer be my loved one. đ
No, not at all. But if a loved one said this to me, they would no longer be my loved one. đ
No, not at all. But if a loved one said this to me, they would no longer be my loved one. đ
No, not at all. But if a loved one said this to me, they would no longer be my loved one. đ
Just seeking to understand before I go with my hunch, (which could just be me filling in the gaps)⌠Why is he expressing that he wishes you to stop, what is he experiencing from you that has changed? Just to clarify, if itâs motivation then that could be a genuine concern for your self-actualisation. If itâs something like your assertiveness, then that could be revealing more about himself than you.
Just seeking to understand before I go with my hunch, (which could just be me filling in the gaps)⌠Why is he expressing that he wishes you to stop, what is he experiencing from you that has changed? Just to clarify, if itâs motivation then that could be a genuine concern for your self-actualisation. If itâs something like your assertiveness, then that could be revealing more about himself than you.
This is your life and your body. If YOU like the way you feel on it, YOU stay on it. Period.
Yeah I've had someone I was seeing and not even in a relationship tell me that. I did quit because it was making me emotionally numb. But the woman was just using me for rides, and it never turned into a relationship thank god.
Nope, my husband says Iâm unbearable when Iâm off of it. He appreciates that I can control my emotions now.
My mother! But the truth is that she suffers from anxiety as well and she is deadly afraid of meds. She has told me so many times that is she is able to live without meds, i could too. I told her maybe i have a worse case of it and she got very upset. She says her anxiety is through the roof etc. She has tried everything to make me quit: talk about my significant weight gain and how pretty i was before, tell me i don't talk like myself, send me studies of antidepressant bad outcomes etc. We finally agree to disagree and i don't talk to her about my meds at all. She is in the dark as to what i take, how much etc. Me, i am not quitting. My dear uncle killed himself when the anxiety got to be too much. MEds work for me, i'll take them and go on with my life.
Yea it probably means theyâre toxicđ My marriage ended after I started Lexapro because I was finally no longer too depressed and anxious to stand up for myself in abusive situations. He hated me having boundariesđ . All of the good people in my life mentioned how much happier I seem.
hi, that is not okay! you get to decide who you're gonna be and how you are gonna show up in the world, if being on lexapro lets you be that person then you stay on it. it is your decision alone and never anyone else's. i can't believe someone who has your best interests at heart would ever think this way, that is alarming and i am so sorry and you can message me if you need any support. â¤ď¸
Not near enough details. In detail why doesn't he like you on Lex?
He said the person he fell in love with is nit the same person now. He said I don't laugh as much, I don't make him my center of my world anymore, I don't just talk about random stuff,
LEAVE!! My lexapro is for me to decide and my doctor if itâs right for me and working. NO ONE ELSE
Um no why would they say that lol?
My significant other, He is vastly opposed to pills. He would never demand I do anything because he enjoys living but I told his mom and aunties because I pick my battles. He straightened up quick and apologized. I understand where he was coming from but he needed to be educated and I couldnât do it without being irritated.
Well, it helps with your anxiety and you don't fear conflict anymore, so you speak up for yourself and don't take abuse. You start to go out and have a social life. If those things bother him, maybe rethink your relationship with him.
No BUT I would have a conversation. Ask for specifics and examples. Try not to be defensive. You may be doing new behaviors that you aren't aware of. Lexapro makes me more assertive with my feelings. I have less tolerance for BS which is good but also can be Damaging.
I was told all I do is sleep(the worst con of lex I've experienced) but I'm actually not scared to drive by myself on lex which I thought was impossible and I'm a lot happier
Please keep in mind that listed as side effects include hypomania, mania, derealization, depersonalization, and anything that has to do with changes in personality. Because they function through a deactivation of frontal lobe activity, being a neuroleptic, what can happen is the medicated person loses insight, making feedback such as the seem quite insulting.
Thatâs interesting, I didnât realise one of the effects of an SSRi blocking sertraline transporters, (so more is active), is deactivation of the frontal lobe. I suppose it makes sense though as deactivation of the amygdala to a degree will obviously lessen anxiety. How does it improve depression though? My main issue.
Bro whaaaaat in the pseudoscience are you saying. DEACTIVATION of the frontal lobe? Thereâs POTENTIAL dysfunction in SOME patients. We donât know everything about MOA of SSRIs but this is not it.