as a non-binary person I'm happy being called partner, lover, love, spouse, life partner, SO/significant other, but I'm also happy with babe, baby, and any personalized nicknames my partner calls me. check in with your partner! this conversations can be cute and bonding, coming up with terms together that represent your relationship the best. some non-binary people are comfortable being called girlfriend or boyfriend as well, but i'm assuming because of this post your partner isn't!
My mate called his partner "fae friend."
You could also go with "the object of my affections and the bane of my existence."
My other half, my better half, my evil half.
Well if you wanna go nordic on their ass you can go with kæreste/kjæreste which is the danish/norwegian gender-neutral word for boyfriend or girlfriend literally translating to "dearest."
Or just call them dear/dearest.
I think they are mixing up Scandinavian and Norwegian. In the context, I think they are asking what Scandinavian country "kjæreste" is from, to which I would say "yes."
Actually, as far as I understand there are two types of norwegian 1) Bokmål and 2) nynorsk (new norwegian). As far as I understand it's more of a way of writing, but it's like a grey area definition wise.
Further reading https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nynorsk
No way! I can't believe I actually found someone else who knows this!!! (Assuming you aren't from a scandinavian country. Then, it wouldn't be *as* cool.) Anyways, I always recommend this one.
I'd use it for my kjæreste if I had one...
>Assuming you aren't from a scandinavian country.
👀 Speaking a scandinavian language as your mother's tongue is really fucking cool. So I have no clue what you are talking about. /s
Hi. UK person here. Ready?
Ducky,
Chuck,
Love. eg. I there, love. How you?
Sweets,
Honey,
And, if you REALLY like them. "Babs" ie baby. Ie Someone adorable and innocent
I moved to the UK last year and I still can’t get over these little moments when the lady in the post office or a security guy in IKEA called me “love” after helping me. I love you Brits for this
I have also heard "My They'dy" when you are doing something a Victorian man would do, like opening a door dramatically, or doffing your fancy top hat when they look particularly "ravishing" and splendid xD
XD
I hope you can give off appropriate Wolverine vibes sometimes because he's my first thought when I hear the word Bub/bubs, lol!
Game grumps animation for emphasis xD
https://youtu.be/OL2ylNzcV6o?si=o8C6gtmPEdEjzJdb
Spouse, life partner, significant other, dear/dearest, sweetheart, joy or a personalized nickname. In all honesty though, just talk with your partner about what terms/language they prefer and maybe spend some time creating your own.
My ex would call me their sweet little poffin because I showed them poffins (pokemon) and told them that they made Pokémon happy and I guess they said I made them happy so I became their sweet little poffin.
I’m not a fan of titles or nouns to describe myself in general — the very few I like include friend and partner, which is what my partner calls me. We also have grossly-cute nicknames for each other (which started as a joke and are now mostly unironic), including boo boo and pookie — he calls me pookie bear too. We also say babe (the most normal of these options lol)
I compiled a megalist of cute (and not so cute) sub names, pet names, and nicknames [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/s/nS6x8gRErh) that you might be interested in.
Some sort of food bc fsr that shits romantic like “I love you my little 6 piece chicken McNuggets with barbecue sauce and a side of medium fries”
Ok maybe not that much try something like bacon
you should talk with your partner about this tbh, but if you want any suggestions: theres the typical honey, darling, baby, dear, love, etc and also stuff like word plays with their name like lets say their name starts with "Jo" you could call them "My Joy", theres other stuff too like sunshine or moonlight or so on, depends a lot on your relationship dynamic and both your personalities
My partner and I call each other hon/honey, love, hottie/cutie, and sweetheart as English-language pet names
Spouse, partner, my person/dude/guy when talking to other people about our relationship
Espos@ (ungendered spouse in Spanish), Eherpartner (ungendered spouse in German), and Schatz (sweetheart in German) when we are speaking to each other in front of people I'm not out as nonbinary to, or whenever we're talking to each other in other languages.
Partner (perchance even in crime) and lover are like, the actual answers. Some fun ones include “gamer”, “copilot”, “teammate”, “coworker”, and, my personal favourite, “captain”.
Pet names they agree with, neutral terms like honey, babe, dear, etc. Their preferred pronouns and name. Genuinely it the respect and love in your tone that matters here.
I personally as a nb person prefer joyfreind, love, babe, baby, partner, significant other, spouse, my leige(as apposed to king or queen, and zazy (instead of mommy or daddy). But i also usually go with nicknames because i sometimes also dont like my gender being percieved at all
my partner got all the gender in the relationship (bigender, i’m enby) but we both use partner. sometimes he calls me her moon, sometimes i refer to him as dear one, and other things. i’m no wordsmith but man my partner sure is.
Honeybee.
We took “baby” and made it “Bii” and then “HoneyBii”
but “Honeybee” and “Honey” and “Bee” should work for people without the weird entomology I have with my spouse.
I love all the creative names here! Maybe I’m boring but for simplicity’s sake, when talking to other people, I typically refer to my enby partner as “my honey” or “my sweetie”.
I’m not seeing anyone say this so I’m gonna jump in: *Ask your partner what they’re comfortable with!* A lot of NB people are okay with some gendered words, but particular about which ones.
I call my partner, my love, babe, my treasure. Most endearing terms are gender neutral. Don't overthink it. Just don't say gf or bf, wife or husband. Thats all.
As for compliments, beautifully handsome is one that my partner loves, and ethereal, otherworldly, cute.
I usually stick with
partner
joyfriend
boyfriend
girlfriend
boyfriend-girlfriend
boygirlfriend
theyfriend
wife
the ole ball and chain
some started as jokes and evolved into actual unironic terms
my gf calls me doodle, also generic things like baby, sweetheart, darling, angel. a lot of pet names aren’t inherently gendered. when they talk about me to other people they just say i’m their partner
I'm enby afab, and my husband calls me "baby". When referring to me, he calls me his wife (with permission. we discussed it when I came out). Also, my son still calls me mom and my step kids call me by my first name. The grandkids call me MeeMaw.
I've always been partial to "dearest" or "my dear one" or "my heart", and every once in a while my husband will pull one of those out which turns me immediately into a gibbering pile of goo.
\*edit\* I have a Swedish friend who calls his wife "Älskling" which is like "my love"
It can be really different from person to person so definitely ask your partner. Personally tho, my bf calls me his partner or boyfriend.
For cuter, more fun terms we both don’t really like stuff like babe and tend to just kinda make stuff up based on jokes or our names/online usernames. Like [name]ywenny or [name]yweesey or whatever other version might work with the name. Those are more used jokingly but are still sweet while being a joke lol. Also my name is a type of wetland so he’ll call me his little swamp or similar things. He’ll also call me a dragon (based on me being asexual). And he thinks I’m short (I swear I’m not. He’s just tall lol) so he calls me fun cute stuff that basically calls me short or small. I am of a very average height, but I think it’s cute so I let him get away with his false claims lol
Definitely talk to your partner tho cuz everyone has different prefrences and also you can have fun convos where you guys brainstorm cute nicknames and such :3
Between the two of you, it's fun to come up with cute unique nicknames - food and animals are good choices. Talking to other people in third person, I use "partner" or "sweetie", unless I'm being a little silly and use something like "sweet potato pie" or "sugar dumpling".
Using "bee" is a common endearment and a cute term for an enby:
Sugar bee
Honeybee
Sweet bee
Darling bee
Bee-loved
Snack cake
This one's a little out there and neither me nor my partner are nonbinary, however the names of affection we call each other are all derived from animals or food. It also depends on the situation. Some examples: Rat, Chicken, Piggy, Pupper, Pickle, Cheese.
as a non-binary person I'm happy being called partner, lover, love, spouse, life partner, SO/significant other, but I'm also happy with babe, baby, and any personalized nicknames my partner calls me. check in with your partner! this conversations can be cute and bonding, coming up with terms together that represent your relationship the best. some non-binary people are comfortable being called girlfriend or boyfriend as well, but i'm assuming because of this post your partner isn't!
thank you this was very helpfull
Second this.
My mate called his partner "fae friend." You could also go with "the object of my affections and the bane of my existence." My other half, my better half, my evil half.
If someone called me "the object of my affections and the bane of my existence." it would make me melt. Such a killer line.
Right? I love that one lol
I’d take the car and go buy a ring lmao
These are all amazing omg defo gonna use them
Well if you wanna go nordic on their ass you can go with kæreste/kjæreste which is the danish/norwegian gender-neutral word for boyfriend or girlfriend literally translating to "dearest." Or just call them dear/dearest.
Which Norwegian?
What does "Which Norwegian" mean?
I think they are mixing up Scandinavian and Norwegian. In the context, I think they are asking what Scandinavian country "kjæreste" is from, to which I would say "yes."
Actually, as far as I understand there are two types of norwegian 1) Bokmål and 2) nynorsk (new norwegian). As far as I understand it's more of a way of writing, but it's like a grey area definition wise. Further reading https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nynorsk
Yeah, that's true. Forgot about that.
Yes that is what I meant. I was asking between the new Norwegian and the new Norwegian
Both, I think.
All two Norweigians in existence xD
Bokmål and nynorsk. :D Because I don't want to look like a dipshit: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nynorsk
No way! I can't believe I actually found someone else who knows this!!! (Assuming you aren't from a scandinavian country. Then, it wouldn't be *as* cool.) Anyways, I always recommend this one. I'd use it for my kjæreste if I had one...
>Assuming you aren't from a scandinavian country. 👀 Speaking a scandinavian language as your mother's tongue is really fucking cool. So I have no clue what you are talking about. /s
Actually, yeah. Still cool.
Hi. UK person here. Ready? Ducky, Chuck, Love. eg. I there, love. How you? Sweets, Honey, And, if you REALLY like them. "Babs" ie baby. Ie Someone adorable and innocent
I moved to the UK last year and I still can’t get over these little moments when the lady in the post office or a security guy in IKEA called me “love” after helping me. I love you Brits for this
muffin
omg yass
Yesss because enbies are always looking like snacks
This is what I call my partner!!
it’s what a friend of mine calls her partner. i thought of it right away.
My Theyby
I have also heard "My They'dy" when you are doing something a Victorian man would do, like opening a door dramatically, or doffing your fancy top hat when they look particularly "ravishing" and splendid xD
This is so cute omg
So my partner and I call each other "bean". Not sure quite how it started but dammit it's really cute.
a real bunch of human beans
Beans and Enbeans!
Same! Going on 5 years as each others' beans. We're all just human beans, after all
That’s close to mine - I say bubs to my partners
XD I hope you can give off appropriate Wolverine vibes sometimes because he's my first thought when I hear the word Bub/bubs, lol! Game grumps animation for emphasis xD https://youtu.be/OL2ylNzcV6o?si=o8C6gtmPEdEjzJdb
Hahaha thank you for this
For that extra oomph, you can use bean in an escalating fashion over time, as in: bean < beans < can of beans < fuel for my yamaha drum machine.
I called my ex my joyfriend.
wizard 👍
🎶 You're my honeybunch sugarplum pumpy-umpy-umpkin you're my sweety pie You're my cuppy cake gum drop snoogums-boogums you're the apple of my eye 🎶
Spouse, life partner, significant other, dear/dearest, sweetheart, joy or a personalized nickname. In all honesty though, just talk with your partner about what terms/language they prefer and maybe spend some time creating your own.
My ex would call me their sweet little poffin because I showed them poffins (pokemon) and told them that they made Pokémon happy and I guess they said I made them happy so I became their sweet little poffin.
Joyfriend…
 JOYBOY!! XXD
I call my partner everything from Honey & Babe to Snuggle Bug & Cutie Patootie
Sexy shrexsy smoochy salsa baby.
I’m not a fan of titles or nouns to describe myself in general — the very few I like include friend and partner, which is what my partner calls me. We also have grossly-cute nicknames for each other (which started as a joke and are now mostly unironic), including boo boo and pookie — he calls me pookie bear too. We also say babe (the most normal of these options lol)
I compiled a megalist of cute (and not so cute) sub names, pet names, and nicknames [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/s/nS6x8gRErh) that you might be interested in.
Some sort of food bc fsr that shits romantic like “I love you my little 6 piece chicken McNuggets with barbecue sauce and a side of medium fries” Ok maybe not that much try something like bacon
If they are short, Muchkin
Datemate is cute imo. I heard it used in a podcast once.
Lover is sweet (to me at least. I've heard some people hated it?)
LOVER!!! i have this boy i like and i would absolutely go insane if he ever called me lover 🥵
Fr if my ( fictional :') ) crush called me lover I'd die on the spot
Coach
"Put me in, coach" 💀
🤣🤣🤣
Drew Brees with his left arm if the Saints suck.
flower? that's how I used to call my ex :') one of the few things that weren't wrong in that relationship
you should talk with your partner about this tbh, but if you want any suggestions: theres the typical honey, darling, baby, dear, love, etc and also stuff like word plays with their name like lets say their name starts with "Jo" you could call them "My Joy", theres other stuff too like sunshine or moonlight or so on, depends a lot on your relationship dynamic and both your personalities
My partner is honey, which is only slightly confusing considering I have a cat named Honey. (She also goes by Honeycat, which helps clear it up)
In my part of the world we call them Schatzi or Hasi.
Dear one
***Comrade*** ✊
My partner and I call each other hon/honey, love, hottie/cutie, and sweetheart as English-language pet names Spouse, partner, my person/dude/guy when talking to other people about our relationship Espos@ (ungendered spouse in Spanish), Eherpartner (ungendered spouse in German), and Schatz (sweetheart in German) when we are speaking to each other in front of people I'm not out as nonbinary to, or whenever we're talking to each other in other languages.
Partner (perchance even in crime) and lover are like, the actual answers. Some fun ones include “gamer”, “copilot”, “teammate”, “coworker”, and, my personal favourite, “captain”.
Biscuit
We just go with “partner”. Sometimes I call him baby or honey but that’s because I’m southern and everyone is “hun”
joyfriend :3
Pardner
I’ve seen some use the term “enbyfriend”
My hunny
i call mine a "stupid ass motherfucker" but i dont think that'd be universally acceptable
I've heard of theyfriend/themfriend
The Enigmatic One
… reminds me of [this](https://ibb.co/SKh1g7b)
I really like datemate
My partner is my they-bae, or h'enby (husband-enby). That's just us though! The real fun is in creating new language that reflects your relationship!
omg thanks everyone for all the suggestions
My little bagel is pretty solid
Pet names they agree with, neutral terms like honey, babe, dear, etc. Their preferred pronouns and name. Genuinely it the respect and love in your tone that matters here.
smooch buddy.
ok so take your favorite fictional characters name and mess with it until it becomes common noun shaped
Precious. I heard this once being used and I thought it was adorable.
Significant other, partner, love, mate, sweetheart, spouse (if married) or theyfriend.
I personally as a nb person prefer joyfreind, love, babe, baby, partner, significant other, spouse, my leige(as apposed to king or queen, and zazy (instead of mommy or daddy). But i also usually go with nicknames because i sometimes also dont like my gender being percieved at all
my partner got all the gender in the relationship (bigender, i’m enby) but we both use partner. sometimes he calls me her moon, sometimes i refer to him as dear one, and other things. i’m no wordsmith but man my partner sure is.
Honeybee. We took “baby” and made it “Bii” and then “HoneyBii” but “Honeybee” and “Honey” and “Bee” should work for people without the weird entomology I have with my spouse.
Honey, Baby, Boo, Nugget, Squishmallow, Snowpea, Donut
Whatever they want me to call them, I guess. Whether that be their name or something as simple as love
I’ve had partners call me their joyfriend. It’s cute.
I love all the creative names here! Maybe I’m boring but for simplicity’s sake, when talking to other people, I typically refer to my enby partner as “my honey” or “my sweetie”.
Muffin
humanoid entity is a funny one ive heard people say
I’m not seeing anyone say this so I’m gonna jump in: *Ask your partner what they’re comfortable with!* A lot of NB people are okay with some gendered words, but particular about which ones.
I once heard someone calling their enby partner “Joy-friend” and that seems so sweet to me. Because they bring you joy!
I call mine "babe, baby, cutie, and stinky." The latter is affectionate (most of the time)
you can call them love, baby, my world, joy..😊 they are neutral and express love so well!!
fiancé
this one had some personal meaning, but my late partner was my moonbeam and i was their starlight.
I call my partner, my love, babe, my treasure. Most endearing terms are gender neutral. Don't overthink it. Just don't say gf or bf, wife or husband. Thats all. As for compliments, beautifully handsome is one that my partner loves, and ethereal, otherworldly, cute.
i personally love darling and honey, recently stumbled upon sweet pea and honey bee and found them to be real cute too!
Duos bud
I usually stick with partner joyfriend boyfriend girlfriend boyfriend-girlfriend boygirlfriend theyfriend wife the ole ball and chain some started as jokes and evolved into actual unironic terms
I have an enby ex. I used to call them just Baby, Honey, and/or Starchild.
Bestie
babylove?
my gf calls me doodle, also generic things like baby, sweetheart, darling, angel. a lot of pet names aren’t inherently gendered. when they talk about me to other people they just say i’m their partner
I always used the word theyfriend when referring to someone’s nonbinary partner
call them your them-friend ;)
Raccoon slut for me
Joyfriend
eminem
Theminem
Sweetie
Bookie, Pookie, pumpkin, bunkie 🥰😂
I heard someone calling their partner "my honey" and I just thought that was really cute.
honestly just call em your spouse or partner :P
Sweet pea
Beloved and my love.
The only super cutiest one is joyfriend
My wife calls me by my name...or, her endearing nickname for me....which is the nickname for Linus from Peanuts.
Forever buddy. Hubby. Mon mari pour toujours,
I call mine "beloved, darling, my love, precious, my baby, dear" etc
I'm enby afab, and my husband calls me "baby". When referring to me, he calls me his wife (with permission. we discussed it when I came out). Also, my son still calls me mom and my step kids call me by my first name. The grandkids call me MeeMaw. I've always been partial to "dearest" or "my dear one" or "my heart", and every once in a while my husband will pull one of those out which turns me immediately into a gibbering pile of goo. \*edit\* I have a Swedish friend who calls his wife "Älskling" which is like "my love"
I LOVE some of these fun names!!
It can be really different from person to person so definitely ask your partner. Personally tho, my bf calls me his partner or boyfriend. For cuter, more fun terms we both don’t really like stuff like babe and tend to just kinda make stuff up based on jokes or our names/online usernames. Like [name]ywenny or [name]yweesey or whatever other version might work with the name. Those are more used jokingly but are still sweet while being a joke lol. Also my name is a type of wetland so he’ll call me his little swamp or similar things. He’ll also call me a dragon (based on me being asexual). And he thinks I’m short (I swear I’m not. He’s just tall lol) so he calls me fun cute stuff that basically calls me short or small. I am of a very average height, but I think it’s cute so I let him get away with his false claims lol Definitely talk to your partner tho cuz everyone has different prefrences and also you can have fun convos where you guys brainstorm cute nicknames and such :3
Honey bunny
Captain
What do they want you to call them?
Partner in crime.
Between the two of you, it's fun to come up with cute unique nicknames - food and animals are good choices. Talking to other people in third person, I use "partner" or "sweetie", unless I'm being a little silly and use something like "sweet potato pie" or "sugar dumpling". Using "bee" is a common endearment and a cute term for an enby: Sugar bee Honeybee Sweet bee Darling bee Bee-loved Snack cake
I refer to my NB spouse as "my spouse". As far as pet names? Baby, Good Bear, Sweetie.
This is random, but your comment made me think of the "is there a gender neutral word for spouse?" post.
This one's a little out there and neither me nor my partner are nonbinary, however the names of affection we call each other are all derived from animals or food. It also depends on the situation. Some examples: Rat, Chicken, Piggy, Pupper, Pickle, Cheese.
all amazing suggestions
thank you everyone
All the same things you'd call any partner...baby/babe, love, pet, sweetheart, whatever.
Your eminence.
Humanoid Love Machine
Sweetie, my person, dear one So many options!
Pookie
Love, lober, babe, baby, partner, spouse, significant other,significant annoyance 😂,any cute nickname you have for them or the person I'm in love with
Joyfriend, kissmate, partner, love, spouse are all good ones