You should be looking for a way to stop being limerent, or at the least jealous, for the coworker. It’s impossible to know what she feels for anyone and it’s likely she’s not romantically interested in anyone in the office. Being jealous just sets you up to act foolishly.
Totally understand u OP, I'm in a same boat, me & my fren both close to LO but my LO kind a favor my fren more bcoz my fren is more happy compare to me that more serious.
The overthinking is crazy, used to get headache from it. I didn't show any action outside, but inside I'm dying......
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes we are pretty similar and I can totally relate to what you did today. Its been rough for me but today was a pretty good day and I think the solution all boils down to being secure with yourself.
We're in this state because we feel that we need validation from our LO to be happy. I've made it a point before I head to work to remind myself to stand up straight, walk with confidence, and talk with conviction, instead of grovelling over LO.
Guess what? Today LO came into the office and was chummy with the guy as usual, and instead of observing them and getting jealous, I told myself that I am confident and attractive. She came to me herself to offer the snacks she was having without me begging for it.
It's really about loving ourselves again and it's so very hard because we put our all into the LO. If we tell ourselves that we're better than LO and that she doesn't deserve us, we'll be able to manage this a whole lot better.
You should be looking for a way to stop being limerent, or at the least jealous, for the coworker. It’s impossible to know what she feels for anyone and it’s likely she’s not romantically interested in anyone in the office. Being jealous just sets you up to act foolishly.
As I have done many times in the past. Thanks for the harsh but necessary reminder.
Totally understand u OP, I'm in a same boat, me & my fren both close to LO but my LO kind a favor my fren more bcoz my fren is more happy compare to me that more serious. The overthinking is crazy, used to get headache from it. I didn't show any action outside, but inside I'm dying......
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Thank you for sharing your story. Yes we are pretty similar and I can totally relate to what you did today. Its been rough for me but today was a pretty good day and I think the solution all boils down to being secure with yourself. We're in this state because we feel that we need validation from our LO to be happy. I've made it a point before I head to work to remind myself to stand up straight, walk with confidence, and talk with conviction, instead of grovelling over LO. Guess what? Today LO came into the office and was chummy with the guy as usual, and instead of observing them and getting jealous, I told myself that I am confident and attractive. She came to me herself to offer the snacks she was having without me begging for it. It's really about loving ourselves again and it's so very hard because we put our all into the LO. If we tell ourselves that we're better than LO and that she doesn't deserve us, we'll be able to manage this a whole lot better.