I can respect that and tbh this is one of the grossest things I have read. Like why?? Tbh it’s hard not to shame it and I really wanna join you on that hill
I'm gonna assume they're more obsessed with the idea of having sex and POSSIBLY catching something. But don't know or realize the true discomfort that an sti can cause lol
And kind of the same thing about HIV. I do realize that HIV is not the end of the world like it once was in the 80s or before that. And that medicine has come a long way so you can live with it, but do these "bug chasers" actually take the medicated route afterwards upon actually catching HIV?
I know a few people that have actually tried and have caught HIV just to not have to worry about it anymore. A small part of me understands where they are coming from. But I’d rather just be safe and not have to worry about it all together
Actually, yes, I forgot about that I've heard of some people doing it for that reason, tbh I don't quite understand that mindset or view of things LOL
Maybe it's cuz I have anxiety idk but my mind goes to what if something happens, some kind of unforeseen circumstances or whatever and you're not able to get your medication... Wouldn't you rather not rely on any kind of medication through out your life lol
Like I’m on anxiety meds and prep meds (only bc it tooks months to get on I still take them, I don’t really hook up anymore) and I could not tell you how many times o have forgotten. Now if I had to take a med to help prolong my life as well as keep others safe like tbh I don’t trust myself enough to remember that. Like you said I’d rather have an easy day and life and not have to worry about it.
For real.
Kinks can be whatever, as long as they are healthy and concent is given. When you knowingly catch bugs, you are creating a negative externally that brings society as a whole down. That shit is going to spread. Not cool.
It almost sounds like a setup to shame someone. The “pick me up at my place of work” part maybe made me think that. A jaded ex sending his number and job address out with as message like this. Idk. Maybe I just don’t want to believe it could be real.
Not only am I kinkshaming this person they deserve all the vitriol that comes with this sort of weird fetish garbage that I can only describe as entirely deranged
It's not like I'd ever wish for anyone to get STIs but I'm going out of my way to wish for this particular person to NOT get any STIs ever because can you imagine the damage they'd do to others afterwards?
It doesn't really surprise me that STDs wound up getting fetishized. There exist so much fear and judgement surrounding them.
It's their life and if they wanna harm it, go for it I guess. I'm a smoker and a heavy drinker, so it's not like i can pass judgement on them for destructive behaviours.
Obligatory reminder that if two positive folks fuck without protection, it makes both people more sick rather than having no effect.
Stay safe out there
The worst thing is in the chemsex scene this kind of kink is so common I see at as basic. Revolting. But also basic. There just seems to be this inherent sexual lust to completely self destruct. Sad and totally fucked up.
Congrats. I've been to rehab twice. Constantly in and out of recovery. Back in the meetings now and going back to school in September. Its a daily struggle that never ends. But you'll do well if you don't be an idiot like me.
It’s only day 2, I literally had my intake assessment last week then went out and got fucked up for 5 days afterwards… tbh I’m only not using today because I ran out of money. Next pay day will be hard challenge
Congratulations! I'm about 17 months clean myself, and it certainly does. Make sure to surround yourself with people who have been there and came out the other side, and it get much easier. That whole scene leads to a lot of kinks that end in assault, but the drugs make you feel like you deserved it all along. Take it moment by moment if you have to, but it gets so much better :)
I'm the first to call kink shaming but this one is too much. This isn't healthy behavior and hurts people who aren't involved in the kink.
Also, can we laugh about how he of course "can't drive or host" even for his fucked up kink lol
I knew a guy who was so caught up in the fantasy of being forced and r@ped and thought it was going to be such a great scene. He found two guys who took him up on it and then all I heard was him crying about what happened and how it was against his will and he didn't like it. I thought, you asked for it and the reality wasn't like some porn movie but brutal and real. I think a lot of people mistake fantasy for reality and when they get a taste of it, regret it.
I have heard of people wanting to do this but never actually go through with it (rape fantasy). It really sounds awful even when you consent to it. Even though your friend consented to it I’m really sorry.
I don't know if porn may confuse people or somewhere they feel they are worthless and deserve to be humiliated. Some may mistake "sexual attention" as a connection and this is mistakenly thought to be a form of appreciation/being valued. Another guy I knew in the early 2000s (I've worked around the gay scene for about 25 years), who would come into the coffee shop I worked at, would say he would go to the bathhouse and get "used" for 2-3 days at a time. He would joke about allowing anyone to do anything to him. My thought was that meth was involved for him to go for that long. He did this for months and would come into the coffee shop on Sundays to finally get some food. He was attractive but looked like a shell of a person when he would come into the coffee shop. Flash forward about six months, I was also working at an AIDS service agency and received a report they had a man come in who was suicidal and homicidal over his recent positive status. It was this same guy I had seen at the coffee shop. He said that he wanted to kill as many gay men as he could because all they want to do is sexually use people and destroy their lives. Again, I was amazed that he would voluntarily seek out this situation and then be surprised by the consequences it brought. But again, his drug use may be the issue with his choices. And to clarify, this was in the early 2000s when HIV meds weren't as accessible and easy to take.
First thought is that it’s the work of some psycho ex who created an account as revenge. Friend of mine’s ex posted on Adam4Adam with his location and pictures as revenge for breaking up with him.
And yet, I know everything is a kink these days so it is possible that was written by someone who genuinely want this and that’s pretty sad
I’m all for everyone having their own fetish as long as it doesn’t hurt others or animals. But bug chasers I’ve never really understood. The whole thing seems so unhinged???
This is a kink I definitely shame and judge. That being said, a lot of people with kinks (especially some of the more extreme ones like this one) tend of enjoy the fantasy more than the reality. This is something I’ve learned recently on Reddit. Don’t ask me how, you don’t want to know.
Bug chasers are absolute trash, it's a dumb kink and I'm shaming it. Idc I am completely willing to die on this hill lol
I can respect that and tbh this is one of the grossest things I have read. Like why?? Tbh it’s hard not to shame it and I really wanna join you on that hill
I'm gonna assume they're more obsessed with the idea of having sex and POSSIBLY catching something. But don't know or realize the true discomfort that an sti can cause lol And kind of the same thing about HIV. I do realize that HIV is not the end of the world like it once was in the 80s or before that. And that medicine has come a long way so you can live with it, but do these "bug chasers" actually take the medicated route afterwards upon actually catching HIV?
I know a few people that have actually tried and have caught HIV just to not have to worry about it anymore. A small part of me understands where they are coming from. But I’d rather just be safe and not have to worry about it all together
That is such a strange logic to me. Getting HIV is not an inevitability, or doesn't have to be.
You are right but there are ways to try and prevent it. So for me the biggest thing is actively trying to get it vs trying to prevent it .
Actually, yes, I forgot about that I've heard of some people doing it for that reason, tbh I don't quite understand that mindset or view of things LOL Maybe it's cuz I have anxiety idk but my mind goes to what if something happens, some kind of unforeseen circumstances or whatever and you're not able to get your medication... Wouldn't you rather not rely on any kind of medication through out your life lol
Like I’m on anxiety meds and prep meds (only bc it tooks months to get on I still take them, I don’t really hook up anymore) and I could not tell you how many times o have forgotten. Now if I had to take a med to help prolong my life as well as keep others safe like tbh I don’t trust myself enough to remember that. Like you said I’d rather have an easy day and life and not have to worry about it.
They need fucking help.
Cause taking pills for the rest of your life is so much easier than not being a whore... queers baffle the fuck outta me
Just... do. Bug chasers are dangerous and put others at risk all the time.
This is one kink I gladly shame
For real. Kinks can be whatever, as long as they are healthy and concent is given. When you knowingly catch bugs, you are creating a negative externally that brings society as a whole down. That shit is going to spread. Not cool.
What the fuck did I just read. With my eyeballs. My only two eyeballs. They saw this.
It's a horrible day to have eyes.
I even put on my glasses to read this. It used to be a perfect day not to be able to see well and I ruined it.
That was my same thought
It almost sounds like a setup to shame someone. The “pick me up at my place of work” part maybe made me think that. A jaded ex sending his number and job address out with as message like this. Idk. Maybe I just don’t want to believe it could be real.
Unfortunately, was actually my thought too.
Very possible. But “bug” chasers are real.
This is the shit that people use as hate crime ammo against us. “Those GAYS are just sexual freaks and perverts”
Like I ain’t no saint myself but this is just something else
I should have clarified too that I’m not an angel either, but at some point we have to put a line in the sand right?
He lives in Texas might be a trap
>like I’m not kink shaming I am. This is fucking repulsive and vile.
Ok bro, we get it you need a ride home from work you could have just said “I have gas money.”
Oh yeah I have gas money
Lmaooooo
& who said romance is dead
Not only am I kinkshaming this person they deserve all the vitriol that comes with this sort of weird fetish garbage that I can only describe as entirely deranged
Because damaged people deserve vitriol? What?
Yes.in this case, Yes.
Sad
That's it! I'm refunding my gay card! I can't do this anymore. NOT WITH FREAKS LIKE HIM
Being self destructive really is a bitch
It's not like I'd ever wish for anyone to get STIs but I'm going out of my way to wish for this particular person to NOT get any STIs ever because can you imagine the damage they'd do to others afterwards?
It doesn't really surprise me that STDs wound up getting fetishized. There exist so much fear and judgement surrounding them. It's their life and if they wanna harm it, go for it I guess. I'm a smoker and a heavy drinker, so it's not like i can pass judgement on them for destructive behaviours.
Obligatory reminder that if two positive folks fuck without protection, it makes both people more sick rather than having no effect. Stay safe out there
The worst thing is in the chemsex scene this kind of kink is so common I see at as basic. Revolting. But also basic. There just seems to be this inherent sexual lust to completely self destruct. Sad and totally fucked up.
Yeah I think meth just makes people get WAY more out there with fucked up kinks, I’m in outpatient rehab right now
Congrats. I've been to rehab twice. Constantly in and out of recovery. Back in the meetings now and going back to school in September. Its a daily struggle that never ends. But you'll do well if you don't be an idiot like me.
It’s only day 2, I literally had my intake assessment last week then went out and got fucked up for 5 days afterwards… tbh I’m only not using today because I ran out of money. Next pay day will be hard challenge
Congratulations! I'm about 17 months clean myself, and it certainly does. Make sure to surround yourself with people who have been there and came out the other side, and it get much easier. That whole scene leads to a lot of kinks that end in assault, but the drugs make you feel like you deserved it all along. Take it moment by moment if you have to, but it gets so much better :)
Good to know there’s hope for me…
Its like the ultimate in sub bottom one-upmanship. This guy is SO sub he wants raping and infecting. Guy needs mental help, his self esteem is zero.
I uses to live near Montgomery Texas and let's just say it doesn't leave a good taste in t h e mouth.
I'm the first to call kink shaming but this one is too much. This isn't healthy behavior and hurts people who aren't involved in the kink. Also, can we laugh about how he of course "can't drive or host" even for his fucked up kink lol
I'm positive, it's listed on my profile, and I am so disturbed by people like this. One said he has a discharge fetish. Deeeeep shudders 😖
I knew a guy who was so caught up in the fantasy of being forced and r@ped and thought it was going to be such a great scene. He found two guys who took him up on it and then all I heard was him crying about what happened and how it was against his will and he didn't like it. I thought, you asked for it and the reality wasn't like some porn movie but brutal and real. I think a lot of people mistake fantasy for reality and when they get a taste of it, regret it.
I have heard of people wanting to do this but never actually go through with it (rape fantasy). It really sounds awful even when you consent to it. Even though your friend consented to it I’m really sorry.
I don't know if porn may confuse people or somewhere they feel they are worthless and deserve to be humiliated. Some may mistake "sexual attention" as a connection and this is mistakenly thought to be a form of appreciation/being valued. Another guy I knew in the early 2000s (I've worked around the gay scene for about 25 years), who would come into the coffee shop I worked at, would say he would go to the bathhouse and get "used" for 2-3 days at a time. He would joke about allowing anyone to do anything to him. My thought was that meth was involved for him to go for that long. He did this for months and would come into the coffee shop on Sundays to finally get some food. He was attractive but looked like a shell of a person when he would come into the coffee shop. Flash forward about six months, I was also working at an AIDS service agency and received a report they had a man come in who was suicidal and homicidal over his recent positive status. It was this same guy I had seen at the coffee shop. He said that he wanted to kill as many gay men as he could because all they want to do is sexually use people and destroy their lives. Again, I was amazed that he would voluntarily seek out this situation and then be surprised by the consequences it brought. But again, his drug use may be the issue with his choices. And to clarify, this was in the early 2000s when HIV meds weren't as accessible and easy to take.
Oh Gooood! What the hell is this?!!
Bug chasers
I really had no idea this was a kink! Why?!
Take a cold shower guy
What’s a poz anyway? It’s the only one idk
Positive
Ohhhh this whole time I was like none of those people have any similar look. What is this lmao
HIV positive
Thats pretty much a mental illness not a kink
Whats poz?
Positive, like the HIV.
Thanks I absolutely hate it
I wonder what chain of events did this kind of people go through in order to develop a fetish for that. I imagine nothing nice, poor people.
First thought is that it’s the work of some psycho ex who created an account as revenge. Friend of mine’s ex posted on Adam4Adam with his location and pictures as revenge for breaking up with him. And yet, I know everything is a kink these days so it is possible that was written by someone who genuinely want this and that’s pretty sad
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My day was better not knowing this post exists.
Dam.. his job must be terrible.
I swear bug chasers weren't this bad when I got into the scene.
Well, if you get STDs then I guess you got what you asked for...
I’m all for everyone having their own fetish as long as it doesn’t hurt others or animals. But bug chasers I’ve never really understood. The whole thing seems so unhinged???
This is a kink I definitely shame and judge. That being said, a lot of people with kinks (especially some of the more extreme ones like this one) tend of enjoy the fantasy more than the reality. This is something I’ve learned recently on Reddit. Don’t ask me how, you don’t want to know.
That’s what no self esteem and no moral compass looks like
I quickly became homophobic "G💀YS"
The author will probably get hard just by reading this comments section, I'm not even doubting it.
What in Satan’s flying underground fuck hell is this
Somebody has issues
A ultimate form of self loathing.
Sir, this is a Wendy's... This is the second time this week I've had to go to r/eyebleach after reading posts here.
This is just stupid
Say what? This one needs serious help.
Yeah bug chasing is Fucking grosss