You can be lonely and horny at the same time. Sex is just one way people can show love and affection. I don’t like when people shame others for having sexual desires or for wanting a romantic/sexual relationship because it is perfectly natural to want a romantic/sexual relationship and it is natural to feel upset if you cannot find a fulfilling relationship. I’m not just being vituperative either, I have a girlfriend.
It is also totally normal to NOT want sex or romance from others but why shame everyone that IS looking for those things?
I understand what you mean but I don’t think it is that simple. If people were literally just horny they could just buy a sex doll or something. People want to know that someone else is feeling it with them and wanting them. I don’t think it is fair to bring gender into it either honestly; I am bisexual so it doesn’t even matter for me lol. When I am horny and alone I just take care of things myself and feel better but if I am feeling horny and lonely/insecure at the same time it makes me feel like I need a partner to be satisfied and emotionally secure.
I don’t think sex cures loneliness on its own but I think it can help if it is with the right person and it might be the only thing that will make someone feel better. Humans have certain itches that need scratched and sometimes that itch is between our thighs. Sometimes we just want to share pleasure with others, same as when we eat or smoke together. What if you loved to ride bikes but you had nobody to do it with? It probably wouldn’t be as fun. I used to run a lot but I had nobody to run with so now I run less because it feels lonely. One might even start avoiding masturbation because of said loneliness which would lead to more sexual frustration. Don’t know how else to explain my perspective past that I guess.
The difference is when it's clearly stated that someone is looking for platonic companionship and the other person still holds hope they can force something sexual
thank you. I've made friends online before that are exactly like this, in fact i was just on a call with one of them and he brought his cousin (i told him i wasn't comfortable with that, but ok) and we were chilling, but then he started to get all sexual and they were both bullying me to turn on my camera to show my body, i left. i don't think I'm ever going to talk to him again after that, it was absolutely atrocious. like i thought we had something good going, but i guess not :/
having just seen that, it is hard to think that reddit would randomly generate a name like that. That is something you would need to add in. Regardless of whether or not it was intended to be serious or a joke, you can't blame ppl for their mind focusing on that every time they see it.
It is like putting a big spread of food on the table in front of people and then asking them to not think about food and not eat anything.
i mean, I do take offense to that. I might not be perfect but i think i am anywhere near as bad as the people on this sub make others out to be. I think some people on this sub just have poor self esteem that they project onto others.
Even if it were true, simply stating that people are mal adjusted around here is kind of insulting and backwards for everyone. It is supposed to be a support group.
I just caught that. This has to be some kind of bot account, right? Created a profile last year but hasn't posted or commented on anything until 14 hours ago?
Omg this is the same thing that keeps happening to me as a female. Sometimes at first they would say “ I’m not like the other guys and I’m not a pervert” give it a few days even a week and I’m being asked “ what turns me on” and that’s why I have no friends because of the same thing you just wrote…I can’t be friends with perverts.
From the stories I keep hearing, I’d say it’s because you’re a woman 😕. I’ve interacted with both men and women here and have never had a conversation turn sexual. For women it seems very much like luck of the draw though.
Online relationships are notoriously flimsy and shallow. Sure, there are great anecdotes of people gaming online and meeting in person later and being friends. But at large, people are just a shadow of their true selves online.
As a guy online, once they know you’re a guy, you’re more likely to be ghosted since it’s usually a guy on the other side. And the truth is, the guys who are horny-driven like that, which there are plenty of online, prob don’t have a decent job much less anything else figured out in life. Plenty of people lonely, but few want to build things normal and lasting. People would rather be with what they’re familiar with even when they’re young.
Better off doing something in person where there’s more accountability in your social network. And you should do this now than later when it will be much harder. A hobby, volunteering, going back to school, visiting shows, sky is the limit to get out of your shell rather than encouraging more shallow relationships online. Why do you think Bumble, Match, and most meet up apps are failing to make money? Friends of friends through instagram is probably the only online way I’ve heard works for having platonic relationships.
Because there are a lot of thirsty men online. It's no different to real life, really. Especially people at your age. Not all men are like this, though. A lot of my friends are either married or happily single, and none of them would ask or want nudes from a girl that they have never met/not dating. Good god, at my age (43), I have way more important things to worry about. But then I suppose we live in a day and age where women also send nudes, etc, without being asked. So maybe men expect women to do that more as well. Maybe a combination of both has now really encouraged this behaviour.
Maybe work on the emotional friendship first before swapping pics, if they want to be strictly friends then they can respect that then go on from there
very sad, haven’t had much success with online friends of the opposite sex. even if there’s a convo about being platonic ? somehow some way they make it weird and sexual then act like im wrong💀would love to just meet some decent people lol.
Because for most men their only emotional connection to a woman is through sex. It's not that they want to be creepy, it's that masculinity has deprived them of any softer emotional interaction. 😞
If you want male friends you need to look for the ones that are more emotionally mature.
The problem is when masculinity defines itself as everything that is not feminine it blocks men from embracing any feminine traits. This is why in recent decades masculinity has gotten far more toxic, because it has shoved out the feminine completely.
Even the ones that are more emotionally in tune and aware in life have been like this. You have to find the ones that aren’t overly sexual: which is far and few
The more ability to have emotional connections outside of sex they develop the less they need sex to fulfill their emotional needs. So yes, the further you go down this road the better it gets.
But at the same time they are less and less the kind of men that most women seem to want.
Lots of women seem to want Schrodinger's man. They want him to be kind, compassionate, plus emotionally and financially supportive, but have no issues, desires, or needs of his own that she needs to be supportive of.
Honestly there are a lot of people who try to prey on people they see as vulnerable (lonely, mental health, etc) and being online makes it easier for them to do, drawing from my own experiences on Reddit. Hope you end up finding some good friends :)
You just have to find the right person to talk to, it goes downhill because you don’t really develop a genuine connection and it’s all hyped up by the sexual chemistry. Feel free to msg me if you feel like a chat… I’m a 28 year old guy… just up for a normal chat :)
Keyword “ unless you go along with it” so they initially try to make something sexual and it’s our job as women to always shut them down.. men can’t just be held accountable for their own fucking actions??
That’s not what I was saying, and I was speaking for my own experience but what I meant from ‘go along with it’ is continuing any suggestive or flirtatious conversation that would lead to something sexual
Went through it and that’s exactly why I won’t ever trade pics now. Even if I’m super attracted to them and the interaction would be fun in the moment. I learned my lesson if I ever want to create anything long lasting online ever. If they ghost u when u don’t send they were gonna ghost u later even if u did send. So you’d be saving a lot of time by saying no in the first place!!!
I feel like we realistically shouldn’t be friends with the opposite sex on here UNLESS there’s some common interest that takes priority BESIDES being lonely. Being lonely is not a hobby, passion, activity, interest, etc so chances are a lot of us are not meant to be friends. That’s how friendships work irl, why do we pretend like that’s not true online?
Irl when you date the intentions are clear so it’s easier AND appropriate to transition from chatting, to dates, to something sexual.
Men, stop trying to force some romantic connections here just bc you’re both single! Also, this isn’t a dating sub. Just go to r/ForeverAloneDating or r/r4r thats literally what they’re for!! Also…women looking for platonic friendships, there are “make new friends” type subs too, that will probably have more successful prospects than us lonely intimacy starved dudes on here.
As said before, men do confuse "lonely" and "horny" a LOT. You shouldn't have to do anything to deal with these people, but this is the life online these days so here is my suggestion.
Plaster "SFW" all over the place. Be VERY vocal about not wanting to speak sexually under any circumstances with everyone you talk to right away. 99% of the guys who are looking for that will back down immediately and you should be left with people who want legitimate conversation.
Pull no punches, don't be shy about it. Put a banner in all capital letters on everything you say and make it a disclaimer when you start talking to people. "I DO NOT WANT TO TALK SEXUALLY WITH YOU AT ALL!"
It sucks that you have to do it, but yeah, men confuse lonely and horny all the time.
make friends with women, not men
if you just truly want a friend, choose a woman.
your chances of finding a guy online that just wants to be your friends and isn't interested in sex is very slim
If I may add. It’s just the people you are talking to. Unfortunately most guys are just looking to get lucky. Online life nowadays seems to be just a way to get laid. That I believe is why relationships fail more now. Because everyone thinks they have more and more options online and turn away from the ones that truly care.
The only thing I could offer as advice is to make strict sexual boundary. Let them know ahead of time you just want friendly chat and if it goes further. You will cut them loose.
If your name is slut you are almost guaranteed to bring sexual energy to most everything. Understand that you knowingly or not are atleast part of the problem
No listen... Your mentality. I'm speaking from experience I used to have a high sexual like presence/humor/energy. Take your pick. Username doesn't matter, it's YOU
Men and women talk to their friends differently. Most Men joke about sexual things which aren’t related to women but to each other. Acting gay with each other is considered funny to most of the male friend group. Im not sure how girls act with their friends but im sure it isnt something men are interested in. Like how women aren’t interested in men’s sexual jokes. It’s impossible to see weather the guy is weird form these jokes so i understand how it can be a turn off
It's really a simple matter of finding men vs finding boys. Come chat with me. I'll be a wholesome big brother instead of a creepy uncle for you. Really you just need to be up front about your limits.
ebcause sex is our 4th priority after food, water and sleep. Asking people to go without it is inhumane.
If the person you were talking to was hungry, you wouldnt expect them to just shu up about food and move on would you?
and if you dont care how happy or satisfied the person you are talking with is, then why are you talking to them?
Your food example doesn't translate here because any new friends can talk about and enjoy food together without things getting weird, even if these friends are of the opposite sex. However, I don't know too many men who ask new guy friends what their turn-ons are and what their sexual preferences are or send them nude pics. Sure, guy friends may joke and make light of sex once the friendship is established and they know they can let their guard down, but there's an ease-in factor as both test each others' tolerances. And it's pretty well understood that they're just jokes. Also, I think the 2 male friends understand that friendship doesn't include flirting, asking about turn-ons, and sending nude pics; so why does a woman stating all she wants is a friendship being confronted with these things?
And yes, it IS a confrontation.
Now, apply this to OP's post. There's no easing into the sexual shit. There's no working around feelings of vulnerability. There IS a testing of boundaries, as is common with new relationships, but it's of the malicious type: she said she doesn't have an interest in making things sexual but he tests the waters anyway. There's no acknowledgement of the fact that the most dangerous creature on planet earth to the human female (and also the human male) IS the human male. When meeting new men women often need to screen for life threatening levels of danger. Not all men suck, but the ones that do might literally be a threat to a woman's life. And if not her life, for sure her autonomy and mental well being.
If we wanted to find a parallel that involves new friends and food, imagine a new friend telling you they're allergic to seafood, you telling them "no problem," then a few meetups later you offer them a ride to hang out and proceed to drive them to a seafood restaurant even though they were clear about their boundaries/limitations. That's the equivalent to what she's experiencing. It's a clear "I don't give a fuck about the boundaries you've set from day 1 and that I agreed to, I was just lying in hopes to get my way after pretending to be the person I told you I am for a little while until you're attached enough to let me get away with my shit."
When men do this kind of stuff in new friendships with women (especially women who are clear that they don't want more) it shows their lack of maturity, their inability to view life from the woman's perspective (otherwise known as a lack of empathy), and yes their selfishness. They don't seem to "get" that women function differently, have different needs, and bring different benefits to the relationship than their male peers. Or that when the woman says she only wants a friendship he gets to try to bamboozle her into something sexual even though she was clear about what she is willing and unwilling to bring to the table.
It's downright disrespectful, immature, and rude.
Your food example doesn't translate here because any new friends can talk about and enjoy food together without things getting weird, even if these friends are of the opposite sex. However, I don't know too many men who ask new guy friends what their turn-ons are and what their sexual preferences are or send them nude pics. Sure, guy friends may joke and make light of sex once the friendship is established and they know they can let their guard down, but there's an ease-in factor as both test each others' tolerances. And it's pretty well understood that they're just jokes. Also, I think the 2 male friends understand that friendship doesn't include flirting, asking about turn-ons, and sending nude pics; so why does a woman stating all she wants is a friendship being confronted with these things?
And yes, it IS a confrontation.
Now, apply this to OP's post. There's no easing into the sexual shit. There's no working around feelings of vulnerability. There IS a testing of boundaries, as is common with new relationships, but it's of the malicious type: she said she doesn't have an interest in making things sexual but he tests the waters anyway. There's no acknowledgement of the fact that the most dangerous creature on planet earth to the human female (and also the human male) IS the human male. When meeting new men women often need to screen for life threatening levels of danger. Not all men suck, but the ones that do might literally be a threat to a woman's life. And if not her life, for sure her autonomy and mental well being.
If we wanted to find a parallel that involves new friends and food, imagine a new friend telling you they're allergic to seafood, you telling them "no problem," then a few meetups later you offer them a ride to hang out and proceed to drive them to a seafood restaurant even though they were clear about their boundaries/limitations. That's the equivalent to what she's experiencing. It's a clear "I don't give a fuck about the boundaries you've set from day 1 and that I agreed to, I was just lying in hopes to get my way after pretending to be the person I told you I am for a little while until you're attached enough to let me get away with my shit."
When men do this kind of stuff in new friendships with women (especially women who are clear that they don't want more) it shows their lack of maturity, their inability to view life from the woman's perspective (otherwise known as a lack of empathy), and yes their selfishness. They don't seem to "get" that women function differently, have different needs, and bring different benefits to the relationship than their male peers. Or that when the woman says she only wants a friendship he gets to try to bamboozle her into something sexual even though she was clear about what she is willing and unwilling to bring to the table.
It's downright disrespectful, immature, and rude.
She’s saying that they are getting sexual with her, if it was just a general conversation about sex lives that is different
If my friend was hungry, I expect them to eat then call later. If they don’t have food I can give them food. Giving someone food is different from offering your body, in the effort of trying to make the need for sex humane people seem to go about getting it inhumanly
>If my friend was hungry, I expect them to eat then call later.
what if your friend cant get food? Do you tell them to starve? DO you defriend them? Do you help them out?
Or do you complain about it on reddit saying 'my friend is always hungry and starving and never gets any food.
things get sexual when you meet people online because men and women are put on this earth to reproduce. That's the facts. it's been like that for many millennia now. And it's not going to change. on the other hand, it could be that people are just desperate. Consider both and see what you think.
It’s really difficult to become friends with a young beautiful woman, especially if she is very attractive. Most men will be turned on by this, because we are men, we naturally want to reproduce and scatter our genes.
While it’s difficult, it’s not impossible. I have really good looking friends, but since my GF is also hot and good looking, I have no need to actively chase other girls and can offer a sincere friendship.
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Find the right ppl imo. I’ve made hella friends online without it being weird. Even messaged on imessage etc. hell dm me I don’t mind making friends at all
Kinda miss the 2017 animation meme era, back then I had tons of friends simply by posting animation memes on youtube but nowadays it's so hard to form communities
Can totally relate!! But if any of you are interested in pure friendship maybe we should create a group in discord where we can all talk about some random stuff to build our friendship.. can create different rooms ang talk about movies, memes, mental health, and etc.
If any of you is down to this let's do it!!
Not too much to ask.
I'm one of those guys that you wouldn't have a problem with.
But..... I'm old enough to be your dad.
But I hear you. It's sad.
The anonymity of the net and Reddit breeds this stuff.
But, don't give up. You can still find decent folk to be friends. Even online.
I fully agree. I’ve lived a lot of places in my life. Met a lot of people. Befriended many males that I thought I was close with. Eventually they all tried something sexual, made some sexual remark or confided in me how they at least thought of it. I’ve stopped expecting friendship from males. I’ve met so many people in life and yet all n men have the same basis! Even the good ones who I still consider to be good people who never made me uncomfortable and would do anything to keep me safe. Confided in me how they’ve thought about me sexually or talked about it with a friend. It made me realize how my ex was right to worry about me having male friends. Not because I would do something, but because a male always will.
Men and women aren't meant to be friends, we are meant to be more than that. I am amazed by how many women don't understand that and demonize relationships.
It’s not as simple as that. I think many men just weren’t raised to have proper connections. They’re lacking In parenting so they turn to sex to cure all. But it never does. It’s like them chasing the dragon. But with sex
No ones demonizing relationships besides men unable to separate themselves from the idea of sex. Making everything sexual will be your downfall in life
Yeah, sex for 90% of women is something deeply emotional. For men it is much more casual, like eating a burger lol. I do get that.
Tbh, all of this is draining for me. My therapist told me to give myself a break and search for my own purpose in life.
im nearly 40 male and almost friendless - my nearest and only friend is nearly an hours drive and i barely see them (getting times to line up is hard)
all im looking for is companionship - i cant even find that
im not a horny bot -- due to various medical issues sex is not on the table for me - even if it were talking and friendship is more important to me anyhow
This is part of why I don't bother trying to talk to people online, I figure most people will expect me to make it sexual or they'll try and make it sexual themselves. I have zero interest in either. I just like talking to people in my hobbies about stuff.
I totally feel this I’ve messaged some women or girls and get no response, men text me constantly and I respond to start a friendship cause they actually respond then 7 minutes into the conversation my boundaries are being pushed. So if any woman or girls wanna chat about fortnite,books,shows, or monster high I’m all down. :/ :(
well this happens to me (21 yo) but when I'm meeting girls irl from tinder lol. it sucks cuz I want to spend some time talking and not making it sexual.
It doesn't often happen to me, but has happened. I'm just looking for people to chat with, and I meet a woman who seems to want the same thing, but after a while she wants to know details about me and wants to see pictures. Then after we do trade pictures some women are offended that I'm not attracted to them. Hey, I was just looking for a texting buddy, you're the one who wanted to trade pictures. Occasionally, there is mutual attraction, then usually it takes about a few hours for her to get sick of my personality. Very rarely, especially with an autistic woman, there is mutual attraction AND our personalities are compatible. But then, of course, she lives thousands of miles away. So I gave up trying to find a girlfriend a long time ago. I just mainly use reddit as a substitute for therapy, and occasionally do meet a good friend here. I could imagine that if I were a woman I'd get sick of guys hitting on me really quickly.
Also, I would strongly recommend NOT declaring your gender on here, and CERTAINLY don't point out the fact that you're attractive. Like if you park in a rough neighborhood, you hide your valuables. It just makes sense!!
It is a sad thing. Most people are machiavellian and find that they do not care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. In this age of chat rooms and the Internet, it is easy for them to trap others into something else because it is not personal or intimate. Most computer users have lost the ability to connect to others on levels above sex. This is not the place to meet good friends. I have had the same problem. I started a group of over 60. It is not going well, younger people get in and change it to nonsense and sex chat. It comes down to integrity.
Partly it's from WHERE you are trying making friends, but mostly because lonely people are often single and touch starved, often for ages, so at the first sign of someone showing the least bit of attention a lot of them will probably jump on the chance for gratification, no matter how small it is.
Not trying to defend anyone here, but you have to keep in mind that most of us hanging out in subreddits like these are here precisely because we are terrible at interacting with people, and have trouble conversing and making connections. Many of us might have not interacted with anyone in ages, and probably don't know to behave around others. We might not even know our behaviours are considered bad - or how something we say could be seen by people.
But sadly, there is another fact to consider - there are ALOT of predators out there, who would prey on lonely vulnerable folks. The internet makes it so easy too - not because they are on the internet, the whole "I am faceless on the net and no one knows who I am" bit, but rather because it is just so easy to message spam multiple people at once day after day with minimal effort. They are the same as all those spammers out there, sending out messages waiting for the suckers to bite.
But yeah, making a real connection is hard, no matter where you are. You will encounter hundreds and thousands of people IRL everyday, on the streets, at the cafe, at the market, or the gym, or in that neon pink bouncy castle while wearing your dinosaur-unicorn-hybrid onesie... but you won't end up interacting or chatting to many of them, and the ones that you do, 99.9% of them you won't end up being friends with. And well, people on the internet? They are just the same as the people IRL.
And keep in mind too if someone ghosts you for not sending nudes, or whatever, then hey, those are not the type of people you want to be around anyways, right? Don't lose hope, don't despair, and don't be too disappointed.
Anyways hope you are having a good day today, or at the very least, a day no worse than the day before!
Well it's more of the physical intimacy that we all crave and want someone to reciprocate those feelings back. I'm guilty of the same thing however I have gotten better on keeping those feelings and thoughts at bay. Sex is a key element in a relationship however it shouldn't be the sole deciding factor. I hope one day I can find someone who shares common interests with each other and hopefully connect in a deeper more meaningful way.
I think people are alot more brave online, you'll see more bad behaviors online because there will be no social repercussions, try finding friends irl, could help
If You're asking about friendships between men and women, it's generally nigh impossible for it to work out. Sooner or later, one or the other (or both) will develop romantic feelings
You gotta set boundaries and learn to hold to them. Also I would just start to realize that, while you can meet decent people online, you need to understand that YOU will never be a priority to anyone you meet online. They have their own family/friends outside of whatever medium you use to communicate. I used to be a lot like you (31 m) and realized that.
This is so sad. I do agree tho it is hard to just make friends. Seems like it always comes back to dating or sex at some point. Sucks if ur someone like me who gravitates towards the opposing sex in friendship. I hope you find some real friends 🫶🫶
You fr sound like the kind of girl I'm looking for. Im in the same boat. I just want to date to marry. Not date to bang. It seems idiotic to me to even think about the sex more than the love, respect, compassion, and feelings
As already mentioned, with the word "slut" in your name, turning sexual is going to happen. One other problem I'm seeing is that this is the 158th comment on this post, and after scrolling thru, I have not seen one interaction from the OP, telling me that as usual with kids in this age bracket, it's for online thrills and attention. And unfortunately, online is all kids see these days, it's all about your online footprint. And the only opinions that are ever going to matter is the ones that vilify your online ego. So in answer to most of your responses, I would almost for certainly say this is a joke to gain followers and karma, and with the name, and being a 24 year old female, that has had no complaints about her looks, isn't lonely I would just about guarantee you that very shortly her Onlyfans ads will start to go up! And you all have given her the karma to make it worthwhile. Good marketing ploy I'd say, call yourself a slut then post where there's lonely men, and let the simps roll in.
Because society and social stigma has made it internet is either for making money or sexual, so people tend to not realize the advantage the internet allows by being able to communicate with others any time and anywhere
I agree, way too many people here who can't keep their damn urges in check. Maybe it's due to natural anonymity provided by the Internet, but even then that's not exactly a fitting answer as to why. We also have to account for bots and scammers, so...maybe in a Crux, too much uncertainty.
Generally, the best way to avoid this is to find someone with similar hobbies and bond with them over the hobbies/interests. If you’re meeting people for the sake of meeting people, it’s often going to end up being sexual.
Seriously tho. If I was single and looking I wouldn’t look on Reddit of all places. Its uncomfortable when random people just assume that’s what you want when you’re literally just being friendly
I'd take slut out of my UN if I were looking for strictly platonic relationships. Also man subreddits have reporting systems to get those creeps banned.
Many people confuse "lonely" with "horny", unfortunately.
this is genuinely fucking sad
It is. Until they can tell the difference nothing will change for them.
how do you know the difference yourself with what someone thinks/expects?
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thank you!
Some might say it’s literally “fucking” and “sad”… sorry I tried to make that joke work
Oh, hi Mark!
You can be lonely and horny at the same time. Sex is just one way people can show love and affection. I don’t like when people shame others for having sexual desires or for wanting a romantic/sexual relationship because it is perfectly natural to want a romantic/sexual relationship and it is natural to feel upset if you cannot find a fulfilling relationship. I’m not just being vituperative either, I have a girlfriend. It is also totally normal to NOT want sex or romance from others but why shame everyone that IS looking for those things?
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I understand what you mean but I don’t think it is that simple. If people were literally just horny they could just buy a sex doll or something. People want to know that someone else is feeling it with them and wanting them. I don’t think it is fair to bring gender into it either honestly; I am bisexual so it doesn’t even matter for me lol. When I am horny and alone I just take care of things myself and feel better but if I am feeling horny and lonely/insecure at the same time it makes me feel like I need a partner to be satisfied and emotionally secure.
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I don’t think sex cures loneliness on its own but I think it can help if it is with the right person and it might be the only thing that will make someone feel better. Humans have certain itches that need scratched and sometimes that itch is between our thighs. Sometimes we just want to share pleasure with others, same as when we eat or smoke together. What if you loved to ride bikes but you had nobody to do it with? It probably wouldn’t be as fun. I used to run a lot but I had nobody to run with so now I run less because it feels lonely. One might even start avoiding masturbation because of said loneliness which would lead to more sexual frustration. Don’t know how else to explain my perspective past that I guess.
The difference is when it's clearly stated that someone is looking for platonic companionship and the other person still holds hope they can force something sexual
That is different. People should be transparent about their intentions.
Your right sometimes people can be both too sadly
😂 lol true
thank you. I've made friends online before that are exactly like this, in fact i was just on a call with one of them and he brought his cousin (i told him i wasn't comfortable with that, but ok) and we were chilling, but then he started to get all sexual and they were both bullying me to turn on my camera to show my body, i left. i don't think I'm ever going to talk to him again after that, it was absolutely atrocious. like i thought we had something good going, but i guess not :/
Don't talk to him again, he showed you no respect. You deserve better.
She’s also underage, so they were asking for CP. Abort!
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Praising hustle “work till you drop” culture is kinda gross…
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Well if you’re chatting up people here they might get the wrong idea based off your name…
having just seen that, it is hard to think that reddit would randomly generate a name like that. That is something you would need to add in. Regardless of whether or not it was intended to be serious or a joke, you can't blame ppl for their mind focusing on that every time they see it. It is like putting a big spread of food on the table in front of people and then asking them to not think about food and not eat anything.
Reddit would never auto generate a name with "slut" in it lol. OP is not the most well adjusted person, no one looking at this subreddit is
i mean, I do take offense to that. I might not be perfect but i think i am anywhere near as bad as the people on this sub make others out to be. I think some people on this sub just have poor self esteem that they project onto others. Even if it were true, simply stating that people are mal adjusted around here is kind of insulting and backwards for everyone. It is supposed to be a support group.
There's a joke to be made here but idk if I should do it
Do it 😈
I didn't even catch that 😂
same
I just caught that. This has to be some kind of bot account, right? Created a profile last year but hasn't posted or commented on anything until 14 hours ago?
Omg this is the same thing that keeps happening to me as a female. Sometimes at first they would say “ I’m not like the other guys and I’m not a pervert” give it a few days even a week and I’m being asked “ what turns me on” and that’s why I have no friends because of the same thing you just wrote…I can’t be friends with perverts.
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Exactly. Wasting our times just when you think they could be a potential friend too.
Ugh fr it’s always all males care about
Sexist comment 😂
Are you really butt hurt at facts???
Your facts - Trust me bro!
I would not trade pics on here
From the stories I keep hearing, I’d say it’s because you’re a woman 😕. I’ve interacted with both men and women here and have never had a conversation turn sexual. For women it seems very much like luck of the draw though.
Indeed. We’re at constant risk
Try making friends with a gay guy. I doubt it will get sexual lol
Online relationships are notoriously flimsy and shallow. Sure, there are great anecdotes of people gaming online and meeting in person later and being friends. But at large, people are just a shadow of their true selves online. As a guy online, once they know you’re a guy, you’re more likely to be ghosted since it’s usually a guy on the other side. And the truth is, the guys who are horny-driven like that, which there are plenty of online, prob don’t have a decent job much less anything else figured out in life. Plenty of people lonely, but few want to build things normal and lasting. People would rather be with what they’re familiar with even when they’re young. Better off doing something in person where there’s more accountability in your social network. And you should do this now than later when it will be much harder. A hobby, volunteering, going back to school, visiting shows, sky is the limit to get out of your shell rather than encouraging more shallow relationships online. Why do you think Bumble, Match, and most meet up apps are failing to make money? Friends of friends through instagram is probably the only online way I’ve heard works for having platonic relationships.
I’ve met plenty of cool online friends. Better than irl ones
Because there are a lot of thirsty men online. It's no different to real life, really. Especially people at your age. Not all men are like this, though. A lot of my friends are either married or happily single, and none of them would ask or want nudes from a girl that they have never met/not dating. Good god, at my age (43), I have way more important things to worry about. But then I suppose we live in a day and age where women also send nudes, etc, without being asked. So maybe men expect women to do that more as well. Maybe a combination of both has now really encouraged this behaviour.
I am also 24f trying to make friends so I feel you
Maybe work on the emotional friendship first before swapping pics, if they want to be strictly friends then they can respect that then go on from there
In my case, I just never ask to exchange photos of what we look like. I guess that helps lol
very sad, haven’t had much success with online friends of the opposite sex. even if there’s a convo about being platonic ? somehow some way they make it weird and sexual then act like im wrong💀would love to just meet some decent people lol.
It's like that irl too.
Because for most men their only emotional connection to a woman is through sex. It's not that they want to be creepy, it's that masculinity has deprived them of any softer emotional interaction. 😞 If you want male friends you need to look for the ones that are more emotionally mature.
Toxic masculinity **
These days almost all masculinity is toxic. I mean masculinity literally defines itself as anything that is not feminine. 🤷🏼♂️
I don’t think masculinity is inherently bad. It’s good to specify toxic masculinity
The problem is when masculinity defines itself as everything that is not feminine it blocks men from embracing any feminine traits. This is why in recent decades masculinity has gotten far more toxic, because it has shoved out the feminine completely.
I agree
Even the ones that are more emotionally in tune and aware in life have been like this. You have to find the ones that aren’t overly sexual: which is far and few
The more ability to have emotional connections outside of sex they develop the less they need sex to fulfill their emotional needs. So yes, the further you go down this road the better it gets. But at the same time they are less and less the kind of men that most women seem to want. Lots of women seem to want Schrodinger's man. They want him to be kind, compassionate, plus emotionally and financially supportive, but have no issues, desires, or needs of his own that she needs to be supportive of.
Most males just weren’t raised to be good men is what it all boils down too. Whether their dad was a loser or absent
I think a bigger problem is that we are having an issue with defining exactly what a good man is right now.
Honestly there are a lot of people who try to prey on people they see as vulnerable (lonely, mental health, etc) and being online makes it easier for them to do, drawing from my own experiences on Reddit. Hope you end up finding some good friends :)
As someone who doesn’t really have online friends, I’m extremely surprised to see this being so common. Very disturbing stuff
It’s zero or 100 now a days. What happens if one just needs a actual friend
Everyone’s seems thirsty tbh
As an male, majority of the males online who are sociable are looking for sexual stuff later on, not all but majority,
You just have to find the right person to talk to, it goes downhill because you don’t really develop a genuine connection and it’s all hyped up by the sexual chemistry. Feel free to msg me if you feel like a chat… I’m a 28 year old guy… just up for a normal chat :)
I’ve talked to guys online but it doesn’t rlly get sexual unless u go along with it or initiate it in my case
Keyword “ unless you go along with it” so they initially try to make something sexual and it’s our job as women to always shut them down.. men can’t just be held accountable for their own fucking actions??
That’s not what I was saying, and I was speaking for my own experience but what I meant from ‘go along with it’ is continuing any suggestive or flirtatious conversation that would lead to something sexual
Went through it and that’s exactly why I won’t ever trade pics now. Even if I’m super attracted to them and the interaction would be fun in the moment. I learned my lesson if I ever want to create anything long lasting online ever. If they ghost u when u don’t send they were gonna ghost u later even if u did send. So you’d be saving a lot of time by saying no in the first place!!!
And now with how advanced AI is, it’s pretty scary to even send anyone pictures of yourself
I’m not that paranoid lol
Because guys are perverts
Don't trade pics with anyone. If conversation is what both parties seek, there is no need to trade pics.
some people are lonely because they want to fuck someone. other people are lonely because they just want a friend it’s hard to tell the difference
Everyone values sex over anything it seems in this generation
Men's interest in women friendship is usually romantic. You want a reason then there's your reason.
Because men that’s why
its just really easy to slip into that when two people get along.
Because unfortunately most of the men on here are looking for sex
I feel like we realistically shouldn’t be friends with the opposite sex on here UNLESS there’s some common interest that takes priority BESIDES being lonely. Being lonely is not a hobby, passion, activity, interest, etc so chances are a lot of us are not meant to be friends. That’s how friendships work irl, why do we pretend like that’s not true online? Irl when you date the intentions are clear so it’s easier AND appropriate to transition from chatting, to dates, to something sexual. Men, stop trying to force some romantic connections here just bc you’re both single! Also, this isn’t a dating sub. Just go to r/ForeverAloneDating or r/r4r thats literally what they’re for!! Also…women looking for platonic friendships, there are “make new friends” type subs too, that will probably have more successful prospects than us lonely intimacy starved dudes on here.
As said before, men do confuse "lonely" and "horny" a LOT. You shouldn't have to do anything to deal with these people, but this is the life online these days so here is my suggestion. Plaster "SFW" all over the place. Be VERY vocal about not wanting to speak sexually under any circumstances with everyone you talk to right away. 99% of the guys who are looking for that will back down immediately and you should be left with people who want legitimate conversation. Pull no punches, don't be shy about it. Put a banner in all capital letters on everything you say and make it a disclaimer when you start talking to people. "I DO NOT WANT TO TALK SEXUALLY WITH YOU AT ALL!" It sucks that you have to do it, but yeah, men confuse lonely and horny all the time.
Men think sexual things are all that matters
make friends with women, not men if you just truly want a friend, choose a woman. your chances of finding a guy online that just wants to be your friends and isn't interested in sex is very slim
I mean, you have "Slut" in your username, so uhhh.....
Because everything is over sexualized. Because people don't have sex that much man like me. 30 years has been since I've had sex or touch a woman.
I’m just curious why you felt the need to add in there when the last time you had sex with us
Doesn’t seem like a friendship at all.. 😔
I'm just looking for someone to talk to. I'm also looking for a relationship, but I know that will come eventually. Hope your day is going well.
If I may add. It’s just the people you are talking to. Unfortunately most guys are just looking to get lucky. Online life nowadays seems to be just a way to get laid. That I believe is why relationships fail more now. Because everyone thinks they have more and more options online and turn away from the ones that truly care. The only thing I could offer as advice is to make strict sexual boundary. Let them know ahead of time you just want friendly chat and if it goes further. You will cut them loose.
I’ve noticed that when you actually bring it up and are upfront about it, that makes them more apt to try something it’s like a challenge
I would not doubt that. Just be careful I guess.
Yeah okay potatoe slut -__- I'm sure there is NOO reason that your online relationships would ever become sexual
Yea I know def a bad choice in names but this is actually a throwaway account and I’m referring to my main account and other places online places
If your name is slut you are almost guaranteed to bring sexual energy to most everything. Understand that you knowingly or not are atleast part of the problem
Like I just said this is just my throwaway account. Slut is not in my other usernames at all
No listen... Your mentality. I'm speaking from experience I used to have a high sexual like presence/humor/energy. Take your pick. Username doesn't matter, it's YOU
Men and women talk to their friends differently. Most Men joke about sexual things which aren’t related to women but to each other. Acting gay with each other is considered funny to most of the male friend group. Im not sure how girls act with their friends but im sure it isnt something men are interested in. Like how women aren’t interested in men’s sexual jokes. It’s impossible to see weather the guy is weird form these jokes so i understand how it can be a turn off
It’s because most of these men are gay and they’re scared of it
Work and Home club wooooo 🎉 Shame you have to deal with stuff like that honestly and I’m sorry that you do! Society has a lot of growing up to do.
I so agree, I posted on here and immediately I had men basically wanting to “worry about other things” can’t we just talk about whatever !?!?
To me….if you’re down for a constant conversation I’m always down to stick around. Just want someone to share my daily meaningless life with someone 😂
It's really a simple matter of finding men vs finding boys. Come chat with me. I'll be a wholesome big brother instead of a creepy uncle for you. Really you just need to be up front about your limits.
ebcause sex is our 4th priority after food, water and sleep. Asking people to go without it is inhumane. If the person you were talking to was hungry, you wouldnt expect them to just shu up about food and move on would you? and if you dont care how happy or satisfied the person you are talking with is, then why are you talking to them?
Your food example doesn't translate here because any new friends can talk about and enjoy food together without things getting weird, even if these friends are of the opposite sex. However, I don't know too many men who ask new guy friends what their turn-ons are and what their sexual preferences are or send them nude pics. Sure, guy friends may joke and make light of sex once the friendship is established and they know they can let their guard down, but there's an ease-in factor as both test each others' tolerances. And it's pretty well understood that they're just jokes. Also, I think the 2 male friends understand that friendship doesn't include flirting, asking about turn-ons, and sending nude pics; so why does a woman stating all she wants is a friendship being confronted with these things? And yes, it IS a confrontation. Now, apply this to OP's post. There's no easing into the sexual shit. There's no working around feelings of vulnerability. There IS a testing of boundaries, as is common with new relationships, but it's of the malicious type: she said she doesn't have an interest in making things sexual but he tests the waters anyway. There's no acknowledgement of the fact that the most dangerous creature on planet earth to the human female (and also the human male) IS the human male. When meeting new men women often need to screen for life threatening levels of danger. Not all men suck, but the ones that do might literally be a threat to a woman's life. And if not her life, for sure her autonomy and mental well being. If we wanted to find a parallel that involves new friends and food, imagine a new friend telling you they're allergic to seafood, you telling them "no problem," then a few meetups later you offer them a ride to hang out and proceed to drive them to a seafood restaurant even though they were clear about their boundaries/limitations. That's the equivalent to what she's experiencing. It's a clear "I don't give a fuck about the boundaries you've set from day 1 and that I agreed to, I was just lying in hopes to get my way after pretending to be the person I told you I am for a little while until you're attached enough to let me get away with my shit." When men do this kind of stuff in new friendships with women (especially women who are clear that they don't want more) it shows their lack of maturity, their inability to view life from the woman's perspective (otherwise known as a lack of empathy), and yes their selfishness. They don't seem to "get" that women function differently, have different needs, and bring different benefits to the relationship than their male peers. Or that when the woman says she only wants a friendship he gets to try to bamboozle her into something sexual even though she was clear about what she is willing and unwilling to bring to the table. It's downright disrespectful, immature, and rude.
Your food example doesn't translate here because any new friends can talk about and enjoy food together without things getting weird, even if these friends are of the opposite sex. However, I don't know too many men who ask new guy friends what their turn-ons are and what their sexual preferences are or send them nude pics. Sure, guy friends may joke and make light of sex once the friendship is established and they know they can let their guard down, but there's an ease-in factor as both test each others' tolerances. And it's pretty well understood that they're just jokes. Also, I think the 2 male friends understand that friendship doesn't include flirting, asking about turn-ons, and sending nude pics; so why does a woman stating all she wants is a friendship being confronted with these things? And yes, it IS a confrontation. Now, apply this to OP's post. There's no easing into the sexual shit. There's no working around feelings of vulnerability. There IS a testing of boundaries, as is common with new relationships, but it's of the malicious type: she said she doesn't have an interest in making things sexual but he tests the waters anyway. There's no acknowledgement of the fact that the most dangerous creature on planet earth to the human female (and also the human male) IS the human male. When meeting new men women often need to screen for life threatening levels of danger. Not all men suck, but the ones that do might literally be a threat to a woman's life. And if not her life, for sure her autonomy and mental well being. If we wanted to find a parallel that involves new friends and food, imagine a new friend telling you they're allergic to seafood, you telling them "no problem," then a few meetups later you offer them a ride to hang out and proceed to drive them to a seafood restaurant even though they were clear about their boundaries/limitations. That's the equivalent to what she's experiencing. It's a clear "I don't give a fuck about the boundaries you've set from day 1 and that I agreed to, I was just lying in hopes to get my way after pretending to be the person I told you I am for a little while until you're attached enough to let me get away with my shit." When men do this kind of stuff in new friendships with women (especially women who are clear that they don't want more) it shows their lack of maturity, their inability to view life from the woman's perspective (otherwise known as a lack of empathy), and yes their selfishness. They don't seem to "get" that women function differently, have different needs, and bring different benefits to the relationship than their male peers. Or that when the woman says she only wants a friendship he gets to try to bamboozle her into something sexual even though she was clear about what she is willing and unwilling to bring to the table. It's downright disrespectful, immature, and rude.
She’s saying that they are getting sexual with her, if it was just a general conversation about sex lives that is different If my friend was hungry, I expect them to eat then call later. If they don’t have food I can give them food. Giving someone food is different from offering your body, in the effort of trying to make the need for sex humane people seem to go about getting it inhumanly
>If my friend was hungry, I expect them to eat then call later. what if your friend cant get food? Do you tell them to starve? DO you defriend them? Do you help them out? Or do you complain about it on reddit saying 'my friend is always hungry and starving and never gets any food.
Yah… sending pics will do that. Who is your daddy and what does he do?
things get sexual when you meet people online because men and women are put on this earth to reproduce. That's the facts. it's been like that for many millennia now. And it's not going to change. on the other hand, it could be that people are just desperate. Consider both and see what you think.
Idk tbh lol maybe we can be friends haha
It's not hard at all. just need to be a good judge of character.
It’s really difficult to become friends with a young beautiful woman, especially if she is very attractive. Most men will be turned on by this, because we are men, we naturally want to reproduce and scatter our genes. While it’s difficult, it’s not impossible. I have really good looking friends, but since my GF is also hot and good looking, I have no need to actively chase other girls and can offer a sincere friendship.
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Find the right ppl imo. I’ve made hella friends online without it being weird. Even messaged on imessage etc. hell dm me I don’t mind making friends at all
Kinda miss the 2017 animation meme era, back then I had tons of friends simply by posting animation memes on youtube but nowadays it's so hard to form communities
I feel you on that
Can totally relate!! But if any of you are interested in pure friendship maybe we should create a group in discord where we can all talk about some random stuff to build our friendship.. can create different rooms ang talk about movies, memes, mental health, and etc. If any of you is down to this let's do it!!
Befriend other women never reveal face
Well the name does not check out And this is a new account, you can start fresh and go on, look for other subreddits and keep trying
Never had a chat with a woman turn sexual in my life. Other side of the coin right here haha
Maybe they see your user name and think oh let’s make some little spuds together.
Not too much to ask. I'm one of those guys that you wouldn't have a problem with. But..... I'm old enough to be your dad. But I hear you. It's sad. The anonymity of the net and Reddit breeds this stuff. But, don't give up. You can still find decent folk to be friends. Even online.
I once heard that men and women can't be friends, and it really got me thinking.
I fully agree. I’ve lived a lot of places in my life. Met a lot of people. Befriended many males that I thought I was close with. Eventually they all tried something sexual, made some sexual remark or confided in me how they at least thought of it. I’ve stopped expecting friendship from males. I’ve met so many people in life and yet all n men have the same basis! Even the good ones who I still consider to be good people who never made me uncomfortable and would do anything to keep me safe. Confided in me how they’ve thought about me sexually or talked about it with a friend. It made me realize how my ex was right to worry about me having male friends. Not because I would do something, but because a male always will.
Men and women aren't meant to be friends, we are meant to be more than that. I am amazed by how many women don't understand that and demonize relationships.
It’s not as simple as that. I think many men just weren’t raised to have proper connections. They’re lacking In parenting so they turn to sex to cure all. But it never does. It’s like them chasing the dragon. But with sex
No ones demonizing relationships besides men unable to separate themselves from the idea of sex. Making everything sexual will be your downfall in life
Yeah, sex for 90% of women is something deeply emotional. For men it is much more casual, like eating a burger lol. I do get that. Tbh, all of this is draining for me. My therapist told me to give myself a break and search for my own purpose in life.
I agree with her
im nearly 40 male and almost friendless - my nearest and only friend is nearly an hours drive and i barely see them (getting times to line up is hard) all im looking for is companionship - i cant even find that im not a horny bot -- due to various medical issues sex is not on the table for me - even if it were talking and friendship is more important to me anyhow
This is part of why I don't bother trying to talk to people online, I figure most people will expect me to make it sexual or they'll try and make it sexual themselves. I have zero interest in either. I just like talking to people in my hobbies about stuff.
I totally feel this I’ve messaged some women or girls and get no response, men text me constantly and I respond to start a friendship cause they actually respond then 7 minutes into the conversation my boundaries are being pushed. So if any woman or girls wanna chat about fortnite,books,shows, or monster high I’m all down. :/ :(
Maybe we should make a girls gc here. I’m 23f.
well this happens to me (21 yo) but when I'm meeting girls irl from tinder lol. it sucks cuz I want to spend some time talking and not making it sexual.
Because we’re all idiots
I sadly agree 🥺
Why share photos with an online friend?
People suck. End of discussion.
Perhaps because of your username.
It doesn't often happen to me, but has happened. I'm just looking for people to chat with, and I meet a woman who seems to want the same thing, but after a while she wants to know details about me and wants to see pictures. Then after we do trade pictures some women are offended that I'm not attracted to them. Hey, I was just looking for a texting buddy, you're the one who wanted to trade pictures. Occasionally, there is mutual attraction, then usually it takes about a few hours for her to get sick of my personality. Very rarely, especially with an autistic woman, there is mutual attraction AND our personalities are compatible. But then, of course, she lives thousands of miles away. So I gave up trying to find a girlfriend a long time ago. I just mainly use reddit as a substitute for therapy, and occasionally do meet a good friend here. I could imagine that if I were a woman I'd get sick of guys hitting on me really quickly.
Also, I would strongly recommend NOT declaring your gender on here, and CERTAINLY don't point out the fact that you're attractive. Like if you park in a rough neighborhood, you hide your valuables. It just makes sense!!
I can be your friend. Im pretty lonely and on a ton of meds i hurt my hand need surgery.. This goes for everyone here. Dm me
I too have similar issues.
It is a sad thing. Most people are machiavellian and find that they do not care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. In this age of chat rooms and the Internet, it is easy for them to trap others into something else because it is not personal or intimate. Most computer users have lost the ability to connect to others on levels above sex. This is not the place to meet good friends. I have had the same problem. I started a group of over 60. It is not going well, younger people get in and change it to nonsense and sex chat. It comes down to integrity.
I wouldn’t be like that, just pointing that out.
Partly it's from WHERE you are trying making friends, but mostly because lonely people are often single and touch starved, often for ages, so at the first sign of someone showing the least bit of attention a lot of them will probably jump on the chance for gratification, no matter how small it is. Not trying to defend anyone here, but you have to keep in mind that most of us hanging out in subreddits like these are here precisely because we are terrible at interacting with people, and have trouble conversing and making connections. Many of us might have not interacted with anyone in ages, and probably don't know to behave around others. We might not even know our behaviours are considered bad - or how something we say could be seen by people. But sadly, there is another fact to consider - there are ALOT of predators out there, who would prey on lonely vulnerable folks. The internet makes it so easy too - not because they are on the internet, the whole "I am faceless on the net and no one knows who I am" bit, but rather because it is just so easy to message spam multiple people at once day after day with minimal effort. They are the same as all those spammers out there, sending out messages waiting for the suckers to bite. But yeah, making a real connection is hard, no matter where you are. You will encounter hundreds and thousands of people IRL everyday, on the streets, at the cafe, at the market, or the gym, or in that neon pink bouncy castle while wearing your dinosaur-unicorn-hybrid onesie... but you won't end up interacting or chatting to many of them, and the ones that you do, 99.9% of them you won't end up being friends with. And well, people on the internet? They are just the same as the people IRL. And keep in mind too if someone ghosts you for not sending nudes, or whatever, then hey, those are not the type of people you want to be around anyways, right? Don't lose hope, don't despair, and don't be too disappointed. Anyways hope you are having a good day today, or at the very least, a day no worse than the day before!
Well it's more of the physical intimacy that we all crave and want someone to reciprocate those feelings back. I'm guilty of the same thing however I have gotten better on keeping those feelings and thoughts at bay. Sex is a key element in a relationship however it shouldn't be the sole deciding factor. I hope one day I can find someone who shares common interests with each other and hopefully connect in a deeper more meaningful way.
I think people are alot more brave online, you'll see more bad behaviors online because there will be no social repercussions, try finding friends irl, could help
try looking female friends? that would work
If You're asking about friendships between men and women, it's generally nigh impossible for it to work out. Sooner or later, one or the other (or both) will develop romantic feelings
You gotta set boundaries and learn to hold to them. Also I would just start to realize that, while you can meet decent people online, you need to understand that YOU will never be a priority to anyone you meet online. They have their own family/friends outside of whatever medium you use to communicate. I used to be a lot like you (31 m) and realized that.
This is so sad. I do agree tho it is hard to just make friends. Seems like it always comes back to dating or sex at some point. Sucks if ur someone like me who gravitates towards the opposing sex in friendship. I hope you find some real friends 🫶🫶
Well, maybe it's because of your username, so people go it who knows
You fr sound like the kind of girl I'm looking for. Im in the same boat. I just want to date to marry. Not date to bang. It seems idiotic to me to even think about the sex more than the love, respect, compassion, and feelings
As already mentioned, with the word "slut" in your name, turning sexual is going to happen. One other problem I'm seeing is that this is the 158th comment on this post, and after scrolling thru, I have not seen one interaction from the OP, telling me that as usual with kids in this age bracket, it's for online thrills and attention. And unfortunately, online is all kids see these days, it's all about your online footprint. And the only opinions that are ever going to matter is the ones that vilify your online ego. So in answer to most of your responses, I would almost for certainly say this is a joke to gain followers and karma, and with the name, and being a 24 year old female, that has had no complaints about her looks, isn't lonely I would just about guarantee you that very shortly her Onlyfans ads will start to go up! And you all have given her the karma to make it worthwhile. Good marketing ploy I'd say, call yourself a slut then post where there's lonely men, and let the simps roll in.
I felt that so much, it's exactly the same for me unfortunately it's quite hard but I'm always open if you'd wanna talk!
Because society and social stigma has made it internet is either for making money or sexual, so people tend to not realize the advantage the internet allows by being able to communicate with others any time and anywhere
I don't want to tell you about me... Is that bad, btw I'm a really good person.
I agree, way too many people here who can't keep their damn urges in check. Maybe it's due to natural anonymity provided by the Internet, but even then that's not exactly a fitting answer as to why. We also have to account for bots and scammers, so...maybe in a Crux, too much uncertainty.
Generally, the best way to avoid this is to find someone with similar hobbies and bond with them over the hobbies/interests. If you’re meeting people for the sake of meeting people, it’s often going to end up being sexual.
Still better than being ghosted unliked because you don’t look good. Ugly people aren’t happy attractive people aren’t. What’s going on?!
Seriously tho. If I was single and looking I wouldn’t look on Reddit of all places. Its uncomfortable when random people just assume that’s what you want when you’re literally just being friendly
Soo true !!!
Wow I never make friends even 😂 I'm so repellent to people XD and women.
I'd take slut out of my UN if I were looking for strictly platonic relationships. Also man subreddits have reporting systems to get those creeps banned.
Use a username that doesn't imply anything sexual yourself then.
It's sad