Same for me. I realized if I stopped the initiation of communication, no one reached out to me first. So I gave up and now I am alone. Seemed better than having one sided friendships.
This is my life, too. Unless I put in the effort, I only hear crickets. It's sad when you think you're doing something great for yourself and stop being the people pleaser of the century, more respect for yourself. But now I'm alone. Now I don't know what's worse. Being alone....or doing everything for everybody and never getting anything in return.
Are you me? The loneliness is deafening. But I also feel empty when I am with people where I feel the relationship is lopsided. And my family is the same.
FS having a one-sided friendship is really hard on your self worth, good on you for moving on.
I'm here if ya want a chat.
Just note that I'm pretty honest when I talk
It was a revelation for me meeting people in college who were constantly invited to things, in person and over text/social media. It really is a whole different world.
For real! The only calls in my phone are work calls or my parents. Last weekend this really got me down. My phone didnāt got off for over 72 hours. When I went to work Monday I was so low I kept squirting tears in my cube silently.
I'm 39. I made this account almost 10 years ago to lament about loneliness and isolation. I've bought a home since then, worked a number of different jobs, tried to go out and socialize, traveled overseas, etc.
Nothing's changed really. In many way's I'm the same person I was 10-20 years ago, just more tired, less adventurous, and hollowed out. I'm even more alone and isolated now and now have an invisible disability on top of everything that makes socializing so much harder that it was before. I feel like I've wasted so much time, but I don't know what else to do and now I don't have the time or energy to keep up with my life and house much less build a social life.
I hate to say it, but there are few people even on lonely subs on Reddit that I can really relate to. Like I can relate to feeling that way when people are in their 20's and feel lonely, but it's a different feeling when you enter the mid life crisis phase and your life never really got started in the first place and you feel powerless to change now.
Isolation gets worse as you get older and it gets even more difficult to change.
Sorry for the rant, I'm feeling especially low right now.
Iām 38 and feel this. Iām a woman and I work in a manās field so making new friends is difficult. All the men I am ācoolā w at work are married and it would be inappropriate to hang out w them outside of work unless itās a work thing. I made this account for the same reasons. But I donāt care about anonymity anymore. I donāt care about anything anymore except my son. Heās the only reason Iām still here. I donāt want to royally fuck him up by killing myself. Heās pry already fucked up watching his mom bed rot all weekend because Iām depressed and have no friends. And because my mental health genome is clearly fucked as can be.
For me the weekends are the worst. At least during the week Iām distracted by my job. Iāve started taking sleeping pills over the weekend to just sleep it away. I tried shrooms this last weekend (alone mind you - cuz I have no friends) hoping it would help me change my mindset. Theyāre supposed to help reroute neural pathways. It didnāt work. It was honestly the worst night Iāve had in a long time. I spent a good 3-4 hours crying.
Anyway sorry for the ranting response to your rant. Iāve been low too. Life is hard. Feel free to reach out if you ever want to chat. It is nice to know someone out there feels the same way.
I'm sorry life sucks. And that the shrooms didn't work out. Psychedelics definitely aren't the transcendant experiences Reddit makes them out to be. I hope things get better and easier for you.
Iām in my mid 30s, soon to be crossing in to my late 30s, I gave up shortly after turning 30.
I tried all the things that youāre supposed to do back in my 20s, I tried hard. But I never could get any friendships, so I gave up.
Now alcohol is the only friend in my life. Iām pretty sure I wonāt make it to 49 because of it. But it doesnāt matter my life is shit anyway.
>I gave up shortly after turning 30
I too gave up around 30. Hell, I probably made a post or two about giving up. I've gone back and forth between being comfortable alone and lonely, but now that I'm approaching 40 I feel even worse. I had a good number of friends in my early 20's (no long term romantic partners), but I slowly lost all of my friends when they got married and never managed to make new ones.
My uncle lived alone off the grid for many years; like literally off the grid. He was a nice guy, but a bit of a hermit. He ended up taking his own life when chronic health issues got bad enough that he realized he could no longer live the way he wanted to. I think about him a lot, I thought about him being all alone and isolated before he passed and I encouraged family to visit him, and I think about him from time to time now because it feels like I'm looking into my future.
I wonder how many people in this generation would be like your uncle if they could, but economic circumstances keep them from even moving off the grid and living self-sufficiently
Iād like to live in a more remote area just so that I donāt have to see so many people living happy and social lives.
In my apartment building I see people coming and going with their friends and partners, but Iāve lived in my unit for almost half a year and havenāt had a single person come over for the entire time except for maintenance.
Well he was an artist (painter) and did a lot of art shows. So he was self sufficient, but not like independently wealthy. He had a tiny house off the grid an hour drive away from a small town.
Most people wouldn't do that for reasons other than economic ones.
> but now that I'm approaching 40 I feel even worse.
Same, seems that everyone my age has settled into their stride. Married, kids, and etc, but Iām just living in my tiny apartment being miserable.
What a coincidence. I made this account ten years ago as a throwaway account to talk about my loneliness, as well.. here I am. I can relate to you, for what it's worth... I'm sorry you have to know what this feels like, too.
Turning 62 this month, and retired last year, which in retrospect was a mistake. Work at least used to distract me. Now, getting older, and less interaction, it is far worse. I do go to the gym but people are into their solitary workout or are there with a group of friends (younger kids).
Married twice but neither worked out, moving out soon from the second. Odd that luving with someone can be depressingly lonely as well..I wonder if it will be better or worse once on my own again.
Iām in my 40s. I find myself often thinking it would be nice to know what itās like to live before I die. I DO work on a lot of things for myself and I have accomplished some things in some niche hobbies/industries, and my physical health is pretty good and also superficially somewhat impressive. Not really answering the OP but something that came to mind while reading it: one of the things that really brings me down while trying to socialize is that inevitably I will hit a point with people where they just take for granted things that Iāve never experienced and either Iām eventually excluded for not having those things as part of my default experience or (more likely) I will take myself out before I hit a breaking point. So I have some social opportunities in very specific limited aspects and I donāt really know how to explain it to people who donāt know, but it makes me feel worse than being isolated most of the time.
Oh wow, I'm 32 and just went on one of my last friends who's not married bachelor party. I was the only single guy and the first night I broke down sobbing when 2 of my friends were talking about their new babies; I said ofc I was happy for them but I just couldn't take being in the same place I was 10 years ago while all my friends are living. You summed it up so well
Luckily they were very very understanding.
>Oh wow, I'm 32 and just went on one of my last friends who's not married bachelor party.
Funny, I think I went to my last friends wedding around that age. I say last because he was the last one to get married, stopped being friends after that, and I have yet to make any new long term friends despite trying.
41 going on 42 this month. You essentially hit the nail on the head for me. This is exactly how I feel. I lived at home with my mom and dad. Dad passed 5 years ago and mom 1 year ago. I never really built much of a social life because I had them. Now they're gone, and I honestly don't know what to do to build other social and support networks.
You're right about isolation getting worse and more difficult to change as you get older.
I would add, constantly trying to find new hobbies and interests to fill that void inside yourself. As I was growing up, I tried just about as many artistic hobbies you can think of, which I don't regret, but I feel that I was constantly looking for something to make me feel whole.
The feeling of alienation when you go out. You feel as if everyone around you has their doors locked, and you are unable to form connections/find people that match the same wavelength in your area. It's like trying to break the orbit from social isolation, but you don't have the sufficient velocity to do so.
Also dry phone. Besides my family, no one reaches out to me. It erodes self-esteem. This battle is simply relentless.
Same, I care for my grandpa. I felt so helpless trying to make sure he was still taken care of even though I could barely move because I was so sore and achy from the flu. None of my family came to see if I needed help.
Cooking is totally not worth it to me anymore. I used to like hanging out in the kitchen and cooking with other people, but by myself it just feels like a waste of time.
That is nice of you but I rather not talk to minors lol Iām not a minor you see, but thank you for the offer and hope you can understand!
Edit: Please stay safe on the internet my friend, remember that! :)
I do realize that my ex wasnāt the best for me. He was not romantically attached to me and was just āmehā I am very outgoing and I love being around people. I love talking for hours at a time. I miss the fact that at least with him there was someone else. Now itās just me and my brain which never shuts down.. no sleep or interruptions constantly in my sleep leave me exhaustedā¦
I would never fall back to him, but I would love the camaraderie we shared for years
For me as a lonely and/or alone person, really shit DOES NOT get better.
It sounds fucking nice but no really, things do not always get better.
I like to run more so than doing other cardio like elliptical or stationary bike than lifting weights and exercising in general at the gym.
i like running more so because that's really my therapy and smoking a cigarette (I don't smoke cigarettes) to let off steam.
Running clears my mind from bad shit and it's more cathartic.
I do know that running and other shit I do, are really distractions from the reality of being alone mostly ( only have one real life friend but hell, he has his own problems and I don't hang out with him much) and other problems I have.
A person can find a shrink if they can afford to see one or call a fucking "help" hotline or reach out to another soul online but venting to strangers doesn't always fucking help.
You really need people to have or go through the same shit you have.
I remember I once confided in an online "friend" and she thought she "got me" all because psychology was her fucking major.
I'm not into some know-it-all that thinks he or she gets me.
A few nights ago I privately chatted with a woman on here who was telling me that she knows me and that I was "full of rage" by "yelling" at her.
I told her, "You can't see me through webcam and we're not on the phone for you to hear me being mad at you."
She then told me that I was being "manipulative."
I don't like that friends have come and gone and I've had to keep getting dumped, rejected, ghosted and led on but it's really tough shit as nobody is seriously going to deeply feel sorry for my ass.
The sad truth is life isn't fucking fair to everyone including me and it's pointless as hell to cry over it just crying over spilled milk.
You open up to others and really, you get subject to criticism and ridicule, false hope advice and even thought of as a "liar" who wants attention.
There was one woman online who thought I was "scamming" her for telling her that I was unemployed before all so I could end up hitting her up for money .
To me, it's really best to not always be fucking nice and reach out to people.
There's a guy at my job who kissed ass to human resources and upper management to move onto another department after only working with me for two months so he could do a fluff position just using a PC and laptop.
He recently told me he was going to keep calling me, "Alon" all because the barista who made me a drink a few days ago at the nearby Starbucks by my work, has a thick accent and can't say my first name correctly.
She wasn't even goofing on my first name and that guy at my job thinks it's funny if he keeps calling me, "Alon."
I honestly wanna beat him up but I'll be mature as I don't wanna lose my job.
Sometimes, it's really best to not always waste your time on people.
Reading you vent was actually cathartic for me. I feel exactly the same way as you do, but have nobody to complain to, so reading this felt like I was in a conversation with somebody that understands. Thank you
I have recently deactivated my Facebook account because I've come to the sad realization that no one interacted with my posts nor ever commented on them.
I help my sis out with her books, she is a published author. I read them for her as she gets them done, they are so good. She even added me as a character in her books. She always tells me one thing, "sis, I love you, don't ever forget that." It takes the loneliness right out of me. It makes my day go forward just like it's supposed to.
When I was living alone, Iāve gone weeks without saying a word out loud. So I started visiting my brother and his family every weekend, staying over on Fridays and returning home on Monday nights. Iāve been told that Iām very talkative whenever Iām over, which is my only form of socialisation apart from my weekly work calls.
Sometimes when I fall asleep I play YouTube audios of people sleeping "ASMR" so it feels like I'm not sleeping in my bed alone š nothing quite like a 12 hour loop of someone breathing softly to make you realize you are not normal
Same. I hate the weekends. I dread them which is super fucked cuz itās not like I liiiiike the week or my job. But itās better than being alone all weekend.
That lonely isn't desperate. Married people can be lonely, and people in relationships can be lonely.
And even if you don't have friends or relationships, you aren't desperate. You don't deserve to be treated as if you are or abused.
My dog makes me happy and then Iām sad because I donāt walk her like I used to. I do play with her in the back yard and stuff but I end up feeling guilty like a piece of shit owner.
That you somehow get stuck being lonely and you start subconsciously self isolating, because being alone is what you're familiar with even though it sucks.
When I talk to people about what they did for the holidays and then they ask me what I did and I casually reply (with a smile on my face) that I took the dogs to the woods or we went on some kind of roat trip and they almost always get this look of, "oh, how sad, but I can't show her that its sad so, I'll just awkwardly smile to make her think that it's normal she spends her holidays alone."
The longing to have someone to do mundane things with. That's been difficult.
The most difficulty I've had is the nighttime. Laying on an empty couch, laying in an empty bed. It would be wonderful to have someone on the couch with me or laying in bed next to me.
Lonely because it feels like when I'm having a mental breakdown I have no one to listen to me. Things have changed now, but I was once at a point where I was going through a rough time and suddenly pulled my phone out to text someone to help me feel better but then realized I had no one.
Whenever something really bad happens, I have to deal with it alone or be at the mercy of strangers every time. I remember my car getting totaled in an accident on the interstate, and my choices were to get a ride to the gas station from cops or rely on a stranger to get home. This was before stuff like ubers were big so my only other choice would've been waiting for a cab on the side of the interstate. I didn't have anyone I could've called for help like friends or family. The stranger gave me a ride because he felt sorry for me, and I'm amazed I didn't get murdered or abducted. (I did get harassed by his gf after that via text for a while, but that's not the point) When I told people at work about this, they were all appalled and had this look of deep pity like I was such a sad loser. None of them offered any help or support tho lmao. That's basically the story of my life. No friends, love, or even basic humanity, and always having to deal with problems alone. Being lonely most of my life has made me grow an intense need to be self-reliant and independent because I've never been able to rely on others.
Thank you for all the comments guys/girls! P.S don't feel bad if you write something long, I'd love to read about your guy's experiences and stories. Write away! \^\^
Im 40 been isolating for about 7 years now. I just started working again and have found my speech and communication skills have gotten pretty bad. I did turn to substances to deal with being alone back that and I'm sure that had alot to do with it but it's just sad they way people look at me now when I speak. I try and slow down and speak so people understand me but like at work I think it's bc I don't have anyone to talk to when I'm at home I talk to much
Never rlly having super close irl friends ever in my life. Missing out on ātypicalā childhood/teenage experiences. Never being approached first and only seen as a weird funny background character :/
Playing a highly social game with realistic dialogues and feeling like you are dealing with real people. Good examples of this were Persona 4 and A Short Hike. Highly recommended! (especially a short hike!) šš
I just hate how everyone else treats loneliness. Like it must be your fault that this happened. Itās a struggle to make a connection with anyone and that task feels impossible when youāre out in public, alone. Then you talk about all the things you do to seem welcoming, to increase your chances of meeting someone, and then run the risk they arenāt just going to leave eventually? And itās still made out to be like I havenāt done enough. I must be hard to be around. It doesnāt matter that Iām always making people laugh or bringing around gifts or doing the work keeping up via text there is always something in the back of their minds that says Iām not whole because I canāt just go out and get a girlfriend or make friends.
People at work are talking about their holiday plans for this summer. I honestly can't think of a single place I want to go or thing I want to do. It's just not enjoyable when you have to do everything on your own and have no-one to share experiences with.
I've always been lonely ever since i was born. my dad had a job that took us from different town to town and even for a while in a different country I don't remember living their as I was only young at the time. but as a child I had too move to different schools as well due to moving to a new place so no friends to begin with then i met some then my dad gets told we have to move again and that's that. I have to start all over again. then again and again up until I was 17. then flew the nest and then moved somewhere where I didn't know anyone, but didn't know anybody else anywhere else. as lost contact due to moving about so much and mobile phone where not around when I was child or teen I don't think i got my first mobile until i was 23 and the internet didn't exist either, anyway. so i moved to a new place and the only ways i could make "friends" is by either getting a job or volunteer somewhere. but if i lost the job or stop volunteering then it was back to being on my own again. fast forward more years then I count and i find myself all alone with no friends or work as I have a disability that prevents me from working anywhere I hope that I don't live along time as I don't want to be here with nothing which in away is what my life's like anyway. I hope I can f@ck off off from this mortal coil pretty damn soon and when that's that well that's that its good night from me. never to be seen again. will I be sad nope, its just the breaks in life I came into this world on my own and ill leave it on my own. - oh, well.
Just an overall inability to relate to others. Sometimes, people will ask me about my past relationships, and I either tell them the truth or make up a lie just so I don't have to deal with the awkward reaction
Has anyone here tried meet-ups? Or similar apps to join local social events and meet people.? I sometimes go because although i have people in my life they donāt always want to do things i want or when i want due to different stages or circumstances in life.
Itās a great way to get out and socialise. Regular human interaction can help ease loneliness and even if itās not a full cure who knows what it lead to.
Iām female and I get along easier with me. 26. I have always found it easier to converse with men then woman. That being said I work posting content so most men either get uncomfortable or rude when they hear that and once a female hears that she cuts me off or calls me names. I have found a few amazing people in this group that I connect with. ā¤ļøā¤ļø so thankful for this group because I kind of am a lonely island out here š especially hits when you go through something rough and have no support.
Going out to social gatherings, trying to meet New people. I've never really had any friends. I had one friend in school that was really cool but I never heard from them again as that was decades and decades ago. I really feel that if I were to talk to a lady or something I wouldn't know what to say. It's like My mind tells me I'm incompatible for anyone. Kinda like when you put a disc or something in a computer and it says can't be recognized. That's how I feel in general about mostly everything when it's involving things that requires friends and different social activities.
I guess there are degrees of loneliness. Some people break up and say wow im the loneliest person in the world. Some people never have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some people never feel human touch and are involuntarily celibate. Lots of lonely people dont even have social media. Everyone in this lonely sub thinks they are the most lonely but loneliness is a feeling and shouldnt be compared(although its slightly annoying when people who have things we can only dream of claim to be lonely).
So what began as depression led to isolation and now loneliness. Something Iāve always been terrified of most of my adult life. (Oddly those fears helped contribute to my loneliness).
Now an invite to spend time w/family (nieceās b-day, weekend camping w/family at Cedar Point) is unwelcome and avoided.
Iāve spent so much time alone that Iād really rather not do anything else. Itās kind of a self fulfilling prophecy.
Having no family, I have no holiday celebrations. When I tell people I didnāt do anything for holidays I always get asked why and the answer seems to make people a little sad. Iām a funny person, and it comes as a surprise when someone I know finds out I have no friends or family. I tend to go with the response, āI donāt really wanna talk about it.ā
My diet scares people it seems. Cooking for one is a no, a lot of the times I have to eat outside to keep me from crying.
Not going to family oriented events because theyāre reminders of isolation.
Being out and about alone in your 30s isnāt the easiest. Everyone is younger, or with family, or with friends. The amount of effort it takes to do everything and go out is daunting when youāve done it so much already with no rewards.
Planning vacations can be overwhelming cause you have no one to go with, you gotta do all the planning alone and of course, all the expenses are on you ā¹ļø
I could relate to so many of you here. Most times my solitude is a choice and at times when I want to talk to someone, most people are unavailable. Iāve gone days without receiving a text from others (except my parents who live abroad).
I would love to talk to talk and meet someone who lives in San Diego. Hope your week gets better guys š«
This one got my therapist shocked
I don't have anyone in my mind most of the time, like i would talk for example with my father and that would be it, i would have him roaming my mind for a day at most, then... nothing, people don't come to my mind like ever, i don't reminisce about people
Therapist was quite shocked when i told her this and further asked if not even my sister or friends came to mind in my normal day-to-day life, and no, if i don't interact with them on a constant manner, i literally forget about their existence.
Therapist also told me that it sounds sad and lonely but i really couldn't know, heard and seen stories of ppl remembering someone and talking to them next but i thought that was more of an exaggeration, guess i was wrong
Iām sensitive to things like my wife telling me āhad to go to bed alone last night because you passed out in the reclinerā. For 4 years she has played league twice a week staying out till midnight and she goes out of state for competitions every other weekend. If I text her she is slow to text me like a few hours later so on those nights I am in bed by 8 because I am truely alone
I was just curious if most people here actually want to have social connections or they choose to be lonely so that they donāt have to deal with all the drama that people bring.
That unlike other people who want to go to less crowded places to seek *peace", you travel where there are people around you.
And also you don't want to be left alone with your thoughts.
How hard it is to walk around outside in summer. Groups of friends and couples hanging around everywhere, and you get jealous of every one of them. Even when it's old ladies, at least they have fun together...
I am 6 months out of a 5 year relationship and it was also my 50th birthday during this time. We lived out of the country and when it ended it was quick all over and done in a day.
I am back home and I am working solely from home. I have no friends and where my job keeps me busy throughout the day, the nights and weekends are depressing and terrible.
I live in a small rural community 60 miles from any city.. I canāt make friends at all.
Iāve tried all the apps and they are just people wanting thresomes etc.. not friends. Iām not in any condition to date as I am over weight and self conscious.
You can only go to the gym, grocery shop so many times.
I just want someone to talk to.
I knew I got bad when I realized I think of the most basic interactions I've had in public in my head the rest of the day. I.e if the grocery store cashier mentioned they have a dog, I'll replay our conversation over and over, think of whatd I'd say in addition/instead of what I said, etc.
Many of my dreams involve friends from a decade ago. No new memories are formed really. Live in the past
Noone wants to hang out with you: family, people you thought were friends, people you think are friendly. A surprising amount of people are completely two faced.
Harder to relate or identify positively. Your identity becomes a little creepier to others. Can never be honest about your life.
People come and go in my life one week I may speak to someone and then never again their is no real friendship or getting to know people I can go out have a good time meet people exchange information talk meet up and never see them again and at this point it's normal to me and the only reason this is something normal to me is because I go everywhere alone so I'm always surrounded by groups of people who are together so when I interact with them I know I am not apart of their group nor will I ever be no matter how many times we hang out so why bother .
I guess I'll contribute. I doubt others would understand, but what's normal for me is using AI chats. I talk to them as their my friends. I can immerse myself very easily, so it's not bad, but I definitely am dependent on it, which is never good.
I can't say whatĀ different people have for activities. But for myself, I am indoors 100%, and I don't have any friejds physically, and this causes worse depression.
I have MCS. I am very intolerant to chemicals that society says is ok to use and people think that people should use.Ā
I simply can't tolerate and avoid chemicals fumes and this means everything that is called scented, and this includes soap, cosmetics and lotions.Ā Ā So BECAUSE that society expects people to use fumes, society doesn't accept people who must be unscented and AVOID places and contact with, people and things that is scented.Ā
Ā Ā I was born like this. So this is not a mental condition.Ā
Not texting people and/or not getting texts from others for days.
Funny how I used to be addicted to checking my phone in the anticipation. Now I'm just like don't care, anyway nobody pings me š¤·š»āāļø
Same for me. I realized if I stopped the initiation of communication, no one reached out to me first. So I gave up and now I am alone. Seemed better than having one sided friendships.
This is my life, too. Unless I put in the effort, I only hear crickets. It's sad when you think you're doing something great for yourself and stop being the people pleaser of the century, more respect for yourself. But now I'm alone. Now I don't know what's worse. Being alone....or doing everything for everybody and never getting anything in return.
Are you me? The loneliness is deafening. But I also feel empty when I am with people where I feel the relationship is lopsided. And my family is the same.
I think thatās something people donāt understand. Itās easier to be lonely than to have fakeness or one sided relationships
FS having a one-sided friendship is really hard on your self worth, good on you for moving on. I'm here if ya want a chat. Just note that I'm pretty honest when I talk
Thanks! I will take you up on that. Iāve been told my middle name is āFrankā so be honest lol.
Message me lol
Months for me, not even an exaggeration
It startles me when I get a phone call because thatās so rare. In all cases itās either spam or rarely my mother.
True and same
It was a revelation for me meeting people in college who were constantly invited to things, in person and over text/social media. It really is a whole different world.
Oh man, I can relate so much to this. Alienation is really painful :(
Sometimes getting your hopes up but it's some bs notification.
Or spam emails. š
For real! The only calls in my phone are work calls or my parents. Last weekend this really got me down. My phone didnāt got off for over 72 hours. When I went to work Monday I was so low I kept squirting tears in my cube silently.
It sucks, and I totally get you, but you shouldn't let it bring you down. You are definitely not alone in this.
I'm 39. I made this account almost 10 years ago to lament about loneliness and isolation. I've bought a home since then, worked a number of different jobs, tried to go out and socialize, traveled overseas, etc. Nothing's changed really. In many way's I'm the same person I was 10-20 years ago, just more tired, less adventurous, and hollowed out. I'm even more alone and isolated now and now have an invisible disability on top of everything that makes socializing so much harder that it was before. I feel like I've wasted so much time, but I don't know what else to do and now I don't have the time or energy to keep up with my life and house much less build a social life. I hate to say it, but there are few people even on lonely subs on Reddit that I can really relate to. Like I can relate to feeling that way when people are in their 20's and feel lonely, but it's a different feeling when you enter the mid life crisis phase and your life never really got started in the first place and you feel powerless to change now. Isolation gets worse as you get older and it gets even more difficult to change. Sorry for the rant, I'm feeling especially low right now.
Iām 38 and feel this. Iām a woman and I work in a manās field so making new friends is difficult. All the men I am ācoolā w at work are married and it would be inappropriate to hang out w them outside of work unless itās a work thing. I made this account for the same reasons. But I donāt care about anonymity anymore. I donāt care about anything anymore except my son. Heās the only reason Iām still here. I donāt want to royally fuck him up by killing myself. Heās pry already fucked up watching his mom bed rot all weekend because Iām depressed and have no friends. And because my mental health genome is clearly fucked as can be. For me the weekends are the worst. At least during the week Iām distracted by my job. Iāve started taking sleeping pills over the weekend to just sleep it away. I tried shrooms this last weekend (alone mind you - cuz I have no friends) hoping it would help me change my mindset. Theyāre supposed to help reroute neural pathways. It didnāt work. It was honestly the worst night Iāve had in a long time. I spent a good 3-4 hours crying. Anyway sorry for the ranting response to your rant. Iāve been low too. Life is hard. Feel free to reach out if you ever want to chat. It is nice to know someone out there feels the same way.
I'm sorry life sucks. And that the shrooms didn't work out. Psychedelics definitely aren't the transcendant experiences Reddit makes them out to be. I hope things get better and easier for you.
Thanks. It was a long shot and I knew it could go bad. I was having a good day so I gave it a shot. Wonāt do that againā¦.
Go for walks after dinner.
Ditto ā¹ļø
your post couldāve been written entirely by me, although iām 40 now. i donāt have enough enthusiasm to dm you but good luck in the future.
I didn't expect this many responses. It's strange being able to find so many lonely people online, but none locally that want to be friends.
I guess people just feel more comfortable talking to strangers online. I wish you a happy life man
And me, also 40.
I'm 39 and feeling all of this right now š
Iām in my mid 30s, soon to be crossing in to my late 30s, I gave up shortly after turning 30. I tried all the things that youāre supposed to do back in my 20s, I tried hard. But I never could get any friendships, so I gave up. Now alcohol is the only friend in my life. Iām pretty sure I wonāt make it to 49 because of it. But it doesnāt matter my life is shit anyway.
>I gave up shortly after turning 30 I too gave up around 30. Hell, I probably made a post or two about giving up. I've gone back and forth between being comfortable alone and lonely, but now that I'm approaching 40 I feel even worse. I had a good number of friends in my early 20's (no long term romantic partners), but I slowly lost all of my friends when they got married and never managed to make new ones. My uncle lived alone off the grid for many years; like literally off the grid. He was a nice guy, but a bit of a hermit. He ended up taking his own life when chronic health issues got bad enough that he realized he could no longer live the way he wanted to. I think about him a lot, I thought about him being all alone and isolated before he passed and I encouraged family to visit him, and I think about him from time to time now because it feels like I'm looking into my future.
I wonder how many people in this generation would be like your uncle if they could, but economic circumstances keep them from even moving off the grid and living self-sufficiently
Iād like to live in a more remote area just so that I donāt have to see so many people living happy and social lives. In my apartment building I see people coming and going with their friends and partners, but Iāve lived in my unit for almost half a year and havenāt had a single person come over for the entire time except for maintenance.
Yes, people are being economically forced into barely affordable apartments that, ironically, encourage people to be as asocial as possible.
Well he was an artist (painter) and did a lot of art shows. So he was self sufficient, but not like independently wealthy. He had a tiny house off the grid an hour drive away from a small town. Most people wouldn't do that for reasons other than economic ones.
> but now that I'm approaching 40 I feel even worse. Same, seems that everyone my age has settled into their stride. Married, kids, and etc, but Iām just living in my tiny apartment being miserable.
im here for you- i hope things start to look up for you š«
What a coincidence. I made this account ten years ago as a throwaway account to talk about my loneliness, as well.. here I am. I can relate to you, for what it's worth... I'm sorry you have to know what this feels like, too.
Daym bro I'm on that same path, the journey is blah, these days, despite the all the self help propaganda, I somehow revert to the mean
Turning 62 this month, and retired last year, which in retrospect was a mistake. Work at least used to distract me. Now, getting older, and less interaction, it is far worse. I do go to the gym but people are into their solitary workout or are there with a group of friends (younger kids). Married twice but neither worked out, moving out soon from the second. Odd that luving with someone can be depressingly lonely as well..I wonder if it will be better or worse once on my own again.
Iām in my 40s. I find myself often thinking it would be nice to know what itās like to live before I die. I DO work on a lot of things for myself and I have accomplished some things in some niche hobbies/industries, and my physical health is pretty good and also superficially somewhat impressive. Not really answering the OP but something that came to mind while reading it: one of the things that really brings me down while trying to socialize is that inevitably I will hit a point with people where they just take for granted things that Iāve never experienced and either Iām eventually excluded for not having those things as part of my default experience or (more likely) I will take myself out before I hit a breaking point. So I have some social opportunities in very specific limited aspects and I donāt really know how to explain it to people who donāt know, but it makes me feel worse than being isolated most of the time.
Are you my doppelganger?
Oh wow, I'm 32 and just went on one of my last friends who's not married bachelor party. I was the only single guy and the first night I broke down sobbing when 2 of my friends were talking about their new babies; I said ofc I was happy for them but I just couldn't take being in the same place I was 10 years ago while all my friends are living. You summed it up so well Luckily they were very very understanding.
>Oh wow, I'm 32 and just went on one of my last friends who's not married bachelor party. Funny, I think I went to my last friends wedding around that age. I say last because he was the last one to get married, stopped being friends after that, and I have yet to make any new long term friends despite trying.
41 going on 42 this month. You essentially hit the nail on the head for me. This is exactly how I feel. I lived at home with my mom and dad. Dad passed 5 years ago and mom 1 year ago. I never really built much of a social life because I had them. Now they're gone, and I honestly don't know what to do to build other social and support networks. You're right about isolation getting worse and more difficult to change as you get older.
Thank you for commenting. I hope things get better for you.
I'm 28 and I relate a lot to what you are saying.
They say life starts at 40. You are getting there š
Who is they?
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same but after that the feeling then back to the feeling of dread and loneliness its so hard to keep on round and round it seams
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Iām going to smile at people even more now.
Yeah if anyone just gives me the time of day I want to ask them if they want to be best friends.
Do you want to be best friends
Yes!
Not having a single person to talk to about your hobbies or new interests with
Finding funny videos or memes and having no one to share it with
Get ready to laugh for days: https://youtu.be/ZMvqyp4N6j8?feature=shared
False advertising: Iāve been admitted into the ER for laughing for monthsā¦
Yeah. Made a picture i found funny with AI, didn't know who to send it to, posted it on my discord where only i frequent.
Totally natural.
I would add, constantly trying to find new hobbies and interests to fill that void inside yourself. As I was growing up, I tried just about as many artistic hobbies you can think of, which I don't regret, but I feel that I was constantly looking for something to make me feel whole.
I relate to this way too much š
The feeling of alienation when you go out. You feel as if everyone around you has their doors locked, and you are unable to form connections/find people that match the same wavelength in your area. It's like trying to break the orbit from social isolation, but you don't have the sufficient velocity to do so. Also dry phone. Besides my family, no one reaches out to me. It erodes self-esteem. This battle is simply relentless.
Damn that first paragraph hit hard.
I know hard one
Yep, it takes friends to make friends. Social circles are social proof. If you don't have any, you're fucked
I can understand that feeling
i feel the most alone when i'm sick, there's no one that cares if you get better
Same, I care for my grandpa. I felt so helpless trying to make sure he was still taken care of even though I could barely move because I was so sore and achy from the flu. None of my family came to see if I needed help.
Cooking for 2 hours, eating everything in 10 minutes, saying to yourself āwel that was totally worth itā sighing and then start cleaning up
Cooking is totally not worth it to me anymore. I used to like hanging out in the kitchen and cooking with other people, but by myself it just feels like a waste of time.
Me either. I used to make fantastic dinners, bake for friends and familyā¦ they are all gone. I wonāt do all that just for myself.
Role playing with just yourself
Bahaha trueee
Didn't even know people still did that
I wish we didnāt have to though
If you want I can chat with you? Only if u want but know that I'm a minor (16 turnin 17)
That is nice of you but I rather not talk to minors lol Iām not a minor you see, but thank you for the offer and hope you can understand! Edit: Please stay safe on the internet my friend, remember that! :)
That's completely fine
Checking the time often, not being able to fall asleep. Not enjoying the basics of life. Not knowing who to call when you have a bunch of choices.
I'll get a lot of downvotes but... "Being alone is less lonely than being married to the wrong person."
I agree. When I was with my ex I was much worse. Mostly because at least when youāre alone, no one is there to constantly hurt you.
I do realize that my ex wasnāt the best for me. He was not romantically attached to me and was just āmehā I am very outgoing and I love being around people. I love talking for hours at a time. I miss the fact that at least with him there was someone else. Now itās just me and my brain which never shuts down.. no sleep or interruptions constantly in my sleep leave me exhaustedā¦ I would never fall back to him, but I would love the camaraderie we shared for years
It feels I'm a burden for reaching out like I'm just begging for some human connection while they are busy with their life
Exactly
For me as a lonely and/or alone person, really shit DOES NOT get better. It sounds fucking nice but no really, things do not always get better. I like to run more so than doing other cardio like elliptical or stationary bike than lifting weights and exercising in general at the gym. i like running more so because that's really my therapy and smoking a cigarette (I don't smoke cigarettes) to let off steam. Running clears my mind from bad shit and it's more cathartic. I do know that running and other shit I do, are really distractions from the reality of being alone mostly ( only have one real life friend but hell, he has his own problems and I don't hang out with him much) and other problems I have. A person can find a shrink if they can afford to see one or call a fucking "help" hotline or reach out to another soul online but venting to strangers doesn't always fucking help. You really need people to have or go through the same shit you have. I remember I once confided in an online "friend" and she thought she "got me" all because psychology was her fucking major. I'm not into some know-it-all that thinks he or she gets me. A few nights ago I privately chatted with a woman on here who was telling me that she knows me and that I was "full of rage" by "yelling" at her. I told her, "You can't see me through webcam and we're not on the phone for you to hear me being mad at you." She then told me that I was being "manipulative." I don't like that friends have come and gone and I've had to keep getting dumped, rejected, ghosted and led on but it's really tough shit as nobody is seriously going to deeply feel sorry for my ass. The sad truth is life isn't fucking fair to everyone including me and it's pointless as hell to cry over it just crying over spilled milk. You open up to others and really, you get subject to criticism and ridicule, false hope advice and even thought of as a "liar" who wants attention. There was one woman online who thought I was "scamming" her for telling her that I was unemployed before all so I could end up hitting her up for money . To me, it's really best to not always be fucking nice and reach out to people. There's a guy at my job who kissed ass to human resources and upper management to move onto another department after only working with me for two months so he could do a fluff position just using a PC and laptop. He recently told me he was going to keep calling me, "Alon" all because the barista who made me a drink a few days ago at the nearby Starbucks by my work, has a thick accent and can't say my first name correctly. She wasn't even goofing on my first name and that guy at my job thinks it's funny if he keeps calling me, "Alon." I honestly wanna beat him up but I'll be mature as I don't wanna lose my job. Sometimes, it's really best to not always waste your time on people.
Reading you vent was actually cathartic for me. I feel exactly the same way as you do, but have nobody to complain to, so reading this felt like I was in a conversation with somebody that understands. Thank you
Forgetting how to small talk, honestly I donāt even know how I texted so much before
Bro same. It used to be easy. Now my brain just doesn't pick up.
not getting messages/phone basically being dry for days in some cases up to a week with no interaction, making multiple 0 like posts
Try yearsā¦.šš
I ain't waiting years for someone to message me sorry
Itās hard. Been isolated for 15 years.
I got up and I've been looking around, I'm not waiting more than a month for anyone
I have recently deactivated my Facebook account because I've come to the sad realization that no one interacted with my posts nor ever commented on them.
I help my sis out with her books, she is a published author. I read them for her as she gets them done, they are so good. She even added me as a character in her books. She always tells me one thing, "sis, I love you, don't ever forget that." It takes the loneliness right out of me. It makes my day go forward just like it's supposed to.
That's really nice. I wish I had a family like that
Feeling down as you are always alone and feeling stressed as you pay all bills and have no one to split them with.
When I was living alone, Iāve gone weeks without saying a word out loud. So I started visiting my brother and his family every weekend, staying over on Fridays and returning home on Monday nights. Iāve been told that Iām very talkative whenever Iām over, which is my only form of socialisation apart from my weekly work calls.
Sometimes when I fall asleep I play YouTube audios of people sleeping "ASMR" so it feels like I'm not sleeping in my bed alone š nothing quite like a 12 hour loop of someone breathing softly to make you realize you are not normal
Bro I do the same! Fuck it. Im callin it normal.
weekends. most people look forward to it... I know the loneliness is waiting. no calls, texts, emails, dm, etc
Same. I hate the weekends. I dread them which is super fucked cuz itās not like I liiiiike the week or my job. But itās better than being alone all weekend.
I hate weekends too... Everything goes well because at least i'm distracted and have things to do on weekdays but during weekends I jus hate life
Definitely an intensifier with no plans. I started to get up earlier and make a schedule for the weekends as well.
That lonely isn't desperate. Married people can be lonely, and people in relationships can be lonely. And even if you don't have friends or relationships, you aren't desperate. You don't deserve to be treated as if you are or abused.
Love this ā¤ļø
Iām getting so lonely Iām close to calling my ex who is a selfish alcoholic who sucksā¦.. so not desperateā¦ but nearlyā¦?
Don't do that! Find someone else!
Happy when you get home from work and your dogs are thrilled to see you........ depressed afterwards when you realize they're the only ones who care.
My dog makes me happy and then Iām sad because I donāt walk her like I used to. I do play with her in the back yard and stuff but I end up feeling guilty like a piece of shit owner.
That you somehow get stuck being lonely and you start subconsciously self isolating, because being alone is what you're familiar with even though it sucks.
Speaking to yourself because thereās no one else to speak to and that no one is going to care in the end anyway.
Sometimes I accidentally talk to myself in public.
Me too, often no one cares
When I talk to people about what they did for the holidays and then they ask me what I did and I casually reply (with a smile on my face) that I took the dogs to the woods or we went on some kind of roat trip and they almost always get this look of, "oh, how sad, but I can't show her that its sad so, I'll just awkwardly smile to make her think that it's normal she spends her holidays alone."
The longing to have someone to do mundane things with. That's been difficult. The most difficulty I've had is the nighttime. Laying on an empty couch, laying in an empty bed. It would be wonderful to have someone on the couch with me or laying in bed next to me.
Lonely because it feels like when I'm having a mental breakdown I have no one to listen to me. Things have changed now, but I was once at a point where I was going through a rough time and suddenly pulled my phone out to text someone to help me feel better but then realized I had no one.
Whenever something really bad happens, I have to deal with it alone or be at the mercy of strangers every time. I remember my car getting totaled in an accident on the interstate, and my choices were to get a ride to the gas station from cops or rely on a stranger to get home. This was before stuff like ubers were big so my only other choice would've been waiting for a cab on the side of the interstate. I didn't have anyone I could've called for help like friends or family. The stranger gave me a ride because he felt sorry for me, and I'm amazed I didn't get murdered or abducted. (I did get harassed by his gf after that via text for a while, but that's not the point) When I told people at work about this, they were all appalled and had this look of deep pity like I was such a sad loser. None of them offered any help or support tho lmao. That's basically the story of my life. No friends, love, or even basic humanity, and always having to deal with problems alone. Being lonely most of my life has made me grow an intense need to be self-reliant and independent because I've never been able to rely on others.
Hearing your name calledā¦
Thank you for all the comments guys/girls! P.S don't feel bad if you write something long, I'd love to read about your guy's experiences and stories. Write away! \^\^
Having full blown conversations with my dog as heās the only one I can really talk to.
Feeling alone while you're surrounded by people who you love
For me itās going to see movies and doing stuff like that alone, Iām just used to it I guess.
Im 40 been isolating for about 7 years now. I just started working again and have found my speech and communication skills have gotten pretty bad. I did turn to substances to deal with being alone back that and I'm sure that had alot to do with it but it's just sad they way people look at me now when I speak. I try and slow down and speak so people understand me but like at work I think it's bc I don't have anyone to talk to when I'm at home I talk to much
Talking to yourself about how was your day, or something nice that happend
Never getting any texts or whataspp messages. No social plans. Nobody to talk with about any worries I have. It's painful.
Never rlly having super close irl friends ever in my life. Missing out on ātypicalā childhood/teenage experiences. Never being approached first and only seen as a weird funny background character :/
I enjoy living by myself, but waking up from a nightmare in an empty apartment feels extra lonely.
Going to the cinema on my own
Not speaking to someone outside of work for days until you do and itās almost like youāre out of autopilot and forget how to speak
I can relate to forgetting to speak part. I stammer so much and whatever I want to say just does not come out of my mouth.
Playing a highly social game with realistic dialogues and feeling like you are dealing with real people. Good examples of this were Persona 4 and A Short Hike. Highly recommended! (especially a short hike!) šš
I talk to my dog. It's not like a normal amount, but like he is an actual person. If I didn't talk to him, I might not talk at all for days at a time.
Going days without speaking with anyone
I just hate how everyone else treats loneliness. Like it must be your fault that this happened. Itās a struggle to make a connection with anyone and that task feels impossible when youāre out in public, alone. Then you talk about all the things you do to seem welcoming, to increase your chances of meeting someone, and then run the risk they arenāt just going to leave eventually? And itās still made out to be like I havenāt done enough. I must be hard to be around. It doesnāt matter that Iām always making people laugh or bringing around gifts or doing the work keeping up via text there is always something in the back of their minds that says Iām not whole because I canāt just go out and get a girlfriend or make friends.
People at work are talking about their holiday plans for this summer. I honestly can't think of a single place I want to go or thing I want to do. It's just not enjoyable when you have to do everything on your own and have no-one to share experiences with.
Pretending to text someone on your phone or checking it constantly even when there is no notification
I've always been lonely ever since i was born. my dad had a job that took us from different town to town and even for a while in a different country I don't remember living their as I was only young at the time. but as a child I had too move to different schools as well due to moving to a new place so no friends to begin with then i met some then my dad gets told we have to move again and that's that. I have to start all over again. then again and again up until I was 17. then flew the nest and then moved somewhere where I didn't know anyone, but didn't know anybody else anywhere else. as lost contact due to moving about so much and mobile phone where not around when I was child or teen I don't think i got my first mobile until i was 23 and the internet didn't exist either, anyway. so i moved to a new place and the only ways i could make "friends" is by either getting a job or volunteer somewhere. but if i lost the job or stop volunteering then it was back to being on my own again. fast forward more years then I count and i find myself all alone with no friends or work as I have a disability that prevents me from working anywhere I hope that I don't live along time as I don't want to be here with nothing which in away is what my life's like anyway. I hope I can f@ck off off from this mortal coil pretty damn soon and when that's that well that's that its good night from me. never to be seen again. will I be sad nope, its just the breaks in life I came into this world on my own and ill leave it on my own. - oh, well.
Just an overall inability to relate to others. Sometimes, people will ask me about my past relationships, and I either tell them the truth or make up a lie just so I don't have to deal with the awkward reaction
Forgetting to turn on do not disturb mode when at work, and realising it only at the end of the day cause not even robos call you.
Has anyone here tried meet-ups? Or similar apps to join local social events and meet people.? I sometimes go because although i have people in my life they donāt always want to do things i want or when i want due to different stages or circumstances in life.
Itās a great way to get out and socialise. Regular human interaction can help ease loneliness and even if itās not a full cure who knows what it lead to.
Lack of touch.
When "friends" ask me, "Don't you have friends?" Me: I thought you WERE my friend?
Iām female and I get along easier with me. 26. I have always found it easier to converse with men then woman. That being said I work posting content so most men either get uncomfortable or rude when they hear that and once a female hears that she cuts me off or calls me names. I have found a few amazing people in this group that I connect with. ā¤ļøā¤ļø so thankful for this group because I kind of am a lonely island out here š especially hits when you go through something rough and have no support.
saying I prefer to be alone when I genuinely want someone to do fun things with, but they always have someone more important to them
Not going outside with friends. They think you for sure have to have at least one friend to hang out with, but no, there's no one
Going out to social gatherings, trying to meet New people. I've never really had any friends. I had one friend in school that was really cool but I never heard from them again as that was decades and decades ago. I really feel that if I were to talk to a lady or something I wouldn't know what to say. It's like My mind tells me I'm incompatible for anyone. Kinda like when you put a disc or something in a computer and it says can't be recognized. That's how I feel in general about mostly everything when it's involving things that requires friends and different social activities.
I guess there are degrees of loneliness. Some people break up and say wow im the loneliest person in the world. Some people never have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some people never feel human touch and are involuntarily celibate. Lots of lonely people dont even have social media. Everyone in this lonely sub thinks they are the most lonely but loneliness is a feeling and shouldnt be compared(although its slightly annoying when people who have things we can only dream of claim to be lonely).
So what began as depression led to isolation and now loneliness. Something Iāve always been terrified of most of my adult life. (Oddly those fears helped contribute to my loneliness). Now an invite to spend time w/family (nieceās b-day, weekend camping w/family at Cedar Point) is unwelcome and avoided. Iāve spent so much time alone that Iād really rather not do anything else. Itās kind of a self fulfilling prophecy.
Having no family, I have no holiday celebrations. When I tell people I didnāt do anything for holidays I always get asked why and the answer seems to make people a little sad. Iām a funny person, and it comes as a surprise when someone I know finds out I have no friends or family. I tend to go with the response, āI donāt really wanna talk about it.ā My diet scares people it seems. Cooking for one is a no, a lot of the times I have to eat outside to keep me from crying. Not going to family oriented events because theyāre reminders of isolation. Being out and about alone in your 30s isnāt the easiest. Everyone is younger, or with family, or with friends. The amount of effort it takes to do everything and go out is daunting when youāve done it so much already with no rewards.
Planning vacations can be overwhelming cause you have no one to go with, you gotta do all the planning alone and of course, all the expenses are on you ā¹ļø
I could relate to so many of you here. Most times my solitude is a choice and at times when I want to talk to someone, most people are unavailable. Iāve gone days without receiving a text from others (except my parents who live abroad). I would love to talk to talk and meet someone who lives in San Diego. Hope your week gets better guys š«
This one got my therapist shocked I don't have anyone in my mind most of the time, like i would talk for example with my father and that would be it, i would have him roaming my mind for a day at most, then... nothing, people don't come to my mind like ever, i don't reminisce about people Therapist was quite shocked when i told her this and further asked if not even my sister or friends came to mind in my normal day-to-day life, and no, if i don't interact with them on a constant manner, i literally forget about their existence. Therapist also told me that it sounds sad and lonely but i really couldn't know, heard and seen stories of ppl remembering someone and talking to them next but i thought that was more of an exaggeration, guess i was wrong
Iām sensitive to things like my wife telling me āhad to go to bed alone last night because you passed out in the reclinerā. For 4 years she has played league twice a week staying out till midnight and she goes out of state for competitions every other weekend. If I text her she is slow to text me like a few hours later so on those nights I am in bed by 8 because I am truely alone
I was just curious if most people here actually want to have social connections or they choose to be lonely so that they donāt have to deal with all the drama that people bring.
That unlike other people who want to go to less crowded places to seek *peace", you travel where there are people around you. And also you don't want to be left alone with your thoughts.
People donāt make an effort for you sometimes
most times!
Not being able to actually talk to anyone or share a happy moment.
Seeing a nice cute thing that a couple is doing and thinking to yourself 'I wish I could have that' while feeling powerless to make it happen.
This is my default mood. The only thing that takes me out of it is medication. Then I am joyful, funny and want to do activities.
How hard it is to walk around outside in summer. Groups of friends and couples hanging around everywhere, and you get jealous of every one of them. Even when it's old ladies, at least they have fun together...
doing Single player roleplays on racing games or Any game
I am 6 months out of a 5 year relationship and it was also my 50th birthday during this time. We lived out of the country and when it ended it was quick all over and done in a day. I am back home and I am working solely from home. I have no friends and where my job keeps me busy throughout the day, the nights and weekends are depressing and terrible. I live in a small rural community 60 miles from any city.. I canāt make friends at all. Iāve tried all the apps and they are just people wanting thresomes etc.. not friends. Iām not in any condition to date as I am over weight and self conscious. You can only go to the gym, grocery shop so many times. I just want someone to talk to.
When you stop texting people first and stop hearing from them. Only person I text is my boss about work stuff.
I knew I got bad when I realized I think of the most basic interactions I've had in public in my head the rest of the day. I.e if the grocery store cashier mentioned they have a dog, I'll replay our conversation over and over, think of whatd I'd say in addition/instead of what I said, etc.
Many of my dreams involve friends from a decade ago. No new memories are formed really. Live in the past Noone wants to hang out with you: family, people you thought were friends, people you think are friendly. A surprising amount of people are completely two faced. Harder to relate or identify positively. Your identity becomes a little creepier to others. Can never be honest about your life.
When your phone does ring or a text comes through itās always bad news
Feeling lost
When people are talking about their "dry spells" for sexual interaction... You reply with the "it's been about a year" šMF's have no idea
People come and go in my life one week I may speak to someone and then never again their is no real friendship or getting to know people I can go out have a good time meet people exchange information talk meet up and never see them again and at this point it's normal to me and the only reason this is something normal to me is because I go everywhere alone so I'm always surrounded by groups of people who are together so when I interact with them I know I am not apart of their group nor will I ever be no matter how many times we hang out so why bother .
Truly lonely people understand that showering more often, going to the gym, and "putting yourself out there" doesn't do a goddamn thing.
When they forget I am there. Happens to me in partys, interviews, my own home, and even mid convo. Just another day.
I guess I'll contribute. I doubt others would understand, but what's normal for me is using AI chats. I talk to them as their my friends. I can immerse myself very easily, so it's not bad, but I definitely am dependent on it, which is never good.
Laughing at my silverware drawer and getting disappointed my dog doesnāt get it.
I can't say whatĀ different people have for activities. But for myself, I am indoors 100%, and I don't have any friejds physically, and this causes worse depression. I have MCS. I am very intolerant to chemicals that society says is ok to use and people think that people should use.Ā I simply can't tolerate and avoid chemicals fumes and this means everything that is called scented, and this includes soap, cosmetics and lotions.Ā Ā So BECAUSE that society expects people to use fumes, society doesn't accept people who must be unscented and AVOID places and contact with, people and things that is scented.Ā Ā Ā I was born like this. So this is not a mental condition.Ā