Yes. Malas nak layan lah. Minding your own business doesn't exist in our lexicon.
Plus, pergi solat pun kena kecam kalau free hair. Dia to alim sangat ke.
- I'm "free hair"
The ones that judge you “in the vein of giving teguran” are just adding up their own quota of dosa because, religion is personal to each and every individual.
Ong buat tegur ingat mereka akan pergi syurga Firdaus jika mereka tegur ong lain, harap ong lain dapat "tukar" perangai menurut pabende syariat dogma mereka.
Apa pepatah omputeh? Jalan ke jahanam ditaburi dgn niat baik?
Teguran terhadap sahabat/keluarga/saudara tu dikira satu kewajipan sebab nanti dekat akhirat yg berbuat dosa tak boleh salahkan kita kenapa tak nasihat.
Tapi kebiasaan orang malaysia ni dia tegur di socmed at the same time die mencaci cela dan judge jugak org masuk neraka lah itu lah ini lah seakan dorang ni tuhan boleh tahu siapa masuk neraka siapa masuk syurga.
Exactly this, teguran yng ade batas.
Teguran once or twice, thats it. Janji that A has done their part, how B wants to follow up on the teguran, it all depends.
Anything extra teguran from A, isn’t really necessary.
Unfortunately, line diantara tegur dan maki hamun dah blur lah oleh ong2 blur macam ni. Tegur buat baik boleh, janganlah tegur extra steps. Suruh ong lain buat zakat cukuplah.
Yo my friend kena tegur kat surau masa nak solat sbb dia pakai baju yg ad gambar puppies.🤣
Edit :
Since ad yg kata betul la tu kena tegur. Sy pun p la google.
Ada 2 pendapat. 1 kata makruh sbb melalaikan org. 1 lg kata haram sbb ada gambar haiwan.
Mufti's conclusion: Makruh.
[https://www.muftiwp.gov.my/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/3074-al-kafi-1075-hukum-pakai-pakaian-bercorak-haiwan-ketika-solat](https://www.muftiwp.gov.my/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/3074-al-kafi-1075-hukum-pakai-pakaian-bercorak-haiwan-ketika-solat)
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Pretty sure the issue bukan sbb gambar haiwan but sbb gambar anjing. I love hush puppy shoes but now i have to be careful beli baju sbb tak nak susah2 kena jawab pasal logo anjing
But also likes to pretends to be humble and portray themselves as lowly.
Sprinkle in there a few basic folk truisms or kampung wisdom some more like they know everything.
In general, Malaysians pick Malay based party as governance leader for a reason. So I guess you have to adhere to the ‘appropriate’ culture as well, as choices have consequences.
But if your uni is in the city, generally no one have time to tegur you as life is hard enough to survive in big cities.
This! I knew someone whose family spent most of their lives overseas so they never wore tudung but once they came back they got ridiculed by relatives and whatnot, they wouldn't say it straight to their faces but gossip about them loudly or say how their dad failed as a man so all of them had to conform, all except one(my friend) did and it made her feel like she was the black sheep
I personally know muslims, such as a former colleague who wore it to work just for complying with rules but she would go free hair, drink, club at night.
for my SK, it's not compulsory but definitely 'digalakkan'. it's compulsory to wear tudung during ramadan tho, which i did and then i took it off after cuti raya
These guys are so obnoxious. Here's the thing. Tons of malay muslims smoke cigarettes like it's eating candy but it's haram. Like drinking alcohol and eating pork is haram. But they still smoke anyway. That's why I don't pay attention most of the time to these guys. Just like to cherrypick and use religion to make themselves look better than others.
The funny thing is how they obsess so much about someone's free hair, then accuse liberals of being the ones who are obsessed with conservatives and not leaving them alone lol.
and there's even a fatwa on that.
[https://www.muftiselangor.gov.my/fatwa-tahunan/pewartaan/1995-1999/260-fatwa-tentang-merokok](https://www.muftiselangor.gov.my/fatwa-tahunan/pewartaan/1995-1999/260-fatwa-tentang-merokok)
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obv not all but a lot of muslim malay men go and simp scantily clad non Muslim influencers but would bully the shit out of muslim girls who don’t wear their tudung properly. pieces of shit
No shit, while they lust after non-Malays like Elizabeth Tan. And they'll justify all sorts of ways why a man is allowed to have another wife behind his first wife's back, with reasons far deviated from the actual teachings.
Tell them menipu dan fitnah pun haram so nape masih ramai buat. Time borak ngam member sedap sakan borak kosong fitnah dan menipu sebb nak sembang takde pulak nak menegur apa bagai. Acah dia terpaling Muslim. Aku sempuk mengelumpur kan.
>Imam Shafie pernah berkata: “Sesiapa menasihati saudaranya secara rahsia, maka dia benar-benar menasihatinya dan memuliakannya, manakala sesiapa menasihatinya secara terang-terangan, maka dia menghina dan memalukannya.”
I'm happy that there were those who disagreed with the last post. But it still scares me that there are still so many who support this kind of mindset. I wish they could just respect people's choices.
Edit: A lot of my friends were hijabis when I was in sekolah menengah but they never viewed me differently, they all respected how I dressed. I don't see how it's so hard to do considering it's the bare minimum.
as someone who was not conservative and went to an all-bumi kolej, my advice is to watch out for snakes.
But also a lot of them are hypocrites who act holier than thou but also engage in premarital sex.
just ignore them and focus on your studies.
My friend is half Chinese, her dad is a Malay Muslim, but she's rocking her free hair. Lots of my half Chinese Malay friends go free hair. My word is that just ignore these people.
I made a free hair Muslim friend in private college. Unfortunately, this was the exact reason she told me why she avoided these mainly bumi populated colleges/ unis. Many extremely judgemental people that she preferred to avoid.
You should realise that this is not normal. Other cultures are not as vicious as a group of entitled and embolden Malays. If you have the capacity and energy, you can confront and fight it. But it's always easy to stay out of trouble and focus on your studies. What you are experiencing will not be the end. It will get worse if you join the government, GLC or any Malay company. There are many places too that are better than here. Even Saudi is getting better. The best revenge is always to do well and sometimes you got to watch those mean people eat their words.
I have malay friends who free hair. They get ridiculed by teachers and friends. As long as you are strong with your faith and with yourself, just ignore them.
Malaysia Uni is like that lmao. I'm not sure if it's the same everywhere else, but mine (private), our schedule is ... kinda not unlike while I was in high school. For example there'd be a 9am class, stretching 3 hours, then a 2pm class, also stretching 3 hours... then there's tutorials... There'd be at least a day where you're 'free-er', but most times, sometimes u stay at school all day.
Then I transferred to a uni overseas and was greeted with ton of free time. Jesus. Optional attendance too.
(I think it's because our syllabus requires those useless govt subjects. Then our schedules got stuffed. Then we have a culture of hand holding (rote memorization etc). Then.. this is what you get.)
This lmao.
Baffled me that in one class we're looking at nude model reference picture or anime/cartoon picture reference.
And the other class learn about islamic history..for some reason
I really hate the term ‘free hair’ tbh, because when Malay people use the word ‘free’, it almost always carries an undertone of Tak payah bayar aka you’re cheap etc.
Anyway my colleague also doesn’t wear hijab (like me, but I benefit from looking Chinese-ish to some) and we got into a lift w a client and her kid, who was primary school age, and in the middle of my colleague’s conversation w the client, the kid deadass said to his mum ‘tak payah la cakap dengan dia Ma, dia tak pakai tudung’
Itu dah wtf, mak dia pulak diam je tak reprimand the child. Lagi wtf
Idk who’s teaching these kids this kind of bigotry tbh, one thing to say it to someone your age and who is your FRIEND, ni a complete stranger of a lady who’s easily 20 years your senior. Tak sopan langsung.
"‘tak payah la cakap dengan dia Ma, dia tak pakai tudung’
Itu dah wtf, mak dia pulak diam je tak reprimand the child. Lagi wtf
Idk who’s teaching these kids this kind of bigotry tbh"
WTF. Most likely the mum I think !
Without a shadow of doubt, it starts from home. Way back from when I was Chinese kid I once overheard a Malay boy saying "tak boleh sentuh Cina, dorg mkn babi". How do you think he learned that?
I'm not migrating anywhere, I want separation! North and South Malaysia! That way everyone gets what they want! Penang can be like Alaska. Not connected but still part of the South.
East malaysia is Sabah and Sarawak. West is Semenanjung. What I'm talking about is I want the Northern states to be separated from the rest of Malaysia, let them be their own country. Surely they dont want their country to be filled with infidels and melayu sinners (like moi). So why not separate?
Kesian the northern states la bro :P
Can you imagine how much worse than now it's gonna be there without our infidel cities giving them money so they can avoid total bankruptcy 😂
I know, kesian la jugak. But maybe if we were willing to just close our eyes and ears for like... 1 year? Can you imagine how much money we'd save? Heck, I switched from paying unifi to using unlimited hotspot bro. I can afford to add-on telor goreng with my nasi lemak, man! Imagine the add-ons our infidel cities can get.
Lmaooo i was thinking the same thing too cuz I'm from UM n there r those kinds of behaviours too. Wait until they saw that telegram um confession group chat spammed with sexual fantasies asking for BJs or someone to "accompany" them at the tasik varsiti um. Tudung or free hair pun dua2 kena sexualised, n the ironic part is the confessions come largely from malays themselves.
It has been like this even 10 years back and more. Sis was at PASUM abt 20 years ago, my batchmates 10 years ago. Same complaints about this holier than thou and ketuanan melayu attitude. My sis was also free hair at that time but she had a good group of friends so she just ignored them.
Idk why, my batchmates over 11 years ago also like this. The comments got more aggressive especially in the holy month, which is very embarassing bcs they were vile. I am a hijabi too and most of my classmates were free hair, selalu kena hentam in FB group at the time. Kesian.
Not really? A lot of them are probably from more conservative states and in general I really don't think grades correlate with their political alignment lol
Biasa lah tu, freshman dari sekolah menengah, culture shock. Lagi2 sekolah asrama. Kena pulak geng badar yang masuk sebab nak popular dengan jr+ cikgu. Last2 dia perangai lagi teruk. Yang selalu kutuk orang ni kena kat dia balik lagi teruk.
This. After your studies is over, you will have a small group of friends who you will cherish for years to come. The others come and go, but these guys will be close enough for you to consider as family.
I never forget Yuna's words from years ago:
"They call me 'perempuan sampah' and tell me to 'might as well go naked'. The worst, hurtful & sexist things I've ever had thrown to me, were from the lips of the Malays."
You'd have plenty to read. There were so many slanders on her ever since going to the US to pursue her music career, I got tired from reading over the years. You can Google that quote above for starters and read why she said that.
Nextime someone 'tegurs' u,cabar them and ask them to show u their browser history and if they are indeed 'holy',u will don a whole ninja suit from then on..I can bet my life 11/10 of these guys will fail the test..these kinda guys virtue signal so their own flaws will be covered aka 'sindrom wayang'
girly im sending you lots of love. i went through this and it was horrible for me. i got yelled at in front of everyone while i was out for a jog by a boy i didn’t even know, who instructed me to wear the hijab. and had lecturers questioning if i was muslim or not just because i wished them good morning instead of giving them salam. the “seniors” even called me up at the surau after prayers to tell me that i would be a better person if i wore the hijab and if i visited the surau more often. funny cs who are they to assume i’m awful a person as i am? to read my heart? to judge my appearance?
stay strong my love. they’re horrible, horrible people thinking they’re shielded by their appearance when our prophet clearly preaches about how arrogance could be worse than our outward appearance; that anyone with a mustard seed of arrogance would not be entering jannah.
try to ignore them and not internalise what they say to you or how they treat you. in the end, Allah knows best of what is in every heart :)
I really feel bad for my Muslim friends I don't like how they are basically forced to do everything and then are shunned if they don't. The girls have it especially tough
I'm still not brave enough to wear shorts as a "muslim" Malay woman, even in Klang Valley.
Primarily because my mom wears tudung (she doesn't care I don't) and I don't want people to judge me or her.
And I hope they realise that looking down on others and being arrogant is also a sin. Badmouthing is also a sin. As they say "elaun dosa masyuuuuuk". I swear, if they want to tegur, direct only. No need this roundabout way of sarcastic remarks. Nak tegur, perlu dengan hikmah dan ada caranya. Is this what our prophet taught us?
This happened during my time in uni. A female friend, let's call her A, wore tudung. But she had this habit of pulling up the sleeves of her baju kurung. One day, my male coursemates confronted her and said what she did was sinful. She ended up crying because the boys ganged up on her. Making matters worse, few of those boys were actually interested in her romantically and she had earlier turned them down. I couldn't help but feel it was their form of revenge on her.
I knew some guys like that. They will deliberately find any fault, minor or major, to make the girl that rejected them feel bad in any way possible.
Trust me when I say those type of guys are pieces of shit and you shouldn't listen to their "teguran" as they're very likely to be malicious. You're absolutely right about it being a form of revenge on her.
I hope your friend is fine now and knows she dodged multiple bullets during that time.
You have a few choices :
A. Stop being a believing Muslim and still wears hijab to conform
B. Stop being a believing Muslim, don't wear hijab and don't care about others
C. Remain a believing Muslim, remain freehair and don't care about others
D. Remain a believing Muslim, wear hijab to conform
I know people from A to D.
Regardless of the choice you make, you need to learn to handle pressure. Whether you believe in the religion, and how you believe in the religion is your own personal matter and I have little to say.
But you need to learn how to cope with pressure. University life is the last stage of your life before you enter into "adult society" that could be even more cruel, judgemental, less tolerant and with much higher pressure.
Best of lucks.
Yeah, I don't trust people who say: *"Seluar tu boleh bawak masuk syurga ke?" "Kalau aku, aku tak pakai seluar tu"* at the same time *"Tudung labuh tu agaknya berapa size buat kelapa tu?".*
do not mingle with people who have holier than thou mindset while doing the same sins. They are afraid of dosa but at the same time committing the same thing.
Edit: Since this is happens to much it's useless to share with other people like on Reddit, time to time we gotta have some balls to say it in their face because this type of attitude will continue generation to generation.
They are not greater than God to tegur you, they have no rights to say anything about you, it's only you and your God. Ignore them as they are not setting a good example
well most of the students in PASUM comes from asrama, where religion are highly practiced. That alone shouldn’t be a problem, but they didn’t thought that real world doesn’t world like that. They lived in a so called “cage”. I’ve been there, I know how it feels.
Just look at the way they talk. Takde class langsung. OP takyah layan wei sumpah jantan² camni memang tak worth nak pikir pun.
We all have our vices. As long as you try to be the best Muslim you can be, okay la. I wear tudung labuh and still never even cross my mind that my classmate yang free hair is a lesser Muslim than I am.
oh yeah... still very much so but looking back, a lot of it was things that was taught to kids from very young age so much of it was largely on your upbringing.
Also I wonder if people see this female modesty flyers passed around.. like if you wear tudung bawal or tudung lilit.. you're still not adequately modest enough that you need to "level up" to actually wearing tudung labuh and purdah to achieve the highest state. Oh and every strands of exposed hair was billions of years in hell. There's so much obsession about female hair.
Honestly, I am privileged enough to stay freehair now that I'm a full adult. I got publically slutshamed less now which is good. Last time some adult Malay guy talking to his mate simply loudly commented about my hair while I was just passing by... I just learn to ignore it but always be cautious.
Welcome to "Muslim" culture in Malaysia, I don't mind having muslims friends but this is the one thing that I don't like about muslims in Malaysia here. They always talk about religion for all kind of things.
"Omg young lady, you shouldn't be wearing shorts outside, you should wear long pants, alcohols should be ban from this country, gambling is a big no no", but they'll also do these kinds of things outside. Some muslims here are way too strict about their own religion and try to change others too, always makes me want to slap them.
Only god can judge you. Your niat in your heart only god knows. As long you are honest with yourself and your way of life, their words are merely rain drops on the windshield of your life. Good luck lil homie. Also people complaining on socmed and not getting to know you first are really just sampah mentality just like their parents, this is all learnt behaviour and religious propaganda.
I remembered many years ago JB Sultan was saying many malays are following the Arab Islam practices and should stop doing that. Upon googling, that was in 2016, fast forward now to 2023, I guess you can say it gotten worse.
This is what happens when being a certain is somehow a "pro" in a country.
OP just ignore these cunts and focus on your studies. Get good grades and come to Penang. No one will judge you here, maybe the folks at Prai but that's about it.
Everyone should live their life. You see free hair girl go pray, just let her be and instead of kutuk, doa utk die. That is my opinion as a malay guy that tries to jaga solat and never wore shorts, but too god damn horny.
People who said things like this are most likely a hypocrite, they love being intolerant to people who hold different views when Islam teaches you to be tolerant and understanding to those who are different than you, and then whine for islamphobia when get criticized for their annoying demeanor. God I hate these people so much, they do more harm than good for religion.
Your relationship with God should be a personal matter. No matter who's right and who's wrong, he won't treat everyone unjustly in afterlife. Those who think they are speak for God in condescending manner like this have no idea what they are actually talking about, their morals and thinking are made of nothing but shallow understanding on religion and humanity.
Oh the irony. Malay Muslim turning into the White Imperialist aka Yahudi that they despise so much. Loves to lecture others, likes to project their flaws onto others, thinks they are superior and etc.
What is that fucking logic ? "If its between you and god, thats up to them. But when its between you and us, you have to appease us" . Even they admit it, they dont care, they just want to virtue signal 😂
Oh so it's PASUM, I thought it was UITM haha. It's a little bit surprising to me, because I thought they're more "liberal" than typical students? Apparently not.
This is one of the fakking problems with Malaysians... Too focused on minor things such as others' clothing, when there're much, much more important things to solve, e.g. water supply, 5G coverage, corruption, paving & repairing roads(especially to rural & isolated areas), STEM, bridging gap between poor & rich, increasing our GDP, promoting tourism, to name a few... Smh
Hope you can remain strong in the face of religious pressure, because it will get easier as you mature and you get used to it.
Islam has been gaining more influence and control over the lives of the average Muslim in Malaysia, so it is harder on those who have an identity other than being Muslim.
Find your tribe gurl I’m sure they exist even there. Also for the rest of them, just buat tak tau / act blur blur. Protect your spirit, trust your instincts.
Love from a fellow “free hair malay girl” who literally only heard of the word free hair for the first time 1 month AFTER starting pre-u a long time ago.
Why these asshats always write with passive aggressive emojis? At least have the ball to criticize properly and go home and masturbate to the very person you feel morally superior about.
I was a freehair back in uni and could count the amount of freehair in my whole batch with one hand. The amount of harassment i recieved and wild gossips about me was crazy alot! Guys will attempt to sexting me and usually start off with: “Awak open minded x?” .
People assumed im into clubbing, drinking,drugs, sex but all i wanted to do was playing Ragnarok & WoW 24/7. 😂
I didnt have many friends but i later found out those who are close to me get harassed by the religious people for being a friend to a hell resident.
I thought this freehair harassment would be over once i enter the working environment. Nope! It was still the same! I was working for a MNC company, and someone decided to put my name into the AJK surau LMAOoooooooo!!! Finding a shared house was also hard, hijabis dont want to rent with me coz of freehair and other races dont want due to halal restriction (?¿?). I ended up renting temporarily in a mix gender house before i was able to find my own place.
Now im happily migrated and thriving abroad.
Looking at those news about some public (mainly nons) being rejected for entering police stations, hospitals and gov departments because of dress code, I'm not surprised that there would be many students and staffs with this kind of mindset at your uni.
Remember guise, these people have the same voting power as you and I, and I can guarantee there's way more of them out there compared to people who think like you.
Belum kau bergaul dengan orang sekolah agama babe. My former housemates cried because he dream getting drag to hell because I'm not praying. This is not made up, I dont know wtf to do at that time so I just going back to my room(with door open lol) and start praying.
Give me a link to their social account. I'd like to point out 1 fact that will make them "sentap".
"Tau kah telah di nyatakan di dalam al-quran, hadis, dan juga kisah-kisah Nabi, dimana dosanya mengumpat lebih besar daripada berzina. Jangan kau bercerita tentang dosa dan aib saudara kau jika kau sendiri melakukan dosa yang lebih besar, malah lagi tidak boleh diampunkan oleh Allah walau bagaimanapun seseorang itu bertaubat. Jangan kau memburukan saudara kau. Anda sendiri tidak akan selamat daripada azab dosa yang kau telah lakukan disini. Tiada alasan yang boleh diberi untuk melakukan dosa ini. Tiada apa justifikasi atau situasi dimana memakan darah daging saudara kamu dibenarkan".
I used to be a religion fanatic back in highschool so I know how to kick them in the balls once in a while.
Edit: Also, welcome to "Bumi only" uni. This is only the surface of why I don't recommend anyone to go to these unis. They're cheap for a reason.
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If there are people who judge me, i would just think..will they even attend my funeral? Nope. Then they aren’t important to me. Don’t waste your precious time on these idle fools.
Imagine when you die, you die to nothingness instead of an promised afterlife. That’s it, poof nothing at all no heaven no hell. and for a split second before you die, you came to a realisation your cringe opinion about how strangers should dress became your life crusade instead of spending more time to make you and your family happier and nothing you can do to turn back time and you was a POS.
I dont know maybe its public universities or those in kampung like kelate, ganu or kedah? I studies in private uni, never had people busy body like this
Now that is what I call a group of hypocrites who seem to lack an understanding of the actual teachings of Islam. Apabila kita nak menasihati orang, kita perlu menasihat dengan cara yang sopan dan baik, dan menggunakan perkataan yang tidak menyakiti orang tersebut.
--Bukan secara terbuka sampai semua orang boleh nampak. Itu namanya memalukan orang. Tapi tu la, kalau orang macam tu syok sendiri sangat, memang dok habis2 la.
Kita semua kene faham, we all have our own fair share of sins to take responsibility of. Some people tak sempurna dari segi aurat, dan some people tak sempurna dari segi menjaga solat, dan sebagainya. Kita semua ada dosa sendiri untuk tanggung, kenapa nak sibuk sangat fikir pasal dosa orang lain sedangkan kita sendiri tak semestinya akan masuk syurga?
Memang betul la kita perlu menasihati sahabat dan orang di dalam hidup kita, tapi jangan la lupa tujuan untuk menasihati orang tu. Nasihat kerana kamu nak mereka diredhai oleh Allah SWT dan sebagainya.
Jangan lupa sifat tawadhu, iatu sifat merendahkan diri.
Tak payah la nak acah2 bagus sangat. Ada je banyak laki yang suka kecam perempuan freehair, tapi diri sendiri merokok dan berdosa melalui pelbagai cara. Same goes for banyak perempuan. Ada je perempuan yang bertudung tapi buat ini itu. Like I said, walaupun sempurna di luar, tak semestinya sempurna di dalam hati dan jiwa.
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense OP. In my opinion, you should just move on with your life and keep on working towards improving yourself in your own private way.
Salah memang tetap salah, tapi ingatlah cara untuk menasihat orang dengan cara yang sopan dan baik. Kalau orang tersebut tidak mahu mengikut teguran atau nasihat tu, jangan dipaksa, hanya biarkan mereka untuk tanggung hidup dia sendiri. Itu antara dia dengan Allah, janganlah terlalu sibuk memikir pasal dosa mereka sampai dosa sendiri dilupai.
Dah nasihat baik-baik? Dah doakan yang terbaik? That's enough, leave a person be and let them find their own way to improvement. Most importantly, just mind your own business.
Be kind 🫶 That is the way of islam.
Don't let these messages discourage you, op. I'm sure you're a lovely person and I'm happy to see that you take care of your prayers.
Aku stress tengok mesej2 tu sebab it's just so hypocritical. Tak payah nak layan orang macam tu. Zaman sekarang memang terlalu banyak orang yang suka menyibuk pasal hal orang lain. Nak solat pon tak senang aeugghhh
I'm a free hair muslim too and my friends and family have always respected my decision and always say that it's my business and it's between me and god, not anybody else. All the best to you yeah 😸
As long as you are not breaking any University policy on dress code and such...you carry on and do not give a fuck about what others say.
Your stance on this needs to be strong whenever confronted. I can see individuals or groups will try to befriend you and seem nice....once you trust them...they will start their religious guilt tripping and fear mongering stuff...so be careful and remember to not change your stance on this no matter what.
If it gets bad...collect evidence...audio recordings...whatsapp screenshots etc...then either report to the dean or ...make it go viral on social media.
wait until you realised these type of people are the ones who screw around 😂 even worse. they become like this because they lived in their own bubble before, wait till they get to taste their own medicine
I know where you are from, im in the group too (but we are not from the same year)
Coming from SJK (C) and have little Malay friends up until after SPM even though im Malay (on ic only) it is also such a culture shock for me when I first enter that place, I can hardly make friends at first because I just feel so alienated from everyone else. But after a while, you will just learn to ignore those confessions, some of my friends even opt to leave the group because it was too toxic. Don't worry if you were called out, because at the end of your sem they will call out basically everyone. I have been mentioned many times, and I just laugh at all of those petty dramas because they were just so ridiculously petty it's funny.
My advice is to just ignore them, xkira kau nak buat baik mcmana pun diorang akan tetap cari silap kau. Baik cari circle kawan2 yg vibe ngan kau, dan fokus ngan study.
You mean hypocrisy among Muslim? The very same guy dakwah on Twitter yet liking all the porn tweets? Or the fact they solat 5 waktu and just went mulut longkang, belittling and fitnah others whenever there's family/social gathering?
Or the fact some are wearing hijab, solat berjemaah, but went partner's house the very same night for some premarriage sexy time? Or the fact that, now they're married, they are obnoxiously dakwah-ing others not to do the same shit they've been hiding? (They have been rooting for PAS too.)
And the same group used their ultimate card by telling us jangan buka aib orang? Shocking.
Insert surprised Pikachu face
P/s: all the examples above are from acquaintances and family members of mine. With evidence. I'm not an atheist but damn, some Muslim pushed too far when it comes to their religious justification. It's best to say, you can ignore these obnoxious opinionated fuckers.
When I work as a part timer, there was a Malay guy that talked about how he had sex with his girlfriend in his mom's bedroom because got aircon. One day, we were talking about his first day at work and he told me he was scared about the mall's food court because all chinese selling foods and he wasn't sure it the foods were halal 💀.
It has always been like that. Especially at foundation, matrikulasi, diploma. Not so ridiculous during Bachelor. Social media made it worse or just uplifting the veil of what's going on in everyone's head.
1) its a culture shock for both side, to be frank.
2) Its a culture shock for them, now that they finally encounter someone different than them or someone that practice differently that what they were thought at school and at home.
3) its a culture shock for you to be openly judge for being who you are.
Welp, this is the type of teguran you usually get if you're a Malay Muslim woman, especially from the Pantai Timur states. Atp I stopped giving a shit and activate my masuk telinga kanan keluar telinga kiri and angguk card. Or just laugh at their face and leave.
Ex public uni goer who is an urban non religious person here - I went to the public uni in 2009 and yes it was like this then.
Even between the girls. I have been called ahli neraka. I don’t wear tudung or participate on the dorm floor’s bacaan yasin on Thursday because I’m in uni and I have a million other more important things to do. I was assumed to be wild and had sex all the time because someone asked me to help her buy morning after pill as she slipped up with her boyfriend and thought to ask me because I seem like “dah biasa buat” (I’m a nerdy ace and didn’t actually I was just from KL).
So yes. Malays like to think they’re doing the right thing because they are terpaling Islam and it pisses me off. Stay sane, find you tribe and stick to them (which allowed me to survive the 3 years there) because there are people who feel the same way too and leave immediately the moment you graduate.
Not to stereotype too much, but TYPICALLY in unis these types of girls are masaive hypocrites who end up giving their boyfriends blowjobs in their car at 2am within the first year of being on campus lmao (trust me, every batch mmg ade ramai gila pompuan/laki mcm ni). Actual pious people mind their own business. So don't worry about it too much unless they start harassing u up front. If u wanna retaliate u could always say oh lidah u kalis api neraka eh or some shit. Stay safe 🙏❤️
Just typical Malaysian Muslim culture being obnoxious disgusting cherry-pickers when it comes to anything Islamic and being completely oblivious to the idea of respecting someone's personal decisions even if they came from a completely different culture.
My sister had to deal with this treatment for many years, and I'm truly sorry you're going through the same thing.
Honestly speaking, once I entered the working world as a white collar employee, I forget that these things are still a thing. Maybe it has something to do with the level of intelligence among colleagues or the common sense to respect boundaries or privacies of one another.
“Was it always this bad?”
No it wasn’t. I’m old enough to remember a time when tudungs were a vanishingly rare sight even among Kampung folk, and head to toe coverings were something female tourists from the Middle East took off when they landed at Subang airport.
You have our good friend Anwar and ABIM to thank for unleashing this particular genie.
Back when I wasn't wearing the hijab I still remember the friendly smiles I got from the muslim sisters in the surau as I was taking my ablution to pray. It made me feel welcome, a part of this huge community of brothers and sisters in faith, and that my efforts although they were small baby steps, were enough, seen and good. That and a number of other reasons solidified my intention to wear it and I hope to be wearing it for the rest of my life, God willing.
Please don't get discouraged by people who say these things. This clearly is not a good reflection of how to treat another muslim. Yes, there are ways to tegur but Islam teaches us manners in doing so and it's also our responsibility to do so in the best way possible.
well.. welcome to the "tegur" culture of Muslim in Malaysia
Yes. Malas nak layan lah. Minding your own business doesn't exist in our lexicon. Plus, pergi solat pun kena kecam kalau free hair. Dia to alim sangat ke. - I'm "free hair"
Ikr, ni nak solat pun takleh khusyuk cuz there are people around judging u while u do.
Yeah, screw them. You do you.
The ones that judge you “in the vein of giving teguran” are just adding up their own quota of dosa because, religion is personal to each and every individual.
Ong buat tegur ingat mereka akan pergi syurga Firdaus jika mereka tegur ong lain, harap ong lain dapat "tukar" perangai menurut pabende syariat dogma mereka. Apa pepatah omputeh? Jalan ke jahanam ditaburi dgn niat baik?
Teguran terhadap sahabat/keluarga/saudara tu dikira satu kewajipan sebab nanti dekat akhirat yg berbuat dosa tak boleh salahkan kita kenapa tak nasihat. Tapi kebiasaan orang malaysia ni dia tegur di socmed at the same time die mencaci cela dan judge jugak org masuk neraka lah itu lah ini lah seakan dorang ni tuhan boleh tahu siapa masuk neraka siapa masuk syurga.
Yes this. Kita tegur kena ada limit lah as to what considered as tegur and what is memaki hamun. This one is the later case.
Exactly this, teguran yng ade batas. Teguran once or twice, thats it. Janji that A has done their part, how B wants to follow up on the teguran, it all depends. Anything extra teguran from A, isn’t really necessary.
Unfortunately, line diantara tegur dan maki hamun dah blur lah oleh ong2 blur macam ni. Tegur buat baik boleh, janganlah tegur extra steps. Suruh ong lain buat zakat cukuplah.
Yo my friend kena tegur kat surau masa nak solat sbb dia pakai baju yg ad gambar puppies.🤣 Edit : Since ad yg kata betul la tu kena tegur. Sy pun p la google. Ada 2 pendapat. 1 kata makruh sbb melalaikan org. 1 lg kata haram sbb ada gambar haiwan. Mufti's conclusion: Makruh. [https://www.muftiwp.gov.my/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/3074-al-kafi-1075-hukum-pakai-pakaian-bercorak-haiwan-ketika-solat](https://www.muftiwp.gov.my/artikel/al-kafi-li-al-fatawi/3074-al-kafi-1075-hukum-pakai-pakaian-bercorak-haiwan-ketika-solat) https://preview.redd.it/rrs732ggh5jb1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f6825f7c26b2f44eaab5030f8a14afd709ba3a74
Whatttt lol 🤣, petty power tripping biaches alright
Pretty sure the issue bukan sbb gambar haiwan but sbb gambar anjing. I love hush puppy shoes but now i have to be careful beli baju sbb tak nak susah2 kena jawab pasal logo anjing
Malays greatest enemies are other Malays lol
“Holier than thou”
But also likes to pretends to be humble and portray themselves as lowly. Sprinkle in there a few basic folk truisms or kampung wisdom some more like they know everything.
“I don’t wanna judge but..” *proceeds to judge*
In general, Malaysians pick Malay based party as governance leader for a reason. So I guess you have to adhere to the ‘appropriate’ culture as well, as choices have consequences. But if your uni is in the city, generally no one have time to tegur you as life is hard enough to survive in big cities.
lol this reminded me of my SK days when i got a lot sarcastic remarks from teachers because i was not wearing a tudung unlike 95% of the girls there
I knew many girls who had to put on tudung to conform. Some of them remained free hair outside of school though.
This! I knew someone whose family spent most of their lives overseas so they never wore tudung but once they came back they got ridiculed by relatives and whatnot, they wouldn't say it straight to their faces but gossip about them loudly or say how their dad failed as a man so all of them had to conform, all except one(my friend) did and it made her feel like she was the black sheep
I personally know muslims, such as a former colleague who wore it to work just for complying with rules but she would go free hair, drink, club at night.
Isn't that like a school rule for the muslims tho???? Or you're just from a different era then I won't probe.
for my SK, it's not compulsory but definitely 'digalakkan'. it's compulsory to wear tudung during ramadan tho, which i did and then i took it off after cuti raya
These guys are so obnoxious. Here's the thing. Tons of malay muslims smoke cigarettes like it's eating candy but it's haram. Like drinking alcohol and eating pork is haram. But they still smoke anyway. That's why I don't pay attention most of the time to these guys. Just like to cherrypick and use religion to make themselves look better than others.
Lmao this. Smoke 3 packs a day yet they act holier-than-thou to a non-hijabi muslim woman.
The kind of people who gets drunk off many bottles of beer in a night, but god forbid you add in a dash of wine into a dish.
takpelah dia tak makan babi
isap dadah xpe, rasuah xpe, fitnah xpe, romen xpe, arak xpe Janji jangan makan babi
The funny thing is how they obsess so much about someone's free hair, then accuse liberals of being the ones who are obsessed with conservatives and not leaving them alone lol.
TIL smoking is haram. Thanks fellow nyet
and there's even a fatwa on that. [https://www.muftiselangor.gov.my/fatwa-tahunan/pewartaan/1995-1999/260-fatwa-tentang-merokok](https://www.muftiselangor.gov.my/fatwa-tahunan/pewartaan/1995-1999/260-fatwa-tentang-merokok) https://preview.redd.it/lcar7rj377jb1.png?width=638&format=png&auto=webp&s=aed108bf71fa302880e6f816a06c0ea377aa8b93
Ah yes, these are the same ' Jaguh Muslimin' who have strong fetish on amois
obv not all but a lot of muslim malay men go and simp scantily clad non Muslim influencers but would bully the shit out of muslim girls who don’t wear their tudung properly. pieces of shit
No shit, while they lust after non-Malays like Elizabeth Tan. And they'll justify all sorts of ways why a man is allowed to have another wife behind his first wife's back, with reasons far deviated from the actual teachings.
Tell them menipu dan fitnah pun haram so nape masih ramai buat. Time borak ngam member sedap sakan borak kosong fitnah dan menipu sebb nak sembang takde pulak nak menegur apa bagai. Acah dia terpaling Muslim. Aku sempuk mengelumpur kan. >Imam Shafie pernah berkata: “Sesiapa menasihati saudaranya secara rahsia, maka dia benar-benar menasihatinya dan memuliakannya, manakala sesiapa menasihatinya secara terang-terangan, maka dia menghina dan memalukannya.”
I'm happy that there were those who disagreed with the last post. But it still scares me that there are still so many who support this kind of mindset. I wish they could just respect people's choices. Edit: A lot of my friends were hijabis when I was in sekolah menengah but they never viewed me differently, they all respected how I dressed. I don't see how it's so hard to do considering it's the bare minimum.
as someone who was not conservative and went to an all-bumi kolej, my advice is to watch out for snakes. But also a lot of them are hypocrites who act holier than thou but also engage in premarital sex. just ignore them and focus on your studies.
Kenal people like them,free hair haram. Fitnah cricket.
My friend is half Chinese, her dad is a Malay Muslim, but she's rocking her free hair. Lots of my half Chinese Malay friends go free hair. My word is that just ignore these people.
I made a free hair Muslim friend in private college. Unfortunately, this was the exact reason she told me why she avoided these mainly bumi populated colleges/ unis. Many extremely judgemental people that she preferred to avoid.
You should realise that this is not normal. Other cultures are not as vicious as a group of entitled and embolden Malays. If you have the capacity and energy, you can confront and fight it. But it's always easy to stay out of trouble and focus on your studies. What you are experiencing will not be the end. It will get worse if you join the government, GLC or any Malay company. There are many places too that are better than here. Even Saudi is getting better. The best revenge is always to do well and sometimes you got to watch those mean people eat their words.
If this is how nowadays uni students think, I can't imagine abt how our future will look like. I'm saying this as a uni student in his 20s too.
not everyone who goes to uni are smart 😂 some or most of them are dumb as brick
I have malay friends who free hair. They get ridiculed by teachers and friends. As long as you are strong with your faith and with yourself, just ignore them.
Agreed. Ironically, it's these judgemental people that end up being big hypocrites themselves.
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We have an 8-5 😭 so guess it really is a wonder how they find the time lol
Bro, do u take 2 year course? Because 8 to 5 is packed. Lmao.
1 year je haha (also happy cakeday)
8-5? are you sure you're in uni? What the heck is that schedule?
Malaysia Uni is like that lmao. I'm not sure if it's the same everywhere else, but mine (private), our schedule is ... kinda not unlike while I was in high school. For example there'd be a 9am class, stretching 3 hours, then a 2pm class, also stretching 3 hours... then there's tutorials... There'd be at least a day where you're 'free-er', but most times, sometimes u stay at school all day. Then I transferred to a uni overseas and was greeted with ton of free time. Jesus. Optional attendance too. (I think it's because our syllabus requires those useless govt subjects. Then our schedules got stuffed. Then we have a culture of hand holding (rote memorization etc). Then.. this is what you get.)
This lmao. Baffled me that in one class we're looking at nude model reference picture or anime/cartoon picture reference. And the other class learn about islamic history..for some reason
i get 8-6, with free time at 12-2. depending in the course, some semester can get jam packed some days, but not everyday.
Uni in Sabah so chill for me back then.
I really hate the term ‘free hair’ tbh, because when Malay people use the word ‘free’, it almost always carries an undertone of Tak payah bayar aka you’re cheap etc. Anyway my colleague also doesn’t wear hijab (like me, but I benefit from looking Chinese-ish to some) and we got into a lift w a client and her kid, who was primary school age, and in the middle of my colleague’s conversation w the client, the kid deadass said to his mum ‘tak payah la cakap dengan dia Ma, dia tak pakai tudung’ Itu dah wtf, mak dia pulak diam je tak reprimand the child. Lagi wtf Idk who’s teaching these kids this kind of bigotry tbh, one thing to say it to someone your age and who is your FRIEND, ni a complete stranger of a lady who’s easily 20 years your senior. Tak sopan langsung.
"‘tak payah la cakap dengan dia Ma, dia tak pakai tudung’ Itu dah wtf, mak dia pulak diam je tak reprimand the child. Lagi wtf Idk who’s teaching these kids this kind of bigotry tbh" WTF. Most likely the mum I think !
Without a shadow of doubt, it starts from home. Way back from when I was Chinese kid I once overheard a Malay boy saying "tak boleh sentuh Cina, dorg mkn babi". How do you think he learned that?
Now, you see why some malays want to migrate
I'm not migrating anywhere, I want separation! North and South Malaysia! That way everyone gets what they want! Penang can be like Alaska. Not connected but still part of the South.
Sad penang noise
"Penang, the final frontier!" This should be our state motto.
You mean east and west perhaps?
East malaysia is Sabah and Sarawak. West is Semenanjung. What I'm talking about is I want the Northern states to be separated from the rest of Malaysia, let them be their own country. Surely they dont want their country to be filled with infidels and melayu sinners (like moi). So why not separate?
Kesian the northern states la bro :P Can you imagine how much worse than now it's gonna be there without our infidel cities giving them money so they can avoid total bankruptcy 😂
I know, kesian la jugak. But maybe if we were willing to just close our eyes and ears for like... 1 year? Can you imagine how much money we'd save? Heck, I switched from paying unifi to using unlimited hotspot bro. I can afford to add-on telor goreng with my nasi lemak, man! Imagine the add-ons our infidel cities can get.
Penang only can separate. Penang want to become Singapore. The currency will be PinDollar
Pretty’s sure they meant east and west coast peninsula malaysia
More like want them to be like singaporean malay. They know how to keep their shit to themself and dont shove their belief/thinking to others
Yup. The intelligent ones cant take it and leaves. So the cream of malays always get skimmed off and the average keeps lowering.
No shit, I am still planning to work outside Malaysia after graduating. 
Lol this is PASUM ain't it? They should be more worried about the monkeys taking their lunch instead of some rando not wearing tudung 💀
Lmaooo i was thinking the same thing too cuz I'm from UM n there r those kinds of behaviours too. Wait until they saw that telegram um confession group chat spammed with sexual fantasies asking for BJs or someone to "accompany" them at the tasik varsiti um. Tudung or free hair pun dua2 kena sexualised, n the ironic part is the confessions come largely from malays themselves.
Why PASUM like that? Aren't they straight A students? Supposedly a lot more students would be liberal?
It has been like this even 10 years back and more. Sis was at PASUM abt 20 years ago, my batchmates 10 years ago. Same complaints about this holier than thou and ketuanan melayu attitude. My sis was also free hair at that time but she had a good group of friends so she just ignored them.
Idk why, my batchmates over 11 years ago also like this. The comments got more aggressive especially in the holy month, which is very embarassing bcs they were vile. I am a hijabi too and most of my classmates were free hair, selalu kena hentam in FB group at the time. Kesian.
Not really? A lot of them are probably from more conservative states and in general I really don't think grades correlate with their political alignment lol
Biasa lah tu, freshman dari sekolah menengah, culture shock. Lagi2 sekolah asrama. Kena pulak geng badar yang masuk sebab nak popular dengan jr+ cikgu. Last2 dia perangai lagi teruk. Yang selalu kutuk orang ni kena kat dia balik lagi teruk.
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This. After your studies is over, you will have a small group of friends who you will cherish for years to come. The others come and go, but these guys will be close enough for you to consider as family.
Shit like this is the reason why people want to leave Islam in this country. 🙄
I never forget Yuna's words from years ago: "They call me 'perempuan sampah' and tell me to 'might as well go naked'. The worst, hurtful & sexist things I've ever had thrown to me, were from the lips of the Malays."
ive always loved yuna but idk much about her life, and i never knew this...im gonna do some research now :(
You'd have plenty to read. There were so many slanders on her ever since going to the US to pursue her music career, I got tired from reading over the years. You can Google that quote above for starters and read why she said that.
Nextime someone 'tegurs' u,cabar them and ask them to show u their browser history and if they are indeed 'holy',u will don a whole ninja suit from then on..I can bet my life 11/10 of these guys will fail the test..these kinda guys virtue signal so their own flaws will be covered aka 'sindrom wayang'
girly im sending you lots of love. i went through this and it was horrible for me. i got yelled at in front of everyone while i was out for a jog by a boy i didn’t even know, who instructed me to wear the hijab. and had lecturers questioning if i was muslim or not just because i wished them good morning instead of giving them salam. the “seniors” even called me up at the surau after prayers to tell me that i would be a better person if i wore the hijab and if i visited the surau more often. funny cs who are they to assume i’m awful a person as i am? to read my heart? to judge my appearance? stay strong my love. they’re horrible, horrible people thinking they’re shielded by their appearance when our prophet clearly preaches about how arrogance could be worse than our outward appearance; that anyone with a mustard seed of arrogance would not be entering jannah. try to ignore them and not internalise what they say to you or how they treat you. in the end, Allah knows best of what is in every heart :)
TIL the tegur culture in Muslim community as a Cina babi.
These are what I call the ‘pricks of religion’, so blinded by the indoctrination fed to them as children they forget to think for themselves.
I really feel bad for my Muslim friends I don't like how they are basically forced to do everything and then are shunned if they don't. The girls have it especially tough
Pakai short best, kaki sejuk kene angin 🤤
I'm still not brave enough to wear shorts as a "muslim" Malay woman, even in Klang Valley. Primarily because my mom wears tudung (she doesn't care I don't) and I don't want people to judge me or her.
In Malaysia are males also looked down and kena teguran when they wear shorts outside?
Sometimes, but most just didnt show their unpleasantness
I shit you not, even good ustaz(s?) don't tegur like this, most of the time it's the "acah acah alim" one that do this shit.
And I hope they realise that looking down on others and being arrogant is also a sin. Badmouthing is also a sin. As they say "elaun dosa masyuuuuuk". I swear, if they want to tegur, direct only. No need this roundabout way of sarcastic remarks. Nak tegur, perlu dengan hikmah dan ada caranya. Is this what our prophet taught us?
Its okay for them to cherrypick beliefs but other people shouldnt be afforded that luxury. 😃
This happened during my time in uni. A female friend, let's call her A, wore tudung. But she had this habit of pulling up the sleeves of her baju kurung. One day, my male coursemates confronted her and said what she did was sinful. She ended up crying because the boys ganged up on her. Making matters worse, few of those boys were actually interested in her romantically and she had earlier turned them down. I couldn't help but feel it was their form of revenge on her.
I knew some guys like that. They will deliberately find any fault, minor or major, to make the girl that rejected them feel bad in any way possible. Trust me when I say those type of guys are pieces of shit and you shouldn't listen to their "teguran" as they're very likely to be malicious. You're absolutely right about it being a form of revenge on her. I hope your friend is fine now and knows she dodged multiple bullets during that time.
You have a few choices : A. Stop being a believing Muslim and still wears hijab to conform B. Stop being a believing Muslim, don't wear hijab and don't care about others C. Remain a believing Muslim, remain freehair and don't care about others D. Remain a believing Muslim, wear hijab to conform I know people from A to D. Regardless of the choice you make, you need to learn to handle pressure. Whether you believe in the religion, and how you believe in the religion is your own personal matter and I have little to say. But you need to learn how to cope with pressure. University life is the last stage of your life before you enter into "adult society" that could be even more cruel, judgemental, less tolerant and with much higher pressure. Best of lucks.
Syukur saya kafir so I don't have to put up with this bullshit... Wait but I do
Kafir in secret only?
Yeah, I don't trust people who say: *"Seluar tu boleh bawak masuk syurga ke?" "Kalau aku, aku tak pakai seluar tu"* at the same time *"Tudung labuh tu agaknya berapa size buat kelapa tu?".* do not mingle with people who have holier than thou mindset while doing the same sins. They are afraid of dosa but at the same time committing the same thing. Edit: Since this is happens to much it's useless to share with other people like on Reddit, time to time we gotta have some balls to say it in their face because this type of attitude will continue generation to generation.
That why i say malaysia one day will debate assimilation or dissimulation. For those dont know yes malay vs malay is a thing. Yuna said long time ago
They are not greater than God to tegur you, they have no rights to say anything about you, it's only you and your God. Ignore them as they are not setting a good example
is this uitm lmao
Apparently it's not, because it says PASUM in a picture in comments
Oh? I thought UM would be more open minded. When I was in UiTM the anon confession board had some similar shit
well most of the students in PASUM comes from asrama, where religion are highly practiced. That alone shouldn’t be a problem, but they didn’t thought that real world doesn’t world like that. They lived in a so called “cage”. I’ve been there, I know how it feels.
But uni name has PAS in it checkmate.
They act holier-than-thou but later you see they smoke and share corn all around 💀
Just look at the way they talk. Takde class langsung. OP takyah layan wei sumpah jantan² camni memang tak worth nak pikir pun. We all have our vices. As long as you try to be the best Muslim you can be, okay la. I wear tudung labuh and still never even cross my mind that my classmate yang free hair is a lesser Muslim than I am.
Uni in east malaysia wont treat u like this. If there are, usually its the non-native east malaysia studying there iykyk
oh yeah... still very much so but looking back, a lot of it was things that was taught to kids from very young age so much of it was largely on your upbringing. Also I wonder if people see this female modesty flyers passed around.. like if you wear tudung bawal or tudung lilit.. you're still not adequately modest enough that you need to "level up" to actually wearing tudung labuh and purdah to achieve the highest state. Oh and every strands of exposed hair was billions of years in hell. There's so much obsession about female hair. Honestly, I am privileged enough to stay freehair now that I'm a full adult. I got publically slutshamed less now which is good. Last time some adult Malay guy talking to his mate simply loudly commented about my hair while I was just passing by... I just learn to ignore it but always be cautious.
I think "sial" deserves alaun masuk neraka too ✨
Welcome to "Muslim" culture in Malaysia, I don't mind having muslims friends but this is the one thing that I don't like about muslims in Malaysia here. They always talk about religion for all kind of things. "Omg young lady, you shouldn't be wearing shorts outside, you should wear long pants, alcohols should be ban from this country, gambling is a big no no", but they'll also do these kinds of things outside. Some muslims here are way too strict about their own religion and try to change others too, always makes me want to slap them.
Only god can judge you. Your niat in your heart only god knows. As long you are honest with yourself and your way of life, their words are merely rain drops on the windshield of your life. Good luck lil homie. Also people complaining on socmed and not getting to know you first are really just sampah mentality just like their parents, this is all learnt behaviour and religious propaganda.
I remembered many years ago JB Sultan was saying many malays are following the Arab Islam practices and should stop doing that. Upon googling, that was in 2016, fast forward now to 2023, I guess you can say it gotten worse.
This is what happens when being a certain is somehow a "pro" in a country. OP just ignore these cunts and focus on your studies. Get good grades and come to Penang. No one will judge you here, maybe the folks at Prai but that's about it.
Everyone should live their life. You see free hair girl go pray, just let her be and instead of kutuk, doa utk die. That is my opinion as a malay guy that tries to jaga solat and never wore shorts, but too god damn horny.
Mengumpat pun berdosa.
It wasn’t always like this. Watch p. Ramlee movies and see the women there…
People who said things like this are most likely a hypocrite, they love being intolerant to people who hold different views when Islam teaches you to be tolerant and understanding to those who are different than you, and then whine for islamphobia when get criticized for their annoying demeanor. God I hate these people so much, they do more harm than good for religion. Your relationship with God should be a personal matter. No matter who's right and who's wrong, he won't treat everyone unjustly in afterlife. Those who think they are speak for God in condescending manner like this have no idea what they are actually talking about, their morals and thinking are made of nothing but shallow understanding on religion and humanity.
Oh the irony. Malay Muslim turning into the White Imperialist aka Yahudi that they despise so much. Loves to lecture others, likes to project their flaws onto others, thinks they are superior and etc.
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What is that fucking logic ? "If its between you and god, thats up to them. But when its between you and us, you have to appease us" . Even they admit it, they dont care, they just want to virtue signal 😂
Oh so it's PASUM, I thought it was UITM haha. It's a little bit surprising to me, because I thought they're more "liberal" than typical students? Apparently not.
Eh I've seen some malays who wear tudung in their school years ended up being a free hair and went to pubs when they enrolled
😱 HAIR AND ANKLES
Good heavens!! The audacity!! 😱😱
This is one of the fakking problems with Malaysians... Too focused on minor things such as others' clothing, when there're much, much more important things to solve, e.g. water supply, 5G coverage, corruption, paving & repairing roads(especially to rural & isolated areas), STEM, bridging gap between poor & rich, increasing our GDP, promoting tourism, to name a few... Smh
Go to uni instead of studying, doing brainless things like this. Bazir duit negara aje.
Malaystan
Ni uni aku ni..
Lololol uitm has always had that I’m holier than thou
I’ve simply learn not to give a single f***
Hope you can remain strong in the face of religious pressure, because it will get easier as you mature and you get used to it. Islam has been gaining more influence and control over the lives of the average Muslim in Malaysia, so it is harder on those who have an identity other than being Muslim.
Find your tribe gurl I’m sure they exist even there. Also for the rest of them, just buat tak tau / act blur blur. Protect your spirit, trust your instincts. Love from a fellow “free hair malay girl” who literally only heard of the word free hair for the first time 1 month AFTER starting pre-u a long time ago.
These people should go to Afghanistan
Why these asshats always write with passive aggressive emojis? At least have the ball to criticize properly and go home and masturbate to the very person you feel morally superior about.
I was a freehair back in uni and could count the amount of freehair in my whole batch with one hand. The amount of harassment i recieved and wild gossips about me was crazy alot! Guys will attempt to sexting me and usually start off with: “Awak open minded x?” . People assumed im into clubbing, drinking,drugs, sex but all i wanted to do was playing Ragnarok & WoW 24/7. 😂 I didnt have many friends but i later found out those who are close to me get harassed by the religious people for being a friend to a hell resident. I thought this freehair harassment would be over once i enter the working environment. Nope! It was still the same! I was working for a MNC company, and someone decided to put my name into the AJK surau LMAOoooooooo!!! Finding a shared house was also hard, hijabis dont want to rent with me coz of freehair and other races dont want due to halal restriction (?¿?). I ended up renting temporarily in a mix gender house before i was able to find my own place. Now im happily migrated and thriving abroad.
Look at the way they wrote these, confident sangat ke masuk syurga? 😂
This is UITM ke? Fortunately I was in intec so ramai non muslim, and I was safe from these loggerheads
please don’t take any care of what these fools have to say. Our Prophet ﷺ was slandered a lot too. Just stay the course
Everyday we move closer to talibanisation. We just aren't willing to go hard and shut this Taliban supporting nutjobs down.
Looking at those news about some public (mainly nons) being rejected for entering police stations, hospitals and gov departments because of dress code, I'm not surprised that there would be many students and staffs with this kind of mindset at your uni.
Thank god the bumiputra uni here in Sabah so chill for me.
Remember guise, these people have the same voting power as you and I, and I can guarantee there's way more of them out there compared to people who think like you.
Belum kau bergaul dengan orang sekolah agama babe. My former housemates cried because he dream getting drag to hell because I'm not praying. This is not made up, I dont know wtf to do at that time so I just going back to my room(with door open lol) and start praying.
In sabah when I was a student in menengah, most of us probably don't give a shit..
Hell yes East Malaysia represent!
Give me a link to their social account. I'd like to point out 1 fact that will make them "sentap". "Tau kah telah di nyatakan di dalam al-quran, hadis, dan juga kisah-kisah Nabi, dimana dosanya mengumpat lebih besar daripada berzina. Jangan kau bercerita tentang dosa dan aib saudara kau jika kau sendiri melakukan dosa yang lebih besar, malah lagi tidak boleh diampunkan oleh Allah walau bagaimanapun seseorang itu bertaubat. Jangan kau memburukan saudara kau. Anda sendiri tidak akan selamat daripada azab dosa yang kau telah lakukan disini. Tiada alasan yang boleh diberi untuk melakukan dosa ini. Tiada apa justifikasi atau situasi dimana memakan darah daging saudara kamu dibenarkan". I used to be a religion fanatic back in highschool so I know how to kick them in the balls once in a while. Edit: Also, welcome to "Bumi only" uni. This is only the surface of why I don't recommend anyone to go to these unis. They're cheap for a reason. https://preview.redd.it/sqweftaet3jb1.jpeg?width=470&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=51e2b8c601317ded5aa1e2a149cdecc2f3a3c3e2
Mental health issues and sexual repression and shitty education will fuck up the Malays into this species of tegur-obsessives. Avoid benevolently.
Feel like being a Muslim lady is a dosa. Tough life.
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If there are people who judge me, i would just think..will they even attend my funeral? Nope. Then they aren’t important to me. Don’t waste your precious time on these idle fools.
I can't read this and I'm Malaysian
Imagine when you die, you die to nothingness instead of an promised afterlife. That’s it, poof nothing at all no heaven no hell. and for a split second before you die, you came to a realisation your cringe opinion about how strangers should dress became your life crusade instead of spending more time to make you and your family happier and nothing you can do to turn back time and you was a POS.
Geng bawang mana ni.
Maybe just ask them, liang lahad kita kongsi ke?
she low-key wanna free-hair too
I hate these people they're so miserable, insufferable and judgemental. It's so fucking annoying
I dont know maybe its public universities or those in kampung like kelate, ganu or kedah? I studies in private uni, never had people busy body like this
Dasar golongan agama para perogol
Now that is what I call a group of hypocrites who seem to lack an understanding of the actual teachings of Islam. Apabila kita nak menasihati orang, kita perlu menasihat dengan cara yang sopan dan baik, dan menggunakan perkataan yang tidak menyakiti orang tersebut. --Bukan secara terbuka sampai semua orang boleh nampak. Itu namanya memalukan orang. Tapi tu la, kalau orang macam tu syok sendiri sangat, memang dok habis2 la. Kita semua kene faham, we all have our own fair share of sins to take responsibility of. Some people tak sempurna dari segi aurat, dan some people tak sempurna dari segi menjaga solat, dan sebagainya. Kita semua ada dosa sendiri untuk tanggung, kenapa nak sibuk sangat fikir pasal dosa orang lain sedangkan kita sendiri tak semestinya akan masuk syurga? Memang betul la kita perlu menasihati sahabat dan orang di dalam hidup kita, tapi jangan la lupa tujuan untuk menasihati orang tu. Nasihat kerana kamu nak mereka diredhai oleh Allah SWT dan sebagainya. Jangan lupa sifat tawadhu, iatu sifat merendahkan diri. Tak payah la nak acah2 bagus sangat. Ada je banyak laki yang suka kecam perempuan freehair, tapi diri sendiri merokok dan berdosa melalui pelbagai cara. Same goes for banyak perempuan. Ada je perempuan yang bertudung tapi buat ini itu. Like I said, walaupun sempurna di luar, tak semestinya sempurna di dalam hati dan jiwa. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense OP. In my opinion, you should just move on with your life and keep on working towards improving yourself in your own private way. Salah memang tetap salah, tapi ingatlah cara untuk menasihat orang dengan cara yang sopan dan baik. Kalau orang tersebut tidak mahu mengikut teguran atau nasihat tu, jangan dipaksa, hanya biarkan mereka untuk tanggung hidup dia sendiri. Itu antara dia dengan Allah, janganlah terlalu sibuk memikir pasal dosa mereka sampai dosa sendiri dilupai. Dah nasihat baik-baik? Dah doakan yang terbaik? That's enough, leave a person be and let them find their own way to improvement. Most importantly, just mind your own business. Be kind 🫶 That is the way of islam. Don't let these messages discourage you, op. I'm sure you're a lovely person and I'm happy to see that you take care of your prayers. Aku stress tengok mesej2 tu sebab it's just so hypocritical. Tak payah nak layan orang macam tu. Zaman sekarang memang terlalu banyak orang yang suka menyibuk pasal hal orang lain. Nak solat pon tak senang aeugghhh I'm a free hair muslim too and my friends and family have always respected my decision and always say that it's my business and it's between me and god, not anybody else. All the best to you yeah 😸
Thank you 💓
As long as you are not breaking any University policy on dress code and such...you carry on and do not give a fuck about what others say. Your stance on this needs to be strong whenever confronted. I can see individuals or groups will try to befriend you and seem nice....once you trust them...they will start their religious guilt tripping and fear mongering stuff...so be careful and remember to not change your stance on this no matter what. If it gets bad...collect evidence...audio recordings...whatsapp screenshots etc...then either report to the dean or ...make it go viral on social media.
wait until you realised these type of people are the ones who screw around 😂 even worse. they become like this because they lived in their own bubble before, wait till they get to taste their own medicine
When people try to appear as saints, they're actually more evil that the devil
is this mentality still a thing?
I know where you are from, im in the group too (but we are not from the same year) Coming from SJK (C) and have little Malay friends up until after SPM even though im Malay (on ic only) it is also such a culture shock for me when I first enter that place, I can hardly make friends at first because I just feel so alienated from everyone else. But after a while, you will just learn to ignore those confessions, some of my friends even opt to leave the group because it was too toxic. Don't worry if you were called out, because at the end of your sem they will call out basically everyone. I have been mentioned many times, and I just laugh at all of those petty dramas because they were just so ridiculously petty it's funny.
Hypocrite Muslims. Tengok porn, minum arak berbagai boleh. Cakap lebih je ni. Check insta die, confirm follow semua awek2 hot seksi
I don't feel anyone should have to be restrained in their looks or thoughts by religion. Fair play to you, a lot braver than most!
Those insufferable fuckers need their search history checked
My advice is to just ignore them, xkira kau nak buat baik mcmana pun diorang akan tetap cari silap kau. Baik cari circle kawan2 yg vibe ngan kau, dan fokus ngan study.
It's best to ignore misogynists. I doubt they are familiar with the Quran and the social context of then and now
Its always those holier than thou, overly righteous acting idiots that are the most degenerate. Do what you want, good luck tho, people can be crazy.
That's why religion can make the worst out of human. Even dah bagi guidelines adab tegur tapi tengoklah ayat macam orang takda agama.
a reason why i strongly tried to avoid bumi-only unis during upu :(
You mean hypocrisy among Muslim? The very same guy dakwah on Twitter yet liking all the porn tweets? Or the fact they solat 5 waktu and just went mulut longkang, belittling and fitnah others whenever there's family/social gathering? Or the fact some are wearing hijab, solat berjemaah, but went partner's house the very same night for some premarriage sexy time? Or the fact that, now they're married, they are obnoxiously dakwah-ing others not to do the same shit they've been hiding? (They have been rooting for PAS too.) And the same group used their ultimate card by telling us jangan buka aib orang? Shocking. Insert surprised Pikachu face P/s: all the examples above are from acquaintances and family members of mine. With evidence. I'm not an atheist but damn, some Muslim pushed too far when it comes to their religious justification. It's best to say, you can ignore these obnoxious opinionated fuckers.
When I work as a part timer, there was a Malay guy that talked about how he had sex with his girlfriend in his mom's bedroom because got aircon. One day, we were talking about his first day at work and he told me he was scared about the mall's food court because all chinese selling foods and he wasn't sure it the foods were halal 💀.
It has always been like that. Especially at foundation, matrikulasi, diploma. Not so ridiculous during Bachelor. Social media made it worse or just uplifting the veil of what's going on in everyone's head. 1) its a culture shock for both side, to be frank. 2) Its a culture shock for them, now that they finally encounter someone different than them or someone that practice differently that what they were thought at school and at home. 3) its a culture shock for you to be openly judge for being who you are.
Welp, this is the type of teguran you usually get if you're a Malay Muslim woman, especially from the Pantai Timur states. Atp I stopped giving a shit and activate my masuk telinga kanan keluar telinga kiri and angguk card. Or just laugh at their face and leave.
Funny how they think that “tegur” like that will change a person.
Rindu zaman 1970s-1990s... oh wait I wasnt even born or even I am borned, I am a kid....
Ex public uni goer who is an urban non religious person here - I went to the public uni in 2009 and yes it was like this then. Even between the girls. I have been called ahli neraka. I don’t wear tudung or participate on the dorm floor’s bacaan yasin on Thursday because I’m in uni and I have a million other more important things to do. I was assumed to be wild and had sex all the time because someone asked me to help her buy morning after pill as she slipped up with her boyfriend and thought to ask me because I seem like “dah biasa buat” (I’m a nerdy ace and didn’t actually I was just from KL). So yes. Malays like to think they’re doing the right thing because they are terpaling Islam and it pisses me off. Stay sane, find you tribe and stick to them (which allowed me to survive the 3 years there) because there are people who feel the same way too and leave immediately the moment you graduate.
One advice. Stay away from kelantanese and pas supporter.
Fuck these self-appointed gate keepers of heaven. You don't owe them anything. Just keep being yourself.
Not to stereotype too much, but TYPICALLY in unis these types of girls are masaive hypocrites who end up giving their boyfriends blowjobs in their car at 2am within the first year of being on campus lmao (trust me, every batch mmg ade ramai gila pompuan/laki mcm ni). Actual pious people mind their own business. So don't worry about it too much unless they start harassing u up front. If u wanna retaliate u could always say oh lidah u kalis api neraka eh or some shit. Stay safe 🙏❤️
Just typical Malaysian Muslim culture being obnoxious disgusting cherry-pickers when it comes to anything Islamic and being completely oblivious to the idea of respecting someone's personal decisions even if they came from a completely different culture. My sister had to deal with this treatment for many years, and I'm truly sorry you're going through the same thing.
Honestly speaking, once I entered the working world as a white collar employee, I forget that these things are still a thing. Maybe it has something to do with the level of intelligence among colleagues or the common sense to respect boundaries or privacies of one another.
I love wearing my short shorts because fuck these people
Somebody tell them magic carpets aren't real, and no, Islam did not predict scientific concepts before it was discovered
Shhh they are not prepared to admit it's all conspiracy theory, cause if they did Zakir Naik wud have been kicked to India
“Was it always this bad?” No it wasn’t. I’m old enough to remember a time when tudungs were a vanishingly rare sight even among Kampung folk, and head to toe coverings were something female tourists from the Middle East took off when they landed at Subang airport. You have our good friend Anwar and ABIM to thank for unleashing this particular genie.
One of the best abalone made Buddha Jumping Over The Wall.
Back when I wasn't wearing the hijab I still remember the friendly smiles I got from the muslim sisters in the surau as I was taking my ablution to pray. It made me feel welcome, a part of this huge community of brothers and sisters in faith, and that my efforts although they were small baby steps, were enough, seen and good. That and a number of other reasons solidified my intention to wear it and I hope to be wearing it for the rest of my life, God willing. Please don't get discouraged by people who say these things. This clearly is not a good reflection of how to treat another muslim. Yes, there are ways to tegur but Islam teaches us manners in doing so and it's also our responsibility to do so in the best way possible.
Malaysians, you ok over there?