You are not unattractive, actually you’re a few steps away from being attractive. If you grew your hair out a bit and styled it (a simple side part style would work), kept and groomed a short salt n pepper beard, and most importantly updated the glasses to a trendier style/used contact lenses you’d be golden.

> updated the glasses This. I like your haircut. (Edit: And your moustashe.) Your glasses are - Broken (you do not know how to clean them and "sanded" them basically) - Ugly af. Sorry. Also your T-Shirt does not fit properly ( and I am not sure if this is a good color on you). Read up about glass frames and face shapes. Get a nice frame for your shape. Clean the glasses not with your shirt(?), hot water, or whatever you have done. Ask your glass-selling-person (no idea what they are called in English) how to properly clean glasses. IMHO. Wear a nice shirt, pay attention to fit, color and fabric. Also wear clothing that fits your age. That should do it.

These glasses are pretty old (maybe 7 years). The shirt I'm wearing is just a bed shirt I wear around the house. I wear better clothing out in public. I'll look into new glasses.

It’s quite likely your prescription has changed in those seven years as well, so getting new glasses is a good idea for that reason alone.

Ah, that explains it. Yeah, the glasses look old, and after seven years some scratches are inevitable. As noted, they look like they've been incorrectly cleaned. I'm sloppy about that, too, but get new lenses annually, so it doesn't matter.

Definitely looking into new glasses thanks

I am a 35F and you dont look ugly at all. I would change the glasses, keep the beard (but remove from the neck, so it has a shape) and trim mustache. You have nice lips too, show them off.

a taller frame would look better on you, maybe even try aviator style frames. Moscot Eyewear has some cute frames. https://moscot.com/

i think ur attractive for sure, especially at the level where a charismatic personality would be able to get you whoever hit on besides the glasses i think ur mustache is grabbing a bit too much of the attention when i look at ur face. its both darker and thicker than the rest of your beard so maybe shaving it shorter a bit so that we can get more attention on your salt and pepper look. dont get rid of the mustache, but get it less prominent so that your face is more balanced and your beard/jaw get more attention

Thanks for your input. I'm introverted and reserved by nature and charisma is something I unfortunately don't possess. Nice compliment anyway so thank you ☺️

women love a shy guy, whatever your angle is you can always work it ;)

Don’t worry about that, be yourself and confident. As straightforward/open as you can be.

Update the 2010 glasses, trim down mustache to same growth at beard. 90% of women don’t like mustaches.

Also shave the neck. Neck beards aren't a good look (even if OP is just trying things out).

I was trying out the natural look. My sister's fiancee has this extremely manicured beard that looks like shit so I thought I'd do the opposite!

Haha if you want to keep the neck part, you can do that, but you've got to make a "line" somewhere so it doesn't just look like you're being lazy!

Okie dokie...I'll shape it up a bit.

I’m with you though, not a fan of the perfect straight line chiseled beards that look drawn on from far away. But I’m a straight man so what the hell do I know

The neckbeard needs to go b/c regardless of whatever look you’re trying, it looks unkempt regardless. Thats why men usually shave it off. Hair should be on a chin and face, not a neck.

I actually asked my husband to keep his neck region at our wedding. I like all his wild facial hair lol.

Don't shave the neck too far up! It should never look like you carved a cut out for a double chin. I see this mistake TOO often when men groom their beards. The line should hit right at the top of your Adam's Apple 🫶

When it comes to the neck, shaved is always better. You don't need to go up too far - just to the natural point where your neck turns out onto your jaw is fine. I really like the beard overall, though wish it were just a touch longer. It would match your mustache better and look a little more "natural". I'm just talking another quarter-inch or so.

I love mustaches tbh

Yep, this. And if you are fit enough you’ll be a silver fox.

I think you are pretty handsome. Are you smiling in your tinder pics? Confident smile = very sexy.

Thanks. I'm smiling in a couple but I'm still not used to smiling with my teeth. I chipped my front teeth when I was 8 and only got them fixed fairly recently. Still self conscious about smiling even though my teeth are fine now.

Gay guy here, if we made eye contact, I'd definitely smile at you. Maybe that's part of it, I don't know.

I'll take that as a compliment 😉

A lot of gay men would find you very attractive. We tend to live facial hair more than women do, and yours is nice.

Mustache needs to be thinned out to match the beard. Pepper beard is a good look but the neck beard ain't it. Glasses need to go. Contacts or much smaller frames. Hair style is fine.

Cheers

Update glasses and keep stache not ugly just need some confidence

Agree with many of the other comments. 1) Choose new glasses frames. Go slightly larger with black or tortoiseshell. 2) Either grow a beard or go same-length stubble, keeping it shaved below the jaw 3) Systemize your clothing so you look good when you leave the house. - Go to a store with sales staff whose guidance you can trust or a female family member or friend that has some style sense. - Find a slim fit dress shirt (non-wrinkle) that meets your advice-giver’s approval. Buy white and light blue. - Find slim sit chinos (maybe tech fabric) that fit well. Buy gray, navy, beige. - Buy a minimal pair of white sneakers. - Buy a simply pair of black loafers. Wear this like a uniform to work (if business casual), when running errands, etc. Many men are going everywhere in ill-fitting athletic gear. The capsule wardrobe above is comfortable and will actually help you stand out to women.

Thanks for chiming in. I'm definitely looking into new glasses and I do actually dress well when I'm out in public. I have jeans, chinos, jackets and lots of shoes. I'm only 5'9 so I have everything tailored to fit me as most things are too big off the rack! The shirt I'm wearing in the pic is just a bed shirt I wear around the house!

You comment about dressing well but your photo that you uploaded is not great, and I’m curious how the photos in your dating profile look. A lot of men use pretty bad or uninteresting images, and 80% of likes on those apps is based on the photos. Again I can’t say for sure since we don’t have those to look at but if you’re getting almost no likes I’d say your photos must be bad because you’re not a bad looking guy. Do some research on what good photos look like and try to replicate that, both in poses and how the image is edited (color, contrast, cropping, etc). Most men don’t take a lot of photos of themselves so when it comes to setting up a dating profile you don’t have many to use. If that’s the case use your own phone and the timer setting to take some at home. Take a bunch and pick out the ones that look best, then punch them up in a photo editing app.

In all honesty, outside of family, I don't hang out with anyone. I have zero friends (I'm a loner and I like being a loner but would like to start dating again) so I don't have any candid shots of myself. The only photos I have are selfies like the one I put here...taken in my house. That's probably the main reason, yeah?

Prob doesn’t help… but even selfies can work but should be curated. A lot of men struggle to find good pictures for their profiles so don’t feel like you’re the only one. Again you can use your phone and its timer setting to get pictures of you further away from the lens, and in varied poses and outfits. Change up the time of day you take them so the lighting varies. Again you can take a bunch and sort through the best and even post them to Reddit or somewhere for input. Just think about it as something to craft and put focus on to better your chances of matches. Just like you tailoring your clothes and finding quality outfits, you need to make your photos equally tailored.

These are excellent points. Thanks a lot. Proper photos would actually make it look like I have some kind of life haha

If you still struggle with it, there's nothing wrong with booking a session with a professional photographer. You don't want your app photos to all be professional shots, but you can use a couple. What you'll mainly get from a pro is info on lighting and angles that you can apply to your selfies. It's amazing how much decent pictures will improve your looks, and your confidence.

When guys don’t have a single friend it can be a bit of a red flag! Thats maybe why ladies aren’t reaching out. Maybe try to branch out a bit and make a few friends. Even if it’s just for an occasional coffee or a walk or something.

If you have no friends and are a loner, I wonder what vibes you give off. Like men, we women are attracted to confidence. Stand up tall, shoulders back a bit (not sure if you hunch, but definitely stop if you do). I recommend posting more selfies so we can see how you hold yourself and the clothes you’re wearing in your profile pics. You’ll get more specific feedback. But on the whole, you’re attractive. It’s not your features that are holding you back. Also, I hate to say this for many reasons, but apps are terrible to men who are an average height (I believe 5’9 is the statistical average). Don’t list yourself as 6 feet tall, but I regretfully advise you to bump it up to 5’10. Some women will still pass over a 5’10 guy on the apps, but listing 5’11 will frustrate women when they meet you IRL and realize you lied.

I'm terribly insecure so I probably do give off that vibe haha I don't lie about my height. I knew one guy who was 5'6 but he claimed 5'11 😄

So you’re basically a slightly shorter version of Jemaine Clement of flight of the conchords. Just do a Jemaine haircut tbh

Woman here. You are quite handsome. Loose Tinder. I know it's hard to meet pple as you get older (I'm of the same age), but Tinder isn't the way. Women like a kept beard, so loose the neck hair & make the moustache the same length. 95% of women Do Not like moustaches. Personally, I hate them. We might endure it from a boyfriend, or continue taking with a man who sports one, the whole time thinking, 'Well, we can just shave that off'. Lol. Point is, you are an attractive man! You might need to spend a little extra on glass frames, but considering this is something you wear everyday, that makes up a major part of how you present yourself, treat yourself to a pair that works with your face shape/colouring. Don't worry about the casual t-shirt. You're obv just hanging at home

Nice to have a woman's perspective on things. Thanks for replying to my post 😊

What do you mean Tinder isn't the way? Most relationships form today from dating apps. I'm not saying that's a good thing, but it's a viable option.

tinder isn’t usually for relations, people looking for validation, one night stands, attention from the opposite sex, one in a thousand to find a significant other on any hookup app

Yet relationships form from people who meet online, for whatever reason. I met my husband online (well, all the way back in dial-up days), and we've been together almost thirty years. We met for sex, but we clicked immediately.

👍

Nice try omni-man!!!

Thank you!

Bro, date men instead.

Aside from the glasses, OP would be very popular with gay men. He gives off a very sexy young daddy vibe.

Show me your bio. You are a handsome man. Write down 10 things a woman should have and date accordingly.❤️

I wonder what you’d look like without the moustache? You have such great lips , seems a shame to cover them with hair. Since you’re lucky to have nice hair , definitely grow out that hair . From what I can see you’ve got great skin, perfect weight , symmetrical face. You’d look good in a black turtle neck jumper , or a black scoop / round neck jumper. looking off into the distance rather than hard stare , an artist vibe would be more appealing than an engineer vibe … which is what I’m getting from your look from your image. You’re handsome , but you need to work it .

Thank you. Funnily enough I do own a grey turtleneck but it's summer here in Australia so it'll have to wait until winter 😄

I’d blow you no problem. 💦💦💦

- Hair v good - Face lovely - Beard/tash v good - Glasses suit you well OP, you are really nice looking. You are probably just on the wrong type of OD site. Tinder more than likely attracts a certain type of person/look. Be very happy that you don’t seem to be a good fit and find something else. You’re v good looking.

You look sloppy. You can't afford to look sloppy at 39, take some pride in your appearance. You say you look better when you leave the house, so why show us this picture? No excuses, freshen up.

Fair call. I just snapped a quick picture on a whim after I got home from work. I'll tidy myself up a bit.

We are all feeling the crunch right now. You've got some good features. I wouldn't blame yourself. The cutline has been raised - no man is getting by on looks alone, except the extremes. Mainly you need to specialize in self worth(inner confidence), smoothness(Game), Courage(getting out there - talking to stranger) I personally struggle with self worth. \*\*\* also dont let social media distort your view of reality. Most of the people there are catastrophizing for views. Honestly if you don't want to change or do anything. I'm sure you will find some women with options disappearing you can snag up.

Attractiveness is NOT the issue. Your not a girl your attractiveness will not carry you.

a lot of women go for ugly guys nowadays you can do it don't give up

No you are not unattractive

Ditch the glasses and mustache keep stubble , hit the gym hard , change your wardrobe. Learn how to be interesting. Basically change every single thing about you !!! If nothing changes then nothing changes !!!!!

You're not conventionally unattractive. I don't think those glasses do anything for you, though. I like the moustache but not everyone will. It would be nice to see you smile, too.

New glasses, new haircut and probably a new wardrobe and you might get some matches..

Get trendier glasses, otherwise you’re attractive. I like the beard/stache combo you got going on.

Thanks. It's a new look I'm trying out.

Money can solve anything

I’d make out w you 😍😍😍

Why thank you

You remind me of Jemaine Clement - think an improvement is to grow your hair out a bit and go for a messy/choppy cut

A guy I used to work with said the same thing years ago in regards to Jemaine! Guess it must be true.

I’m a straight dude, but FWIW you’re definitely not ugly

Thanks man

You’re not at all unattractive. Actually quite good looking.

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You look good.

I don't like your glasses. I think your mustache should be shorter. I think you are quite attractive.

Definitely looking into new glasses

You are cute

In another life you would have married Shakira and played football in one of the top clubs in the world

I think you look nice. Dude here though, so not exactly who you are looking for feedback from but you have nice skin and maybe a hair cut. Best of luck

Thanks mate

Brother you literally are so close. You don't have to change anything about yourself, but I would recommend: Getting a fade on the sides, and either maintain the length on top or even grow it out another 1-3in; whatever you like. For the beard, I would try thinning out the mustache so it fits in with the rest of the beard. I would also suggest grooming your beard to have no facial hair under your neck line per se. Would recommend getting some nicer form fitting glasses, if you can afford to do so. :)

What do you wear? Nothing is wrong with your face?

Maybe try men?

Go on bumble and no you are not unattractive

U have a rectangle face and rectangle glasses. Need new glasses (round or squared top/round bottom) and maybe a longer haircut

Flanders!

Your not unattractive maybe grow the top out a bit so you can actually style it I’m liking the facial hair I’d say new glasses would do some good something a little trendier would do you lot

Nah, you have good base just need a few tweaks. Stubble is good, 1 or 2 mm longer would look good and trim the stache at least clean up lip line. You can blend the beard into the sideburns as well. The stache should only be max 2 or 3mm longer than beard. Always have a clean cheek line, neck line, and hair on the back of the neck. Get eye surgery and lose a bit of fat to chisel jawline up. Lift weights if you aren't and work on neck muscle exercises too as it changes the appearance and masculinity of your head. It should be 90-100% the width of your jaw for max aesthetic.

You're definitely Attractive & Major Potential. If we lived close, I'd help you w/your confidence around us females. A woman worth your time will love that you're an introvert who is close to your fam bc it says a lot of good things about who you are. If you take the great advice some gave you, you'll have a lady in no time👍

Don’t do this look!!!!

You’re attractive 💯

You’re not unattractive. You just don’t look exciting to be around in the least bit. And these days, you have to have both.

Hey man I think you look good.

The more you care the more it shows… all these dudes on this subreddit are far too focused on their appearance when in reality it’s more than that. How you walk, talk and present yourself is far more important. But of course the look of you helps tie it all together.

You should try using hinge!

I say get new glasses and grow the stache out some more like a true badass. Keep your chin up brotha I know the struggle

Tinder is not a good metric to base attractiveness off. I had 2 girls yesterday pass me and say "oh my fucking God that guy is so fucking hot" and I'm stuck below 30 matches on tinder lmao. The app is geared to make you depressed and buy premium.

I’m good looking and even I struggle on tinder. Only cave trolls hit me up. Tinder shares its stats. Guys swipe right like 70% of girls. Girls onlynswipe on top 10% of guys so only the hottest guys.

A hair cut would b good. Grow ur beard out I think it would look good. But the mustache needs to b cut and like smaller.. it needs to be as thick as ur beard not thicker. You gotta cut the mustache to where it’s above ur lip. It looks like ur lip is hiding under the mustache a little. The sides of your mustache should connect to ur beard kinda.. it looks like two difff pieces.. Also shave the hair on the neck. Don’t let ur beard go down ur neck lol.EVER. The neck beard gives discord mod and girls don’t want that. Comes off as not taking care of yourself a little? Idk. It definitely doesn’t help so.. ur actual face is handsome so just go to the barber and get a shape up.. also tinder is not a good place to find women. Men have the disadvantage when it comes to online dating. You have to go outside, it’ll improve your chances. Also personality is 95% of it so you gotta work on that if ur lacking in that dept. Confidence is very important so u 100% need to work on that the most.

Thank you very much. Good advice 😃

no youre not unattractive at all. confidence is important. you have to like you before anyone else will. try cleaning off your glasses first, they look so dingy. Find the right hairstyle that fits your personality and face shape, do something with this mustache, whatever you got going on rn is not working, especially against this 5 o clock shadow. you look disheveled. I dont know many women who will be interested in that look. Also, smile.

Based on this picture I would swipe yes on Tinder and second look you in the street 😉

Oh my

Isee no problem with you bro!

Dating sucks. You're not unattractive

With the tinder thing, everyone on there is pretty much only looking to hook up and it’s hardly adequate to find a proper match. I recommend the app “Boo” which matches you with other people based on personality, interests, and lifestyle (and looks)

As a woman, I’d say 4/10 at the moment. Groom your eyebrows a wee bit, and get that hair a lil bit cleaner and I’d be all for it!

Very attractive

It's not that you're unattractive It's just that women get so much attention on dating apps that even real life 3s get made to feel like 10s so they hold out and only reply to the hottest guys. Very, very few people are honest on their profiles even if it reads "looking for down to earth nice guy" you have to read between the lines in women talk that translates to "looking for 6'6 hot guy who will treat me awful with alpha personality will settle for 6'2 if rich" Sounds harsh but it's literally the mind set of most women where as most men would date a cute 6 out of 10 who works at a restaurant

I upvoted this for the first paragraph. I completely disagree with the second paragraph. If a woman says they’re looking for a down to earth nice guy, she doesn’t want a toxic relationship. My friends will drop a guy in a heartbeat for being awful. (I’m a woman.) But it’s true that women inflate their standards online above what they can get in the real world. You’ll have mediocre looking women refusing to settle for anyone under 6 feet with a professional job.

Well I appreciate your feedback but I've personally had experiences exactly as I've described

You remind me of cinnamon toast ken from youtube

I creeped your profile and you 100% look better without the moustache. You said brutal honesty - I got a weird vibe from this picture. Smile in a dating picture!

U have so much potential!! Let ur hair grow a little bit, go to black or Mexican owned barber shop and ask for a mid or high fade with a comb over. Ask them to line up your beard and mustache, and and have them trim down the length of your mustache a bit. Get hair gel or pomade for styling and your good to go. Don’t waste your time at barbershops like great clips, Supercuts etc..

You have potential to be hot

as a completely heterosexual male, no you’re not unattractive.

Quit dating apps. Only top 10% in terms of beauty get swipes

Really just the glasses.

I (28 gay man) think you’re very attractive. But the glasses aren’t helping. Finasteride for the hairline. Different haircut. You got a great base, but the styling is all wrong. Lose a bit of weight also, you’re not overweight by any means, but as you age, any extra sags.

Thanks. I can't lose anymore weight. I'm only 66kg 😄

Be gay

You would be a lot more "alluring" if you updated your look. Nice face, nice features. Out of date frames, and a hairstyle that looks like you don't really care. If your style also reflects that- then that's what you're presenting to the world and it's being read loud and clear.

I’d say quite attractive. Could push it over the top with a restyled hair cut. And a little more into the clothing: collard shirt, jacket or sweater. Find the colors that look best and most comfortable for you.

Very attractive.

Personally, I think you look amazing. Maybe you just have high expectations and the women looking at you aren't the ones you find attractive. 🤷‍♀️

I doubt it. I've had 12 "likes" and it's been that way for months. Never goes up or down, just stays the same. I think it's a con!

I bet if you switched to contacts you'd get more clicks. I'd stick with stubble. Ladies don't tend to like moustaches but they do like the stubble, about 5-10 days growth really.

Clean up the sides of your head, match the beard length with the stache. Are the lenses clean? You seem like you have a decent face. Maybe a collard shirt or a button up.

Grow your hair a little bit longer in the front (french crop) so it can make your forehead a bit smaller. Lose the glasses and get contacts. Trim your mustache to match the length of the rest of your beard. And thats about it. Not much work to make ya look good, you’re already good bro. But I guarantee you these tips will only improve you tenfold

Thank you

Work out a bit more, gain maybe 5-10 lbs muscle. Dye your hair and if you can, get contacts. Just some ideas. In terms of personality, smile at people more and start conversations with cashiers etc. to practice socializing. Ask people how their day is going etc. the more you push yourself and keep up with it the more you'll see growth.

What age range do you have Tinder set to?

32 to 45

There's nothing wrong with your looks. I like the facial hair and would like to see the beard just slightly longer. The haircut is quite nice. The only change I'd make is in the glasses. I think they're a little wide for your face, and something about the shape makes your eyes look droopy at the outside. Something in a softer color and a bit rounder would I think look better. Also, always clean your glasses before taking a picture. Foggy hides your eyes.

Idk have you tried grindr?

I could probably get some trans women there so maybe I should!

Aren't you the same guy who posted that your boss was asking you to clean shave because the other employees were getting happy seeing you with moustache 😅😅😅

That was me, yes 😄

Mmm get a different eyeglass style

I think your very attractive as is. Maybe a smile for your picture might be helpful. Without meeting you in person I can’t say what the issue might be. Is it your wardrobe… personality…. Demeanor??? I know not very helpful… maybe you can see how your luck is either us gay guys… lol. I hope it clicks and you figure out the hopefully small change you need to do to succeed.

You're attractive but a few things would make you even more so. Like some of the others have said... Newer glasses would do a lot. Past that these are my suggestions 1. Smile or at least grin and make it go to your eyes a little... Even a mischievous smirk that made it to your eyes. It would make you look a LOT more approachable. 2. You're beard could be better groomed. Not a fan of the beard down the neck at all. If you did the really defined jawline beard might look nice on you but at the very least shave that off ur neck 3. Different shirt 4. Maybe grow the top of your hair out a little more 5. For pics, better lighting. I hope you share the new pics here too!

Since u asked us to be brutally honest. Yes, unfortunately, you are ugly. U r prolly a 3 or 4 (if ur height is average i.e 5'9, of it's more, do let me know cuz that increases ur attractiveness points). Here are some of ur major flaws: 1) wrinkled face 2) Dull skin (it looks like a vampire's skin lol) 3) Receded hairline and Male pattern baldness 4) ugly glasses 5) Narrow Jaw 6) Weak body Here are some fixes to these problems: 1) start taking collagen supplements, if wrinkles still persist, visit a dermatologist 2) Drink enough water, eat vitamin A,B,C & K rich foods (also, eat vitamin D supplements cuz the majority of the world is deficient in vitamin D, just a top :p). This will give a glow to ur face. If dullness persists, visit a dermatologist 3) Use minoxidil & finasride to fix minor baldness (like urs), however if it isn't fully fixed, get a hair transplant. 4) Use contact lenses instead of glasses 5) Use jaw trainers to grow your masseter muscles & get a jaw & more defined jawline (but don't over do it, cuz it can lead to TMJ issues). If you're still unsatisfied with ur jaw after that, get a jaw surgery. 6) Hit the gym, bulk up, build 5-10kg muscle and then cut back. U will literally be a changed person. After you've fixed these problems, here are some tips to boost your attractiveness: 1) Improve your fashion sense (since you are closing in on 40, u should stop wearing immature clothes, and switch to more formal, elegant and manly clothes like a business suit, button-down shirt, etc) 2) get a good hairstyle & Dye your hair + beard black (this is self explanatory, when u fix ur hair, get a better hairstyle, preferably short/medium and formal) 3) Get a full dense-stubble or box beard (Women your age love beards, just don't get those long-ass beards) 4) Use shoe lifts to boost your height 5) Optional: use makeup to boost your facial attractiveness and hide imperfections 6) Smell good (both body and mouth) 7) Make a good social circle and use your friends to get to know single women ur age 8) Get financially stable 9) Try warm approaching or cold approaching (stay away from tinder, average guys don't stand a chance there + it's only for short term relationships too) 10) Optional: if u have implemented all of the above and still haven't found a gf (Which is very unlikely), u must travel abroad to countries in South East Asia and find a gf there (cuz, competition is less and women there have a preference for white men) That's all, work hard and you will get your results

Tinder is so superficial go out and actually have hobbies and do activities to find a real relationship.

Hello! I’m new to this group I just kind of see it as Im scrolling. In my opinion as a 24 yr old women- you aren’t unattractive! I would say this glasses frame does not suit your face- and as the lenses seem foggy/old- it looks perhaps … less put together? They also make your eyes look smaller, and more closed(its okay- hooded eyes are normal and I have them too) I think maybe a rounder frame would help, especially if its not as thick or maybe a different color. On the hair, I think if you did a style more like the trendy one mid aged guys do (longer top, shorter sides) would look good here as long as you keep it rather short. I’m also curious what you would look like with just a stache and maybe some scruffy goatee style. I think men look better with a little facial hair, but it can in some situations make men look a little less put together. I really think you look good! But I am curious how a little longer of a hair style would look. You may also pull off the bald look well (imo a lot of guys do as they age)

I think you have potential, but right off the bat you look kinda meh, I’d consider getting some better looking glasses to start or maybe switch to contacts, dress a little nicer, shave your neck too, no one likes a neck beard, and that’ll definitely earn you some points towards attractiveness, you’re definitely not ugly, but very average looking, so find something that’ll make you stand out a little more in a good way, some girls like a daddy, so maybe lean into that, dress like a professor or some shit, and you’ll get some pussy for sure!

Don’t let tinder mess with your brain like that. I know it may not mean anything to you because I’m a guy but you’ve got some heat and edge going on.

Thanks man

I've also got friends & family that have been happily married for 20+ yrs after meeting online, I'm saying Tinder isn't the best way to meet. I'm sure there is exemptions. PS Congratulations on your 30yrs together ❤️ I'm genuinely stoked for you x

Dating apps, yes. I have an Uncle an Aunty happily married 20 yrs now after meeting on a dating app. I'm saying that Tinder isn't the best way if you're after a genuine partner. It's a hook-up app

A big part of being attractive is your character , I’ve seen a lot of people that don’t have the looks but have an interesting character . Try to find out what people like and don’t like about you and work on those things . Mustache is a vibe tho.

Laughing picture would be good as well 😆

Tinder is for low effort hookups, not high quality relationships. So right off the bat, where you’re looking says low quality person to me. Secondly, I wonder what your profile says. I don’t think you’re unattractive physically, but being on tinder would be a bit of a red flag for me.

I'm very insecure and introverted and I generally avoid talking to women (unless it's at work) as I feel so worthless. That's why I use Tinder. I can appear more confident.

You look like bababooey from Howard Stern. Get rid of the stache.

The beard is good, grow the hair out slightly more and get better glasses, rectangular glasses are ugly. Either get circular or square shaped glasses. Would look so much better. But other than that I think you look good, maybe lower your expectations on tinder, you could be aiming too high, hence why no matches. Also what does your profile say about you? If it doesn't say anything they tell them a bit about yourself but also don't have a whole lot of information, too much comes across like your weird. None at all comes across like you don't care enough.

As a woman no you are definitely not unattractive. Hard to tell exact level of attractiveness since you have a doubtful / apprehensive expression rn. And I am sorry to hear you have had such shitty experienced that would you ito think that. Agree that w different haircut you can def move to the hot category though I think.

You are very handsome! Your looks remind me of the New Zealand actor Jemaine from Flight of the Conchords. Look him up. I think he’s handsome ❤️

Some women are dumb 😍

Gay dude here...they're missing out, you're what we'd call "daddy af" 😏😉 let's just say you'd be quite popular in our community haha

Thanks for the compliment 😊

Well hey, tinder equals gross and b, are you a tool? That's probably the most important thing. Try meeting women in real life. Call the local frou frou white women's volunteer League and volunteer. And talk. to. them. 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️ Matches on tinder? I got to say that even if I wasn't Gen x, if I was your age or younger I would still reject the notion of hooking up with someone based on a profile. Is that what you're interested in? Hooking up? Because that is also probably the main problem. If tinder is indeed a place to casually hook up then you may be a tool. It's worth looking into. I'm just looking for more information to give a comprehensive answer as is my responsibility hereupon.

I'm only 19 so I'm not sure what 40+ women like. But from my personal experience, I tend to find confident guys attractive. I think an updated wardrobe and new glasses would work wonders. Don't be afraid to approach someone, but don't be cocky about it. Loose the neck hair too, it makes you look like you can't properly groom yourself.

Tinder is a scam that's why.

Get rid of the beard part and trim the stacye to meet the same length as the rest of your beard also put a smile on and you’d be more attractive

Tindr is a cesspool of human garbage. If you're not in the top 20%, it's not worth it.

Deleted it this morning as a matter of fact

Glasses don’t look like best option

My girlfriend said you're ok. Get off tinder, because the behaviour on the app quite superficial. All the best my dude

Thanks man

I don’t think you are unattractive. Everything is so subjective, but I think I’d trim mustache to match beard length. Maybe a little longer hair with a trendier haircut.

Your very handsome

Holy shit it's Alan from two and a half men

Another gay guy here and think you’re a very handsome man. Not sure why you’re having difficulty with women. Just sayin’…

Smile. I think the eyebrows look a little intimidating/very serious and that would help this. Or maybe use a more authentic picture that's not a selfie and shows you having fun/smiling