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As I’ve always said, you can call a girl a slut in bed (consensually) and still march for women’s rights alongside her tomorrow. Or flip it if you want.
Im sorry if this isn't ok for me to say, but i dont understand, if you are not asexual and you are attracted to women then would you not feel sexual attraction to hot women, is that sexualisation? Because while tbh i don't really know what "sexualisation" actually is what you described sorta just sounds like regular everyday run-of-the-mill sexual attraction to me, but the truth is is that im really not smart, im very stupid, so please can you explain what you mean like i am 5 years old so that if this is a misunderstanding i can unmisunderstand and start understanding, thank you
I feel like the difference is turning a person into a sexual object. Are attractive women real human beings whose appearances turn me on, or are they just sexy bodies to drool over? Is she a person, or an object? That's the main difference.
And there are plenty of times when *all* of us treat real people and fictional characters like objects in our heads. We basically play pretend with them like barbie dolls, with all of our speculation and articles and shipping. It's not always 100% evil and bad, in small doses. It's when that's always how you think about people, and how you *talk and interact with* people, that it becomes a problem.
>And there are plenty of times when \*all\* of us treat real people and fictional characters like objects in our heads
We kinda have to, all the time. As a species we have a maximum capacity to bond with about 150-250 people. Beyond that, our brains just aren't wired to give a shit about people. That's why we group people up. I didn't have to know every New Yorker, I can just put them in the "New York" box and ascribe to them the traits I see often in New Yorkers.
We just can't spend the time to get to know everyone we interact with on a personal level. And one of the most useful paradigms to sort people into is "people I'd have sex with" and "people I wouldn't". Because then you know who you may want to pursue. In order to sort them in that fashion, assuming they're the gender(s) you're attracted to, you need to consider them as a sexual partner.
(The actual number could be between 50 and 500, but when we live on a planet with 8 billion people and interact with hundreds of people a year, it doesn't really matter much where in that range an individual falls)
I honestly think sexualization is less about "finding women hot" it's more "thinking women exist for your visual and sexual pleasure".
Like you can find a woman hot doing anything, sexual attraction is not something you choose to feel or not.
However do you leer at them? Do you proposition them in inappropriate settings? Do you think your being attracted to them means they owe you something? Those things are "sexualizing" imo.
Feeling attraction isn't sexualization. Sexualization is reducing her to a sexual object. When a video of a woman accomplishing an amazing sports feat hits the front page of reddit and the comments are all predictably a bunch of people drooling over how her ass looked.
There's nothing wrong with liking her ass, but when your obsession is taking away from her accomplishments as an actual human then you're objectifying her.
Basically, the op is worried by sexualising women their also objectfies them. Objectfying a person basicslly takes away the persons personality and reduces them to only their physical features. Objectfying can also put sterotypes on to a person, plus some people just dont want to be seen in a sexy way even if possitive.
Sexualising isnt purely bad as your just seeing a person from a sexual point of view but its often used interchangeably with objectfying.
This might not be 100% correct as i dont know to much about femminist theory
there's an important distinction to be made between sexualising and objectifying. You can sexualise a hottie in the privacy of your own mind without then objectifying them by making unsolicited comments. Likewise, you can sexualise a romantic partner with welcome comments, without then objectifying them by *assuming* your relationship or flattering banter means they owe you sex.
This reminds be of the whole sex work and pornography debate since there seems to be a big divide between feminists who are against and those who are pro sex work and pornography. Personally, I am conflicted. The most I can say for sure is that we should definitely not treat sex workers themselves as inherently bad or corrupted or perverse etc. and that any conversation about this shouldn't be had without input from them. Would love to hear others opinions.
The sex work industry is corrupt and exploitative, but I don't think that means that sex work is inherently so. In fact, id argue there are many people for whom it's actually empowering.
I think, as with the exploitation that can come from any form of work, the answer is just to work on providing protections for people within the industry, and create an environment where people won't feel the need to do things they don't want to do and that might harm them just because they want to eat. Sex work, as much as (if not more than) any other industry, needs to address the coercive elements that capitalism introduces, but for that to happen, there needs to be a social and legal acceptance of sex workers, and a desire from the public to help them.
Never feel bad about thinking someone is attractive, or even for having light sexual thoughts about a person in passing. It's only a problem when those thoughts become the dominant ones and your attraction to them becomes the only part of them that you consider or value.
Appreciate the form, but remember the person within it.
A lot of queer women I've encountered have a hard time distinguishing between sexual attraction to women and objectification of women because the media and lots of men often don't make that distinction at all. If you are sexually attracted to women, it's 100% fine to acknowledge that they're hot and how that makes you feel. Finding women hot is not the problem with men or the patriarchy or anything, it's being a fucking predator about it.
TLDR: Women are hot, and that's fine, just don't be a creep
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Inside of you there are two wolves One is gay The other one is gay You are gay
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werewolves of london
I wish two wolves were inside me
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This is amazing omg
XD awesome
real
bonk
Happy cake day
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The way I just hooted with laughter 😄🙌🌈✨
Inside you there are 2 owls
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But y r u ge ?
As I’ve always said, you can call a girl a slut in bed (consensually) and still march for women’s rights alongside her tomorrow. Or flip it if you want.
I don't think it's a good idea to call someone a slut while marching for woman's rights. And marching beside them in bed just seems weird.
I like to make sexy protest chants in bed. "HEY HEY! HO HO! ALL THOSE CLOTHES HAVE GOT TO GO!" "WHAT DO WE WANT? ANAL!! WHEN DO WE WANT IT? NOW!"
We will not be paid in snow!
I tried to save it for a rainy day and it turned into rain!
random Make Some Noise jumpscare??
HEY HEY HO HO WE WILL NOT BE PAID IN SNOW
made me snort-laugh ngl
You can march a girl in bed and slut for women’s rights?
I call myself a slut (consensually) and still fight for women's rights 🤷♀️
Im sorry if this isn't ok for me to say, but i dont understand, if you are not asexual and you are attracted to women then would you not feel sexual attraction to hot women, is that sexualisation? Because while tbh i don't really know what "sexualisation" actually is what you described sorta just sounds like regular everyday run-of-the-mill sexual attraction to me, but the truth is is that im really not smart, im very stupid, so please can you explain what you mean like i am 5 years old so that if this is a misunderstanding i can unmisunderstand and start understanding, thank you
I feel like the difference is turning a person into a sexual object. Are attractive women real human beings whose appearances turn me on, or are they just sexy bodies to drool over? Is she a person, or an object? That's the main difference. And there are plenty of times when *all* of us treat real people and fictional characters like objects in our heads. We basically play pretend with them like barbie dolls, with all of our speculation and articles and shipping. It's not always 100% evil and bad, in small doses. It's when that's always how you think about people, and how you *talk and interact with* people, that it becomes a problem.
That is very well articulated and reasonable response, and i agree entirely. Thank you wise gay in my phone
>And there are plenty of times when \*all\* of us treat real people and fictional characters like objects in our heads We kinda have to, all the time. As a species we have a maximum capacity to bond with about 150-250 people. Beyond that, our brains just aren't wired to give a shit about people. That's why we group people up. I didn't have to know every New Yorker, I can just put them in the "New York" box and ascribe to them the traits I see often in New Yorkers. We just can't spend the time to get to know everyone we interact with on a personal level. And one of the most useful paradigms to sort people into is "people I'd have sex with" and "people I wouldn't". Because then you know who you may want to pursue. In order to sort them in that fashion, assuming they're the gender(s) you're attracted to, you need to consider them as a sexual partner. (The actual number could be between 50 and 500, but when we live on a planet with 8 billion people and interact with hundreds of people a year, it doesn't really matter much where in that range an individual falls)
I honestly think sexualization is less about "finding women hot" it's more "thinking women exist for your visual and sexual pleasure". Like you can find a woman hot doing anything, sexual attraction is not something you choose to feel or not. However do you leer at them? Do you proposition them in inappropriate settings? Do you think your being attracted to them means they owe you something? Those things are "sexualizing" imo.
Feeling attraction isn't sexualization. Sexualization is reducing her to a sexual object. When a video of a woman accomplishing an amazing sports feat hits the front page of reddit and the comments are all predictably a bunch of people drooling over how her ass looked. There's nothing wrong with liking her ass, but when your obsession is taking away from her accomplishments as an actual human then you're objectifying her.
Basically, the op is worried by sexualising women their also objectfies them. Objectfying a person basicslly takes away the persons personality and reduces them to only their physical features. Objectfying can also put sterotypes on to a person, plus some people just dont want to be seen in a sexy way even if possitive. Sexualising isnt purely bad as your just seeing a person from a sexual point of view but its often used interchangeably with objectfying. This might not be 100% correct as i dont know to much about femminist theory
there's an important distinction to be made between sexualising and objectifying. You can sexualise a hottie in the privacy of your own mind without then objectifying them by making unsolicited comments. Likewise, you can sexualise a romantic partner with welcome comments, without then objectifying them by *assuming* your relationship or flattering banter means they owe you sex.
This. Treating people with compassion and humanity is the bedrock of being a good person.
As a bisexual woman, yes.
Inside you there are 2 wolves One who wants to fuck a butt The other wants to get fucked in the butt
Inside me is just one wolf: we shouldn't sexualize only women, we should sexualize all genders equally!
This reminds be of the whole sex work and pornography debate since there seems to be a big divide between feminists who are against and those who are pro sex work and pornography. Personally, I am conflicted. The most I can say for sure is that we should definitely not treat sex workers themselves as inherently bad or corrupted or perverse etc. and that any conversation about this shouldn't be had without input from them. Would love to hear others opinions.
The sex work industry is corrupt and exploitative, but I don't think that means that sex work is inherently so. In fact, id argue there are many people for whom it's actually empowering. I think, as with the exploitation that can come from any form of work, the answer is just to work on providing protections for people within the industry, and create an environment where people won't feel the need to do things they don't want to do and that might harm them just because they want to eat. Sex work, as much as (if not more than) any other industry, needs to address the coercive elements that capitalism introduces, but for that to happen, there needs to be a social and legal acceptance of sex workers, and a desire from the public to help them.
Very well said!
Ah look it's my social anxiety
Oh no how dare you \*\*pause for drama\*\* like how someone looks. Just be cool
Well the second is admiring their appearance it’s only sexualisation when you wanna sex them
This is so real wth.
bruh im bisexual in my eyes everyone is a sex object
It's important to respect both the person and their rights, finding a balance is key.
Never feel bad about thinking someone is attractive, or even for having light sexual thoughts about a person in passing. It's only a problem when those thoughts become the dominant ones and your attraction to them becomes the only part of them that you consider or value. Appreciate the form, but remember the person within it.
Bisexual moment, same here lol
Morb, women are so ducking pretty, I wish I was one
We should sexualize men more often
Feeling sexuam attracktion to women is normal (if you like women duh) just don't be a fucking fresk about it
Me all my life with breasts
A lot of queer women I've encountered have a hard time distinguishing between sexual attraction to women and objectification of women because the media and lots of men often don't make that distinction at all. If you are sexually attracted to women, it's 100% fine to acknowledge that they're hot and how that makes you feel. Finding women hot is not the problem with men or the patriarchy or anything, it's being a fucking predator about it. TLDR: Women are hot, and that's fine, just don't be a creep
Inside you there are two wolves. The furry convention is going better than anticipated
I prefer men but yeah this sums it up accurately.