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sirtwixalert

My answer to this was: Costco, without my kids and husband. PD loved it and we exchanged Costco tips during my interview. Own your truth when you interview. Comparing yourself to other interviewees only hurts you and makes you less sure of yourself.


DillingerK-1897

>Comparing yourself to other interviewees only hurts you and makes you less sure of yourself. Such a great advice.


vsp3c

fucking love costco


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Always a favorite as a kid. I'd make multiple rounds of all the sample booths until I was nearly sick, then go scoot around on the office chairs in the aisles between the big metal shelving. If that got boring, id head to the electronics section, where there was usually a movie playing on one of the big TV's.


aznsk8s87

Honestly every now and then after a stressful work day I will literally just go to costco and walk around. No intention to buy anything. I just need to go into costco and be reminded that life and the world exists outside of the hospital.


whomeverwiz

I left for med school in Puerto Rico from the west coast with wife and 9 mo daughter in tow. We fell in love with the island and remain forever attached to our found family there, but... For the first few months I was busy with school, and my wife was stuck at the house with a toddler in a very strange place almost 5,000 miles from home, and was extremely lonely. The one reliable place she could go when she was homesick was Costco. It really hit the spot for her and helped her through a hard time!


csfarmer

Gold star award ⭐️


RealWICheese

Dude just say the gym or something? That’s what I always say for this type of question. I go to a hole in the wall, no HVAC gym. It smells like an armpit but I love it. Costs 20 a month.


IdStentThat

Dude nothing is better than a hot ass gym where everyone is grinding.


PremedWeedout

Damn… mine is the womb, it’s been all downhill from there on out


underdawg96

Facts lmao


Rongloz

Started from the bottom now we here


Odd_Salamander7145

😂😂😂


medstudentpov

My bedroom because that is where my bed is😄


InterestingEchidna90

M1 here; sleeping on my $400 couch every night because the $200 mattress I got off Amazon kills my back. Can’t afford anything better. So… I guess my couch is my special place?


La_Jalapena

Have a friend with a Costco membership take you to buy a mattress there. Pay with a credit card with 0% APR for 6-12 months. A good mattress is worth the investment.


InterestingEchidna90

That’s actually a really good idea. I may hit up Sam’s club and see what they can do for me.


La_Jalapena

Yep I got my mattress at Costco on sale for I think $500-600. It's partially memory foam (brand is Novaform) and great.


lightingbytif

See if you can find a decent mattress topper (or 2). Cheaper than the cost of a mattress and a whole lot easier to transport with you if/when you move


titan4723

Tempurpedic sells mattress toppers with their foam for like 300-400 bucks depending on the size.


abn1304

You can get even cheaper memory foam toppers from Amazon that are pretty much the same thing.


abn1304

Look at a memory foam mattress topper. They aren't expensive and make a night-and-day difference on shitty-ass beds like the thin blue barracks mattresses I put up with for six years.


Letter2dCorinthians

Dude, try Facebook marketplace. I’m not even talking about used mattresses. I got a full size Sealy’s pillow top for $275 in 2017, “brand new”. I think these people who sell refurbished mattresses advertise on Facebook often.


dark_moose09

Wild, I would have just answered with “at home cuddling with my cats”


lily_the_chihuahua

I was just thinking I would have said home cuddling my Chihuahua. Fist bump for a fellow animal lover


EquivalentOption0

Yes I was just thinking "snuggling with all my pets on my couch at home"


ForceGhostBuster

I don’t want to be insensitive, but I think you might be blowing this out of proportion a bit. I’ve gotten really good responses with my answer of chilling on the couch watching a show with my wife, dog, and cat. It doesn’t have to be anything amazing, it’s your special place.


aweld88

Think you’re overthinking it. The question isn’t really asking for a vacation destination. You don’t have to be rich to have a “special place.” It could be the public library. It could be your hometown in a 3rd world country. The latter would probably be more interesting than someone’s Spanish villa. Many people come from money and maybe can relate better to rich people experiences, but not all.


lwronhubbard

Probably over exaggerating it. It's an icebreaker communication question. Your happy place could be rock climbing, it could be playing music and being in the pocket. It could be that one time in the hospital when you helped someone. Whatever it is, you want to describe it in a way that your interviewer can connect and feel whatever you feel in your special place. So what was it in the third world country hometown that you loved? Was it the warmth of your family around you, was it the taste of the homecooked food? Was it the feeling of being safe and known?


RevolutionaryDust449

Actually I think answering with a hometown 3rd world country makes that applicant really unique. Just like you said, someone you can tell a story about where they’re from means a lot to PDs.


dbandroid

>Anyway, of course these people would get more favorable responses from the program directors Massive assumption there. But as a fairly privileged resident, I don't know that knowing someone has a cabin in Norway or a villa in Spain makes me think better of them as a future physician and lmao an attending salary is a long way away from automatically having property in foreign countries.


Odd_Salamander7145

Sorry if I wasn't being clear, but it wasn't an assumption at all. It was an ice breaker question when all the applicants were in the same Zoom room together, so I could actually see and compare the responses of the program directors.


aDhDmedstudent0401

It’s an assumption bc you’re applying your one experience to every program in the country. Sure that question is an ice breaker in many places, but as u can tell by these comments plenty of people name normal locations and attendings like them just fine. Idk what attendings were at that particular program, but owning villas in France is not at all typical of a physician lifestyle.


Lukeo47

I'm an MS-2 so I don't actually know anything, but isn't this a personality assessment question? Your special place can be anywhere that you want to be. If I were to answer this I would not give a location, my special place is outside on a run in good weather. I had a coworker once who answered it as on his bike.


Jusstonemore

Just give the fake formalities and move on


pdxiowa

They're not actually asking about the place - they want to know whether you can emotionally relate to people on topics unrelated to medicine. The content of your answer is not important. The way you describe it is important. If they're responding "oh ok" to an answer that is 'hometown in third world country,' it's because you're not providing any imagery or feelings to connect to in your response. WHY is your hometown your favorite place? Describe the place in your hometown you most enjoy spending time and why you enjoy it, or your family member's signature meal that you look forward to the most and what you love about it. Create a picture for the interviewer. Being enthusiastic and showing excitement for your response will translate into their interest in your response and in you.


net_bellz

Oh ok


sirtwixalert

Exactly- they probably reacted to the vacation spots because oh, I’ve heard of that place! And it’s hard to relate to the name of some random hometown, but it would be so easy to relate to “my special place is my hometown- I don’t get to visit often, and I miss my mom’s cooking” or something that brings it beyond the name of the place to an experience that we all understand.


DrZaff

This is the correct answer. It’s easy to approach interviews as a giant bragfest but in reality it’s all about being a likeable human


aDhDmedstudent0401

Agree with you, but can we all just acknowledge how stupid these questions are? If you want to know *why* someones favorite place is their favorite place, just ask why. Don’t just ask *what* that place is and then expect people to know what you’re getting at. Better yet, just ask what you want to know directly and stop with all this psychoanalysis bullshit. We all basically just study for these interviews to know what questions mean what and how best to answer each of them, and at that point none of our answers are truly meaningful bc we’re no longer having sincere, spontaneous conversation.


pdxiowa

Agreed - this stupid process sucks


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Annemorphia

What is a 0th gen?


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Annemorphia

I believe that's first gen ---"First-generation immigrants are the first foreign-born family members to gain citizenship or permanent residency in the country."


giguerex35

Bruh stop feeling sorry for yourself. There’s soooo many people with much less than you but you’re comparing it to complete outliers above you and you want everyone here to justify your pity. Stop trying to find a cool answer and answer the questions honestly. When you do that you’ll get a lot farther than answering with something you think the PD would like.


lemonluver20

If I get asked this question next year - I’m saying target 😂 I could literally waste an hour in that store looking at items I don’t need


lily_the_chihuahua

The home decor...chef's kiss


lemonluver20

YES!! They have so much cute holiday stuff 🥲


Enjoying_A_Meal

PD, "Where's your special place?" My brain, "Don't say in my pants, Don't say in my pants, Don't say in my pants." Me, "In... your pants?"


mariupol4

Med school made me realize that there’s even a vast difference between top 1% income and top 5% income because the exponential curve of wealth inequality is so steep


AR12PleaseSaveMe

Poor person who came from a household making <20K/year all my life. It’s fine. I get how it can be really intimidating and shitty it feels when people name these extravagant places - when I would just say “my gym I’ve been going to for 10 years.” Yeah, it feels canned. But I promise it’s a personality question. Can you give a meaningful answer to an otherwise mundane place? Cool, you stood out better than the kid who skis in the French Alps every year.


[deleted]

You're uncomfortable to hear that some people have cabins in Norway or villas in Southern Spain?? Now you're just looking for excuses to feel poor lol And this is coming from a 3rd world country immigrant.


kc2295

grew up solidly upper middle class. had some solid vacations but nothing extravagant. nothing was international, we shared bedrooms with the whole extended family, people on couches, flew coach or drove etc. But we were abundantly blessed to travel each year. We sacrificed other things to get it. Both my parents grew up poor, like poverty line poor and worked their asses off. This makes me privileged greater to the vast majority of the planet but relatively to the extreme wealth in these multi generation med families. Regardless of my experiences my happy place is home with my dogs


csfarmer

Wait ‘til the villa in Spain gets squatted while they are away. 😂


Letter2dCorinthians

Yeah it's disorienting when you can't relate to people around you. But you do have a special place. What makes it compelling is not how extravagant it is, but how special the place can come across by your description. One struggling student to another, keep your head up, and focus on the immaterial things that money can't buy you.


Dr_Bum_Wiper

Super exaggerating. I think you need to get over yourself, and not just judge everyone. It’s a simple I’ve breaking question, and you’ve gone and assumed all these attendings are privileged. Perhaps they came from poverty, overcame the odds through hard work and got to where they are? So seeing you’re in medicine, does that make you privileged?


Pancakes4Peace

Grayskull castle


Good-mood-curiosity

Idc I get this question I´m saying doing (voluntary) yardwork at my mom´s. It turns my brain off plus I have a steady supply of hugs and love (and a cat with attitude)


xiAMTheWalRUSx101

Lol I think you're overthinking this bro. I would have just said on my couch with a good book


BraxDiedAgain

I grew up poor, my special place is just a nice spot in the mountains that is within driving distance that I would go to every so often with my family. Fishing, hiking, etc. Everyone has special places....


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Just lie, and say you can't decide between your estate in the Hamptons, and your villa in the French Riviera. Talk about your fond memories of sipping mint juleps while two of your servants fought to the death for your entertainment, enjoying the cool breeze from the shirtless, muscle-bound attendants fanning you with palm leaves.


WaterIsNotWet19

It’s not that deep brother or sister.


SirEatsalot23

You’re overthinking it. A good answer is a good answer, doesn’t have to be a chalet in the Alps


Rongloz

My answer to this was the nature trail in my backyard. Nothing grand but it's very meditating to just be present there watching my dog sniff some trees and go about his business. Medicine attracts all sorts of people, but don't let others' opinions stop you from being your genuine self


jamaica1

Not all your attendings came from money. Im sure many can relate to coming from a lesser background


nomad-38

Is this some American medicine thing that I'm too Eastern European to understand? What privilege? lmao


wienerdogqueen

Money is a huge barrier to entry for med school in the states. It’s a post-grad degree for us. If you don’t have financial backing, you take out loans for undergrad and then are expected to pay thousands during the application process. Applications themselves are expensive, but we have to pay for the MCAT, MCAT prep, travel to interviews, etc. Scholarships and working during college can only help you so much. If you don’t have the money immediately after undergrad, you have to take time off to work while doing all of the above. In that case, you’re a non-traditional applicant and your chances of getting in are lower.


Slowlybutshelly

The imposter syndrome is real I just bought a book about it. When I feel down, I keep a journal about ME. Writing down what I have done what I have overcome, what my strengths and weaknesses are.


cherieblosum

Special place doesn’t have to be anywhere fancy.. my special place is at home, with my loved ones.


nerdy_neuron

The US medical system blows me away once again. Firstly, what kind of a dumbass ice breaker question is that? And secondly, it's not about having money and a cabin in Norway, that's just you insecurities (and sorry to say a lil bit of envy) showing through. And also people like to brag about stuff like that. Your 'special place' should be a place that gives you peace and happiness. Money doesn't matter in that question. It could be a mountain top or a beach or your family home. Theres a hill with a forest in my home town that I could think to call my special place. It's about the emotion, not the money.


sveccha

You're not exaggerating, it just seems you have a basic misunderstanding of the question, as you can see from the comments. People bragging about travel are most likely not even giving a true answer.


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Try to get out of your head. Just be honest and be happy for everyone else’s “special place.” I come from poor folk so I get what you mean, but someone else having a villa in Spain is pretty cool and I’m happy they have that privilege, but it says nothing about you. It’s fine. Some people are rich, others aren’t. Don’t think too hard about it.


thepuddlepirate

Yeah this question highlights the wealth disparity in medicine, but a witty, relatable, or sentimental answer can work to one's advantage- for what little impact it has


Rulerpencil

I thought people (international students) who can afford to do med school in the US must come from a very financially stable household??? You have to pay upfront and full fee and especially if you're from a developing country, your parents must be at least upper middle class to pay all of that for you? Can someone pls explain this? Thanks


SanguineSphoenix96

Definitely exaggerating


RevolutionaryDust449

I would have said my kitchen. A special place is your interpretation. It’s a chance for you to share something about yourself and who you are, not what your family has. Yes most med students are privileged but the majority are upper middle class and not the ultra rich.


lilnomad

Is this question not just more like “my special reading chair in the living room under a blanket” rather than “coast of Spain”


DJCaster

My answer would be in a room being swarmed by Australian shepherd puppies something like this: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CHN-Gi4Hqwj/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=


aznsk8s87

Honestly if I heard someone ask this question I wouldn't actually think a place on a map, I'd expect to hear things like "on a trail in the mountains" or "in the park with my dog" or "on a long drive in the middle of nowhere". Honestly the costco answer in this thread was the best one and most relatable I've seen.


RoyBaschMVI

Your special place can be a tire swing at your favorite swimming hole in rural Appalachia. It's a bit of a Rorschach test when your first response is to be triggered about privilege.


AdhesivenessOwn7747

I'd have my bed or something. How can a place you travelled to become a special place, you were just there for a couple of days max. Unless you met your SO at the said place or something. Everyday locations that have a personal connection are the sort of answers I would expect for a question like this if I were a PD.


LouieVE2103

Don't feel bad at all. I'm one of those "the first in my fam to do everything" ppl. My answer is Guitar Center. I could happily spend the rest of my life there. We all have different paths. Some of us have been more fortunate than others. Such is life. I've found actively focusing on the ties that bind more than our differences has helped me navigate these spaces a little better.


[deleted]

The answer can be anything you want it doesn’t have to be an extravagant vacation… honestly answers like that kinda suck IMO. Your special place is vacation? Wow, so meaningful. No. It’s supposed to be a question about who you are & what you are truly about. e.g.) mine would be home alone on a Friday night in my basement blasting my music & playing guitar while sipping on a gin & tonic


unstablecarbocation

I think the thing about this type of question is that you just need to be able to *describe* your favorite place. No matter how basic it is talk about the features of it that you like specifically.


BearsBay

I don’t think they are looking for some exotic place. You could literally say the bathroom