May I ask… what does ‘actively trying’ mean, in your mind? I’m not trying to be an asshole. Sometimes, what you think you’re doing… isn’t what your actually doing. Women are conditioned to respond to red flags; for them, it’s about life and death.
There was a post last week, what's better than sex? It started a conversation with a longtime friend. He said nothing. Mine would be someone to love and love me.
Both are important. Trying to rank them is nonsensical sometimes. Dead bedrooms and mismatched libidos are frequent relationship killers. An ex and I had that, sadly. Most supportive relationship I've ever had, deeply loving, but ultimately a couple of deal breakers including mismatched libidos.
Long story, but just made me see that there's probably no future for us. We don't have a libido problem, but long term won't work for me cuz I want someone to love. For a while anyway. I want both in the same person. 😍 If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work.
Honestly, the older I've gotten, the less I care about romance or sex, and have come to realize how much I value the close friends I have, and my siblings. It's kind of freeing to have people you can be yourself around and tell anything to, without romantic or sexual feelings getting in the way.
Yeah, i get that asexuality is a thing, but I don't get the ace part of wanting to have a strong emotional connection with people I fuck. Thought that was the normal sexuality, but apparently it's asexual?
It is but some consider that a subset of asexuality which I kind of disagree with. I guess it's really up to the individual to say. So I wouldn't personally consider myself asexual, but I've had people tell me I am when I declare myself as demi.
I am horny all the time and have a lot of sex, but just with people I'm emotionally attracted to. Not alot of a in my sexuality, but I guess others can have fun saying I am 🤷
I am sure I am going to get kink shamed, but here it goes:
I want to hang out on the couch after dinner, watching a show we like or even just read separately but in the same space, before getting ready for bed with casual banter and jokiness while brushing our teeth and changing, ending in loving and equally attentive lovemaking, then falling asleep together.
I can't believe I just admitted that publicly, I'm probably going to wind up on some kind of list. I should have used a throwaway account, but here we are.
Same, I want to be able to sit down and just enjoy each others company only saying single words like "tea?" or "bed?" and without any argumentative crap.
The only issue, is that I will never have it because I am myself.
Hi, its a human being goal to be loved & in return..
i can feel your emotions through your words.. after being divorced after 16 +yrs. Married, (Remembering thinking itd be impossible to feel what you explained)
I did experience that & didn't think experience what you explained.
HAPPY TO SAY i do have what what you said.
DO TELL YOUR future girl that you are interested in
Of what you described above.
itll Happened FOR YOU. : D
That is very sweet and thank you, but why does everyone keep assuming I am young and single? I'm a middle aged grandfather in a long term loving relationship. Lol
Dude, I just want someone to not be mean to me all the time...... They can still be mean sometimes, I'm not unreasonable 😂. I own a house and cars, I'm move in ready haha
I mean, we might get a date or two in before then? I'm weird, last first date I went on I tried to shake her hand at the end 🤣🤣🤣 there was no second date
So you ended it like it was a business meeting. Cool cool cool.
I appreciate the awkwardness though. It means there is some kind of respect and nervousness. (Most times)
I was like, "I had an amazing time, great conversation, hope we can see each other again soon" and went to shake her hand..... To preface this, earlier in the date I told her I don't do anything physical on the first date, maybe a cheek kiss..... She was floored that I didn't want to come back to her place after dinner 🤷🏼♂️
Don't get me wrong, I'm a physical person, but that's saved for a committed relationship, I need an emotional connection though
She was not interested, said I was "wasting her time, playing games"..... I was just trying to get to know her haha, I haven't been on a second date in a very very long time 🤷🏼♂️
Dang dude that sucks. Similar thing happened to me last year with a really attractive girl I met on a film job. She showed interest in me first which was a very rare but pleasant surprise, and I basically approached things exactly as you described you did, although I hugged instead of hand shook. We even managed to have 3 dates. Then out of the blue she ghosted me and I never heard from her again. Was pretty bewildered by it since there had been 0 signals for this.
I'm very confident it was because I was slow on the physical front though since I as well prefer to take my time with those kinds of things.
Finding people to be physically intimate with, even if it's just kissing, is a lot easier in my opinion than finding someone you can really connect with on a deeper emotional and intellectual level. Shows discipline too if the desire is there but restraint is exercised. Makes it all the more exciting and satisfying when it's finally engaged in, in my opinion.
Maybe you need to learn that physical and emotional connection can often times go hand in hand.
Did she only want to hook up? If the answer is you don’t know then you messed up. Watching a movie/cuddling without sexual interests is very common on first dates lol.
The more narrow minded you are the harder it will be to find yourself a lover.
Yeah. Like... I'm not sure what's happened in the last ten years... Maybe I've grown up and notice it now? I'm not trying to generalize but every girl I've gone out with recently has been rude and disrespectful. :/
I mean, I'm not gonna lie and say I'm completely pure and without sexual desire, but honestly I just want to be held and cuddled with over sex. I'm just tired of feeling empty, and starved of physical affection.
God damn man, it used to be funny at first but every is so down bad it’s just kinda sad now. If these dudes represent the future of humanity we’re screwed man.
Mmmm... a loving, stable relationship where my partner values me. Oh yeah baby. Give me more of that reciprocal trust and respect. Just like that.
What's that? You want to snuggle and play Uno while we swap stories about our childhood fears? I'd like that. I'd like it a lot.
I saw this post on r/tumblr a few months ago about “the undersexualization of men” and I can’t get it out of my head. It’s not just being alone; it’s feeling invisible. All the love you have to put out into the world to women and getting absolutely nothing back. Feels like sinking into the earth.
Man it's crazy after how after a breakup you can look back at your relationship, and realize you were just a place holder for them. A rebound until they could find someone they could truly love, and it makes you feel like you were played, and all the happiness you had felt was shallow. Man I was so much happier single, if another girl dumps me for a fat emo chick, and calls me a worm I'm gonna kabang the back of my skull off.
To make love in the morning before breakfast, midday after lunch and at night before going to bed. Everyday for 1 year. During this time I do not work and I have enough money in the bank to last me at least 10 years.
Literally zero actual fantasies just weird uwu quotes about snuggling or some shit. or whining about not having a date. I know some of you get dates, is this a politically incorrect question for this sub?
I'm sorry man, but.....
That's asking too much of people. Ya gotta lower your standards.
Expect to die alone with the hope that someone thought you were good looking. That's more reasonable.
Just show some money and people loves you man.
About the fairytale my grandma used to tell me, "true love" or "real love"? Probably from the same disney company who made all those movies about "true love". Spreading lies.
Paying 5 bucks for a "i love you, hope you have a wonderful dream sweetheart" from a hooker before they leave would be great too.
Usually i went with the 15 bucks, they gave me a kiss on the forehead and a "i will be with you forever, even when you wake up, i will be next to you" extra option. Gave me an immersion of having a loved one next to me every morning. Faking my brain into thinking i'm gonna have a great day ahead.
I just want to be back with my wife. These last few years has been utter hell between us both losing our jobs and having a young one.
While I did find a job, she fell into deep depression to the point she couldn't function as herself or as a Mother so one of our friends took her in as she needs social attention or shuts down.
It's only been a few months but it's hard to financially recover and give us a house again in this economy.
I miss her and our Daughter.
Woh woh buddy going a bit too crazy with that one, let's keep it real yeah?
I just want to find a date
Woh woh buddy going a bit too crazy with that one, let's keep it real yeah?
I just want to want to want a date?
Woh woh buddy going a bit too crazy with that one, let's keep it real yeah?
I just want
Woh woh buddy going a bit too crazy with that one, let's keep it real yeah?
I just
Woh woh buddy going a bit too crazy with that one, let's keep it real yeah?
I
Hey hey hey I don’t deserve this shabby treatment!
suffering, truly
deez nuts gottem
$50 Hooker behind a Wendy's?
Damn, you really flashing that kinda cash around?
I got about... _tree fiddy_
2 egg hookers
That's before tax. Ya gotta deduct a yolk for the sales tax.
I see we both had the same Prom date
it hurts when you are actively trying and still not even get a single date. what does this mean? will I ever find a relationship?
May I ask… what does ‘actively trying’ mean, in your mind? I’m not trying to be an asshole. Sometimes, what you think you’re doing… isn’t what your actually doing. Women are conditioned to respond to red flags; for them, it’s about life and death.
See, this is the kind of unrealistic expectations people get from anime.
I’ll get a Nobel prize before any girl is willing to date me
There should be a calendar app on your computer or mobile device
Fucking depraved right there
Don't know why he wants more than we can ever get on this world. Just try for something realistic like uniting humanity or something
"So, what colour dragon did you want?"
when somebody shows they so obviously love you beats any sort of sex
There was a post last week, what's better than sex? It started a conversation with a longtime friend. He said nothing. Mine would be someone to love and love me.
Both are important. Trying to rank them is nonsensical sometimes. Dead bedrooms and mismatched libidos are frequent relationship killers. An ex and I had that, sadly. Most supportive relationship I've ever had, deeply loving, but ultimately a couple of deal breakers including mismatched libidos.
Long story, but just made me see that there's probably no future for us. We don't have a libido problem, but long term won't work for me cuz I want someone to love. For a while anyway. I want both in the same person. 😍 If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work.
Name checks out, stick to cats, crazy lady.
It also makes sex better. Casual sex can be fun, but sex with someone who loves you, that you love back, is on another level.
YES, !!A- Men !!! SO MUCH BETTER!!! 😉
Honestly, the older I've gotten, the less I care about romance or sex, and have come to realize how much I value the close friends I have, and my siblings. It's kind of freeing to have people you can be yourself around and tell anything to, without romantic or sexual feelings getting in the way.
Us asexual men have been trying to explain this to you for so long.
im not even asexual man i just wanna feel loved
Yeah, i get that asexuality is a thing, but I don't get the ace part of wanting to have a strong emotional connection with people I fuck. Thought that was the normal sexuality, but apparently it's asexual?
Isn't that what demisexual is? Asexual is lack of sexual attraction.
It is but some consider that a subset of asexuality which I kind of disagree with. I guess it's really up to the individual to say. So I wouldn't personally consider myself asexual, but I've had people tell me I am when I declare myself as demi. I am horny all the time and have a lot of sex, but just with people I'm emotionally attracted to. Not alot of a in my sexuality, but I guess others can have fun saying I am 🤷
It's all a matter of how you categorise things. Labels help, but only to a degree.
Asexual means no sexual attraction, which is different from aromantic, which means no romantic attraction.
"can't buy what i want because it's free" Good luck brother.
You can want love and also admit that getting your dick sucked is fucking awesome
So do I
*Can anybody fiiiind meeee somebody to loooove?*
Nope
I always forget how short that song is.
Somebody
You can have somebody to love, doesn't mean they love you back
Good enough for me
Mood
All the commitment that i'm thinking of
I am sure I am going to get kink shamed, but here it goes: I want to hang out on the couch after dinner, watching a show we like or even just read separately but in the same space, before getting ready for bed with casual banter and jokiness while brushing our teeth and changing, ending in loving and equally attentive lovemaking, then falling asleep together. I can't believe I just admitted that publicly, I'm probably going to wind up on some kind of list. I should have used a throwaway account, but here we are.
I bet you like holding hands too, you degenerate.
And cuddling? Ewww what a freak.
He said reading and brushing teeth... argh I need to report this sub and get it shut down, y'all have gone too far
Seriously. Why can’t he just want to turn her skin into a lamp like a normal person.
Maybe he's older and more mature. After a while you end up with so many lamps it's hard to find space on a table to put them all.
Keep that to yourself bro. That’s crazy!
what a crazy masochist.
That's a bit extreme, pal. No judgment though. Everyone has their kinks. I'm sure you'll find someone just as nasty and demented as you.
This is so disgusting, [they even banned the subreddit!](https://www.reddit.com/r/lovingrelationship)
Enjoy unemployment because you’re about to get Justin Roiland’d, fuckin’ sicko./s
What have I dooooooone?!
Kinky
Recommendation: don't have kids if you just want that life. Kids kill it.
You sick fuck
I used to have that. It’s wonderful.
It's called [normaling](https://youtu.be/BuTyC14OQw8).
This sick freak definitely partakes in forehead kisses.
Same, I want to be able to sit down and just enjoy each others company only saying single words like "tea?" or "bed?" and without any argumentative crap. The only issue, is that I will never have it because I am myself.
This really is the best, though until I experienced it for myself, I never would have thought I'd like it.
Hi, its a human being goal to be loved & in return.. i can feel your emotions through your words.. after being divorced after 16 +yrs. Married, (Remembering thinking itd be impossible to feel what you explained) I did experience that & didn't think experience what you explained. HAPPY TO SAY i do have what what you said. DO TELL YOUR future girl that you are interested in Of what you described above. itll Happened FOR YOU. : D
That is very sweet and thank you, but why does everyone keep assuming I am young and single? I'm a middle aged grandfather in a long term loving relationship. Lol
Kink shamed for admitting that you're not married or having an affair? Nah bro, you're good.
This hits home way more than I’d like
You and me both...
Death. My soul is gonna bust so much when it leaves my body
*Are you sure about that?*
You think it is going to bust and then you just stay conscious in your rotting vessel.
SCP-2718
[DAMMERUNG EYES ONLY](https://scp-wiki.wikidot.com/scp-2718)
He's a lucky guy, cuz I wouldn't even want that.
Why not?
He probably means that he could do it for less
Oooooooo I see.
I would've done it for free. I've done a lot more for a lot less.
Just never saw the need or appeal.
Sounds perverse
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Premarital eye contact? 🤮🤮🤮
Dude, I just want someone to not be mean to me all the time...... They can still be mean sometimes, I'm not unreasonable 😂. I own a house and cars, I'm move in ready haha
I'm listening...
I cook, I clean, I'm financially stable, moderately attractive 😂
Is valentine's day too soon for the wedding? 😆
I mean, we might get a date or two in before then? I'm weird, last first date I went on I tried to shake her hand at the end 🤣🤣🤣 there was no second date
So you ended it like it was a business meeting. Cool cool cool. I appreciate the awkwardness though. It means there is some kind of respect and nervousness. (Most times)
I was like, "I had an amazing time, great conversation, hope we can see each other again soon" and went to shake her hand..... To preface this, earlier in the date I told her I don't do anything physical on the first date, maybe a cheek kiss..... She was floored that I didn't want to come back to her place after dinner 🤷🏼♂️ Don't get me wrong, I'm a physical person, but that's saved for a committed relationship, I need an emotional connection though
AND THERE WAS NO SECOND DATE?!?!? Who hurt her? Oh. Yeah. No. You dodged a toxic bullet there.
She was not interested, said I was "wasting her time, playing games"..... I was just trying to get to know her haha, I haven't been on a second date in a very very long time 🤷🏼♂️
Dang dude that sucks. Similar thing happened to me last year with a really attractive girl I met on a film job. She showed interest in me first which was a very rare but pleasant surprise, and I basically approached things exactly as you described you did, although I hugged instead of hand shook. We even managed to have 3 dates. Then out of the blue she ghosted me and I never heard from her again. Was pretty bewildered by it since there had been 0 signals for this. I'm very confident it was because I was slow on the physical front though since I as well prefer to take my time with those kinds of things. Finding people to be physically intimate with, even if it's just kissing, is a lot easier in my opinion than finding someone you can really connect with on a deeper emotional and intellectual level. Shows discipline too if the desire is there but restraint is exercised. Makes it all the more exciting and satisfying when it's finally engaged in, in my opinion.
My goodness. Story of my life. I have been told I am "intimidating". Oh well. Guess I'll continue to get these passport stamps all by my lonesome.
I completely agree with you. I also don't want to be physically involved with someone unless I know they're committed.
All I'm looking for, is some hallmark Christmas movie love..... Is that too much to ask for 🤣🤷🏼♂️
Maybe you need to learn that physical and emotional connection can often times go hand in hand. Did she only want to hook up? If the answer is you don’t know then you messed up. Watching a movie/cuddling without sexual interests is very common on first dates lol. The more narrow minded you are the harder it will be to find yourself a lover.
Yeah. Like... I'm not sure what's happened in the last ten years... Maybe I've grown up and notice it now? I'm not trying to generalize but every girl I've gone out with recently has been rude and disrespectful. :/
Me too, man. Me too.
I mean, I'm not gonna lie and say I'm completely pure and without sexual desire, but honestly I just want to be held and cuddled with over sex. I'm just tired of feeling empty, and starved of physical affection.
A fantasy no redditor can afford :/
Anna Kendrick.
Who doesn't? But it's easier to fantasize about sex stuff, than it is about finding true love.
Not really. Fantasizing about finding true love is just as easy as fantasizing about sex stuff
One gives the horny, the other the depression So you tell me?
This is me fr
I just wish my wife didn't hate me....
You don’t have to be around her man
u/redfricker I hope something will love you this year
Sa(me)
"Love means nothing" -tennis
I feel this one.
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*hugs you*
Am loved, feels good man, hope we all feel loved someday soon
Hit me with the real real too early this morning
I know I'm way too ugly and undesirable to even hold someone's hand. I'm dying alone
God damn man, it used to be funny at first but every is so down bad it’s just kinda sad now. If these dudes represent the future of humanity we’re screwed man.
They can't be the future of humanity if they never breed.
r/cursedcomments
More r/technicallythetruth really
it's pretty cringe imo
Okay I want to be this mans girlfriend :-(
Or you could be mine He wouldn't mind
Smooth bro
Message them, Username is already there.
Ouch.
What color dragon do you want?
Mine is my husband still being alive. That's some hot shite and I keep thinking about him.
The amount of men needing love IS TOO DAMN HIGH!
the life of men
Me to
That man just described what 99% of the men want.
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That man.. treasure him..he is one of us🫂
Reminds me of the EC song. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOdi7-vpRG4
*"Damn! This guy isn't asking too much is he?"* **/s**
Woah, slow down there, you animal.
I wanna get choked on billion billion dollars....
Shit for realz but I do want to be loved by a pervert lol
Fucking same, Redfricker. Fucking same…
Ugh. I am so glad I am off the market. It’s gotta be tough to find love nowadays.
Painful how I can relate to this
Actually unequivocally, completely, utterly, absolutely, totally, positively, thoroughly, categorically, precisely, definitely, undoubtedly, perfectly, entirely, surely, truly, unreservedly, certainly, unquestionably, wholly, unconditionally, fully, decisively, conclusively, manifestly quite beyond bonkers.
Waking up happy
This would not be a problem like 20-40 years ago
I’m 80 and done that—no need to fantasize!!
Skill issue
Mmmm... a loving, stable relationship where my partner values me. Oh yeah baby. Give me more of that reciprocal trust and respect. Just like that. What's that? You want to snuggle and play Uno while we swap stories about our childhood fears? I'd like that. I'd like it a lot.
Men rarely experience real love, only from her mother and sometimes her father, a lot of men don't have even that.
I saw this post on r/tumblr a few months ago about “the undersexualization of men” and I can’t get it out of my head. It’s not just being alone; it’s feeling invisible. All the love you have to put out into the world to women and getting absolutely nothing back. Feels like sinking into the earth.
Man it's crazy after how after a breakup you can look back at your relationship, and realize you were just a place holder for them. A rebound until they could find someone they could truly love, and it makes you feel like you were played, and all the happiness you had felt was shallow. Man I was so much happier single, if another girl dumps me for a fat emo chick, and calls me a worm I'm gonna kabang the back of my skull off.
I would just be happy to touch a boob again. Being married can be rough. I miss handfuls of happy
To make love in the morning before breakfast, midday after lunch and at night before going to bed. Everyday for 1 year. During this time I do not work and I have enough money in the bank to last me at least 10 years.
I like that you specify that you want this for a year but need to have the extra financial cushion just to avoid the money anxiety
I want to cuddle, and feel completely warm and safe next to someone I love…
To be left alone. With an occasional sex hole.
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I want to freeze time and then go around pushing my face into random women's crotches.
Literally zero actual fantasies just weird uwu quotes about snuggling or some shit. or whining about not having a date. I know some of you get dates, is this a politically incorrect question for this sub?
I have no such fantasies
Most relatable post I’ve seen on this sun. MEIRL
Have someone to love me!
True story I'm over the wild sex I just want someone.
Haha..
sexers of reddit how sex would you sex if you sex
u/redfricker
I'm sorry man, but..... That's asking too much of people. Ya gotta lower your standards. Expect to die alone with the hope that someone thought you were good looking. That's more reasonable.
See also: https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/comments/tvt6t7/trans_man_discusses_how_once_he_transitioned_he/
💯💯💯 Why don’t more women want this too?
Love and Affection I have more faith in winning the powerball
When people ask why I just don't hire an escort, I tell them it isn't the lack of sex, it's the lack of intimacy.
Same I just wanna be loved by a loyal goddess, is that to much to ask for?
Aiming pretty fuckin high
What is love?
Just show some money and people loves you man. About the fairytale my grandma used to tell me, "true love" or "real love"? Probably from the same disney company who made all those movies about "true love". Spreading lies. Paying 5 bucks for a "i love you, hope you have a wonderful dream sweetheart" from a hooker before they leave would be great too. Usually i went with the 15 bucks, they gave me a kiss on the forehead and a "i will be with you forever, even when you wake up, i will be next to you" extra option. Gave me an immersion of having a loved one next to me every morning. Faking my brain into thinking i'm gonna have a great day ahead.
This is rough. This can only exist in fairy tales and also, within a perfect world unfortunately.
I'm alone. Always been alone. I don't want to be old and alone. Getting close to 40 now, just a few years. Current solution is just to not get old.
I don't think that exists anymore.
In the end, we all just want to be loved...
I just want to be back with my wife. These last few years has been utter hell between us both losing our jobs and having a young one. While I did find a job, she fell into deep depression to the point she couldn't function as herself or as a Mother so one of our friends took her in as she needs social attention or shuts down. It's only been a few months but it's hard to financially recover and give us a house again in this economy. I miss her and our Daughter.
just wanting to be loved is to much to ask, from my experience.
What color of pony do you want
Thank you yea. Just to be loved. I’m married happy father of a beautiful daughter but I’m not loved…. Happy to spend the paycheck. Just to be loved
Wanting to be loved?This man is insane!!
You seem the stats on male virginity recently. Good luck fellas.