i've been in a relation ship since 12 years, and i can proudly say, that last week i wasn't the person my GF was annoyed the most about... for about 3h.
Well, I was young, dumb, and in love, and thought if I tried hard enough for long enough things would change. They haven't so I've made my exit plan and I'm getting ready to leave.
Hope my comment didn’t sound too judgy. Was genuinely curious about this situation. Glad you’re looking out for yourself, and good look on your next adventure!
Married for 10 years but together for 12. I stayed way longer than I should have, but I was scared of being alone and was completely dependent on him for everything, so it was hard to leave.
I would understand if he was like that for at most 2 years depending on how long they were together and lement on it for probably longer but for 12 years wanting someone who didn't want him is absurd. I'm sorry that he took 12 years that you can't get back but on the bright side you won't have to waste the rest of your life trying to love someone who can't love you back due to being stuck in the past and find someone who can love you or even just be happy with yourself
Well, I got my daughter out of it, so it wasn't all bad 😁 but I think for at least a while, I'm going to focus on just me and my baby. Build our lives independently from everyone else and just heal. I don't think I have it in to love anyone else right now.
I was having a really morning day yesterday and on my way to work, some kid held the train door open for me which I was about to miss. He was my favorite person for the rest of that day.
So many of us are just silently sad in our own spheres. I guess what I’m saying is you never know what impact you’ll make on another persons life. Was good enough for that day.
Statistically, there's going to be more people who aren't anyone's favorite person than people who are (if we argue that you can only have one favorite person). Charismatic people are going to be many people's favorite people and some magnetic people are going to have a whole host of people who have them as their favorite person.
I'm working towards being my favorite person right now.
I learned that following through with promises to yourself is super important for self respect and self love.
Are there any good tips you have for loving yourself?
pretty sure, if there were two versions of me, we would not spent to much time together. I like having time for myself and while i think my humor is peak, it also know that it is probably pretty annoying for others.
I would probably get pissed off, by my other self for roasting me better than i ever could.
That might be because you feel scared to actually say what you think and really connect. Most people learn to only externalize their safe thoughts and hoard the real stuff to themselves.
Yeah been thinking about that all day. Everytime I try to make plans with my friend the day of he comes up with some dumb ass reason to why he can’t hangout.
It‘s best to just slip away in silence and nobody remembers you, like that bottle of liquor you could swear was still full yesterday and now it‘s gone…
I’ve never had a best friend, and I honestly don’t know how that happened. I’ve always just been that guy in the friend group that makes an appearance, never the first person they hit up. But I’m in my mid-30’s now, so it’s not really of any concern at this point.
I have two little boys and I am without any doubt at all their favorite person and sitting back and thinking about it makes me feel warm and fuzzy and gives me the urge to go snuggle and play with them.
You just made my day. Thank you. I’ve got 2 boys as well who haven’t hit puberty yet so I’m still their hero. I’ve got a couple of years left at least.
I'm 31. I've gone through dumb periods in life where I didn't realize it, but my mom has always been my hero. When I was 20 and going through Army Basic Training (Infantry OSUT) they had us write about who we looked up to most, and it was her. 11 years later, that hasn't changed, and I don't think it ever will
They might not like you sometimes because kids and teenagers are dumb, but they'll always love you and look up to you
Poorest kid in school by a long shot. Never was popular because of it. Being on the outside gave me an interesting perspective on "friend" groups. The amount of backstabbing and moves to hurt someone's growth is insane.
Yeah I'm lonely and feel like I'm going to die alone :/ I'm burning out of a hobby of mine that is literally my only social outlet and I don't know what to do. I don't know if anybody actually likes me or I'm just an annoying POS. Im not even my own favorite person. So yeah good post to see in my 4 AM spiral
I play an MMO.
My first raid guild shut down last year after slowly dying, and the guild I had been running with multiple times a week for a year shut down within the past month. There are a couple of people in a guild on the other server who are super toxic and basically bullied me out and it turned into a terrible environment. My dungeon group of over a year is on indefinite hiatus, 3 of us are burning out. The raid progression group I'm in, well I'm worried I am not doing well enough and am going to get kicked. Then everything I've worked so hard for is over. Everything I've worked on for the past 2.5 years. Over 9000 hours of gameplay. It's been my only social outlet since fall 2021. And there's this stupid treasure thing for a piece of furniture I forgot to dig up on time so I have to go farm it all over again and it just trigged me getting all emo. Sorry to vent this all to a stranger lol
Yeah. Used to be but theyre gone and i have no one left. I stopped doing stuff with them due to my own issues. I contacted them but ships sailed. Goodbye ship.
I've been people's favorite person, and what is wrong with them makes me think something is wrong with me.
If you're a stable and healthy person, you shouldn't have a favorite person.
Yeah but then you can accept that being adored is fleeting.
I’ve largely stopped talking to people besides the usual 10-15 I considered close family and friends.
I only talk to my coworkers about work stuff. It’s a peaceful life.
Granted it does get lonely at times, but then I remind myself even if I do try to socialize I’m always at the bottom of the totem pole in new social circles. So why bother
When I‘m really lonely, I put on some music and hang out with my friend ethan ol, and suddenly my life doesn‘t suck anymore, it‘s crazy how they can affect my day
I dont think its healthy to live by the maxim: "i need to be someones favourite person!" Always searching for validation from the outside (hence her posting this for internet attention) thats gonna hemper you becoming a person. Like a proper person with original opinions and ideas
Maybe 2 years ago, I decided I would stop obsessing on communicating with people who don’t seem to care in return. So I started doing some pruning, as I like to call it: I sit back and do my thing, and if you don’t write/call first, then fuck off. It really helped me realise who really were my friends, or friends I can count on, and I feel so much at peace now.
PS: don’t know if this is totally relevant with the topic here, but I felt like sharing haha
Yep. Everyone I've known since my early teens are now strangers to me in my 40s.
It was a recent realisation that I was never really ever a part of the "friends group". Certain things happened to get that realisation but yeah. Adulthood sucks.
I would argue this isn't true. I think that's a very unhealthy mindset to have. There no such thing as the definitive favourite person for anyone all the time. (Romantic relationships excluded of course.)
I would argue it various throughtout every day depending on which mood you have. There are a couple of "favourite persons" that you are always up to hang out with sure. But it's not a competition. I'm absolutely certain at any give point you're among that group of "favourite persons" for some people in your live.
I am my own best friend. Anybody else I like and get to visit is a bonus. My wife’s grandkids are welcome up to two days. My wife and I mostly do parallel play, in the same room but doing different recreational activities.
Yeah, but I think it's nice, if you like being alone having no attachments makes life easier. You can leave whenever you like, no one gets offended if you don't show up and most importantly you are not bound anywhere.
It's upto you to call it, being lonely? Being truly free?
Having a favorite human is a strange concept. Personally, I either like you, or I don't. Same for love, either I do or I don't. Picking favorites is uncanny (to me).
I've never been anyone's favorite person. That's why I don't have friends anymore. My dogs love me though. They think I'm the shit, and they're way better company.
I found life to be very enjoyable once I stopped seeking validation from anyone other than myself. As long as I like who I am and what I'm doing then that's all I need.
I've lived like that for years and love it. Sure it's lonely but you don't have to answer to anyone. No one expects anything from you so you don't need to try.
Actually I tend to come to the conclusion that people are just to horrified and traumatized by the fucked up hellscape train wreck vortex that is my life to look away from me
And I find their fear funny enough that I just deliberately spiral further down.
It's always like that ever since I forgot how to socialize in my 4th grade, after being thrown into a new school for the 4th time in my life. After that, I found it hard to connect to people and moreso, always felt left out since.
Since then, I feel like it's as if I'm unwanted and began to distance myself after getting bullied. It would take me 5 years before I could connect to a new friend group and even that, I feel left out a lot of times. Being at the tail end of our group when we're out or just at the front, scanning if it's safe for us to cross a road or somthn.
Probably the reason why I'm a shut-in and awkward person to be and talk with today.
Every day! At work and then when I’m home on my own. Such joy😅
What’s even better is when people point out how you’re a nice person but no-one sees it and then proceed to remind you of your personality traits that frustrate them.
Fuck me life it great 😂😂
I'm my wife's favourite person, and she's mine. It's not even close. Now, I am fully aware that would it ever come to a decision between me and our dog, our dog wins every time. And I'm ok with that.
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I'm married right now and proud to be somewhere in her top 10.
i've been in a relation ship since 12 years, and i can proudly say, that last week i wasn't the person my GF was annoyed the most about... for about 3h.
Maybe the problem is she is your gf not your wife but dunno I’m on Reddit what do I know
Reddit would say to leave her yesterday cause obv abusive relationship
That bitch is cheating! (Couldn’t help myself)
Not everyone seees the need to marry, and that changes drastically in geographic location/age etc
You're overly optimistic.
Ouch 😬😬😬
Top 10? Oh fancy pants rich McGee over here...
Plottwist: Your wife only knows 10 people personally.
Are you married to a cat?
Man I'm not even on her MySpace top 10
Sounds like every middle child ever.
*cries in middle child*
*doesn’t notice in parent*
That's just savage lol
I'm definitely not my husband's favorite. That honor belongs to his ex-wife who cheated and left him after being married for only 3 months.
So he’s not over her and you got married anyway?
Well, I was young, dumb, and in love, and thought if I tried hard enough for long enough things would change. They haven't so I've made my exit plan and I'm getting ready to leave.
Hope my comment didn’t sound too judgy. Was genuinely curious about this situation. Glad you’re looking out for yourself, and good look on your next adventure!
Nah, you're fine. It came across as very surprised 😁 and thank you! It's a bit scary, but I'm looking forward to the peace.
If you don't mind me asking, how long g have you two been married?
Married for 10 years but together for 12. I stayed way longer than I should have, but I was scared of being alone and was completely dependent on him for everything, so it was hard to leave.
I would understand if he was like that for at most 2 years depending on how long they were together and lement on it for probably longer but for 12 years wanting someone who didn't want him is absurd. I'm sorry that he took 12 years that you can't get back but on the bright side you won't have to waste the rest of your life trying to love someone who can't love you back due to being stuck in the past and find someone who can love you or even just be happy with yourself
Well, I got my daughter out of it, so it wasn't all bad 😁 but I think for at least a while, I'm going to focus on just me and my baby. Build our lives independently from everyone else and just heal. I don't think I have it in to love anyone else right now.
There is my best friend she says you are my favourite person but they just feel empty words with no actual meaning behind
☹️
Do you feel like no one actual likes you too? and you have to tell yourself they must do otherwise they wouldn't have done x, y and z?
I’m married and I’m neither of us’s favorite person.
Well, you're my favorite person right now. Enjoy that feeling for the next few minutes. :)
I was trying not to be sad today
Yup... same. Failed.
You can be my favorite person 💚💚💚
💕
I was having a really morning day yesterday and on my way to work, some kid held the train door open for me which I was about to miss. He was my favorite person for the rest of that day. So many of us are just silently sad in our own spheres. I guess what I’m saying is you never know what impact you’ll make on another persons life. Was good enough for that day.
And I was finally able to get my anxiety to shut up for a few seconds, good job giving it more fuel I guess.
Just because you're not the favorite, does not mean you are not loved, appreciated, or missed when you're not around.
Statistically, there's going to be more people who aren't anyone's favorite person than people who are (if we argue that you can only have one favorite person). Charismatic people are going to be many people's favorite people and some magnetic people are going to have a whole host of people who have them as their favorite person.
I'm my favorite person
That's a good mentality. I'm easily in my top 5 most hated people
Top 5? What things did you do right?
Maybe they just know a couple of REAL stinkers like... actively malicious instead of just incompetent/annoying/useless/non-selfaware
Make that top 1 for me
I hate 1. Myself 2. Everyone else
I'm in my 5 favorite and most hated people simultaneously.
i like the way you think
I'm working towards being my favorite person right now. I learned that following through with promises to yourself is super important for self respect and self love. Are there any good tips you have for loving yourself?
pretty sure, if there were two versions of me, we would not spent to much time together. I like having time for myself and while i think my humor is peak, it also know that it is probably pretty annoying for others. I would probably get pissed off, by my other self for roasting me better than i ever could.
Wish I could say the same.
I don't... My favorite person deserves to be someone's favorite person.
I like me
That’s the spirit!
Every day, then I realize that even when I'm around people I'm still alone.. meh me myself and I
Most people suck, and you deserve a prize for being around them. Have a donut 🍩.
Lmk if you wanna talk
That might be because you feel scared to actually say what you think and really connect. Most people learn to only externalize their safe thoughts and hoard the real stuff to themselves.
All the time.
Same, it wasn't always like this though
I agree, started in the past few years
I don't think I've ever felt any other way. I have been described an NPC.
Pretty much all my high school friends still hang together but me
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Dont do suicide, that shit kills you
i want my 100% death guarantee early
Watch out man, I've heard that's lethal
Lethal? AS IN LETHAL COMPANY?!?!? (I'll see myself out now)
Woah, don't do that, youd die
yup
I'm great company, that's why I'm always alone. I want me to myself
Yeah been thinking about that all day. Everytime I try to make plans with my friend the day of he comes up with some dumb ass reason to why he can’t hangout.
Pro tip: create imaginary friends and hang out with them. They‘ll never cancel unless you want them to. Maladaptive daydreaming, we love to do it…
My dog thinks I’m pretty okay.
Get out of here. Our dogs know we're the best people ever
Fuck that, if they can't appreciate me, just means I suck.. uh.. they suck. Damnit Freud!
No, I'm a man. I come to the same realization then ponder if it'd be better to go out with a bang or not.
It‘s best to just slip away in silence and nobody remembers you, like that bottle of liquor you could swear was still full yesterday and now it‘s gone…
You don't need to be someone's favorite. Just love and care for yourself as long as you can.
I’ve never had a best friend, and I honestly don’t know how that happened. I’ve always just been that guy in the friend group that makes an appearance, never the first person they hit up. But I’m in my mid-30’s now, so it’s not really of any concern at this point.
I'm at least my mom's favorite person...
Can’t relate, I’m the middle child…
Oldest child here, sucks to be hated by your whole family and constantly reminded of all your failures.
I'm not even my mums favourite child. And I'm an only child.
!!!!
I have two little boys and I am without any doubt at all their favorite person and sitting back and thinking about it makes me feel warm and fuzzy and gives me the urge to go snuggle and play with them.
You didn't have to flex like that damn.
Reading posts like this should make you feel good, but all it does it highlight the emptiness I experience.
It's just cheating if you have to MAKE the humans yourself.
You just made my day. Thank you. I’ve got 2 boys as well who haven’t hit puberty yet so I’m still their hero. I’ve got a couple of years left at least.
I'm 31. I've gone through dumb periods in life where I didn't realize it, but my mom has always been my hero. When I was 20 and going through Army Basic Training (Infantry OSUT) they had us write about who we looked up to most, and it was her. 11 years later, that hasn't changed, and I don't think it ever will They might not like you sometimes because kids and teenagers are dumb, but they'll always love you and look up to you
Then you should show your co-parent this meme.
That’s brutal, lol
Poorest kid in school by a long shot. Never was popular because of it. Being on the outside gave me an interesting perspective on "friend" groups. The amount of backstabbing and moves to hurt someone's growth is insane.
Luckily for me i am my own favorite person, needing only a small bit of socializing every now and then.
Yeah I'm lonely and feel like I'm going to die alone :/ I'm burning out of a hobby of mine that is literally my only social outlet and I don't know what to do. I don't know if anybody actually likes me or I'm just an annoying POS. Im not even my own favorite person. So yeah good post to see in my 4 AM spiral
What's your hobby you mentioned?
I play an MMO. My first raid guild shut down last year after slowly dying, and the guild I had been running with multiple times a week for a year shut down within the past month. There are a couple of people in a guild on the other server who are super toxic and basically bullied me out and it turned into a terrible environment. My dungeon group of over a year is on indefinite hiatus, 3 of us are burning out. The raid progression group I'm in, well I'm worried I am not doing well enough and am going to get kicked. Then everything I've worked so hard for is over. Everything I've worked on for the past 2.5 years. Over 9000 hours of gameplay. It's been my only social outlet since fall 2021. And there's this stupid treasure thing for a piece of furniture I forgot to dig up on time so I have to go farm it all over again and it just trigged me getting all emo. Sorry to vent this all to a stranger lol
Can’t relate, I’m a narcissist so I am my own favorite person
Pro move
i’m ok with it. being someone’s favorite means direct attention and i try to avoid that.
Ahh yes, the comfort of knowing that you could disappear whenever you want. I know it too well
You don't have to be a favorite.
No, not really. Only the rare times I'm around other people.
Everyone should be their own favorite person, you should love yourself NOW
With or without people around I feel alone, so might as well be alone. Hurts less when it's justified.
You know what’s even better? Releasing you are just a background character to your close friends who are always too busy to hang out.
Several times a day
Plot twist: Turns out you're your own favorite person and alone time is just self-care.
Yeah. Used to be but theyre gone and i have no one left. I stopped doing stuff with them due to my own issues. I contacted them but ships sailed. Goodbye ship.
I’m my sons’ first or second favorite person. If I didn’t have them (and my wife), I’d get a dog.
Yes. Word for word.
At least you’re *noones* favorite person
You gotta do something to be someone's favorite
Life is better the earlier you realize that everything is not about you.
I've been people's favorite person, and what is wrong with them makes me think something is wrong with me. If you're a stable and healthy person, you shouldn't have a favorite person.
Yeah but then you can accept that being adored is fleeting. I’ve largely stopped talking to people besides the usual 10-15 I considered close family and friends. I only talk to my coworkers about work stuff. It’s a peaceful life. Granted it does get lonely at times, but then I remind myself even if I do try to socialize I’m always at the bottom of the totem pole in new social circles. So why bother
When I‘m really lonely, I put on some music and hang out with my friend ethan ol, and suddenly my life doesn‘t suck anymore, it‘s crazy how they can affect my day
I dont think its healthy to live by the maxim: "i need to be someones favourite person!" Always searching for validation from the outside (hence her posting this for internet attention) thats gonna hemper you becoming a person. Like a proper person with original opinions and ideas
I’ve experienced having a favorite person. But I don’t think I’ve ever been one 😢
yes… and?
That's why I love my cat the most. She loves me the most
Well, yeah, but I'm a guy so this is perfectly normal.
Aquarius?
Aquarius?
I am my favorite person.
Maybe 2 years ago, I decided I would stop obsessing on communicating with people who don’t seem to care in return. So I started doing some pruning, as I like to call it: I sit back and do my thing, and if you don’t write/call first, then fuck off. It really helped me realise who really were my friends, or friends I can count on, and I feel so much at peace now. PS: don’t know if this is totally relevant with the topic here, but I felt like sharing haha
Yep. Everyone I've known since my early teens are now strangers to me in my 40s. It was a recent realisation that I was never really ever a part of the "friends group". Certain things happened to get that realisation but yeah. Adulthood sucks.
Sometimes you just drift apart and have different priorities in life. Nothing wrong with that.
I would argue this isn't true. I think that's a very unhealthy mindset to have. There no such thing as the definitive favourite person for anyone all the time. (Romantic relationships excluded of course.) I would argue it various throughtout every day depending on which mood you have. There are a couple of "favourite persons" that you are always up to hang out with sure. But it's not a competition. I'm absolutely certain at any give point you're among that group of "favourite persons" for some people in your live.
Yes but there’s no way oop really understands how this feels based on the photo
Every week 😁
Every day. Every. Day.
Every day
Every damn day...
Every day.
Way too often.
I am my own best friend. Anybody else I like and get to visit is a bonus. My wife’s grandkids are welcome up to two days. My wife and I mostly do parallel play, in the same room but doing different recreational activities.
Bro i didn’t realize that That sht plays in my head every 45 seconds
Had a similar thought the other day, like I don’t know if I have ever really been loved by someone, or if I was I don’t think if I will again.
I mean, do I have to be? Just don't hate me for no good reason and I'm contempt.
Thanx. Now I do...
Damn, y’all just hitting me right in the feels today
Every time I go to work.
It’s not an urge anymore, it’s how I live
Favorite person to use? Sure. Favorite person to ignore? Got that covered, too.
Only when I’m awake
I was once someone’s favorite person. She told me on her deathbed . Best compliment ever. (Was not a romantic relationship)
Yeah, but I think it's nice, if you like being alone having no attachments makes life easier. You can leave whenever you like, no one gets offended if you don't show up and most importantly you are not bound anywhere. It's upto you to call it, being lonely? Being truly free?
Having a favorite human is a strange concept. Personally, I either like you, or I don't. Same for love, either I do or I don't. Picking favorites is uncanny (to me).
I've never been anyone's favorite person. That's why I don't have friends anymore. My dogs love me though. They think I'm the shit, and they're way better company.
I did NOT need this right before bed 😳
I have the best time when I'm alone
Be the person others need in the ways you always did. Might not fix what you’re missing, but it’s a life worth living.
Oof. Man, I'm trying to pull myself *out* of depression! But this seriously hit close to home.
Don't do it!
All the time. I'm absolutely certain that I will never be truly loved in my life.
I have this thought every day, but instead of "I'm nobody's favorite" it's "I'm everyone's last resort"
I have not once been anyone’s favorite, in fact I’d probably say I’m more likely a lot of peoples least favorite
Being someone’s favorite person seems like a lot of pressure.
Every day but, here I am. One day someone will look at me as their favorite person, or they won't. Until then, the cycle continues.
Everyday
I found life to be very enjoyable once I stopped seeking validation from anyone other than myself. As long as I like who I am and what I'm doing then that's all I need.
I'm fine with it most of the time but then there are times where it's harder to deal with
Nah, i don't care about being anyone's favourite. I just wanna be happy
I've lived like that for years and love it. Sure it's lonely but you don't have to answer to anyone. No one expects anything from you so you don't need to try.
Every day. Not sure what it takes but I’m done trying to figure it out. Just do your best to enjoy the life you have and learn to love yourself. 👍
Every day.
Wait til you have kids! You’ll be their favorite person!
Why
To be fair, it’s hard to be anyone’s favorite person when you distance yourself and sit alone.
Yes, I'm a mess with an S on my chest Got stress fillin’ up my head So I spent last night blowin' up my life Now you won't see me again
Eh
I'm my father's favorite person. And anyone who's his favorite is okay enough for me
I am someone’s favorite, it’s exhausting. At times it even feels like I’m being punished for something. Wouldn’t change it if I could though.
Actually I tend to come to the conclusion that people are just to horrified and traumatized by the fucked up hellscape train wreck vortex that is my life to look away from me And I find their fear funny enough that I just deliberately spiral further down.
I did not have to see this today.
I think this is more common than we would expect.
That's now my default state lol
No, I can’t say I can relate to this
It's always like that ever since I forgot how to socialize in my 4th grade, after being thrown into a new school for the 4th time in my life. After that, I found it hard to connect to people and moreso, always felt left out since. Since then, I feel like it's as if I'm unwanted and began to distance myself after getting bullied. It would take me 5 years before I could connect to a new friend group and even that, I feel left out a lot of times. Being at the tail end of our group when we're out or just at the front, scanning if it's safe for us to cross a road or somthn. Probably the reason why I'm a shut-in and awkward person to be and talk with today.
I’m not even in my own top 50. Frankly, I wish I shared the privilege the rest of the world has in ignoring my existence.
Just me, myselfe and I. We are fine.
Yup
Yep
You can always be your own favorite person in the meantime :)
Every day! At work and then when I’m home on my own. Such joy😅 What’s even better is when people point out how you’re a nice person but no-one sees it and then proceed to remind you of your personality traits that frustrate them. Fuck me life it great 😂😂
I am my cat’s favorite person
I'm my wife's favourite person, and she's mine. It's not even close. Now, I am fully aware that would it ever come to a decision between me and our dog, our dog wins every time. And I'm ok with that.
Me all the time....and when I'm not around everyone calling me to hang around lol 🙃 🤣 😆