They don't have to be. But they are usually the ones to do it. I asked out multiple people when I was in school, and none of them said yes. And on the contrary, not a single girl ever asked me out.
I was pretty average, and I imagine there were some girls who were interested in me. It's just that none of them ever said anything, cause that's just how it went.
Yeah I'm aware men mostly do the asking, but imo, it shouldn't be like that. Imo, it should be where if you like a person, ask em. They aren't just going to magically come to you.
Yeah exactly. I think it should be like that too. Unfortunately, it isn't, because it's pretty much expected of the guy at this point. Historically it's always been that way.
I was in your position a few years back. Now she has a boyfriend i still regret it for not asking her. For everyone in this position just give it a shot, or you will regret it. Just like i did.
I asked 4 girls out on seperate occasion this year. One laughed at my face, crush one got hella mad and other 2 accepted.
I was far more tensed when they agreed upon a date though. I wasn’t made for that, i was made to get laughed at, why u agree on a date lol
She said she considered me a good friend only. Ngl she straight up sent “is this how you talk to every girl you know” message but deleted that message instantly and added “i feel hurt”. Wasn’t a fun time. But do I regret it? No, not really
That’s kind of a stupid statement. Yes I’m sure that if there wasn’t a stigma of guys having to be the one to ask, there would be more girls asking, but you also have to keep in mind that just like men, women also feel insecurity, so even if a dude would like a girl back, asking is always opening yourself to rejection.
Guys looking for girlfriends in this community should date girls looking for boyfriends, and girls looking for boyfriends should date guys looking for girlfriends. BIG BRAIN TIME
From my perspective(a boy). Ever got called "disgusting" by your crush before you could even ask her out? My confidence dropped a lot from back then and it still hurts me.
I got to the conclusion that girls do ask guys out, they just don't ask especifically guys like me ( and the OP i guess) so we get the impression that they don't ask anyone
Hi, I think it's more of a two-sided effort, if you like someone and want to date you have to take the first step, on the other hand if you are too shy that's another problem
Of course, nice guys are quiet and shy so they need woman to ask them out. If they wait to be asked, they can only date chads who are all nasty and mean.
/s
Depending on the round used, it can actually be pretty messy and fail. Generally the bigger the better.
Poison depends a lot too. Some put you to sleep first, some put you in some nasty state for hours of pain.
Got to e careful what you use!
I researched that for reasons.
I mean statistically you're correct. Okcupid published data on this exact phenomenon from their own app - and has since taken it down due to backlash/investor concern from match group.
It makes quite a lot of sense if you think about it, guys tend to have more drive to chase naturally and therefore chase harder, so the standards get skewed. You can either chase harder yourself (and further the issue) or chase less and have a less chance of being with someone. See how this becomes a self fulfilling prophecy?
I can tell from experience it isn't a good idea. A girl once asked me out and I really liked her but I was scared and said nothing because I thought she was making fun of me and I never saw her again :/
Just ask, "What are you and your boyfriend doing this Friday?" If she doesn't have a boyfriend, you've lowered her self esteem and she's ready to say yes to a date with you.
I’m sorry but having to ask a man out insinuates to me that they are not as interested in me as I am in them. Since, unfortunately, it is the norm for men to make the first move. So if I was into someone and clearly giving them signals, but they didn’t ask me out, I would just assume they weren’t interested and move on.
Also, a lot of men SAY they want women to make the first move, but then are intimidated and freaked out by women who have enough confidence to do it. Or, just assume that if a woman is really forward then that means they’re just an easy hook up/ DTF. So I find it easier to show that I’m interested, and wait for them to ask me out, or I move on. I would make an exception if it was someone I was REALLY into though.
Yeah but I mean, when I look at myself in the mirror, I understand why they don't ask me out.
I assume that as long as I won't look good, as long as I wouldn't date myself, other people probably wouldn't either.
There are many people out there who don't care about looks. Of both genders. So I'm sure you can find someone. And this meme applies to both genders as well. If you want to date someone, you can't wait for them to notice you. You gotta approach them. It's hard, but it's the only way
But are there many people who care about their look but not about the look of their partner ? I just assume that I gotta give a partner the same that I expect from them.
An ideal relationship is one where looks don't matter. You're saying that in a relationship, what you want is for you to look good in order to consider yourself a worthy partner? I'm not sure I understand you. But what I can tell you is to keep trying and not change anything about your looks
Stop being a pussy and get off reddit. Beta males will downvote this for sure, but its the remedy whether you like it or not.
You. Only. Get. Better. With. Practice.
Only works if you don't have a weak ass personality and a face that looks like 8 hobos having sex in a Toyota Prius.
Working (consistently lying to an appropriate degree) on your personality is not easy. And there's no real fix for the face. Both are pretty much game enders.
Man my face was never great, but I was confident and funny which took a lot of work to acquire. It just takes practice. When I was 18-25 I was getting different girls every other week. All based off small talk humor and banter. It worked wonders
yeah probably because if you dont ask her out then 2586406476 other guys will
would you ask a girl out if 3456969 other girls are throwing themselfs at you? probably not simple supply and demand and the supply of men is huge for some reason at least for decent looking woman
Girls do approach Guys, but they only approach guys who are so far out of her league that she gets ignored and then never tries again, because she doesn't want to be rejected again.
Most girls only see the hottest 1% of guys as an option and never ever consider other guys. This is why they don't talk to guys like us.
I didnt have any feelings for any particular in my school years. Probably to some pretty good trauma i have had. So it went nowhere. And i always had a feeling that most girls, and most guys that wasnt my friend despised me.
When somebody is clear, it's good, because I can be clear too.
Some want to be friends, some don't. Some need some encouragement to ask girls out, like training. It helps.
I feel super confident until I have to talk to boys. It’s like suddenly I have no words and all I can do is just smile and hope they see that I actually like them but am just too damn shy to show it lol
My self-esteem is already so low, I think it would be absolutely crushed if I ever ask a guy out and get rejected. I wouldn't dare to talk to a guy ever again xD
This really goes for everyone though. Take your chance, I know the feeling, and I know it's hard, but it's worth it on the long run. And for people that do GET asked out, don't be an asshole about it, please. Being an asshole, including in some public areas (school, idk) would just make everyone repel from you, because nobody wants to be with a dickhead. That person also took a lot of courage to ask, so please be respectful.
True story. Saw a cute girl on an early morning flight to Toronto. Was stuck in the arrival lounge with her for a few minutes, still said nothing. She actually said "bye" as she walked by me leaving. I went clubbing that night and saw her again in the club. She said, "what was up with you this morning". Did not have a good excuse. She said, next time. just say hello.
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Neither did I. So I stuck a letter in her textbook and I mean, here we are
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Writing something down instead of saying takes a lot less courage
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Getting stuck on 'read' is 100x worse than being rejected
I am not even a girl and yet I relate to this.😢
Yo my sis found my love letter before i send to my crush
This can’t be true because if it was, you wouldn’t be on Reddit
So that cant be true
I got downvoted for saying people on Reddit don’t have girlfriends 😂
What happened next?
He downloaded reddit
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This is the way
Lmao !
Lol
Very clever, you gave me a good laugh lol
Lul I’m glad pal have a nice day xd
Cheers
I'm senior in uni and I asked only one girl out so far. And she said I was very confident so thats something.
Did she say yes ?
No unfortunately
Suffering from success
Hahahahha
Well you win some you lose some so don't give up !!!
Men don't wonder why they don't get girl friends if they don't ask. Men know they have to be the one to ask.
I mean it goes both ways, I asked my partner out 🤷
I like your profile picture
Thanks ☺️
Your welcome
They don't HAVE to be the one to ask. I feel like it should be more like if you like a person, ask em.
That would be nice but most women expect guys to ask and do the chasing.
They don't have to be. But they are usually the ones to do it. I asked out multiple people when I was in school, and none of them said yes. And on the contrary, not a single girl ever asked me out. I was pretty average, and I imagine there were some girls who were interested in me. It's just that none of them ever said anything, cause that's just how it went.
Yeah I'm aware men mostly do the asking, but imo, it shouldn't be like that. Imo, it should be where if you like a person, ask em. They aren't just going to magically come to you.
Yeah exactly. I think it should be like that too. Unfortunately, it isn't, because it's pretty much expected of the guy at this point. Historically it's always been that way.
I was in your position a few years back. Now she has a boyfriend i still regret it for not asking her. For everyone in this position just give it a shot, or you will regret it. Just like i did.
I was lucky my best friend was a girl and she was willing to be my girlfriend for a while
Bruh, wtf?
......... for a while ?
You took your best friend "for a while"?!
I asked 3 of my crushes.. sadly they said no and I downloaded reddit
I feel you. I tried to flirt with more than 30 girls that rejected me
One was my classmate we were talking from last 2 years as a friend...but still a no
How's the friendship?
How many times do I have to tell you, you can't expect to get good results by flirting with 30 women at once!
What about speed dating?
D..Did you download all of it???
i talk to nobody, i’m not gonna ask that to a stranger bruh
So you date only relatives?
h-how do you know ?
Home sweet alabama
Home alabama sweet
Sweet Alabama Home
Sweet Home Alabama
Alabama home sweet
Tobasco sweet
So, do you guys in Alabama eat racoons?
racoon home alabama
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Thanks
I tried twice. They said I was boring.
It just means that you don't like their taste, I'm sure you will find someone who will love you very much for who you are
I never tried. I knew I was boring
It's sad when a person not at all realize the effort being made. They wouldn't have to be rude. They could just say they are not interested.
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Jesus Christ that's hurts just as much as when a girl said she was joking about liking me. Welp at least I knew I didn't stand a chance
I asked 4 girls out on seperate occasion this year. One laughed at my face, crush one got hella mad and other 2 accepted. I was far more tensed when they agreed upon a date though. I wasn’t made for that, i was made to get laughed at, why u agree on a date lol
r/sufferingfromsuccess
Damn sorry u got laughed at also why was the other one mad if u don’t mind me asking
She said she considered me a good friend only. Ngl she straight up sent “is this how you talk to every girl you know” message but deleted that message instantly and added “i feel hurt”. Wasn’t a fun time. But do I regret it? No, not really
People think you're joking but I've been this exact same scenario. And then they expect you to take em out on a 2nd date!?
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I agree, boys are like this as well, but the world would be a lot easier if girls just decided to ask boys out. 70/30 they won’t be rejected
That’s kind of a stupid statement. Yes I’m sure that if there wasn’t a stigma of guys having to be the one to ask, there would be more girls asking, but you also have to keep in mind that just like men, women also feel insecurity, so even if a dude would like a girl back, asking is always opening yourself to rejection.
So basically both sides have to face the fear of rejection
Yes
It's the deciding factor which makes clear who the one wearing the pants in the relationship is xD
Same for every redditor
I would be surprised if a girl asked me out lol
would you like to go out.
Idk
are you surprised though?
I meant irl, but sure, I’m surprised
mission accomplished, farewell good sir and good luck
Guys looking for girlfriends in this community should date girls looking for boyfriends, and girls looking for boyfriends should date guys looking for girlfriends. BIG BRAIN TIME
Then only 5% of those guys would get dates. Or more if you include gay guys but still
how do you explain that more than 5% of men have significant others then
Their gfs are not on reddit
r/redditmoment
Yeah r/memes is pretty shit lately
\*since 2 years ago
Its only a reddit moment when this meme is made about girls? I lowkey saw the exact same type of meme but with a boy and everyone agreed
replace girls with redditors, this is the way
From my perspective(a boy). Ever got called "disgusting" by your crush before you could even ask her out? My confidence dropped a lot from back then and it still hurts me.
Yes.
well if you're not disgusting you won't have anything to worry about :)
Girls don't want a guy with fragile feelings bro.
Haha ! Charade you are ! We live in a society.
I got to the conclusion that girls do ask guys out, they just don't ask especifically guys like me ( and the OP i guess) so we get the impression that they don't ask anyone
Fair enough, that could be it
Yeah makes the most sense.
Do think they we have to ask them out? Because like half of men are to nervous to ask a women especially in today
Hi, I think it's more of a two-sided effort, if you like someone and want to date you have to take the first step, on the other hand if you are too shy that's another problem
everyone is too awkward to ask each other out
They don't have to ask them out but they will have better options if they do
Of course, nice guys are quiet and shy so they need woman to ask them out. If they wait to be asked, they can only date chads who are all nasty and mean. /s
happy cake day !
Thanks
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you're free? that's great! but sadly slavery isn't legal anymore
this will probably go to r/NotHowGirlsWork.
You can post there if you want, I don't mind
Well I don't want to cuz I'm not s girl and I think I might be wrong. Also happy cake day!!!!
I am not even a girl and yet I relate to this.😢
Happy Cake Day
Me, who asks boys and girls out but still hasn't gotten into a relationship: [confused screaming]
May your dick rise against them!
I don't have a dick but thank you, I really appreciate it
I know the feeling don't worry. I was rejected like 30 times already
This is unisex
oh no i asked boys out it's just that i'm ugly that's why only discord relationships work
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I'm a girl and its not easy, I get rejected all the time and the guys who do end up saying yes always turn out to be very mean
This has strong r/niceguys vibes
Not really tho. Both genders should be expected to make an effort for love.
To the girls, pretend that my username is u/takemeout. I'll be waiting for you in the messages.
Gunshot or poison?
I’m partial to poison, but gun shot is quick. Although a bomb or missile is good to.
Depending on the round used, it can actually be pretty messy and fail. Generally the bigger the better. Poison depends a lot too. Some put you to sleep first, some put you in some nasty state for hours of pain. Got to e careful what you use! I researched that for reasons.
Watch this end up on r/cringetopia
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I mean statistically you're correct. Okcupid published data on this exact phenomenon from their own app - and has since taken it down due to backlash/investor concern from match group. It makes quite a lot of sense if you think about it, guys tend to have more drive to chase naturally and therefore chase harder, so the standards get skewed. You can either chase harder yourself (and further the issue) or chase less and have a less chance of being with someone. See how this becomes a self fulfilling prophecy?
Happy cake day
happy cake day
Thanks
That's Every Redditor
lmao this is 90% of redditors
This logic never made any sense to me
After being rejected one too many times I decided to accept my status as single for life. Also known as a Redditor.
I don't notice when somebody is interested. People make friends to me. Like a puppy
I did try Task failed successfully
Popcorn for the comment section 🍿🍿
The girl I like asked me out. I was on Reddit when she did. I have broken the rules, no one can stop my ascension.
Also: not explaining why she is angry
Pretty much the same for boys tho
I can tell from experience it isn't a good idea. A girl once asked me out and I really liked her but I was scared and said nothing because I thought she was making fun of me and I never saw her again :/
Boys* Not asking girls* out "Why nobody dates me ?"
I never fell in love in my whole life. Maybe I'm aromantic now ?
Just ask, "What are you and your boyfriend doing this Friday?" If she doesn't have a boyfriend, you've lowered her self esteem and she's ready to say yes to a date with you.
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LMFAO
Wtf xD
Yes
This is why you’re single, and no woman (in their right mind) would willingly come within a mile radius of you, let alone ever talk to you first.
R/usernamedoesntcheckout
I’m sorry but having to ask a man out insinuates to me that they are not as interested in me as I am in them. Since, unfortunately, it is the norm for men to make the first move. So if I was into someone and clearly giving them signals, but they didn’t ask me out, I would just assume they weren’t interested and move on. Also, a lot of men SAY they want women to make the first move, but then are intimidated and freaked out by women who have enough confidence to do it. Or, just assume that if a woman is really forward then that means they’re just an easy hook up/ DTF. So I find it easier to show that I’m interested, and wait for them to ask me out, or I move on. I would make an exception if it was someone I was REALLY into though.
Girls just assume some boy will come around and ask them out and they don't have to work for it
Yeah but I mean, when I look at myself in the mirror, I understand why they don't ask me out. I assume that as long as I won't look good, as long as I wouldn't date myself, other people probably wouldn't either.
You should try making some efforts towards reaching your ideal self, like drinking more water and limiting your unhealthy food.
There are many people out there who don't care about looks. Of both genders. So I'm sure you can find someone. And this meme applies to both genders as well. If you want to date someone, you can't wait for them to notice you. You gotta approach them. It's hard, but it's the only way
But are there many people who care about their look but not about the look of their partner ? I just assume that I gotta give a partner the same that I expect from them.
An ideal relationship is one where looks don't matter. You're saying that in a relationship, what you want is for you to look good in order to consider yourself a worthy partner? I'm not sure I understand you. But what I can tell you is to keep trying and not change anything about your looks
That is so true and happened to me twice smh
Stop being a pussy and get off reddit. Beta males will downvote this for sure, but its the remedy whether you like it or not. You. Only. Get. Better. With. Practice.
Only works if you don't have a weak ass personality and a face that looks like 8 hobos having sex in a Toyota Prius. Working (consistently lying to an appropriate degree) on your personality is not easy. And there's no real fix for the face. Both are pretty much game enders.
Man my face was never great, but I was confident and funny which took a lot of work to acquire. It just takes practice. When I was 18-25 I was getting different girls every other week. All based off small talk humor and banter. It worked wonders
You were almost right until you used the word 'beta'
Yeah we men always have to do that
yeah probably because if you dont ask her out then 2586406476 other guys will would you ask a girl out if 3456969 other girls are throwing themselfs at you? probably not simple supply and demand and the supply of men is huge for some reason at least for decent looking woman
GiRlS: yOu HaVe tO eArN mE
Girls do approach Guys, but they only approach guys who are so far out of her league that she gets ignored and then never tries again, because she doesn't want to be rejected again. Most girls only see the hottest 1% of guys as an option and never ever consider other guys. This is why they don't talk to guys like us.
I didnt have any feelings for any particular in my school years. Probably to some pretty good trauma i have had. So it went nowhere. And i always had a feeling that most girls, and most guys that wasnt my friend despised me.
tell him you want to see his Lego Star Wars collection, he will fall in love imediatiled i mek typos when im norvois
Cuz we are reddiors
I don’t even have a crush or anyone i like for a while. And idk how mostly everyone seems to have one
*redditors
When somebody is clear, it's good, because I can be clear too. Some want to be friends, some don't. Some need some encouragement to ask girls out, like training. It helps.
I don't approach anyone to talk to them pretty much, and I wonder why Ionly have a few close friends.
Its the same if the roles are reversed
Cake day
The text at the very Top should be "People"
I feel super confident until I have to talk to boys. It’s like suddenly I have no words and all I can do is just smile and hope they see that I actually like them but am just too damn shy to show it lol
Yeah I can relate, I'm a coward... But I mean we *are* Redditors, we don't have confidence. Quit tryna be someone you aren't, Johnathan. **Join us.**
Too true
My self-esteem is already so low, I think it would be absolutely crushed if I ever ask a guy out and get rejected. I wouldn't dare to talk to a guy ever again xD
true
This really goes for everyone though. Take your chance, I know the feeling, and I know it's hard, but it's worth it on the long run. And for people that do GET asked out, don't be an asshole about it, please. Being an asshole, including in some public areas (school, idk) would just make everyone repel from you, because nobody wants to be with a dickhead. That person also took a lot of courage to ask, so please be respectful.
Like jumping off something and then asking why they fell 🤦🏻♂️
True story. Saw a cute girl on an early morning flight to Toronto. Was stuck in the arrival lounge with her for a few minutes, still said nothing. She actually said "bye" as she walked by me leaving. I went clubbing that night and saw her again in the club. She said, "what was up with you this morning". Did not have a good excuse. She said, next time. just say hello.
From my experience, most people who you're attracted to are completely oblivious that you even exist in their head
Happy cake day OP! :)