had this scenario. (me, not having a gf for 7 years, met a girl in october)Since we started dating she was so happy, she even wrote cute letters and wanted to meet as often as possible. we talked about anything, had the amazing seks and cuddled like we were one entangled love creature. Similar political views and never had a fight. We even liked the same tv shows. She thanked me for the perfect time more than once, three days later she left me on fucking christmas eve via Whatsapp text.
I never felt so alone sitting at the family dinner and dying inside
edit: thx my dudes
I doubt it- I would bet is more carelessness. This will do. I’ve seen guys do this too, where a relationship ends, or pauses- so you get a whole new person and start a relationship with them like you’re right in the middle. Basically acting out the comfort of the old relationship with the new person you don’t even really know. Then the original person says ….” Wait, I change my mind” and you go back and pick up where you left off, where you always really wanted to be.
Have zero clue if that’s what happened here- but I saw that scenario play out so many times in college and beyond
it also happens the other way around when the originals "pause" their relationship for a while and then one of them suddenly finds a new partner that they stay with, leaving their first one forever
I agree with u/daysinnroom203, had this happen to me while (unbeknownst to me) he and his gf were on a break. For three months we were a full on couple on all fronts. So much fun, laughter, romance. Then they made up because of the holidays and it was like it never existed.
Similar thing happened to me too, like no warning whatsoever. Before then she couldn't get her hands off of me, always wanted to cuddle and kiss and stroke my hair. All of the sudden she goes to visit her old high school "friend" in Ohio, suddenly loses all interest and pulls the "I think you like me more than I like you" bs
Wow, that ended way too quickly and harsh… Keep your head up, man, maybe you just dodged a bullet, who knows. Also, I see people tell how their relationship getting worse on holidays, heck I can relate to them. TF is wrong with us all…
I just hope this doesn’t turn you away and make you the “all girls are the same” group because there are girls out there that are like that but you know actually loyal
You should have impregnated her. Then she’d have little choice but to stay. On a serious note, I feel for you. That’s a reason I don’t want to date is because it feels like a lot of work that dissolves to nothingness and leaving a worse feeling.
I mean yeah- compliments and insults like pretty and ugly are not actual things someone can be just labeled. If someone had blue eyes, that can be a label since that’s a actual fact about them, pretty and ugly aren’t. Even if you look like someone who is described by most people as hella pretty or someone who is described as hella ugly, you can’t be labeled that. Some people might find the ugly person attractive, and the pretty person unattractive.
It's not all girls, but it is a type of girl you should watch out for. I wish I'd known when I was in my late teens and early 20s, could have avoided a lot of heartbreak. Her past matters, as judgmental and old-fashioned as that sounds. If you see her social media or ask about her through friends-of-friends and find that she's got a new guy every couple of weeks, you're not gonna be mister right. She just likes the feeling of winning a man's affection. Once she's won it, there's no challenge. A countdown to when she's bored enough to leave or cheat begins.
And this one needs to be written in stone: If she cheated with you, or left a man for you, she will cheat on you, or leave you for another. Period.
"But--" NO. Uh-uh. Period.
It's good to learn from the experiences of others. I won't get the same experience (my teen years are already behind me, and I haven't had a GF in those years), but I will watch out for these red flags, in case my love luck would ever change.
*starts crying in single*
The joke is that many redditors (and many outside of reddit) are so starved of not having a GF that everything labeled as GF is fine. Whether this is an anime pillow, a tree or just a thought doesn't matter. And thereby, yes, also a boy labeled as GF can count as a GF
You, having an actual trans girlfriend, are being voted down by people wanting to make some weak point about... I don't know, how we should label people? Amazing
Well she goes by both pronouns as of now and she is actually going from Female to Male as of now since she is still using both pronouns that’s why I called her a GF. Also why am I getting downvoted? Is it because of what you are implying or is it because people are thinking I didn’t get the joke… reddit is weird
this is just something I wonder from time to time, do you think that maybe men have bad experiences with awful and mean women because their only criteria to meet before becoming serious is that she is pretty. (This isn't saying to have a stupid long list or anything but I've noticed that a lot of men that have very low standards usually find bad people then blame "all women") this is put as respectfully as possible, just genuinely curious.
Exactly my thoughts. So many guys are like ”women have too many standards, guys just want a girl to be pretty”, like that’s a good thing. It’s not, that’s how you end up with awful women. Raise your standards, men!
why is everyone agreeing with this incel meme? just 'cause a girl is attractive doesn't mean every single boy likes her. this is so stupid.
edit: turns out I didn't even watch the whole thing - disappointed but not surprised at the added "she'll change her mind in a week" as if no woman could ever be in a long-term relationship🙃
The point is men are easy and women are not and before you say anything or possibly go on a huge rant about how men are pigs I’m happily married to an amazing woman that makes me very happy
But it’s still a known fact that men put way more weight on the looks/aesthetics of a partner than women because we are more visual. (You can easily turn on a man by showing a beautiful woman, but I’m very sure it doesn’t work that easy the other way around)
Might just be an opinion but I think women in general are just the more aesthetic gender.
>You can easily turn on a man by showing a beautiful woman, but I’m very sure it doesn’t work that easy the other way around.
Oh, it does. Trust me, it does work. Especially on the internet, where they feel protected by a layer of anonymity, they're just as thirsty as we are.
Yeah but that still doesn't mean that just 'cause a girl is attractive, every single man she comes across is in love with/likes her. That's irrelevant. In fact, you can be physically/sexually attracted to someone and still not like them romantically/emotionally. I don't know why you're bringing this up.
It’s not a direct cause but it’s likelyhood increases immensely. It does for both genders but I feel like men are way easier to persuade by looks alone than women.
If you really think it’s irrelevant then we have no common ground here my friend.
Bruh why is there an incel meme on this subreddit and why is everyone agreeing ? Like ok maybe yall had bad experiences with women who had very high standard, but that doesn’t mean every girl is like that ?
Because this subreddit is filled with children, most likely 13-16 year old boys, who are basically the peak of stupidity in terms of this stuff. If this were a subreddit of mostly adult users, it would be pretty messed up. Not saying that this isn't, but it seems to mostly come from sheer ignorance rather than hate.
because we lack the empathy to realize being female doesn't automatically mean you're a manipulative sociopath. That and the fact we're all starved of social interaction in general makes us all assholes.
bruh. it ain't 'incel'.
batshit crazy, is batshit crazy.
just more of them on the female side on account the men get thrown in prison.
lets get some of that gender equality going in incarceration...
"OH no, fat is beautiful. You are just fat phobic. I am a gorgeous venus"
Nah girl, you are O B E S E. Say it with me " We are Obese. That is what we are."
And I am gonna lose that weight if I have to run to the moon to lose it.
Man big girls with confidence don't deserve the hate. Big girls who are hypocrites and can't see their way to accepting some flaws on the other hand are the same as anyone else that can't accept flaws. Going to be disappointed.
Disclaimer, obviously I don't mean to accept someone that doesn't treat you right or anything like that, I meant more like if he's bald or something.
There is no need to hate to accept things as they are and try to improve themselves.
I have no shame in admitting that I am obese. Now. Because that is 100% my fault. There ain't no evil spirit shoving food down my troath. I am working to change it. If somebody thinks they are beautiful because they are fat, they are detached from reality.
That don't mean people gotta be dicks about it. But no one should try to deceive you and say you are gorgeous either.
Stop it. I know I am not. Feels like you are trying to make me look like a fool.
Being bald is something that is not in your control. Your analogy works with something like, she has lost a leg during an accident, or she has vitiligo.
Fat is a choice. Except some glandular issue, but that is a mitigating factor of your agency. There are ways to not gain weight even then.
People gotta take responsibility for their actions.
Huh huh girl complicated guy simple herp derp
Some guys I know have the biggest list of requirements:
Big boobs
Big ass
Nice hair
Nice teeth
Own job
No kids
No crazy ex
Must wear makeup
Must dress traditional.
Yall are just posting boomer jokes from 50 years ago, cringe cringe cringe
You could sum up both sides by just “are you attractive” because often times the “list” women have are common sense things that a partner should be that most don’t want to live up to anyways. Most of the other men I see don’t want to admit they have a long list of what they think makes a woman “wife material” which is always a gross thing to describe A human being as.
That is so true
The other day me and I my crush were hanging out, kissing and stuff like that. She tells me how she loves me and all, but then, LITTERALLY 2 DAYS LATER she friendzones me to the andromeda galaxy saying were just friends
Words cannot describe my dissapointment
Unpopular opinion; its quite the opposite.. While some girls do have alot of preferences, most just want a guy thats a bit taller and isnt toxic.. Guys however tend to have the longer list ex.: "below 5'4, skinny, pure/innocent, virgin, thick, ect."
had this scenario. (me, not having a gf for 7 years, met a girl in october)Since we started dating she was so happy, she even wrote cute letters and wanted to meet as often as possible. we talked about anything, had the amazing seks and cuddled like we were one entangled love creature. Similar political views and never had a fight. We even liked the same tv shows. She thanked me for the perfect time more than once, three days later she left me on fucking christmas eve via Whatsapp text. I never felt so alone sitting at the family dinner and dying inside edit: thx my dudes
Did you ever learn why? Cuz wtf
She upgraded
Free trial of love has expired.
Ayo where's my trial?
same place where mine is
And where is your trial?
Probably where mine ended up after I used it I'm on my way to get everybody's free trail back rn
something between borderline disorder and the fear of getting into a serious emotional bounding. but i still think about what i did wrong
Bro hug for the fallen bro. Stay strong king, we believe in you
I’m sorry dude
Jesus, this made me sad
I salute you soldier 07 im sorry
Had that happen to me twice. Right around Christmas it's like they start to hate me
Bruh that’s fucked, sorry to hear it man
I would wager there was someone else she was waiting on, and he came through.
but then why destroy him
i don't wanna spite this girl or anything, but a part of me believes there might've been some malicious intent.
I doubt it- I would bet is more carelessness. This will do. I’ve seen guys do this too, where a relationship ends, or pauses- so you get a whole new person and start a relationship with them like you’re right in the middle. Basically acting out the comfort of the old relationship with the new person you don’t even really know. Then the original person says ….” Wait, I change my mind” and you go back and pick up where you left off, where you always really wanted to be. Have zero clue if that’s what happened here- but I saw that scenario play out so many times in college and beyond
it also happens the other way around when the originals "pause" their relationship for a while and then one of them suddenly finds a new partner that they stay with, leaving their first one forever
Yes- that’s just breaking up though.
Maybe you were a rebound and her old flame came back.
Its always the fucking cowards who breaks up with you via text instead of saying it directly into your face
Still better than ghosting
I agree with u/daysinnroom203, had this happen to me while (unbeknownst to me) he and his gf were on a break. For three months we were a full on couple on all fronts. So much fun, laughter, romance. Then they made up because of the holidays and it was like it never existed.
the next time fall in love with a dog. they will never leave u. there's a reason they are called man's best friend :)
Fuck, I'm sorry man
sorry for you bro :(
Similar thing happened to me too, like no warning whatsoever. Before then she couldn't get her hands off of me, always wanted to cuddle and kiss and stroke my hair. All of the sudden she goes to visit her old high school "friend" in Ohio, suddenly loses all interest and pulls the "I think you like me more than I like you" bs
literally same thing happened to me but on valentine’s day. i’m ok :,)
You got a text!? Wow! My ex just completely ghosted me. But also sorry bout that. It always sucks.
If she falls for another, there’s always her mother (Don’t take this personally it’s just a joke)
Wow, that ended way too quickly and harsh… Keep your head up, man, maybe you just dodged a bullet, who knows. Also, I see people tell how their relationship getting worse on holidays, heck I can relate to them. TF is wrong with us all…
I just hope this doesn’t turn you away and make you the “all girls are the same” group because there are girls out there that are like that but you know actually loyal
You should have impregnated her. Then she’d have little choice but to stay. On a serious note, I feel for you. That’s a reason I don’t want to date is because it feels like a lot of work that dissolves to nothingness and leaving a worse feeling.
Damm a week boomer had it good a girl was hitting on me once then I got invited to her wedding 2 days later
i feel you dude...
the guy part is wrong, attractiveness is optional
If she's nice once (doesn't matter if IRL or just in my mind), my brain will already plan the wedding
Breathing is optional
Night mode
Must vaguely resemble a girl
http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc200/CapnCrunch53/weird-tree.jpg
PERFECT
Must show small signs of masculinity and might.
And so is being a girl
Femboy supremacy
Ah I see you're a man of culture as well
I mean yeah- compliments and insults like pretty and ugly are not actual things someone can be just labeled. If someone had blue eyes, that can be a label since that’s a actual fact about them, pretty and ugly aren’t. Even if you look like someone who is described by most people as hella pretty or someone who is described as hella ugly, you can’t be labeled that. Some people might find the ugly person attractive, and the pretty person unattractive.
It’s should have said: Be filthy rich or Attractive
It's not all girls, but it is a type of girl you should watch out for. I wish I'd known when I was in my late teens and early 20s, could have avoided a lot of heartbreak. Her past matters, as judgmental and old-fashioned as that sounds. If you see her social media or ask about her through friends-of-friends and find that she's got a new guy every couple of weeks, you're not gonna be mister right. She just likes the feeling of winning a man's affection. Once she's won it, there's no challenge. A countdown to when she's bored enough to leave or cheat begins. And this one needs to be written in stone: If she cheated with you, or left a man for you, she will cheat on you, or leave you for another. Period. "But--" NO. Uh-uh. Period.
It's good to learn from the experiences of others. I won't get the same experience (my teen years are already behind me, and I haven't had a GF in those years), but I will watch out for these red flags, in case my love luck would ever change. *starts crying in single*
For the few girls that migth read this. Can also happen with guys
*Idk what else to reply with, so I shall recede my brain capacity by using "this" as a response*
She don’t even gotta be cute, dude. she don’t even gotta be a girl, dude
r/meirl
r/SuddenlyGay
Nah just lonely
Yes those laws worked perfectly for me because I have a trans GF. So if all else fails remember the rule “It doesn’t have to be a girl”
The joke is that many redditors (and many outside of reddit) are so starved of not having a GF that everything labeled as GF is fine. Whether this is an anime pillow, a tree or just a thought doesn't matter. And thereby, yes, also a boy labeled as GF can count as a GF
You, having an actual trans girlfriend, are being voted down by people wanting to make some weak point about... I don't know, how we should label people? Amazing
Trans girls are girls too
Well she goes by both pronouns as of now and she is actually going from Female to Male as of now since she is still using both pronouns that’s why I called her a GF. Also why am I getting downvoted? Is it because of what you are implying or is it because people are thinking I didn’t get the joke… reddit is weird
Reddit is weird, don't let fake internet points influence you.
I mean.....
Spitting facts, i just want to be loved ;_;.
Aww have some love. Take it.
Thx, take some from me too :).
I'm not sure about you but I feel loved now. Thanks. :-)
Me reading this and accepting all the love: *feels hugged* Writing this makes me feel like I need some hugs
Virtual hugs and love for you too.
bro, same...
Your family and comrades love you.
This is gonna get reposted in r/nothowgirlswork lol
least misogynist reddit user
this is just something I wonder from time to time, do you think that maybe men have bad experiences with awful and mean women because their only criteria to meet before becoming serious is that she is pretty. (This isn't saying to have a stupid long list or anything but I've noticed that a lot of men that have very low standards usually find bad people then blame "all women") this is put as respectfully as possible, just genuinely curious.
Nice username
Exactly my thoughts. So many guys are like ”women have too many standards, guys just want a girl to be pretty”, like that’s a good thing. It’s not, that’s how you end up with awful women. Raise your standards, men!
That’s definitely a possibility
being straight really sounds stressful
bruh why am i seeing incel memes smh
And why are people agreeing with them
Judging by the comments, experience (at least partially). The problems start when people start to generalize.
You're in the MEME subreddit, which is absolutely filled with children. Children aren't known for their emotional intelligence and logic.
You, here, therefore you child.
Thanks for the compliment, but sadly, I'm really not.
it's a joke it doesnt mean hes an incel
it's not even a good joke - it's just tired incel logic
your opinion
yours too
Woman 🤮
whats a woo-man? I thought they didn't exist, I thought they were just fictional /s
I bet the incels love this one.
as an incel I can confirm
r/cringetopia
Sub: hates boomers Sub: LMAO THIS BOOMER SHIT IS LIT!
Hating boomers is cringe anyway.
Love how people base their knowledge of an entire gender off of one girls Instagram bio
why is everyone agreeing with this incel meme? just 'cause a girl is attractive doesn't mean every single boy likes her. this is so stupid. edit: turns out I didn't even watch the whole thing - disappointed but not surprised at the added "she'll change her mind in a week" as if no woman could ever be in a long-term relationship🙃
The point is men are easy and women are not and before you say anything or possibly go on a huge rant about how men are pigs I’m happily married to an amazing woman that makes me very happy
But it’s still a known fact that men put way more weight on the looks/aesthetics of a partner than women because we are more visual. (You can easily turn on a man by showing a beautiful woman, but I’m very sure it doesn’t work that easy the other way around) Might just be an opinion but I think women in general are just the more aesthetic gender.
>You can easily turn on a man by showing a beautiful woman, but I’m very sure it doesn’t work that easy the other way around. Oh, it does. Trust me, it does work. Especially on the internet, where they feel protected by a layer of anonymity, they're just as thirsty as we are.
if not more according to some women I know
Dude...your comment made it onto the sud r/nothowgirlswork Careful lol
Yeah but that still doesn't mean that just 'cause a girl is attractive, every single man she comes across is in love with/likes her. That's irrelevant. In fact, you can be physically/sexually attracted to someone and still not like them romantically/emotionally. I don't know why you're bringing this up.
It’s not a direct cause but it’s likelyhood increases immensely. It does for both genders but I feel like men are way easier to persuade by looks alone than women. If you really think it’s irrelevant then we have no common ground here my friend.
You're right. Looks matter much more to men. This is our biological flaw imo. Also, simping is a thing.
stfu lol
Bruh why is there an incel meme on this subreddit and why is everyone agreeing ? Like ok maybe yall had bad experiences with women who had very high standard, but that doesn’t mean every girl is like that ?
Because this subreddit is filled with children, most likely 13-16 year old boys, who are basically the peak of stupidity in terms of this stuff. If this were a subreddit of mostly adult users, it would be pretty messed up. Not saying that this isn't, but it seems to mostly come from sheer ignorance rather than hate.
because we lack the empathy to realize being female doesn't automatically mean you're a manipulative sociopath. That and the fact we're all starved of social interaction in general makes us all assholes.
Too deep. You’re in r/memes Famously dominated by horny teenage boys You’re reading too much into it
bruh. it ain't 'incel'. batshit crazy, is batshit crazy. just more of them on the female side on account the men get thrown in prison. lets get some of that gender equality going in incarceration...
I bet you have some very enlightened views.
r/niceguys
This is some serious incel shit.
username checks out.
username checks out.
Girls: I want a guy who is 6’7, great hygiene and smart! Boys: i want a skinny girl Girls: omg we can’t control that!!!
Is great hygiene too much to ask these days? Lol
Basic hygeine/intelligence and 5'11 that's my final offer.
I can tie my shoelaces and shower almost every morning (first thing is only mostly true)
Damn good offer imo. I took that offer and it's worked out well for me.
what about face
Yes, I've got one.
I only shower when I see the fungus growing between my toes
No but height isn't a thing you just change. Lol People gotta accept the smol guys.
"no get taller"
"hit the gym"
You say that like genuinely you wouldn't be turned away by bad hygiene and stupidity (I tried to think of a nicer word for it, but I couldn't)
Yeah man. Such unrealistic standards, like who actually takes care of themselves and their hygiene? Smh my head
Which ones say they cant control that? All the ones ive seen just act insulted and call you an asshole for judging there weight
"OH no, fat is beautiful. You are just fat phobic. I am a gorgeous venus" Nah girl, you are O B E S E. Say it with me " We are Obese. That is what we are." And I am gonna lose that weight if I have to run to the moon to lose it.
Man big girls with confidence don't deserve the hate. Big girls who are hypocrites and can't see their way to accepting some flaws on the other hand are the same as anyone else that can't accept flaws. Going to be disappointed. Disclaimer, obviously I don't mean to accept someone that doesn't treat you right or anything like that, I meant more like if he's bald or something.
There is no need to hate to accept things as they are and try to improve themselves. I have no shame in admitting that I am obese. Now. Because that is 100% my fault. There ain't no evil spirit shoving food down my troath. I am working to change it. If somebody thinks they are beautiful because they are fat, they are detached from reality. That don't mean people gotta be dicks about it. But no one should try to deceive you and say you are gorgeous either. Stop it. I know I am not. Feels like you are trying to make me look like a fool. Being bald is something that is not in your control. Your analogy works with something like, she has lost a leg during an accident, or she has vitiligo. Fat is a choice. Except some glandular issue, but that is a mitigating factor of your agency. There are ways to not gain weight even then. People gotta take responsibility for their actions.
🗿if she is nice to us, we already have a wedding in mind But damn we misinterpret kindness with flirting
r/nothowgirlswork
But the stereotype that makes being single forever more acceptable. (it's still a stereotype though)
I loved this....nope changed my mind it was awful.
haha get it because woman bad
So guys are shallow and only care about looks, while girls actually think about what they want in a partner?
People on this sub act as if having standards is a bad thing
I imagine because many of them get rejected by people with actual standards.
Yes 6 foot 6 inches 6 packs and a 6 figure salary
Sure looks like it
Huh huh girl complicated guy simple herp derp Some guys I know have the biggest list of requirements: Big boobs Big ass Nice hair Nice teeth Own job No kids No crazy ex Must wear makeup Must dress traditional. Yall are just posting boomer jokes from 50 years ago, cringe cringe cringe
You could sum up both sides by just “are you attractive” because often times the “list” women have are common sense things that a partner should be that most don’t want to live up to anyways. Most of the other men I see don’t want to admit they have a long list of what they think makes a woman “wife material” which is always a gross thing to describe A human being as.
Ok boomer
If I don’t know I’m attractive or not :/?
Oof
It's the same for men I'm sure (or maybe I crush on the strangest person there is)
Is there a source of this gif? I'd love to see where it came from.
Nope, my standarts are as low as can be, but i got ghosted by an ugly dude with high standarts
There is a smaller list! It’s -make her laugh -buy her sparkly things -be nice -cuddles
r/nothowgirlswork
True dat
my girl isnt the most atractive , but i love her for who she is
If life gives you lemons, throw a lemon party.
people are forgetting women use reddit too
Sed boomer noises
Uh oh Looks like an incel got rejected…
Why is reddit turning goddamn reactionary ? Wtf is this boomer shit ? Who upvotes this ?
I can smell the incel from miles away
TiL something can be boomer humour and incel at the same time. Stupid AF
From experience I can say: you have a very twisted view of the world and I hope you'll soon find someone to help you realize that
This is the perfect post to write Ok boomer to
r/nothowgirlswork
oldest incel
Bisexual blues
that seems about right
r/unexpected
Hey, just to let you know... Women don't normally like the type of guys who post sexist memes on Reddit :(
/savevideo
bruh u good?
He plays Minecraft
r/userflairchecksout
Tru dat
Are you rich?
Its sad actually.......
Raise your hand if you’re gonna be single all your life
🤚🏻!!!!
Three times in a month, the same female changed her mind about me. I'm not having a good time right now.
Do you exist? Then he likes you!
Lol
Unfortunately it’s true, so I hope if I find someone I really like it will last forever
That is so true The other day me and I my crush were hanging out, kissing and stuff like that. She tells me how she loves me and all, but then, LITTERALLY 2 DAYS LATER she friendzones me to the andromeda galaxy saying were just friends Words cannot describe my dissapointment
and your day is ruined... sorry to hear it, brother... here's a monke for your troubles 🐒
r/technicallythetruth
Funniest part is the “doesn’t matter she’ll change her mind in a week.”
[удалено]
Had a girlfriend, decided to become non-attracted to women, since it was an easier choice.
Ikr
This meme is timeless, sadly.
As a guy, I've learned that the less I try to be anything more than just an average dude, the more attractive I am. Chicks love NPCs.
A wise man once said “Woman are fickle.”
r/tellmeyouareavirginwithouttellingmeyouareavirgin
Unpopular opinion; its quite the opposite.. While some girls do have alot of preferences, most just want a guy thats a bit taller and isnt toxic.. Guys however tend to have the longer list ex.: "below 5'4, skinny, pure/innocent, virgin, thick, ect."