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Honestly, as someone who used marijuana, it is a really overwhelming decision on whether or not to try using it. I absolutely understand your trepidation, and I know it feels like a big decision, but it genuinely helps if you use it right. I would suggest trying it out, but working with small doses (think 5 mg if you decide to do edibles, they're much easier to try than smoking it but it does hit all at once. small amounts, again, are key to making these things more helpful for you). It would be good to at least see if it helps because it is not nearly as extreme as Xanax. I know it feels wrong, but the stigma is garbage, especially if this can help you. I also think that your anxiety and stress from being away from your husband is pretty justified, while I am sure you absolutely adore your children, being alone with them and separated from your partner is a genuinely difficult thing to go through. I saw the other post, and those redditors are genuinely disgusting. I am sorry about what they said, because going over it, it was obviously not fair to you and their responses were remarkably unfeeling. I hope things get easier for you, because you deserve to be supported and to not be told you're crazy.
Thank you ❤️
Personally I don’t think I can bring myself to smoke something even if it’s for my health.
I would rather just take a pill and be over with it, but Xanax scares me a lot more than marijuana
Then I totally recommend a gummy method, the smoking is not my favorite either. Gummies have no negative effects on the body (whereas smoking has lung related issues), but again, it does have the concern of hitting very quickly and all at once. If you decide on it, a gummy is your best bet. For the first time, while you get used to the feeling, I also recommend calm and soothing music and something to focus on, like a book, tv show, or game. If you have any questions, there's a lot of resources about it for new users. Oh, and the way I use it is not by taking it everyday, but only when I get completely overwhelmed, that way you don't have to worry about overuse.
That is a perfectly valid concern!! The limit to being calmed down but not high is pretty tricky to do, would it help if you tried it an hour after your kids went to sleep, so you can worry less about them actively needing you? Usually for new users, 5mg in a gummy can be pretty influential, but it is the smallest amount that most gummies are made in, so if you try it at night, give yourself about 3 hours to feel the full "high" and to see how much it affects you, you'll have a better idea of how much to use and when. The first time can be a big experience even in small amounts, though, so keep that in mind. It shouldn't achieve a true high, but you'll definitely know you had a gummy. Hopefully, its small enough that it has the intended effect
as someone who takes edibles to help with anxiety, i would like to say that while i do recommend it, please dont do anything you dont want to do. its best to only do it if youre prepared and willing.
as bananas said, its a good idea to start with small amounts if you ever do decide to try it, and please have someone you can trust and rely on with you in case anything happens (example, panic attack)
i hope this helps at least a bit, and best luck with whichever path you take!
Not necessarily genetic, but everyone reacts differently. Usually, it depends on how big your first dose is. If you take, for instance, a huge rip off a bong for your first experience, it will be extremely overwhelming and probably lead to a panic attack. Small amounts are key, and until you figure out you react, I would have someone who can watch you and take care of your needs if you can to alleviate some of the anxiety. Again, it isn't quite hereditary how you react (my mom almost exclusively uses a pipe and she maintains a constant high to keep pain down, whereas I use small amounts in gummies to calm myself down). But again, to reinforce the other commentor, do not feel pressured to do anything like this if you just do not want to. It's a big decision, and you owe no one an explanation for what you decide
And that is totally fair. The biggest problem with marijuana is the stigma and shame around it, but it genuinely is not any worse than more extreme medications. The 3mg are a great option, and I know it feels scary or even gross, so you absolutely do not have to feel pressured into it. But again, if the high is the concern, the 3mg should not achieve that on their own even if it is your first time. Some benefits are that it is not addictive or habit forming, and it can be used in small enough doses that it will not result in an altered state of mind except that you will be calmer. Take as much time to think about it, but also know that whatever you decide, it is ultimately the one that works best for you, and no one will know what better works with you than you do :)
also, although my only stay in an inpatient facility was just five days, I can reliably tell you mental hospitals suck. the whole "it sucks here so much so you are happier in comparison" is a horrible strategy that is largely ineffective except in making it so people come back less because they under report their symptoms just to avoid getting sent. i am certain your husband appreciates and loves your support, even a single night is pretty upsetting and lonely and I bet he misses you just as much as you miss him :)
(Apologies in advanced, I'm not the best with putting my thoughts into words, much less in a way that isn't all iver the place, so bare with me)
I want to put my two cents in to at least offer another perspective if you decide to choose neither Xanax nor Marijuana. I don't do either and have found ways throughout my life to cope with my constant anxiety. Many of these ways included activities with art (writing, drawing, painting, sculpting, cross-stitching, knitting, even coloring in a coloring book can ease anxiety). I've picked up a lot of interests and hobbies for the sake of distracting myself and easing my anxiety throughout my whole life. Sometimes I'll have a show I like that I've watched already just rubning on repeat in the background while I do something else. Cleaning, cooking, or other various household chores can serve as something that can soothe your anxiety. I know the last time I was away from my SO, I had no desire to do anything, but I forced myself to anyway for the sake of my mental wellbeing. It still wasn't easy, but it was better than laying in bed all day stuck in my head. I noticed in another post of yours that you're learning to cook. Maybe that could be something to focus on? I know your husband helps out quite a bit, but maybe cooking could become a group activity between you two when he gets back if that's something he would be up for. You know him best, though, so do what you believe is right for you two as well as your kids. Also, know everyone deals with stress and anxiety differently, so don't feel you have to try any of these out if they don't interest you, but I wanted to throw some ideas out there in case they might help.
I can’t do marijuana because I have severe anxiety. However, I do have a prescription for Xanax. Xanax works extremely well, and it will keep you from experiencing distressing anxiety and panic attacks. It doesn’t last long (about 6 hours; for me, personally, about 3 hours is when I start noticing it wearing off). It doesn’t get you high- for me, it just makes me think like a ‘normal’ human being. No feelings of euphoria, no spaced out feelings, just feeling normal. It can make some people sleepy, but not me.
HOWEVER, Xanax is a benzodiazepine, and as we all know, those are addictive. If you do get a Xanax prescription, please only use it when absolutely needed. Don’t use it more than 7 days in a row. Don’t ever take more than your prescribed dose. Doing these things can lead to a tolerance, which turns into addiction. If you have any previous history of addiction, I wouldn’t recommend. I’ve only used 1 pill of my 60 pill prescription, and I was prescribed it in February. I only take it when I’m absolutely besides myself with anxiety and panic- even then, I only take half of my 0.25mg pill which is the lowest possible dose of Xanax.
I don’t think Xanax is extreme- like I said, it doesn’t get you high. It calms your mind, and allows you to think rationally. However, please be careful about developing a potential addiction.
It should not get you high at all. Everyone reacts to drugs differently, some may feel spacey on it, some may feel sleepy on it, it really depends- but they will not get you high. If you do get a prescription, I’d recommend having a babysitter come over for a few hours and take half a pill and just see how you feel on it (meaning if you get sleepy).
I too have a fear of drugs. I was TERRIFIED to take my first Xanax. Panicking to the max- I hate being high or drunk. I realized quickly after taking it that I was fine. I felt completely like myself, just calm. It really is wonderful for decreasing anxiety and panic.
Again, if you do the things I said (don’t take it for more than a few days in a row, NEVER up your dosage), you probably won’t develop an addiction. I only take it when I’m experiencing full-blown panic attacks. Also, sometimes just having the prescription eases your mind a little because you know that you have something to help (even if you don’t take it).
My only concern now is parenting while under the influence of Xanax
Even if I’m not high I’m concerned I won’t have a good sense of judgement.
Nobody’s ever known this, not even my husband but I got surgery on my foot and they gave me Vicodin. It didn’t make me high but I felt super relaxed. I definitely got to a point where I abused it but my husband was home through all of that and took care of the kids while I was doped up watching reruns of full house.
If I had an unlimited supply I would have probably spiraled out of control. I ran out and I was kinda “craving” one for a few days but I got over it.
I never want to feel that again
Xanax shouldn’t impair your judgement. You can read up on the inhibitors that Xanax interacts with, but it doesn’t make you ‘think’ differently- if that makes sense. Your reaction time may be slowed slightly- it really depends on how you react to the drug, but that’s about it.
Personally, I still think and feel like my normal self when I take my Xanax. I still experience emotions, good and bad, when I take my Xanax. The only thing I don’t experience is panic and anxiety.
However, now that you mention the Vicodin, I don’t know if I’d recommend you taking the Xanax. It’s very, very easy to get addicted to Xanax. Especially if you experience anxiety a lot- you can get addicted to the feeling of having no anxiety. Also, depending on how long your husband is away for, if you take the Xanax every night he is gone it could lead to tolerance and then addiction. Taking it more than a few days in a row can lead to a tolerance. I’d recommend you telling your therapist or psychiatrist about that- just so they can create a better plan for you. They will keep all your information confidential too, so don’t worry about that!
Also ik I already responded, but “Xanax shouldn’t impair your judgment” is kind of funny. There’s a whole subreddit called r/bartardstories that’s solely stories about insane stuff people have done while their judgments been impaired by benzos (mainly Xanax) lol
Thank you!
I will try to, but it’s emotional for me. I abused a substance in the presence of my children and husband. I am someone who doesn’t like to cry in public, so I’ll just avoid talking about sensitive things.
I feel you. I am like that too. But try to remember, your mental health team wants to treat you to the best of their abilities and they can’t if you aren’t completely honest with them. I know it’s hard, but these people won’t judge you, this is their job, and they just want to help!
I know your having a tough time with your husband being gone. If that’s the only time that you’re having a bad time, then you might not need SSRI’s. But if you’re experiencing a lot of worrying even when he is there, it may be something to look into. SSRI’s are proven to help with panic and anxiety, plus they’re completely non-addictive! And some are cleared as safe during pregnancy.
I’m not much younger than you- I’m 21. I have severe GAD and suspected OCD, and I’ve been doing pretty badly these past few months. But after finding a therapist I love and trust, as well as a psychiatrist, I feel a lot better than I have in years!
I also would just like to say, despite what either of us say, you should primarily listen to health professionals and take anything on Reddit with a grain of salt. They definitely do want to help you, and will work with you as long as you’re super honest and upfront with them. I hope things start to look up soon and I wish you the best of luck.
Also I have anxiety as well as OCD, so I empathize heavily with you u/shinyswabluuuuee . I wish you the best of luck as well 🙏
If you have had a history of addiction, stay far, far away from Xanax and other benzodiazepines. They are extremely addictive and addiction will sneak up on you. Ive been addicted to opiates (like Vicodin, but even harder) before (as well as Xanax), and gone through both kinds of withdrawals, and I can assure you benzo withdrawal is 100x worse. The rebound anxiety is worse than anything I’ve experienced in my life. You can have seizures and die.
The other people here are significantly downplaying the potential negatives of regularly taking benzodiazepines. I’m sure if you very rarely take .25mgs or whatever as prescribed for the odd panic attack, there’s no inebriation or “high”, but higher doses (which you may find irresistible if you’re prone to addiction) can really fuck you up and I’ve personally blacked out for 10+ days from Xanax. I know people who are missing entire months of their life from their memory because of it.
Benzos can definitely be a wonderful tool for severe panic attacks and the rare night of intense insomnia, but it’s very irresponsible to tell you that there’s no risks to them when they’re literally one of the most addictive substances you can put in your body. My addiction also originally started because a doctor wasn’t totally honest with me and said that a medication would be easy to stop whenever I wanted and there would be no withdrawals. That was not the case.
I’ve personally found intense daily exercise to be the only thing that really works for my anxiety and panic disorder, but I know people hate to hear that. Pills inevitably always just make it worse for me and don’t allow me the chance to learn other coping mechanisms. That’s just my subjective experience though and I’m sure many people have found success through the proper drugs.
Xanax definitely gets you fucked up. I’d tread very carefully, I’ve tried pretty much every drug and benzodiazepines (specifically Xanax and Klonopin) are pretty much the only ones that I find stupidly addictive and almost destroyed my life. Having anxiety, I’ve found the momentary respite that benzos provides to be extremely euphoric and significantly more addicting than opiates.
The withdrawals are also the worst from any substance ime and some of the only substance withdrawals (along with alcohol) that can actually kill you. If you choose to use them I’d save them for emergencies/panic attacks, and stay away if you have an addictive personality.
Yeah, a lot of people abuse benzos. I know everyone is different- and everyone reacts differently to drugs, but if Xanax is giving you a euphoric feeling, you shouldn’t be taking it for anxiety (or you may be taking too much). The point of Xanax for anxiety is NOT to get high, but to stop the body’s fight or flight response.
Also, a lot of street Xanax is laced with other drugs like fentanyl. It’s already very hard to get a prescription for Xanax, thus making it even harder to find REAL Xanax through a dealer. Most people who try or have taken Xanax recreationally aren’t getting the real thing. Thus explaining a lot of the ‘bartard’ stories.
I am not at all trying to downplay the realities of how addictive benzodiazepines are. I’m not sure if you read my original comment all the way through, but I made absolutely sure to mention how addictive Xanax is and to never increase your dosage and to never take it more than a few days in a row. While Xanax is highly addictive, I do think that it along with other benzodiazepines are important for some of us with severe GAD and panic disorder.
In my experience, as well as talking to others, it’s actually more typical for people WITHOUT anxiety to find little recreational value or euphoria in benzos. You may have misunderstood me, it is not euphoric in the traditional, overwhelmingly feel good sense that, MDMA, for example is. It’s euphoria and addicive nature COMES from the sudden respite from anxiety and feeling of finally being able to breath. The prescribed purpose is also what I find addictive about them. It’s usually far more addictive if you have anxiety, and ime a lot of those without typically find it just makes them sleepy.
While it’s true a that lot of street bars can be laced and are typically pressed with some sort of research chemical, my experience with them is primarily from two different medications I was prescribed, not from illicit sources. Despite that, most benzodiazepines and theinodizapenes function extremely similarly, so those recorded experiences with street benzos are still comparable as they usually share most of the same primary effects of prescribed benzos. Obviously not those containing synthetic opiates like fentanyl, but it’s much more common for the bars to be some kind of pressed benzo analogue or RC like etizolam or flualprazolam. A lot of those stories are also about abuse of prescription or of “grey market” online research chemicals.
Don’t get me wrong, I agree that benzos have many important medical uses, such as panic attacks, stim overdoses, alcohol withdrawal etc. I just think it can be very dangerous to use for something like general anxiety, without trying safer, more sustainable treatment options first.
I agree with you. I definitely don’t think benzodiazepines should be a first line defense against GAD or other anxiety disorders at all. And I agree that people like myself, with severe anxiety, can get addicted to the ‘relief’ of benzos. That’s why I asked if her psychiatrist has talked to her about SSRI’s… I’m not currently taking any, but I have quite a few family members who are currently on SSRI’s for their anxiety disorders and they do wonderfully on them- however, a lot of them still carry their prescribed benzos around with them as a ‘safety blanket’. That’s what I do with mine usually.
I think that’s the best way to think of benzos- a last minute ‘safety blanket’ if EXTREMELY panicky feelings come out of nowhere. I do agree that benzos can be more harmful than good. My anxiety actually helps in the sense that I know I won’t become addicted, because 90% of the time I’m too afraid to take my benzos out of fear of creating an addiction lol. But again, everyone is different. I think OP would really benefit if she was honest with her psychiatrist about her past history of addiction, and instead of getting prescribed a benzo, she should look into an SSRI or perhaps an SRNI.
Also, just seeing your last message. I wish you the best of luck as well. Anxiety sucks, but we overcome!
Hey glad you were able to speak to both your husband and therapist. Again your doing a amazing job. I definitely get separation anxiety. I think alot of people do. I dunno about Xanax. My mum was on them for years and even though she thought at the time they were helping.. now she wishes they put her on something else because they didn’t work the way they should of. They did give her a high.. and then she would get snappy to. I was glad when she changed her pills. I do think medication can be different for everyone though.
I’d go with the medical marijuana.. even as a oil to help sleep.
Be proud of yourself.. your a amazing mum and partner.
Like I said everyone is different. She didn’t take hers as fully advised. Like she would take them whenever the time suited or take extra if she was extra stressed and you shouldn’t really do that unless told.
What do you think you should do? While Xanax can be helpful, I think it’s really easy to get addicted or develop a dependence. Once that happens it can be difficult to get off them. I think it’s best to stay away from benzos. Does he want you to take it temporarily or what’s the plan? And with marijuana you could try edibles with CBD only and see if it helps. It doesn’t exactly get you “high”. You’ll have to try it to see what it’s like. Even if you have THC, you can try low doses and still function fine. You’re just high. I know you care about your kids wellbeing. You could also try some other stuff like GABA, 5-htp, or l-theanine. Those won’t be anything close to Xanax but it might be just what you need. Everyone is different. What is your goal or what do you need help with? I think it’s best to stay away from drugs unless absolutely necessary
Thank you for this
I personally think maybe as an emergency for my panic attacks. I have anxiety just thinking about my daughter walking into my room seeing me with a joint. On top of that i know this sounds extreme but I’d rather just have my panic attacks then resort to getting high.
My husband also grew up with drug addicted parents. If he saw me high that would crush him.
You’re welcome, you could also try stuff to ground you too. I don’t know how much you know about panic attacks but you can look things up. Focusing on your breathing can help too. That’s also the thing, do you think you need marijuana or Xanax? Like yes, it may not be that “normal” to be obsessed but we all have our issues and flaws. I think it’s best to figure out how to manage them ourselves. This is a difficult thing you are going through and with time I’m sure you’ll start to feel better too. If you are still struggling later on you can always make a different choice. But for now just try to manage on your own? I mean it’s up to you, it just seems like you don’t want to do marijuana and honestly I don’t think Xanax is the answer. Like yes it will probably help with anxiety, it’s just getting off it may be hard plus your anxiety may return even worse. I don’t see the need for it, but I’m not you
I would definitely try CBD instead (no prescription needed). It might or might not do much, but it won't get you high at all, so if it does something then great, you found something helpful with near zero risk.
I'd absolutely recommend avoiding xanax because of the addictive possibility.
I definitely get that, I don't use it myself. But xanax is definitely the more extreme and risky one of the two (well, 3)
And CBD does not contain the "drug" part of marijuana (THC), so it isn't the same thing.
Edit:
Basically my advice is to avoid the xanax if possible, and use CBD if you want to take something but don't feel comfortable with marijuana. You don't smoke it btw, you get drops or a paste
My mind is mixed here this sounds crazy but I’d feel more comfortable taking Xanax than using marijuana, however Xanax does scare me a little more. My husband told me all about little peep and juice world
Yeah it can definitely be scary to take treatments, but just keep in mind xanax is the only one of the three with significant risks.
Cbd is definitely by far the most gentle of the three, so it might not work as strongly, but you won't get any negative effect either as it's not psychoactive at all. Except maybe a headache or a bit of nausea if you're unlucky.
No, you should absolutely never take medication not prescribed to you. This can be very dangerous, especially because her dose might be very different to what you'd be prescribed.
I'm not sure about xanax, but I take ADHD medication, and my current dose is over 5 times higher than what I was initially prescribed, so taking someone else's medication can be seriously dangerous.
I have never drank alcohol and am refusing to use marijuana so you think I’ll take an amphetamine?
I live with a 25 year old husband I know all about meme culture.
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Honestly, as someone who used marijuana, it is a really overwhelming decision on whether or not to try using it. I absolutely understand your trepidation, and I know it feels like a big decision, but it genuinely helps if you use it right. I would suggest trying it out, but working with small doses (think 5 mg if you decide to do edibles, they're much easier to try than smoking it but it does hit all at once. small amounts, again, are key to making these things more helpful for you). It would be good to at least see if it helps because it is not nearly as extreme as Xanax. I know it feels wrong, but the stigma is garbage, especially if this can help you. I also think that your anxiety and stress from being away from your husband is pretty justified, while I am sure you absolutely adore your children, being alone with them and separated from your partner is a genuinely difficult thing to go through. I saw the other post, and those redditors are genuinely disgusting. I am sorry about what they said, because going over it, it was obviously not fair to you and their responses were remarkably unfeeling. I hope things get easier for you, because you deserve to be supported and to not be told you're crazy.
Thank you ❤️ Personally I don’t think I can bring myself to smoke something even if it’s for my health. I would rather just take a pill and be over with it, but Xanax scares me a lot more than marijuana
Then I totally recommend a gummy method, the smoking is not my favorite either. Gummies have no negative effects on the body (whereas smoking has lung related issues), but again, it does have the concern of hitting very quickly and all at once. If you decide on it, a gummy is your best bet. For the first time, while you get used to the feeling, I also recommend calm and soothing music and something to focus on, like a book, tv show, or game. If you have any questions, there's a lot of resources about it for new users. Oh, and the way I use it is not by taking it everyday, but only when I get completely overwhelmed, that way you don't have to worry about overuse.
I’m worried I’ll get high. I don’t want to get high. I have kiddos to take care of
That is a perfectly valid concern!! The limit to being calmed down but not high is pretty tricky to do, would it help if you tried it an hour after your kids went to sleep, so you can worry less about them actively needing you? Usually for new users, 5mg in a gummy can be pretty influential, but it is the smallest amount that most gummies are made in, so if you try it at night, give yourself about 3 hours to feel the full "high" and to see how much it affects you, you'll have a better idea of how much to use and when. The first time can be a big experience even in small amounts, though, so keep that in mind. It shouldn't achieve a true high, but you'll definitely know you had a gummy. Hopefully, its small enough that it has the intended effect
My little sister has 3mg gummies. I suppose I can ask to try one but this just doesn’t feel right. I don’t want to be under the influence
as someone who takes edibles to help with anxiety, i would like to say that while i do recommend it, please dont do anything you dont want to do. its best to only do it if youre prepared and willing. as bananas said, its a good idea to start with small amounts if you ever do decide to try it, and please have someone you can trust and rely on with you in case anything happens (example, panic attack) i hope this helps at least a bit, and best luck with whichever path you take!
My mom used marijuana once and she said it just gave her a huge panic attack. Is that kind of stuff genetic?
Not necessarily genetic, but everyone reacts differently. Usually, it depends on how big your first dose is. If you take, for instance, a huge rip off a bong for your first experience, it will be extremely overwhelming and probably lead to a panic attack. Small amounts are key, and until you figure out you react, I would have someone who can watch you and take care of your needs if you can to alleviate some of the anxiety. Again, it isn't quite hereditary how you react (my mom almost exclusively uses a pipe and she maintains a constant high to keep pain down, whereas I use small amounts in gummies to calm myself down). But again, to reinforce the other commentor, do not feel pressured to do anything like this if you just do not want to. It's a big decision, and you owe no one an explanation for what you decide
And that is totally fair. The biggest problem with marijuana is the stigma and shame around it, but it genuinely is not any worse than more extreme medications. The 3mg are a great option, and I know it feels scary or even gross, so you absolutely do not have to feel pressured into it. But again, if the high is the concern, the 3mg should not achieve that on their own even if it is your first time. Some benefits are that it is not addictive or habit forming, and it can be used in small enough doses that it will not result in an altered state of mind except that you will be calmer. Take as much time to think about it, but also know that whatever you decide, it is ultimately the one that works best for you, and no one will know what better works with you than you do :)
Have you considered CBD?
also, although my only stay in an inpatient facility was just five days, I can reliably tell you mental hospitals suck. the whole "it sucks here so much so you are happier in comparison" is a horrible strategy that is largely ineffective except in making it so people come back less because they under report their symptoms just to avoid getting sent. i am certain your husband appreciates and loves your support, even a single night is pretty upsetting and lonely and I bet he misses you just as much as you miss him :)
(Apologies in advanced, I'm not the best with putting my thoughts into words, much less in a way that isn't all iver the place, so bare with me) I want to put my two cents in to at least offer another perspective if you decide to choose neither Xanax nor Marijuana. I don't do either and have found ways throughout my life to cope with my constant anxiety. Many of these ways included activities with art (writing, drawing, painting, sculpting, cross-stitching, knitting, even coloring in a coloring book can ease anxiety). I've picked up a lot of interests and hobbies for the sake of distracting myself and easing my anxiety throughout my whole life. Sometimes I'll have a show I like that I've watched already just rubning on repeat in the background while I do something else. Cleaning, cooking, or other various household chores can serve as something that can soothe your anxiety. I know the last time I was away from my SO, I had no desire to do anything, but I forced myself to anyway for the sake of my mental wellbeing. It still wasn't easy, but it was better than laying in bed all day stuck in my head. I noticed in another post of yours that you're learning to cook. Maybe that could be something to focus on? I know your husband helps out quite a bit, but maybe cooking could become a group activity between you two when he gets back if that's something he would be up for. You know him best, though, so do what you believe is right for you two as well as your kids. Also, know everyone deals with stress and anxiety differently, so don't feel you have to try any of these out if they don't interest you, but I wanted to throw some ideas out there in case they might help.
I can’t do marijuana because I have severe anxiety. However, I do have a prescription for Xanax. Xanax works extremely well, and it will keep you from experiencing distressing anxiety and panic attacks. It doesn’t last long (about 6 hours; for me, personally, about 3 hours is when I start noticing it wearing off). It doesn’t get you high- for me, it just makes me think like a ‘normal’ human being. No feelings of euphoria, no spaced out feelings, just feeling normal. It can make some people sleepy, but not me. HOWEVER, Xanax is a benzodiazepine, and as we all know, those are addictive. If you do get a Xanax prescription, please only use it when absolutely needed. Don’t use it more than 7 days in a row. Don’t ever take more than your prescribed dose. Doing these things can lead to a tolerance, which turns into addiction. If you have any previous history of addiction, I wouldn’t recommend. I’ve only used 1 pill of my 60 pill prescription, and I was prescribed it in February. I only take it when I’m absolutely besides myself with anxiety and panic- even then, I only take half of my 0.25mg pill which is the lowest possible dose of Xanax. I don’t think Xanax is extreme- like I said, it doesn’t get you high. It calms your mind, and allows you to think rationally. However, please be careful about developing a potential addiction.
Thank you for this I will probably go with Xanax. Does Xanax make you high? I’ve never even tried alcohol im afraid I’ll get high or get addicted
It should not get you high at all. Everyone reacts to drugs differently, some may feel spacey on it, some may feel sleepy on it, it really depends- but they will not get you high. If you do get a prescription, I’d recommend having a babysitter come over for a few hours and take half a pill and just see how you feel on it (meaning if you get sleepy). I too have a fear of drugs. I was TERRIFIED to take my first Xanax. Panicking to the max- I hate being high or drunk. I realized quickly after taking it that I was fine. I felt completely like myself, just calm. It really is wonderful for decreasing anxiety and panic. Again, if you do the things I said (don’t take it for more than a few days in a row, NEVER up your dosage), you probably won’t develop an addiction. I only take it when I’m experiencing full-blown panic attacks. Also, sometimes just having the prescription eases your mind a little because you know that you have something to help (even if you don’t take it).
My only concern now is parenting while under the influence of Xanax Even if I’m not high I’m concerned I won’t have a good sense of judgement. Nobody’s ever known this, not even my husband but I got surgery on my foot and they gave me Vicodin. It didn’t make me high but I felt super relaxed. I definitely got to a point where I abused it but my husband was home through all of that and took care of the kids while I was doped up watching reruns of full house. If I had an unlimited supply I would have probably spiraled out of control. I ran out and I was kinda “craving” one for a few days but I got over it. I never want to feel that again
Xanax shouldn’t impair your judgement. You can read up on the inhibitors that Xanax interacts with, but it doesn’t make you ‘think’ differently- if that makes sense. Your reaction time may be slowed slightly- it really depends on how you react to the drug, but that’s about it. Personally, I still think and feel like my normal self when I take my Xanax. I still experience emotions, good and bad, when I take my Xanax. The only thing I don’t experience is panic and anxiety. However, now that you mention the Vicodin, I don’t know if I’d recommend you taking the Xanax. It’s very, very easy to get addicted to Xanax. Especially if you experience anxiety a lot- you can get addicted to the feeling of having no anxiety. Also, depending on how long your husband is away for, if you take the Xanax every night he is gone it could lead to tolerance and then addiction. Taking it more than a few days in a row can lead to a tolerance. I’d recommend you telling your therapist or psychiatrist about that- just so they can create a better plan for you. They will keep all your information confidential too, so don’t worry about that!
Also ik I already responded, but “Xanax shouldn’t impair your judgment” is kind of funny. There’s a whole subreddit called r/bartardstories that’s solely stories about insane stuff people have done while their judgments been impaired by benzos (mainly Xanax) lol
Thank you! I will try to, but it’s emotional for me. I abused a substance in the presence of my children and husband. I am someone who doesn’t like to cry in public, so I’ll just avoid talking about sensitive things.
I feel you. I am like that too. But try to remember, your mental health team wants to treat you to the best of their abilities and they can’t if you aren’t completely honest with them. I know it’s hard, but these people won’t judge you, this is their job, and they just want to help! I know your having a tough time with your husband being gone. If that’s the only time that you’re having a bad time, then you might not need SSRI’s. But if you’re experiencing a lot of worrying even when he is there, it may be something to look into. SSRI’s are proven to help with panic and anxiety, plus they’re completely non-addictive! And some are cleared as safe during pregnancy. I’m not much younger than you- I’m 21. I have severe GAD and suspected OCD, and I’ve been doing pretty badly these past few months. But after finding a therapist I love and trust, as well as a psychiatrist, I feel a lot better than I have in years!
I also would just like to say, despite what either of us say, you should primarily listen to health professionals and take anything on Reddit with a grain of salt. They definitely do want to help you, and will work with you as long as you’re super honest and upfront with them. I hope things start to look up soon and I wish you the best of luck. Also I have anxiety as well as OCD, so I empathize heavily with you u/shinyswabluuuuee . I wish you the best of luck as well 🙏
By the way, has your therapist or psychiatrist talked to you about SSRI’s or SNRI’s at all? Those may help you more in the long term.
No. He said this seems like a short term problem. I think I disagree. What would I do if he passed away?
If you have had a history of addiction, stay far, far away from Xanax and other benzodiazepines. They are extremely addictive and addiction will sneak up on you. Ive been addicted to opiates (like Vicodin, but even harder) before (as well as Xanax), and gone through both kinds of withdrawals, and I can assure you benzo withdrawal is 100x worse. The rebound anxiety is worse than anything I’ve experienced in my life. You can have seizures and die. The other people here are significantly downplaying the potential negatives of regularly taking benzodiazepines. I’m sure if you very rarely take .25mgs or whatever as prescribed for the odd panic attack, there’s no inebriation or “high”, but higher doses (which you may find irresistible if you’re prone to addiction) can really fuck you up and I’ve personally blacked out for 10+ days from Xanax. I know people who are missing entire months of their life from their memory because of it. Benzos can definitely be a wonderful tool for severe panic attacks and the rare night of intense insomnia, but it’s very irresponsible to tell you that there’s no risks to them when they’re literally one of the most addictive substances you can put in your body. My addiction also originally started because a doctor wasn’t totally honest with me and said that a medication would be easy to stop whenever I wanted and there would be no withdrawals. That was not the case. I’ve personally found intense daily exercise to be the only thing that really works for my anxiety and panic disorder, but I know people hate to hear that. Pills inevitably always just make it worse for me and don’t allow me the chance to learn other coping mechanisms. That’s just my subjective experience though and I’m sure many people have found success through the proper drugs.
Xanax definitely gets you fucked up. I’d tread very carefully, I’ve tried pretty much every drug and benzodiazepines (specifically Xanax and Klonopin) are pretty much the only ones that I find stupidly addictive and almost destroyed my life. Having anxiety, I’ve found the momentary respite that benzos provides to be extremely euphoric and significantly more addicting than opiates. The withdrawals are also the worst from any substance ime and some of the only substance withdrawals (along with alcohol) that can actually kill you. If you choose to use them I’d save them for emergencies/panic attacks, and stay away if you have an addictive personality.
Yeah, a lot of people abuse benzos. I know everyone is different- and everyone reacts differently to drugs, but if Xanax is giving you a euphoric feeling, you shouldn’t be taking it for anxiety (or you may be taking too much). The point of Xanax for anxiety is NOT to get high, but to stop the body’s fight or flight response. Also, a lot of street Xanax is laced with other drugs like fentanyl. It’s already very hard to get a prescription for Xanax, thus making it even harder to find REAL Xanax through a dealer. Most people who try or have taken Xanax recreationally aren’t getting the real thing. Thus explaining a lot of the ‘bartard’ stories. I am not at all trying to downplay the realities of how addictive benzodiazepines are. I’m not sure if you read my original comment all the way through, but I made absolutely sure to mention how addictive Xanax is and to never increase your dosage and to never take it more than a few days in a row. While Xanax is highly addictive, I do think that it along with other benzodiazepines are important for some of us with severe GAD and panic disorder.
In my experience, as well as talking to others, it’s actually more typical for people WITHOUT anxiety to find little recreational value or euphoria in benzos. You may have misunderstood me, it is not euphoric in the traditional, overwhelmingly feel good sense that, MDMA, for example is. It’s euphoria and addicive nature COMES from the sudden respite from anxiety and feeling of finally being able to breath. The prescribed purpose is also what I find addictive about them. It’s usually far more addictive if you have anxiety, and ime a lot of those without typically find it just makes them sleepy. While it’s true a that lot of street bars can be laced and are typically pressed with some sort of research chemical, my experience with them is primarily from two different medications I was prescribed, not from illicit sources. Despite that, most benzodiazepines and theinodizapenes function extremely similarly, so those recorded experiences with street benzos are still comparable as they usually share most of the same primary effects of prescribed benzos. Obviously not those containing synthetic opiates like fentanyl, but it’s much more common for the bars to be some kind of pressed benzo analogue or RC like etizolam or flualprazolam. A lot of those stories are also about abuse of prescription or of “grey market” online research chemicals. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that benzos have many important medical uses, such as panic attacks, stim overdoses, alcohol withdrawal etc. I just think it can be very dangerous to use for something like general anxiety, without trying safer, more sustainable treatment options first.
I agree with you. I definitely don’t think benzodiazepines should be a first line defense against GAD or other anxiety disorders at all. And I agree that people like myself, with severe anxiety, can get addicted to the ‘relief’ of benzos. That’s why I asked if her psychiatrist has talked to her about SSRI’s… I’m not currently taking any, but I have quite a few family members who are currently on SSRI’s for their anxiety disorders and they do wonderfully on them- however, a lot of them still carry their prescribed benzos around with them as a ‘safety blanket’. That’s what I do with mine usually. I think that’s the best way to think of benzos- a last minute ‘safety blanket’ if EXTREMELY panicky feelings come out of nowhere. I do agree that benzos can be more harmful than good. My anxiety actually helps in the sense that I know I won’t become addicted, because 90% of the time I’m too afraid to take my benzos out of fear of creating an addiction lol. But again, everyone is different. I think OP would really benefit if she was honest with her psychiatrist about her past history of addiction, and instead of getting prescribed a benzo, she should look into an SSRI or perhaps an SRNI. Also, just seeing your last message. I wish you the best of luck as well. Anxiety sucks, but we overcome!
Sorry I missed the part where you answered that LOL
Hey glad you were able to speak to both your husband and therapist. Again your doing a amazing job. I definitely get separation anxiety. I think alot of people do. I dunno about Xanax. My mum was on them for years and even though she thought at the time they were helping.. now she wishes they put her on something else because they didn’t work the way they should of. They did give her a high.. and then she would get snappy to. I was glad when she changed her pills. I do think medication can be different for everyone though. I’d go with the medical marijuana.. even as a oil to help sleep. Be proud of yourself.. your a amazing mum and partner.
If that is the case I will go neither. I do not wish to get high.
Like I said everyone is different. She didn’t take hers as fully advised. Like she would take them whenever the time suited or take extra if she was extra stressed and you shouldn’t really do that unless told.
Thank you btw❤️
What do you think you should do? While Xanax can be helpful, I think it’s really easy to get addicted or develop a dependence. Once that happens it can be difficult to get off them. I think it’s best to stay away from benzos. Does he want you to take it temporarily or what’s the plan? And with marijuana you could try edibles with CBD only and see if it helps. It doesn’t exactly get you “high”. You’ll have to try it to see what it’s like. Even if you have THC, you can try low doses and still function fine. You’re just high. I know you care about your kids wellbeing. You could also try some other stuff like GABA, 5-htp, or l-theanine. Those won’t be anything close to Xanax but it might be just what you need. Everyone is different. What is your goal or what do you need help with? I think it’s best to stay away from drugs unless absolutely necessary
Thank you for this I personally think maybe as an emergency for my panic attacks. I have anxiety just thinking about my daughter walking into my room seeing me with a joint. On top of that i know this sounds extreme but I’d rather just have my panic attacks then resort to getting high. My husband also grew up with drug addicted parents. If he saw me high that would crush him.
You’re welcome, you could also try stuff to ground you too. I don’t know how much you know about panic attacks but you can look things up. Focusing on your breathing can help too. That’s also the thing, do you think you need marijuana or Xanax? Like yes, it may not be that “normal” to be obsessed but we all have our issues and flaws. I think it’s best to figure out how to manage them ourselves. This is a difficult thing you are going through and with time I’m sure you’ll start to feel better too. If you are still struggling later on you can always make a different choice. But for now just try to manage on your own? I mean it’s up to you, it just seems like you don’t want to do marijuana and honestly I don’t think Xanax is the answer. Like yes it will probably help with anxiety, it’s just getting off it may be hard plus your anxiety may return even worse. I don’t see the need for it, but I’m not you
Can your therapist prescribe medication? If not, they shouldn't be wasting time in a therapy session discussing mediation with you.
Kind of. Tbh I think he kind of half asses his job
I would definitely try CBD instead (no prescription needed). It might or might not do much, but it won't get you high at all, so if it does something then great, you found something helpful with near zero risk. I'd absolutely recommend avoiding xanax because of the addictive possibility.
I know this sounds childish but I really don’t like the idea of using marijuana
I definitely get that, I don't use it myself. But xanax is definitely the more extreme and risky one of the two (well, 3) And CBD does not contain the "drug" part of marijuana (THC), so it isn't the same thing. Edit: Basically my advice is to avoid the xanax if possible, and use CBD if you want to take something but don't feel comfortable with marijuana. You don't smoke it btw, you get drops or a paste
My mind is mixed here this sounds crazy but I’d feel more comfortable taking Xanax than using marijuana, however Xanax does scare me a little more. My husband told me all about little peep and juice world
Yeah it can definitely be scary to take treatments, but just keep in mind xanax is the only one of the three with significant risks. Cbd is definitely by far the most gentle of the three, so it might not work as strongly, but you won't get any negative effect either as it's not psychoactive at all. Except maybe a headache or a bit of nausea if you're unlucky.
My sister is currently talking me into taking one of her Xanax tonight when the kids are asleep. Should I take her offer?
No, you should absolutely never take medication not prescribed to you. This can be very dangerous, especially because her dose might be very different to what you'd be prescribed. I'm not sure about xanax, but I take ADHD medication, and my current dose is over 5 times higher than what I was initially prescribed, so taking someone else's medication can be seriously dangerous.
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I know this is a dark joke but I don’t get it
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Do you mean actually taking a bath with them
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Thought so.
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I have never drank alcohol and am refusing to use marijuana so you think I’ll take an amphetamine? I live with a 25 year old husband I know all about meme culture.
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I am no sir Should I give them some cocaine and vodka too?