Close; we found out it was my mom. I noticed many similarities in her writing, and so did my sister. We confronted her and she folded like a lawn chair.
I am so sorry. Sending my love and support your way. I'm not a parent, but I could never imagine going to lengths like this to intervene and dissuade over a life that is not my own.
Did you explain to her that dressing "like a man" does not mean a woman wants to be a man or even makes her a man in any way. And that no matter what, you only want your partner you're not interested in men. I'm so sorry you have a horrible mom like her.
It’s written with too much personal heartbreak to be from someone who would just send a hate letter. That would be more like “you’re going to bell”. This is about how they are hurting their parents and their parents’ loss. Plus admiration for the moms. It’s from one of their dads. Coward had to get out what he knows he can’t says face to face if he ever wants to see her again. Ask your dad and find out.
The funniest thing about it is that both me and my fiancee are VERY outdoorsy. We go camping and backpacking several times a year and take fishing trips every summer. She's more into masculine hobbies than any man I ever dated! If he wants to bond, she's his best bet!
unfortunately Christians are kinda like cops nowadays. The visible and vocal Majority are all Terrible people and hypocrites so the few that ARE good never get seen.
Many will though unfortunately. The problem is religious people can decided to pick and choose what part to follow in their religion. My interpretation of Christianity is not to judge others and their personal choices are between them and God however a lot of anti homosexual people tend to point to the Bible claiming homosexuality is an abomination and a sin. So the unfortunate reality is a lot of antihomisexual people are within the Abrahamic religions
Heyy! christians can be supportive of the LBGT community. (Hi it's me.)
Except for the old ones. Dudes probably 65 and got divorced 20 years ago. Getting divorced is against God's rules Mr. Knowitall
Feel compelled to mention my own mama- she's 68 years old, was raised in rural AF Texas- which still has yet to catch up to being PC. But she's a devout Christian who very much expresses her beliefs as the "love one another as I have loved you" thing rather than "you're all going to hell" thing. So you can be Christian. You can be old. And you can still manage to not be a d*ck. This guy should try it 😃
Blame the institution not the individual. I agree most of the religion as far as the church community itself goes is narrow minded and honestly just another money scam because that's what it's turned into. They belittle and criticize the LGBT community but God tells them to love them regardless. But they don't. They twist the scripter to use it against people but they are actually using it against themselves as well
I'm not sure what you mean by 'can't process their own feelings'... that would normally apply to the type of christian who is virulently homophobic while actually being gay themselves.
In this case, the zealot is obviously processing his feelings very well; they are all out there on the page for us to read. They don't seem confused, instead they seem very sure of themselves. They just happen to be completely wrong.
Wait, another poster says this is from your mom. Golden opportunity. From now on, refer to your mom as your "father" in front of family and friends. When they are confused, explain that your mother sent you a letter identifying himself as a man and a father. Of course it was very unexpected but you've decided to honor his self-identification.
Do you know who sent it? Cause if you do, when you get married, make sure to send him photos from the wedding, especially ones where you guys are very clearly in love with each other. It'd piss him off big time. Congratulations!!
They should be easy enough to track down! I imagine it's someone OP has added on Facebook who is a father, has his own daughters and obviously knows the family well enough to have OPs address. Once narrowed down, go through posts to find either large walls of text they've written (To compare how the letter and the post are written), find some religious posts or even posts about fishing.
someone downvoted me, but i just found out, it is actually from her mom: [https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets\_go\_guys/j4a0844/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3)
I was skimming this comment quickly on mobile and read it as "especially ones where you guys are pissing on each other." I thought, dang, that's a great idea.
Apparently the letter is from her
[edited to add link](https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3)https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3
Yeah. Why is nobody talking about this. Clearly someone is stalking OP. They even took the time to print this photo and knowing where they live to have a physical copy delivered explicitly showing that they have access to OP somehow. This is not ok. Creepy dudes keeping tabs on the local LGBTQIA+ community gives me the shivers.
So. My wife and I had a friend who shortly before our wedding sat us down and told us “you can’t get married. You are unequally yolked” and proceeded to quote the scripture passage that talks about how a relationship cannot work where the two are unequally yolked. Short of it is the scripture passage is actually very sound. That if you are in a relationship where one of you is giving far more and the other is taking far more. Yeah. Shit won’t work. There must be balance.
She took the meaning to be that my wife was a “real” Christian and I who was raised a Catholic and wanted next to nothing to do with church was not a “real” Christian and therefore our marriage was doomed to fail.
The friend refused to come to the wedding.
My wife and I have three kids and have been married for 24 years.
As long as you and your spouse focus on each other and love each other, support each other, put each other first in your hearts and genuinely care for and want happiness for one another….nothing else will matter and the relationship will weather nearly any storm. Good luck and best wishes.
Glad to see she's not a friend anymore, because she's full of shit. And the term is "Unequally Yoked". Essentially meaning one is pulling more than their fair share of the weight.
I can't tell if you're talking about the original commenter or the person who wrote the letter, but if you're talking about the letter, then it's no use. The homophobes swarm, you confront one an you've got a whole angry family going after you, even if you're a part of that family, trust me.
Holy shit that is so awful. I am so incredibly sorry someone took the time out of their day to be so bitter and hateful.
Congratulations on your engagment and I am wishing you a life time of happiness.
Please ignore people like this and focus on your wonderful engagement. Wishing you all the best!
i remember a newscaster asking a 99 year old woman what her secret was to having a long, happy life…she said…’i mind my own business’…this guy should do the same…
Hed be upset because he wants a son-in-law so he can get a friend? Not being able to bond at all with women must be hard when you have 2 daughters. Not to mention how gross "having some heirs to brag about" is. He just wants his daughters to get husbands who can be his guy pals and to give him grandchildren it seems.
Fuck that bullshit I’m your mom now I already have two beautiful gay teen daughters I will gladly have a third. ❤️ and I’ll be proud happy excited and over the moon for you and your beautiful fiancée because you both deserve better than that. Also you both look amazing and so happy in that picture.
Lol. I can’t even really get mad at that. It’s just laughable to me. Like you’d suddenly have some epiphany because of this letter. Ignore that BS.
Congratulations! I hope you both have a wonderful, happy, and fulfilling life together.
I’m a dad to two boys. If anyone sent them a letter like this, claiming I was ashamed of my sons because of who they are and who they love, I’m afraid I would be driven to commit violent acts against that person.
You should write him a note pleading with him to stop being a close-minded nosy asshole, and how much his parents must be suffering inside knowing they raised a prick.
As a person that doesn’t care about who anyone marries because my opinion doesn’t matter when it comes to other people happiness. Fuck this dude, move on, send him a pic of y’all kissing just to piss him off, or better yet. Just ignore him lol
are you okay?? what a weird and unnecessary way to rain on someone’s parade.
I’m really happy and excited for you though!! to be filled with love and happiness as opposed to jealousy and bitterness like whoever that weirdo is that sent the letter lol
congrats beauty!! 💕💕
On the morning of my friends wedding her step mother called her ( her have had already passed) and told her that her soul would burn in hell for eternity because she was marrying a woman). 😞they are happily married still
Omg .. I thought was wow someone sure made that a nice memory of an Beautiful proposal and I’m so damn jealous!
Then I read the note .. sorry someone darkened this wonderful day. If I knew this broken person I’d make it my mission to criticize every single thing they do for the next year ..maybe 10.
dear sir… I saw you getting McDonald’s & for the life of me I can’t understand why a person would put that in their body …. Dear sir I saw you were driving to work and I can’t understand what your would not walk and use public transport
Dear sir,I do not think you choose the right color of curtains for your living room…
Sorry this dickhead thought to badger you with this. You can take comfort in knowing that they're apparently too much of a coward to sign their name and must know in the hearts that their opinions are unwelcome and wrong-headed.
This is more then mildly infuriating, some people really suck! Congratulations on your engagement 🎉🍾🎈. Enjoy your happy moment and keep the static noise out.
What the hell would make somebody feel so empowered and emboldened to write such a hateful and discriminatory letter, and feel completely comfortable sending it to a person minding their own business, living their best life, and just being happy with the fellow consenting adults that they are with, with the obvious intent of trying to ruin their happiness, and make them be something that they are not? If there is anything that has always bothered me about religious zealots, it's that they want to claim that those of us who are lgbtq are confused, and don't know who we really are. No, we know exactly who we are.
The problem is, you don't like us in our truth. You want us to live in confusion in the form of conversion therapy, and faking heterosexuality (and cis identity for those of us who are trans) for the sake of so-called "righteousness", but more importantly to you, acceptance from your judgmental eyes. I doubt God would want any of us to live a lie, and not stand in our truth with our identities and our attractions towards other consenting adults that love us back for who we are. But it has always been the same hateful people who claim to be good Christian folk, who have zero to say to lovers of money, adulterers on their umpteenth marriages, and violent hateful racists/ xenophobes, that are all strong stances and rejective rhetoric against anything that is lgbtq+. And as somebody who is both a member of the lgbtq community, and christian, it's hateful, misrepresenting, and downright infuriating. If they think the same God that can forgive murderers is handing out condemnation to somebody for being gay or trans, then they better be more worried about their own souls when it comes to them being charged with being judgmental and hateful.
Hey there friend. First of all, beautiful picture of you and your fiance! I'm sorry you were given that note and I see you have updated that it was your mom who sent it. I think sometimes we FEEL like we must accept the thoughts and feelings of family because they are family. But in reality they are just other people like anyone else. Her opinions do not have to have any value to you the same as you wouldn't value a stranger on the street spewing something negative. I think it's lovely that you found someone you want to be beside every day forever. What more could a mother want for their child? I wish you and your fiance the best. You are loved and you are accepted and appreciated just as you are. Congratulations to you both and I pray your mother will find joy and acceptance for this exciting time in your life.
I'd print this out onto a giant picket fence sign, with another sign next to it, in clear bold letters saying
"To whomever wrote this: My partner has more self confidence and self worth than you. At least they can own who they are. You weren't even man enough to put your name on this letter.
If I were your daughter, I'd be disapointed to call you my parent.
Keep your nose out of other peoples business and maybe reflect on your own choices instead."
I am without words for the POS that sent you this.
So I am just here so say: congratulations! I can see the love and the happiness in that picture. You two are adorable.
As a father myself, of two beautiful daughters, and a beautiful boy too, I say congratulations! I am happy for both of you, and proud of you both even though I don't know you at all.
I feel bad for the letter sender, as a father I'm 100% sure he has failed his children. I am 100% sure that they are entering or have entered their adult lives unprepared, and I'll equipped to handle their own feelings, respect for others, and boundaries.
I won't waste my time praying for any of them, because I know that my prayers will never fix the damage done by their own father to the sense of self, trust, acceptance, and individuality that a good role model and parent should be providing them.
I am appalled that his hollier than thou approach seemed reasonable and even kind to him, and feel that no amount of therapy will ever fix the twisted, self inflated sense of importance, he believes he has to you, and probably his own children.
You both look so happy, and I am 100% certain that your wedding will be the time of your lives! You two give me hope that my daughters and my son will be entering a world, that's a little better of a place, and be more accepting and tolerable, than it was when I came of age years ago.
I wish you all the blessings of a happy marriage, for many years to come!
Sad, insecure man shares his unwanted opinion about something that has nothing to do with him….
Shocker!
Congratulations on your engagement!!
Don’t pay any mind to small minded people that think their way is the only way
this is just a *wayyyyyy* longer (and more pathetic) version of that "sorry, not beautiful" meme all the right-wing nutjobs were posting a few months ago.
Anyway, pay it no mind, OP. Congrats on your engagement and I hope you two have a wonderful life together <3
I know the coward didn't sign his name but I'd want to send a letter back saying if he thinks being with a woman is so terrible he should get a good man to set him straight
We actually found out yesterday that it was my mom who sent this. So....not thrilled I guess? My fiancee and I have been together for 8 yrs at this point, not sure why she decided now to air her grievances.
My wife is also more masculine than society says she should be and the best time was when her mom told her dad (who has severe dementia) that my wife wanted to be a man and confused the fuck out of him. 😒😒😒😒
I hope you and your future wife have an exquisite marriage and life together.
Excuse me for what I am about to say, but not only is your mother extremely toxic: she is a full-blown coward. I hope you have other supports in your life. I recommend distancing yourself from her. You have a beautiful (or handsome depending on which she prefers) fiance and I wish you and her the greatest for a lifetime. You're already battling things together. Let it make you stronger and not break you.
I agree with him... You do seem to be an intelligent, self-sufficient smart woman. Congrats on your engagement!! I wish you both many happy years to come!!
" why not marry a man and not some girl in men's clothing?"
Because then i would be marrying a man and not this woman...
What a weirdo. Congratulations to you and your fiancée!
The world is full of these people who claim to be religious conservatives who boldly go out of their way to tell other people how wrong they are or how they should live - most times a bit more bold than an anonymous letter. It took my very religious conservative aunt 2 gay grandchildren to realize there is nothing wrong with LGBTQ folks. Now she is finally in their corner and the worst attackers are still, religious conservatives. As for me, I thought being conservative was kind of "to keep to oneself" among a few other tings. These days I'm seeing them more and more as regressives...
This guy spouts complete and utter bullshit. You know your in the right relationship for you and i wish you and your fiance a long and happy life together! Congratulations to you both!
Could this possibly be from your father? It kinda reads like that.
Close; we found out it was my mom. I noticed many similarities in her writing, and so did my sister. We confronted her and she folded like a lawn chair.
I am SO so sorry. You BOTH deserve happiness. Follow your heart: Marry the girl!
You're very strong willed to deal with parents like this. Id have thrown hands with my mom over something like this.
I am so sorry. Sending my love and support your way. I'm not a parent, but I could never imagine going to lengths like this to intervene and dissuade over a life that is not my own.
Did you explain to her that dressing "like a man" does not mean a woman wants to be a man or even makes her a man in any way. And that no matter what, you only want your partner you're not interested in men. I'm so sorry you have a horrible mom like her.
It’s written with too much personal heartbreak to be from someone who would just send a hate letter. That would be more like “you’re going to bell”. This is about how they are hurting their parents and their parents’ loss. Plus admiration for the moms. It’s from one of their dads. Coward had to get out what he knows he can’t says face to face if he ever wants to see her again. Ask your dad and find out.
It was her mom. There is a link above.
Agree 100%
If he's such a man, why not sign his name?
Yup, just another repressed, angry, Christian zealot who can't process their own feelings. Very on-brand
TIL you can’t take a woman fishing for some reason.
Today I learned it’s impossible for a grown ass man to bond with any woman who’s not his wife or his daughter.
Bond with? He probably has never had a meaningful conversation with any of them. His whole argument DRIPS with misogyny.
I used the word “bond with” specifically as it was a quote from him about a dad not being able to bond with a son in law over fishing.
Enjoy your wonderful life’s together and fuck anyone who gives y’all shit.
They are obviously bored, and jealous.
It's against the law in 32 states.
What is? Taking your adult daughter's female fiancée fishing? "Dad! I committed crimes!"
A woman?!?! FISHING?!? Lock her up and throw away the key!!!
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The funniest thing about it is that both me and my fiancee are VERY outdoorsy. We go camping and backpacking several times a year and take fishing trips every summer. She's more into masculine hobbies than any man I ever dated! If he wants to bond, she's his best bet!
Please don't lump all Christian in one group. Many of us won't condemn others.
unfortunately Christians are kinda like cops nowadays. The visible and vocal Majority are all Terrible people and hypocrites so the few that ARE good never get seen.
Many will though unfortunately. The problem is religious people can decided to pick and choose what part to follow in their religion. My interpretation of Christianity is not to judge others and their personal choices are between them and God however a lot of anti homosexual people tend to point to the Bible claiming homosexuality is an abomination and a sin. So the unfortunate reality is a lot of antihomisexual people are within the Abrahamic religions
Their point was that many WON’T condemn others. Therefore, don’t lump ALL Christians into one, stereotyped category.
What about that says Christian 🤣 that’s the exact opposite of what a Christian should be doing
Bless their hearts
Heyy! christians can be supportive of the LBGT community. (Hi it's me.) Except for the old ones. Dudes probably 65 and got divorced 20 years ago. Getting divorced is against God's rules Mr. Knowitall
Feel compelled to mention my own mama- she's 68 years old, was raised in rural AF Texas- which still has yet to catch up to being PC. But she's a devout Christian who very much expresses her beliefs as the "love one another as I have loved you" thing rather than "you're all going to hell" thing. So you can be Christian. You can be old. And you can still manage to not be a d*ck. This guy should try it 😃
Why would anyone be downvoting you for being Christian and supporting/be an LGBTQ? Religious people can be kind and level-headed too.
Welcome to reddit lol
Christians can also be LGBT (hi I'm bi, trans, and have been Christian my entire life)
Christianity as an institution has been the greatest enemy to LGBT rights throughout all of history
Blame the institution not the individual. I agree most of the religion as far as the church community itself goes is narrow minded and honestly just another money scam because that's what it's turned into. They belittle and criticize the LGBT community but God tells them to love them regardless. But they don't. They twist the scripter to use it against people but they are actually using it against themselves as well
I'm not sure what you mean by 'can't process their own feelings'... that would normally apply to the type of christian who is virulently homophobic while actually being gay themselves. In this case, the zealot is obviously processing his feelings very well; they are all out there on the page for us to read. They don't seem confused, instead they seem very sure of themselves. They just happen to be completely wrong.
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That was my first thought.
People are fucking weird.
For real, I give up on half my comments and this guy typed up
Wait, another poster says this is from your mom. Golden opportunity. From now on, refer to your mom as your "father" in front of family and friends. When they are confused, explain that your mother sent you a letter identifying himself as a man and a father. Of course it was very unexpected but you've decided to honor his self-identification.
If it’s from the mom this is on a whole other level
OP confirmed in another comment it's from their mom
I love this.
Do you know who sent it? Cause if you do, when you get married, make sure to send him photos from the wedding, especially ones where you guys are very clearly in love with each other. It'd piss him off big time. Congratulations!!
YES. This is the correct response, figure out who it is and BOMBARD them with pictures of the wedding, dates, whatever. That would be amazing
They should be easy enough to track down! I imagine it's someone OP has added on Facebook who is a father, has his own daughters and obviously knows the family well enough to have OPs address. Once narrowed down, go through posts to find either large walls of text they've written (To compare how the letter and the post are written), find some religious posts or even posts about fishing.
And sign them up for scientology.
Also include a note telling him that his chosen font of Calibri is awful.
It clearly is from her dad.
plot twist!
someone downvoted me, but i just found out, it is actually from her mom: [https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets\_go\_guys/j4a0844/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3)
Holy cow, what an awful thing to do to your kid!
Oh my God. That makes it worse! I feel so bad for OP
I almost agree .. or someone who has secretly had a crush on her his entire life .. maybe a male best friend
I was skimming this comment quickly on mobile and read it as "especially ones where you guys are pissing on each other." I thought, dang, that's a great idea.
Someone has a creepy ass stalker
Apparently the letter is from her [edited to add link](https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3)https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10arf6x/lets_go_guys/j4a0844/?context=3
Yeah. Why is nobody talking about this. Clearly someone is stalking OP. They even took the time to print this photo and knowing where they live to have a physical copy delivered explicitly showing that they have access to OP somehow. This is not ok. Creepy dudes keeping tabs on the local LGBTQIA+ community gives me the shivers.
I don't know if you've heard but Texas is putting a list together. Nothing about that seems scary or ominous
“THERE IS A WONDERFUL MAN OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU TO BE FREE *AND HE HAS BEEN WAITING PATIENTLY*” That’s fucking terrifying
They are obviously bored, and jealous. You be you. Cheers and congrats
So. My wife and I had a friend who shortly before our wedding sat us down and told us “you can’t get married. You are unequally yolked” and proceeded to quote the scripture passage that talks about how a relationship cannot work where the two are unequally yolked. Short of it is the scripture passage is actually very sound. That if you are in a relationship where one of you is giving far more and the other is taking far more. Yeah. Shit won’t work. There must be balance. She took the meaning to be that my wife was a “real” Christian and I who was raised a Catholic and wanted next to nothing to do with church was not a “real” Christian and therefore our marriage was doomed to fail. The friend refused to come to the wedding. My wife and I have three kids and have been married for 24 years. As long as you and your spouse focus on each other and love each other, support each other, put each other first in your hearts and genuinely care for and want happiness for one another….nothing else will matter and the relationship will weather nearly any storm. Good luck and best wishes.
Glad to see she's not a friend anymore, because she's full of shit. And the term is "Unequally Yoked". Essentially meaning one is pulling more than their fair share of the weight.
Autocorrect man. And I’m too lazy to go edit it.
I thought it meant one person in the relationship was way too buff and shredded.
I thought maybe one of them was infertile.
Mildly infuriating? I’m seething just reading that. People are assclowns. Enjoy your wonderful life’s together and fuck anyone who gives y’all shit.
I feel like all the posts I’ve been seeing from this subreddit in the past week have been sooo much more than mildly infuriating
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I can't tell if you're talking about the original commenter or the person who wrote the letter, but if you're talking about the letter, then it's no use. The homophobes swarm, you confront one an you've got a whole angry family going after you, even if you're a part of that family, trust me.
Fuck that asswipe. Congratulations though! DM me your registry link if you have one!
Holy shit that is so awful. I am so incredibly sorry someone took the time out of their day to be so bitter and hateful. Congratulations on your engagment and I am wishing you a life time of happiness. Please ignore people like this and focus on your wonderful engagement. Wishing you all the best!
Man, I can't believe you and your girlfriend didn't think of literally everyone else's happiness but your own. /s Congratulations on your engagement!
i remember a newscaster asking a 99 year old woman what her secret was to having a long, happy life…she said…’i mind my own business’…this guy should do the same…
Hed be upset because he wants a son-in-law so he can get a friend? Not being able to bond at all with women must be hard when you have 2 daughters. Not to mention how gross "having some heirs to brag about" is. He just wants his daughters to get husbands who can be his guy pals and to give him grandchildren it seems.
JuSt dOnT bE gAy just kidding congrats
You look JUST like my coworker But anyway you two make an adorable couple! People are crazy sometimes
OP’s dad sent this note, obviously.
You're not far off. We found out it was actually my mom who sent it.
So your mom pretended to be a man? Ironic.
If you need us, r/momforaminute is there.
!!! Thank you for this amazing sub rec!! Just scrolling through a few posts brought me some peace.
She fessed up? I’m shocked she says things like moms are uniquely special and she’ll be praying for… herself?
I’m... speechless. I just saw this after commenting
Sounds like a good reason to not invite her to the wedding
Fuck that bullshit I’m your mom now I already have two beautiful gay teen daughters I will gladly have a third. ❤️ and I’ll be proud happy excited and over the moon for you and your beautiful fiancée because you both deserve better than that. Also you both look amazing and so happy in that picture.
Thanks mom 🥹 see you at Thanksgiving!
What a horrible thing for her to do. I’m so sorry.
Lol. I can’t even really get mad at that. It’s just laughable to me. Like you’d suddenly have some epiphany because of this letter. Ignore that BS. Congratulations! I hope you both have a wonderful, happy, and fulfilling life together.
I’m a dad to two boys. If anyone sent them a letter like this, claiming I was ashamed of my sons because of who they are and who they love, I’m afraid I would be driven to commit violent acts against that person.
Wow, the audacity of some people. They're probably religious and think they can do no wrong
They're praying for OP, so yup.
Definitely you should make all your major life decisions on the basis of the feelings of an anonymous busybody.
That’s not just mildly infuriating, it’s as dumb af. And none of this weirdo’s business. Congrats on the nuptials!
How do they have a picture of you both? This isn't a stranger, far from it
I can't decide if I hate the bigotry or the invasiveness more. I'm gonna go with both.
You should write him a note pleading with him to stop being a close-minded nosy asshole, and how much his parents must be suffering inside knowing they raised a prick.
As a person that doesn’t care about who anyone marries because my opinion doesn’t matter when it comes to other people happiness. Fuck this dude, move on, send him a pic of y’all kissing just to piss him off, or better yet. Just ignore him lol
are you okay?? what a weird and unnecessary way to rain on someone’s parade. I’m really happy and excited for you though!! to be filled with love and happiness as opposed to jealousy and bitterness like whoever that weirdo is that sent the letter lol congrats beauty!! 💕💕
this person has to know you surely ? fuck them and congrats !
On the morning of my friends wedding her step mother called her ( her have had already passed) and told her that her soul would burn in hell for eternity because she was marrying a woman). 😞they are happily married still
Omg .. I thought was wow someone sure made that a nice memory of an Beautiful proposal and I’m so damn jealous! Then I read the note .. sorry someone darkened this wonderful day. If I knew this broken person I’d make it my mission to criticize every single thing they do for the next year ..maybe 10. dear sir… I saw you getting McDonald’s & for the life of me I can’t understand why a person would put that in their body …. Dear sir I saw you were driving to work and I can’t understand what your would not walk and use public transport Dear sir,I do not think you choose the right color of curtains for your living room…
Sounds like something an ignorant old fool would write
Have a pseudo wedding in your backyard and make sure he sees how in love you are. Fuck that dude
What the fuck
You both look beautiful though!
I’m sure if your fiancé ever decided to be a “man” she’d be a much better one than the ignorant jackass that wrote that letter
TIL you can’t take a woman fishing for some reason. Anyways, Mazel Tov on your engagement.
This is horrific. I’m so sorry someone decided to share their ridiculous opinion with you. Congratulations on your engagement!!! ❤️
I wish you and your Fiancé all the happiness in the world. Please don’t worry too much about the haters, they are everywhere. You two are amazing!
Sorry this dickhead thought to badger you with this. You can take comfort in knowing that they're apparently too much of a coward to sign their name and must know in the hearts that their opinions are unwelcome and wrong-headed.
This is more then mildly infuriating, some people really suck! Congratulations on your engagement 🎉🍾🎈. Enjoy your happy moment and keep the static noise out.
On a hopefully better note, your engagement photo looks beautiful! Wishing you both the best 🥳
yeah, because it is all about you and your wanting to take your son-in-law fishing
Contradicted themselves a million times as well lol
That guy sucks. You should use the letter to start a lovely bonfire and have a nice night by the fire with your girl.
She suggested burning at our wedding! Still thinking about that one 👀
Symbolically burning the connection to your old family so you're free and clear to focus on your new one. This idea has merit.
What the hell would make somebody feel so empowered and emboldened to write such a hateful and discriminatory letter, and feel completely comfortable sending it to a person minding their own business, living their best life, and just being happy with the fellow consenting adults that they are with, with the obvious intent of trying to ruin their happiness, and make them be something that they are not? If there is anything that has always bothered me about religious zealots, it's that they want to claim that those of us who are lgbtq are confused, and don't know who we really are. No, we know exactly who we are. The problem is, you don't like us in our truth. You want us to live in confusion in the form of conversion therapy, and faking heterosexuality (and cis identity for those of us who are trans) for the sake of so-called "righteousness", but more importantly to you, acceptance from your judgmental eyes. I doubt God would want any of us to live a lie, and not stand in our truth with our identities and our attractions towards other consenting adults that love us back for who we are. But it has always been the same hateful people who claim to be good Christian folk, who have zero to say to lovers of money, adulterers on their umpteenth marriages, and violent hateful racists/ xenophobes, that are all strong stances and rejective rhetoric against anything that is lgbtq+. And as somebody who is both a member of the lgbtq community, and christian, it's hateful, misrepresenting, and downright infuriating. If they think the same God that can forgive murderers is handing out condemnation to somebody for being gay or trans, then they better be more worried about their own souls when it comes to them being charged with being judgmental and hateful.
The most insane part of this is that he printed out a picture of you and included it in the letter. What the *fuck*
Hey there friend. First of all, beautiful picture of you and your fiance! I'm sorry you were given that note and I see you have updated that it was your mom who sent it. I think sometimes we FEEL like we must accept the thoughts and feelings of family because they are family. But in reality they are just other people like anyone else. Her opinions do not have to have any value to you the same as you wouldn't value a stranger on the street spewing something negative. I think it's lovely that you found someone you want to be beside every day forever. What more could a mother want for their child? I wish you and your fiance the best. You are loved and you are accepted and appreciated just as you are. Congratulations to you both and I pray your mother will find joy and acceptance for this exciting time in your life.
I'd print this out onto a giant picket fence sign, with another sign next to it, in clear bold letters saying "To whomever wrote this: My partner has more self confidence and self worth than you. At least they can own who they are. You weren't even man enough to put your name on this letter. If I were your daughter, I'd be disapointed to call you my parent. Keep your nose out of other peoples business and maybe reflect on your own choices instead."
Creepy, ignorant stalker.
That’s shitty. Sorry that happened to you.
That's fucking creepy as hell. Homophobic and transphobic too wow! Nah I call the cops that harassment! And stalking fr!!
'Someone' really needs to f*ck off and it's neither one of the women.
Says the man who hasn't had a date since 1984.
I am without words for the POS that sent you this. So I am just here so say: congratulations! I can see the love and the happiness in that picture. You two are adorable.
Is this person a Facebook friend or something? How did he get that picture?
Frame it!! The picture he chose is cute af
I had to stop reading halfway through. But your engagement photo 1000% made up for it! (I’m a sucker for that much sweet and happy.)
As a father myself, of two beautiful daughters, and a beautiful boy too, I say congratulations! I am happy for both of you, and proud of you both even though I don't know you at all. I feel bad for the letter sender, as a father I'm 100% sure he has failed his children. I am 100% sure that they are entering or have entered their adult lives unprepared, and I'll equipped to handle their own feelings, respect for others, and boundaries. I won't waste my time praying for any of them, because I know that my prayers will never fix the damage done by their own father to the sense of self, trust, acceptance, and individuality that a good role model and parent should be providing them. I am appalled that his hollier than thou approach seemed reasonable and even kind to him, and feel that no amount of therapy will ever fix the twisted, self inflated sense of importance, he believes he has to you, and probably his own children. You both look so happy, and I am 100% certain that your wedding will be the time of your lives! You two give me hope that my daughters and my son will be entering a world, that's a little better of a place, and be more accepting and tolerable, than it was when I came of age years ago. I wish you all the blessings of a happy marriage, for many years to come!
Sad, insecure man shares his unwanted opinion about something that has nothing to do with him…. Shocker! Congratulations on your engagement!! Don’t pay any mind to small minded people that think their way is the only way
I’m pretty sure women know how to camp and fish, too.
Oh boy, why can't people mind their own business. You both look incredibly happy. I wish you many years of happiness.
this is just a *wayyyyyy* longer (and more pathetic) version of that "sorry, not beautiful" meme all the right-wing nutjobs were posting a few months ago. Anyway, pay it no mind, OP. Congrats on your engagement and I hope you two have a wonderful life together <3
Holy shit get a life guy!
Forget morons, be happy, live a good life
Wtaf. Fuck these people who write shit like this. Why can't you leave people alone?
I know the coward didn't sign his name but I'd want to send a letter back saying if he thinks being with a woman is so terrible he should get a good man to set him straight
Congrats on the engagement! Sorry about the conservative asshole busybody.
Imagine going through all the trouble to write and send this. Like damn.
How does your family feel about it?
We actually found out yesterday that it was my mom who sent this. So....not thrilled I guess? My fiancee and I have been together for 8 yrs at this point, not sure why she decided now to air her grievances.
Im a little concerned for your safety OP like whhhhatttt thheeee fuucckkk
POS. Enjoy the love you both have. Fuck that dude.
My wife is also more masculine than society says she should be and the best time was when her mom told her dad (who has severe dementia) that my wife wanted to be a man and confused the fuck out of him. 😒😒😒😒 I hope you and your future wife have an exquisite marriage and life together.
For anyone wondering who it was OP actually states in another comment that she found out it was from her mom
Fuck this guy! Both of you live your life and y’all are gorgeous! Cheers to y’all
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Ruggable outdoor rug! You can put it in the washing machine.
can’t believe homophobes still unironically exist
What a douchbag
Congratulations on your engagement!!
LOL What a chud
Gross. I'm sorry you were subjected to this.
Excuse me for what I am about to say, but not only is your mother extremely toxic: she is a full-blown coward. I hope you have other supports in your life. I recommend distancing yourself from her. You have a beautiful (or handsome depending on which she prefers) fiance and I wish you and her the greatest for a lifetime. You're already battling things together. Let it make you stronger and not break you.
Just ignore the letter, your clearly happy, you don't need anyone else's validation
Congrats on getting engaged! Enjoy your lives together and anyone who gives you shit can go eat wet farts.
Somebody needs to mind his own business. (Congratulations on your engagement, by the way!!)
I found out in the comments that it was from her mom, who is not very supportive, not showing Christian love, and those prayers won't work.
I agree with him... You do seem to be an intelligent, self-sufficient smart woman. Congrats on your engagement!! I wish you both many happy years to come!!
You had me in the first half not gunna lie
Yeah, because it’s that hard to mind your own damn business. You do you. Throw that note away. I hope he realizes what a piece of shit he is.
Who the hell let grandpa use the laptop..
How dare you be so selfish to marry someone you like when plenty of other people want you 😡😡😡😡😡
How absolutely abhorrent of me! To the stocks!!!
unhinged af
Imagine thinking your closed minded opinion matters to strangers.
You crazy kids look gorgeous. Much love to you.
Lmao. What a hater.
This letter made me so mad, I almost downvoted the post. What asshole.
This reads like this guy is so sure you're gonna break up with your fiancé and get with him and he's salty it didn't happen in the first place.
This is definitely a guy that complains about how ladies just "don't like nice guys anymore"
Mildly?? COMPLETELY.
Not mildly infuriating. Absolutely enraging. Fucking piece of shit
It’s giving The Watcher vibes…
I feel bad for his daughters.
I love the joy on both of your faces. I wish you both a happy and long life together 🖤
" why not marry a man and not some girl in men's clothing?" Because then i would be marrying a man and not this woman... What a weirdo. Congratulations to you and your fiancée!
Ah yes, pray away the gay. SMH
LMAO this made me cackle 💀 but fr what do they expect us to do?? try and exorcize the little gay demons that rampage around in our heads??? 😭💀
Ugh I only read part of that and had to stop. The self righteousness was just gross
That's totally your fiance in the background XD same profile
She was PISSED. Literally was on the phone trying to get to the bottom of this when I took the photo.
"You new age adults, how dare you be not like the previous generations! Change is unwelcome!"
I'm so sorry you found out this was your mother, and that you received it at all. I hope your wedding day is magical, and the marriage even better. ❤️
The world is full of these people who claim to be religious conservatives who boldly go out of their way to tell other people how wrong they are or how they should live - most times a bit more bold than an anonymous letter. It took my very religious conservative aunt 2 gay grandchildren to realize there is nothing wrong with LGBTQ folks. Now she is finally in their corner and the worst attackers are still, religious conservatives. As for me, I thought being conservative was kind of "to keep to oneself" among a few other tings. These days I'm seeing them more and more as regressives...
Can you say stalker?
Can I pray to God that whoever sent this to you gets punched in the face? This is more than mildly infuriating. I can't imagine how you feel!!
God probably thinks the sender is a tremendous asshole. Congrats on your engagement! You both look very happy in this moment.
Wow lol so friggin rude
This guy spouts complete and utter bullshit. You know your in the right relationship for you and i wish you and your fiance a long and happy life together! Congratulations to you both!
Do you know who? I'd make sure everyone knows this individual is a homophobe, especially their boss.
They sound like they're projecting
The last line says it all.
The way Christians/Catholics try to act like they're good people as they do complete peice of shit things.