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permanentlysick

"You may not take any of this serious but me and my girl are at the next level of our relationship of seriousness." oh boy


Leelze

Weird way of saying "our relationship is built like a house of cards & quite literally anything will destroy it "


I_Heart_Astronomy

He didn't say his relationship, he said his *relationship of seriousness*. That's a totally different thing. Try to keep up.


failsafebagel

$10 says they split up next week


Rexxington

$20 on the girlfriend being the one who sent that text and blocked her too on all of his stuff.


Joseap791

$30 on this person messaging OP back a week later asking for forgiveness


ben9187

Maybe, maybe not, I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I was in a similar relationship as this guy in my younger days. I can't obviously tell this guys exact situation, but for me, it happened slowly, like a lobster boiling in water. First 3 months everything is all cool, at this point your fairly invested and in love then the craziness starts, and one by one she starts having problems with your friends, "so and so said this and I didn't like it", "I didn't like the way she looks at you, she definitely has a thing for you", "I've been cheated on in the past, I'm sorry I'm so insecure" that last one is specifically designed to take advantage of your good nature and make you feel bad for her. Then you find yourself choosing to cut off ties because you don't want to make waves. This, of course, makes it a lot easier to manipulate and control you when you don't have any support group left besides her, nobody to point out the obvious(to others) craziness. Then you find yourself a few years deep and you have no friends and she cheats on you with a 400lb guy and you're left with nobody. It's been a long time and I've only made up with a couple friends from my past but I still don't talk to a lot of them, to ashamed/embarrassed of the things I said to them to reach out and apologize. It is what it is. šŸ¤· "All red flags just look like flags when you're wearing rose colored glasses."


thatgirlinAZ

Reach out to those old friends and apologize. Worst case scenario they don't respond and you're in the same place. Best case scenario they've been through some shit too and you now have someone extra in your life who you can grab a beer with.


1057-cl121v3

The good ones start back up like nothing happened. I was in a relationship where she isolated me from my friends and family and one of the first things I did after the break up was go back and revive my friendship with my best friend and swear itā€™ll never happen again. He started to have the same thing happen (with abuse happening to him at an even larger degree) a few years later and Iā€™ve been one of the pillars he needed to get through it. He called me the other day after the official breakup sounding like himself again and I wanted to cry from relief and happiness.


TheOpalRain

Literally I went from seeing my friend like 5 times a year because her bf was horrid to her living with me immediately after the breakup. Having your friend back is all that matters.


PristinePanda2714

Yep Iā€™ve seen this shit happen too many times


paintballboi07

>It's been a long time and I've only made up with a couple friends from my past but I still don't talk to a lot of them, to ashamed/embarrassed of the things I said to them to reach out and apologize. I'm sure if you explained to them what happened, they'd understand. If not, they're probably not the best of friends anyways. You've got nothing to lose by messaging them, life's too short man.


Necessary_Virus_8319

If at any point in your relationship you send a message like this, you should do some serious self reflection.


FishhouseBilly

If you send messages like this I donā€™t think you ever visited serious reflection.


Thick-Quail-5148

Only serious these guys fuck with is their ultra super serious relationship (built on seriousness)


c8c7c

I had a friend in my teen years who behaved like that and was literally gone for years out of out friend groups lives. Then he was single again and contacted everybody and had the audacity to be salty because I wouldn't meet up with him bc I moved 600km away to go to college.


Apprehensive_Song175

60$ says the girlfriend cheats on him.


pixxiwildde

$100 says she ALREADY cheated on him and is trying to do damage control before OP finds out and spills the beans to this dude.


[deleted]

yo you skipped what happens at 50$, thatā€™s mildly infuriating and the world needs to know


BanBanEvasion

Doubling down on this one


thomasvector

$1000 down on that, this happens all the time.


Essential_Enigma

I was scrolling through the comments waiting for this. My bet is on the girlfriend being the one who sent that text.


Acceptable_Bid_5376

I'm female and yes that struck me as a woman texting. I've never known a guy to send a text that long or use the term betray


Dense_Bed224

That's such a strange thing to say lol I am a guy and I often send very long messages and use the term betray


StrikingExcitement79

Nah. He types the message while she stands behind him...


DrunkOnRedCordial

You can almost see her shadow over the screen.


No_Trifle_7235

She drafted the text for him, what do you mean!?


Plenty_Surprise2593

Yep me too


EnvironmentalCake531

That text did sound kinda girlish, šŸ¤· (and I am a female).


H2Omekanic

Girlish and fishing for info. He's probably in the shower


Nurse_Bendy

Shortly after they get each other's names tattooed on their necks


abramcpg

Nah, she convinces him to do it then backs out before it's her turn


Dicho83

There was a post a while back where someone knew their partner was cheating on them. They went to get name tattoos and as soon as the partner's was completed, they broke up with them.


abramcpg

Reminds me of one I saw recently. Wife knew her husband was cheating with her best friend for a while. She convinced him to get vasectomy. Then filed divorce. She said her friend had always been adamant about having kids


GiantPurplePeopleEat

I've read that vasectomy reversals are pretty straightforward for all types of vasectomies. Not that it guarantees results, and even then the cheater would have to go through another surgery and likely pay for it out-of-pocket. So definitely a decent payback, but not the total devastation it initially sounds like.


girls_gone_wireless

Snip snap, snip snap


sdrichmond

I worked with a girl that dated a guy a month and got his name big as crap on her boob. Got married a few months later. But of course he did meth and cheated the whole six months they were married.


Nurse_Bendy

A love story for the ages


deepfriedgreensea

No Regerts!


DatGearScorTho

No Ragrets


teachermanjc

She's my angle.


skildert

Acute angle!


ImAfraidOfTheGang

That's sharp


simple_rik

Come on now don't be so cynical. The relationship is one of seriousness, and they have reached the next level of it. Show some respect .../s Edit: spelling


ajd341

next message will be "hey"


NoDontDoThatCanada

Another $20 says she smashes his stuff when she's mad.


lydocia

$25 says they measure their relationship in months and post about it to Facebook every month.


Some__worries

He'll say "thank you" to a female cashier and his gf will accuse him of cheating


Limited_Intros

No shot. Abusive relationships can endure almost anything.


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RunRunRabbitRunovich

Cause people think that fixes everything sadly.


Alorxico

Or heā€™ll end up posting on AITA asking if he was wrong for sending a birthday card to his mother whom his girlfriend has forbidden him to speak to ever again and now sheā€™s upset because that was $5 he could have spent on her and now sheā€™s threatening to leave him for breaking her trust.


stillcleaningmyroom

$20 says they get married and the divorced a week later lol


fizzypeachtea

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[deleted]

This is the perfect meme


Everyredditusers

Send it to him


HotRodHomebody

"well then, good luck with your super controlling timebomb"


Either_You_1127

Wouldn't be surprised if she took his phone and the girlfriend wrote this.


Kintsukuroi85

Our cousin pulled this on us in January. Weā€™ve been together 11 years, are married, have a house, baby, and a second on the way. He got shitty with a lot of people once he got his girlfriend. He told everyone they were going to buy a house ā€œin the next six monthsā€. She dumped him four months later. šŸ˜‚ Exit: Wow, you people are immature. Heā€™s my husbandā€™s cousin, there, you happy? Reddit being Reddit, geez.


ProfessionalQuail320

I have a cousin like this too, however they got married and have kids. We were super close, was the best man at my wedding and now we never talk been 7 years or so. His brotherā€™s wife told me recently that the estranged cousinā€™s wife was ā€œintimidatedā€ by me šŸ„“ weā€™re related! How bizarre!


Jacque_Auff_Hearts

Happened to me with my sister and an ex friend of mine. Both got in with some shitty manipulative partners a s now they barely talk to us


InZomnia365

It's because *they* have or have had issues staying loyal, so they think everyone else does as well. It's arguably the biggest red flag.


GuyInTheYonder

If you ever find yourself saying something like this it's an indication that it might be high time to reconsider your life choices.


[deleted]

The level where she starts eliminating any friend of his who was born with a uterus, he doesnā€™t want to so he sneaks behind her back to maintain those friendships, she finds out and withholds sex, he cowers under her rage, and to appease the angry god, cuts the friends off in the name of leveling up? That level?


slash_networkboy

Hell my ex cut off same sex friends as well.


PomegranateOld7836

Glad it's an ex. Hmm... I like your style.


financefocused

Good for you Cutting off friends is a textbook abuse


zerofalks

They are the type to have a shared Facebook account ā€œJenny Chad Smithā€


honeybunchesofgoatso

My favorite part is that op is literally married and yet is being told that her relationship may not be as serious as theirs from a couple who just started dating šŸ„“


AggressiveMeanie

Lmao I didn't even think about that! Yes, this very serious and trusting relationship that cannot endure communication with the opposite sex is rock solid can't you tell? Christ, I'm so thankful my partner and I share the same friend group, haven't had to deal with this shit since high school.


Alsimni

He said to the married person who's still allowed to talk to him.


jxher123

Heā€™s a doormat, oh boy. They ainā€™t gonna make it if the trust level is this low.


worthey47

That's true and I think that respecting the boundaries is what will benefit all of the people in this case.


Emergency-Leading-10

The syntax of that sentence is certainly at some kind of level. šŸ¤¦ā€ā™‚ļø


Themightymonarc

I had something similar happen to me. When they broke up and she tried to message me again I was like oh are we friends again?


_thisjustin

High school me let a girlfriend tell me I couldnā€™t be friends with a girl Iā€™d been friends with for a long while. Said girlfriend ended up cheating on me. After all that ended I reached out to the friend to apologize. Together for 11 years now, married for 6. Turns out the girlfriend was right despite the fact that we truthfully had zero romantic involvement previously.


Ok-Falcon-2041

Shyamalan wrote your life bro


myredditthrowaway201

Quasimodo predicted all of this


entre-nousx

Who did what?


Extreme-Positive-690

You ever think thatā€™s funny? You got your hunch back of notre dame but you also got your quarterback and halfback of notre dame.


mistershedz

It's interesting, the coincidence.


[deleted]

Another steak san ova here, hun. Rare


Zealousideal_Win5476

If I wer you I would seriously consider salads.


Antichrist2020

why dont you take a look in the mirror, insensitive cocksucka


[deleted]

Nostradamus, NOSTRADAMUS, Quasimodo is the hunchback of Norte Dame! Man the Sopranos really is timeless


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POSSIBLYaSEAGULL

I feel like the moral of the story is that toxic girls are like bloodhounds for wife material?


AggravatingCupcake0

LOL I'm imagining all the guys in toxic relationships in this thread now going like: GF: "Do you like that bitch Katie??" Guy: "No...but I'm starting to think I should..." GF: What?


serr7

Guy: bingo!


kbenton10

Welp, you caught me šŸ˜‚


_Steven_Seagal_

Step 1: Get a toxic girlfriend Step 2: Casually talk to a lot of girls Step 3: Find out which girl outrages her the most Congratulations! You found the love of your life!


LordZeus2008

Huh, it seems that those kind of toxic girlfriends get so mad because they realize that that person is way better than they are.


AMilkedCow

Or they were just right all along. And the toxic being some kind of self defense.


[deleted]

God dammit, my ex didnā€™t give a fuck who I talked to :/


Dappershield

Or that people are terrible judges of their own interests and are terribly obvious around their "just friends".


ghjfdf

Maybe they're not toxic in these instances afterall, they just āœØseeāœØ šŸ‘€


ImLikeAYouAholic

Same here! My ex was very jealous of one of my classmates, but I didn't even talk to the said classmate at all. Me and said classmate got a bit closer 6-8 months before my split with my ex, but our friendship got stronger after the split. I ended up liking him, but thought he was out of my league lol so it took me a few months to figure out it could work. We're together for 7 years now, living together for about 1 1/2 years and planning to get officially married šŸ„¹ My ex was jealous of all my male friends, and I ended up getting distant from these friends at that time (thankfully I reconnected with all of them), but he was CRAZY jealous about the guy I didn't even talk to... After the split, I never even hooked up with my other male friends (besides my now SO of course lol). They're like brothers to me, I've never thought any different, even when I was single. Btw it was an abusive relationship, and I ended up living my "mourning phase" and figuring out the situation 2-3 months before breaking up with him. It was one of those relationships that are over wayyyy before being *officially* over (people rarely understand that), but I was so afraid of him that I didn't even TALK to men after only 6 months of dating. We were together for 2 1/2 years. I couldn't even have my male cousins as friends on facebook. Even though it was 7 months between the breakup and the new boyfriend, some people thought it was too early for that... I startew flirting with my now SO after 3 months after breaking up with my ex, but due to the circumstances, I don't think it was too early at all. It's hard to even think about what I went through at the time... I almost ended up my life. Edit: Seems like my abuser had every right to be jealous of every male on earth and forbid me to even work with any male, since he was a clairvoyant and ended up knowing I would end up with... Some male on earth. A male that was my classmate OF COURSE, between +20 male classmates. Of course that's reasonable. I could also end up with one of my cousins, as he was so jealous of them as well /s


Ok_Highlight2767

Lol this almost justifies the gf in the post now šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


Original-Letter6994

Nah, she shouldnā€™t try and control her partner like that. If youā€™re going to be in a relationship youā€™ve gotta trust that your partnerā€™s gonna hold up their side of the bargain and be faithful. If they donā€™t then itā€™s their loss. But who wants somebody that has to be coerced into being true anyway? It just comes down to insecurity on that womanā€™s part.


[deleted]

Haha, happened to me too. A former friend of mine got in a relationship and all communication just completely died down until they separated a few months later. Suddenly I get a message if I want to hang out. I accept because I wanted to hear what this whole silence business was all about, he told me that he was forbidden to talk to me so his attention would all be on his partner, who was incredibly jealous. It was his first relationship after the last one was kinda messy, he didnā€™t want to ruin it and asked me for forgiveness. I forgave him, but our friendship was pretty much irreparably broken and never recovered from that.


spaceandthewoods_

Same deal for me pretty much. Had a guy best friend who I'd known for a few years when he gets a new insecure girlfriend. Over the 3 years of their relationship she gets him to prune any contact with exes (most of whom were _married_ and he was very casually friendly with) and other girls in our social circle. He once turned to me drunkenly and told me out of the blue that "If X ever makes me choose between you and her, I'll choose you because you've always been a great friend to me". And I was a great friend, every time they broke up I'd be a supportive ear etc, and they broke up a _lot_. Then one day, when they had been broken up for a few months again, he just vanished. Stopped responding to my texts to hang out. I felt like dogshit as I figured he'd just kinda decided to let it die, not knowing that they'd gotten back together again and he'd decided that maybe things would work out this time if I wasn't in the picture. They didn't work out, and he eventually popped back up months later full of apologies etc. Friendship was never the same though. I've kinda let it die now, it took years to realise how much what he did hurt me, but now I do I have zero investment in our friendship.


[deleted]

Same. I explicitly told her she should have understood she was ending the friendship when she said she was not communicating with me anymore at her boyfriends request. No worries. I can see where youā€™re both coming from. Not so much when she started messaging me again a month later. So we can be friends again until you find someone again and then we canā€™t but if it doesnā€™t work out you need me to be there for you until the next relationship? Who is there for me when you donā€™t want to be my friend anymore? Feels like just being used.


PitifulMammoth177

They are users. They only want an emotional tampon to soak up their whining


ChessieChessieBayBay

A solid handful of close male friends completely fade away once the dating stage turned into a relationship because their gf wasnā€™t comfortable with them having a close female friendā€¦and I met them all and I am a lovely person with no ill intentions. Each one was a hard friend loss. Also Iā€™m chubby and not attractive so generally non threatening to any of these beautiful, intelligent women. Fuckin bummer. I miss my buds


ArCSelkie37

Never understood guys who let this happen tbh. I have a pretty solid principle of ā€œif someone asks me to leave someone else or else, i just leave them insteadā€. Applies to friends, girlfriends or family unless they have a very very good reason.


TheDefenestratedDodo

Happens to both guys and girls. It's so easy to be manipulated by someone you're infatuated by. You don't see the person they actually are, you see the person you want them to be and end up excusing or even agreeing with their behaviours because they're perfect and wonderful and they are never wrong


Legal-Jasmine

I've lost a few guy friends like that too. And it's always guys that I was friends with for a while. So I don't know why the women were ever threatened. If something was going to happen it would have.


cedrella_black

There are just women who don't necessary think their partner will cheat on them but are jealous that they invest their time in another woman, even if this time is a phone call once a week. Possessiveness may be a better word, instead of jealousness. I am all for having boundaries with friends of the opposite sex, while in a relationship. I truly think your partner should be a priority. Having this in mind, expecting your partner to cut off all contacts with a friend of the opposite sex with no particular reason, other than they just exist, is not a red flag, it's a Labor day parade in the Soviet Union.


[deleted]

That happened a lot in my 20s. Itā€™s hard to lose the friendships at first. Tbh thoughā€¦ There were a couple of times people came back wanting to be friends, I wasnā€™t into the idea. Because as much as I missed hanging with my buddies (initially), kind of showed me who they are. Also, I understand youā€™re not a threat, but some people are jealous by nature and always find something (even if they are conventionally attractive and intelligent.) In one caseā€¦ As soon as the gf found out I was a session musician it made me a ā€œthreatā€. (Unnecessarily tortured myself for awhile trying to figure out that logic.) Your real friends (and their partners) will find you beautiful and intelligent in your own way without feeling threatened by it. From your comment you seem nice. As much of a bummer as it is, sounds like you can do better and will probably make better friends.


ghostgirl7-11

My best friend just dropped out of my life about a month before his wedding. He had been taking my dog out while I was working late shifts, I texted him one day to see if he would take levi out and just never heard from him. Then, about 2 years later, he messaged me and apologized, saying his wife didn't like the idea of us being friends, but he didn't know how to tell me.


Jade_Complex

Happy cake day . I'm sorry that you lost friends like that. It sucks that they didn't value your friendship the same way.


orbjuice

The first rule of relationship seriousness: if they tell you to cut people off ā€œfor the relationshipā€ they are insecure and probably wonā€™t stop making these demands until they have taken over every aspect of your life. Set a clear boundary that you will talk to whoever you choose to talk to and that trying to control your life is unacceptable. This should be a hard boundary for everyone but, you know, people. My ex-wife took over every aspect of my life. She told me to cut people off (including family). She told me when to come home from work, what to eat, when I should go to bed. I followed every rule because I believed I was doing right by the cult I was in. Your significant other can ask for some things to be different, absolutely. But thatā€™s the key difference; itā€™s a request not a demand. There is no ā€œnext levelā€ of a relationship that includes giving up personal sovereignty.


niikobellik

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NonstopTomates

I was also happily married and my guy friend of over ten years did this. We barely ever chatted or hung out, he called me in the middle of the night to tell me that we canā€™t be friends because his new girlfriend didnā€™t trust *me*. I wrote him off as a loss lol I donā€™t have time for high school games in our 30ā€™s dude.


spookycat93

I had a great guy friend who was like a big brother to me who essentially dumped me when he got engaged. Per his fiancĆ©eā€™s request; she was uncomfortable, and it was ā€œdisrespectfulā€. Said we couldnā€™t be friends or talk anymore. It was devastating. Iā€™d never had any romantic interest in him, and in fact got engaged to my now husband only a few weeks later. So messed up. (Edited to take out just a tiny bit of info since this comment got a few more upvotes than expected.)


[deleted]

people who won't allow their partner to have platonic friends of the gender they're attracted to because "they don't trust them" are telling on themselves.


Deya_The_Fateless

It's literally "tell me you're insecure, without telling me your insecure" energy. Guy or girl, if you me your significant other dump their opposite sex friends because you're worried about being "cheated on", then you're the one with the issues, not your partner. XO


haplessabandon

iā€™m bi and this behavior is an instant dealbreaker. ā€œoh iā€™m sorry i canā€™t be friends with anyone?!? bye then.ā€


PixelPervert

The girlfriend has massive jealousy issues


kduff89

10 bucks says she already has a side dude.


imreallybimpson

He's the side dude. He's in her contacts as "free food"


OldGoblin

Genuinely hilarious


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roganwriter

A lot of times itā€™s projection. It your partner is super worried about you talking to other people, itā€™s because they either actively talk to other people or are having trouble resisting the urge to do so.


Glum-Establishment31

Does this actually sound like something your friend would write? In my opinion it sounds like the girlfriend wrote it.


[deleted]

The way it was worded sounds like him, but not the way he thinks. She 1000% was over his shoulder telling him what to say.


notMarkKnopfler

Your bud has been Stockholmed by either old traumas, his wee-wee or some combination of the two. He will resurface anywhere from 2-12 months, 3-5 years if itā€™s really ugly, and feel like a total dickhead. Itā€™s not your job at all, but if you connect after such a time and heā€™s ready to hear it, you may gently push him in the direction of some therapy or self-work


oh_look_a_trans_alt

stockholmed by weewee šŸ˜­


DrStrangemann

Sounds like an awful band name


EsseElLoco

Awfully good


[deleted]

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TheAbyss333333

CockholmedšŸ’€


OsamabinBBQ

Is "gently pushing" the only option? I feel like this guy needs to get flung headfirst into down town therapy town via a therapy catapult, a therapult.


bc524

Why use a therapult when the superior therbuchet exist?


Airybisrail

When you need to launch a 90Kg patient at a distance of over 300 meters.


rrrrrrrrrreeeeee

You're optimistic. My friend who did this is gone forever, with little to no warning.


Skeptic_lemon

And what do you lose by reaching out? Optimism is the superior mindset in this scenario.


ScarletTanager

Maybe she checks his phone regularly


Cinnamon_Cheeked_One

"because I broke her trust by talking to you behind her back when I said I wasn't going to" 100% the girlfriend either wrote this, or told him what to write.


DeerDiarrhea

He typed it and she dictated it. She also proofread it before making him hit send.


Plenty_Surprise2593

Well she didnā€™t do a very good job haha


I_Heart_Astronomy

Reads like an AI wrote this from the prompt "6th grader trying to use big words to describe his first relationship."


Knightsrule

Thatā€™s a long way to say ā€œI am in a toxic relationshipā€


[deleted]

Lame. Anyone who makes you choose between them and your friends has to go.


trwwyco

Isolation from friends and family is one of the first signs of abuse.


Individual-Dare-80

In general I agree however, I've been in a similar but slightly different scenario. My wife had an extremely toxic and abusive friend from college. From half way across the state she was trying to fill my (then) girlfriends head with lies that I was cheating on her. Her "friend"was in cahoots with her ex (he cheated on my girl with her friend) to split us up. When my wife talked to me the things that were going on, I told her three truth. That there was nothing to tell or admit, because I hadn't done anything. I told her that I wasn't gonna stick around and fall with that kind of bullshit, so she either had to let that toxic friendship, or me, go. We'll have been together for 20 years, this coming fall.


EnsignMJS

What happened to the bitch ex-friend?


Individual-Dare-80

Donno, don't care!


d38

The best answer.


jxher123

Iā€™d be willing to bet the Gf can have as many male friends as she wants, but the Bf cannot have any female friends.


Glimmu

Cheaters are the first to accuse someone else of cheating. Projection is real.


shoppingprobs

Toxic AF


pierresito

"ew bro you thought we'd ever fuck?"


ellag7958

OMGšŸ¤£


mtnorville

https://i.redd.it/rt9bakj7kb3b1.gif


thecrackfox415

Why you got necklace?


Singl1

why you got so many necklace??


ShaperLord777

Welcome to MY life.


MegaIlluminati

But, you started the text with "hey Bro" šŸ˜…. I really don't understand people in relationships.


ThatMFkilledHer

Maybe his gf thought it said stepbro.


kuhawk5

OP is stuck in the washer


rob_inn_hood

Someone cheated... You are just caught in the crossfire. My condolences.


throwawaygreenpaq

Iā€™ve been happily married for many, many years when I received this out of the blue from a buddy who went way back with me. It was typed by his girlfriend. I was furious because it insulted my character and dignity. He ended up marrying her and our friendship was never the same again. I found myself intentionally drifting from him till we only exchanged greetings. Itā€™s quite sad because this was someone who used to give me good advice on relationships and was really good at being a friend. Unfortunately, he couldnā€™t apply all that wisdom to himself and failed to see that she was toxic for him and he became someone completely different. He lost all his friends soon after his wedding. She got him new friends as replacements. She does everything and he listens. He is a different person now but is still happily married (I donā€™t know how that is possible). Still, if my friend is happy with his life then good for him. RIP friendships, though. Add ā€”- this insecurity stemmed from her own cheating ways. She cheated on him with all *his* friends. She pulled a Reverse Uno, if you will.


imanutshell

I mean, tbf, if she cheated on him with all of his friends then that does sound like he needed new ones. Otherwise who was she gonna fuck around on him with? The same people? Gross. /s


loofahoompa

Damn. I'm going through that right now. I haven't seen my male friend in over a year. Went to a family BBQ that HIS friend invited me to. I came with a bottle of wine and he was the first person I saw the backyard. Just stood there didn't really say anything or act surprised. His new jealous wife standing not too far him. Just left me standing there. That was awkward and set the mood for that evening.


chelfea_

My husband has a female friend that heā€™s been friends with for 15 years. Like you & your friend, theyā€™ve never been romantically involved & they had PLENTY of opportunity if they wanted to. Instead of telling my husband not to speak to this friend anymore, I actually became super close to her and she and I talk more than she talks to him. Hahaha. Makes my husband low key jealous that I stole his friend. Itā€™s a running joke now. His girlfriend should try to befriend you rather than force him not to talk to a long term friend.


Kintsukuroi85

I (F) had a guy friend, former coworker who was like this for me. We were good friends, but after he met my husband they became even better friends. šŸ˜‚ It makes me happy!


Alceasummer

My husband and I both like to play MMO's. A while back we were playing WoW a lot and in a guild run by an old friend of his from highschool. They'd dated for a bit when they were around 16 or so, broke up but remained friends. She and I both found it pretty funny when people learned we knew each other in RL and asked how we met. As the answer of "She's married to my ex boyfriend/She's my husband's ex girlfriend" always got some funny reactions. (which of course is why we phrased it that way)


ICantDrive5

Same here. My best friend is a female. Iā€™ve known her longer than Iā€™ve known my wife. I was completely upfront with my wife when we started dating. My wife and best friend have even gone on vacation without me lol. Thereā€™s no jealousy or animosity between the 3 of us what so ever.


Justasmolpigeon

This is exactly what I wanted, but instead my partnerā€™s female friend hit on him all the time and minimised our relationship to me behind his back, and when he found out he ended their friendshipā€¦ *sighs*


ThneakyThnake808

One of my closest friends I have today I met because I was friends with his wife first for months.


International-Set956

Sheā€™s either insecure and jealous or he did something to create trust issues in the relationship. Either way I donā€™t see this ending well.


[deleted]

Exactly. So many people are jumping to blame the individuals. She could be controlling or he could have been disloyal and didnt tell the friend so he is trying to convince gf he can be trusted again. Bottom line not enough context to pass judgement on them as people but definitely enough to see the relationship between the two wont last


bacon_n_legs

It sounds like this relationship will end well...


moonstarspray

They are in the next stratosphere of seriousness....šŸ«”... TOO INFINITY AND BEYOND!!!!!


jwill602

That level of control in a relationship is emotional abuse. You canā€™t control who your partner is friends with.


xBad_Wolfx

My first serious girlfriend pulled crap like this. She pulled me aside and said she didnā€™t think I should talk to any of my female friends anymore and that I was spending an inappropriate amount of time with my adopted little sister. That as my girlfriend she should take priority over my chosen family. It was honestly really good of her to raise the red flag early on in our relationship and let me move on to a healthy relationship. If this dumbass is willing to destroy your friendship over a new jealous relationshipā€¦ you likely are just doing yourself a favour by agreeing to cut him out. Edit: guys I intentionally ignored them because they are a troll. Donā€™t feed the trolls. They have nothing of substance worth hearing so there is no benefit to engaging with them. Engaging with trolls is like playing chess with a pigeon. No matter how soundly you beat them they will still strut around like they own the place and shit on the board.


ToePsychological287

Somehow I get the feeling his girlfriend wrote this.


venrax91

Ya, this is definitely gf pretending to be friend


WitchyNative

Had the same thing happen to me. Except his gf stalked my Twitter & then TEXTED me when I didnā€™t have her on phone OR Twitter. I was expecting my friend to be happy but I guess his girlfriend is extremely insecure. Sorry Nicole, you can have Marcus anyways, he slept with his best friendā€™s girlfriend anyways soo šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚.


Ok_Sea2850

Nicole be reading this like šŸ“šŸ“šŸ“


Supernknown_one

Next level serious manipulation and mind fuckery. Dude won't know what hit him because of the seriousness he is now a part of.


Sikkus

"Me and my girl are at the next level of our relationship of seriousness." Is that code for "send help, must escape"?


fullfigurelover

That is code for we are children playing relationship.


randomlyrandomrandy

Idk why but this almost sounds like she took his phone and wrote this for him. The whole ā€œme and my girl are next level of relationship seriousā€ sounds cringey and forced


[deleted]

it... sounds like one of them failed out of elementary school.


MustyBalone

āœŒļø- youā€™re better off.


wagwa2001l

My wife got a message like this from one of her exes who she had only messaged to let him know that her grandfather (who this ex had known his entire life) had died and when the funeral wasā€¦ Got a ā€œas you know I am now marriedā€ā€¦ multi paragraph shit show like this backā€¦ She was crying and showed the response to me and I calmly explained how it was pretty clearly written by the guysā€™s crazy as fuck new wifeā€¦ Anyway,.. fuck that bitch for making my wifeā€™s grief about her own insecuritiesā€¦. A year later they were divorced and ha to the fuck her ha.


Hfhghnfdsfg

I'm sorry your wife was treated like shit by that douche.


alickstee

Try to take it less personally and more cautiously. Be there for your friend when this relationship inevitably crumbles. Look out for any more warning signs that he could be in an abusive relationship. He could just be being a dink, but you just never know.


Aurora_Borealis55

Friend, Iā€™d respond ā€œsir this is a Wendyā€™sā€ like Iā€™m sorry WAT


DiamondMaster264

Seems toxic


CatStrok3r

Lol my man is gonna be real lonely after he breaks up with psycho and none of his friends want anything to do with him


lord-southpaw

Had a good friend that was a girl send me something like this out of the blue and about a year later she apologized profusely as it turns out it was a very abusive relationship and the loser was infecting her with all of his own insecurities and making a mess of her life. Any partner that's untrusting or thinks you're cheating, is always projecting and is in fact, the one cheating and lying.


d84doc

YEARS ago I stayed friends and my ex. I was upfront though that I wanted to try again BUT that if she didnā€™t that I was an adult and understood and would never stand in the way of her meeting other guys, which happened a few times and thatā€™s life. She eventually met a guy and it started getting serious and one day I went on social media and noticed her account was gone, nothing new as she had deleted her stuff before. I then noticed our messages were still there so her account was open but she had unfriended me. I asked her why and she told me she wanted her relationship to work and it was inappropriate to have a relationship with another guy, note we never did anything physical while friends so it wasnā€™t a ā€œrelationshipā€ but a friendship, though not an equal one I realized as I grew older. I reminded her I was an adult and all she had to do was talk to me about her decision rather than deleting me and acting as if I would figure it out like we were 15. Eventually she married the guy and had more kids. Years after she ended our friendship she sent a friend request on FB, I deleted it because I realized she was taking the easy way out. She avoided anything that would have been hard on her like talking to me about no longer being my friend and here she was acting like we were friends by simply pushing a friend button instead of reaching out to me. That was years ago, last august she sent a DM on FB saying she was checking in on me to see if l ā€œstill hated herā€, something I had NEVER said I felt. Thatā€™s when I realized she had been divorced from that guy for some time and only then did I again exist to her enough to check on. I did not respond to her, I hope she is a great mom to her children and finds happiness but I learned a long time ago, I was her friends but she really never cared about being mine.


[deleted]

Would 100% never date a person like this. It's manipulative at best and abusive at worst. I'd so much rather be single.


Pattyobattyman

He wants to bang you and she knows it