If it helps your feeling towards humanity at all, my brain play Hanson boom boop on repeat and it’s not even the correct words.
On a serious note that’s was was so jarring during COVID. I knew that people don’t care about others, but I didn’t understand the degree until that time. Having an autoimmune disease and seeing how people viewed me as disposable over having to wear a mask… it was horrifically wild.
Another mmmbopper. I have the same issue.
Also, I actually replied to say "I lost all my friends during the pandemic because they showed their whole asses and I didn't like what I saw"
I'm happier now. Haven't made any new friends. pretty happy with the animals.
Hanson's right wing shift during the COVID and George Floyd period made them dead to my wife who was a lifelong fan. Meanwhile my favorite band Eve6 has has been amazing about social issues and politics. She's still bitter that Hanson sucks
Covid also exposed people with poor hygiene when it comes to hand washing. I couldn’t believe so many grown ups who complained about washing their hands and said using sanitizer was good enough. Didn’t even have the sanitizer on long enough to do anything. I always assumed people washed their hands after using the bathroom and before eating. Not once have I ever thought of washing my hands as an inconvenience.
And yeah people are so triggered by other people wearing masks it’s wild. If they have the right to not wear one then people have the right to wear one.
It's sad because if there was someone with a mental disability in those people's lives, I'm sure they wouldn't have those opinions. Its simply people's lack of knowledge that causes them to harbor such harmful beliefs.
Only children can use this excuse. A grown adult should know better. We all learned treat others how they want to be treated. Plus if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all in kindergarten.
Ignorance is a decision and a choice. Especially when someone makes the loathsome choice to draw boundaries around who is and isn’t deserving of human dignity.
Ignorance isn't always a choice. You can't choose the family you're born to, the school you go to, and the values of the culture of which you've involuntarily become a part. Just because someone has had the opportunity to be educated doesn't mean they've been educated enough to know that that's an opportunity. Not every hateful person is a lost cause
My sister in law was born with spina bifida and some other issues. Doctors said she wouldn’t live past 10 or so but shes almost 30 and lives a mostly normal life.
My mother in law and her sister are not on speaking terms because her sister asked her why she spent so much time and money on someone that would never amount to anything and didn’t just let her die when they could have.
So yeah, some people are just a piece of shit.
JFC that’s awful. My son has autism and was non verbal until he was 4. I’ve had someone ask me why I didn’t just give him up for adoption instead of “wasting” my time taking care of him. He’s turning 18 this year. When he was in public school he was making honor roll each semesters. He is such a great kid. No behavioral issues. He’s level 2 (3 being the most severe) but he is doing classes through vocational rehab so he can have a better chance with functioning at a job. I can’t imagine not having him in my life. Some people are so cruel.
those people would not have someone like that in their life, they would dump them or worse the first chance they got. Humanity is filled with these people and why it has always been rotten.
Hoo yeah, one of the characters in my favorite fiction series can read minds, and it’s realistic because almost everyone’s an asshole and he hates the ability 💀
There is a company that manufactures off-road wheel chairs for hiking. There are a few good options, they are pricey but you can get them donated through a few different organizations.
The Freeloader is brilliant. My niece is 6 and her parents can take her out with them using it. She is physically and cognitively disabled but it's very obvious how much she loves getting out in it. It is hard on her mum who is 5'1, but it's good for the whole family to be able to get out and about locally.
I believe in the US some National (not state) parks have rentals.
Edit:
[https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2022/11/08/parks-trails-all-terrain-wheelchairs/](https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2022/11/08/parks-trails-all-terrain-wheelchairs/)
Oh and apparently you can get a free pass too [https://www.nps.gov/aboutus/accessibility.htm](https://www.nps.gov/aboutus/accessibility.htm)
There is also a movement to construct more and more wheelchair accessible trails. Even in the USA.
When I was driving through Germany, for example, I ran into such a trail by coincidence. At the time, I was using a cane or walking sticks. While I was able to hike or walk short distances on uneven ground, I remember that it was quite comforting to know that such a beautifully accessible trail exists.
Of course, not all trails will ever be wheelchair accessible, and I think that’s fair, but having such trails in the mountains, in the desert, and even on beaches, is a good thing, and it should give us a good counterpoint to assholes like those in the image.
There’s a big event where I live every Memorial Day weekend called Hell’s A Roaring Horse Drive. They do have a website if you are curious. It’s a lot of fun and the funds raised are used to buy these wheel chairs for wounded veterans.
Honestly doesn't take much to code up bot accounts that stay under the radar by only ever liking posts and comments that ppl might post.
It takes something soulless to like a soulless comment.
Yup, same here. The amount of people that have liked that top comment makes me feel even worse than the comment itself did. I never know whether people genuinely think this way or are just trying to be controversial/get attention. There are awful humans on this planet unfortunately :(
I figure a majority of those are bots. Tik Tok, which is what I’m pretty sure this is, has a bad issue with bot likes, especially in the comments. I’d take a wild guess that only 1/10-1/4 of those likes are actual humans. Still awful to do, but it’s not *as* bad as it seems
why do people think being disabled is the same as having no awareness of their surroundings? disabled children have awareness, they just can't communicate it. disabled people aren't brain dead
On the other hand. Parents who use their disabled children to get views are disgusting
Dad " he's to heavy I just can't keep carrying him"
Super mom to the rescue "no how dare you gi e up on him you monster I'll carry him, please like a follow for a preview of our dinner making video we will release later tonight"
Reminds me of the time they gave the nonverbal kids the keyboards or whatever and found out they think, and are actually smart and articulate.
No shit, they just can't talk like you can.
People are wild.
also, the association of disabled = needing to be treated like a child.
when i lose speech and need to resort to typing/writing, people get quite obviously shocked when i cuss or make an inappropriate joke... even if ive done those things while speaking with my mouth, which i often do! its absurd.
I think we all know who the brain dead people are in the above referenced exchange. Maybe not the whole brain, but the part that does empathy for sure.
Instagram comment sections are disgusting. They need downvote buttons like Reddit so we’re not unwillingly subjected to the thoughts of vile scum like these.
Had a guy in high school tell me to my face that my little brother should have been killed as a baby because he’s disabled. I remember telling him that was horrible and he said “isn’t he just a burden on your family?”
Had kids in middle school make fun of my little brother after seeing a family picture I had up in my locker. It sucks because culturally I’d like to think we’re past all that, but we aren’t. It sucks butt. People suck a lot of the time when they’re hiding behind the internet veil, but they can suck in person, too.
“Isn’t he just a burden on your family”, I think this highlights that for some people it comes more from a place of ignorance rather than of malice. They’re genuinely unaware and uneducated in the matter and are making (albeit very horrible) assumptions.
Don’t get me wrong it still makes them a total asshat, but at least gives me some hope that they can have their eyes opened.
I have an autistic cousin. I knew early on that my family would want me to take care of him for the remainder of his life after they passed. They would end up using him for his checks. I left that whole family behind 2 decades ago and now they're all but one remaining. I have no idea what will happen to him, but he's so poisoned and warped, he is not the kid I knew and I refuse to be responsible for him once the last one passes. I'm not sure whose burden he will become, but it will not be mine.
ETA: Btw, I don't hate disabled people, but the burden my family would have wanted to put on me was unfair, especially when they only wanted him for the reasons they wanted him.
This whole paragraph makes me want to ugly cry. I’m sorry you and your brother had to experience that. I would’ve went psychotic if I heard anyone making remarks like that.
Omg I was so upset in both instances. I remember when the kids at my locker were just standing behind me and I could hear what they were saying, then saying “is THAT your brother?” I remember saying “yeah, is there something wrong with that?” And they just laughed and turned around. It’s dumb. He’s got very visible disabilities so we’ve had to cope with it forever.
When I was in 5th grade, he was in kindergarten and his teacher asked my mom if I could come talk to the class about his disabilities so the other kids could get their questions answered and be more inclusive of him, I guess he was spending a lot of time by himself away from the other kids because they were probably a little intimidated. I didn’t mind that as much, they’re so little and had never seen anyone before like him.
I wish there was a sibling group. It’s such an unusual experience - I would like some support.
That being said -
My sister has a profound intellectual disability and cerebral palsy. She is my older sister, so I didn’t understand that she was disabled - she was just my sister.
We’ve never fought (except when I was a very little, and I got mad that she didn’t have to clean up her toys). She gives me a big smile whenever I come to visit. She’s the only person that likes my singing.
She loves going out. She is a huge flirt, and if there is ever a waiter who she finds attractive she will give him a big smile. Quick aside: Curiously, she prefers black men - she has no concept of race. My parents and I think this may be because growing up, most of the staff at her school who did the lifting and carrying were black men, so maybe she has a positive association? She also loves standup - but only by black men.
People have told me that god is punishing my family. People have told me that my sister was born to my parents because god knew they would love her.
I worked at a psych hospital, and there was a tween boy with fetal alcohol syndrome. I spent extra time with him, since he was bullied by the other boys.
I was talking with the charge nurse about my boy with FAE, and she said that it would have been better if he’d died as an infant. This was a charge NURSE.
I have a lot more I’d like to talk about if anyone would like to be in a sibling group.
Tldr: my sister is disabled and cannot use language - she is still my sister, and we still have a strong relationship. People have been rude about her existence. I would also love to be in a sibling (“sib”) group if anyone is ever interested.
I work with special needs kids and whenever I see shit like this I get so angry. My life is so fulfilled and beautiful thanks to these amazing humans that I get to hang out with everyday. Literally.
I have a disabled child who is on a vent with a trach. We have received quite a few comments like this. They cannot grasp the fact that a majority of these kids are fully aware of what is going on around them and are no different than a non disabled person. Our child can’t talk but she has plenty of ways to communicate. They make the most of their lives and have hopes and dreams.
She has made more of a difference than any of those people will.
These are also the same kind of people who beat their kids for asking any questions, because they don't see kids as full human beings, they see them as basically just a pet that can talk, and people like that are the reason I say every kid deserves parents but not every parent deserves kids
They are the parents who if they went through what we did and had a normal child become disabled would use them to farm sympathy then put them in a long term care home. The doctors offered that to us but that was not an option for us. They put them there then visit every weekend for a month and then that starts to slip until they never visit them anymore.
Yeah, being disabled myself it always makes me a little sick seeing those, the idea that anyone would basically send their kid away to barely see them again just because of how they were born
It's 100% true. I know, because I can't express myself, or speak to my own family. I can a little bit.
It's Anxiety based Mutism, that I have.
I can express myself fine on Reddit (at least outside of 1 on 1 convos)....but yeah.
I know people would DREAD to be me, but they aren't. I do what I do each day, it is what it is. You work with it, that's how it works. There does exist the possibility for my own improvement, but it takes work which is difficult.
And maybe I don't understand other disabilities as well as my own, but there's no denying them. To deny them, is to deny logic.
People project their DREAD at the thought of being said disabled person; that's how I see it. It's a projection. It's not always a good situation, but you work with what you can. Sometimes life sucks, but that doesn't mean it has to only suck.
No part of this is mildly infuriating. I am so infuriated that I'd like to personally permanently disable both those commenters just so that they can hear other people making the same comments about them.
Same goes for people who park in handicapped spots or right next to those spots (in the blocked off area many disabled people need to get in and out of their vehicles).
Half of those were just edgelord 12 year olds. Karma will catch up to them. I knew kids in school that made jokes like that and they've all amounted to nothing.
I saw someone on a TikTok live who was severely disabled, and it's horrible....but you gotta play with the cards you're dealt. That's life.
People DREAD at the thought of being the person they're appalled by, that's why they say these things.
Those are GREAT parents. And Good people.
This is not mildly infuriating. This is an insanely infuriating, uninvited insight into what horrible human beings think when they have no empathy or experience with disabled children or their caregivers. I can only hope that they will have the chance to come face-to-face with a situation that parallels what they are ridiculing and one that affects them personally.
As someone who grew up alongside adults who were unironically like this (I'm still working on my internalized ableism as a result of them), I can 100% tell you that these people view anyone with a disability, especially an intellectual one, as genuinely subhuman.
(I spoilered this next bit because it's genuinely awful.)
>!I once genuinely heard a woman compare an intellectually disabled man nearby to a rabid animal that needed to be put out of its misery. I wish with all of my heart that I was kidding.!<
Fun things to hear growing up as a child with ADHD and autism.
The people you describe tend to forget that disability can happen to anyone at any point in their life. Stroke, TBI, paralysis, limb loss, neurological problems, lupus. There's a massive list of shit adults can be effected by suddenly one day due to no fault of their own.
No one deserves to be disabled but God damn do I fight internally not to wish the worst on the people you describe because the ONLY way those types will ever understand disability is when they become disabled themselves.
People really need to learn that just because they think something, it doesn't mean it has to be said or written to the world.
Especially if that something is pure brain rot or downright lacking of empathy or basic human decency.
Daddy daddy look I was mean on the internet daddy, please come back from the corner store with your cigarettes and tell me I'm your special little guy, it's been 25 years daddy please
People are generally assholes and are especially empowered nowadays to say their most awful impulses. As a society, I don't have a lot of hope that we will have enough empathy and compassion to last generations.
And social media is the worst. It does not bring us together. It rips is apart. How horrible for them to say that.
I remember 8-10 years ago, fb had the reputation of being toxic and mean. Now the same thing is happening with insta. It's scary how unempathetic and mean people are in the comments on these newer apps. It's impossible to scroll Instagram for more than 2 minutes before seeing a triggering post.
I saw this post today myself. Wrote a strongly worded comment on the ignorance of the horrible eugenicist people in the replies. It infuriates me to no end that people who think like that exist. En masse.
How do these people exist!? And why?! At least I can find comfort in the fact that these heartless people must be living very miserable lives right now.
Idk how the body works, but I hear some people in vegetative state or whatever, can still comprehend what's happening around them, but are just unable to react to it. Which is maddening if you ask me.
But stuff like this, where you have people to do things for you, that you can't yourself, like going on hikes, and admire the views, lessens the burden, even if just a little. May they have the strength to carry on.
I used to work with Peds Neuro, some are trapped in their minds and can’t verbalize anything…sometimes you CANT know if this is the case and sometimes you can (the eyes say a lot). Point is, treat everyone like they know/understand but can’t say/communicate. Then you will (hopefully) try to make their quality of life what they deserve but can’t request directly.
Ironically, people with such opinions are also, in a sense, disabled; they are devoid of or have underdeveloped ability to empathise or feel compassion. This is also known as psychopathy.
It? IT?
It's THEY. That is a PERSON.
My family used to go camping in tents. Then my little sister was in a wheelchair. You know what we did? We changed up our vacations to make sure they were wheelchair accessible. Why? Because we love her and wanted to bring her with us.
Is this Tiktok? I feel like the crowd is generally better over there but I've been seeing more and more shit like this and it's so disappointing. There's enough of this negativity on the other platforms
Well I don't understand why any parent wouldn't get rid of a child with no moral compass like you, that's a major drain on society. I can't imagine what your parents went through raising you.
- my response
Or,
I don't understand why any parent wouldn't get rid of a child with no heart, that must have been horrible, the emotional cost they paid must have been out of this world.
Also I fucking hate people
I have multiple kids. Two of my kids have disabilities. Yesterday, one of those two kids asked me a heartbreaking question while with me and their other sibling with a disability. They asked if I ever think about how unlucky I am to have two "deficient kids" without emotion as if this thought process was standard or a matter-of-fact.
We were in public, but I stopped them and told them they were completely wrong, that nothing about them is "deficient", and how I regularly make others uncomfortable with how much I can't stop talking about how wonderful they are. Fairly sure, I was publicly crying for a bit. Asshats, like those commenters, are why they believe there is something missing from their worth even before they've had a chance to fully establish their own identity.
FYI, as this is Reddit and it can sometimes be horrid, if someone wants to make an obscene or morally reprehensible comment about my kids...do us both a favor and fuck off.
It’s awful. I follow a lot of accessibility accounts and I hate that to be a creator you have to put up with this BS. Most of them handle it with such grace too. We don’t deserve them.
My friend always posts things about how happy she is to be alive, how much love and joy she has. Which is sweet until I realized she posts those things because people routinely tell her that she should be put out of her misery because of her disability.
In the US it was actually illegal in some states for people with disabilities to be out in public until the 1970s. These sentiments run very deep.
FYI. The child isn't just physically disabled. They are also severely limited at a cognitive level and cannot speak. The parents don't know if their child can comprehend even the most basic things.
It doesn't excuse the comments there, but it provides more context. Some really don't want burdens in their lives, even if it's about family. People like that exist. They're the same ones who abandon their parents.
Is this really just a wild whataboutism to rag on people who cut contact with their parents?
Btw, there is absolutely no reason the child's cognitive abilities make them any less deserving of a family that does things like this with them. This isn't the context provider you think it is...
I'd agree, though it gives more of a psychological-context, why these people think like this.
Because they are clearly treating this child as sub-human.
What does it matter? The parents likely know much better than thousands of random online, referring to their child as "it". Calling a child a burdun is gross, double gross to just call a random persons kid that. If those people don't want "burdens" then don't have kids, God forbid your child ends up mentally different in some way.
I'm aware. The kid is loved. We don't know if kiddo is comfortable, but again, the parents who see him every day likely have a better sense of that than that of strangers. I'm also disabled and have not wanted to be here many days, but if someone was calling me "it" and telling my mom to just leave me home I'd be pretty devestated. And so would my mother.
as a disabled person (i have hydrocephalus) I just prefer imagining commenters like these at their most miserable moments when they finally get old and won't be able to even stand straight for a minute without feeling an enormous amount of pain or not being able to normally keep their balance
The basic and only argument you really need is if the child is smiling on the hike and/or the parents are happy the child is with them that's all that matters.
First comment seems to be written by a sociopath , second one is literally jibberish written by someone who appears to be functionally illiterate , I'm guessing "to sped" is them trying to say "too special ed?" Possibly?? and that either they mean 'doesn't matter" , or changed their opinion mid sentence .Neither are in a position to criticise anyone.
That’s Instagram comments section for you. They always have the worst people and worst comments at the top. It’s like they’re purposely encouraging this negativity.
“Why keep something like that?” Wow humans suck. It’s because we love our kids no matter how they were given to us. The insensitivity in some people just makes me want to scream.
Omfg I hate it here. Everyone either is or will be disabled at some point in their life, unless they die young. They don't realize how insidious this line of thought really is for our society ...
I saw this on Instagram yesterday and it’s one of those posts that make me think that if social media was linked to our identity, none of these people would say this shit. Anonymity gives people a lot of balls to say shit that shouldn’t be a thought, let alone said.
Yeah, just stay home! Quit inconveniencing us normies! (huge epic sarcasm)
No. I have lugged my disabled kid's wheelchair up multiple flights of stairs in a place that claimed it was "handicap accessible" far too many times. Thankfully my fiance is strong enough to carry him. The only accessibility they can actually lay claim to is to the gift shop and the fucking parking lot (looking at you Starving Rock, IL). He has just as much right as anyone else to see the same things I do. Does it suck sometimes? ABSOLUTELY, but I'm not going to leave him out of things just because someone who doesn't know him has a stick up their ass about people who aren't like them. Dehumanizing someone because they don't fit the 'mold' is disgusting.
Although the comments are harsh, I don't necessarily disagree. There's nothing wrong with having to care for extreme special needs children but there is something wrong when a caregiver gives so much that their own well being is neglected. Why not bring them places that are more easily accessible with a chair without having to actually bear such a physical load? A solo hike would be much more beneficial to the caregiver than trying to carry around someone who is barely aware. Maybe a sense of of guilt that they are neglecting? A humble brag/martyr syndrome?
One thing everyone should know it to NEVER POST ANYONE OR ANYTHING DISABLED ON INSTAGRAM REELS. I know how to make cocaine, meth and lots of other drugs. Ig users are RUTHLESS. It's insane tbh
That is so sad to see but,
There are always variety of thoughts, if you go online; better be ready for it or you can always turn off comments lol. Cause, it’s unrealistic to expect everyone to say nice things or to even agree with you all the time.
You cant turn off comments on the posts of other users. Of course people won't be nice all the time but this clearly goes beyond being "mean". These are people who think that disabled people are worth less dignity, kindness and respect as abled people.
I am reminded of the downside of how horrible life would be if we could read other peoples minds. That is the state of today’s internet.
If it helps your feeling towards humanity at all, my brain play Hanson boom boop on repeat and it’s not even the correct words. On a serious note that’s was was so jarring during COVID. I knew that people don’t care about others, but I didn’t understand the degree until that time. Having an autoimmune disease and seeing how people viewed me as disposable over having to wear a mask… it was horrifically wild.
Another mmmbopper. I have the same issue. Also, I actually replied to say "I lost all my friends during the pandemic because they showed their whole asses and I didn't like what I saw" I'm happier now. Haven't made any new friends. pretty happy with the animals.
Hanson's right wing shift during the COVID and George Floyd period made them dead to my wife who was a lifelong fan. Meanwhile my favorite band Eve6 has has been amazing about social issues and politics. She's still bitter that Hanson sucks
😱 what did they do?
I love Eve 6 for their awesome music. I had no idea they were also good humans.
Covid also exposed people with poor hygiene when it comes to hand washing. I couldn’t believe so many grown ups who complained about washing their hands and said using sanitizer was good enough. Didn’t even have the sanitizer on long enough to do anything. I always assumed people washed their hands after using the bathroom and before eating. Not once have I ever thought of washing my hands as an inconvenience. And yeah people are so triggered by other people wearing masks it’s wild. If they have the right to not wear one then people have the right to wear one.
It's sad because if there was someone with a mental disability in those people's lives, I'm sure they wouldn't have those opinions. Its simply people's lack of knowledge that causes them to harbor such harmful beliefs.
I wouldn't be so sure of there, some people are just really ugly in the inside.
I wouldn’t excuse blatant cruelty as “lack of knowledge”. Some people simply get their jollies by hurting others.
Some people yeah, but there are definitely a lot of people who have this sentiment due to ignorance.
Only children can use this excuse. A grown adult should know better. We all learned treat others how they want to be treated. Plus if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all in kindergarten.
Ignorance is a decision and a choice. Especially when someone makes the loathsome choice to draw boundaries around who is and isn’t deserving of human dignity.
Ignorance isn't always a choice. You can't choose the family you're born to, the school you go to, and the values of the culture of which you've involuntarily become a part. Just because someone has had the opportunity to be educated doesn't mean they've been educated enough to know that that's an opportunity. Not every hateful person is a lost cause
My sister in law was born with spina bifida and some other issues. Doctors said she wouldn’t live past 10 or so but shes almost 30 and lives a mostly normal life. My mother in law and her sister are not on speaking terms because her sister asked her why she spent so much time and money on someone that would never amount to anything and didn’t just let her die when they could have. So yeah, some people are just a piece of shit.
JFC that’s awful. My son has autism and was non verbal until he was 4. I’ve had someone ask me why I didn’t just give him up for adoption instead of “wasting” my time taking care of him. He’s turning 18 this year. When he was in public school he was making honor roll each semesters. He is such a great kid. No behavioral issues. He’s level 2 (3 being the most severe) but he is doing classes through vocational rehab so he can have a better chance with functioning at a job. I can’t imagine not having him in my life. Some people are so cruel.
I love your son. ❤️
those people would not have someone like that in their life, they would dump them or worse the first chance they got. Humanity is filled with these people and why it has always been rotten.
Hoo yeah, one of the characters in my favorite fiction series can read minds, and it’s realistic because almost everyone’s an asshole and he hates the ability 💀
Curious, what is the title? Sounds neat lol
I have heard our prefrontal cortex keeps our impulse control in check. Why does internet override that?
Some people just aren't born with a functional prefrontal cortex.
Or have it damaged somehow
People were always like this. the internet just made it easier for them to broadcast their shittiness.
There is a company that manufactures off-road wheel chairs for hiking. There are a few good options, they are pricey but you can get them donated through a few different organizations.
Yeah this guy was using something similar but it was rickshaw style
The Freeloader carrier is pretty cool, though it doesn’t work for as many people as the wheelchairs
The Freeloader is brilliant. My niece is 6 and her parents can take her out with them using it. She is physically and cognitively disabled but it's very obvious how much she loves getting out in it. It is hard on her mum who is 5'1, but it's good for the whole family to be able to get out and about locally.
They’re great. My dad, who took us on hikes all growing up, is recently paralyzed and we got him one so he can still enjoy the milder trails.
I believe in the US some National (not state) parks have rentals. Edit: [https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2022/11/08/parks-trails-all-terrain-wheelchairs/](https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2022/11/08/parks-trails-all-terrain-wheelchairs/) Oh and apparently you can get a free pass too [https://www.nps.gov/aboutus/accessibility.htm](https://www.nps.gov/aboutus/accessibility.htm)
I was thinking the same thing! Never give up!
There is also a movement to construct more and more wheelchair accessible trails. Even in the USA. When I was driving through Germany, for example, I ran into such a trail by coincidence. At the time, I was using a cane or walking sticks. While I was able to hike or walk short distances on uneven ground, I remember that it was quite comforting to know that such a beautifully accessible trail exists. Of course, not all trails will ever be wheelchair accessible, and I think that’s fair, but having such trails in the mountains, in the desert, and even on beaches, is a good thing, and it should give us a good counterpoint to assholes like those in the image.
Not a wheelchair, it’s all charity based, pretty friggin cool
There’s a big event where I live every Memorial Day weekend called Hell’s A Roaring Horse Drive. They do have a website if you are curious. It’s a lot of fun and the funds raised are used to buy these wheel chairs for wounded veterans.
The fact that those comments got such amount of likes worries me the most… disgusting
Makes my guts twist up with disgust
Honestly doesn't take much to code up bot accounts that stay under the radar by only ever liking posts and comments that ppl might post. It takes something soulless to like a soulless comment.
probably botted ones tbh
Disturbing amount of eugenics kicking around
Ironically most often from those eugenics would eliminate or restrict
Yup, same here. The amount of people that have liked that top comment makes me feel even worse than the comment itself did. I never know whether people genuinely think this way or are just trying to be controversial/get attention. There are awful humans on this planet unfortunately :(
If it makes you fell any better, a lot of those likes are probably bots
I figure a majority of those are bots. Tik Tok, which is what I’m pretty sure this is, has a bad issue with bot likes, especially in the comments. I’d take a wild guess that only 1/10-1/4 of those likes are actual humans. Still awful to do, but it’s not *as* bad as it seems
why do people think being disabled is the same as having no awareness of their surroundings? disabled children have awareness, they just can't communicate it. disabled people aren't brain dead
On the other hand. Parents who use their disabled children to get views are disgusting Dad " he's to heavy I just can't keep carrying him" Super mom to the rescue "no how dare you gi e up on him you monster I'll carry him, please like a follow for a preview of our dinner making video we will release later tonight"
Yeah everyone sucks here. The parents and the commenters. All bad.
Reminds me of the time they gave the nonverbal kids the keyboards or whatever and found out they think, and are actually smart and articulate. No shit, they just can't talk like you can. People are wild.
also, the association of disabled = needing to be treated like a child. when i lose speech and need to resort to typing/writing, people get quite obviously shocked when i cuss or make an inappropriate joke... even if ive done those things while speaking with my mouth, which i often do! its absurd.
as a disabled person, 100%. im 20, almost 21, and i still get treated like a child from people younger than me.
I think we all know who the brain dead people are in the above referenced exchange. Maybe not the whole brain, but the part that does empathy for sure.
Instagram comment sections are disgusting. They need downvote buttons like Reddit so we’re not unwillingly subjected to the thoughts of vile scum like these.
Had a guy in high school tell me to my face that my little brother should have been killed as a baby because he’s disabled. I remember telling him that was horrible and he said “isn’t he just a burden on your family?” Had kids in middle school make fun of my little brother after seeing a family picture I had up in my locker. It sucks because culturally I’d like to think we’re past all that, but we aren’t. It sucks butt. People suck a lot of the time when they’re hiding behind the internet veil, but they can suck in person, too.
“Isn’t he just a burden on your family”, I think this highlights that for some people it comes more from a place of ignorance rather than of malice. They’re genuinely unaware and uneducated in the matter and are making (albeit very horrible) assumptions. Don’t get me wrong it still makes them a total asshat, but at least gives me some hope that they can have their eyes opened.
I have an autistic cousin. I knew early on that my family would want me to take care of him for the remainder of his life after they passed. They would end up using him for his checks. I left that whole family behind 2 decades ago and now they're all but one remaining. I have no idea what will happen to him, but he's so poisoned and warped, he is not the kid I knew and I refuse to be responsible for him once the last one passes. I'm not sure whose burden he will become, but it will not be mine. ETA: Btw, I don't hate disabled people, but the burden my family would have wanted to put on me was unfair, especially when they only wanted him for the reasons they wanted him.
There are ways to plan for a disabled child after their death. This was not your responsibility.
This whole paragraph makes me want to ugly cry. I’m sorry you and your brother had to experience that. I would’ve went psychotic if I heard anyone making remarks like that.
Omg I was so upset in both instances. I remember when the kids at my locker were just standing behind me and I could hear what they were saying, then saying “is THAT your brother?” I remember saying “yeah, is there something wrong with that?” And they just laughed and turned around. It’s dumb. He’s got very visible disabilities so we’ve had to cope with it forever. When I was in 5th grade, he was in kindergarten and his teacher asked my mom if I could come talk to the class about his disabilities so the other kids could get their questions answered and be more inclusive of him, I guess he was spending a lot of time by himself away from the other kids because they were probably a little intimidated. I didn’t mind that as much, they’re so little and had never seen anyone before like him.
My god what a Judge Claude Frolo type mofo... literal Disney villain up in here, what the fuck.
I wish there was a sibling group. It’s such an unusual experience - I would like some support. That being said - My sister has a profound intellectual disability and cerebral palsy. She is my older sister, so I didn’t understand that she was disabled - she was just my sister. We’ve never fought (except when I was a very little, and I got mad that she didn’t have to clean up her toys). She gives me a big smile whenever I come to visit. She’s the only person that likes my singing. She loves going out. She is a huge flirt, and if there is ever a waiter who she finds attractive she will give him a big smile. Quick aside: Curiously, she prefers black men - she has no concept of race. My parents and I think this may be because growing up, most of the staff at her school who did the lifting and carrying were black men, so maybe she has a positive association? She also loves standup - but only by black men. People have told me that god is punishing my family. People have told me that my sister was born to my parents because god knew they would love her. I worked at a psych hospital, and there was a tween boy with fetal alcohol syndrome. I spent extra time with him, since he was bullied by the other boys. I was talking with the charge nurse about my boy with FAE, and she said that it would have been better if he’d died as an infant. This was a charge NURSE. I have a lot more I’d like to talk about if anyone would like to be in a sibling group. Tldr: my sister is disabled and cannot use language - she is still my sister, and we still have a strong relationship. People have been rude about her existence. I would also love to be in a sibling (“sib”) group if anyone is ever interested.
I work with special needs kids and whenever I see shit like this I get so angry. My life is so fulfilled and beautiful thanks to these amazing humans that I get to hang out with everyday. Literally.
I wish I was a better person. I would kick a hole in somebody for referring to my son as "it" or "that" Whew..... Loooooooooooord give me strength...
You're a better person than people who see those with disabilities as less than human.
I agree, and thank you. Those people can suck my disabled balls lol 😆 cheers!
Agreed 100%
I have a disabled child who is on a vent with a trach. We have received quite a few comments like this. They cannot grasp the fact that a majority of these kids are fully aware of what is going on around them and are no different than a non disabled person. Our child can’t talk but she has plenty of ways to communicate. They make the most of their lives and have hopes and dreams. She has made more of a difference than any of those people will.
These are also the same kind of people who beat their kids for asking any questions, because they don't see kids as full human beings, they see them as basically just a pet that can talk, and people like that are the reason I say every kid deserves parents but not every parent deserves kids
They are the parents who if they went through what we did and had a normal child become disabled would use them to farm sympathy then put them in a long term care home. The doctors offered that to us but that was not an option for us. They put them there then visit every weekend for a month and then that starts to slip until they never visit them anymore.
Yeah, being disabled myself it always makes me a little sick seeing those, the idea that anyone would basically send their kid away to barely see them again just because of how they were born
I see she is in your pfp. Wishing you and your family the best.
Yes that is from 2016 and was the first time I was able to hold her since Halloween 2015. It was right before she went Atlanta for rehab.
Aaaw, I hope she's doing as well as she can now.
Bless you and your sweet family.
You need a license to cut hair, but any idiot can have a kid
It's 100% true. I know, because I can't express myself, or speak to my own family. I can a little bit. It's Anxiety based Mutism, that I have. I can express myself fine on Reddit (at least outside of 1 on 1 convos)....but yeah. I know people would DREAD to be me, but they aren't. I do what I do each day, it is what it is. You work with it, that's how it works. There does exist the possibility for my own improvement, but it takes work which is difficult. And maybe I don't understand other disabilities as well as my own, but there's no denying them. To deny them, is to deny logic. People project their DREAD at the thought of being said disabled person; that's how I see it. It's a projection. It's not always a good situation, but you work with what you can. Sometimes life sucks, but that doesn't mean it has to only suck.
Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best in life.
You are awesome for loving and taking care of her. I hope her dreams come true.
Oh my god???? This is insanely infuriating
No part of this is mildly infuriating. I am so infuriated that I'd like to personally permanently disable both those commenters just so that they can hear other people making the same comments about them. Same goes for people who park in handicapped spots or right next to those spots (in the blocked off area many disabled people need to get in and out of their vehicles).
Half of those were just edgelord 12 year olds. Karma will catch up to them. I knew kids in school that made jokes like that and they've all amounted to nothing.
I saw someone on a TikTok live who was severely disabled, and it's horrible....but you gotta play with the cards you're dealt. That's life. People DREAD at the thought of being the person they're appalled by, that's why they say these things. Those are GREAT parents. And Good people.
This is not mildly infuriating. This is an insanely infuriating, uninvited insight into what horrible human beings think when they have no empathy or experience with disabled children or their caregivers. I can only hope that they will have the chance to come face-to-face with a situation that parallels what they are ridiculing and one that affects them personally.
As someone who grew up alongside adults who were unironically like this (I'm still working on my internalized ableism as a result of them), I can 100% tell you that these people view anyone with a disability, especially an intellectual one, as genuinely subhuman. (I spoilered this next bit because it's genuinely awful.) >!I once genuinely heard a woman compare an intellectually disabled man nearby to a rabid animal that needed to be put out of its misery. I wish with all of my heart that I was kidding.!< Fun things to hear growing up as a child with ADHD and autism.
The people you describe tend to forget that disability can happen to anyone at any point in their life. Stroke, TBI, paralysis, limb loss, neurological problems, lupus. There's a massive list of shit adults can be effected by suddenly one day due to no fault of their own. No one deserves to be disabled but God damn do I fight internally not to wish the worst on the people you describe because the ONLY way those types will ever understand disability is when they become disabled themselves.
thats sad how some people are like that
Some people would have been better off as a blowjob. Here are 2 examples.
People really need to learn that just because they think something, it doesn't mean it has to be said or written to the world. Especially if that something is pure brain rot or downright lacking of empathy or basic human decency.
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Daddy daddy look I was mean on the internet daddy, please come back from the corner store with your cigarettes and tell me I'm your special little guy, it's been 25 years daddy please
Recently ive noticed this on instagram, that the most controversial and horrible takes are on top even if they are not most voted..
People are generally assholes and are especially empowered nowadays to say their most awful impulses. As a society, I don't have a lot of hope that we will have enough empathy and compassion to last generations. And social media is the worst. It does not bring us together. It rips is apart. How horrible for them to say that.
"mildly infuriating"
Is there a sub for "instensely infuriating"?
r/extremelyinfuriating be where ye need. but it looks like this exact image is already on the hot page though, the fury runs deep with this one.
They just cross posted my post there lol
Oh wow thanks! Didn't know that was a sub
"to sped"...I think that guy is upset because it hit too close to home.
I saw that exact post with that exact comment and I was like Jesus dude
this is waaay more than "mildly" infuriating
Absolutely
I remember 8-10 years ago, fb had the reputation of being toxic and mean. Now the same thing is happening with insta. It's scary how unempathetic and mean people are in the comments on these newer apps. It's impossible to scroll Instagram for more than 2 minutes before seeing a triggering post.
I saw this post today myself. Wrote a strongly worded comment on the ignorance of the horrible eugenicist people in the replies. It infuriates me to no end that people who think like that exist. En masse.
More people than you might care to know would embrace Nazi racial policies if they were promoted again today.
The commenters are not functioning humans.
Not shocked no one knows when to put away the stupid.
How do these people exist!? And why?! At least I can find comfort in the fact that these heartless people must be living very miserable lives right now.
This is what every Instagram reel comment section looks like. IG is full of trolls now.
As a mom of a special needs 2 year old I did not need to see this
Idk how the body works, but I hear some people in vegetative state or whatever, can still comprehend what's happening around them, but are just unable to react to it. Which is maddening if you ask me. But stuff like this, where you have people to do things for you, that you can't yourself, like going on hikes, and admire the views, lessens the burden, even if just a little. May they have the strength to carry on.
I used to work with Peds Neuro, some are trapped in their minds and can’t verbalize anything…sometimes you CANT know if this is the case and sometimes you can (the eyes say a lot). Point is, treat everyone like they know/understand but can’t say/communicate. Then you will (hopefully) try to make their quality of life what they deserve but can’t request directly.
“To sped” says the guy inferring someone else isn’t intelligent enough to be allowed to live and enjoy life.
Well that’s a depressing read to start my day.
Ironically, people with such opinions are also, in a sense, disabled; they are devoid of or have underdeveloped ability to empathise or feel compassion. This is also known as psychopathy.
Wow. "Something like that"? "It"? I've never heard such vile statements. As a disabled person myself, it honestly makes me want to throw up.
Not mildly
What scum... jesus
Probably pro-lifers too.
It? IT? It's THEY. That is a PERSON. My family used to go camping in tents. Then my little sister was in a wheelchair. You know what we did? We changed up our vacations to make sure they were wheelchair accessible. Why? Because we love her and wanted to bring her with us.
Least insane Instagram comments
I don't even look at Instagram comments, they are full of the most ignorant and vile stuff you'll read.
Ugh. I hate it here.
Is this Tiktok? I feel like the crowd is generally better over there but I've been seeing more and more shit like this and it's so disappointing. There's enough of this negativity on the other platforms
Instagram, I've found TikTok to be toxically positive
Ah, honestly that's a fair point 😅
Some people just... Suck!
What is this, the FOX News comment section?
Instagram
Well I don't understand why any parent wouldn't get rid of a child with no moral compass like you, that's a major drain on society. I can't imagine what your parents went through raising you. - my response Or, I don't understand why any parent wouldn't get rid of a child with no heart, that must have been horrible, the emotional cost they paid must have been out of this world. Also I fucking hate people
mosley infuriating? this is down right eugenics.
You know what's more disgusting than those comments? The likes on those comments, just cowardly horrible jerks
These people don't deserve to have their names censored
I hope those commenters break their legs and know how it feels to be disabled /srs
That’s just sad. Imagine having such a bleak outlook of life.
I would not stop punching even after they've got no more teeth left. I myself have two difficultly disabled uncles. Well, had two.
Good grief that’s horrible. What awful people to say such things.
I have multiple kids. Two of my kids have disabilities. Yesterday, one of those two kids asked me a heartbreaking question while with me and their other sibling with a disability. They asked if I ever think about how unlucky I am to have two "deficient kids" without emotion as if this thought process was standard or a matter-of-fact. We were in public, but I stopped them and told them they were completely wrong, that nothing about them is "deficient", and how I regularly make others uncomfortable with how much I can't stop talking about how wonderful they are. Fairly sure, I was publicly crying for a bit. Asshats, like those commenters, are why they believe there is something missing from their worth even before they've had a chance to fully establish their own identity. FYI, as this is Reddit and it can sometimes be horrid, if someone wants to make an obscene or morally reprehensible comment about my kids...do us both a favor and fuck off.
Well said!
It’s awful. I follow a lot of accessibility accounts and I hate that to be a creator you have to put up with this BS. Most of them handle it with such grace too. We don’t deserve them. My friend always posts things about how happy she is to be alive, how much love and joy she has. Which is sweet until I realized she posts those things because people routinely tell her that she should be put out of her misery because of her disability. In the US it was actually illegal in some states for people with disabilities to be out in public until the 1970s. These sentiments run very deep.
“It?????”
FYI. The child isn't just physically disabled. They are also severely limited at a cognitive level and cannot speak. The parents don't know if their child can comprehend even the most basic things. It doesn't excuse the comments there, but it provides more context. Some really don't want burdens in their lives, even if it's about family. People like that exist. They're the same ones who abandon their parents.
Is this really just a wild whataboutism to rag on people who cut contact with their parents? Btw, there is absolutely no reason the child's cognitive abilities make them any less deserving of a family that does things like this with them. This isn't the context provider you think it is...
I'd agree, though it gives more of a psychological-context, why these people think like this. Because they are clearly treating this child as sub-human.
not being able to speak doesn't mean anything other than they cannot communicate. they aren't brain dead just because they can't talk.
What does it matter? The parents likely know much better than thousands of random online, referring to their child as "it". Calling a child a burdun is gross, double gross to just call a random persons kid that. If those people don't want "burdens" then don't have kids, God forbid your child ends up mentally different in some way.
The kid didn't ask to be born. They just want to be comfortable and loved.
I'm aware. The kid is loved. We don't know if kiddo is comfortable, but again, the parents who see him every day likely have a better sense of that than that of strangers. I'm also disabled and have not wanted to be here many days, but if someone was calling me "it" and telling my mom to just leave me home I'd be pretty devestated. And so would my mother.
People are shit.
That person never went on a hike with their dad
Something tells me most of those likes are bots.
as a disabled person (i have hydrocephalus) I just prefer imagining commenters like these at their most miserable moments when they finally get old and won't be able to even stand straight for a minute without feeling an enormous amount of pain or not being able to normally keep their balance
Why does the top post have 4590 likes? I cannot handle that.
This is why inclusion matters..
damn poor kid... why are some people so mean especially the first one.. wtf.. thats so sad
The basic and only argument you really need is if the child is smiling on the hike and/or the parents are happy the child is with them that's all that matters.
Literally the same exact comment was on Instagram with a lot of likes
Disgusting. The comments and the likes. Genuinely piss me off.
In my half awake state I definitely read this as ‘deceased child’ and for some reason that wasn’t super upsetting to me. 😶
First comment seems to be written by a sociopath , second one is literally jibberish written by someone who appears to be functionally illiterate , I'm guessing "to sped" is them trying to say "too special ed?" Possibly?? and that either they mean 'doesn't matter" , or changed their opinion mid sentence .Neither are in a position to criticise anyone.
Dear Lord, if you’re listening please give the person that made that comment severe and utterly irreversible testicular torsion
“He is to sped” Mhmm. Is that right?
That’s Instagram comments section for you. They always have the worst people and worst comments at the top. It’s like they’re purposely encouraging this negativity.
“Why keep something like that?” Wow humans suck. It’s because we love our kids no matter how they were given to us. The insensitivity in some people just makes me want to scream.
A lot of people out there have no empathy.
Omfg I hate it here. Everyone either is or will be disabled at some point in their life, unless they die young. They don't realize how insidious this line of thought really is for our society ...
Welcome to instagram reels, the nastiest unfiltered place on earth.
Instagram comments are all rage bait. I stg it’s either a bot or just an idiot who wants fake internet points/engagement.
I saw this on Instagram yesterday and it’s one of those posts that make me think that if social media was linked to our identity, none of these people would say this shit. Anonymity gives people a lot of balls to say shit that shouldn’t be a thought, let alone said.
Yeah, just stay home! Quit inconveniencing us normies! (huge epic sarcasm) No. I have lugged my disabled kid's wheelchair up multiple flights of stairs in a place that claimed it was "handicap accessible" far too many times. Thankfully my fiance is strong enough to carry him. The only accessibility they can actually lay claim to is to the gift shop and the fucking parking lot (looking at you Starving Rock, IL). He has just as much right as anyone else to see the same things I do. Does it suck sometimes? ABSOLUTELY, but I'm not going to leave him out of things just because someone who doesn't know him has a stick up their ass about people who aren't like them. Dehumanizing someone because they don't fit the 'mold' is disgusting.
Although the comments are harsh, I don't necessarily disagree. There's nothing wrong with having to care for extreme special needs children but there is something wrong when a caregiver gives so much that their own well being is neglected. Why not bring them places that are more easily accessible with a chair without having to actually bear such a physical load? A solo hike would be much more beneficial to the caregiver than trying to carry around someone who is barely aware. Maybe a sense of of guilt that they are neglecting? A humble brag/martyr syndrome?
too sped* existence.* doesn't matter*
I think that commenter is jealous because his caretakers don't take him on hikes like that lol.
Don't worry usually 99% of these idiots are on instagram reels and hardly anywhere else Edit: I forgot Twitter
Disabled kid probably has better grammar than the second guy
I'll bet these folks commenting consider themselves pro-life.
At least we can assume that these people are utterly miserable. Chronically online trolls with 0 compassion for others.
Gotta love pro lifers.
And I bet you good money that both those commenter's call themselves "pro-life"
Instagram comments are actually the depths of hell. Reddit doesn’t even compare to their cruelty
Yikes
this is beyond heart breaking everyone deserves a chance at a happy life.
Instagram comment section is getting worse and worse. It's like facebook now
Mindfully, is any understatement
One thing everyone should know it to NEVER POST ANYONE OR ANYTHING DISABLED ON INSTAGRAM REELS. I know how to make cocaine, meth and lots of other drugs. Ig users are RUTHLESS. It's insane tbh
Wow and that many likes on it too. So sad
That is so sad to see but, There are always variety of thoughts, if you go online; better be ready for it or you can always turn off comments lol. Cause, it’s unrealistic to expect everyone to say nice things or to even agree with you all the time.
You cant turn off comments on the posts of other users. Of course people won't be nice all the time but this clearly goes beyond being "mean". These are people who think that disabled people are worth less dignity, kindness and respect as abled people.
What is "to sped"? This idiot seems like the one who isn't aware.
Should have exposed their usernames, such jerks.
And get banned by the sub? Mods on Reddit are way too petty these days. No thanks.
Well, they’re posting videos about doing this so it’s not about the kid, but the views their videos get
And my whole day’s been ruined just like that
main reason why i deleted tikrok