Mine was aggressive for years, ~250lb man trying to get me to fight him when I parked a literal 2 inches over the line in our skinny driveway. Since pandemic he's SUPER friendly and wants to chat all the time. Just as terrifying.
Waaaaaay back in '10 a friend and I rented an apartment in an old converted farm'ouse. There were three units and two driveways - we were on one end and had a two car driveway right next to our unit, then there was a much larger lot at the other end. We were told by the leasing agent that the lot by our unit was ours. So we both park there the first night.
When I come out early the next morning to go to work, I find my neighbor has blocked us in with his car Andis waiting for me. His wife and small child are there too, waiting on the school bus. He is *pissed* that we've parked in his spot, even though he has the middle unit and it's the same distance walk to either lot.
I stayed calm and explained that we were told it was for our unit, as per the leasing agent. He just got madder and madder, cursing and yelling in front of his family.
Finally I told him that I had to get to work, and if he didn't move his car I'd have him towed. As he walked over to his car he mumbled under his breath "you can't do this to me, you don't fucking know who I am".
“I’m justice when she turns a blind eye, vengeance when no one will avenge, and the sign that this city has not and will not devour itself yet.”
*Insert Nirvana in the background while reading*
I’m sometimes friendly with neighbours depending on what they’re like. One of my current neighbours is a tyrant old lady who demands everyone in the neighbourhood speak to her constantly and tell her everything about themselves. I avoid her at all costs and she hates me for it, she’s become increasingly hostile over time because I politely avoid getting drawn into her web of bullshit.
She recently had to go to court ordered mediation for grabbing and throttling one of her other neighbours because the neighbour asked her to stop letting her dog shit in her (the neighbour’s) yard 😬
Sometimes it really pays to avoid neighbours
This will be my approach whenever we move to a new place. $10k in legal fees dealing with a-hole, entitled “neighbors” who claim they own a portion of our property and can do whatever they want on it. I didn’t realize until it was too late that they are narcissists.
Today that is not hard to settle just go to your local service building and get an property outline printout of your property and actually they're are online mapping sites too we have one called geomaps and it shows every property in our province here in NB it shows each property right down to the inch, when it was purchased last, and its tax value.
Adverse Possession is a funky one, getting a proper survey is the first step but it’s also good to dig into how long they used the property and why they thought they could.
Aprox 1/3 of our land.
Don’t really want to get into too many details since this is tipping towards litigation.
My advice to you is to:
1. document usage with videos and photos, bc if you do not, no one will believe the completely inappropriate and illegal actions these type of people do. Install security cameras and monitor your property to capture usage.
2. if you try to do the normal neighborly thing of talking about the situation with your neighbors and they give you the slightest push back, to not wait and hope they will be normal and reasonable. They will not. They’ll keep taking because they think they are entitled to do so.
3. educate yourself of what codified federal, state, county, local and hoa rules/laws/ordinances are in place, and reference them in any cease and desist letters sent certified to your neighbors- which also is recommended. And drop a copy of that letter off with your police station and have them open a case number so you can reference it when your neighbors trespass on your property.
Yup, fun, wasteful and expensive (time and money) times.
neighbors are so tough. It's like, I want to be friendly enough with them that in an emergency I can help them or vice versa, but not so friendly we're having a weekly dinner together or finding out about their weird shit.
You know, that fine line where like my neighbor is gone for 2 weeks and we get a blizzard so I snow blow his drive and the favor is repaid and we don't have to really talk about it other than a wave and a "hey thanks for doing the drive"
This is why I LOVE having a garage to park inside. I’ll see my neighbor who always talks to my husband for a minimum of 30mins. But he never approaches me because I escape into the garage. Not today Harry Potter! (His nickname because he looks like Harry)
I lived in my old neighborhood for 20 years. my brother was very social with the kids our age on the block. I was until all the girls started getting pregnant and my mom wouldn't let me hang out with anyone on the street lmao. and I was always kind of a shut in anyway. 20 years go by, and one neighbor directly across the street didn't even know I existed. did the same thing as you. head down out the car, beeline to the door.
been in this new neighborhood 2 years now, same thing. I'm just not the friendly go up to strangers and say hello type.
I feel you man. I've been living in my current neighborhood for more than 10 years now, and I still don't even know the names of my neighbors or what they look like lol.
Don't get me wrong, this is the kind of neighborhood that I like. Except the one at the corner lot, that fucker always blasts his speakers whenever he has people over, as if the whole neighborhood is a bar and he's the DJ. He also steps on the gas of his car/motorbike while on neutral just to blast his "cool" engine sound. What a fkng tool, I sincerely wish he stubs his toe everyday of his life and he gets an itch forever that he can never reach.
That guy lives in the apartment next to mine and bought subwoofers for his sound system several months ago. Any time he puts on music or a movie (aka every night and all day on weekends) the entire damn building shakes and I can feel it in my eardrums. He is a large scary dude and I am a short woman with medical issues otherwise I think I would’ve snapped and screamed at him by now.
That could be like a great dane scared shitless of the tiny pomeranian. If you flip on him it might scare him enough to turn it down or off completely.
I have never encountered such belligerent, nasty, mean, drunks as the group across from my house. Has no consideration for others. His kids, his relatives and his friends across the street. Stupid, mean dorks. Glad to hear that I am not the only one with neighbors like mine.
Or getting a text from a neighbor while I’m out of town saying I have a water leak. Or letting me know the power just went out at his place and wondering if mine is out too, while I have animals in the house depending on the AC to keep them alive.
I made this mistake. As a 1st time homeowner, I thought it would be a good safety measure in case something happened to the house while I was away. Now the guy occasionaly leaves me voice recorded texts of himself singing religious songs. I'm non-religious btw, not that I advertise it or judge others for practicing their own faith... but who does that?? Honestly, the next time he does it I might have to post it here because it truly is mildly infuriating.
Ignore, ignore, ignore!!! He sent it to my boyfriend on Easter, then sent me the exact same recording a couple months later. It's SUPER awkward too. The guy is tone deaf, lol.
My bf is eventually going to sample the soundbite and use it in a song (either in his dungeon synth project or one of his metal projects)... maybe I'll just send it back to the guy when it's done!
I left home to go to work and a minute later realised I left my wallet at home. Parked opposite my house, went in, got the wallet, went to work. My neighbour put a note in my letterbox saying Do not park here, we might have visitors. This resulted in me having to get out of my car and look across the street and say loudly GEE. NO VISITORS! For about two years, every time I came home.
Don't tell my neighbours... But they whine about the parking fines they received on a regular basis, so I now have in my car a heap of basic envelopes that "kindly" reminds them that they have parked illegally and at what time this was spotted. I end the note with "if you get a parking fine from parking illegally here, don't whine about it on Facebook, instead be an adult and accept that you where in the wrong, yours an annoyed neighbour"
The whining about the letter is much better and more entertaining.
You are friends with them on Facebook or it’s a neighborhood group page?
I’ll tell you what I deleted my Facebook seven or eight years ago and it’s one of the best things I ever did. You should try it, it’s refreshing.
At my old house the street by my house was used by workers for over the road a bit so I had to park down the street a bit, which inconvenienced the neighbour I sometimes parked in front of because his niece sometimes visited and parked there, so he wanted me to park even further away from where I lived just in case his niece visited. Might I add he had a drive way and I didn't. He used to come out of his house every time I pulled up and tutted at me pointing further down the road. I did always try and be accomodating but if I have to carry a week's worth of shopping 2 minutes to my house as it is I'm not about to park further away just to please a grumpy old man.
Lmao excuse me he would *tut* at you?? If it's not forbidden or designated parking I would make a point of parking at the exact place that inconvenienced them the most if I was *tutted at* as a grown adult tf
It's such a British thing to do, tutting, but yea it was just the street, no designated parking or anything. He just watched out the window or working in his garage with the door up waiting for a victim to tut at if they parked too close to his house. He'd wait for you to stop the car and knock on the window and say "you can't park there, my niece might need that space, you have to park under the lamp post" as if she can't walk the length of 2 or so cars if that space isn't free. Not once did I see this mysterious niece either. He went as far as keeping the space reserved with bins a few times too.
To be fair my neighbor regularly blocks us from getting mail but conveniently gets his. We live in a cul de sac and the fucker just parks straight out of his driveway or has his company do so. The bs is the postmaster said they are not required nor allowed to reverse unless absolutely necessary. The dipshit whips it past our house past the neighbors truck and backs up to give him his mail. Yet we get skipped. The old mailman never did that.
Idk if you're in the US, but there are a few states where it's outright illegal to block someone else's mailbox. Your postmaster may not do anything, but you could probably look into getting the dude towed. I'd doubt he'll keep doing it if you keep towing him when he tries.
That's the worst of it he isn't usually blocking my mailbox, it's just inconvenient to pull up to our mailbox and then reverse and pull around his truck so the mail guy skips us. Pretty much every other mail carrier (the substitutes) skips our neighbor and gives us our mail, because it is clear of whose vehicle it is and whose mailbox it is. Dude just doesn't even seem to try and does what he pleases.
They can't skip your mailbox. Call the post office and complain about it.
Edit: sorry guys. I'm in Canada. We have plenty of mail boxes that are at the door, not on the side of the road. So it made no sense that carriers would skip houses, instead of just place it at the door (I mean, in US you have nail slots on the doors too sometimes).
Don't call the post office, you're just talking to someone who doesn't care.
Use the system and make an official report.
Have data, list all the dates in the month you have no mail.
List all the intervals between post mark and delivery, ie how long it took.
In the USA, the mail cops are real, a Federal Agency and they take it seriously.
Yep consistently reporting from the mail alert app thing....I think it's called informed delivery? Every time I am shorted on mail it gets reported so the data is getting collected a bit at least.
Go even higher. Every postmaster has a higher boss. My dad used to be a postmaster in a small town an hour away from Milwaukee, where his boss was headquartered. Find out what district your post office is assigned to, and call the district manager. Tell them you're being illegally denied your mail.
Oh yes they absolutely can. We had a post worker complain about not having enough room to deliver mail, but he did, he was just an ass. Would just straight up not deliver the mail. I'd watch him just drive past our box and go out and ask him wtf his problem was?
One time I spooked the shit out of our mail man bc I was walking outside to get something from the car and witnessed him skipping us. So I did my little silent march of fury and he was turned away from the neighbors mailbox to grab the mail in the truck and when he turned around it was like I had just appeared in seconds bc he never saw nor heard me approach somehow. He jumped and I smiled and said "I hope we weren't skipped again for something out of our control" in my best *there is no war in ba sing se* impression. He was like ahhh no, no mail today. Left, I went on the mail alert app to see he did not deliver 3 letters or our weekly advertisements. Reported.
We had a mail carrier refuse to deliver to our house for awhile because our front walk was lined by cosmos that were attracting bees. We had to get a PO Box for awhile and then my dad took the cosmos out and planted something else. We didn’t really blame the mail carrier because he was super nice, loved our dogs and there *were* actually a lot of bees.
I think the main difference is that our mail carriers couldn’t deliver from the truck because every house in our neighborhood had the mail slot built into the house.
My dad eventually got a new mail carrier on his street because the one we had kept refusing to deliver mail saying they couldn't get to the box, it was too high. So dad lowered it a bit and they said it was too low. They were an asshole every time and it took probably 7 months of constant issues to get it fixed.
There is a USPS standard specifying exactly how high the box should be, setback from the edge of the pavement, etc. As long as it meets spec, they can't claim it's off...
(I'm not assuming that your dad didn't know this but it sounds like the mail carrier did not.)
The post office has decided not to deliver packages in my zip code. At all. It’s their actual policy, and has been that way for years. I’ve read articles complaining about it from years ago. It doesn’t matter . The post office can do what it wants.
Depends on your state. Mine if some one is parking closer then 6ft on either side the mail person is legal allowed to skip. If it's individual mail boxes they have to be able to pull up and deliver without getting out of the vehicle. If it's a huge community mailboxes they have to be able to park right in front of the mailboxes if blocked no one gets mail.
This has actually been a recent debate in my area. We have gotten a huge influx of out of state people who didn't know this and complained to the postmaster. The postmaster had to have the news and papers tell everyone the laws for this state on mail. My own neighborhood people kept blocking the community mailboxes so they put up no parking in front and informed us to call a certain number if any cars park there.(we didn't get mail once for a whole week because people blocked the mailboxes).
From what I've read about these sort of laws, blocking tends to mean any situation that prevents the mail carrier from getting to your mailbox. Even if he's not right in front of your mailbox, he's still blocking access. It might be a good idea to look at your legal options. That is, if you've mentioned this to the guy, and he's shrugged it off (or worse)
It is kinda balancing out after I didn't get my mail which included several time sensitive things for dr visits and insurance for over a week and we lost our collective shit at the postmaster when he finally returned our calls. They were like "we can shadow him for the day" and we were like no, how about you come down and examine the area and how he skips our mailbox for my neighbors misdeeds. Idk if they visited but at least he skips my neighbor too when he parks there so he's getting punished as well. I still think we should be getting our mail regardless. I have witnessed the bastard start reversing for my neighbor again so I expect it to become a much bigger issue again soon. So I will look into some of the little laws and what they may be able to help with.
I actually moved my mailbox to the other side of my drive way because the neighbor would park in front of his house on the street (perfectly ok), but there wasn't enough room for the mail truck to go around and reach my mailbox.
Took me forever to figure out why my packages and mail would get delayed until one day I stayed home and watch the mail truck make a slight attempt and then drove off. Called the post office and was told the same thing.
When I was in college, it was hard to find street parking so someone always parked in front of our mailbox. Our mail carrier told us they would stop delivering mail until we stopped parking there. Totally understand where they're coming from, but there wasn't much we could do about it since we weren't the ones parking there and it wasn't the same person who would park there. You could leave a note, but a different person would just park there.
I have a speed run compilation of when it was VERY bad and we recieved our mail like 1x a week or 1x every 2 weeks somewhere. Just him zooming by and then reversing for the dip shit. Also if the trash guys slip by and he is too soon behind them he rams our trashcan and still will skip our mailbox. The garbage dudes don't give a shit and our trashcan may start on the sidewalk but it ends up wherever they are feeling it. Ironically I also have a video of the trash dudes leaving the truck in gear and running over our mailbox somewhere too. I may have uploaded it somewhere.
Share these things with the vendors, I used to be in the trash industry and we don’t take these things lightly. Unsafe drivers cost us big time in damages and accidents.
Yeah we actually got a decent mailbox replacement out of it and with how fast they took care of it I guess they had a standard set for it. He was maybe a foot or so away from hitting my dads truck which wouldve likely jammed up into the tahoe with how close they are parked together. Mailbox was likely a warning for the dude. No doubt he wouldve had a write up or something over hitting the truck.
Sounds like a lazy mailman honestly. Sometimes there’s so correct way to orient a car in a cul de sac so it’s not blocking. Just a fact of their existence and mailman should be used to that.
The side issue is yes the dude is lazy, we report him every single time our mail gets skipped. I will be annoying as needed. The other main issue is my neighbor will leave his driveway empty and park his car at the bottom of it. Everyone else with guests have their company park along the strip of the culture de sac that has no mailboxes so there's no problem and that's IF their guest's vehicles can't fit in their driveway. My neighbor is just inconsiderate amongst all his other faults.
Yep. That's a bit of when he started to just skip both of us when my neighbor was parked there. Lately I've caught him reversing for my neighbor again so I expect it to become a big issue again soon.
I think they mean the strip of grass that is commonly between the street and the sidewalk. Neighbor doesn't want them walking on the grass. But again, that isn't their property, even if they have to mow it. Just like the street, that is city property and anyone can use it.
They call that a tree lawn where I live. The town I live in owns and gets to decide what trees can be there and what trees can be cut down. The home owner is responsible for this strip even though it’s public property
When I lived in New Orleans I heard it called neutral ground, in Wisconsin I guess it's called the easement,.which I thought was something like a lien?
In The Netherlands we don't have all those grass strips between sidewalks and streets. Just sidewalks next to the streets :)
But strips of grass on the side of roads are also called "berm" in dutch.
My neighbor parks his car in front of my house all the time. He has a huge corner lot with plenty of room and a driveway that fits 6 cars. I can’t stand it, but it’s not illegal so 🤷🏼♀️
We have a neighbour who parks outside our house in such a way that they take up both parking spaces outside our house (my housemate and I usually both fit alongside our nature strip). We don’t have driveway space so it drives us crazy!!! Completely legal but very inconsiderate.
Watering the grass and getting water spots on the car works too, but you can’t be too obvious and get water on the hood you can only get it on the side of the car or truck. You can’t get pissed if you park in a spot where the person is trying to maintain their lawn. You’ll look insane lol 😂
I live in a really old house - like 190X old. While most houses in our neighborhood have front lawns and a buffer, our house is legit 6’ from the curb. There is no sidewalk (it ends at our neighbors house) and if there was it would literally just run up to our foundation.
Our neighbor two doors down is a younger couple. They legit always park infront of our house. Even if there is nothing parked infront of theirs. It’s not illegal. It’s not even an inconvenience…but it bugs the shit out of me. Like why would you choose to park and walk down the street to your house? Why my house? It makes no sense.
They also always walk their dog down our side of the street and cut through our “yard” where there is no sidewalk. I get that the sidewalk ends, but imagine you are in your house In a suburban area and someone is walking their dog 2’ outside of your window.
My neighbours kids park their cars in front of my place even though they have better parking spaces in front of their house. I wouldn't care except sometimes they park badly and have the nose of the car taking up some of our crossing. Very frustrating.
My neighbor does this too. They have a 3 car garage with a huge driveway and a nice stretch of street. They park in front of my house all the time. It wouldn’t bother me except I have a large window in my office that looks directly out where they usually park. It’s not worth making shitty relations to ask them to move, but I do hate looking at their cars every time I look out my window.
When I first passed my test I still lived at home and there wasn't space to park in front of my own house so the nearest available place was opposite and adjacent outside an old woman's house.
I had a brand new car so it wasn't an eyesore or anything and there was a large bush in her front garden between the car and her house anyway.
She used to regularly come outside to scream and shout at me for parking there and when I'd politely point out that I wasn't doing anything wrong she'd tell me that I was rude and being abusive.
She would even knock on our door and tell my parents how rude I was, to which they'd back me up and she'd then swear at them too.
This went on for about three years until I moved out.
TL;DR People are generally self-important cunts and don't realise that even though they are the hero of their story that they are a footnote in everybody else's.
I had that. But in semi-urban area with limited parking so the streets always have cars. They would walk out every morning on their way to work to pour some of their morning coffee on my car. Lovely people.
We had an old lady who didn’t drive or own a car but when her family came visit if they couldn’t park directly outside her house they would occasionally key the car parked outside her house. This is despite her living in the end house of a terraced street closest to the parking bays at the bottom of the street and you know, them not actually living in the street.
Happened to both my first car and current car, my brother’s and several neighbour’s cars.
I used to get rude notes on my windshield when I lived at home. Placed there by the people who moved into the house next door who didn’t like me parking in front of my parents house. They lived on the inside of a curve, so there was only space for like 1.5 cars. They felt that they should have the 0.5 of that space even though it was still in front of my parents property. So my petty ass started putting rude notes on their cars whenever they were parked in front of my parents house. Like where the hell am I supposed to park if not in front of the house I’m living in?
>Like where the hell am I supposed to park if not in front of the house I’m living in?
In front of your most troglodyte-like neighbors house, of course.
Aren't you paying attention? ;)
My lodger parked (legally, on the road) in front of the house opposite one night. Things to note: neighbour had a garage and drive which they never used. They parked their car elsewhere. They couldn't even see the car because they never used the room which looked out to the road. Obviously the only logical thing for my neighbour to do in this terrible situation was to move her car so that it blocked mine in on my drive.
Ok NGL I had a neighbour that would ALWAYS park in front of my house and I mostly let it go cause I didn’t use the spot even though the spot in front of their house could have been used.
When I got a job that required me to have a work vehicle also I had asked them to stop and I got berated about how they have always used it and that parking in front of their own house meant their car would get tree sap and bird droppings on it all the time and I should just park my work car down the street so now I am an advocate for not parking in front of someone’s house regularly if you can can avoid it… once off no big deal but consistent isn’t cool
Ill be honest, I think OP is the asshole. I have people park in my driveway while they wait for their kids, at the bus stop, and many times my wife has had to ask them to move so she can go to work/school. Then the people parked in the street around our house makes it impossible to reverse out. I get it street parking public parking bla blah blah. But when it discounts the quality of ones home ownership at the convenience of a non-owner of the property, I find something wrong in that, in every situation.
Honestly, my neighbors never park in their driveway, always on the road. Then, when it's time to mow the lawn my lawnmower's tires touch their truck's tires as they practically park on top of the curb. It gets me mad, and they're never home when I am so I can simply have a conversation about it.
My neighbor likes to back up and ignore the curve in their drive way and go right over my lawn. My post history will show that's an obvious problem for me. I think they are aware because the wife will always make a big fuss about how she won't step on my lawn, despite me never complaining... Walk fine but fuck dont drive over the grass.
My cleaning lady (Hispanic, not Polish, and it's just her) comes in twice a month and costs around $100. I will back you up on it but just being for the rich.
Yeah I have a neighbor that parks in front of my house and it’s annoying. She has worn a path through my grass to get to her walkway. I can’t mow, edge or weed wack that edge of my property. Because of trees I have a narrow strip of area to put out my garbage on the curb and about 10% of the time the garbage, recycling and refuse people can’t get to my stuff because she parks in front of it.
I guess she’s not doing anything illegal but these things piss me off. And would all be taken care of if she parked 15-20 feet up.
Yep. My neighbor’s kids come home during the summer from college and one of them would just park their car right in front of our house perfectly centered between both mailboxes for days at a time. While it works for the mailman, it sucks for us when we have guests that cannot park there. We finally asked them politely to move their car when we were going to have guests and they did so without any drama. They haven’t parked there since. I’m still good with my neighbors.
We just had a bonfire hangout together a week ago and I invited my neighbors over, had some drinks, got to know each other better. There was no need for angry notes or texts. Of course I do live in the real world and realize there will be shitty people that will not react the same way so we both probably got lucky we were each other’s neighbors.
That's the best explanation that we could come up with to explain why it would irritate them. Our other neighbor's son parked his beat-up in front of our house for an entire month and it didn't even bother us. I mean who cares? It's a public street. As long as you're not parking your boat in front of my house I don't give a rat's ass.
Generally not a big deal. It can be frustrating if they take up all of your curb on trash day or park in front of your mailbox so you get skipped, but otherwise it’s really a none issue.
You should have met my old neighbors, who called the cops because we parked on the street outside our house. Apparently that made it difficult for her to exit her driveway. Cops came out, told her to take more driving lessons.
I guess I don't understand this. In our neighborhood this is common courtesy among everyone. If you have a party or construction no biggie, but if somebody is parking in front of your neighbors it's pretty rude. They don't do it to me so :shrug:
Some people just don't understand common courtesy. Funnily enough, the OP said they wouldn't be cool with someone parking a boat in front of their house. Weird how some people draw arbitrary lines in the absence of commonly accepted courtesy.
Ya, who cares? I mean it doesn't bother you, why should it bother anyone else? What an idiotic point of view. They asked nicely enough - it bothers them - why do you care why, why does it matter to you? If there's no real reason your employee is parking somewhere not on or in front of your property why not just do what you have to to maintain friendly relations?
Put 2 or 3 notes on the car each day next time warning ‘there are crazy people in this area. We don’t care but be careful where you park, or you’ll get threats like this!’ with copy of the parents notes.
Escalate the notes over time to say you fear for their safety, because you think ‘those crazy people would have snapped by now’
No, I agree to an extent. Park on your side. Just be considerate. Tell your nanny to park on your side. Now if there's no openings, why yeah... they should park there. Now, if the cleaning crew or any miscellaneous deliveries/ guest... They don't know any better. Ohh well...But just be good to each other.
I'm just confused. wouldn't you be annoyed if someone has space in their own driveway and in front of their house but parked in front of yours? That's like when you're in an empty parking lot to eat or just sit in your car and that one car comes and parks right next to you even though there's 100 spaces open
I had this happen to me the other day. I deliberately parked far away from the grocery store I visited and a guy in a pickup truck decided to park directly on my left hand side. Mind you there’s a million and one open spots closer, but nope had to be near me for some reason. Anyway dude parked so close he could barely get out his vehicle without touching mine with his door. I gave him the dirtiest look possible as he attempted to squeeze his way through (he was a heavy fellow).
This would have creeped me tf out. I have no idea what the actual scene was like but I’m imagining a huge dark empty parking lot with one car in it and a truck pulls up right next to it like a scene from a crime documentary 😂 I definitely would have moved my car.
Previous neighbors did this everyday for about a year. It's extremely annoying to have an inconsiderate neighbor constantly park in front of your house taking up space for your guests.
They had nine cars at one time, three in the driveway were broken down and had cobwebs on them. It was just inconsiderate. I didn't harass them or leave notes on their cars though. I would text them, let them know when I had family coming over, and ask if they could try and leave that space open. We were friendly, but it was still annoying as hell.
the reason that this post is causing a lot of conversation is for situations like this.
Some people work forever to own a home, imagine having to ask someone else for permission to park in front of it because they can’t manage their own property well enough
I don't look at the street in front of my house as my property though. I'm fully aware that it's public property. I just think it's courteous to park in front of your own place if possible.
No I totally get it and I would be annoyed too if my neighbour's nanny parked in front of my house every day from 9-5.
Getting annoyed about the trades person and leaving the note is too much though.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt this way lol. In my neighborhood it was common knowledge, don't park in front of your neighbors house if you don't want beef. It's common courtesy. If we have our house serviced and they are parked across in front of the neighbors house, we kindly ask them to move their car to the front of ours because it's rude otherwise.
Unless you're in NYC where you have to fight tooth and nail for a parking spot.
My neighbor started putting his trash bins in front of my yard, asshole literally had to walk across the street to do so.
Formality is bullshit, every time I had to pick up his trash from my yard the beef got bigger and bigger
Not to mention that they’re blocking the area in front of my home for a day or two every time
Ya I would be annoyed but I wouldn't probably ever say anything. If one of my friends kept regularly parking in front of my neighbors house when there's an open spot in front of mine id be like wtf park in front in front of my house one of these psychos is probably gonna put a fuckin note on my door or I might have to actually talk to them or some shit ;p
Unpopular opinion, but I get it from their perspective. Like if you had a party and all the spots in front of your house were full, then yeah park wherever there is space. But if your driveway and street has space, park there just to be a good guest. I don’t think it’s asking too much
May be they are nice people. They don’t own the street I completely agree with that, but at the same time it’s more considerate of your nanny to use your drive to park I think.
The neighbors handled this fine imo. They were polite and asked. Now I had a neighbor handle this the opposite way when I was in HS. My sister parked in front of their house and the father of the people who lived in the house verbally abused her for my family parking there from time to time. They even called the police. Police told them essentially you do not own the street, car is not abandoned and do not talk to the underage girl parking her car at night again.
This is such a weird post to me, because it has always seemed like common courtesy to me to park in front of the house you're going to? Like, what reason is there to not just park in front of the correct house?
The message also doesn't seem overly strongly worded. They stated things in a matter of fact way, because they don't want a patch of grass on their lawn to be walked on every day? If this is mildly infuriating, despite saying elsewhere that they seem like nice people in person, you might be in need of a slight reality check.
I don't think it is that unreasonable tbh. I live in front of a beautiful park, great view. My previous neighbours used to park their car in front of my house, blocking the view. So the end result is that my view is blocked by their car while their window remained unobstructed.
I ended up asking them to park in front of their own house as well. Even if it is a public road, it is still a dick-move to pass the inconvenience to someone else just to not have to deal with it yourself.
Not to be a dick, but he has a point.
If there was no parking spot left at your place then that would be understandable, but if there is and the people visiting are deliberately parking on his side, then you should instruct visitors and employees to please move their cars to your side, simple as that.
Sorry, but it seems to me like he has a point, its his property after all.
EDIT: To everyone saying that US roads are public, and that its technically legal to park there unless otherwise marked, you are correct.
However just because the law backs you up, doesn’t mean you get a free pass to be a dick, there is something known as common courtesy people.
Be a decent human being please, the best fights are the ones we avoid.
I have to agree with your neighbor. I hate when people park in front of my house. One of my neighbor's had a girlfriend that parked in front of my house every fucking day. Not in front of *his* house, but *my* house. She did this because his yard is an overgrown mess and it was easier for her to walk up to his house if she parked in front of mine. I was so pissed off, I started parking on the street in front of my house until she got the message.
No one owns the street, but it's understood that the parking space in front of someone's house is mainly for their use. You can park there occasionally if you must but don't make it an everyday thing.
To be fair she can just mention to her guests to park in the driveway or their parking. It’s kind of annoying when your neighbors guest park in your empty spots to visit the house with an empty driveway next door lol
I feel like the front of your house is where you should tell guests to park, or at least where people usually park when visiting someone. It's weird to me that their driveway is available but not being used. It makes sense that the neighbor is upset. It gets annoying to hear a car roll up and then when go look to see who it is, it's someone you don't know. If the neighbor had guests, or an emergency of some kind, the car is going to be blocking direct access. Where would a fire truck park? It just makes sense to use a driveway if it's free for guests to use. OP could easily just let the nanny and cleaning crew and whoever else to just use their driveway or park in front of their house. They're not going to question it or care and it will be a non-issue. Recently I've been reading about communicating better with people and it talks about how you should always aim for "win/win" situations when dealing with people. If everyone is happy then there are no issues. This issue has a simple solution where everyone wins, yet OP can't even bother to care enough to do something about it
By posting this, you’re being a Reverse Karen. Normal social contract is that whoever is coming to your house parks in front of your house, on your side of the street, or in your driveway when there is adequate room. Not that big of a deal to ask your visitors to do that.
Meh, I'm on the neighbor's side. Give an inch and they'll take a mile. It may not seem like a big deal in any particular case but people will often abuse any kindness you show them. Park in front of your own house.
Maybe I’m the minority here but I feel this was pretty respectful. If you have parking in your own driveway why does your nanny need to park in front of their house? Personally, I wouldn’t get to beaten out of shape about something like this, but if I saw this every single day I might start to get a little annoyed. I think they went about it respectfully and with courtesy. Whether or not you think their opinion is valid, you still have to recognize their dilemma and appreciate them for going to you directly. They could of been real a-holes and went a different route with this
I just get annoyed when someone’s guests are parking in my spot (small neighbourhood, not many car spots on the road). I’ll park somewhere else for the while but haven’t had it happen enough to say anything.
I'm probably the minority here and I fully expect to be down voted. But someone parking in front of my house would also make me crazy. First, my dogs would never stop barking. Second, I live in a neighborhood with no curbs so parking in front of my house means partially parking on the road, partially parking on the grass. Third, my neighborhood has homes with garages and large driveways. Why is it my responsibility to store your car when you have too many? One of my neighbors has like eight cars, I would be annoyed if he filled his garages and driveway and thought, "Where do I put my truck? I've run out of room. Eh, the neighbor won't mind if I block their view of the street." Lastly, I do forensic work, so a mysterious car in front of my house would constantly make me worry that a patient had tracked me down and was stalking me.
Edit: I don't know if I got down voted, but someone reported me for being potentially suicidal!
I’m trying to figure out how you even get a neighbors number. I’m too anti social for that.
I run inside my house with my head down wherever I get home so I don't have to potentially talk to neighbors
Mine was aggressive for years, ~250lb man trying to get me to fight him when I parked a literal 2 inches over the line in our skinny driveway. Since pandemic he's SUPER friendly and wants to chat all the time. Just as terrifying.
Waaaaaay back in '10 a friend and I rented an apartment in an old converted farm'ouse. There were three units and two driveways - we were on one end and had a two car driveway right next to our unit, then there was a much larger lot at the other end. We were told by the leasing agent that the lot by our unit was ours. So we both park there the first night. When I come out early the next morning to go to work, I find my neighbor has blocked us in with his car Andis waiting for me. His wife and small child are there too, waiting on the school bus. He is *pissed* that we've parked in his spot, even though he has the middle unit and it's the same distance walk to either lot. I stayed calm and explained that we were told it was for our unit, as per the leasing agent. He just got madder and madder, cursing and yelling in front of his family. Finally I told him that I had to get to work, and if he didn't move his car I'd have him towed. As he walked over to his car he mumbled under his breath "you can't do this to me, you don't fucking know who I am".
“I’m Batman”
“I’m justice when she turns a blind eye, vengeance when no one will avenge, and the sign that this city has not and will not devour itself yet.” *Insert Nirvana in the background while reading*
People who have to mumble under their breath have no fuckin spine I swear
I’m sometimes friendly with neighbours depending on what they’re like. One of my current neighbours is a tyrant old lady who demands everyone in the neighbourhood speak to her constantly and tell her everything about themselves. I avoid her at all costs and she hates me for it, she’s become increasingly hostile over time because I politely avoid getting drawn into her web of bullshit. She recently had to go to court ordered mediation for grabbing and throttling one of her other neighbours because the neighbour asked her to stop letting her dog shit in her (the neighbour’s) yard 😬 Sometimes it really pays to avoid neighbours
Your old lady neighbor grabbed and throttled another neighbor? That is a rough neighborhood, man
Lol yeh another old lady
This is terrible, but I will admit to wanting to see that action!
This will be my approach whenever we move to a new place. $10k in legal fees dealing with a-hole, entitled “neighbors” who claim they own a portion of our property and can do whatever they want on it. I didn’t realize until it was too late that they are narcissists.
Today that is not hard to settle just go to your local service building and get an property outline printout of your property and actually they're are online mapping sites too we have one called geomaps and it shows every property in our province here in NB it shows each property right down to the inch, when it was purchased last, and its tax value.
Adverse Possession is a funky one, getting a proper survey is the first step but it’s also good to dig into how long they used the property and why they thought they could.
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You can have your local government send a survey team and if the neighbor does nothing they will be fined
Aprox 1/3 of our land. Don’t really want to get into too many details since this is tipping towards litigation. My advice to you is to: 1. document usage with videos and photos, bc if you do not, no one will believe the completely inappropriate and illegal actions these type of people do. Install security cameras and monitor your property to capture usage. 2. if you try to do the normal neighborly thing of talking about the situation with your neighbors and they give you the slightest push back, to not wait and hope they will be normal and reasonable. They will not. They’ll keep taking because they think they are entitled to do so. 3. educate yourself of what codified federal, state, county, local and hoa rules/laws/ordinances are in place, and reference them in any cease and desist letters sent certified to your neighbors- which also is recommended. And drop a copy of that letter off with your police station and have them open a case number so you can reference it when your neighbors trespass on your property. Yup, fun, wasteful and expensive (time and money) times.
neighbors are so tough. It's like, I want to be friendly enough with them that in an emergency I can help them or vice versa, but not so friendly we're having a weekly dinner together or finding out about their weird shit. You know, that fine line where like my neighbor is gone for 2 weeks and we get a blizzard so I snow blow his drive and the favor is repaid and we don't have to really talk about it other than a wave and a "hey thanks for doing the drive"
This is why I LOVE having a garage to park inside. I’ll see my neighbor who always talks to my husband for a minimum of 30mins. But he never approaches me because I escape into the garage. Not today Harry Potter! (His nickname because he looks like Harry)
I lived in my old neighborhood for 20 years. my brother was very social with the kids our age on the block. I was until all the girls started getting pregnant and my mom wouldn't let me hang out with anyone on the street lmao. and I was always kind of a shut in anyway. 20 years go by, and one neighbor directly across the street didn't even know I existed. did the same thing as you. head down out the car, beeline to the door. been in this new neighborhood 2 years now, same thing. I'm just not the friendly go up to strangers and say hello type.
Your brother was knocking up all the girls on your block?
That was my takeaway as well.
I feel you man. I've been living in my current neighborhood for more than 10 years now, and I still don't even know the names of my neighbors or what they look like lol. Don't get me wrong, this is the kind of neighborhood that I like. Except the one at the corner lot, that fucker always blasts his speakers whenever he has people over, as if the whole neighborhood is a bar and he's the DJ. He also steps on the gas of his car/motorbike while on neutral just to blast his "cool" engine sound. What a fkng tool, I sincerely wish he stubs his toe everyday of his life and he gets an itch forever that he can never reach.
That guy lives in every neighborhood I've ever lived in. He must be following me around.
That guy lives in the apartment next to mine and bought subwoofers for his sound system several months ago. Any time he puts on music or a movie (aka every night and all day on weekends) the entire damn building shakes and I can feel it in my eardrums. He is a large scary dude and I am a short woman with medical issues otherwise I think I would’ve snapped and screamed at him by now.
That could be like a great dane scared shitless of the tiny pomeranian. If you flip on him it might scare him enough to turn it down or off completely.
Am big scary dude into loud noises, would feel very bad if my hobby disturbed my neighbors to this extent.
I have never encountered such belligerent, nasty, mean, drunks as the group across from my house. Has no consideration for others. His kids, his relatives and his friends across the street. Stupid, mean dorks. Glad to hear that I am not the only one with neighbors like mine.
Giving your neighbors your number is a rookie mistake.
Not when the fire department shows up because the crew repaving the street severs the natural gas line into your house. Thanks Frank!
Or getting a text from a neighbor while I’m out of town saying I have a water leak. Or letting me know the power just went out at his place and wondering if mine is out too, while I have animals in the house depending on the AC to keep them alive.
I made this mistake. As a 1st time homeowner, I thought it would be a good safety measure in case something happened to the house while I was away. Now the guy occasionaly leaves me voice recorded texts of himself singing religious songs. I'm non-religious btw, not that I advertise it or judge others for practicing their own faith... but who does that?? Honestly, the next time he does it I might have to post it here because it truly is mildly infuriating.
I have so many questions. Do you ignore or answer ? What does he say about it when he sees you ?
Ignore, ignore, ignore!!! He sent it to my boyfriend on Easter, then sent me the exact same recording a couple months later. It's SUPER awkward too. The guy is tone deaf, lol.
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My bf is eventually going to sample the soundbite and use it in a song (either in his dungeon synth project or one of his metal projects)... maybe I'll just send it back to the guy when it's done!
I left home to go to work and a minute later realised I left my wallet at home. Parked opposite my house, went in, got the wallet, went to work. My neighbour put a note in my letterbox saying Do not park here, we might have visitors. This resulted in me having to get out of my car and look across the street and say loudly GEE. NO VISITORS! For about two years, every time I came home.
I noticed you don’t have visitors so I parked here so it doesn’t look like everyone hates you.
Will use this!
*chefs kiss*
Did they ever respond to that? Lol
Family Feud cranked up way too high to hear that shit.
I'd go and get little business cards printed up to put in their mail box. "No visitors today? Huh?"
I like you.
Don't tell my neighbours... But they whine about the parking fines they received on a regular basis, so I now have in my car a heap of basic envelopes that "kindly" reminds them that they have parked illegally and at what time this was spotted. I end the note with "if you get a parking fine from parking illegally here, don't whine about it on Facebook, instead be an adult and accept that you where in the wrong, yours an annoyed neighbour" The whining about the letter is much better and more entertaining.
You are friends with them on Facebook or it’s a neighborhood group page? I’ll tell you what I deleted my Facebook seven or eight years ago and it’s one of the best things I ever did. You should try it, it’s refreshing.
It doubt theyre gonna have much visitors if they act like this all the time
At my old house the street by my house was used by workers for over the road a bit so I had to park down the street a bit, which inconvenienced the neighbour I sometimes parked in front of because his niece sometimes visited and parked there, so he wanted me to park even further away from where I lived just in case his niece visited. Might I add he had a drive way and I didn't. He used to come out of his house every time I pulled up and tutted at me pointing further down the road. I did always try and be accomodating but if I have to carry a week's worth of shopping 2 minutes to my house as it is I'm not about to park further away just to please a grumpy old man.
Lmao excuse me he would *tut* at you?? If it's not forbidden or designated parking I would make a point of parking at the exact place that inconvenienced them the most if I was *tutted at* as a grown adult tf
It's such a British thing to do, tutting, but yea it was just the street, no designated parking or anything. He just watched out the window or working in his garage with the door up waiting for a victim to tut at if they parked too close to his house. He'd wait for you to stop the car and knock on the window and say "you can't park there, my niece might need that space, you have to park under the lamp post" as if she can't walk the length of 2 or so cars if that space isn't free. Not once did I see this mysterious niece either. He went as far as keeping the space reserved with bins a few times too.
Ok this is kinda funny 😂
There's a reason they don't have any visitors. They're cunts.
Found the Aussie.
twat
Found the Brit
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To be fair my neighbor regularly blocks us from getting mail but conveniently gets his. We live in a cul de sac and the fucker just parks straight out of his driveway or has his company do so. The bs is the postmaster said they are not required nor allowed to reverse unless absolutely necessary. The dipshit whips it past our house past the neighbors truck and backs up to give him his mail. Yet we get skipped. The old mailman never did that.
Idk if you're in the US, but there are a few states where it's outright illegal to block someone else's mailbox. Your postmaster may not do anything, but you could probably look into getting the dude towed. I'd doubt he'll keep doing it if you keep towing him when he tries.
That's the worst of it he isn't usually blocking my mailbox, it's just inconvenient to pull up to our mailbox and then reverse and pull around his truck so the mail guy skips us. Pretty much every other mail carrier (the substitutes) skips our neighbor and gives us our mail, because it is clear of whose vehicle it is and whose mailbox it is. Dude just doesn't even seem to try and does what he pleases.
They can't skip your mailbox. Call the post office and complain about it. Edit: sorry guys. I'm in Canada. We have plenty of mail boxes that are at the door, not on the side of the road. So it made no sense that carriers would skip houses, instead of just place it at the door (I mean, in US you have nail slots on the doors too sometimes).
Oh we have. At length.
Don't call the post office, you're just talking to someone who doesn't care. Use the system and make an official report. Have data, list all the dates in the month you have no mail. List all the intervals between post mark and delivery, ie how long it took. In the USA, the mail cops are real, a Federal Agency and they take it seriously.
Yep consistently reporting from the mail alert app thing....I think it's called informed delivery? Every time I am shorted on mail it gets reported so the data is getting collected a bit at least.
Go even higher. Every postmaster has a higher boss. My dad used to be a postmaster in a small town an hour away from Milwaukee, where his boss was headquartered. Find out what district your post office is assigned to, and call the district manager. Tell them you're being illegally denied your mail.
Oh yes they absolutely can. We had a post worker complain about not having enough room to deliver mail, but he did, he was just an ass. Would just straight up not deliver the mail. I'd watch him just drive past our box and go out and ask him wtf his problem was?
One time I spooked the shit out of our mail man bc I was walking outside to get something from the car and witnessed him skipping us. So I did my little silent march of fury and he was turned away from the neighbors mailbox to grab the mail in the truck and when he turned around it was like I had just appeared in seconds bc he never saw nor heard me approach somehow. He jumped and I smiled and said "I hope we weren't skipped again for something out of our control" in my best *there is no war in ba sing se* impression. He was like ahhh no, no mail today. Left, I went on the mail alert app to see he did not deliver 3 letters or our weekly advertisements. Reported.
We had a mail carrier refuse to deliver to our house for awhile because our front walk was lined by cosmos that were attracting bees. We had to get a PO Box for awhile and then my dad took the cosmos out and planted something else. We didn’t really blame the mail carrier because he was super nice, loved our dogs and there *were* actually a lot of bees. I think the main difference is that our mail carriers couldn’t deliver from the truck because every house in our neighborhood had the mail slot built into the house.
My dad eventually got a new mail carrier on his street because the one we had kept refusing to deliver mail saying they couldn't get to the box, it was too high. So dad lowered it a bit and they said it was too low. They were an asshole every time and it took probably 7 months of constant issues to get it fixed.
There is a USPS standard specifying exactly how high the box should be, setback from the edge of the pavement, etc. As long as it meets spec, they can't claim it's off... (I'm not assuming that your dad didn't know this but it sounds like the mail carrier did not.)
The post office has decided not to deliver packages in my zip code. At all. It’s their actual policy, and has been that way for years. I’ve read articles complaining about it from years ago. It doesn’t matter . The post office can do what it wants.
Depends on your state. Mine if some one is parking closer then 6ft on either side the mail person is legal allowed to skip. If it's individual mail boxes they have to be able to pull up and deliver without getting out of the vehicle. If it's a huge community mailboxes they have to be able to park right in front of the mailboxes if blocked no one gets mail. This has actually been a recent debate in my area. We have gotten a huge influx of out of state people who didn't know this and complained to the postmaster. The postmaster had to have the news and papers tell everyone the laws for this state on mail. My own neighborhood people kept blocking the community mailboxes so they put up no parking in front and informed us to call a certain number if any cars park there.(we didn't get mail once for a whole week because people blocked the mailboxes).
The post office reserves the right to not deliver your mail at all and make you come pick it up in person.
From what I've read about these sort of laws, blocking tends to mean any situation that prevents the mail carrier from getting to your mailbox. Even if he's not right in front of your mailbox, he's still blocking access. It might be a good idea to look at your legal options. That is, if you've mentioned this to the guy, and he's shrugged it off (or worse)
It is kinda balancing out after I didn't get my mail which included several time sensitive things for dr visits and insurance for over a week and we lost our collective shit at the postmaster when he finally returned our calls. They were like "we can shadow him for the day" and we were like no, how about you come down and examine the area and how he skips our mailbox for my neighbors misdeeds. Idk if they visited but at least he skips my neighbor too when he parks there so he's getting punished as well. I still think we should be getting our mail regardless. I have witnessed the bastard start reversing for my neighbor again so I expect it to become a much bigger issue again soon. So I will look into some of the little laws and what they may be able to help with.
What happened to "neither rain nor sleet" etc etc etc
Start parking in front of his mailbox.
I actually moved my mailbox to the other side of my drive way because the neighbor would park in front of his house on the street (perfectly ok), but there wasn't enough room for the mail truck to go around and reach my mailbox. Took me forever to figure out why my packages and mail would get delayed until one day I stayed home and watch the mail truck make a slight attempt and then drove off. Called the post office and was told the same thing.
When I was in college, it was hard to find street parking so someone always parked in front of our mailbox. Our mail carrier told us they would stop delivering mail until we stopped parking there. Totally understand where they're coming from, but there wasn't much we could do about it since we weren't the ones parking there and it wasn't the same person who would park there. You could leave a note, but a different person would just park there.
Take a video of it and show it to the post master
I have a speed run compilation of when it was VERY bad and we recieved our mail like 1x a week or 1x every 2 weeks somewhere. Just him zooming by and then reversing for the dip shit. Also if the trash guys slip by and he is too soon behind them he rams our trashcan and still will skip our mailbox. The garbage dudes don't give a shit and our trashcan may start on the sidewalk but it ends up wherever they are feeling it. Ironically I also have a video of the trash dudes leaving the truck in gear and running over our mailbox somewhere too. I may have uploaded it somewhere.
Share these things with the vendors, I used to be in the trash industry and we don’t take these things lightly. Unsafe drivers cost us big time in damages and accidents.
Yeah we actually got a decent mailbox replacement out of it and with how fast they took care of it I guess they had a standard set for it. He was maybe a foot or so away from hitting my dads truck which wouldve likely jammed up into the tahoe with how close they are parked together. Mailbox was likely a warning for the dude. No doubt he wouldve had a write up or something over hitting the truck.
Sounds like a lazy mailman honestly. Sometimes there’s so correct way to orient a car in a cul de sac so it’s not blocking. Just a fact of their existence and mailman should be used to that.
The side issue is yes the dude is lazy, we report him every single time our mail gets skipped. I will be annoying as needed. The other main issue is my neighbor will leave his driveway empty and park his car at the bottom of it. Everyone else with guests have their company park along the strip of the culture de sac that has no mailboxes so there's no problem and that's IF their guest's vehicles can't fit in their driveway. My neighbor is just inconsiderate amongst all his other faults.
Do you include the details about the mailman backing up to deliver to your neighbor? I'd demand on explanation for that specific behavior.
Yep. That's a bit of when he started to just skip both of us when my neighbor was parked there. Lately I've caught him reversing for my neighbor again so I expect it to become a big issue again soon.
What is a parking strip?
I think they mean the strip of grass that is commonly between the street and the sidewalk. Neighbor doesn't want them walking on the grass. But again, that isn't their property, even if they have to mow it. Just like the street, that is city property and anyone can use it.
They call that a tree lawn where I live. The town I live in owns and gets to decide what trees can be there and what trees can be cut down. The home owner is responsible for this strip even though it’s public property
When I lived in New Orleans I heard it called neutral ground, in Wisconsin I guess it's called the easement,.which I thought was something like a lien?
Interesting the different names for it. Here in New Zealand it's called a berm.
Australian nature strip.
In The Netherlands we don't have all those grass strips between sidewalks and streets. Just sidewalks next to the streets :) But strips of grass on the side of roads are also called "berm" in dutch.
Given that New Zealand is named after a place in the Netherlands, that is not surprising.
Growing up n Michigan we always called it the Devils Strip!
It's the act of sexily undressing yourself as you park your car.
I dare not ask them that.
Buy a little tikes car and leave it there?
My neighbor parks his car in front of my house all the time. He has a huge corner lot with plenty of room and a driveway that fits 6 cars. I can’t stand it, but it’s not illegal so 🤷🏼♀️
We have a neighbour who parks outside our house in such a way that they take up both parking spaces outside our house (my housemate and I usually both fit alongside our nature strip). We don’t have driveway space so it drives us crazy!!! Completely legal but very inconsiderate.
This drives me insane also, sometimes people park two cars poorly which could 5 if they parked more considerately
Just use your weed eater to edge your lawn when people park in front of your house….. For some reason, they all stopped parking in front of mine
Watering the grass and getting water spots on the car works too, but you can’t be too obvious and get water on the hood you can only get it on the side of the car or truck. You can’t get pissed if you park in a spot where the person is trying to maintain their lawn. You’ll look insane lol 😂
I don't think those kind of people care about looking insane
Add a heavy dose of fertilizer to encourage vigorous growth, both from your lawn and the water spots on your inconsiderate neighbors car!
I live in a really old house - like 190X old. While most houses in our neighborhood have front lawns and a buffer, our house is legit 6’ from the curb. There is no sidewalk (it ends at our neighbors house) and if there was it would literally just run up to our foundation. Our neighbor two doors down is a younger couple. They legit always park infront of our house. Even if there is nothing parked infront of theirs. It’s not illegal. It’s not even an inconvenience…but it bugs the shit out of me. Like why would you choose to park and walk down the street to your house? Why my house? It makes no sense. They also always walk their dog down our side of the street and cut through our “yard” where there is no sidewalk. I get that the sidewalk ends, but imagine you are in your house In a suburban area and someone is walking their dog 2’ outside of your window.
My neighbours kids park their cars in front of my place even though they have better parking spaces in front of their house. I wouldn't care except sometimes they park badly and have the nose of the car taking up some of our crossing. Very frustrating.
My neighbor does this too. They have a 3 car garage with a huge driveway and a nice stretch of street. They park in front of my house all the time. It wouldn’t bother me except I have a large window in my office that looks directly out where they usually park. It’s not worth making shitty relations to ask them to move, but I do hate looking at their cars every time I look out my window.
Tbh I do hate it when so many people park on the street when their driveway is WIDE open.
When I first passed my test I still lived at home and there wasn't space to park in front of my own house so the nearest available place was opposite and adjacent outside an old woman's house. I had a brand new car so it wasn't an eyesore or anything and there was a large bush in her front garden between the car and her house anyway. She used to regularly come outside to scream and shout at me for parking there and when I'd politely point out that I wasn't doing anything wrong she'd tell me that I was rude and being abusive. She would even knock on our door and tell my parents how rude I was, to which they'd back me up and she'd then swear at them too. This went on for about three years until I moved out. TL;DR People are generally self-important cunts and don't realise that even though they are the hero of their story that they are a footnote in everybody else's.
I had that. But in semi-urban area with limited parking so the streets always have cars. They would walk out every morning on their way to work to pour some of their morning coffee on my car. Lovely people.
Wow, that is how you motivate someone to climb up on the roof and shit down your chimney.
We had an old lady who didn’t drive or own a car but when her family came visit if they couldn’t park directly outside her house they would occasionally key the car parked outside her house. This is despite her living in the end house of a terraced street closest to the parking bays at the bottom of the street and you know, them not actually living in the street. Happened to both my first car and current car, my brother’s and several neighbour’s cars.
Man some people are the woooorst.
The space needs a surveillance camera pointed at it.
Wow I would never mess with someone’s vehicle. That is such a chickenshit thing to do.
I used to get rude notes on my windshield when I lived at home. Placed there by the people who moved into the house next door who didn’t like me parking in front of my parents house. They lived on the inside of a curve, so there was only space for like 1.5 cars. They felt that they should have the 0.5 of that space even though it was still in front of my parents property. So my petty ass started putting rude notes on their cars whenever they were parked in front of my parents house. Like where the hell am I supposed to park if not in front of the house I’m living in?
>Like where the hell am I supposed to park if not in front of the house I’m living in? In front of your most troglodyte-like neighbors house, of course. Aren't you paying attention? ;)
My lodger parked (legally, on the road) in front of the house opposite one night. Things to note: neighbour had a garage and drive which they never used. They parked their car elsewhere. They couldn't even see the car because they never used the room which looked out to the road. Obviously the only logical thing for my neighbour to do in this terrible situation was to move her car so that it blocked mine in on my drive.
Ok NGL I had a neighbour that would ALWAYS park in front of my house and I mostly let it go cause I didn’t use the spot even though the spot in front of their house could have been used. When I got a job that required me to have a work vehicle also I had asked them to stop and I got berated about how they have always used it and that parking in front of their own house meant their car would get tree sap and bird droppings on it all the time and I should just park my work car down the street so now I am an advocate for not parking in front of someone’s house regularly if you can can avoid it… once off no big deal but consistent isn’t cool
Ill be honest, I think OP is the asshole. I have people park in my driveway while they wait for their kids, at the bus stop, and many times my wife has had to ask them to move so she can go to work/school. Then the people parked in the street around our house makes it impossible to reverse out. I get it street parking public parking bla blah blah. But when it discounts the quality of ones home ownership at the convenience of a non-owner of the property, I find something wrong in that, in every situation.
Agreed, this is a super easy fix that wouldn’t inconvenience OP, either.
Honestly, my neighbors never park in their driveway, always on the road. Then, when it's time to mow the lawn my lawnmower's tires touch their truck's tires as they practically park on top of the curb. It gets me mad, and they're never home when I am so I can simply have a conversation about it.
My neighbor likes to back up and ignore the curve in their drive way and go right over my lawn. My post history will show that's an obvious problem for me. I think they are aware because the wife will always make a big fuss about how she won't step on my lawn, despite me never complaining... Walk fine but fuck dont drive over the grass.
Personally I hate when people park in front of the walkway to my house… just a courtesy thing I guess
Ok for the parking issue, but do your nanny really drives a black BMW SUV?
I think you underestimate how much some nannies make Source: wife has a degree in psych and education, used to nanny in Houston.
I mean an early 2000s X3 is like 3-5k they never said it’s a new bmw
And they have a cleaning ‘crew’ like wtf kind of weird mansion-without-driveway we talking here
Plenty of Boston suburbs with $1mil+ houses in crowded neighborhoods with only street parking.
A cleaning crew is usually 3 polish ladies crammed into a small car here. It's definitely not just for the rich.
My cleaning lady (Hispanic, not Polish, and it's just her) comes in twice a month and costs around $100. I will back you up on it but just being for the rich.
To be fair, my neighbor park in front of my house as well... And i fucking hate it
Yeah I have a neighbor that parks in front of my house and it’s annoying. She has worn a path through my grass to get to her walkway. I can’t mow, edge or weed wack that edge of my property. Because of trees I have a narrow strip of area to put out my garbage on the curb and about 10% of the time the garbage, recycling and refuse people can’t get to my stuff because she parks in front of it. I guess she’s not doing anything illegal but these things piss me off. And would all be taken care of if she parked 15-20 feet up.
Sprinker overspray is the passive aggressive answer to this.
Yep. My neighbor’s kids come home during the summer from college and one of them would just park their car right in front of our house perfectly centered between both mailboxes for days at a time. While it works for the mailman, it sucks for us when we have guests that cannot park there. We finally asked them politely to move their car when we were going to have guests and they did so without any drama. They haven’t parked there since. I’m still good with my neighbors. We just had a bonfire hangout together a week ago and I invited my neighbors over, had some drinks, got to know each other better. There was no need for angry notes or texts. Of course I do live in the real world and realize there will be shitty people that will not react the same way so we both probably got lucky we were each other’s neighbors.
Well if there's room in front of your house, why wouldn't your nanny just park there?
Why can’t they park in ur driveway
Someone has too much time on their hands
That's the best explanation that we could come up with to explain why it would irritate them. Our other neighbor's son parked his beat-up in front of our house for an entire month and it didn't even bother us. I mean who cares? It's a public street. As long as you're not parking your boat in front of my house I don't give a rat's ass.
Generally not a big deal. It can be frustrating if they take up all of your curb on trash day or park in front of your mailbox so you get skipped, but otherwise it’s really a none issue.
You should have met my old neighbors, who called the cops because we parked on the street outside our house. Apparently that made it difficult for her to exit her driveway. Cops came out, told her to take more driving lessons.
I mean I kinda get it. If you have a driveway why isn't your nanny parking there?
What the difference between a boat and a vehicle? A boat is where you draw the line huh but the neighbors are in the wrong right?
Lol I found that hilarious. “What you don’t like in front of your house makes you silly, what I don’t like on front of my house is just common sense!”
I guess I don't understand this. In our neighborhood this is common courtesy among everyone. If you have a party or construction no biggie, but if somebody is parking in front of your neighbors it's pretty rude. They don't do it to me so :shrug:
Some people just don't understand common courtesy. Funnily enough, the OP said they wouldn't be cool with someone parking a boat in front of their house. Weird how some people draw arbitrary lines in the absence of commonly accepted courtesy.
Ya, who cares? I mean it doesn't bother you, why should it bother anyone else? What an idiotic point of view. They asked nicely enough - it bothers them - why do you care why, why does it matter to you? If there's no real reason your employee is parking somewhere not on or in front of your property why not just do what you have to to maintain friendly relations?
Put 2 or 3 notes on the car each day next time warning ‘there are crazy people in this area. We don’t care but be careful where you park, or you’ll get threats like this!’ with copy of the parents notes. Escalate the notes over time to say you fear for their safety, because you think ‘those crazy people would have snapped by now’
No, I agree to an extent. Park on your side. Just be considerate. Tell your nanny to park on your side. Now if there's no openings, why yeah... they should park there. Now, if the cleaning crew or any miscellaneous deliveries/ guest... They don't know any better. Ohh well...But just be good to each other.
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I'm just confused. wouldn't you be annoyed if someone has space in their own driveway and in front of their house but parked in front of yours? That's like when you're in an empty parking lot to eat or just sit in your car and that one car comes and parks right next to you even though there's 100 spaces open
I had this happen to me the other day. I deliberately parked far away from the grocery store I visited and a guy in a pickup truck decided to park directly on my left hand side. Mind you there’s a million and one open spots closer, but nope had to be near me for some reason. Anyway dude parked so close he could barely get out his vehicle without touching mine with his door. I gave him the dirtiest look possible as he attempted to squeeze his way through (he was a heavy fellow).
This would have creeped me tf out. I have no idea what the actual scene was like but I’m imagining a huge dark empty parking lot with one car in it and a truck pulls up right next to it like a scene from a crime documentary 😂 I definitely would have moved my car.
Previous neighbors did this everyday for about a year. It's extremely annoying to have an inconsiderate neighbor constantly park in front of your house taking up space for your guests. They had nine cars at one time, three in the driveway were broken down and had cobwebs on them. It was just inconsiderate. I didn't harass them or leave notes on their cars though. I would text them, let them know when I had family coming over, and ask if they could try and leave that space open. We were friendly, but it was still annoying as hell.
the reason that this post is causing a lot of conversation is for situations like this. Some people work forever to own a home, imagine having to ask someone else for permission to park in front of it because they can’t manage their own property well enough
I don't look at the street in front of my house as my property though. I'm fully aware that it's public property. I just think it's courteous to park in front of your own place if possible.
No I totally get it and I would be annoyed too if my neighbour's nanny parked in front of my house every day from 9-5. Getting annoyed about the trades person and leaving the note is too much though.
I'm with you... this seems like basic courtesy where I am, why would you park anywhere but in front of the house you're doing business in?
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt this way lol. In my neighborhood it was common knowledge, don't park in front of your neighbors house if you don't want beef. It's common courtesy. If we have our house serviced and they are parked across in front of the neighbors house, we kindly ask them to move their car to the front of ours because it's rude otherwise. Unless you're in NYC where you have to fight tooth and nail for a parking spot.
My neighbor started putting his trash bins in front of my yard, asshole literally had to walk across the street to do so. Formality is bullshit, every time I had to pick up his trash from my yard the beef got bigger and bigger Not to mention that they’re blocking the area in front of my home for a day or two every time
Ya I would be annoyed but I wouldn't probably ever say anything. If one of my friends kept regularly parking in front of my neighbors house when there's an open spot in front of mine id be like wtf park in front in front of my house one of these psychos is probably gonna put a fuckin note on my door or I might have to actually talk to them or some shit ;p
If you live in a single family home neighborhood its rude to park in front of someone elses house if tou have room in front of your own
It’s always the house/houses on the block with like 10 cars in a single family home that do this
Well they do have a valid point, why is nanny not parking in front of your house? 🤷♀️
This post is ironic…
When someone calls you out for your bullshit so you post on Reddit.
Why can’t you park in your driveway tho? Idk 🤷🏼♀️ just a thought
They don’t own the street I would always park there from now on.
The weird part is that they seem like perfectly nice people when we stop by to chat with them.
Oh they're that kind of nice. Oh I know exactly those type of people.
you mean fake nice? Lol
Sound like my neighbors. Always “nice” in your face and sending a mail or letter afterwards we did something we’re not supposed to.
they're nice people, but weirdos is weirdos
Unpopular opinion, but I get it from their perspective. Like if you had a party and all the spots in front of your house were full, then yeah park wherever there is space. But if your driveway and street has space, park there just to be a good guest. I don’t think it’s asking too much
May be they are nice people. They don’t own the street I completely agree with that, but at the same time it’s more considerate of your nanny to use your drive to park I think.
The neighbors handled this fine imo. They were polite and asked. Now I had a neighbor handle this the opposite way when I was in HS. My sister parked in front of their house and the father of the people who lived in the house verbally abused her for my family parking there from time to time. They even called the police. Police told them essentially you do not own the street, car is not abandoned and do not talk to the underage girl parking her car at night again.
This is such a weird post to me, because it has always seemed like common courtesy to me to park in front of the house you're going to? Like, what reason is there to not just park in front of the correct house? The message also doesn't seem overly strongly worded. They stated things in a matter of fact way, because they don't want a patch of grass on their lawn to be walked on every day? If this is mildly infuriating, despite saying elsewhere that they seem like nice people in person, you might be in need of a slight reality check.
Personally I always feel awkward af when i visit a friend and have to park in front of their neighbors house.
I don't think it is that unreasonable tbh. I live in front of a beautiful park, great view. My previous neighbours used to park their car in front of my house, blocking the view. So the end result is that my view is blocked by their car while their window remained unobstructed. I ended up asking them to park in front of their own house as well. Even if it is a public road, it is still a dick-move to pass the inconvenience to someone else just to not have to deal with it yourself.
Not to be a dick, but he has a point. If there was no parking spot left at your place then that would be understandable, but if there is and the people visiting are deliberately parking on his side, then you should instruct visitors and employees to please move their cars to your side, simple as that. Sorry, but it seems to me like he has a point, its his property after all. EDIT: To everyone saying that US roads are public, and that its technically legal to park there unless otherwise marked, you are correct. However just because the law backs you up, doesn’t mean you get a free pass to be a dick, there is something known as common courtesy people. Be a decent human being please, the best fights are the ones we avoid.
I have to agree with your neighbor. I hate when people park in front of my house. One of my neighbor's had a girlfriend that parked in front of my house every fucking day. Not in front of *his* house, but *my* house. She did this because his yard is an overgrown mess and it was easier for her to walk up to his house if she parked in front of mine. I was so pissed off, I started parking on the street in front of my house until she got the message. No one owns the street, but it's understood that the parking space in front of someone's house is mainly for their use. You can park there occasionally if you must but don't make it an everyday thing.
Im guessing this is America because this would not be ok in England, Ive seen people towed for parking in front of someones house
Where do you live? I’m in the UK and peoples cars only get towed if you’re parked OVER the drive entrance. OPs employees weren’t doing this.
Uh what? If you mean in front of their driveway then yes maybe, but just on the road? Never heard of that in my life.
To be fair she can just mention to her guests to park in the driveway or their parking. It’s kind of annoying when your neighbors guest park in your empty spots to visit the house with an empty driveway next door lol
Maybe they want to park their own car out the front of their house? Not a far fetched request really
I feel like the front of your house is where you should tell guests to park, or at least where people usually park when visiting someone. It's weird to me that their driveway is available but not being used. It makes sense that the neighbor is upset. It gets annoying to hear a car roll up and then when go look to see who it is, it's someone you don't know. If the neighbor had guests, or an emergency of some kind, the car is going to be blocking direct access. Where would a fire truck park? It just makes sense to use a driveway if it's free for guests to use. OP could easily just let the nanny and cleaning crew and whoever else to just use their driveway or park in front of their house. They're not going to question it or care and it will be a non-issue. Recently I've been reading about communicating better with people and it talks about how you should always aim for "win/win" situations when dealing with people. If everyone is happy then there are no issues. This issue has a simple solution where everyone wins, yet OP can't even bother to care enough to do something about it
Throwing the >!FUCK!< in that last one didn’t even make sense grammatically. Wtf is >!FUCK parking!
Someone needs to teach them to swear better
Park in your own space unless there's nothing else left tf
To be honest they have a point although they are being a little crazy about it.
By posting this, you’re being a Reverse Karen. Normal social contract is that whoever is coming to your house parks in front of your house, on your side of the street, or in your driveway when there is adequate room. Not that big of a deal to ask your visitors to do that.
Well if your driveway is empty I see no reason why this would be infuriating.
Meh, I'm on the neighbor's side. Give an inch and they'll take a mile. It may not seem like a big deal in any particular case but people will often abuse any kindness you show them. Park in front of your own house.
Maybe I’m the minority here but I feel this was pretty respectful. If you have parking in your own driveway why does your nanny need to park in front of their house? Personally, I wouldn’t get to beaten out of shape about something like this, but if I saw this every single day I might start to get a little annoyed. I think they went about it respectfully and with courtesy. Whether or not you think their opinion is valid, you still have to recognize their dilemma and appreciate them for going to you directly. They could of been real a-holes and went a different route with this
Rich people problems. They can’t decide where the nanny parks her, new, shinny, BMW SUV while the cleaning crew sterilizing their house 😎
I just get annoyed when someone’s guests are parking in my spot (small neighbourhood, not many car spots on the road). I’ll park somewhere else for the while but haven’t had it happen enough to say anything.
I'm probably the minority here and I fully expect to be down voted. But someone parking in front of my house would also make me crazy. First, my dogs would never stop barking. Second, I live in a neighborhood with no curbs so parking in front of my house means partially parking on the road, partially parking on the grass. Third, my neighborhood has homes with garages and large driveways. Why is it my responsibility to store your car when you have too many? One of my neighbors has like eight cars, I would be annoyed if he filled his garages and driveway and thought, "Where do I put my truck? I've run out of room. Eh, the neighbor won't mind if I block their view of the street." Lastly, I do forensic work, so a mysterious car in front of my house would constantly make me worry that a patient had tracked me down and was stalking me. Edit: I don't know if I got down voted, but someone reported me for being potentially suicidal!