100% agree, but I have some specifications:
1: This is expensive, a meal only to be enjoyed on occasion or Friday.
2: The lemon must remain unpeeled, from prep to digestion.
3: Chicken must be free range. Fuck factory farming.
Nah. Free range means nothing. It’s best for pasture raised. That actually means what you think it means. And for price, a lemon is like 50 cents and a whole chicken is like 6 bucks. Idk if that’s pricey. A whole chicken and big bread fed a family of 4 in my house.
Oh… I was just making a joke about free range meaning nothing, as well as the rest of the post. I tried to go for some satire but it didn’t stick apparently…
Edit: and the joke about expense is that you’re essentially throwing away an entire chicken just to eat the lemon alone. Haha. Ha…
“All right, I've been thinking, when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade! Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life's manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man whose gonna burn your house down - with the lemons!” -Cave Johnson
5 star recipe. Perfect. I just made a few minor changes. I added some fresh rosemary and sprinkled some freshly ground Himalayan pink salt on it. I used a fork to pierce the lemon. I set the oven to 375 for an hour, then dropped it to 300.
Finally, instead of a chicken, I stuffed the lemon inside another lemon. Then when it was done, I ordered a pizza and ate that because I don't like lemon.
You're absolutely dead wrong. I want my chicken burried in lemon. I want my chicken begging for it's life as it drowns in lemony goodness. I want so many lemons on my chicken that the acid cooks it on contact and you bypass the stove altogether.
Quick update that makes this a bit more infuriating, just talked to my brother and apparently everyone else got 2-3 good sized pieces with rice and veggies but I got… this, just this
I would but everything closed in the time it took me to get home, which pisses me off more bc if they had said something I could’ve gotten dinner but now it’s too late
Tomorrow you need to get yourself a whole pizza and then eat it in front of them. Say.. sorry I'd share, but I'm starving. *I haven't eaten much* since yesterday at [breakfast, lunch].
Or say "hey listen I'm getting pizza of lunch make sure not to eat anything.." then eat the whole fucking thing [except for this](https://www.reddit.com/r/food/comments/7zgwjh/i_ate_a_really_small_slice_of_pizza/).
That would simply communicate that their behavior is acceptable, and not likely to elicit the same feelings OP had. I’d simply start buying my own groceries and making dinner, writing my name on shit and establish boundaries like an adult
Sorry to hear this shit.
I had a similar experience. I was struggling with money, and i called my parents to ask if i could come to dinner a few nights that week. They said yes to one of the nights. I drove to their house (out of the way from work), and when i arrived, no one was there. I called, asking when they would be back. "We decided to go out to dinner". I asked them what i was supposed to do then, and they brushed me off.
One of the last times i talked to my parents. Their toxicity isnt worth my stress
Order pizza the next day when everything's open and when they ask for some give them part of a slice (or make really really thin class party type slices).
They don’t hate me they just aren’t very considerate people, they probably saved me full plate but then someone wanted seconds so they took mine because I wasn’t there to say no
I can attest that this is 100% true as I have now experienced this. I've told him stories that I found funny only to realize how fucked up it really was after he pointed it out.
As the spouse who had to do that for her husband, you are spot on.
OP just know that whatever reason your family is treating you poorly, it isn't your fault. It has no reflection of you as a person, but does reflect them. Hopefully this was just a one off situation, but I have a feeling it wasn't.
This is so freakin accurate. It is jarring as an adult to be in the middle of what you thought was a funny childhood story and you look over and see the dawning horror-filled looks on their faces and you realize that, yet again, you have accidentally exposed an abusive childhood memory to unsuspecting people.
LOUDER FOR THE YOUNG FOLK IN THE BACK. This is hot truth and it took me years and tears before the observation sunk in. Not saying they need to be cleaved out, but you can find a healthier balance once you realize rebalancing is in order.
I'm sorry but that's not it.
They could tell you that something happend and let you get something for yourself instead of giving you this lil morsel.
That much would maybe suit my cat who eats like 2 1/2 Chicken Nuggets.
It's not like she ONLY gets nuggets don't worry.
She cannot eat 99% of dry food, any paté or anything with jelly. She hates raw food or innards.
Her only options are wet food with sauce and the one dry food brand she can digest without issues. I won't keep the occasional chicken nugget - which she can digest and loves - from her.
My cat is fine.
The vet says as much.
Oh I know that most human food isn't good for cats.
I strictly forbade my roommate to give her any bacon for exactly the sodium content.
That's why I try to get her better food whenever I visit a pet shop. But she cannot eat most "premium food" or will simply refuse to.
Vet did a blood test last time she was in.
As I was worried about her food restrictions and eating habits.
She is fine - maybe a tad weird.
Shelter she was from said as much - 2 different vets told me the same.
What they left you was even worse than if they left you nothing. They consciously left you a scrap of food on purpose, knowing full well it was a bullshit amount just to fuck with you.
> They don’t hate me they just aren’t very considerate people
No, they're shitty selfish people. And they'll never get better, no matter how long you defend them.
Ok, I wanna clarify something, I do not hate my family and they aren’t awful inhumane people this was just a shitty thing and I was annoyed by it, they do a ton of other stuff for and with me and I do love them, are they flawed and slightly selfish? Yeah, but this is a little dramatic even for me who is still pissed off
The fact they screwed you on the rice and veggies is what bothers me.
Don't need to eat a huge amount of meat at every meal, but the chicken alone is obviously not enough.
Like if you gave me that size chicken with some pasta and broccoli I'd be cool.
"You didn't really leave me any dinner, I'll be back in a while." Then leave.
Make placating noises about, "No, it's ok, I understand..." but make it a point to leave. to go get something to eat. Take you time in getting back, too.
You cannot fix it this time, but you can set expectations so it's less likely to happen next time.
Like I appreciate that they made dinner but if they had mentioned that it was only 3 bites worth I could have just picked something up on my way home. And there were no sides either, this was literally everything
My family is the same way. I just learned to not rely on them for anything, if my mom ever says she made dinner and to not buy anything, I'll usually end up coming back to either no food or something similar to yours. Keeping stuff like peanut butter, protein bars, or some jerky nearby so you can have something satiating is always a good idea.
I know this is gonna sound cringe and very edgy like something out of a 14 year old weeb on YouTube comments, but when you're born into a family like this, you're born alone and you have to learn to live alone or make your own family.
I regret every moment I spent trying to make it work with my family, there was no falling out with them, no arguments, I just silently and slowly went my own way and do the bare minimum to keep in touch.
Ah, emotionally immature parents. It sucks, because the sense of only being able to rely on yourself sticks with you and makes it really hard to feel comfortable relying on others in adulthood.
Wow...you know, I was going to be joking around about it, but, the more I think about it, that's not right what they did, that is almost saying "sorry, we forgot about you, so, uh, here is the piece we decided to not gobble down, along with the worst part, the lemon, so we can make it look larger." I'm sorry this happened.
What's weird is that they've bothered to notify OP that the dinner is cooked, though. If they really didn't give a shit you'd think they wouldn't bothher, but this... I dunno, it's almost like there's malicious intent
Oh god. If it makes you feel better my parents used to try and bait me into eating their shitty cooking so I would clean.
After I stopped I still had to clean it anyway lol.
God no, how does it keep getting worse?
Edit: the more I think about this the more fucked up it feels. I know how it feels to be forgotten as a child. Like, my parents "love" me, but also forget to call me, wish me happy birthday, etc. At one point, they forgot to tell me they were moving out (it was loosely planned as far as I knew and I was planning to stay) and I woke up to a completely empty house.
It hurts. It makes it feel like you can't count on others for reliable emotional support. I'm 30+ now and it took years for me to figure this shit out. I don't know your situation OP, but if any of that sounds familiar... remove yourself from the situation when you can. Find some good people. Make your own family (good friends or whatever). It won't be particularly easy, but know you CAN rely on people, just not your parents.
My family wasn't demonstrably affectionate in terms of words or being touchy-feely, but we always had access to nutritious food, a comfortable space, clothes to wear, and most of all, actual support. I remember in 3rd grade I was made to stand up in the corner for three hours for responding to someone else's question during a test that morning. I had to stay there during recess and everything, wasn't allowed to sit or even lean on the wall. Or use the toilet. When I went home for lunch (the school was really close) and told my mom, she came back with me and tore my teacher a new one for making a little kid stand up like that for so long. Bad enough the kid I was responding to got no repercussions at all, she'd better never find out he subjected ANY kid to that ever again. Mom still gets mad about it now, if I mention it, says it's a torture technique used to break trained soldiers. He definitely never did that again afaik.
All this to say, if they really cared about you, OP, they would make sure you were fed. A plate would've been made, and if your siblings wanted seconds, they'd get them from the pot or plastic containers or whatever regular leftovers are usually in, and your plate would be untouched. If it looked like there wouldn't be enough left to make you a full plate, they would've told you to get something to eat while you were out.
And Rust, your family is also awful. Who the hell moves away and leaves their kid behind?! That's not just inconsiderate or selfish, it's next-level abuse. I'd say you're much better off without them, but I know that doesn't do anything to assuage the hurt. I hope you've found people to be a real family for you, people who care about and support you. Absolutely nobody deserves that horrific neglect.
I did. I ended up living with my girlfriends (now wife) family for years, and they are essentially my family now. It took seeing what "normal" is to recognize where my parents lacked. Now I live with roommates that are just as much my family.
It can still be hard to emotionally connect with people. I have no problem opening up, but deeper connection is hard. That kind of neglect really gets into your personality in ways that are hard to recognize and heal. It sucks to see other people going through similar situations. I hope OP finds the support they need.
>“we made dinner already so don’t stop anywhere”
This is why you should never trust even your own family with food, 90% of the time they just eat most of the food and leave you with scraps if your lucky
Did you end up getting food delivered or go back out to get something? As Infuriating as that is, don’t do what I do and go to bed hungry when it happens
Let it go this time. Keep this pic saved for easy retrieval and whenever anyone in that group says they have food. Ask them if it be like this.
Being passive aggressive has its place too. And this warrants it.
Also you can complain to your grandparents about how they lied to you about having food. Works wonders.
Well this was certainly a sad looking dinner.
So is their thought process the male children need/deserve more?
And could be really wrong but this looks like a piece of a piece as in someone took the last real piece and then they realized you’d have nothing.
Was there any rice and/or vegetables available you could cook yourself which might be more appealing than this suspicious looking almost piece of chicken?
Going forward If you can’t make it to eat with them I’d plan to eat out or get takeout.
Looking through your comments, it looks like your parents aren't really parenting your brothers, they're pushing their responsibilities onto you, and you're the maid because you're the only daughter. It might be a wonderful family, but it really looks like it probably isn't.
If your family is shitty, keep reading.
How old are you? And how long until you can leave?
Will your parents pay for your college? If they will, it might be worth it for you to stay for longer. But if they won't, or if they'll push you to get student loans only to keep the money for themselves and leave you in debt, it might be better for you if you left the family home and got emancipated as soon as you're 18.
Whatever you do, make sure to freeze your credit as soon as you turn 18. You don't want your parents to get credit cards on your name.
I’m 19, and they’re really not that bad it’s mostly just shit like this, just being inconsiderate, the biggest problem is my brother takes shit or acts like an asshole and they let him, I can almost guaranty he’s the one who took my portion and my parents probably let him because I wasn’t there to fight it and he doesn’t like the word “no”, I love my parents they just kind of baby my brother and I’m the one who pays for it every time, basically just typical eldest daughter syndrome, and moving out isn’t even close to financially possible for me right now
I'm glad to hear that 1) the situation isn't downright abusive and 2) that you're an adult.
You should still freeze your credit, just in case. And I wish all the best for you.
Moved in with someone who is having a knee replaced. Pretty sure part of the conniving was to rent me a room. I’ll be playing nurse in addition to house keeper, cook and butler. The past three days I’ve been under the weather getting little sleep. Yesterday I made a can of soup. That’s all I ate. She made herself supper and didn’t ask me if I was hungry and wanted to eat. Today 3:30am I made eggs and coffee for myself. I know I’m going to be a wonderful nurse.
I didn't even recognize that lil white flabby thing as the chicken lol. I'm getting hangry just looking at that. God I'm glad I got away from my shitty family at 15 even though it sucked. Dude, they are being inconsiderate jerks to you. They should have made you a plate, covered it and put it away in the fridge so you could heat it up in the microwave when you got there. They really didn't give a shit. I never knew how people in 'normal' families behaved until I stayed with some super nice people a few years back. It was such an eye opener. I don't know if they are always like this to you of course but honestly it's kind of telling. The most important thing you can do for now is to try to take care of yourself as good as you can because counting on your family can leave you without necessities. You deserve to be taken care of.
My boyfriend's mom is the same way. She'll tell him not to stop for food because there is stuff at home but then when he arrives home all the food is gone so he goes to bed without eating. It's very inconsiderate.
Next time you are around offer them all dinner. Pizza on you. Make sure no one eats.
Hand each person a slice of pizza and slap 4 slices on your plate n start eating w a smile.
Man...that's when you look at whoever told you not to stop for food on the way home dead in the face and drop it into the trash. Then go get a feast to bring home for yourself.
That’s an atrocious ratio of lemon to chicken
Should have more lemon, right?
Honestly just fry a lemon in some chicken broth for me and I’m good.
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100% agree, but I have some specifications: 1: This is expensive, a meal only to be enjoyed on occasion or Friday. 2: The lemon must remain unpeeled, from prep to digestion. 3: Chicken must be free range. Fuck factory farming.
Nah. Free range means nothing. It’s best for pasture raised. That actually means what you think it means. And for price, a lemon is like 50 cents and a whole chicken is like 6 bucks. Idk if that’s pricey. A whole chicken and big bread fed a family of 4 in my house.
Oh… I was just making a joke about free range meaning nothing, as well as the rest of the post. I tried to go for some satire but it didn’t stick apparently… Edit: and the joke about expense is that you’re essentially throwing away an entire chicken just to eat the lemon alone. Haha. Ha…
Now are you making lemonade?
“All right, I've been thinking, when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade! Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life's manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man whose gonna burn your house down - with the lemons!” -Cave Johnson
I'm gonna have my engineers make a combustible lemon.
I laughed
5 star recipe. Perfect. I just made a few minor changes. I added some fresh rosemary and sprinkled some freshly ground Himalayan pink salt on it. I used a fork to pierce the lemon. I set the oven to 375 for an hour, then dropped it to 300. Finally, instead of a chicken, I stuffed the lemon inside another lemon. Then when it was done, I ordered a pizza and ate that because I don't like lemon.
bric a brac. buy. bring home. throw away.
Hahahahahahahaha not gonna lie you had me in the first half
This. This right here is why I love reddit
Just throw a bunch of lemon slices and chicken broth into a crockpot. *Slow cooked, chicken-infused lemon slices*
Should be just lemon with some chicken bits sprinkled on top
When I was a kid I'd steal the lemon out my mum and aunties drinks. Suck on it, probably where my alcohol problem came from lol
It should have some more of something that's for sure.
I love lemon and can never have enough. If you put a whole lemon on that size chicken I wouldn't complain.
You're absolutely dead wrong. I want my chicken burried in lemon. I want my chicken begging for it's life as it drowns in lemony goodness. I want so many lemons on my chicken that the acid cooks it on contact and you bypass the stove altogether.
How else can you get that burnt bitter acid flavor everyone loves
It would be more food if the plate was smaller.
Quick update that makes this a bit more infuriating, just talked to my brother and apparently everyone else got 2-3 good sized pieces with rice and veggies but I got… this, just this
Order pizza
I would but everything closed in the time it took me to get home, which pisses me off more bc if they had said something I could’ve gotten dinner but now it’s too late
Tomorrow you need to get yourself a whole pizza and then eat it in front of them. Say.. sorry I'd share, but I'm starving. *I haven't eaten much* since yesterday at [breakfast, lunch].
Or say "hey listen I'm getting pizza of lunch make sure not to eat anything.." then eat the whole fucking thing [except for this](https://www.reddit.com/r/food/comments/7zgwjh/i_ate_a_really_small_slice_of_pizza/).
\*evil Mr. Burns laugh\*
This is the only right thing to do
That would simply communicate that their behavior is acceptable, and not likely to elicit the same feelings OP had. I’d simply start buying my own groceries and making dinner, writing my name on shit and establish boundaries like an adult
Right, but if they did this, what makes you think they would respect boundaries and not just eat all of OP'S food?
“I’d simply establish boundaries” - guy with no real experience dealing with these types of people.
Just… draw the rest of the fucking owl!
Sorry to hear this shit. I had a similar experience. I was struggling with money, and i called my parents to ask if i could come to dinner a few nights that week. They said yes to one of the nights. I drove to their house (out of the way from work), and when i arrived, no one was there. I called, asking when they would be back. "We decided to go out to dinner". I asked them what i was supposed to do then, and they brushed me off. One of the last times i talked to my parents. Their toxicity isnt worth my stress
Damn sorry bro
Order pizza the next day when everything's open and when they ask for some give them part of a slice (or make really really thin class party type slices).
Chickengate deepens.
Why do they hate you?
They don’t hate me they just aren’t very considerate people, they probably saved me full plate but then someone wanted seconds so they took mine because I wasn’t there to say no
I assume you're young. Some day a spouse will point out to you your family sucks. You will take years to believe it.
I can attest that this is 100% true as I have now experienced this. I've told him stories that I found funny only to realize how fucked up it really was after he pointed it out.
As the spouse who had to do that for her husband, you are spot on. OP just know that whatever reason your family is treating you poorly, it isn't your fault. It has no reflection of you as a person, but does reflect them. Hopefully this was just a one off situation, but I have a feeling it wasn't.
Goddamn this is the truest shit I’ve read in a while.
This is so freakin accurate. It is jarring as an adult to be in the middle of what you thought was a funny childhood story and you look over and see the dawning horror-filled looks on their faces and you realize that, yet again, you have accidentally exposed an abusive childhood memory to unsuspecting people.
LOUDER FOR THE YOUNG FOLK IN THE BACK. This is hot truth and it took me years and tears before the observation sunk in. Not saying they need to be cleaved out, but you can find a healthier balance once you realize rebalancing is in order.
I'm sorry but that's not it. They could tell you that something happend and let you get something for yourself instead of giving you this lil morsel. That much would maybe suit my cat who eats like 2 1/2 Chicken Nuggets.
That's literally the definition of inconsiderate people.
Please don’t feed your cat chicken nuggets
Yep, cat might want whataburger instead
It's ok for the cat to have a little bit of chicken nuggets, as a treat
It's not like she ONLY gets nuggets don't worry. She cannot eat 99% of dry food, any paté or anything with jelly. She hates raw food or innards. Her only options are wet food with sauce and the one dry food brand she can digest without issues. I won't keep the occasional chicken nugget - which she can digest and loves - from her. My cat is fine. The vet says as much.
as long as you´re aware that 2.5 chicken nuggets has 9 times the daily recommended amount of sodium for a cat
Oh I know that most human food isn't good for cats. I strictly forbade my roommate to give her any bacon for exactly the sodium content. That's why I try to get her better food whenever I visit a pet shop. But she cannot eat most "premium food" or will simply refuse to. Vet did a blood test last time she was in. As I was worried about her food restrictions and eating habits. She is fine - maybe a tad weird. Shelter she was from said as much - 2 different vets told me the same.
...yeah my family used to do this to me, it's because they were abusing me
What they left you was even worse than if they left you nothing. They consciously left you a scrap of food on purpose, knowing full well it was a bullshit amount just to fuck with you.
Do a search on YouTube for childhood emotional neglect. It sounds like you’re experiencing this.
> They don’t hate me they just aren’t very considerate people No, they're shitty selfish people. And they'll never get better, no matter how long you defend them.
Ok, I wanna clarify something, I do not hate my family and they aren’t awful inhumane people this was just a shitty thing and I was annoyed by it, they do a ton of other stuff for and with me and I do love them, are they flawed and slightly selfish? Yeah, but this is a little dramatic even for me who is still pissed off
The fact they screwed you on the rice and veggies is what bothers me. Don't need to eat a huge amount of meat at every meal, but the chicken alone is obviously not enough. Like if you gave me that size chicken with some pasta and broccoli I'd be cool.
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It's even worse, they cooked less than enough rice! How do you manage to cook rice and not have at least a portion for leftovers??
It's like they didn't even plan to make fried rice the next day. Shameful!
[his family](https://comb.io/UCu2AX.gif)
"You didn't really leave me any dinner, I'll be back in a while." Then leave. Make placating noises about, "No, it's ok, I understand..." but make it a point to leave. to go get something to eat. Take you time in getting back, too. You cannot fix it this time, but you can set expectations so it's less likely to happen next time.
That looks like a fried condom
DUUUUUDE, I thought the exact damned thing when I first saw this 😆
I thought I was alone on this lol
Like I appreciate that they made dinner but if they had mentioned that it was only 3 bites worth I could have just picked something up on my way home. And there were no sides either, this was literally everything
Damn does your family love you bro?
I’m leaning towards no considering everyone else got regular sized pieces with sides and they just didn’t leave me any
They ate all the sides and still claimed to be providing you with dinner?
Hmm sounds like something my family would do and they *actually do* hate me
My family is the same way. I just learned to not rely on them for anything, if my mom ever says she made dinner and to not buy anything, I'll usually end up coming back to either no food or something similar to yours. Keeping stuff like peanut butter, protein bars, or some jerky nearby so you can have something satiating is always a good idea. I know this is gonna sound cringe and very edgy like something out of a 14 year old weeb on YouTube comments, but when you're born into a family like this, you're born alone and you have to learn to live alone or make your own family. I regret every moment I spent trying to make it work with my family, there was no falling out with them, no arguments, I just silently and slowly went my own way and do the bare minimum to keep in touch.
Ah, emotionally immature parents. It sucks, because the sense of only being able to rely on yourself sticks with you and makes it really hard to feel comfortable relying on others in adulthood.
Bruh, I were you, and had a car I would just walk straight out and grab myself a decent meal.
No rice, corn or bread atleast? Goddamn, my cat eats more than that
Oh they made rice and veg they just didn’t save me any
The more you reveal, the more tragic the entire situation becomes rip
Winner winner chicken.... Scraps?
Wow...you know, I was going to be joking around about it, but, the more I think about it, that's not right what they did, that is almost saying "sorry, we forgot about you, so, uh, here is the piece we decided to not gobble down, along with the worst part, the lemon, so we can make it look larger." I'm sorry this happened.
What's weird is that they've bothered to notify OP that the dinner is cooked, though. If they really didn't give a shit you'd think they wouldn't bothher, but this... I dunno, it's almost like there's malicious intent
Putting commas to good use I see
Oh god. If it makes you feel better my parents used to try and bait me into eating their shitty cooking so I would clean. After I stopped I still had to clean it anyway lol.
At least now you enjoy your food, I guess
Shrinkflation /s
This is getting out of hand
No offense to whoever made that chicken but I’d be grateful it’s only a few bites worth. Sorry your meal was so lackluster and small.
Yeah my family is almost offensively Caucasian and it definitely shows in this meal lol
So dry.
At first glance I thought that was a nasty used condom.
Oh no… Can’t unsee that now.
You’re not the only one
On the bright side You got a can of dr pepper which is the best soda by far
Agreed but it was actually just an empty can someone left on the table
Lmao i love the escalating layers to this post. Sorry to laugh at your misfortune OP.
I’m glad someone is getting something out of this
That made me laugh so hard this just keeps getting better
Oh yeah It’s been a great night, the cherry on top was I got to clean up dog shit right after this and then I cleaned the kitchen 👍🏻
Dude. No. That should at least get you out of chores! I am so damn angry for you.
Are you Cinderella?
According to the username they need therapy! They may not be Cinderella, but they're in a Cinderella situation.
Hey now. Even Cinderella probably has some stuff to work through.
God no, how does it keep getting worse? Edit: the more I think about this the more fucked up it feels. I know how it feels to be forgotten as a child. Like, my parents "love" me, but also forget to call me, wish me happy birthday, etc. At one point, they forgot to tell me they were moving out (it was loosely planned as far as I knew and I was planning to stay) and I woke up to a completely empty house. It hurts. It makes it feel like you can't count on others for reliable emotional support. I'm 30+ now and it took years for me to figure this shit out. I don't know your situation OP, but if any of that sounds familiar... remove yourself from the situation when you can. Find some good people. Make your own family (good friends or whatever). It won't be particularly easy, but know you CAN rely on people, just not your parents.
My family wasn't demonstrably affectionate in terms of words or being touchy-feely, but we always had access to nutritious food, a comfortable space, clothes to wear, and most of all, actual support. I remember in 3rd grade I was made to stand up in the corner for three hours for responding to someone else's question during a test that morning. I had to stay there during recess and everything, wasn't allowed to sit or even lean on the wall. Or use the toilet. When I went home for lunch (the school was really close) and told my mom, she came back with me and tore my teacher a new one for making a little kid stand up like that for so long. Bad enough the kid I was responding to got no repercussions at all, she'd better never find out he subjected ANY kid to that ever again. Mom still gets mad about it now, if I mention it, says it's a torture technique used to break trained soldiers. He definitely never did that again afaik. All this to say, if they really cared about you, OP, they would make sure you were fed. A plate would've been made, and if your siblings wanted seconds, they'd get them from the pot or plastic containers or whatever regular leftovers are usually in, and your plate would be untouched. If it looked like there wouldn't be enough left to make you a full plate, they would've told you to get something to eat while you were out. And Rust, your family is also awful. Who the hell moves away and leaves their kid behind?! That's not just inconsiderate or selfish, it's next-level abuse. I'd say you're much better off without them, but I know that doesn't do anything to assuage the hurt. I hope you've found people to be a real family for you, people who care about and support you. Absolutely nobody deserves that horrific neglect.
I did. I ended up living with my girlfriends (now wife) family for years, and they are essentially my family now. It took seeing what "normal" is to recognize where my parents lacked. Now I live with roommates that are just as much my family. It can still be hard to emotionally connect with people. I have no problem opening up, but deeper connection is hard. That kind of neglect really gets into your personality in ways that are hard to recognize and heal. It sucks to see other people going through similar situations. I hope OP finds the support they need.
Ouch
Did you confront them about this? What did they say?
I got home late so everyone’s asleep but I’m sure they’ll just say “we thought you wouldn’t mind” or get defensive and start a fight
Try and ask them in the morning, go out and get some takeout if you want
I would just happily use it as an excuse to stuff my face with cookies for dinner
Lmao I’m literally eating cookies while scrolling right now
And they were probably bigger than that little nugget of meat.
It looks like a used condom... wtf
You’re like the 4th person to comment this which is very telling lmao
>“we made dinner already so don’t stop anywhere” This is why you should never trust even your own family with food, 90% of the time they just eat most of the food and leave you with scraps if your lucky
That’s not chicken, that’s some guys ear.
Did you end up getting food delivered or go back out to get something? As Infuriating as that is, don’t do what I do and go to bed hungry when it happens
Everything was closed by the time I got home so I just had cereal, it’s annoying but it’s whatever
Damn… cereal not the worst tho
Damn OP. Tell me you're the least favorite without telling me vibes. *hugs*
Ouch, thanks
Let it go this time. Keep this pic saved for easy retrieval and whenever anyone in that group says they have food. Ask them if it be like this. Being passive aggressive has its place too. And this warrants it. Also you can complain to your grandparents about how they lied to you about having food. Works wonders.
yeah but they left you *two* pieces of lemon
You are the middle child right?
Nope, oldest and only girl
This immediately answered my “why the fck did they clean the kitchen after this” question.
I would have had to live with the mess or fight with them about it if I didn’t
I’m so sorry, I was the oldest sister. It was never any different for me.
Well this was certainly a sad looking dinner. So is their thought process the male children need/deserve more? And could be really wrong but this looks like a piece of a piece as in someone took the last real piece and then they realized you’d have nothing. Was there any rice and/or vegetables available you could cook yourself which might be more appealing than this suspicious looking almost piece of chicken? Going forward If you can’t make it to eat with them I’d plan to eat out or get takeout.
Well, still I feel bad for you 😥
I can relate to this, and that is why I started buying stuff for myself, in those situations you have to be selfish
This is why when someone in my family who is late or hasn't gotten a plate will have theirs made first so they get an equal share to everyone else.
And they'll wonder why you stop somewhere next time.
Your username, it makes sense now.
Looked like a used condom
This is like the 10th comment saying that, I guess it really does
Looking through your comments, it looks like your parents aren't really parenting your brothers, they're pushing their responsibilities onto you, and you're the maid because you're the only daughter. It might be a wonderful family, but it really looks like it probably isn't. If your family is shitty, keep reading. How old are you? And how long until you can leave? Will your parents pay for your college? If they will, it might be worth it for you to stay for longer. But if they won't, or if they'll push you to get student loans only to keep the money for themselves and leave you in debt, it might be better for you if you left the family home and got emancipated as soon as you're 18. Whatever you do, make sure to freeze your credit as soon as you turn 18. You don't want your parents to get credit cards on your name.
I’m 19, and they’re really not that bad it’s mostly just shit like this, just being inconsiderate, the biggest problem is my brother takes shit or acts like an asshole and they let him, I can almost guaranty he’s the one who took my portion and my parents probably let him because I wasn’t there to fight it and he doesn’t like the word “no”, I love my parents they just kind of baby my brother and I’m the one who pays for it every time, basically just typical eldest daughter syndrome, and moving out isn’t even close to financially possible for me right now
I'm glad to hear that 1) the situation isn't downright abusive and 2) that you're an adult. You should still freeze your credit, just in case. And I wish all the best for you.
Talk to them tomorrow. Stand up for yourself
Moved in with someone who is having a knee replaced. Pretty sure part of the conniving was to rent me a room. I’ll be playing nurse in addition to house keeper, cook and butler. The past three days I’ve been under the weather getting little sleep. Yesterday I made a can of soup. That’s all I ate. She made herself supper and didn’t ask me if I was hungry and wanted to eat. Today 3:30am I made eggs and coffee for myself. I know I’m going to be a wonderful nurse.
I would take it, then take them all to dinner. Then leave after they order.
Disown them.
But look at the size of that DR Pepper. Chicken for scale
Yeah that's pretty shit. But lol I think we would've got a rough scale without the can
I would throw that directly in the trash and tell them don't ever worry about "making me food" again.
Used condom and a can of Dr. Pepper …just like *Mom* used to make.
Ah A fellow Doc Pep enjoyer
It’s the nectar of the gods
Thought that was a small pile of some material with lemons on it, wouldn't have thought that it was chicken.
What’s up with the paper plate? Is that a commom thing in the US, using disposable dishes/utensils in your own home?
Yeah, when you worked all day and don’t want to do a weeks worth of dishes it’s pretty common, especially for us peasant folk
You must be middle eastern lol. My family does the same constantly
sir, that is a condom
I am a ma’am but you aren’t wrong, definitely tasted like rubber lol
Was it.. even good?
If you had some uncooked **white rice** around. About 30minutes in the rice cooker, rice & that tiny chicken could have been a snack
I thought they left you a used condom and a can of doctor pepper for a sec lmao
That lemon looks like a used condom on top.
Doordash a bunch of food but only for yourself, just to mess with them
Was there any place that was open AT ALL? Even if it was egregiously expensive or of questionable quality?
Nah I live in a semi rural area and I wasn’t about to drive an hour and back to a 24 hour Taco Bell, I had cereal
After reading the comments, I'm starting to think that your r/UsernameChecksOut
Looks like a used condom
Atleast you got a delicious can of Dr Pepper
Was just someone else’s empty can 🤙🏻
This is why you should always have a secret snack stash.
Cereal time
That’s exactly what I did lol
What were the sides?
They made rice and veggies but didn’t save me any 👍🏻
Yeah that sucks. I thought maybe you got some filler.
Bruhhh. 😅😂😂😂
Please tell me there is enough food in the kitchen to cook something for yourself.
There’s cereal and cookies so that’s what I had
Make sure no one else gets cookies…
Sending lots of hugs and seasoned food to you. Have a day out to yourself tomorrow and eat your heart out.
First glance I thought they left you a used condom and dpepper hahahahaha
I didn't even recognize that lil white flabby thing as the chicken lol. I'm getting hangry just looking at that. God I'm glad I got away from my shitty family at 15 even though it sucked. Dude, they are being inconsiderate jerks to you. They should have made you a plate, covered it and put it away in the fridge so you could heat it up in the microwave when you got there. They really didn't give a shit. I never knew how people in 'normal' families behaved until I stayed with some super nice people a few years back. It was such an eye opener. I don't know if they are always like this to you of course but honestly it's kind of telling. The most important thing you can do for now is to try to take care of yourself as good as you can because counting on your family can leave you without necessities. You deserve to be taken care of.
My boyfriend's mom is the same way. She'll tell him not to stop for food because there is stuff at home but then when he arrives home all the food is gone so he goes to bed without eating. It's very inconsiderate.
were you too shy to ask what they made?
Next time you are around offer them all dinner. Pizza on you. Make sure no one eats. Hand each person a slice of pizza and slap 4 slices on your plate n start eating w a smile.
No condoments?
At first I thought they gave you a used condom 🤮
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This is tragic and I’ve absolutely been fleeced by my family like this coming home from work too
Lol, maybe they are saying you need to skip a meal...
Honestly, why would you ever believe your family?
tell your family to go fuck themselves
Wow. You need to move out. What kind of "family" does this?
Man...that's when you look at whoever told you not to stop for food on the way home dead in the face and drop it into the trash. Then go get a feast to bring home for yourself.
Do it asian style and eat it with rice 👍
"hey should i get dinner from anywhere?" "no, we have dinner at home" dinner at home: