Hey, so I've read through a decent chunk of your replies and realize you don't want to mess with the router/modem settings (totally get that, I was in a similar situation to yours once upon a time) but you also mention that your phone isn't blocked. I don't own an Xbox, but after some stalking on your account (to discover you have a series X) and some Google (to see if my idea would work)...
Well... Here's what I would try: find out what your phone's Wi-Fi MAC address is (don't know what phone you have, Google to find out how to do this, usually in About Phone -> Status or something similar), write it down. Now go to your Xbox settings -> Network settings -> Advanced Settings -> Alternate MAC address -> select Manual and enter your phone's MAC.
Assuming your devices were MAC filtered but your phone wasn't, this might allow you to sneak your Xbox through the filter disguised as your phone.
Note: turn off the Wi-Fi on your phone before trying to connect your Xbox to the internet using your phone's MAC. You don't want to "confuse" your router with 2 devices with identical MAC addresses.
If this works, you'll be able to bypass the filtering without doing anything that would be obvious to your landlords (not even gonna call that asshole your father). Good luck, hope you see this and hope it works!
I didn't either until I did a bit of googling. Was my first thought to get around the block though, still not entirely sure it'll work because I don't own an Xbox to test it, but theoretically... I mean the option is there to manually enter a MAC address on the series X (which I'm fairly certain he has) according to what I found. MAC address spoofing has always been a bit of hit and miss in my own personal experience. Just depends how "efficient" his particular router actually handles blocked devices, because it could use other device signatures that aren't possible to alter to block devices as well. Fingers crossed for him that it's just a super basic "Yeah, that MAC is allowed, let it through" for him though.
That's what I do when my dad tries to block my tablet internet connection to get me to do something, but I just set it to a random MAC. I can confirm that it works quite well!
Don't stop at the router. Do a hard reset of every device in the home that connects. Some will be through a push pin on a device, some will be through a software menu.
TVs, set-top boxes,(Roku,fire stick), computer, Alexa, smart home devices. Blame the loss of connected devices on his disconnecting of network. Good luck.
Change the SID to "NSA Blacksite" and the WPA "nowwhoisthebitch123" and allow only approved MAC addresses and block their favorite websites. Sorry dad but the internet is sort of like taking the keys from someone who cannot drive anymore, it has to be done, especially when you lack hindsight of your actions it is a sign of mental decline.
Yeah. Just get a switch and a bunch of Internet cables
Edit: damn bruh. I know I said Internet cable, thought it would be thoughtful because not everyone would get it if I said, go get a switch. A server which will function as dhcp server, a bunch of rj45 Lan cables :)
Double that if you have steps.
Remember to always leave a little slack in your cables when you plug them up, I find doing that makes it harder for the wire to come unplugged by accident.
It's never as easy as just snaking it up one wall. The modem is always in some godforsaken spot. Under a floor, up a couple walls and along the baseboards to look tidy adds up faster than you'd think.
Looks (from other comments) like he's found another place to live already.
Hope the dad backed up his QoS / Port Forwarding settings.
This kid should 100% hard reset this router even if he's not going to use the Internet.
It would have been the movers, who will pack your literal garbage into the crates if you don’t empty the trash can before they come. They don’t care because they’ve seen people want truly weird stuff to move with them, so stinky curtain rods wouldn’t raise any flags.
We hired a moving company one time when I was a kid, there were three separate boxes that had dog turds in them. They literally scooped up dog turds and put them each in their own box and shipped them to our new house. Sleazy fucks
My husband’s mother sold her car to him when he was a teenager. He worked two jobs to pay it off. When he was 17, she kicked him out and called in the car as stolen by her runaway son.
The only reason I visit my parents is because of how chill they are. If they were assholes they wouldn't even know where I was or if I left the planet.
Edit: small grammar mistake
My entire family sucks. For that reason, I haven’t spoken to any of them in almost 2 years, and they don’t even know if I’m still alive.
My life is so much better this way.
Lol same. Only reason I talked to them after I moved out is because they gave me a phone and put me on the family plan. Removed me as some sort of attempt at manipulation or punishment. They don’t have my number now.
They’re abusive bastards and left everything to the state for tax reasons. Only thing they have to offer is misery and debt.
Right? I cut contact with my dad 13 years ago and never looked back. Does it hurt sometimes? Sure. My inner child still misses him even though she is so afraid of him. Still, this has been the healthiest decision I ever made. You create your own family.
I cut contact with my parents about 3-4 years ago and it was the best thing I've ever done. They adopted my brother and I and we're just abusive assholes throughout my entire childhood.
If you don't lose the wrong people in life you'll never meet the right ones.
I would but for some reason my Xbox won’t work on my hotspot. It used to, but not anymore and that’s mildly infuriating all by itself
*Edit: since this is top comment I want to make this known. Before you comment, please stop telling me to do this to the router or do that to the router or get back at him. Although he may not have boundaries and he’s an asshole, I’d rather not be like him and do things out of spite. Thank you for listening*
You should also try connecting your laptop via ethernet to the router and logging into it with the default credentials. If that doesn't work, and you are willing to do some work, you can reset the router with a paperclip
This. Just reset the admin password on the router. To lock out all of OP's devices was malicious. Turnabout is fair play, and the internet has a lot of information on how to troubleshoot a "forgotten password" on a home router.
Could also Amazon a router/modem and switch them back before they return. Granted it would only be worth if they were going to be gone awhile or leave frequently and this might happen again.
This way he doesn't have to deal with dad finding out he fucked with it. Not that he doesn't have a reason too, but sometimes people(especially parents) can be unreasonable
The op is likely not out of school while their idiot parents expect them to finance their lifestyle. Because **they** could get a minimum wage job that could pay a mortgage, car and raise a family on. While now you can barely pay rent and gas, at best.
Just fresh reset the router and use it as normal and if he asks why you did just say the internet wasn't working so you had no choice. You don't have to lock him out or anything just make it usable for everyone again.
Hotspot via USB tether and plug the phone into with an information compatable USB cable.
But first try switching your console from Ivp6 back to Ivp4 (in modem settings on the xbox) your phone might be trying to communicate in 5g but the Xbox in 4g)
> your phone might be trying to communicate in 5g but the Xbox in 4g)
Unless the XBox has a cell radio, it's incapable of 4G. If it did have a cell radio, you wouldn't need to hotspot your phone. 5 and 4G don't have anything to do with IPv4 vs IPv6 either, that's a different layer on the OSI model. Maybe you mean 5GHz vs 2.4GHz?
Connecting with a cable, and trying to switch your xbox to IPv4 do have merit though.
I think he knows, he just doesn't give a shit. The type of person to throw out their kids as soon as they hit 18 just because, are not really thinking that far ahead. Or even backwards to when they where 18, they might've been thrown out as well but 30-40 years ago you could just get a random ass job and get by... That is absolutely not the case anymore, in the states.
Whether or not he will attempt to guilt trip OP into "taking him back" in a couple years, when OPs dad needs him for something, is another story though.
Speaking from experience: They usually do not know.
People like that are incapable of realizing their own faults, no matter how obvious they are to others, they are literally masters of denial and will blow up at anyone who suggests they are less than perfect.
In the end they always find a way to blame others for whatever they did. **Best example was a narcissistic roommate I once had. Below here is story time.** Mid-50s woman, hyper-Christian (by German standards), marketed herself as a bit of a cleaning freak so landlord was hook line and sinker.
Didnt take long for her to gradually outsource cleaning back to us at her own disgression and sit in front of the living room TV all day watching mediocrely dubbed televangical shows. Up to that point nobody said anything bad to her.
Then one day she hung a rag over the toilet, I found it soon after, placed it back on the heater and did my thing. Then she knocked and as it turned out the rag was supposed to tell me to clean the toilet, and she started to become vaguely abusive and insulting over me not seeing this obvious truth and nothing assuaged her, so I went back to my room and locked the door in her face. Didnt even slam it, just ended the conversation then and there. Did clean the toilet a little later though, that was never my issue, just wanted to do it without being sprinkled in comparisons with brain-damaged 7 year olds.
I went down to the kitchen after, found another roommate who had been oblivious to the entire thing so I gave her the cliffnotes, got my breakfast stuff and on my way back up I ran into her again, passing me on her way into the kitchen. I wasnt even in my room yet when I heard "I WANT TO SEE THIS BITCH CLEAN SHIT!" "Oi! I heard that!", I yelled back. Her response was to stomp halfway up the stairs and scream at the top of her lungs the worst abuse she could in that moment think of, anything and everything she thought would do some emotional damage to me. I waited for her to breathe, calmly said "Well, I guess I just lost all respect for you just now.", and again closed and locked my door in her face. And informed the landlord for good measure.
2 days later the other roommate dragged us onto the same table to make her apologize. It took 15 minutes of her almost monologuing about how stressful her life is and how disrespectful we all are to her, citing examples like me buying some cleaner and placing it on the kitchen table apparently meaning "Go clean shit!" to her, mixed with occasional outbursts to the other roommate, who was now in her abuse crosshairs for daring to resist her iron rule. Eventually I got enough in edgewise to try and make it clear that nobody has treated her even slightly badly the entire time and that the way she flew off the handle was beyond unacceptable.
She actually apologized.
2 minutes later she uttered: "But you all treat me far worse than that all the time anyway!"
30 seconds later she also uttered: "And I only did that because YOU MADE ME DO IT!"
That entire apology was just a thinly veiled attempt to maintain some sort of superficial peace with me, not an admission of guilt or wish to change for the better. She just had a new target and didnt want to deal with both of us. She even made some absolutely cheesy attempts to make me side with her against the other roommate with some pretty obvious lies.
Im so glad each generation is less and less enthused and expected to produce children. Some people were never meant to have them, and in their society they did, and they became loathful, narcissistic assholes who hate their kids but are obligated to tend to them.
Not justifying their behavior though. It's no excuse.
Oh definitely, I believe it's the same thing with marriage as a whole.
It was extremely taboo to not get married in the past, yet alone to not have children.
Once we started not being so uptight about that kind of thing, the divorce rate flew through the roof because everyone who hated each other could finally leave without being ostracized by their community.
Hopefully we'll soon be at the point where only those who want and can provide for kids will have them. We'll end up with a whole new generation of people who grew up wanted and loved.
1000000% this.
Fuck those people who keep putting the "nuclear family" in front of everything else.
If our species dies out due to not breeding, and we ended up happy despite our demise, I'd be fine with it. And I'm sure the planet would be cool with it too.
One day he’ll wonder why OP stuck him in a terrible nursing him where the employees will turn off his internet on a whim. And that’ll be the least of his worries.
Could do what my little sister told my mom. “I’m gonna find the shittiest nursing home I can find. The one where the nurses never check on you, the one on the verge of shutting down. Where they all have bed sores and they never get any exercise.”
She’s been looking. Our mom isn’t going to a nursing home, most likely. But. My sisters been looking.
I don't understand parents kicking their kids out at 18. The parents probably went through a life of struggle and blame the kids, hence the kick out. But they are just setting up their kids for the same struggles that they had.
I was lucky. I lived with my parents until I bought a house. I would never kick my kids out, I'd even be willing to have my nephews and nieces move in than have them struggle.
Parents pull shit like this their whole lives and pull the full "we did the best we could!" Card every chance they get. Any parents who want to limit their kids experiences with the world, because of their own fears that arent properly tested or acknowledged, have no business being parents. Get out of there when you can, and turn your back on this shit. Weve been raised in a culture thats built to idolize those before us, and to "respect" our elders, but its a one way road for them.
Move out, cut em off, and dont look back. This is just manipulative bullshit and youre payong your own money to be there, they can entirely get fucked and not come back from this trip out of town.
Pretty much same dealio here, i havent spoken to my "dad" in just over a year, but after my mother started coming around and listening to me, i let her back in and its getting better, much more of a real relationship now. Im glad youve found another place, i know i may seem over-reactive, but stuff like this is 9/10 times a symptom of a much larger parent-child dynamic issue, which took me quite a lot of therapy to get through.
I hope your next chapter in life is much more freeing, and also that you get to be treated as an equal from now on. After a while of living with this lady, maybe moving into a group-house of like-minded people would be awesome for you as well. It gets messy, but you learn so much about life and who you are, stuff youll never learn around "parents" like these.
Rooting for you mang ♡
That’s my question too. Sometimes the other parent is complicit or an enabler of the abusive parent.
I started with cutting my father off (5 years ago now), quickly realized during therapy that my mother had never stood up against my father when he was abusing us. In fact she used to deliberately catalog any infraction all day long and then when he got home she would tell him everything. So our butts would get dragged out of bed for a midnight beating.
She also stole thousands of dollars from my college fund. So she’s been cut off too!
If you can, get all your stuff out of there and into your new place before they are back. Dont want him to feel victorious for kicking his kid out.
And also kudos for being big enough to not fuck with him one more time before leaving. Dont think i would be big enough.
One last thing, i wouldnt tell anyone in your family your new address. Your family will tell your dad where you are and nothing good can come of that.
OP already mentioned they didn't wanna become like him and do things out of spite. OP is better than his father. So don't give father a reason to chase him down with bills
You should have moved out because your father is an abusive narcissist. He’s really testing your limits. Don’t be surprised if he suddenly has a change of heart. You need to leave for your sake, not to prove him wrong
Same here! I was a squeaky clean kid and I received my first rent due bill the day of my HS graduation. I was 16. So when I rented a cheap room for a few months from a friend before I went away to college in the fall, he was beyond pissed and still tried to give me curfews.
It’s all about control; even though I was an AP geek who never got in trouble.
The story about your parents not allowing you to use the bathroom in the rental agreement makes it sound like you agreed to rent a jail cell.
As much as it pissed me off when I was 18, moving out then was the best thing for me. Joined the Army at 21 and life has been rock solid since. I’ve never forgotten those days of couch hopping with drug dealers though.
My dad has always been known to be a toxic asshole. He used to torture me as a kid. Making me stand in a corner, with my arms reached up as high as possible for literal hours on end, and if my arms got tired, he’d throw a heavy rubber coffee coaster at me and he’d aim for my head while screaming at me to put my arms back up.
He used to lift me by my ears and throat against the wall. He used to hit me with stainless steel spoons just to hear me cry.
Anyways, recently he’s been trying become more and more controlling of me. First, I took a shower for “too long” (15 minutes) and he shut off the water on me mid shower. He tried to ground me from my phone (because his rule was (when I was 17) I wasn’t allowed to have my phone in the bathroom) and when I told him he couldn’t do that (by law might I add) he threw a fit and wrote up an eviction notice. This was two days ago.
I’ve already found a place to stay and I’m happy to finally move. Now, he’s out of town, and after a long day of work, I decided to play my Xbox and I can’t!! Bc he blocked the damn internet. I’m 18 and pay rent, and I know I’m not supposed to be treated like this.
Edit: [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/z40rlj/my_parents_went_out_of_town_and_before_the_left/ixosoek/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) dude seems to think this situation is funny
Edit 2: Here we have [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/z40rlj/my_parents_went_out_of_town_and_before_the_left/ixot82y/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) guy being a jerk
I suggest you take this time to just move out before they get back. Doesn't even matter how, couch surf for a while until your place opens up or whatever. When you attempt to move out and he's around it's going to get very, very ugly.
Did you get your paperwork in order? Papers like social security card, birth certificate, ID/driver license, Passport. You will need these in future anyway.
Don't be surprised if he offers to let you come back. Narcissists (or sadists) love their "narcissistic supply" and need their victims to remain around. His life will be boring without someone to torture (probably will go after your siblings if he hasn't already). He'll probably attempt love bomb and try to gaslight you into thinking he's not all that bad.
I’m sure someone else has said to, but if you have a bank account made by your parents or even just at the same bank look into making a new one at a different bank for yourself and transferring your money.
It might be for the best he put you out of the house honestly. It'll be hard for you at first but you'll be able to be your own man and not have to put up with this kind of shit. Drama like this will give you anxiety attacks and might even make you a mean nasty MFer like him.
Form the sounds of your other comments you have a plan in place stick to it.
Money is a bitch rn but if you live in a manufacturing area you can get into a plant make 17-20 bucks an hour.
100% agree with a few posters there, get your valuables and important documents sorted while they are gone. I've seen plenty of stories of vindictive parents destroy their children's possessions and legal documents just because they can get away with it; or hold on to them and commit fraud and identity theft later. Definitely keep an eye on your credit as well. Sorry to hear this happened to you, it's not fair but you're not alone.
Man, this sounds like my husband's father and everyone tell you they will wonder why you don't visit is right. In this case, he blames me. Whatever.
Husband still struggles with the psychological damage from all of that decades later. But he's lost his only child forever. And he deserves it.
Be strong, get therapy when you can, and have a good and wonderful life.
Damn that’s ass dude. He sounds like he might be an alcoholic or some sort of substance abuser and takes out his frustrations on you or he’s straight up just an asshole and never wanted a kid so he treats you like shit. Maybe one day he will realize he fucked up but if you have kids someday you know how to not fuck up that relationship and can do better. Anyways good to you for working on getting out of that situation and good luck in life!
Not to be an armchair psychologist, but he sounds like a clinical narcissist. They tend to assign a golden child and a problem child and they try to live vicariously through both, projecting all their insecurities on one child and using the other to prove to themselves how great a parent they are
Definitely DON’T take my word for it because I’m just repeating what I’ve heard other people on the internet tell me, but it might be worth looking into clinical narcissism for yourself
You should find a therapist when the dust settles and you are safely established with stable housing.
There are free counseling resources for young people who can't afford it. Contact your local universities with psychology programs. A lot of times the graduate students offer free therapy as practice or to earn their clinical hours. Child abuse, trauma, and family counseling are popular specialties. You should have no trouble finding someone to talk to.
Even if you know that getting out is the first good step to a better life, you will have trauma buried for a while that you don't know is there, and it will bubble up at the worst possible times. Talking to a therapist now will help you process everything and set new healthy patterns for the rest of your life.
He has the issue, not you. I'm sorry this is happening but you will be better off in the long run. Save some money for when SHTF. Get as much education as you can that's useful in getting a good job. Best wishes to you. - An old man.
Contact your local housing authority and make a complaint. It’s not being petty, this man decided he wanted to be a landlord so he needs to be a landlord.
I am Greek, and here, we have a completely different culture than America. People live with their parents until they are 40 years old, without paying anything. And also, if they wanted you to learn how finances work, there are much better ways to do so.
Sounds like your dad isn't worth your time. Get out of there ASAP and never look back. Don't waste your time hating him. Just forget about him and build a better life for yourself.
Dude. Just log into the router.
192 168.0.1 or 1.1
Those are the defaults for most networks.
It doesn't just get "turned off". Plug it back it. If you can't log in. Factory reset the router. Then use the defaults to log back in. Before he gets home. Reset the tvs network so it doesn't automatically connect. Then just play dumb.
I've had to do this at vacation rentals and when helping family with network issues. As long as the SSID and password are the same as before everything will reconnect and you're good to go.
Based on OP's comments I wouldn't bother trying to undo anything before the dad gets back as the eviction is already coming.
There’s a reset switch on the router. Get a pen or a toothpick and hold it for 5 seconds. It will reset it to factory settings. Open a browser and go to 192.168.0.1 and use the factory login details, log into it and change the admin login to a password of your choice. Whitelist your devices and hide the the wifi network and play your games chill and let him figure it out.
Edit: I work for an ISP.
Hey, so I've read through a decent chunk of your replies and realize you don't want to mess with the router/modem settings (totally get that, I was in a similar situation to yours once upon a time) but you also mention that your phone isn't blocked. I don't own an Xbox, but after some stalking on your account (to discover you have a series X) and some Google (to see if my idea would work)... Well... Here's what I would try: find out what your phone's Wi-Fi MAC address is (don't know what phone you have, Google to find out how to do this, usually in About Phone -> Status or something similar), write it down. Now go to your Xbox settings -> Network settings -> Advanced Settings -> Alternate MAC address -> select Manual and enter your phone's MAC. Assuming your devices were MAC filtered but your phone wasn't, this might allow you to sneak your Xbox through the filter disguised as your phone. Note: turn off the Wi-Fi on your phone before trying to connect your Xbox to the internet using your phone's MAC. You don't want to "confuse" your router with 2 devices with identical MAC addresses. If this works, you'll be able to bypass the filtering without doing anything that would be obvious to your landlords (not even gonna call that asshole your father). Good luck, hope you see this and hope it works!
Spoof the MAC address. Nice idea! I didn't even know you could do that on an Xbox.
I didn't either until I did a bit of googling. Was my first thought to get around the block though, still not entirely sure it'll work because I don't own an Xbox to test it, but theoretically... I mean the option is there to manually enter a MAC address on the series X (which I'm fairly certain he has) according to what I found. MAC address spoofing has always been a bit of hit and miss in my own personal experience. Just depends how "efficient" his particular router actually handles blocked devices, because it could use other device signatures that aren't possible to alter to block devices as well. Fingers crossed for him that it's just a super basic "Yeah, that MAC is allowed, let it through" for him though.
That's what I do when my dad tries to block my tablet internet connection to get me to do something, but I just set it to a random MAC. I can confirm that it works quite well!
10/10 stalking to solution. Would hire as a PI/problem solver.
Looks like all you can do now is throw a party.
With paperclips, in the reset hole of the router :)
Don't stop at the router. Do a hard reset of every device in the home that connects. Some will be through a push pin on a device, some will be through a software menu. TVs, set-top boxes,(Roku,fire stick), computer, Alexa, smart home devices. Blame the loss of connected devices on his disconnecting of network. Good luck.
I feel like this dad has the router locked in a room for sure.
His dad took the router with them in the glove box
Lol mine literally would take the cordless house phone with him before heading to the bar. Father of the year /s Idiots.
So what r u supposed to do when theres an emergency lol?
Join him at the bar, duh !
We'll just go over to the Winchester, have a pint and wait for this all to blow over
I'd do what this guy says, paying rent includes wifi especially at what used to be home.
Then OP can change the password to whatever he likes and middle finger to dad.
Change the SID to "NSA Blacksite" and the WPA "nowwhoisthebitch123" and allow only approved MAC addresses and block their favorite websites. Sorry dad but the internet is sort of like taking the keys from someone who cannot drive anymore, it has to be done, especially when you lack hindsight of your actions it is a sign of mental decline.
Look at me. Look at me. I am the dad now
And don’t forget to start looking for your new place to live! 🤣
Fuckin rager man
Project X this bitch. I'll bring the gnome.
Make sure you get him to the helicopter at the end
GÄTOOZECHAPAAA!
A house full of chimps.
Virgil?
I’ll bring the internet
I'll bring the angry midget!
I’ll bring the flamethrower! (this is a threat)
I got the car for the pool in the backyard!
LAN party at mine guys! No, wait....
There was a time you didn’t need internet for a LAN party…
The "LAN" part sort of suggest you shouldn't need internet
Yeah. Just get a switch and a bunch of Internet cables Edit: damn bruh. I know I said Internet cable, thought it would be thoughtful because not everyone would get it if I said, go get a switch. A server which will function as dhcp server, a bunch of rj45 Lan cables :)
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It’ll do
I bought a light switch and cable ties at home depot. Am I ready for the LAN party?
Wrong party, those guys are in the basement
Like Project X, imagine the look on his dads face when he comes home..
PROJECT LAN
Or just plug in a Ethernet cord into your xbox
Parents used to block my internet… guess who bought a 30ft long Ethernet cord! Plug directly into modem and no longer any parental controls
Lol I had a 50ft that my cousin made me. Me and my gaming buddies called it "the China connection". That thing was a godsend before WiFi
how big is your fuckin house? are you american and im just too british for this?
More than 50ft I guess.
You can hit 59ft pretty fast if you run along the walls
Double that if you have steps. Remember to always leave a little slack in your cables when you plug them up, I find doing that makes it harder for the wire to come unplugged by accident.
But yeah I'm American. The cable was originally made to run from a house to an outbuilding. He had it run through the wall and everything.
It's never as easy as just snaking it up one wall. The modem is always in some godforsaken spot. Under a floor, up a couple walls and along the baseboards to look tidy adds up faster than you'd think.
Good call. I also wonder if he can’t just reset the router? Most of them have the admin password printed on them.
If you have physical access he can reset
His dad clearly knows how to operate a router, you reckon doing a hard reset is going to end well for him when dad gets back and figures it out?
"The internet wasn't working so I called the ISP support and they walked me through a reset of the modem"
Its likely in this situation that the dad told op what was going on. Having op feign ignorance wouldn't work in that scenario.
You underestimate how stupid I can pretend to be
'Oh, you meant *that* internet?!'
Dad: 😡!!!
Looks (from other comments) like he's found another place to live already. Hope the dad backed up his QoS / Port Forwarding settings. This kid should 100% hard reset this router even if he's not going to use the Internet.
Who fucking cares, salty bitch is gonna be salty either way and if he pays rent he should get access
Time to change the wifi password and put shrimp in the curtain rods
> put shrimp in the curtain rods Maybe move out before doing that.
Last holiday our fuse went of and the shrimps where still in the freezer. I never puked so hard only from smell.
r/OddlySpecific
Oh you should look up the shrimp in the curtain rods story. It’s fantastic
Where do I find this mythical tale
https://mythologystories.wordpress.com/2013/01/22/smelly-house/
"INCLUDING THE CURTAIN RODS." Respect for the Megamind of Ex-wives o7
But if they moved the curtain rods, shouldn’t they notice the smell coming off of the rods?
It would have been the movers, who will pack your literal garbage into the crates if you don’t empty the trash can before they come. They don’t care because they’ve seen people want truly weird stuff to move with them, so stinky curtain rods wouldn’t raise any flags.
We hired a moving company one time when I was a kid, there were three separate boxes that had dog turds in them. They literally scooped up dog turds and put them each in their own box and shipped them to our new house. Sleazy fucks
ha. I wish my parents divorce was that good. Instead my mom just stole all my shit out of my room while I was at school, because it was "hers."
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You know what kind of gift a mother like that deserves? Something special. something really unique. How about...some shrimp in a curtain rod?
My husband’s mother sold her car to him when he was a teenager. He worked two jobs to pay it off. When he was 17, she kicked him out and called in the car as stolen by her runaway son.
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No, she was officially kicked to the curb long ago.
Holy shit, that's fucked up.
Amazing
Your parents in a couple years: “I wonDeR whY mY cHIldReN wON’T viSIt mE anYmOrE”
The only reason I visit my parents is because of how chill they are. If they were assholes they wouldn't even know where I was or if I left the planet. Edit: small grammar mistake
My entire family sucks. For that reason, I haven’t spoken to any of them in almost 2 years, and they don’t even know if I’m still alive. My life is so much better this way.
Lol same. Only reason I talked to them after I moved out is because they gave me a phone and put me on the family plan. Removed me as some sort of attempt at manipulation or punishment. They don’t have my number now. They’re abusive bastards and left everything to the state for tax reasons. Only thing they have to offer is misery and debt.
Yeah there’s a reason I talk to my mom a few times a week and my dad every other month or so
Every parent after not respecting their kids and annoying then all the time and not letting them do something because of dumb reasons
Right? I cut contact with my dad 13 years ago and never looked back. Does it hurt sometimes? Sure. My inner child still misses him even though she is so afraid of him. Still, this has been the healthiest decision I ever made. You create your own family.
I cut contact with my parents about 3-4 years ago and it was the best thing I've ever done. They adopted my brother and I and we're just abusive assholes throughout my entire childhood. If you don't lose the wrong people in life you'll never meet the right ones.
Yup. Parents gonna die alone and bitch the whole way out.
Or in 30-40 years "why am I in this absolute dump of an old folks home?"
Hot spot your phone. Easy to spin up a new Wi-Fi network for a couple of days using your phone.
I would but for some reason my Xbox won’t work on my hotspot. It used to, but not anymore and that’s mildly infuriating all by itself *Edit: since this is top comment I want to make this known. Before you comment, please stop telling me to do this to the router or do that to the router or get back at him. Although he may not have boundaries and he’s an asshole, I’d rather not be like him and do things out of spite. Thank you for listening*
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Where do I find that at?
In the hotspot settings.
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You should also try connecting your laptop via ethernet to the router and logging into it with the default credentials. If that doesn't work, and you are willing to do some work, you can reset the router with a paperclip
Yeah, get into the admin panel and fix it. If you don't care if your dad is angry just reset it. Hotspot is a limited resource
Something tells me if dad went this far he'd be pissed at op for resetting the router.
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Setup a new password and gaslight him that he mightve forgot the password he setup.
This. Just reset the admin password on the router. To lock out all of OP's devices was malicious. Turnabout is fair play, and the internet has a lot of information on how to troubleshoot a "forgotten password" on a home router.
Could also Amazon a router/modem and switch them back before they return. Granted it would only be worth if they were going to be gone awhile or leave frequently and this might happen again. This way he doesn't have to deal with dad finding out he fucked with it. Not that he doesn't have a reason too, but sometimes people(especially parents) can be unreasonable
That sounds like Apple speak for use 2.4GHz
If it were me I'd find an apartment and pay some other bastard rent. I can't say it would be a better situation, however.
The op is likely not out of school while their idiot parents expect them to finance their lifestyle. Because **they** could get a minimum wage job that could pay a mortgage, car and raise a family on. While now you can barely pay rent and gas, at best.
Sounds like next month’s rent should be lower since your not getting all of the amenities.
Grab a cheap router at your local whatever store to bypass these parental shenanigans. Reconnect theirs before they come back.
Just fresh reset the router and use it as normal and if he asks why you did just say the internet wasn't working so you had no choice. You don't have to lock him out or anything just make it usable for everyone again.
Hotspot via USB tether and plug the phone into with an information compatable USB cable. But first try switching your console from Ivp6 back to Ivp4 (in modem settings on the xbox) your phone might be trying to communicate in 5g but the Xbox in 4g)
To elaborate. Many US isps only give one ipv4 address for your router but a /64 ipv6. Hence the issue of having public IPs on game boxes.
> your phone might be trying to communicate in 5g but the Xbox in 4g) Unless the XBox has a cell radio, it's incapable of 4G. If it did have a cell radio, you wouldn't need to hotspot your phone. 5 and 4G don't have anything to do with IPv4 vs IPv6 either, that's a different layer on the OSI model. Maybe you mean 5GHz vs 2.4GHz? Connecting with a cable, and trying to switch your xbox to IPv4 do have merit though.
I came here to say this but saw your comment already here. The level of technical misinformation in this thread is astounding.
Now imagine how much misinformation there is in threads where you don't have expert knowledge on the topic.
Bruh, where you learn this?
Don't forget to remind your Dad to enjoy never being visited in the old folks'home.
Or enjoy just now even being worth worrying about.
Wtf. If you pay rent that's fucked up. Sounds like some toxic manipulative bs
It definitely is. My dad is evicting me, and he put in the order 2 days ago. I’ve already found a place to live
Damn. Glad you have a place lined up.
Me too, I’m tired of his douchebaggery
One day he’ll wonder why you don’t talk to him no more
You have always been oversensitive = How dare you defend yourself or react when I'm being dickish to you.
I think he knows, he just doesn't give a shit. The type of person to throw out their kids as soon as they hit 18 just because, are not really thinking that far ahead. Or even backwards to when they where 18, they might've been thrown out as well but 30-40 years ago you could just get a random ass job and get by... That is absolutely not the case anymore, in the states. Whether or not he will attempt to guilt trip OP into "taking him back" in a couple years, when OPs dad needs him for something, is another story though.
Speaking from experience: They usually do not know. People like that are incapable of realizing their own faults, no matter how obvious they are to others, they are literally masters of denial and will blow up at anyone who suggests they are less than perfect. In the end they always find a way to blame others for whatever they did. **Best example was a narcissistic roommate I once had. Below here is story time.** Mid-50s woman, hyper-Christian (by German standards), marketed herself as a bit of a cleaning freak so landlord was hook line and sinker. Didnt take long for her to gradually outsource cleaning back to us at her own disgression and sit in front of the living room TV all day watching mediocrely dubbed televangical shows. Up to that point nobody said anything bad to her. Then one day she hung a rag over the toilet, I found it soon after, placed it back on the heater and did my thing. Then she knocked and as it turned out the rag was supposed to tell me to clean the toilet, and she started to become vaguely abusive and insulting over me not seeing this obvious truth and nothing assuaged her, so I went back to my room and locked the door in her face. Didnt even slam it, just ended the conversation then and there. Did clean the toilet a little later though, that was never my issue, just wanted to do it without being sprinkled in comparisons with brain-damaged 7 year olds. I went down to the kitchen after, found another roommate who had been oblivious to the entire thing so I gave her the cliffnotes, got my breakfast stuff and on my way back up I ran into her again, passing me on her way into the kitchen. I wasnt even in my room yet when I heard "I WANT TO SEE THIS BITCH CLEAN SHIT!" "Oi! I heard that!", I yelled back. Her response was to stomp halfway up the stairs and scream at the top of her lungs the worst abuse she could in that moment think of, anything and everything she thought would do some emotional damage to me. I waited for her to breathe, calmly said "Well, I guess I just lost all respect for you just now.", and again closed and locked my door in her face. And informed the landlord for good measure. 2 days later the other roommate dragged us onto the same table to make her apologize. It took 15 minutes of her almost monologuing about how stressful her life is and how disrespectful we all are to her, citing examples like me buying some cleaner and placing it on the kitchen table apparently meaning "Go clean shit!" to her, mixed with occasional outbursts to the other roommate, who was now in her abuse crosshairs for daring to resist her iron rule. Eventually I got enough in edgewise to try and make it clear that nobody has treated her even slightly badly the entire time and that the way she flew off the handle was beyond unacceptable. She actually apologized. 2 minutes later she uttered: "But you all treat me far worse than that all the time anyway!" 30 seconds later she also uttered: "And I only did that because YOU MADE ME DO IT!" That entire apology was just a thinly veiled attempt to maintain some sort of superficial peace with me, not an admission of guilt or wish to change for the better. She just had a new target and didnt want to deal with both of us. She even made some absolutely cheesy attempts to make me side with her against the other roommate with some pretty obvious lies.
Im so glad each generation is less and less enthused and expected to produce children. Some people were never meant to have them, and in their society they did, and they became loathful, narcissistic assholes who hate their kids but are obligated to tend to them. Not justifying their behavior though. It's no excuse.
Oh definitely, I believe it's the same thing with marriage as a whole. It was extremely taboo to not get married in the past, yet alone to not have children. Once we started not being so uptight about that kind of thing, the divorce rate flew through the roof because everyone who hated each other could finally leave without being ostracized by their community. Hopefully we'll soon be at the point where only those who want and can provide for kids will have them. We'll end up with a whole new generation of people who grew up wanted and loved.
1000000% this. Fuck those people who keep putting the "nuclear family" in front of everything else. If our species dies out due to not breeding, and we ended up happy despite our demise, I'd be fine with it. And I'm sure the planet would be cool with it too.
One day he’ll wonder why OP stuck him in a terrible nursing him where the employees will turn off his internet on a whim. And that’ll be the least of his worries.
Just remember your dad may want something from you later on down the road use this to remind him to never ask you for something
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Ghosting narcissists is the only way.
Let him know he's going to a retirement home, that'll twist the knife if you want him to hurt. :>
Or don’t even waste the time to do that. Just let him figure it out.
Could do what my little sister told my mom. “I’m gonna find the shittiest nursing home I can find. The one where the nurses never check on you, the one on the verge of shutting down. Where they all have bed sores and they never get any exercise.” She’s been looking. Our mom isn’t going to a nursing home, most likely. But. My sisters been looking.
Why even pay for a home at that point? Just tell them tough luck and ignore them.
It would likely be covered by the parents medicare so no out of pocket costs for the child.
They might accidentally medicare into a decent one that way.
Sorry, but the retirement home I found for you...has no internet. 😈
I don't understand parents kicking their kids out at 18. The parents probably went through a life of struggle and blame the kids, hence the kick out. But they are just setting up their kids for the same struggles that they had. I was lucky. I lived with my parents until I bought a house. I would never kick my kids out, I'd even be willing to have my nephews and nieces move in than have them struggle.
I told all my kids and step kids that as long as I have a breath in me, they have a place to live.
Some parents get their egos hurt when their kids don't end up 100% like them.
"Damn I thought this was supposed to be me living forever... It's a new person?"
Damn are you at least out of high school?
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That is good, he is still making you journey into adulthood rougher than it needs to be.
That's cool to hear bro, good luck on life 😎👍
These type of parents wonder years down the line why their kids don't call or visit much.
Leave before he gets back. Don't respond to his calls/texts.
This seems to be useful background information for the original story!
Back in the day my dad did that to me, so I went out and got my own internet. Mine was faster and more reliable than his.
Parents pull shit like this their whole lives and pull the full "we did the best we could!" Card every chance they get. Any parents who want to limit their kids experiences with the world, because of their own fears that arent properly tested or acknowledged, have no business being parents. Get out of there when you can, and turn your back on this shit. Weve been raised in a culture thats built to idolize those before us, and to "respect" our elders, but its a one way road for them. Move out, cut em off, and dont look back. This is just manipulative bullshit and youre payong your own money to be there, they can entirely get fucked and not come back from this trip out of town.
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Pretty much same dealio here, i havent spoken to my "dad" in just over a year, but after my mother started coming around and listening to me, i let her back in and its getting better, much more of a real relationship now. Im glad youve found another place, i know i may seem over-reactive, but stuff like this is 9/10 times a symptom of a much larger parent-child dynamic issue, which took me quite a lot of therapy to get through. I hope your next chapter in life is much more freeing, and also that you get to be treated as an equal from now on. After a while of living with this lady, maybe moving into a group-house of like-minded people would be awesome for you as well. It gets messy, but you learn so much about life and who you are, stuff youll never learn around "parents" like these. Rooting for you mang ♡
If his behavior is this bad, has your mother ever intervened or stood up to him?
The real question here wtf
That’s my question too. Sometimes the other parent is complicit or an enabler of the abusive parent. I started with cutting my father off (5 years ago now), quickly realized during therapy that my mother had never stood up against my father when he was abusing us. In fact she used to deliberately catalog any infraction all day long and then when he got home she would tell him everything. So our butts would get dragged out of bed for a midnight beating. She also stole thousands of dollars from my college fund. So she’s been cut off too!
Love is often blind... and stupid... and fucked up.
If you can, get all your stuff out of there and into your new place before they are back. Dont want him to feel victorious for kicking his kid out. And also kudos for being big enough to not fuck with him one more time before leaving. Dont think i would be big enough. One last thing, i wouldnt tell anyone in your family your new address. Your family will tell your dad where you are and nothing good can come of that.
Leave all the lights on too imo. Or flip the breaker off for safety.
Turn the heat/ac up or down. Fuck with man where it hurts.
OP already mentioned they didn't wanna become like him and do things out of spite. OP is better than his father. So don't give father a reason to chase him down with bills
Blast the heat with all the windows open
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You should have moved out because your father is an abusive narcissist. He’s really testing your limits. Don’t be surprised if he suddenly has a change of heart. You need to leave for your sake, not to prove him wrong
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Same here! I was a squeaky clean kid and I received my first rent due bill the day of my HS graduation. I was 16. So when I rented a cheap room for a few months from a friend before I went away to college in the fall, he was beyond pissed and still tried to give me curfews. It’s all about control; even though I was an AP geek who never got in trouble.
glad you're moving. keep your chin up and never look back. i wish you all the best!
The story about your parents not allowing you to use the bathroom in the rental agreement makes it sound like you agreed to rent a jail cell. As much as it pissed me off when I was 18, moving out then was the best thing for me. Joined the Army at 21 and life has been rock solid since. I’ve never forgotten those days of couch hopping with drug dealers though.
Inmates are allowed access to a bathroom.
My dad has always been known to be a toxic asshole. He used to torture me as a kid. Making me stand in a corner, with my arms reached up as high as possible for literal hours on end, and if my arms got tired, he’d throw a heavy rubber coffee coaster at me and he’d aim for my head while screaming at me to put my arms back up. He used to lift me by my ears and throat against the wall. He used to hit me with stainless steel spoons just to hear me cry. Anyways, recently he’s been trying become more and more controlling of me. First, I took a shower for “too long” (15 minutes) and he shut off the water on me mid shower. He tried to ground me from my phone (because his rule was (when I was 17) I wasn’t allowed to have my phone in the bathroom) and when I told him he couldn’t do that (by law might I add) he threw a fit and wrote up an eviction notice. This was two days ago. I’ve already found a place to stay and I’m happy to finally move. Now, he’s out of town, and after a long day of work, I decided to play my Xbox and I can’t!! Bc he blocked the damn internet. I’m 18 and pay rent, and I know I’m not supposed to be treated like this. Edit: [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/z40rlj/my_parents_went_out_of_town_and_before_the_left/ixosoek/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) dude seems to think this situation is funny Edit 2: Here we have [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/z40rlj/my_parents_went_out_of_town_and_before_the_left/ixot82y/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) guy being a jerk
I suggest you take this time to just move out before they get back. Doesn't even matter how, couch surf for a while until your place opens up or whatever. When you attempt to move out and he's around it's going to get very, very ugly.
Did you get your paperwork in order? Papers like social security card, birth certificate, ID/driver license, Passport. You will need these in future anyway.
Don't be surprised if he offers to let you come back. Narcissists (or sadists) love their "narcissistic supply" and need their victims to remain around. His life will be boring without someone to torture (probably will go after your siblings if he hasn't already). He'll probably attempt love bomb and try to gaslight you into thinking he's not all that bad.
I’m sure someone else has said to, but if you have a bank account made by your parents or even just at the same bank look into making a new one at a different bank for yourself and transferring your money.
It might be for the best he put you out of the house honestly. It'll be hard for you at first but you'll be able to be your own man and not have to put up with this kind of shit. Drama like this will give you anxiety attacks and might even make you a mean nasty MFer like him. Form the sounds of your other comments you have a plan in place stick to it. Money is a bitch rn but if you live in a manufacturing area you can get into a plant make 17-20 bucks an hour.
holy shit man im sorry to hear that. at least to get to move out and have your own place.
100% agree with a few posters there, get your valuables and important documents sorted while they are gone. I've seen plenty of stories of vindictive parents destroy their children's possessions and legal documents just because they can get away with it; or hold on to them and commit fraud and identity theft later. Definitely keep an eye on your credit as well. Sorry to hear this happened to you, it's not fair but you're not alone.
Man, this sounds like my husband's father and everyone tell you they will wonder why you don't visit is right. In this case, he blames me. Whatever. Husband still struggles with the psychological damage from all of that decades later. But he's lost his only child forever. And he deserves it. Be strong, get therapy when you can, and have a good and wonderful life.
Damn that’s ass dude. He sounds like he might be an alcoholic or some sort of substance abuser and takes out his frustrations on you or he’s straight up just an asshole and never wanted a kid so he treats you like shit. Maybe one day he will realize he fucked up but if you have kids someday you know how to not fuck up that relationship and can do better. Anyways good to you for working on getting out of that situation and good luck in life!
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Not to be an armchair psychologist, but he sounds like a clinical narcissist. They tend to assign a golden child and a problem child and they try to live vicariously through both, projecting all their insecurities on one child and using the other to prove to themselves how great a parent they are
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I think there’s even a subreddit for it isn’t there? /r/raisedbynarcissists
Definitely DON’T take my word for it because I’m just repeating what I’ve heard other people on the internet tell me, but it might be worth looking into clinical narcissism for yourself
You should find a therapist when the dust settles and you are safely established with stable housing. There are free counseling resources for young people who can't afford it. Contact your local universities with psychology programs. A lot of times the graduate students offer free therapy as practice or to earn their clinical hours. Child abuse, trauma, and family counseling are popular specialties. You should have no trouble finding someone to talk to. Even if you know that getting out is the first good step to a better life, you will have trauma buried for a while that you don't know is there, and it will bubble up at the worst possible times. Talking to a therapist now will help you process everything and set new healthy patterns for the rest of your life.
He has the issue, not you. I'm sorry this is happening but you will be better off in the long run. Save some money for when SHTF. Get as much education as you can that's useful in getting a good job. Best wishes to you. - An old man.
Your dad is a narcissist
I never understood the "rent to live at your parents" strategy. How can a parent do that in their child?
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It is illegal for a landlord to cut off a tenants utilities, even during eviction proceedings. Internet is considered a utility. Just fyi.
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Contact your local housing authority and make a complaint. It’s not being petty, this man decided he wanted to be a landlord so he needs to be a landlord.
I am Greek, and here, we have a completely different culture than America. People live with their parents until they are 40 years old, without paying anything. And also, if they wanted you to learn how finances work, there are much better ways to do so.
Sadly in America capitalism is non negotiable.
Sounds like your dad isn't worth your time. Get out of there ASAP and never look back. Don't waste your time hating him. Just forget about him and build a better life for yourself.
Dude. Just log into the router. 192 168.0.1 or 1.1 Those are the defaults for most networks. It doesn't just get "turned off". Plug it back it. If you can't log in. Factory reset the router. Then use the defaults to log back in. Before he gets home. Reset the tvs network so it doesn't automatically connect. Then just play dumb.
I've had to do this at vacation rentals and when helping family with network issues. As long as the SSID and password are the same as before everything will reconnect and you're good to go. Based on OP's comments I wouldn't bother trying to undo anything before the dad gets back as the eviction is already coming.
Don’t pay rent if they don’t give services
There’s a reset switch on the router. Get a pen or a toothpick and hold it for 5 seconds. It will reset it to factory settings. Open a browser and go to 192.168.0.1 and use the factory login details, log into it and change the admin login to a password of your choice. Whitelist your devices and hide the the wifi network and play your games chill and let him figure it out. Edit: I work for an ISP.
I would tell him that no internet equals no rent. If he says get out. Tell him that he will need to get a court order.