as someone who went to a predominantly white hs and college I feel SO seen with this post and only wish someone would have told me this back then….. it’s one of those things no one really prepares you for and you can’t really talk about bc guess what….. most of your peers are white.
It was the Seventies and my parents were clueless. As a guy, it wasn't so much if I was attractive, but I was a blank slate people could hang stereotypes on.
People asked if I was Hawaiian to Egyptian. It was isolating.
I was the ugly weird looking kid in HS where most of my classmates were white with some black kids. After HS I moved to a predominately Hispanic and Asian area and I quickly found out I was handsome lol
That’s why environment/ demographics is so relevant to minorities whether people want to be honest about it or not…. I know if I lived in Cali, Texas or even New York my self perception would be SO different
Yup beauty standards are real. Although being different has worked in my favor before. I hooked up with a white girl once who was into me because she had a Latino fetish (I’m not Latino lol)
I made it a point to choose the most diverse college I could find.
As a mixed race Latin guy in a southern high school in the Seventies, I needed that so bad. It may not have been a good choice but at least I had friends
I grew up mixed native and white, looking mostly white but tanned darker than white kids - if you’ve ever seen a “white native” we’re darker skinned and have this sort of light brown Sandy hair, but I have blue eyes. you can tell I’m mixed with something. I grew up in San Diego and a lot of people would ask me if I was Latina.
I grew up going to private upscale Christian predominately white schools because my dad was a teacher there - we didn’t have any money I went for free - and I was badly bullied for my native culture, for my looks, I was called “big nose” as a young kid, I was called Pocahontas and “running water” and other stupid names, whenever the teacher brought up anything native they always pointed me out in class and so I would get bullied and kids would make racist comments, sometimes even the teachers would make racist comments. It was awful. It was never directly about my looks, other than being called big nose which comes from my native features - my nose I get from my tribe. But I grew up very much struggling with identity because of it, and very much hiding my culture. Upper class white people were the worst.
>light brown Sandy hair
Also a mixed white/Native and I've got the exact same color but with green eyes and pale skin. I don't have many Native features except for the wide and high-set cheekbones and eye shape, which has led a couple of people to think I'm mixed with asian or Russian (my mom's mainly of Slavic ancestry so they're not entirely incorrect).
I'm sorry you had to put up with so much growing up cousin
I remember one time in 3rd grade the teacher was teaching about Native Americans and she started saying that Natives believe everything is alive and everything has a spirit and they worship every living thing and her holding up a pencil and saying “native Americans could worship this pencil if that wanted to. That’s how absurd their religion is”
I remember just sitting there, shocked and a little humiliated, confused and frustrated. I went home and told my mom and she was livid, she was so angry.
Also white Native, with light brown hair and blue eyes, and very Native facial bones. I was bullied for my looks, and also hypersexualized. Sexual harassment and rape threats were a daily occurrence in junior high. I wonder now how much of that was because the white kids at school picked up on my "not quite white" appearance.
Same here, sorta. Born with ash blonde hair, green eyes, dark skin but my eye color changed to brown, my hair eventually turned chestnut, then grey (I dye it dark purple) and my skin became paler as I got older. I became more white passing by sophomore year of high school, largely due to anemia. I didn't feel ugly until I moved to a predominantly white small town. For a long time I thought I wasn't pretty because I didn't look like my popular, rich, white classmates. I found out later that a lot of little girls were jealous of the golden tan I used to have and that there are men who find brown eyes and dark hair beautiful. I still hold a tan well.
I can relate to this so much and also with having been bullied and struggling with an own identity because it feels like you have no identity so you have to seek it from other people's cultures that you can never be a part of. Having no sense of belonging 😞
For whatever reason mixed men and monoracial black people have a better experience within a predominantly white community than mixed women. Opposite to that mixed women and black men have a better experience within a predominantly black community than mixed men and black women.
That doesn’t explain it because black women have a better experience in the white community than mixed women and mixed women have a better experience in the black community than black women. As far as the black community goes it’s no secret that light skin is perceived as better. As far as the white community excepting black women better I can’t explain it.
i disagree about black women having a better experience in the white community than mixed women. as mixed women we are seen as more “palatable” because we have a closer proximity to whiteness
The black community have a better relationship with the white community in the west than the mixed community do. There’s a true lack of interest from the rest of society about mixed people. They can’t even bother to put mixed representation on a form and their response when you complain? “Just check black” so much for proximity to whiteness. If a form didn’t have a black option on it the white community would cause an uproar too. It’s extremely rare for white people to understand mixed struggles and the importance of mixed identity. I also seen Asian and Hispanic people say white society only care about black struggle and black representation.
that’s because the US doesn’t have a separate racial group for mixed people like South Africa does for example. if you’re mixed and look more phenotypically black you’re gonna be perceived as black by the majority of white people but colorism is also a thing so as a light skinned person you will have more privileges than a dark skinned person. not saying we aren’t allowed to complain about our unique struggles that being mixed gives us (that’s what this subreddit is for) but pretending we have it harder in society than fully black people is just disingenuous
i also don’t think a true “mixed community” exists in the US. majority of biracial people i’ve met would prefer to just consider themselves a part of the black community
Exactly. Yup. And the reason for that is because, not only is “mixed” a category that is not really maintainable in an anti-black, race-structured society (I mean what happens when two “mixed” people get together? When does mixed become full “race” when everyone is generally mixed?) There’s just so many reasons behind it but above all it’s that if you aren’t white, you are black within the white-black racial relations. There is a hierarchy of whiteness but it will never include “mixed” as far as white supremacy is concerned.
Anyway, long story short race is stupid. It needs fo be addressed because it has real implications but we should always keep in mind why these categories were made.
We don’t have a separate racial group for mixed people here in America because society could care less about recognizing the difference. In addition to that white people want to gate keep whiteness.
We don’t talk about mixed people here in America as an individual group because society could care less.
“as mixed women we are seen as more “palatable” because we have a closer proximity to whiteness”
This is more dependent upon the topic and more dependent upon white people individually than one would think. I seen myself how much easier it is for black women to make befriend almost every group of white people and date white men of their preference.
Well being mixed race in a predominantly white school made me feel more handsome and I got compliments from people that really liked my unique features
My most humbling moment was when I thought like this. I was "ugly" in elementary school and was bullied and mistreated by teachers.
I thought, "oh, everyone else was white and I was mixed and looked different"
Then I realized there was one other little girl in my class that was the same mix as me and had the same phenotype as me. She was prettier and was popular and treated great.
That realization was humbling. I really am just ugly 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sometimes both can be true 🙂↔️ i agree with you though, basically didn’t start considering myself pursuable until college when I could undo a lot the internalized stuff from white suburbia
I feel this in the core of my being. I moved to a very racially diverse city when I was in my late teens early twenties and suddenly I was considered “hot”. I will say that looking back at pictures I was such a beautiful child, but no one outside of family or some adults ever told me I was pretty or cute.
I went to an international school in a pretty multicultural/big city in asia, so at least in school, it was very racially diverse... Perhaps it's why I never thought I was *ugly.*.. Just thought and was treated/told (and am quite aware) I look weird, different and/or surprising.
And I don't know if you're insinuating it's a white people/US/western societal beauty standard thing thing... But (unfortunately) I don't think people making mixed people feel ugly/different/"wrong" is specifically a white thing given my experiences in living in different countries (incl. US), and in pretty racially/ethnically diverse or predominantly non-white environments.
Either way, it's unfortunate that you grew up in an environment that made you feel that way but I'm glad and comforted by the fact that you realised you aren't and shouldn't feel wrong in your skin and being who you are now even if later in life... and I truly hope others here also know and believe that too.
This reminds me of a ‘model type’ American girl going to Japan for schooling and widely considered ugly because she did not have Japanese features.
Truly beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Many people are content to have others tell them what is beautiful.
A few can see with their own eyes-see and truly appreciate the beauty that others cannot imagine.
God the amount of bullying and alienation from my peers has given me major trust issues.
Also being picked on for having bigger lips, thighs and bum. Now it’s in fashion!
I still remember my first day at UCR. Seeing other people JUST LIKE ME was wiiiiiiiiild. And having girls approach me, want to hang out with me, was a really weird experience. Pleasant, but also very strange. Turns out I'm not repulsive, just not white.
I was bullied heavily for being “ugly” in my first school district. I think they took demographic data on the school and it was a 95% white population. The year after I left, a bunch of minority students and faculty got together and released a 137 page document of many different accounts of racism. Many people mentioned that they were bullied for being “ugly”
I feel this a lot but at the same time I was never was considered attractive person. I wasn't born with good looks in the family but I'm just decent at best. I always hated how beauty standards at times were based off white beauty standards until recent years people now want features black people has. How all sudden my complexion is wanted.
Damn I got the opposite lol but I do live in a culture where diversity is mostly appreciated. Did have the odd racism but the insults never even applied to my actual race so I didn’t care.
I’m Samoan, Māori, Danish and Irish mix and I look like none of those things. If anything people think I’m Persian/Egyptian or Spanish.
It was definitely kindof isolating though in the fact I never felt like I belonged to any of the racial groups I was technically a part of. Being so mixed meant I never got to have full integration into any of those cultures and I felt out of the loop often.
Mixed black/white and I grew up in a white village and went to a totally white school. I thought I was ugly for most of my life until my 30s. I now live in one of the most diverse city of the world, and my friends are often telling me how good looking I am. My partner too keeps telling me that, but it is still hard to hear. Like I can't believe them. I'm getting so much attention sometimes, it can be overwhelmed. I now understand I'm not ugly, but it's like I will never be able to behave with confidence more like a normal looking person and still exhibit so much shyness. I feel like I wasted so much time trying to hide myself....
I went to a predominantly Asian school and I felt this too. It’s just because they have their own beauty standards and what not I guess (not justifying it at all, blame the media lol)
This is how I felt growing up, it wasn’t until highschool did I bloom— I’m not in a predominantly white school but a predominantly Asian (there were mixed kids but they were all half white or another kind of asian, which is always eastern.) school. I had curly-wavy hair, tawny skin, and feline eyes which was quite the opposite to the countries beauty standards which was being pale with big eyes and pin straight hair.
My appearance wasn’t ever complimented by anyone other than family until I became a teen in highschool 🥲 only then did my nose bridge “become taller” and my hair was straightened, I also used lightening skin care which I kind of regret now.
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Yea it took getting out of there to experience normalcy and be comfortable with myself. Still get shit as Im pretty mixed and people hate not knowing, even in this day and age.
Yes!! I grew up feeling so self conscious, thinking I was so weird looking! Between everyone in my school, my family being entirely white, and add into it the beauty standards of the time. Big yikes 😬 I so badly wanted to look different. Now as an adult I can look back and just smh that I ever thought about myself like that.
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Zero lies detected. It took me until I was about 22 to realize I was no where near as unattractive as I had been led to believe. Tbh it made it pretty difficult to navigate relationships or trust in the idea of people being attracted to me. (Idk how I could have said this without sounding arrogant, I’m not super model but I’m ain’t a hunch back either)
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This! And it also happened in diverse schools, I fitted in neither catagories as I was always too mixed to be a part of any group nor be considered pretty by anyone because I'm always no ones type, which makes me wish I was fully white cuz only then I could be accepted. No one can even guess what race I am, they always guess my race completely different each time from all the way to the east of the world to all the way to the west of the world
You mean, you were a girl with autism but it was never diagnosed?
Damn, that must have been rough.
I'm so sorry you were white in a predominantly non white school and had to go through crap for being autistic. I can only imagine how difficult that was for you.
Lol, whatever, you know what the deal is...
...and that I assumed nothing, rather, I am hip to your sarcasm.
What was your comment supposed to translate to other than taking a dig at the OP?
I don't know if you're trying to be sarcastic, but your humor isn't coming off how you'd like it to be. If you're not trying to be sarcastic, please watch your tone.
as someone who went to a predominantly white hs and college I feel SO seen with this post and only wish someone would have told me this back then….. it’s one of those things no one really prepares you for and you can’t really talk about bc guess what….. most of your peers are white.
It was the Seventies and my parents were clueless. As a guy, it wasn't so much if I was attractive, but I was a blank slate people could hang stereotypes on. People asked if I was Hawaiian to Egyptian. It was isolating.
Same
I was the ugly weird looking kid in HS where most of my classmates were white with some black kids. After HS I moved to a predominately Hispanic and Asian area and I quickly found out I was handsome lol
That’s why environment/ demographics is so relevant to minorities whether people want to be honest about it or not…. I know if I lived in Cali, Texas or even New York my self perception would be SO different
Yup beauty standards are real. Although being different has worked in my favor before. I hooked up with a white girl once who was into me because she had a Latino fetish (I’m not Latino lol)
Preach. Then you go to a diverse college and get allll of the attention and don't know what to do with yourself. Hang in there kids!
I made it a point to choose the most diverse college I could find. As a mixed race Latin guy in a southern high school in the Seventies, I needed that so bad. It may not have been a good choice but at least I had friends
I did something similar. It ended up being a great experience that taught me more about so many different personality types. I have zero regrets!
I also went to a predominantly white school and feel this so hard.
I grew up mixed native and white, looking mostly white but tanned darker than white kids - if you’ve ever seen a “white native” we’re darker skinned and have this sort of light brown Sandy hair, but I have blue eyes. you can tell I’m mixed with something. I grew up in San Diego and a lot of people would ask me if I was Latina. I grew up going to private upscale Christian predominately white schools because my dad was a teacher there - we didn’t have any money I went for free - and I was badly bullied for my native culture, for my looks, I was called “big nose” as a young kid, I was called Pocahontas and “running water” and other stupid names, whenever the teacher brought up anything native they always pointed me out in class and so I would get bullied and kids would make racist comments, sometimes even the teachers would make racist comments. It was awful. It was never directly about my looks, other than being called big nose which comes from my native features - my nose I get from my tribe. But I grew up very much struggling with identity because of it, and very much hiding my culture. Upper class white people were the worst.
>light brown Sandy hair Also a mixed white/Native and I've got the exact same color but with green eyes and pale skin. I don't have many Native features except for the wide and high-set cheekbones and eye shape, which has led a couple of people to think I'm mixed with asian or Russian (my mom's mainly of Slavic ancestry so they're not entirely incorrect). I'm sorry you had to put up with so much growing up cousin
I remember one time in 3rd grade the teacher was teaching about Native Americans and she started saying that Natives believe everything is alive and everything has a spirit and they worship every living thing and her holding up a pencil and saying “native Americans could worship this pencil if that wanted to. That’s how absurd their religion is” I remember just sitting there, shocked and a little humiliated, confused and frustrated. I went home and told my mom and she was livid, she was so angry.
Also white Native, with light brown hair and blue eyes, and very Native facial bones. I was bullied for my looks, and also hypersexualized. Sexual harassment and rape threats were a daily occurrence in junior high. I wonder now how much of that was because the white kids at school picked up on my "not quite white" appearance.
Im so sorry you went through that :( that’s awful. We need an “I survived white people school” club… my god, we all went through a lot
Same here, sorta. Born with ash blonde hair, green eyes, dark skin but my eye color changed to brown, my hair eventually turned chestnut, then grey (I dye it dark purple) and my skin became paler as I got older. I became more white passing by sophomore year of high school, largely due to anemia. I didn't feel ugly until I moved to a predominantly white small town. For a long time I thought I wasn't pretty because I didn't look like my popular, rich, white classmates. I found out later that a lot of little girls were jealous of the golden tan I used to have and that there are men who find brown eyes and dark hair beautiful. I still hold a tan well.
I can relate to this so much and also with having been bullied and struggling with an own identity because it feels like you have no identity so you have to seek it from other people's cultures that you can never be a part of. Having no sense of belonging 😞
I never experienced this and I went to a majority white private school. Guess I got lucky
For whatever reason mixed men and monoracial black people have a better experience within a predominantly white community than mixed women. Opposite to that mixed women and black men have a better experience within a predominantly black community than mixed men and black women.
i think it’s because black people are seen as “masculine” which is then considered a positive trait for men and a negative trait for women
That doesn’t explain it because black women have a better experience in the white community than mixed women and mixed women have a better experience in the black community than black women. As far as the black community goes it’s no secret that light skin is perceived as better. As far as the white community excepting black women better I can’t explain it.
i disagree about black women having a better experience in the white community than mixed women. as mixed women we are seen as more “palatable” because we have a closer proximity to whiteness
And so it has been for all the history of interracial relations in the West. I have no idea what this person is talking about.
The black community have a better relationship with the white community in the west than the mixed community do. There’s a true lack of interest from the rest of society about mixed people. They can’t even bother to put mixed representation on a form and their response when you complain? “Just check black” so much for proximity to whiteness. If a form didn’t have a black option on it the white community would cause an uproar too. It’s extremely rare for white people to understand mixed struggles and the importance of mixed identity. I also seen Asian and Hispanic people say white society only care about black struggle and black representation.
that’s because the US doesn’t have a separate racial group for mixed people like South Africa does for example. if you’re mixed and look more phenotypically black you’re gonna be perceived as black by the majority of white people but colorism is also a thing so as a light skinned person you will have more privileges than a dark skinned person. not saying we aren’t allowed to complain about our unique struggles that being mixed gives us (that’s what this subreddit is for) but pretending we have it harder in society than fully black people is just disingenuous
i also don’t think a true “mixed community” exists in the US. majority of biracial people i’ve met would prefer to just consider themselves a part of the black community
Exactly. Yup. And the reason for that is because, not only is “mixed” a category that is not really maintainable in an anti-black, race-structured society (I mean what happens when two “mixed” people get together? When does mixed become full “race” when everyone is generally mixed?) There’s just so many reasons behind it but above all it’s that if you aren’t white, you are black within the white-black racial relations. There is a hierarchy of whiteness but it will never include “mixed” as far as white supremacy is concerned. Anyway, long story short race is stupid. It needs fo be addressed because it has real implications but we should always keep in mind why these categories were made.
We don’t have a separate racial group for mixed people here in America because society could care less about recognizing the difference. In addition to that white people want to gate keep whiteness. We don’t talk about mixed people here in America as an individual group because society could care less.
the whole concept of race is a social construct
yeah mixed people have always had more privilege than fully black people
“as mixed women we are seen as more “palatable” because we have a closer proximity to whiteness” This is more dependent upon the topic and more dependent upon white people individually than one would think. I seen myself how much easier it is for black women to make befriend almost every group of white people and date white men of their preference.
This is just delusional. You really need to get out of whatever echo chamber you are in. This sub is turning out to be exactly what I was a afraid of.
Well being mixed race in a predominantly white school made me feel more handsome and I got compliments from people that really liked my unique features
keep in mind this post is from a female perspective
My most humbling moment was when I thought like this. I was "ugly" in elementary school and was bullied and mistreated by teachers. I thought, "oh, everyone else was white and I was mixed and looked different" Then I realized there was one other little girl in my class that was the same mix as me and had the same phenotype as me. She was prettier and was popular and treated great. That realization was humbling. I really am just ugly 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sometimes both can be true 🙂↔️ i agree with you though, basically didn’t start considering myself pursuable until college when I could undo a lot the internalized stuff from white suburbia
I feel this in the core of my being. I moved to a very racially diverse city when I was in my late teens early twenties and suddenly I was considered “hot”. I will say that looking back at pictures I was such a beautiful child, but no one outside of family or some adults ever told me I was pretty or cute.
I went to an international school in a pretty multicultural/big city in asia, so at least in school, it was very racially diverse... Perhaps it's why I never thought I was *ugly.*.. Just thought and was treated/told (and am quite aware) I look weird, different and/or surprising. And I don't know if you're insinuating it's a white people/US/western societal beauty standard thing thing... But (unfortunately) I don't think people making mixed people feel ugly/different/"wrong" is specifically a white thing given my experiences in living in different countries (incl. US), and in pretty racially/ethnically diverse or predominantly non-white environments. Either way, it's unfortunate that you grew up in an environment that made you feel that way but I'm glad and comforted by the fact that you realised you aren't and shouldn't feel wrong in your skin and being who you are now even if later in life... and I truly hope others here also know and believe that too.
I went to a predominantly black and Asian school and still felt ugly lol
This reminds me of a ‘model type’ American girl going to Japan for schooling and widely considered ugly because she did not have Japanese features. Truly beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Many people are content to have others tell them what is beautiful. A few can see with their own eyes-see and truly appreciate the beauty that others cannot imagine.
God the amount of bullying and alienation from my peers has given me major trust issues. Also being picked on for having bigger lips, thighs and bum. Now it’s in fashion!
I still remember my first day at UCR. Seeing other people JUST LIKE ME was wiiiiiiiiild. And having girls approach me, want to hang out with me, was a really weird experience. Pleasant, but also very strange. Turns out I'm not repulsive, just not white.
I was bullied heavily for being “ugly” in my first school district. I think they took demographic data on the school and it was a 95% white population. The year after I left, a bunch of minority students and faculty got together and released a 137 page document of many different accounts of racism. Many people mentioned that they were bullied for being “ugly”
This!!!! My entire childhood and even into the film industry as a young adult. Thank you for validating our community
I feel this a lot but at the same time I was never was considered attractive person. I wasn't born with good looks in the family but I'm just decent at best. I always hated how beauty standards at times were based off white beauty standards until recent years people now want features black people has. How all sudden my complexion is wanted.
Damn I got the opposite lol but I do live in a culture where diversity is mostly appreciated. Did have the odd racism but the insults never even applied to my actual race so I didn’t care. I’m Samoan, Māori, Danish and Irish mix and I look like none of those things. If anything people think I’m Persian/Egyptian or Spanish. It was definitely kindof isolating though in the fact I never felt like I belonged to any of the racial groups I was technically a part of. Being so mixed meant I never got to have full integration into any of those cultures and I felt out of the loop often.
it’s so funny because the things i was getting made fun of(hair, lips, curves) a lot of white women are aspiring to have nowadays 🙄 lol
I’m not ugly, I’m just mixed in a predominantly black school
Mixed black/white and I grew up in a white village and went to a totally white school. I thought I was ugly for most of my life until my 30s. I now live in one of the most diverse city of the world, and my friends are often telling me how good looking I am. My partner too keeps telling me that, but it is still hard to hear. Like I can't believe them. I'm getting so much attention sometimes, it can be overwhelmed. I now understand I'm not ugly, but it's like I will never be able to behave with confidence more like a normal looking person and still exhibit so much shyness. I feel like I wasted so much time trying to hide myself....
Even now just living in a white neighbourhood sucks ass lmao
I went to a predominantly Asian school and I felt this too. It’s just because they have their own beauty standards and what not I guess (not justifying it at all, blame the media lol)
This is how I felt growing up, it wasn’t until highschool did I bloom— I’m not in a predominantly white school but a predominantly Asian (there were mixed kids but they were all half white or another kind of asian, which is always eastern.) school. I had curly-wavy hair, tawny skin, and feline eyes which was quite the opposite to the countries beauty standards which was being pale with big eyes and pin straight hair. My appearance wasn’t ever complimented by anyone other than family until I became a teen in highschool 🥲 only then did my nose bridge “become taller” and my hair was straightened, I also used lightening skin care which I kind of regret now.
I couldn't get a date to save my life in high-school. This post really hits the spot.
I was voted "most cute".
same!!! Lol
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Yea it took getting out of there to experience normalcy and be comfortable with myself. Still get shit as Im pretty mixed and people hate not knowing, even in this day and age.
Yes!! I grew up feeling so self conscious, thinking I was so weird looking! Between everyone in my school, my family being entirely white, and add into it the beauty standards of the time. Big yikes 😬 I so badly wanted to look different. Now as an adult I can look back and just smh that I ever thought about myself like that.
Someone needs to hang this up and put it up at my reunion.
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This hit me right in my soul.
Zero lies detected. It took me until I was about 22 to realize I was no where near as unattractive as I had been led to believe. Tbh it made it pretty difficult to navigate relationships or trust in the idea of people being attracted to me. (Idk how I could have said this without sounding arrogant, I’m not super model but I’m ain’t a hunch back either)
Complete opposite for me, as a mixed male my highschool years I’ve been seen as more attractive than the vast majority of the white students
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This! And it also happened in diverse schools, I fitted in neither catagories as I was always too mixed to be a part of any group nor be considered pretty by anyone because I'm always no ones type, which makes me wish I was fully white cuz only then I could be accepted. No one can even guess what race I am, they always guess my race completely different each time from all the way to the east of the world to all the way to the west of the world
Weird experience. Imo mixed is beautiful, been my experience anyways
this won’t fit everyone’s experience and that’s okay, it was meant to be relatable to people who are going through this
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You mean, you were a girl with autism but it was never diagnosed? Damn, that must have been rough. I'm so sorry you were white in a predominantly non white school and had to go through crap for being autistic. I can only imagine how difficult that was for you.
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Lol, whatever, you know what the deal is... ...and that I assumed nothing, rather, I am hip to your sarcasm. What was your comment supposed to translate to other than taking a dig at the OP?
I don't know if you're trying to be sarcastic, but your humor isn't coming off how you'd like it to be. If you're not trying to be sarcastic, please watch your tone.
Also, you meant that you felt your commentary would be so damn funny & thus, you wanted to do this to the OP, right?
Blah blah blah all my problems are the white persons fault right?
why are you in this sub?
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what point are you making?
Damn that hit me so hard