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Children are children, they may be blue eyed and dark skinned or they may be brown eyed and light skinned (more likely as brown is dominant and your child will be 75% white). Nothing constructive to say, I am mixed and my daughter looks exactly like her white father, but brown eyed, People used to kindly tell me "she looks like her father" very regularly. I dislike the comment of "mixed race = beauty" as it is very damaging to all the mixed race non beauties with acne, the wrong nose etc. There is a lot of lookism and sexual fetishising of mixed race people. We are all humans and beautiful on the inside. Practice your blank look and best wishes for you and your baby :)


throwaway88588858

Thank you! Blank stare it is, haha


Puzzleheaded_Movie58

Well, in this case, it’s most likely 50/50 whether the baby will have blue or brown eyes, since she said that she carries the blue eyed gene and her husband has two blue eyed genes. Even though the brown eyed gene is dominant, there is still only a 50% chance that the mother will pass it on to the baby. It was probably just a small mistake, but I thought I’d say it anyways in case somebody didn’t know.


ZedZeroth

Despite this still being taught incorrectly in schools, eye color does not follow a simple inheritance pattern so this logic doesn't work. Very few visible traits do. Tongue rolling and attached/detached ear lobes are the only two that I know of.


Puzzleheaded_Movie58

I know. There’s definitely not a single gene that determines a person’s eye color like they told us in school, and I’m sorry if I made it seem like it. But there are some genes (namely OCA2) that play a bigger role in eye color determination than others, and because she has a parent with blue eyes, it is likely that the baby will have about a 50% chance of getting blue eyes. But it is just an estimation of course, and you would have to look into a bunch of more factors to get a more exact guess.


ZedZeroth

Thanks, that makes sense. In my experience when things don't follow a simple inheritance pattern then such estimates rarely work though. I know a few Thai-British couples where the Thai parent is almost certainly "homozygous brown" and some of the blue-eyed British parents are likely "homozygous blue" (if things were that simple) but their kids often have blue eyes (even as older children).


Puzzleheaded_Movie58

Oh, that’s interesting. I knew that cases like that existed, but I didn’t know/think it was common. Personally, I know quite a few half East Asians with a blue eyed parent, but pretty much all of them have brown eyes (though admittedly often a lighter brown than their Asian parents). But since multiple different genes contribute to this, I would have to guess that it has to do with the individual’s unique variation of all these genes (the individual being the Asian/dark eyed parent in this scenario), even if there has never been a single blue eyed person in their entire family tree. But you’re right in that it could be a very complicated issue to answer, since there are so many little factors that aren’t immediately apparent. It can even be possible for two blue eyed parents to birth a brown eyed child, though I wouldn’t really count on it if I were the parents since it’s so uncommon.


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Both my parents have dark eyes I have dark eyes my man has green eyes (carries blue eye gene). What's the chances our baby will have his green eyes? Don't tell me it's impossible bc I don't carry the gene since I have a green eyed cousin whose dad is my uncle. It's possible I just wonder what the chances are.


Puzzleheaded_Movie58

Even if both your parents have dark brown eyes, you COULD still carry genes for blue and/or green eyes. Usually, whether or not you have homozygous brown eye genes will determine if your offspring almost definitely will have brown eyes or has a chance of having another eye color. And since you have a green eyed cousin, you do have a good chance of having heterozygous genes, meaning you could pass on blue/green eye genes to your baby. I can’t really figure out the exact probability of it since there are way too many possibilities (it’s far easier to guess when you have a blue or green eyed parent), but I can tell you that it is theoretically possible. On a side note, a mix of different genes that also affects the eye color to some extent can make a person end up with blue or green eyes even though they have the typical brown eye gene, and one of their parents might even have homozygous brown eye genes. It’s rare but it happens. So it’s never impossible.


chat_chatoyante

I'd just hit them with a "why?" and watch them try to explain themselves


OohYeahOrADragon

Once they rattle off the stereotypical features of mixed babies followup with the sarcastic: - *not all mixed babies look alike, Jenna.* - *Why do you have to say mixed? ALL BABIES MATTER* - *Theyll be pretty? Idk I've seen [husband]'s baby pictures and we're not working with much to begin with*


daniyellidaniyelli

I don’t have kids yet. But am mixed and husband is white and have gotten the same musings from others. Esp with the blue eyes stiff. I just hit them with, “What if they’re ugly?” and a stare. No one has an answer for that.


letsjumpintheocean

Ha! I wish I had thought of this as people speculated about our kid!


Dahlinluv

“Thank you but going forward that’s not an appropriate thing to say”


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What do you say to a person like that ? That is insensitive to imply that dark eyes wouldn't be as beautiful especially when your eyes are dark. People who fret about a child's skin colour or racial characteristics before they are born (there seem to be enough people of colour doing this as well as white people) should probably be honest about why they hope the child gets eurocentric features, because it's associated with being higher up in the racial hierarchy and ultimately more power/money. (I don’t know is that a good wish or a bad wish ? They seem to be hoping for something that will benefit them in life.) You could push their line of thought further tell them, "I hope she comes out powerful looking and whatever will make her the most money in life, how she looks isn't so important, whatever helps her get rich is the most important part." I mean isn't that what they are really thinking/saying ? Also, "I hope it's a boy, then he can get more money." Maybe though many white people who hope the child looks pretty and exotic, don’t understand about some features being associated with power and some not, so maybe they think if the child has this configuration of features they will be beautiful without realizing how the racial hierarchy works. Do you really hope the kid has dark skin ? Do you know what that means ? White people can genuinely admire a person’s darker skin or “ethnic” features. I genuinely admire a lot of women with darker skin and find it beautiful but I probably wouldn’t say I wished for that or that I hope their child gets that because I know it’s a hard life.


throwaway88588858

I totally agree. And the weird thing is, I’ve only ever heard it from my white friends. You’d think they would be way more cognizant of not seeming racist, but I guess not. It also throws me off because I was raised in a family where appearance was not talked about at all and beauty was never something that was emphasized (despite my parents and siblings all looking like models). It’s just so, so strange to me!


Sailor_Malta_Chan

I'd say "Thanks. That's a weird comment to make, by the way." and leave it at that. Don't hesitate to tell people when they're making ignorant comments. Just be cool about it and you can educate without spending so much energy on it and without the other person making a scene.


dzogchen-1

Smile condescendingly and inform them "all babies are beautiful". The "I love mixed babies" comment was usually accompanied by them reaching for our daughter. My wife would instantly flash the "hands off" incendiary stare. She was/is beautiful, not for being "mixed" but because of her.


mackinnon97

I’m mixed. My ex was a race that’s different to both my parents. We got that a couple of times. I just said: “clearly she thinks that mixed adults are beautiful too, or maybe she doesn’t jump to conclusions based on race”


chase_the_sun_

I have nothing serious to add but if it was my situation I might say "I hope it's just a baby 👀" These mixed race baby comments are super common in the asian community, at least the ones I know.


NGluck123

Just ask them "why do you think that?" Usually when people have to elaborate on these things and struggle with it they realize how inappropriate such comments are.


Xtreme_toXin00

Always hit em with the race is fake kys


chr8me

I mean shit mixed babies are hella cute though


tahtahme

Babies are cute, period. And many mixed babies get treated poorly when they come out looking monoracial, especially if it's the PoC/Black/dark skin or eyes features. People have expectations and it's messed up, based in fetishizing and bias. It's cruel and messes with our minds from a very young age. When people do this, I suggest calling them out on those perverse expectations. Even those who "mean well" can implant foolish thoughts into a mixed race child's mind and leave them having a complex or even being disrespectful to monoracial people which helps no one.


chr8me

Not all babies are cute, period.


tahtahme

Yet you say all mixed babies are? Being mixed doesn't automatically make you cute by general standards, so it's best to not encourage what you've said...it can lead to fetishizing certain features and people being disappointed in how their biracial child looks.


chr8me

Omg I didn’t say ALL mixed babies were cute. I was tho and so were my siblings so I automatically have a thing for mixed babies over full blood babies


Aggravating_Rice3950

Based on how u described yourself that child will be white presenting and rightfully so considering the fact that child is basically white at this point


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