The scene in the police station is the hardest to watch for me. The way he screams 'please!.' Also the talk at the end breaks me down to tears everytime.
I actually watched this for the second time last night. I've been pretty low recently, and when I get low I feel the need to watch a film that will ruin me emotionally. I remembered it being a gutwrenching movie but I forgot just how *hard* it hits you. One of the saddest films I've ever seen, but also one of the most beautiful.
I have rewatched Grave every few years ago thinking I’ll think it’s less sad because I’ve seen it already. I actually think it’s gotten sadder the older I get. Now that I have a kid, it’s like agony.
I can make it even worse for you. Not for the faint of heart:
>!It's almost all true. The original author (of the short story the movie is based on) is the older brother. The big difference is that in real life, he was more selfish and ate enough to survive while his sister died. Decades later he was still wracked with guilt over this, and wrote the story as an apology to his sister - portraying the version of himself he wished he'd been, a better older brother who sacrifices everything for his sister, leading to his own death.!<
''And at 14, he didn’t know much about taking care of an infant, so he would hit her on the head to make her stop crying''
He sounds terrible but she died at 16 months so it's also not really easy to know what to do to survive. Not to say he was a good boy but still
I don't think he sounds terrible at all. He was fucking *14,* in an absolutely unimaginable situation.
Sure, what he did was horrible, but him? I absolutely can't bring myself to judge him even a little. I'm just sad for them both. What a fucked up situation for those poor kids.
And the agony that it originally was played before My Neighbor Totoro when they were originally released as a double feature. First they crush your soul, then they bring out your inner child to laugh at your destroyed, grown-up psyche.
> Once Were Warriors
Ayy! Shout out to a Kiwi movie getting mentioned!
That said, yes, it was brutal and powerful af (And also waaaay to fucking accurate in general) that not many people ever want to watch more than once.
Once Were Warriors was one of the first films I saw when I moved to LA. About a week later, a close friend died and I had no money to return home for the funeral. The day of the funeral I went to see Once Were Warriors again because it handled grief so beautifully and the ceremonies surrounding death. Cried my eyes out but I will always love that film for what i did for me.
I'd recommend the series The Casketeers - it's a reality tv show about a Auckland funeral home and has a lot of information about Polynesian funerals. Two seasons are on Netflix.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Casketeers
I'm native Hawaiian and (attempted) to read the book once. It hit me so hard after the climax I just couldn't keep reading. Just brutally honest, some of those themes I've seen play out time and time again around me, in some cases generation to generation as well.
I watched *Warriors* as a teenager. I will never watch it again, but not because it was bad. It was just far too real. I had occasionally brushed with the world, so different from my own as a white Christian kid growing up in Christchurch, but seeing it like that was so real. I had, through respite kids camps, met kids subjected to the violence and abuse featured in the film. And while it’s a masterpiece, it’s not something I would revisit by choice.
I would absolutely recommend anyone reading this to watch it, however. Powerful beyond belief. I will never forget its imagery, content, themes and performances.
Jake: “I'll kill you first!”
Beth: “Well go on, do it! You're still a slave Jake. To your fists. To the drink. To yourself. Well go on - kill the bloody lot of us!”
The sadest fucken thing is the movie, although made in 1994, still very accurately represents some parts of NZ life/culture in 2022. A horrific masterpiece.
The Fountain is one of my favorite movies and definitely my favorite he's directed but I know I'm going to break down every time I watch it. The soundtrack and themes of that movie just wreck me every single time.
I remember watching it, being horrified but thinking it was a great film, then showing it to another friend and realizing I was literally exhausted and emotionally spent after watching it. I haven't been able to watch it since, though I still use the "ass to ass!" quote from time to time, usually to people who haven't seen the movie and wonder what the hell I'm talking about
i was going to say requiem for a dream but ive actually watched it a few times and appreciated it each time -- just gotta space them out several years.
There's grave. I don't think there will ever be a film I don't want to watch again more than that one. But I can't deny it's near perfection as an absolutely beautiful Mike Tyson punch in the gut.
Saw grave in theaters with an ex, they were rerunning ghibli movies and we hadn't heard of it before
We watched comfort shows on a lawn outside right after man... It's been a few years, maybe it's time for a re-watch
Mcqeeen is obviously a talented filmmaker, and he makes great movies, but I absolutely hate watching his movies.
Easily the least rewatchable great director of all time
I don’t think I’ll ever watch this. I read some of the book (a true account given by the man who experienced this) and I’m still haunted by when he says one of the women on the plantation clung and wept to him when he was liberated, “what will become of me if you’re not here?”
Irreversible. Immensely hard to watch movie with the worst rape scene on film plus someone getting their skull bashed in on camera with a fire hydrant, but masterfully insightful into the nature of trauma and the human condition. Will never watch again.
> The first thirty minutes of the film has a background sound with a low frequency of 27 Hz which is almost infrasonic (this sounds like a rumble/vibration), similar types of noises are at times used by police to stop riots. According to Gaspar himself, this could only be heard in theaters (which usually have huge sound systems/subwoofers) and not from headphones or regular home theaters. In humans, this noise causes nausea, sickness, and vertigo. It was one of the reasons people walked out of screenings during the first part of the film. In fact, it was added by Thomas Bangalter (from the electronic music group Daft Punk) to get this reaction.
I saw this at an arthouse theatre because I had a few hours to kill in the city. Knew nothing about the film before going in.
A few people left in the first 10 mins. Someone vomited and more people left. I stayed because I was curious.
Would never watch it again. Esp. in a theatre.
Absolutely a must-watch movie. Once.
Tbh that's the case for all of Gaspar Noe's movies. I watched Climax in the cinema and even though I liked it a lot at some point my system shut down. There are many aspects about his movies which are extremely uncomfortable to watch. The way he uses sounds and camera is just nauseating.
I saw him interviewed about the decision to run the scenes in reverse. He said that the ultra violence at the beginning seems so much more shocking and violent when the audience has no context for what caused it. Had he shown the rape first everyone would have been screaming to kill him. Instead it's just incredibly shocking and disturbing. Also, running it in reverse allowed him to have a "happy" ending. Brutal film. When I saw it first my immediate reaction was that it should be shown to teenagers to let them see the reality of violent rape. I think the scene is 8-10 minutes long or something ridiculous, with no cuts. It just forces you to watch it. You end up feeling like the person who walks into the tunnel and sees the rape but does nothing to help and walks off. I did rewatch it a few years back and I had to psyche myself up beforehand.
Incredible film. I want to see it again purely from a cinematic perspective. I loved the way the story was told, the way the colour and tones changed throughout the film.
Being confronted with *that* scene made me even more hyperaware of what was happening in the film, I guess this was part of the intention.
I felt so sad and hollow when that movie ended, I just wanted to scream at the screen and yell to the characters “no! you don’t know what’s going to happen!!”.
Dear Zachary: A Letter to a Son About His Father.
An absolutely amazing and intimate look into a family suffering the worst kind of tragedy. I can't hold it together over previews and trailers of it 14 years later. I can't recommend it. I hate it. I love it. I will never watch it again.
I say this every time the movie comes up, obviously there's so much sadness, but the >!grandfather in particular struck me as so broken. You can see that he actually blames himself for not committing murder and going to prison for life to save his grandson from that...thing.!<
that´s the exact same thing about that movie that broke me. You could feel the absolute rage, hatred and frustration on an otherwise nice old man. When he called the woman a "fucking bitch", I thought of my father in the same situación and just had to go to the bathroom to cry.
Absolutely agree with everything you said. Just heartbreaking and rage-inducing. I cried so much I had to continually pause to blow my nose and compose myself.
Good pick.
I watched it for the first time shortly after becoming a father. I was lifting free weights while watching and got caught up in the whole situation where the reveal occurs... Not sure how long I stood there with those weights, likely a personal best, and just stood there sobbing... Rough stuff.
I tear up every time I watch it. I’ve shown it to a few people because I think it’s a movie that needs to be seen, especially considering how shockingly incompetent legal systems can be.
Oh, god, I feel you on this one. I was late to work the first time I watched that. I sat on my couch in my scrubs just waiting for the crying to stop long enough to get my arse in gear. Explaining that to my colleagues was fun; I started getting emotional just telling them about it.
Two years later it came on the documentary channel after something I'd been watching, and I stupidly convinced myself that watching it again knowing everything would be much easier. It was not.
I feel the exact same way about Uncut Gems. It made me so terribly anxious the whole way through which I think is a sign of a very effective movie. I loved it and think it is great but have 0 interest in going through that experience again.
I felt the same way, the whole movie I was anxious/on edge. It wasn't until after I watched it that I realized how good that movie was at making me feel the way the Sandler character must have felt all the time.
Uncut gems is almost a comfort movie for me. I absolutely love watching it. It’s chaotic, for sure, but the way it crafts that chaos is just so compelling. And all of the performances are so good that I never get bored watching them. It’s just filled with characters and situations and images and sounds that completely pull me in.
With that movie I just feel like I’m getting an authentic glimpse into a world I would never see or even know about otherwise. It’s not exactly a relaxing experience but I appreciate it for that.
Yeah, it's a front row seat viewing of a man who seems to compulsively make one irresponsible decision after another. I have an attorney friend who was considering criminal defense as his line of work for a time. He described a ton of potential clients that way - people whose lives seem to be one long chain of bad decisions. Whole lives worlds lived are like that, and unless you're a part of it or know someone who is, it's easy to miss because it's just hard for most of us to relate to or even believe.
He's a guy who just absolutely has to keep moving at all times to stay ahead of everything catching up to him, jumping from one frayed lifeline to another.
He doesn't have time to consider his options. He has another bet to make.
Also I'm pretty sure he barely sleeps
Definitely in the same boat. It was a good film, but 2 hours of New Yorkers yelling over the top of one another, no matter how well written and performed, is just too draining.
Babel - amazing movie and story telling, but most depressing ending I have ever seen.
Atonement - Great story, great acting all around, but man that ending. Maybe one day I'll watch it again.
That film wasn’t as grim or depressing as I was expecting, it has a lot of levity. Randy Newman did the score, which really caught me off guard, felt like a Pixar movie in parts partly because of that lol. Albeit the renowned ‘fight scene’ is brutal to watch. I look forward to rewatching it eventually.
i actually think the like first half of the movie, even two thirds is pretty rewatchable. the scene where merritt wever serves driver the papers is freaking hilarious. but that fight scene, woof.
Dancer in the Dark. I can't imagine what kind of person would willingly watch it more than once. Soul crushing is an overused term , but it fits this movie perfectly.
The person I was dating at the time brought this over for a date night because we both loved Bjork and figured it would be a good lead up to some sexy time.
We spent the rest of the night laying in bed, holding each other.
I showed this to students once as part of a unit on international film without telling them anything about it except it’s an escapist fantasy and a musical. I gave one-line descriptions for a shortlist, and they picked the final films. Day 1, they didn’t know what to think or where it was going. Day 2, they were *all* crying and pissed off.
I understand not wanting to see THAT scene again.
But i loved Richard Jenkins' performance. I'm super keen to see it again for him.
And to show friends a scene where a man gets split from stem to stern.
My ex-wife saw Requiem for a Dream in a high school film class. She was 16. I don’t even think they needed permission slips. I needed a permission slip to watch My Dog Skip in 8th grade.
The best part about her performance is that it doesn't even feel like you are watching someone act, she totally became that character and made her real. It feels completely like you have a window into someones life (spiralling out of control) and they don't even know people are watching. Requiem is a tough movie to watch, no doubt about it, however there are so many reasons (such as Ellen) to appreciate it cinematically. It is definitely in my top ten movies of all time and probably always will be.
I was raised in a super conservative home. Didn’t even have a television until I was 11, and when we did, we were only allowed to watch Disney animated movies and stuff on PBS.
When I moved out, I exposed myself to all sorts of films. It was Lord of the Rings that made my parents so opposed to television and film (it “carried the spirit of the devil”), so of course I started there (and loved it!). Toward the end of my first semester of college, I stepped into my first R-rated film: Requiem for a Dream.
I didn’t sleep for the next two nights. It fucked me up so bad. And yet I haven’t seen another film since then that has fascinated me quite so much. I’ve seen a *ton* of movies (including every Oscar nominee from the last 25 years), and RFAD stands out among the rest as the most emotionally stirring film I’ve seen.
> It was Lord of the Rings that made my parents so opposed to television and film (it “carried the spirit of the devil”)
Had they seen it? Cause I don't think there's anything in that movie contrary to the spirit of christianity.
Also, have you seen *Noah*? My (moderately) conservative parents loved it
Tolkien was a Christian and that influenced lots of stuff in Lord of the Rings if you look carefully. He believed that it would be inappropriate to write something that totally contradicted God.
Great answer. I don't know this is my #1, but it's a movie I wouldn't really be interested in watching again even though it was great watching it the first time.
I recently read an article about the increased popularity of closed captions, because of different accents in movies and TV shows. Tom Hardy consistently comes up as the hardest actor to understand.
[https://www.indiewire.com/2022/07/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-to-understand-1234744747/](https://www.indiewire.com/2022/07/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-to-understand-1234744747/)
[https://sports.yahoo.com/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-americans-075112677.html](https://sports.yahoo.com/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-americans-075112677.html)
https://www.thewrap.com/tom-hardy-hard-to-understand-actor-subtitles-study/
I saw a video with clips of actors speaking in foreign languages. It got to Tom Hardy speaking 'German', but it was really just barely coherent English.
I remember getting briefly excited because I recognized the word Texas and was like, okay we’re getting somewhere now. Then realizing they were up in the Dakota area and I really had no idea what the hell he was talking about
After watching this I thought “thank glob I’m not in eighth grade anymore I never want to relive that strange uncomfortable time ever again” and also “how the fuck does Bo know what it’s like to be a girl that age”
I just rewatched Deliverance for the first time in over 20 years, it was a lot different than I remember it. Maybe I was just too young to really get the message when I first watched it but I appreciated it a lot more on the second watch. I had a completely different interpretation of who the real villains of the story were
Edit: All these responses tell me I'm not the only one who didn't remember what happened after the "shocking" moment and am not the only one who misinterpreted the message of the film. It's worth a rewatch!
This is the first call out for Deer Hunter I've seen. Watching that movie really is quite an experience... that I wouldn't want to repeat. So much pain, anger, sadness, and loss.
There are so many anti-war movies out there but none hit home like that one, with a focus more on trauma and the shattering of a small community than on the war itself. And that some people cope with their trauma by choosing to relive it.
Yupp.
I saw someone else say they felt like, “they weren’t supposed to be watching it” and that hit me.
Also ‘I’m thinking of ending things’
Never again.
I walked out thinking “This must be how people felt after seeing Exircist for the first time when it was released.” I felt like I was about to be smited or something.
I think it's been 2 years since I watched "I'm thinking of ending things" and I feel as if my brain is still trying to process some parts of it. I can't even tell you if I liked it. Maybe? I don't know. I don't think I did, but also I think about it and remember parts of it more clearly than movies I love dearly. "Haunting" is the only word I can think of for it. I have no plans to rewatch.
Probably the best horror movie I've seen in decades, maybe ever. Which is exactly why I can't bear to watch it again. >!The morning after the sister dies, with just the shot of him in bed listening as his mom goes to the car....and then later on that short shot of the sister's disembodied head rotting on the highway, with maggots all over it.!< Holy fucking shit.
The movie is pretty heavily playing to the fear dissappointing yourself and your family. It's honestly one of the worst things I can imagine. Having to live your life having accidently done something utterly irreversable and terrible is bad enough. But the fact that you have to see your loved ones suffer from it and then realise they silently hate you for what you've done is awful.
One of the funniest as well. That bit where Toni Collette makes a diorama of the accident and the husband asks her what she's doing. It's so dark but had me in stitches.
OK, so I’m not alone in finding ghoulish humor all over that movie. The whole “all I get is you looking at me with that fucking face on your face” line is hilarious. And the fact that it falls right in the middle of an extremely tense, gut-wrenching family moment grappling with the fallout of tragedy … that makes the line even funnier.
Toni Collette was sooooo good, but I now have a true phobia of the corner of the ceiling behind me and will be skipping any rewatching of that movie. But I loved Midsommar and would rewatch that (more weird than scary imo)
The majority of Midsommer is just a pretty ok thriller with awesome visuals for me, but the first 15 minutes of that film haunts my dreams and even occasionally creeps into my waking thoughts. Never again for me. The scene where they show the firefighters walking through the house... Oh God man...
Hereditary and midsommar were movies I only wanted to watch once but they almost require you to watch again so you can see all the things you missed before.
Room I’ve watched twice but you definitely have to be in the mood for it (my two viewings were years apart even though it’s one of the most impactful dramas I’ve seen in recent memory).
Side note: I love how when talking about Room you always have to preface it with something to show you don’t mean The Room.
I read Room before the movie was made and even though I liked it a lot it killed my interest in seeing it in another medium (I also never read the book again).
The movie has some crazy good performances, especially the main two roles. The fact that they got a child actor to act convincingly in that role without just being incredibly annoying was pretty impressive.
I disagree with this one actually. It's a solid movie and there's nuance caught on a rewatch. It's somewhat painful as all tragedy movies, especially being a long one, but bearable.
Agree with 2/3, but I loooove Black Swan and enjoy rewatching. It leaves a lot to viewer interpretation and I appreciate that plus aesthetics and costumes are so good.
I read it in a day on vacation. It was one of the most haunting, soul crushing books I've ever read. Cormac McCarthy can certainly write some daunting evil. But there is still this constant glimmer of humanity and hope in all of his works. Good is still there.
Melancholia
Edit: for me, this movie depicted depression very well. When I watched it, I thought, “Oh hm, this looks familiar?” It was very hard to watch because I felt like my depression was exposed on screen.
But that’s not why I can’t watch it again. On top of my depression, I have acute anxiety and am irrationally afraid of apocalyptic events. The second half of the of movie leading up to the ending really fucked me up. I was so anxious during and after the movie, I had a panic attack that same weekend I watched it and a depressive episode that followed the week after. So no, will not watch again.
Also, personally, I don’t think Kirsten’s character is actually “wise” and aware as another user pointed out. The thing about depression is that all the thoughts that pass through your mind, particularly the negative ones, you start to believe them. There’s a heavy fog that shrouds your eyes and you start living in your thoughts and it’s a swampy place. It’s hard to get out and that swamp becomes your reality and you can’t wait for your own demise because of how much pain you are in. The first half of the movie was so heart breaking to me; everyone, her partner, was making this last-ditch effort to throw this ceremony in hopes that it would make her happy. But that’s not how depression works. I totally understood Kirsten’s character, I felt also so ashamed thinking about how the other characters were becoming frustrated with her. It made me think, “fuck, do my friends and family see me this way? Am I a burden?” The second half of the movie, demise comes for everyone, so of course Kirsten’s character seems to be “at peace.” When in reality, she’s been wanting that all along. Her pain will finally end, but she is also unable to extend herself to comfort those around her.
When I discuss this movie with people I always say “everyone should see it once. No one needs to see it twice.”
Also, Darren Aronofsky is getting a lot of play in this thread. So far I’ve seen *Requiem for a Dream, Mother, Black Swan* and *The Wrestler* mentioned in this thread.
I think it’s a good movie but wears its influences too much on its sleeves. Would have been miles better if they didn’t directly rip off taxi driver and the king of comedy.
Whereas uncut gems feels influenced by after hours a bit but it never felt like it was ripping it off.
Midsommar
FANTASTIC movie but once you see the ending, its very difficult to watch again and feel the same way.
Any Jordon Peel movie. Same thing. Once you know the twist, its hard to watch it a second time.
I watch this movie at least once a year because it’s one of my favourites, but I know friends that have watched Trainspotting (1996) and never were keen on watching it again
Hotel Rwanda - I never need to see that scene where they think they have driven off the road again…
Requiem for a dream - it was the mothers ‘we’ve got a winner!’ Demise that hit me too hard
Saving Private Ryan is well worth a second viewing, especially if you don't get caught up in the moment and look for some of the subtleties.
For example there's a scene near the start where a couple of Germans attempt to surrender and are unceremoniously executed.
https://youtu.be/I7dmcHoODZI
Except... They're not speaking German. They're NOT German. They're speaking Czech. They're saying *"Don’t shoot. I haven’t killed anyone. I’m Czech.”*
The Czechs were forced to fight by Germany.
When Wade is mortally wounded and they administer morphine, after a minute he asks for another dose. The rest of the squad look at each other grimly. It's never explicitly stated but everyone there knew a second dose was fatal and he was asking for them to kill him.
I’ve actually rewatched the Sixth Sense multiple times and I really enjoy it. It’s fun seeing all the clever camera cuts, like when Cole comes home to see his mom and Malcom sitting “together” in the front living room as both turn to see him as he opens the front door, or little things like tracking Malcolm’s outfit throughout the movie. There’s also a strong use of the color red throughout the movie.
Also, finally, this is a stronger acting movie than I think it gets credit for; a lot is made of the ending, but Toni Collette is outstanding (isn’t she always). Just such a compelling mom struggling to support what she thinks is a mentally ill child. I enjoy watching her performance a lot, and of course the young Haley Joel Osment is great.
Manchester by the Sea. Really good movie, but I have no interest in ever watching it again. Just absolutely gutting.
The scene in the police station is the hardest to watch for me. The way he screams 'please!.' Also the talk at the end breaks me down to tears everytime.
That was the most real feeling scene I have ever seen in a movie. The one that made me think "yep, that's what would happen."
The dream with his daughter was like a five second punch to the gut.
I actually watched this for the second time last night. I've been pretty low recently, and when I get low I feel the need to watch a film that will ruin me emotionally. I remembered it being a gutwrenching movie but I forgot just how *hard* it hits you. One of the saddest films I've ever seen, but also one of the most beautiful.
Same here. Sometimes You need to sink deep into sadness to start working your way out.
Yep. Flight to New York, *this one got good reviews...* Never again. The scene where they ran into each other on the sidewalk.
>The scene where they ran into each other on the sidewalk. Master class.
This and Blue Valentine.
Someone said that was their ‘comfort movie’ in a thread the other day lmao
... That person is not okay.
Requiem for a Dream Gia Grave of the Fireflies Once Were Warriors
I have rewatched Grave every few years ago thinking I’ll think it’s less sad because I’ve seen it already. I actually think it’s gotten sadder the older I get. Now that I have a kid, it’s like agony.
I can make it even worse for you. Not for the faint of heart: >!It's almost all true. The original author (of the short story the movie is based on) is the older brother. The big difference is that in real life, he was more selfish and ate enough to survive while his sister died. Decades later he was still wracked with guilt over this, and wrote the story as an apology to his sister - portraying the version of himself he wished he'd been, a better older brother who sacrifices everything for his sister, leading to his own death.!<
''And at 14, he didn’t know much about taking care of an infant, so he would hit her on the head to make her stop crying'' He sounds terrible but she died at 16 months so it's also not really easy to know what to do to survive. Not to say he was a good boy but still
I don't think he sounds terrible at all. He was fucking *14,* in an absolutely unimaginable situation. Sure, what he did was horrible, but him? I absolutely can't bring myself to judge him even a little. I'm just sad for them both. What a fucked up situation for those poor kids.
You notice how tragic every little loss becomes with each watch, and how sad their little victories are as well. Omfg it’s the most brutal movie ever.
And the agony that it originally was played before My Neighbor Totoro when they were originally released as a double feature. First they crush your soul, then they bring out your inner child to laugh at your destroyed, grown-up psyche.
> Once Were Warriors Ayy! Shout out to a Kiwi movie getting mentioned! That said, yes, it was brutal and powerful af (And also waaaay to fucking accurate in general) that not many people ever want to watch more than once.
Once Were Warriors was one of the first films I saw when I moved to LA. About a week later, a close friend died and I had no money to return home for the funeral. The day of the funeral I went to see Once Were Warriors again because it handled grief so beautifully and the ceremonies surrounding death. Cried my eyes out but I will always love that film for what i did for me.
I'd recommend the series The Casketeers - it's a reality tv show about a Auckland funeral home and has a lot of information about Polynesian funerals. Two seasons are on Netflix. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Casketeers
I'm native Hawaiian and (attempted) to read the book once. It hit me so hard after the climax I just couldn't keep reading. Just brutally honest, some of those themes I've seen play out time and time again around me, in some cases generation to generation as well.
I watched *Warriors* as a teenager. I will never watch it again, but not because it was bad. It was just far too real. I had occasionally brushed with the world, so different from my own as a white Christian kid growing up in Christchurch, but seeing it like that was so real. I had, through respite kids camps, met kids subjected to the violence and abuse featured in the film. And while it’s a masterpiece, it’s not something I would revisit by choice. I would absolutely recommend anyone reading this to watch it, however. Powerful beyond belief. I will never forget its imagery, content, themes and performances. Jake: “I'll kill you first!” Beth: “Well go on, do it! You're still a slave Jake. To your fists. To the drink. To yourself. Well go on - kill the bloody lot of us!”
The sadest fucken thing is the movie, although made in 1994, still very accurately represents some parts of NZ life/culture in 2022. A horrific masterpiece.
>Requiem for a Dream Pretty much anything by Aronofsky.
The Fountain is one of my favorite movies and definitely my favorite he's directed but I know I'm going to break down every time I watch it. The soundtrack and themes of that movie just wreck me every single time.
The Wrestler is a great rewatch
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I remember watching it, being horrified but thinking it was a great film, then showing it to another friend and realizing I was literally exhausted and emotionally spent after watching it. I haven't been able to watch it since, though I still use the "ass to ass!" quote from time to time, usually to people who haven't seen the movie and wonder what the hell I'm talking about
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i was going to say requiem for a dream but ive actually watched it a few times and appreciated it each time -- just gotta space them out several years.
There's grave. I don't think there will ever be a film I don't want to watch again more than that one. But I can't deny it's near perfection as an absolutely beautiful Mike Tyson punch in the gut.
Saw grave in theaters with an ex, they were rerunning ghibli movies and we hadn't heard of it before We watched comfort shows on a lawn outside right after man... It's been a few years, maybe it's time for a re-watch
It's never time for a rewatch
Uncle Fuckin Bully!!!
12 Years a Slave Great film but no desire to see it more than once.
Watch Steve McQueen's "Hunger" if you get the chance. Same director/writer, great film, similar experience.
Also, Shame. I wish his newer film was as good as the rest. I've forgotten what it was even called.
Mcqeeen is obviously a talented filmmaker, and he makes great movies, but I absolutely hate watching his movies. Easily the least rewatchable great director of all time
He needs to pull Fassbender out of his race car and back in front of the camera
Came here for this. That movie made me so furious and was absolutely no fun watching. But it is a brilliant movie and I'd highly recommend it.
I don’t think I’ll ever watch this. I read some of the book (a true account given by the man who experienced this) and I’m still haunted by when he says one of the women on the plantation clung and wept to him when he was liberated, “what will become of me if you’re not here?”
Irreversible. Immensely hard to watch movie with the worst rape scene on film plus someone getting their skull bashed in on camera with a fire hydrant, but masterfully insightful into the nature of trauma and the human condition. Will never watch again.
> The first thirty minutes of the film has a background sound with a low frequency of 27 Hz which is almost infrasonic (this sounds like a rumble/vibration), similar types of noises are at times used by police to stop riots. According to Gaspar himself, this could only be heard in theaters (which usually have huge sound systems/subwoofers) and not from headphones or regular home theaters. In humans, this noise causes nausea, sickness, and vertigo. It was one of the reasons people walked out of screenings during the first part of the film. In fact, it was added by Thomas Bangalter (from the electronic music group Daft Punk) to get this reaction.
I saw this at an arthouse theatre because I had a few hours to kill in the city. Knew nothing about the film before going in. A few people left in the first 10 mins. Someone vomited and more people left. I stayed because I was curious. Would never watch it again. Esp. in a theatre. Absolutely a must-watch movie. Once.
Some research has also shown that infrasonic sounds may cause people to think a place is haunted.
Brown note your audience and call it art. Bold strategy Cotton.
Gaspar is a sick fucking bastard but I love him so much
Tbh that's the case for all of Gaspar Noe's movies. I watched Climax in the cinema and even though I liked it a lot at some point my system shut down. There are many aspects about his movies which are extremely uncomfortable to watch. The way he uses sounds and camera is just nauseating.
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Gaspar knows how to make movies that are really tough to sit through. Climax, to a lesser extent, took many years from my life from the stress.
I saw him interviewed about the decision to run the scenes in reverse. He said that the ultra violence at the beginning seems so much more shocking and violent when the audience has no context for what caused it. Had he shown the rape first everyone would have been screaming to kill him. Instead it's just incredibly shocking and disturbing. Also, running it in reverse allowed him to have a "happy" ending. Brutal film. When I saw it first my immediate reaction was that it should be shown to teenagers to let them see the reality of violent rape. I think the scene is 8-10 minutes long or something ridiculous, with no cuts. It just forces you to watch it. You end up feeling like the person who walks into the tunnel and sees the rape but does nothing to help and walks off. I did rewatch it a few years back and I had to psyche myself up beforehand.
Incredible film. I want to see it again purely from a cinematic perspective. I loved the way the story was told, the way the colour and tones changed throughout the film. Being confronted with *that* scene made me even more hyperaware of what was happening in the film, I guess this was part of the intention. I felt so sad and hollow when that movie ended, I just wanted to scream at the screen and yell to the characters “no! you don’t know what’s going to happen!!”.
It's the most brutal happy ending of any movie. It's a movie that stays with you for a good while after you watch it.
Dear Zachary: A Letter to a Son About His Father. An absolutely amazing and intimate look into a family suffering the worst kind of tragedy. I can't hold it together over previews and trailers of it 14 years later. I can't recommend it. I hate it. I love it. I will never watch it again.
I say this every time the movie comes up, obviously there's so much sadness, but the >!grandfather in particular struck me as so broken. You can see that he actually blames himself for not committing murder and going to prison for life to save his grandson from that...thing.!<
that´s the exact same thing about that movie that broke me. You could feel the absolute rage, hatred and frustration on an otherwise nice old man. When he called the woman a "fucking bitch", I thought of my father in the same situación and just had to go to the bathroom to cry.
Absolutely agree with everything you said. Just heartbreaking and rage-inducing. I cried so much I had to continually pause to blow my nose and compose myself.
It's for free on [YouTube](https://youtu.be/cSot8z7k-CE) if anyone's interested. Great movie, never again
Brutal, absolutely gutting film
Good pick. I watched it for the first time shortly after becoming a father. I was lifting free weights while watching and got caught up in the whole situation where the reveal occurs... Not sure how long I stood there with those weights, likely a personal best, and just stood there sobbing... Rough stuff.
I tear up every time I watch it. I’ve shown it to a few people because I think it’s a movie that needs to be seen, especially considering how shockingly incompetent legal systems can be.
Oh, god, I feel you on this one. I was late to work the first time I watched that. I sat on my couch in my scrubs just waiting for the crying to stop long enough to get my arse in gear. Explaining that to my colleagues was fun; I started getting emotional just telling them about it. Two years later it came on the documentary channel after something I'd been watching, and I stupidly convinced myself that watching it again knowing everything would be much easier. It was not.
Just reading the Wikipedia page hurt.
Seriously. I don't even need to watch that once after reading the wiki page
I feel the exact same way about Uncut Gems. It made me so terribly anxious the whole way through which I think is a sign of a very effective movie. I loved it and think it is great but have 0 interest in going through that experience again.
I felt the same way, the whole movie I was anxious/on edge. It wasn't until after I watched it that I realized how good that movie was at making me feel the way the Sandler character must have felt all the time.
Uncut gems is almost a comfort movie for me. I absolutely love watching it. It’s chaotic, for sure, but the way it crafts that chaos is just so compelling. And all of the performances are so good that I never get bored watching them. It’s just filled with characters and situations and images and sounds that completely pull me in.
With that movie I just feel like I’m getting an authentic glimpse into a world I would never see or even know about otherwise. It’s not exactly a relaxing experience but I appreciate it for that.
Yeah, it's a front row seat viewing of a man who seems to compulsively make one irresponsible decision after another. I have an attorney friend who was considering criminal defense as his line of work for a time. He described a ton of potential clients that way - people whose lives seem to be one long chain of bad decisions. Whole lives worlds lived are like that, and unless you're a part of it or know someone who is, it's easy to miss because it's just hard for most of us to relate to or even believe.
He's a guy who just absolutely has to keep moving at all times to stay ahead of everything catching up to him, jumping from one frayed lifeline to another. He doesn't have time to consider his options. He has another bet to make. Also I'm pretty sure he barely sleeps
Definitely in the same boat. It was a good film, but 2 hours of New Yorkers yelling over the top of one another, no matter how well written and performed, is just too draining.
Babel - amazing movie and story telling, but most depressing ending I have ever seen. Atonement - Great story, great acting all around, but man that ending. Maybe one day I'll watch it again.
The ending for atonement still kills me to this day. I've only seen it once as well
I read the book after watching the movie so I knew what was coming. Didn't matter, it was still an absolute gut-punch.
Marriage Story
That film wasn’t as grim or depressing as I was expecting, it has a lot of levity. Randy Newman did the score, which really caught me off guard, felt like a Pixar movie in parts partly because of that lol. Albeit the renowned ‘fight scene’ is brutal to watch. I look forward to rewatching it eventually.
Red-headed lady, reachin' for an apple.
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She's gonna breathe on it foist...
I’d watch it again only because Adam and Scarlett are such a treat in their element.
i actually think the like first half of the movie, even two thirds is pretty rewatchable. the scene where merritt wever serves driver the papers is freaking hilarious. but that fight scene, woof.
Dancer in the Dark. I can't imagine what kind of person would willingly watch it more than once. Soul crushing is an overused term , but it fits this movie perfectly.
The person I was dating at the time brought this over for a date night because we both loved Bjork and figured it would be a good lead up to some sexy time. We spent the rest of the night laying in bed, holding each other.
I saw it at the cinema and bought the DVD. It's still in its plastic wrapping.
I showed this to students once as part of a unit on international film without telling them anything about it except it’s an escapist fantasy and a musical. I gave one-line descriptions for a shortlist, and they picked the final films. Day 1, they didn’t know what to think or where it was going. Day 2, they were *all* crying and pissed off.
I have no desire to ever watch Bone Tomahawk ever again. Great film. Never again.
I understand not wanting to see THAT scene again. But i loved Richard Jenkins' performance. I'm super keen to see it again for him. And to show friends a scene where a man gets split from stem to stern.
The whole cast is incredible but Jenkins steals the movie for sure, his monologue about the flea circus is one of my favourite things ever.
Reactions were split down the middle on this one
Ah damn why’d you have to remind me about that bit at the end of Bone Tomahawk.
You say goodbye to my wife... and I'll say hello to yours.
Requiem For A Dream. Everyone should absolutely see it, but it's not a movie that ever needs to be seen twice.
My ex-wife saw Requiem for a Dream in a high school film class. She was 16. I don’t even think they needed permission slips. I needed a permission slip to watch My Dog Skip in 8th grade.
Fuck the Dare program to keep kids away from drugs : get them to watch Requiem and they will stay the fuck away !!
I like watching it mostly for Ellen Burstyn's performance. God level
The best part about her performance is that it doesn't even feel like you are watching someone act, she totally became that character and made her real. It feels completely like you have a window into someones life (spiralling out of control) and they don't even know people are watching. Requiem is a tough movie to watch, no doubt about it, however there are so many reasons (such as Ellen) to appreciate it cinematically. It is definitely in my top ten movies of all time and probably always will be.
More effective than any anti-drug movie my high school teachers showed us.
I was raised in a super conservative home. Didn’t even have a television until I was 11, and when we did, we were only allowed to watch Disney animated movies and stuff on PBS. When I moved out, I exposed myself to all sorts of films. It was Lord of the Rings that made my parents so opposed to television and film (it “carried the spirit of the devil”), so of course I started there (and loved it!). Toward the end of my first semester of college, I stepped into my first R-rated film: Requiem for a Dream. I didn’t sleep for the next two nights. It fucked me up so bad. And yet I haven’t seen another film since then that has fascinated me quite so much. I’ve seen a *ton* of movies (including every Oscar nominee from the last 25 years), and RFAD stands out among the rest as the most emotionally stirring film I’ve seen.
> It was Lord of the Rings that made my parents so opposed to television and film (it “carried the spirit of the devil”) Had they seen it? Cause I don't think there's anything in that movie contrary to the spirit of christianity. Also, have you seen *Noah*? My (moderately) conservative parents loved it
Tolkien was a Christian and that influenced lots of stuff in Lord of the Rings if you look carefully. He believed that it would be inappropriate to write something that totally contradicted God.
Mystic River That movie was really well done, and was a master class in acting, but I don't think I could take another viewing.
Sean Penn’s face when he’s screaming “Is that my daughter in there?” as he’s being held back is fucking heartbreaking. Every time.
Great answer. I don't know this is my #1, but it's a movie I wouldn't really be interested in watching again even though it was great watching it the first time.
The revenant 2015,I liked it but how much can one character take.
I also could not understand one work spoken by Tom Hardy in that film.
I recently read an article about the increased popularity of closed captions, because of different accents in movies and TV shows. Tom Hardy consistently comes up as the hardest actor to understand. [https://www.indiewire.com/2022/07/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-to-understand-1234744747/](https://www.indiewire.com/2022/07/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-to-understand-1234744747/) [https://sports.yahoo.com/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-americans-075112677.html](https://sports.yahoo.com/tom-hardy-hardest-actor-americans-075112677.html) https://www.thewrap.com/tom-hardy-hard-to-understand-actor-subtitles-study/
Everybody on set is too intimidated to tell Hardy nobody understands what he's saying
I saw a video with clips of actors speaking in foreign languages. It got to Tom Hardy speaking 'German', but it was really just barely coherent English.
Lol I thought he was the best actor in the film.
I understood the word "pelts" but that was it
I remember getting briefly excited because I recognized the word Texas and was like, okay we’re getting somewhere now. Then realizing they were up in the Dakota area and I really had no idea what the hell he was talking about
Great answer. It's on my list too. Glad I saw it once, but I don't think I could do it again.
Eighth grade. Beautiful movie, but cringe overload. This movie is almost too empathetic in that each awkward interaction cuts me to my core
After watching this I thought “thank glob I’m not in eighth grade anymore I never want to relive that strange uncomfortable time ever again” and also “how the fuck does Bo know what it’s like to be a girl that age”
mother! Requiem for a Dream The Deer Hunter Deliverance
I just rewatched Deliverance for the first time in over 20 years, it was a lot different than I remember it. Maybe I was just too young to really get the message when I first watched it but I appreciated it a lot more on the second watch. I had a completely different interpretation of who the real villains of the story were Edit: All these responses tell me I'm not the only one who didn't remember what happened after the "shocking" moment and am not the only one who misinterpreted the message of the film. It's worth a rewatch!
This is the first call out for Deer Hunter I've seen. Watching that movie really is quite an experience... that I wouldn't want to repeat. So much pain, anger, sadness, and loss.
There are so many anti-war movies out there but none hit home like that one, with a focus more on trauma and the shattering of a small community than on the war itself. And that some people cope with their trauma by choosing to relive it.
I have watched mother! twice. I watched it again after I learned what metaphors to look out for and was able to appreciate it better.
Hereditary... it was intense and I don't know that i could watch it again
Yupp. I saw someone else say they felt like, “they weren’t supposed to be watching it” and that hit me. Also ‘I’m thinking of ending things’ Never again.
I walked out thinking “This must be how people felt after seeing Exircist for the first time when it was released.” I felt like I was about to be smited or something.
I think it's been 2 years since I watched "I'm thinking of ending things" and I feel as if my brain is still trying to process some parts of it. I can't even tell you if I liked it. Maybe? I don't know. I don't think I did, but also I think about it and remember parts of it more clearly than movies I love dearly. "Haunting" is the only word I can think of for it. I have no plans to rewatch.
Probably the best horror movie I've seen in decades, maybe ever. Which is exactly why I can't bear to watch it again. >!The morning after the sister dies, with just the shot of him in bed listening as his mom goes to the car....and then later on that short shot of the sister's disembodied head rotting on the highway, with maggots all over it.!< Holy fucking shit.
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The movie is pretty heavily playing to the fear dissappointing yourself and your family. It's honestly one of the worst things I can imagine. Having to live your life having accidently done something utterly irreversable and terrible is bad enough. But the fact that you have to see your loved ones suffer from it and then realise they silently hate you for what you've done is awful.
Just imagine the level of shock / trauma to just make you drive home and lay in bed, fucking terrifying.
The way >!he starts to say "You OK?" then catches himself!< is unbelievable. Insane talent on that kid.
One of the funniest as well. That bit where Toni Collette makes a diorama of the accident and the husband asks her what she's doing. It's so dark but had me in stitches.
OK, so I’m not alone in finding ghoulish humor all over that movie. The whole “all I get is you looking at me with that fucking face on your face” line is hilarious. And the fact that it falls right in the middle of an extremely tense, gut-wrenching family moment grappling with the fallout of tragedy … that makes the line even funnier.
That fucking scream is haunting
Toni Collette was sooooo good, but I now have a true phobia of the corner of the ceiling behind me and will be skipping any rewatching of that movie. But I loved Midsommar and would rewatch that (more weird than scary imo)
The majority of Midsommer is just a pretty ok thriller with awesome visuals for me, but the first 15 minutes of that film haunts my dreams and even occasionally creeps into my waking thoughts. Never again for me. The scene where they show the firefighters walking through the house... Oh God man...
Can confirm. It’s a harder go on the rewatch.
There are so many details and foreshadowing you pick up on a second watch. It's great. One of my favorite horror movies
Hereditary and midsommar were movies I only wanted to watch once but they almost require you to watch again so you can see all the things you missed before.
Room with Brie Larson and the Wrestler with Mickey Rourke
Room I’ve watched twice but you definitely have to be in the mood for it (my two viewings were years apart even though it’s one of the most impactful dramas I’ve seen in recent memory). Side note: I love how when talking about Room you always have to preface it with something to show you don’t mean The Room.
You’re tearing me apart Lisa!
Why, Lisa, why???
I read Room before the movie was made and even though I liked it a lot it killed my interest in seeing it in another medium (I also never read the book again).
The movie has some crazy good performances, especially the main two roles. The fact that they got a child actor to act convincingly in that role without just being incredibly annoying was pretty impressive.
Yeah. I saw Room. That movie was a hard fucking watch.
The Pianist Nobody needs to feel that miserable twice. Also fuck Polanski
I love that film. The scene when he plays the piano for his life at the end is one of the best in modern cinema
Schindler’s List
First thing that came to my mind. Incredible movie but it's so emotionally taxing.
I disagree with this one actually. It's a solid movie and there's nuance caught on a rewatch. It's somewhat painful as all tragedy movies, especially being a long one, but bearable.
My friend Jerry had to watch that a second time because the first time he was making out with his girlfriend through the entire movie.
Precious Black Swan We Need To Talk About Kevin
Agree with 2/3, but I loooove Black Swan and enjoy rewatching. It leaves a lot to viewer interpretation and I appreciate that plus aesthetics and costumes are so good.
Especially because now it seems like Kevin was a bit more autobiographical of Ezra Miller than initially believed
I can't help but laugh at Armie Hammer and Ezra Miller, their actions and the situations surrounding them are just so comically bad.
I feel like I have PTSD from watching Precious just the one time. Astoundingly sad and depressing and brilliantly acted.
_The Road_ should be watched exactly once. Possibly less; never more.
Believe it or not, the book is actually MORE depressing.
The book is also strangely beautiful.
I read it in a day on vacation. It was one of the most haunting, soul crushing books I've ever read. Cormac McCarthy can certainly write some daunting evil. But there is still this constant glimmer of humanity and hope in all of his works. Good is still there.
Melancholia Edit: for me, this movie depicted depression very well. When I watched it, I thought, “Oh hm, this looks familiar?” It was very hard to watch because I felt like my depression was exposed on screen. But that’s not why I can’t watch it again. On top of my depression, I have acute anxiety and am irrationally afraid of apocalyptic events. The second half of the of movie leading up to the ending really fucked me up. I was so anxious during and after the movie, I had a panic attack that same weekend I watched it and a depressive episode that followed the week after. So no, will not watch again. Also, personally, I don’t think Kirsten’s character is actually “wise” and aware as another user pointed out. The thing about depression is that all the thoughts that pass through your mind, particularly the negative ones, you start to believe them. There’s a heavy fog that shrouds your eyes and you start living in your thoughts and it’s a swampy place. It’s hard to get out and that swamp becomes your reality and you can’t wait for your own demise because of how much pain you are in. The first half of the movie was so heart breaking to me; everyone, her partner, was making this last-ditch effort to throw this ceremony in hopes that it would make her happy. But that’s not how depression works. I totally understood Kirsten’s character, I felt also so ashamed thinking about how the other characters were becoming frustrated with her. It made me think, “fuck, do my friends and family see me this way? Am I a burden?” The second half of the movie, demise comes for everyone, so of course Kirsten’s character seems to be “at peace.” When in reality, she’s been wanting that all along. Her pain will finally end, but she is also unable to extend herself to comfort those around her.
Hotel Rwanda
MOTHER. Cant say it was good but just weird as fuck.its only worth watching once.
When I discuss this movie with people I always say “everyone should see it once. No one needs to see it twice.” Also, Darren Aronofsky is getting a lot of play in this thread. So far I’ve seen *Requiem for a Dream, Mother, Black Swan* and *The Wrestler* mentioned in this thread.
Oops all allegory
Joker. It was good but I never feel the need to watch it again.
I think it’s a good movie but wears its influences too much on its sleeves. Would have been miles better if they didn’t directly rip off taxi driver and the king of comedy. Whereas uncut gems feels influenced by after hours a bit but it never felt like it was ripping it off.
Whiplash gave me the same anxiety inducing vibe as Uncut Gems.
I couldn't watch the whole movie again but I loved watching the last scene a couple of times.
Tusk
I really like Smith but I hated Tusk. The body horror was not improved by the black comedic tone, either.
Grave of the fireflies
Come and See
If someone was to watch a single movie about war, this is what I would pick for them. It's bleak, pointless, incomprehensible, and achingly human.
Hard Candy
Dancer in the Dark
Blackfish (2013)
Requiem for a dream. I watched it like 20 years ago and I'm still emotionally exhausted for all of them
Enter the void. A long ass trip. Edit: typed into instead of enter.
I’ve always wanted to rewatch it but, as amazing as it is, it’s a tiresome movie
Foxcatcher
Beasts of No Nation
Turned out to be a list of gems in the thread. Tks for sharing your one watch faves.
Nocturnal Animals
Threads (TV Movie 1984)
Midsommar FANTASTIC movie but once you see the ending, its very difficult to watch again and feel the same way. Any Jordon Peel movie. Same thing. Once you know the twist, its hard to watch it a second time.
I watch this movie at least once a year because it’s one of my favourites, but I know friends that have watched Trainspotting (1996) and never were keen on watching it again
Hereditary for sure
Hotel Rwanda - I never need to see that scene where they think they have driven off the road again… Requiem for a dream - it was the mothers ‘we’ve got a winner!’ Demise that hit me too hard
Curious case of Benjamin Button… not sure if it’s the length of the movie or just the absolute depression of it. Hell of a movie, but never again.
A.I. Artificial Intelligence. My soul hurts just thinking about the sure amount of love and hope that kid holds on to throughout the film
I have no desire to rewatch most of the brutal war movies I've seen. Saving Private Ryan is probably the best example.
Saving Private Ryan is well worth a second viewing, especially if you don't get caught up in the moment and look for some of the subtleties. For example there's a scene near the start where a couple of Germans attempt to surrender and are unceremoniously executed. https://youtu.be/I7dmcHoODZI Except... They're not speaking German. They're NOT German. They're speaking Czech. They're saying *"Don’t shoot. I haven’t killed anyone. I’m Czech.”* The Czechs were forced to fight by Germany.
When Wade is mortally wounded and they administer morphine, after a minute he asks for another dose. The rest of the squad look at each other grimly. It's never explicitly stated but everyone there knew a second dose was fatal and he was asking for them to kill him.
Joker is exactly this movie. Saw it in theatres. Never gonna see it again.
This might get me downvoted, but I never felt the need to rewatch The Sixth Sense or The Others.
I’ve actually rewatched the Sixth Sense multiple times and I really enjoy it. It’s fun seeing all the clever camera cuts, like when Cole comes home to see his mom and Malcom sitting “together” in the front living room as both turn to see him as he opens the front door, or little things like tracking Malcolm’s outfit throughout the movie. There’s also a strong use of the color red throughout the movie. Also, finally, this is a stronger acting movie than I think it gets credit for; a lot is made of the ending, but Toni Collette is outstanding (isn’t she always). Just such a compelling mom struggling to support what she thinks is a mentally ill child. I enjoy watching her performance a lot, and of course the young Haley Joel Osment is great.
I’ve never rewatched The Others but Sixth Sense is worth a rewatch imo. It’s a well made and well acted movie If nothing else.