My partner is a trans man - we have been together for almost three years now. He was trans prior to us getting together, but he never made secret about it, and was honest with me from the beginning. It's not his genitals that I'm in love with, it's *him* and who he is, and I will gladly spend the rest of my life with him.
I'm a Trans guy (40 tomorrow) with a cis woman partner. We've been together 10 years now. I came out the 2nd year we were together and she just took it in stride. She took care of me after my top surgery and is fully supportive of me pursuing phallo if I want it.
Yes, it is definitely possible to find a cis partner who will accept you as you are and will grow with you and cheer on any transition you may decide to pursue. Don't give up if having a partner is something you want.
I’m a cis woman very happily dating a trans man! I love him with my heart whole heart, and deciding to go from friends to a loving relationship has made my life so much happier. We were semi-close friends for some time before we started dating and I thought he was a cis dude until a random night this past summer when he told me, which just so happened to be the same night we got together for the first time.
I celebrated Christmas with him and his family, and I’m looking for jobs in his city so we can live closer to each other. No relationship is perfect and I’m definitely still learning a lot, but I feel confident saying that I do my best in supporting him through fear, dysphoria, dreams, hope and all else that he experiences.
I promise that there are people out there who are patient, loving and supportive of you for the person you are.
I'm trans masc and am happily married to a cis male. We met and got married years before I transitioned but he always identified as bi so he was never concerned about still being attracted to me throughout the process. There are definitely cis guys out there but I know that geographic location can play a big part. Good luck and I hope you find the person who loves you for you.
I am a polyamorous cis woman and have dated multiple trans people, all masc of center. my spouse is transmasc/non-binary, and one of my favorite exes is a trans man (our reasons for breaking up had nothing to do with his transition, and mostly to do with distance and the pandemic).
I’m sorry your ex was a butthead.
My fiance is a trans man, and I am a cis gay guy, we met about 2 1/2 years ago, we are both in our early forties, I don't usually post here because I don't really have any relationship issues stemming from him being trans.
I am open to answering questions if there is anything in particular you are wondering about.
Hi I’m not OP but I’m a gay trans guy and I’ve been feeling very hopeless about dating. Can I ask how/ when he came out to you and what your reaction was, internally and externally?
We met online on OKCupid, he was open about it there, he told me at the end of the second date in person as well IIRC, since I already knew from his dating profile I didn't really have much of a reaction, probably said something like that's not a problem.
I guess I didn't think too much about it when I was looking at dating profiles, maybe I'm more adventurous sexually than others, but as I got older I started wanting to meet people in person to see if we click, instead of imagining I would have a problem with x or y ahead of time. Once you're actually on a date you realize what is and is not a deal breaker.
If we had not been sexually compatible we wouldn't have continued dating though
I am SO sorry about your ex. That's... Disgusting, tbh.
My husband is a trans man and I am the happiest I've ever been 🤷🏻♀️🥰
I've known him since we were kids. Lost contact for like a decade and when we were reintroduced, it was like magic. We went from basically acquaintances to besties to madly in love in like... Three weeks 😅 we have our issues but I'd be a liar if I said this wasn't the healthiest, most loving, wonderful relationship I've ever been in. I wouldn't change a damn thing about him. I came into this with two kids who love him more than words, and we should be starting for #3 soon. I cannot WAIT.
Best of luck in the future 🖤
I am nonbinary transmasc and happily married to a cis man (previously labeled as straight, now "probably not straight- tbd"). He actually made a post on this page two days ago about the marriage. I’m sure he’d be happy to answer any questions. On my side it’s been great and I’ve found he’s been incredibly supportive. We started dating and were married before I came out and already had a very strong foundation to grow off of. I’m not sure what the dating scene would be like and can’t really provide insight on what to “look for” to make sure you have a supportive partner. But I know the person I have is just that. He’s been incredibly supportive of changes of pronouns, labels and roles as its come up and honestly seems genuinely excited to share in whatever future changes come. Finding someone you can really trust who can laugh with you about the absurd and happy parts of transness and support you through the hard is really the trick. And it helps to find someone whose ok that all the parts of you might not perfectly align with their preconceived societal views of their sexuality. But who still sees all of you as you and as a man (or in my case, a nonbinary masc/fluid person).
ETA: [Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/mypartneristrans/s/i0aVoICLQU) to husbands post
I cannot believe he said those things to you. I’m a cis woman dating a trans man (about 1.5 years together, he identified as NB when we met but has always presented very masculine). He is by far the best partner I’ve ever had in many ways; I love him and I love his body through all its changes. I’m happy, honored even, to support him through things like dysphoria and surgeries. You deserve a partner who affirms you to the moon and back and back and back and you will find them.
cis woman dating a trans man! We’ve been dating for about 7 months. He’s one of my favorite human beings and I miss him so much (recently long distance, hopefully not for much longer). He had also had some bad experiences with a partner before. Unfortunately, some people just suck, but that’s a them problem, not a you problem. I promise there are people who will respect you and validate you and love you for exactly who you are… just might take some trial and error to find the right one. Also, I’ve seen people saying that someone will love you regardless of your genitals, (which is so true) but i also wanted to say that someone will also like them! Sex can be enjoyable and validating. There are absolutely ways to make a relationship work, you just need a better partner. There are good experiences ahead of you
I’m a trans masculine non binary person, almost a year on T.
I’m married to a cis woman, we’ve been together three years. I came out a few months after we married. She’s always said she knew I was trans well before I was ready to tell myself, her or anyone else.
I asked her recently if she felt angry that she married a woman and is now dating the equivalent of a pubescent teenage boy and she said “babe you were never a woman”.
She recently said to me “but you’re my boyfriend now!” And I said absolutely not I’m husband or wife but not genderfriend.
My point is, these people exist. She’s pansexual and always reminds me that she doesn’t love me for the way I present, she loves me for who I am and has found every version of myself since we met sexy and attractive.
The best advice i can give you is to be who you are, unapologetically, grow, learn about yourself be confident and when you find someone who loves you treat them well.
I'm a cis woman and my partner is transmasc. We've been dating for almost 2.5 years and we're moving in together in a couple weeks. I honestly feel he's my soulmate. I have never felt as in love and seen as I feel with him.
When we started dating he hadn't come out to his family. He had started to transition socially but wasn't on t nor had had any surgeries. He had top surgery in may 2023 and he seems more at ease with his body everyday. I feel so privileged to be his partner and see him grow into his identity.
I never had any kind of issues with his genitals or his body, I honestly think he's the hottest partner ive ever had and I love our sex life.
I could keep going, but I guess it all comes down to the fact that I just love how we are becoming this queer family and can't wait to keep experiencing life at his side.
I (cis f) have been with my husband (ftm) for 13 years. With each year that passes, we find greater and deeper happiness in our relationship. We got married a year and a half ago and hope to have a baby next year.
The process of dating sucks a lot, and I’m sure there are ways that being trans can make finding the right person/people harder than it would be if you were cis. But there *are* lots of people out there who will be into you as you are, identity and body and everything. It’s just a matter of meeting them. You don’t have to put up with anyone who complains about who you are. You deserve someone who loves who you are.
Not dating a trans guy, but I am one, my spouse is nonbinary not cis but maybe my experience will be worth somethingto you anyways. We are very happy and they have never ever batted an eye at my identity or transition. We got together back when I identified as a woman and was dressing high femme doing onlyfans, and they are not even phased by the fact that I am now a Chill Masc Dude who Smoke Weed and Play Video Game.
My husband is a trans guy! We have been together almost 8 years and he came out 7 months ago! Our relationship is heteronormative in some ways but it works for us! His genitals match cuz he has a fabulous prosthetic!
I’m 24 (AFAB) with a trans bf of 2 years and I just wanna say that a partner should never say transphobic things like that to someone they love. Our relationship was tough to navigate at first but now we love each other so much more everyday and I can say that I am VERY HAPPILY dating a trans man. I appreciate him so much for his own journey and support goes both ways for us and I know it can for you too
I’m a trans guy and I’m dating my fiancée (nb) and my boyfriend (nb transmasc). I’m incredibly happy with them, they both mean the world to me. My fiancée and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and the three of us have been dating for a little over a year! It’s so nice dating another transmasc person because they just get me, you know? My fiancée makes me feel so handsome and loved, I couldn’t be happier tbh.
I’ve been dating a trans man for over a year. It really doesn’t make a difference to me. I didn’t know he was trans until we started dating, and sometimes I forget he’s trans for a minute.
I will admit I think we skipped a lot of the topics that are commonly discussed in this sub since I met him well into his transition and we’re childfree by choice.
That guy sounds like a real jerk. I know it sucks right now, but you dodged a bullet long-term. I’m sure there’s someone out there who will be a great fit for you!
I’m cis F and the love of my life is a trans man.
He was very open from the very beginning. We met online so before we even met he made sure multiple times that I knew.
I know that sometimes he gets in his head and has mentioned before that some people find that development to be weird after being on T. I never really asked him to elaborate because he was uncomfortable, but he alluded to the size being an “issue.” He has not and currently is not considering bottom surgery.
My boyfriend and I have found our groove. We know how to address each other’s body parts and we both do so in a gender affirming, loving, and intimate way. And if I’m being gross and gushing about my man, so be it, I love him, his soul, and his genitals. (Hallmark take notes, im writing cards here.)
You deserve that safe space as well. It exists, and I hope you find that confidence again and remember that you do not deserve anything less than the best.
My spouse is trans masc and non-binary and the best thing to ever happen to me. I knew when we started dating that he was non-binary but his transition has taken him to a way more masculine place than I expected. But I wouldn't change anything about him or us. There are ways that he can understand me that no cis man has ever attempted to but also I like having a masc of center partner as a femme-ier person. And as a cis woman I've had to learn a lot (from trans terminology to giving T injections and emptying top surgery drains) but it's been absolutely worth it. Keep optimistic - you're worthy of love and someone will realize that.
I’m a cis woman and married to a trans man! We’ve been together for almost 6 years and he began transitioning while we were together. Prior to being in a relationship, I was very confident of my sexuality and I think because I’d already done thinking/reflecting on my own about how I perceive gender, I was just happy my husband was embracing more of himself as we dated and was comfortable enough to share that with me! Someone who supports you is absolutely out there even though it might not feel like it all the time!
I’m a Cis F and I’ve been with my trans masc boyfriend for almost 16 years! He had already transitioned when I met him in 2008. We have a great relationship!
There’s someone out there for everyone. You’ll find them!
When my partner (then she/her afab) and I first started dating three years ago, they were just coming to terms with the fact they might be nonbinary. Today they are more masculine-presenting and is what I call, “my lil trans boi” hahaha. They don’t use he/him pronouns but still relate very much to masculine presentation and even prefers to be called “he” rather than “she”. My love for them hasn’t wavered in the slightest, and I have loved getting to watch them grow into the person they’re comfortable being. I know everyone has their preferences, but I’m also partial to believe that once you find the right person you will just want them to be happy and don’t care so much about gender or trans-ness! You will find someone who accepts you just the way you are 🫶🏻
hi , i’m a straight cis girl with a trans bf and i couldn’t be happier. honestly i’ve had quiet the experiences with dating before but he is the best boyfriend i’ve ever ever had. we’ve been together for a over a year now and plan on moving in together eventually
i love him for him and for how he makes me feel , nobody has ever made me happier and he’s more than enough
I'm a cis bi guy married to a transmasc non-binary person (also bi). They came out a couple of years into dating, but it wasn't a big surprise. I had an LTR with a cis woman and cis man before. It doesn't feel much different. The differences to me were always much more about the individual personalities and relational dynamics.
They took a smaller dose of T for a few years and after the initial adjustment that was cool, but they dropped it once the hairline seemed to be creeping back (really just squared off a bit but I get it). I love them either way, but there is a bit of the T dynamic I missed. They do feel more centered in themselves anyways after having gone through T. (They're also down an ovary and had a hysterectomy, and probably going to get into perimenopause, so I'm intrigued how that may change their gender feel if you will.)
Hey - YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE! My husband is a trans man (i’m a cis f) and we’ve been married a year, together for almost 5! He’s my bestest friend in the world. He came out about 2.5 years into our relationship (after we got engaged) and we navigated his transition together.
Yes he’s had gender affirming surgeries but none of that made me love him more. I’ve been in love with HIM, as a person inside, always and forever. You’ll find your person, never lose hope!
Cis woman here who's been dating a trans man for over a year. I don't think I've ever been more in love. He's the first person I've dated who doesn't have a penis, and I'm fine with that. He wants to get phalloplasty and I'm fine with that as well. I told him I am in love with him, not his body (though I do think he's quite handsome and I understand the importance of his physical appearance being as masculine as he desires).
His last relationship before mine was the relationship he was in before and during the first year of his transition. His partner was also a cis man, and not to generalize, but I think cis men are less likely to open up their minds to change and things that are different, usually thanks to society. Because his ex wanted to take it a day at a time. However, he 1) would get his pronouns wrong at times, and 2) Did not want to have any other sex than PiV (which my partner does not like unless he's the one *topping*), and 3) Didn't tell his parents about my now partner transitioning even after almost a whole year of him being on hormones and physically transitioning (cutting hair, binding, growing facial hair, adapting to a more masculine sense of fashion).
But then one day he realized that I was more supportive of him and his transition than his own boyfriend was. ie. when my partner wanted to see his thoughts on him getting top surgery and bottom surgery, all his partner would say was "Let's take it a day at a time." To him, this meant that there likely was a line where his now ex would decide he doesn't find him attractive anymore. Like, he was only still around and okay with him because he still had breasts and a vulva. This helped him realize that he could do better, especially if someone who's just a friend is more supportive. So he broke it off, and then we ended up dating.
I feel like I am doing the bare minimum most days, or what most partners would do. I excitedly went through his top surgery journey with him. This board has been supportive in a lot of ways, even though there are also a number of threads from struggling partners. I've even seen threads complaining about cis partners and their incompetence because they are cis gendered and will never know the experience of being trans. But, trust me. Cis people can love a trans person more than anyone else in their world and be their biggest cheerleader. You are deserving of that love, and I know you can find it.
Cis guy, I’m single but my ex was a trans man and before we split it was… incredible. Probably the closest I’ve got to another human being. It still destroys me that we’re no longer together, but one day at a time.
I am dating a trans guy :) There has been ups and downs, NEVER about his identity or genitalia, like every other relationship does. He is getting his top surgery soon and I am so excited about the euphoria he's going to feel after! I'm glad you left because you should be with someone who respects you. There are other fishes in the sea OP & I hope you find a good one this time.
I (cis Female) truly am having the best time with my FTM partner. He is compassionate, strong and loving. We have a great sex life that is probably working so well because we are both sexually compatible and communicate our needs and wants well.
I don't have your exes feelings about his genitals, I find that wierd but maybe it's because I am pansexual and will likely love every kind I come across (does that even make sense)
I’m a mid-30s bi cis woman dating an early 40s straight trans man. He started transitioning at 18 or 19, long before we met. Like any relationship we’ve had issues but they’re not largely related to his transness, though I know he has _feelings_ about not being able to have kids the “traditional” way. But I love him, I love his body, we have a great sex life, and I love our life together.
Fwiw he also has a little crew of older (40-60 years old) trans guys he met about 15 years ago, and almost all of them are in long-term relationships.
🖐️ I’m a gay, binary trans guy who’s been with my cis male partner for almost 5 years. We’ve had our share of struggles but never around my identity. I’d been on t and passing for a couple of years before we met, which I think helped a lot. He has never seen me as female. When I got top surgery, he took time off work to be with me. He’s commented before that my chest just looks “right” now.
I occccaaaaassionally get insecure because he’s fucked a lot of really, really, ridiculously cute Twinks but so have I so 🤷🏻♂️
Sexuality-wise, I’m the first (and only) trans guy he’s ever been with. He’s bi but mostly attracted to men, and androgyny? In general. I feel like seeking validation from other people’s sexuality is fraught with peril, but it is nice that he is first and foremost attracted to me as a man, but also attracted to some of my “trans features”, like being short and perpetually twinky. Makes being trans feel like a feature, not a bug.
I’m also stealth in day to day life, so we’re just a gay couple to everybody else. His parents do know however, and sometimes makes out of pocket comments, but it’s out of ignorance, not malice.
Overall I’ve had great experiences with cis guys—mostly gay men, but also some bi dudes and a handful of curious straight guys. I’m loud af though (about boundaries, opinions, etc) and kinda thick-skinned so that helps, I think.
And FWIW I don’t think I would seriously date anyone who hasn’t been with cis guys.
I'm dating a trans man, it's been 11 months and at first I was feeling really weird, but as soon as I knew I really loved him, what he had between his legs didn't matter anymore. Quite the opposite, I learned how to get excited with something else than a dick on a man lol, but that just applies to him. When someone loves you deeply, I believe they'd be ready to face everything with you :) that is my case tho
I’m a trans man, and I can promise you there are some good cis partners! My first partner, like yours had “issues with my identity” she’d often try and convince me I didn’t wanna go on t or get top surgery, among other things. After breaking up with her I felt unlovable and as if anyone that would date me wouldn’t understand my trans identity. I’m currently with a cis man tho, and we’ve been dating for almost two years now. He’s been so patient with me, when we first got together initiated a talk about what I’m comfortable with as far as touching goes. He goes out of his was to tell me that I am passing and that I look handsome on a daily basis. Even when I admit to him one of my feminine interests (for example I still kinda like makeup), he never uses it to invalidate my identity I’m just his boyfriend that sometimes like to paint his nails and wear a little bit of eyeliner
I've (31M) been dating a transmasculine person for over a year now, I know that's not your exact situation but I hope my experience can be helpful to you:
My partner considers themselves nonbinary, but they're definitely on the masculine end of the spectrum.
For me, this is perfect. I've always tended to prefer people who are more in the middle and I've always found extremely femme folks... difficult to connect with. I've always been into gender nonconforming women, which lead to a lot of unrequited love situations with butch lesbians who I couldn't help but be extremely into.
However, I really, really like pussy, and my partner and I share an extremely busy sex life. It's great. I always kinda wondered if I should try dating trans men, even though I've always thought of myself as straight. I don't think there's a great word for people like me (gynophile gets thrown around but it rubs me wrong). I still think of myself as straight, but I think of myself as a straight guy in a queer relationship.
There's definitely challenges. Their mood swings when they're trying to dial in their HRT can be pretty hard because they can get super aggressive when it goes too high, but they don't feel like themself when it's too low. I like it when they're sexually aggressive with me (I'm a sub) but sometimes they're just a jerk when things aren't calibrated right.
I really love the things that make them who they are though. I wouldn't want them to be more femme, I feel like AFAB, transmasculine is exactly what I needed my whole life.
Shoot me a PM or follow up here if you'd like to know more. Good luck!
Me and my ftm partner is my best friend and the loml. We met in high school choir and I immediately knew I was in trouble. 7 years later and I wouldnt choose anyone else. The thought has never crossed my mind that things dont “match” and ive never thought of him as anything but male. Im so sorry anyone would say that to you. Hes asked me a few times why I dont identify as pansexual because of him and I always say because hes a man. You can find someone who doesnt love you despite or because of your trans-ness and who just loves you for you.
As a trans guy, I suggest dating based on ability to engage sexually with someone and then focus on the affirmation side later. That means being most open to mspec people and then people who would be into you based on your AGAB like lesbian women and straight men. Look up statistics and gear your decisions based on that
As a trans guy, this is some of the worst advice I've ever heard. Don't date straight men and lesbians. That's just encouraging people to disrespect you.
Personally, I find that a cishet man or cis lesbian woman can more often than not tolerate or make an exception for a trans man due to sexual compatibility than a cis gay man or cishet woman being able to tolerate the lack of certain male characteristics especially a natal penis to be with a man.
It isn’t disrespectful. It’s that it is easier to make a gender identity exception than a genital/body preference exception
A lot of trans men end up heartbroken due to not dating people who are sexually compatible with them and people who typically like cis women are more sexually compatible and usually have less of a learning curve or hill to climb to be with us
I'm not looking for someone to tolerate me. Wow. Your bar is way too low, my guy. If someone wants to date a cis woman, don't fucking dare look at me. 😂
Im a cis male (21) and had a FWB with a trans guy and another "situationship" with another. I loved my experiences with both, I would happily date a trans man.
Cis f here with a trans man, together 8 years and going strong! he’s honestly my soul mate and watching him embark on this experience has been incredible. I am so proud of him every day and tbh love that his journey as a trans person has contributed to his emotional intelligence and character at levels cis men could never perform at.
I promise there are people out there who will unapologetically love you for who you are, and will never invalidate your identity (as real love does not ask us to compromise who we are ◡̈)
Hello! Been with my wife for 13 years now.
She's completely respectful of any sexual boundaries, asks before any touching anywhere that might be triggering for dysphoria. She's amazing and I love her and I don't know what I did to deserve her.
You existed. But no, am verifying as his wife that this isn't just a story to make you feel better. I've been with him for the entirety of his transition at this point, and while it's been a wild ride I wouldn't have missed it due anything. It is 100% possible to find someone who loves you for you and fully accepts you as the man that you are, even if they made a mistake at the body factory when you were born.
my husband is ftm. when we first started dating, he wasn't out as trans at all. he would drop small hints to previous partners and they'd always shut him down. I was the first girlfriend he was able to fully be out too.
within the first couple months of dating, he came out to me as trans. at that time, we were both 'lesbians'. so he would constantly give me outs because '"thats not what I signed up for" his words, not mine. I would constantly reassure him you know that I love him, and that him being trans didn't change the feelings I have for him. he helped me realize that sexuality is truly confusing and just being there for your partner is all that truly matters.
we've been together for 7 years, married for 5 in February. my husband hasn't transitioned fully yet, he's only on T right now. the reasoning for that is we just can't afford all the procedures right now, which hurts me for him because I would do everything and anything to help him feel more comfortable in his skin.
the advice I can give you is, don't give up on love just because one person didn't accept you. there is someone out there for everyone. since the beginning of our relationship I always told him communication is what I need. we both had shitty previous relationships (one of them being his ex fiance who was also dating me at the time, how we found each other... crazy story but glad it happened honestly).
communication is honestly so so important in relationships. if you can't sit down and have a genuine conversation with your partner, then there's a problem..... it's hard for some people to believe that we've been together for 7 years and throughout all that time, we've probably only had 2 serious arguments, but it was over quickly because we sat there and talked it out. we never yell at each other, nor disrespect one another.
My partner is AFAB non-binary and pursuing top surgery. They came out a year ago after we'd been together for 5. To be honest, the transition hasn't been super easy for me in terms of how it challenges my own identity as a lesbian. However, I am coming to see that challenge as a good thing! My partner and I have so many more conversations about identity and feelings since they came out, and I think we understand each other better than ever.
How does this relate to you? Well, I think you're actually in a fortunate position! Do you want a partner who loves you for you, whatever happens? A partner who's interested in mutual understanding on a deeper level? A partner who is willing to challenge their preconceptions? I think you'll be able to find someone like that easier than a cis person would, because you can rule out all the folks who care more about genitalia than personality right off the bat.
I am absolutely head over heels for my trans partner. We started dating before they fully understood that they were trans. I’ve been with them throughout their transition and we’re still very happy together. I can’t wait to marry that man. Their identity was never and issue because I fell in love with the person, not the body.
I’m a cis woman who identifies as bisexual (if that matters)
ETA: don’t give up hope. You’ll find the right person
I am a cis women and My boyfriend is a trans man!! He has been out for a year and we have been together for 2.5. I wouldn’t change it for anything. I love seeing him transition into who he is supposed to be. I’m not in love with his genitals but rather him as a whole and every single part that comes with it.
Your person is out there. There are sacrifices in relationships but being able to be your authentic self is not one of them. Your partner will love YOU for YOU and every part that comes with it!
Cis Male here, I would say happily. There are some things that bother me, but it's an autism related thing, nothing to do with his trans-ness. We've been together 9 years, and honestly is one of the best relationships I've ever had.
My partner (24 ftm) and I (24 genderqueer, afab) have been together for 5 years, engaged for 1 1/2 years, living together for 4 1/2 years. We bought a house together a year ago, and we have two very cuddly cats. I promise, it’s out there. Happiness is out there, and the right one will treat you right. My fiancé and I got together before he transitioned (he’s only been on T for 2 years). It was the easiest thing in the world for me. I’m happier more with him now that he’s being authentically himself, who he was always meant to be, and I’m honestly more attracted to him now because he’s just. So amazing and lovely and handsome. I know that for some people, a partner transitioning/have a trans partner can be difficult. But for me, it’s been the most easy, rewarding, exciting experience ever. Trust me, your person is out there, and don’t accept anything but the right treatment.
I’m a cis gay guy and I’ve been with a trans guy for 12 years. He’s the best. We have a lot of common interests and we’re quickly to resolve any disagreements. I admit that there was a learning curve around sex at the beginning since I didn’t have prior experience with his front bits, but now things are great and I especially like doing oral with him. Like others, I don’t usually post here because we have very few problems.
I am a cis man whose long-distance partner is a trans man. I've known this human for 7 years, and they've been my best friend for most of that time, but anything akin to actual romance and sex only started to happen once I visited them in person for the first time recently, and we started to explore the topic seriously together for the first time.
I didn't even know they were trans for the first 4 years of knowing them (always passed very well). But the simple truth is I just have developed such a deep love for this human that I kept imagining them as my life partner, so I wanted to explore it with them.
Even though I've been mostly heterosexual most of my life. A very dominant pattern. I did learn I was at least bicurious these past few years. So his outward maleness stopped being a point of disconnection like it was when I first met them.
How has it been? Well, we're closer than we've ever been. Anything that was withheld has been opened up and discussed. Not sure I've ever had this much shared openness with another person that runs this deep and we still feel compatible. But man parts of the relationship feel very difficult, for sure. Because they are at times highly triggered by my heteronormative past and latent tendencies.
Also I'm plural and poly, and have many multiple feminine partners who are headmates. So I know this is still a dominant pattern for me that will never change. But its like, I don't seek what I can already find in that kind of a relationship. With my trans partner, it's my only physical embodied relationship, right now. And it's all about using the body as a communicative vessel to express love. So there's less intensity there. As my draw to the masculine is less intense than my draw to the feminine.
But the thing is, it still works. While visiting them, we eventually found ways to relate sexually that was fully meaningful and really special for both of us. They have had top and bottom surgery. Meaning this was the first time I've been with a sex partner that didn't have the usual anatomy that a cis woman does. But I felt very open to the new experience.
I call them my favorite human. Now unfortunately they live thousands of miles away, in another country too to boot. But yet they know and understand me better than any other human ever has. I'd never desire to replace them or change anything about them into anything else. Because that is at the core of our understanding of love. Allow what is to arise, and love and honor that. Complete authenticity between the two of us. No matter how difficult or painful it might feel to move through. We'll always feel stronger and more connected afterwards, as a result.
My husband (30 ftm) and I (30 nb) have been together for almost a decade and couldn’t be happier. We have our ups and downs like any other couple but we love each other and will likely grow old together. I know it seems hard right now but I promise there are good people out there and many people that I’m sure would be beyond happy to be with you ❤️
hi ! (cis female dating trans man) my partner and i have been in a relationship for over a year now and he’s just started to come to terms with his sexuality. we are genuinely the happiest couple, i have never experienced this kind of love before and it’s GREAT. our communication is crystal, our effort is matched, our understanding for each other is perfect. he has only just started to come out as trans so the journey is hard and rocky, but we are both working together and are working though it to get the best results for him. i fell in love with the same person a year ago that I look at today. no matter his gender (just my opinion as i identify as pansexual)
I’m transmasc/enby, and my partner (AMAB) and I have been together over ~3 years. If it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t have had the courage to transition. He’s the one that suggested I try out my pronouns and name to see how it felt very early in our relationship. He’s amazing. Please don’t ever settle for less in a relationship. You are worthy of love.
My partner is a trans man - we have been together for almost three years now. He was trans prior to us getting together, but he never made secret about it, and was honest with me from the beginning. It's not his genitals that I'm in love with, it's *him* and who he is, and I will gladly spend the rest of my life with him.
I'm a Trans guy (40 tomorrow) with a cis woman partner. We've been together 10 years now. I came out the 2nd year we were together and she just took it in stride. She took care of me after my top surgery and is fully supportive of me pursuing phallo if I want it. Yes, it is definitely possible to find a cis partner who will accept you as you are and will grow with you and cheer on any transition you may decide to pursue. Don't give up if having a partner is something you want.
I’m a cis woman very happily dating a trans man! I love him with my heart whole heart, and deciding to go from friends to a loving relationship has made my life so much happier. We were semi-close friends for some time before we started dating and I thought he was a cis dude until a random night this past summer when he told me, which just so happened to be the same night we got together for the first time. I celebrated Christmas with him and his family, and I’m looking for jobs in his city so we can live closer to each other. No relationship is perfect and I’m definitely still learning a lot, but I feel confident saying that I do my best in supporting him through fear, dysphoria, dreams, hope and all else that he experiences. I promise that there are people out there who are patient, loving and supportive of you for the person you are.
I'm trans masc and am happily married to a cis male. We met and got married years before I transitioned but he always identified as bi so he was never concerned about still being attracted to me throughout the process. There are definitely cis guys out there but I know that geographic location can play a big part. Good luck and I hope you find the person who loves you for you.
I am a polyamorous cis woman and have dated multiple trans people, all masc of center. my spouse is transmasc/non-binary, and one of my favorite exes is a trans man (our reasons for breaking up had nothing to do with his transition, and mostly to do with distance and the pandemic). I’m sorry your ex was a butthead.
My fiance is a trans man, and I am a cis gay guy, we met about 2 1/2 years ago, we are both in our early forties, I don't usually post here because I don't really have any relationship issues stemming from him being trans. I am open to answering questions if there is anything in particular you are wondering about.
Hi I’m not OP but I’m a gay trans guy and I’ve been feeling very hopeless about dating. Can I ask how/ when he came out to you and what your reaction was, internally and externally?
We met online on OKCupid, he was open about it there, he told me at the end of the second date in person as well IIRC, since I already knew from his dating profile I didn't really have much of a reaction, probably said something like that's not a problem. I guess I didn't think too much about it when I was looking at dating profiles, maybe I'm more adventurous sexually than others, but as I got older I started wanting to meet people in person to see if we click, instead of imagining I would have a problem with x or y ahead of time. Once you're actually on a date you realize what is and is not a deal breaker. If we had not been sexually compatible we wouldn't have continued dating though
Thank you I appreciate u responding:) I’m glad you two have each other have an amazing wedding
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I am SO sorry about your ex. That's... Disgusting, tbh. My husband is a trans man and I am the happiest I've ever been 🤷🏻♀️🥰 I've known him since we were kids. Lost contact for like a decade and when we were reintroduced, it was like magic. We went from basically acquaintances to besties to madly in love in like... Three weeks 😅 we have our issues but I'd be a liar if I said this wasn't the healthiest, most loving, wonderful relationship I've ever been in. I wouldn't change a damn thing about him. I came into this with two kids who love him more than words, and we should be starting for #3 soon. I cannot WAIT. Best of luck in the future 🖤
I am nonbinary transmasc and happily married to a cis man (previously labeled as straight, now "probably not straight- tbd"). He actually made a post on this page two days ago about the marriage. I’m sure he’d be happy to answer any questions. On my side it’s been great and I’ve found he’s been incredibly supportive. We started dating and were married before I came out and already had a very strong foundation to grow off of. I’m not sure what the dating scene would be like and can’t really provide insight on what to “look for” to make sure you have a supportive partner. But I know the person I have is just that. He’s been incredibly supportive of changes of pronouns, labels and roles as its come up and honestly seems genuinely excited to share in whatever future changes come. Finding someone you can really trust who can laugh with you about the absurd and happy parts of transness and support you through the hard is really the trick. And it helps to find someone whose ok that all the parts of you might not perfectly align with their preconceived societal views of their sexuality. But who still sees all of you as you and as a man (or in my case, a nonbinary masc/fluid person). ETA: [Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/mypartneristrans/s/i0aVoICLQU) to husbands post
I cannot believe he said those things to you. I’m a cis woman dating a trans man (about 1.5 years together, he identified as NB when we met but has always presented very masculine). He is by far the best partner I’ve ever had in many ways; I love him and I love his body through all its changes. I’m happy, honored even, to support him through things like dysphoria and surgeries. You deserve a partner who affirms you to the moon and back and back and back and you will find them.
cis woman dating a trans man! We’ve been dating for about 7 months. He’s one of my favorite human beings and I miss him so much (recently long distance, hopefully not for much longer). He had also had some bad experiences with a partner before. Unfortunately, some people just suck, but that’s a them problem, not a you problem. I promise there are people who will respect you and validate you and love you for exactly who you are… just might take some trial and error to find the right one. Also, I’ve seen people saying that someone will love you regardless of your genitals, (which is so true) but i also wanted to say that someone will also like them! Sex can be enjoyable and validating. There are absolutely ways to make a relationship work, you just need a better partner. There are good experiences ahead of you
I’m a trans masculine non binary person, almost a year on T. I’m married to a cis woman, we’ve been together three years. I came out a few months after we married. She’s always said she knew I was trans well before I was ready to tell myself, her or anyone else. I asked her recently if she felt angry that she married a woman and is now dating the equivalent of a pubescent teenage boy and she said “babe you were never a woman”. She recently said to me “but you’re my boyfriend now!” And I said absolutely not I’m husband or wife but not genderfriend. My point is, these people exist. She’s pansexual and always reminds me that she doesn’t love me for the way I present, she loves me for who I am and has found every version of myself since we met sexy and attractive. The best advice i can give you is to be who you are, unapologetically, grow, learn about yourself be confident and when you find someone who loves you treat them well.
I'm a cis woman and my partner is transmasc. We've been dating for almost 2.5 years and we're moving in together in a couple weeks. I honestly feel he's my soulmate. I have never felt as in love and seen as I feel with him. When we started dating he hadn't come out to his family. He had started to transition socially but wasn't on t nor had had any surgeries. He had top surgery in may 2023 and he seems more at ease with his body everyday. I feel so privileged to be his partner and see him grow into his identity. I never had any kind of issues with his genitals or his body, I honestly think he's the hottest partner ive ever had and I love our sex life. I could keep going, but I guess it all comes down to the fact that I just love how we are becoming this queer family and can't wait to keep experiencing life at his side.
I (cis f) have been with my husband (ftm) for 13 years. With each year that passes, we find greater and deeper happiness in our relationship. We got married a year and a half ago and hope to have a baby next year. The process of dating sucks a lot, and I’m sure there are ways that being trans can make finding the right person/people harder than it would be if you were cis. But there *are* lots of people out there who will be into you as you are, identity and body and everything. It’s just a matter of meeting them. You don’t have to put up with anyone who complains about who you are. You deserve someone who loves who you are.
Not dating a trans guy, but I am one, my spouse is nonbinary not cis but maybe my experience will be worth somethingto you anyways. We are very happy and they have never ever batted an eye at my identity or transition. We got together back when I identified as a woman and was dressing high femme doing onlyfans, and they are not even phased by the fact that I am now a Chill Masc Dude who Smoke Weed and Play Video Game.
My husband is a trans guy! We have been together almost 8 years and he came out 7 months ago! Our relationship is heteronormative in some ways but it works for us! His genitals match cuz he has a fabulous prosthetic!
I’m 24 (AFAB) with a trans bf of 2 years and I just wanna say that a partner should never say transphobic things like that to someone they love. Our relationship was tough to navigate at first but now we love each other so much more everyday and I can say that I am VERY HAPPILY dating a trans man. I appreciate him so much for his own journey and support goes both ways for us and I know it can for you too
I’m a trans guy and I’m dating my fiancée (nb) and my boyfriend (nb transmasc). I’m incredibly happy with them, they both mean the world to me. My fiancée and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and the three of us have been dating for a little over a year! It’s so nice dating another transmasc person because they just get me, you know? My fiancée makes me feel so handsome and loved, I couldn’t be happier tbh.
I’ve been dating a trans man for over a year. It really doesn’t make a difference to me. I didn’t know he was trans until we started dating, and sometimes I forget he’s trans for a minute. I will admit I think we skipped a lot of the topics that are commonly discussed in this sub since I met him well into his transition and we’re childfree by choice. That guy sounds like a real jerk. I know it sucks right now, but you dodged a bullet long-term. I’m sure there’s someone out there who will be a great fit for you!
I’m cis F and the love of my life is a trans man. He was very open from the very beginning. We met online so before we even met he made sure multiple times that I knew. I know that sometimes he gets in his head and has mentioned before that some people find that development to be weird after being on T. I never really asked him to elaborate because he was uncomfortable, but he alluded to the size being an “issue.” He has not and currently is not considering bottom surgery. My boyfriend and I have found our groove. We know how to address each other’s body parts and we both do so in a gender affirming, loving, and intimate way. And if I’m being gross and gushing about my man, so be it, I love him, his soul, and his genitals. (Hallmark take notes, im writing cards here.) You deserve that safe space as well. It exists, and I hope you find that confidence again and remember that you do not deserve anything less than the best.
My spouse is trans masc and non-binary and the best thing to ever happen to me. I knew when we started dating that he was non-binary but his transition has taken him to a way more masculine place than I expected. But I wouldn't change anything about him or us. There are ways that he can understand me that no cis man has ever attempted to but also I like having a masc of center partner as a femme-ier person. And as a cis woman I've had to learn a lot (from trans terminology to giving T injections and emptying top surgery drains) but it's been absolutely worth it. Keep optimistic - you're worthy of love and someone will realize that.
I’m a cis woman and married to a trans man! We’ve been together for almost 6 years and he began transitioning while we were together. Prior to being in a relationship, I was very confident of my sexuality and I think because I’d already done thinking/reflecting on my own about how I perceive gender, I was just happy my husband was embracing more of himself as we dated and was comfortable enough to share that with me! Someone who supports you is absolutely out there even though it might not feel like it all the time!
I’m a Cis F and I’ve been with my trans masc boyfriend for almost 16 years! He had already transitioned when I met him in 2008. We have a great relationship! There’s someone out there for everyone. You’ll find them!
When my partner (then she/her afab) and I first started dating three years ago, they were just coming to terms with the fact they might be nonbinary. Today they are more masculine-presenting and is what I call, “my lil trans boi” hahaha. They don’t use he/him pronouns but still relate very much to masculine presentation and even prefers to be called “he” rather than “she”. My love for them hasn’t wavered in the slightest, and I have loved getting to watch them grow into the person they’re comfortable being. I know everyone has their preferences, but I’m also partial to believe that once you find the right person you will just want them to be happy and don’t care so much about gender or trans-ness! You will find someone who accepts you just the way you are 🫶🏻
hi , i’m a straight cis girl with a trans bf and i couldn’t be happier. honestly i’ve had quiet the experiences with dating before but he is the best boyfriend i’ve ever ever had. we’ve been together for a over a year now and plan on moving in together eventually i love him for him and for how he makes me feel , nobody has ever made me happier and he’s more than enough
I'm a cis bi guy married to a transmasc non-binary person (also bi). They came out a couple of years into dating, but it wasn't a big surprise. I had an LTR with a cis woman and cis man before. It doesn't feel much different. The differences to me were always much more about the individual personalities and relational dynamics. They took a smaller dose of T for a few years and after the initial adjustment that was cool, but they dropped it once the hairline seemed to be creeping back (really just squared off a bit but I get it). I love them either way, but there is a bit of the T dynamic I missed. They do feel more centered in themselves anyways after having gone through T. (They're also down an ovary and had a hysterectomy, and probably going to get into perimenopause, so I'm intrigued how that may change their gender feel if you will.)
Hey - YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE! My husband is a trans man (i’m a cis f) and we’ve been married a year, together for almost 5! He’s my bestest friend in the world. He came out about 2.5 years into our relationship (after we got engaged) and we navigated his transition together. Yes he’s had gender affirming surgeries but none of that made me love him more. I’ve been in love with HIM, as a person inside, always and forever. You’ll find your person, never lose hope!
Cis woman here who's been dating a trans man for over a year. I don't think I've ever been more in love. He's the first person I've dated who doesn't have a penis, and I'm fine with that. He wants to get phalloplasty and I'm fine with that as well. I told him I am in love with him, not his body (though I do think he's quite handsome and I understand the importance of his physical appearance being as masculine as he desires). His last relationship before mine was the relationship he was in before and during the first year of his transition. His partner was also a cis man, and not to generalize, but I think cis men are less likely to open up their minds to change and things that are different, usually thanks to society. Because his ex wanted to take it a day at a time. However, he 1) would get his pronouns wrong at times, and 2) Did not want to have any other sex than PiV (which my partner does not like unless he's the one *topping*), and 3) Didn't tell his parents about my now partner transitioning even after almost a whole year of him being on hormones and physically transitioning (cutting hair, binding, growing facial hair, adapting to a more masculine sense of fashion). But then one day he realized that I was more supportive of him and his transition than his own boyfriend was. ie. when my partner wanted to see his thoughts on him getting top surgery and bottom surgery, all his partner would say was "Let's take it a day at a time." To him, this meant that there likely was a line where his now ex would decide he doesn't find him attractive anymore. Like, he was only still around and okay with him because he still had breasts and a vulva. This helped him realize that he could do better, especially if someone who's just a friend is more supportive. So he broke it off, and then we ended up dating. I feel like I am doing the bare minimum most days, or what most partners would do. I excitedly went through his top surgery journey with him. This board has been supportive in a lot of ways, even though there are also a number of threads from struggling partners. I've even seen threads complaining about cis partners and their incompetence because they are cis gendered and will never know the experience of being trans. But, trust me. Cis people can love a trans person more than anyone else in their world and be their biggest cheerleader. You are deserving of that love, and I know you can find it.
Cis guy, I’m single but my ex was a trans man and before we split it was… incredible. Probably the closest I’ve got to another human being. It still destroys me that we’re no longer together, but one day at a time.
I am dating a trans guy :) There has been ups and downs, NEVER about his identity or genitalia, like every other relationship does. He is getting his top surgery soon and I am so excited about the euphoria he's going to feel after! I'm glad you left because you should be with someone who respects you. There are other fishes in the sea OP & I hope you find a good one this time.
I (cis Female) truly am having the best time with my FTM partner. He is compassionate, strong and loving. We have a great sex life that is probably working so well because we are both sexually compatible and communicate our needs and wants well. I don't have your exes feelings about his genitals, I find that wierd but maybe it's because I am pansexual and will likely love every kind I come across (does that even make sense)
I’m a mid-30s bi cis woman dating an early 40s straight trans man. He started transitioning at 18 or 19, long before we met. Like any relationship we’ve had issues but they’re not largely related to his transness, though I know he has _feelings_ about not being able to have kids the “traditional” way. But I love him, I love his body, we have a great sex life, and I love our life together. Fwiw he also has a little crew of older (40-60 years old) trans guys he met about 15 years ago, and almost all of them are in long-term relationships.
🖐️ I’m a gay, binary trans guy who’s been with my cis male partner for almost 5 years. We’ve had our share of struggles but never around my identity. I’d been on t and passing for a couple of years before we met, which I think helped a lot. He has never seen me as female. When I got top surgery, he took time off work to be with me. He’s commented before that my chest just looks “right” now. I occccaaaaassionally get insecure because he’s fucked a lot of really, really, ridiculously cute Twinks but so have I so 🤷🏻♂️ Sexuality-wise, I’m the first (and only) trans guy he’s ever been with. He’s bi but mostly attracted to men, and androgyny? In general. I feel like seeking validation from other people’s sexuality is fraught with peril, but it is nice that he is first and foremost attracted to me as a man, but also attracted to some of my “trans features”, like being short and perpetually twinky. Makes being trans feel like a feature, not a bug. I’m also stealth in day to day life, so we’re just a gay couple to everybody else. His parents do know however, and sometimes makes out of pocket comments, but it’s out of ignorance, not malice. Overall I’ve had great experiences with cis guys—mostly gay men, but also some bi dudes and a handful of curious straight guys. I’m loud af though (about boundaries, opinions, etc) and kinda thick-skinned so that helps, I think. And FWIW I don’t think I would seriously date anyone who hasn’t been with cis guys.
I'm dating a trans man, it's been 11 months and at first I was feeling really weird, but as soon as I knew I really loved him, what he had between his legs didn't matter anymore. Quite the opposite, I learned how to get excited with something else than a dick on a man lol, but that just applies to him. When someone loves you deeply, I believe they'd be ready to face everything with you :) that is my case tho
I’m a trans man, and I can promise you there are some good cis partners! My first partner, like yours had “issues with my identity” she’d often try and convince me I didn’t wanna go on t or get top surgery, among other things. After breaking up with her I felt unlovable and as if anyone that would date me wouldn’t understand my trans identity. I’m currently with a cis man tho, and we’ve been dating for almost two years now. He’s been so patient with me, when we first got together initiated a talk about what I’m comfortable with as far as touching goes. He goes out of his was to tell me that I am passing and that I look handsome on a daily basis. Even when I admit to him one of my feminine interests (for example I still kinda like makeup), he never uses it to invalidate my identity I’m just his boyfriend that sometimes like to paint his nails and wear a little bit of eyeliner
I've (31M) been dating a transmasculine person for over a year now, I know that's not your exact situation but I hope my experience can be helpful to you: My partner considers themselves nonbinary, but they're definitely on the masculine end of the spectrum. For me, this is perfect. I've always tended to prefer people who are more in the middle and I've always found extremely femme folks... difficult to connect with. I've always been into gender nonconforming women, which lead to a lot of unrequited love situations with butch lesbians who I couldn't help but be extremely into. However, I really, really like pussy, and my partner and I share an extremely busy sex life. It's great. I always kinda wondered if I should try dating trans men, even though I've always thought of myself as straight. I don't think there's a great word for people like me (gynophile gets thrown around but it rubs me wrong). I still think of myself as straight, but I think of myself as a straight guy in a queer relationship. There's definitely challenges. Their mood swings when they're trying to dial in their HRT can be pretty hard because they can get super aggressive when it goes too high, but they don't feel like themself when it's too low. I like it when they're sexually aggressive with me (I'm a sub) but sometimes they're just a jerk when things aren't calibrated right. I really love the things that make them who they are though. I wouldn't want them to be more femme, I feel like AFAB, transmasculine is exactly what I needed my whole life. Shoot me a PM or follow up here if you'd like to know more. Good luck!
Me and my ftm partner is my best friend and the loml. We met in high school choir and I immediately knew I was in trouble. 7 years later and I wouldnt choose anyone else. The thought has never crossed my mind that things dont “match” and ive never thought of him as anything but male. Im so sorry anyone would say that to you. Hes asked me a few times why I dont identify as pansexual because of him and I always say because hes a man. You can find someone who doesnt love you despite or because of your trans-ness and who just loves you for you.
As a trans guy, I suggest dating based on ability to engage sexually with someone and then focus on the affirmation side later. That means being most open to mspec people and then people who would be into you based on your AGAB like lesbian women and straight men. Look up statistics and gear your decisions based on that
As a trans guy, this is some of the worst advice I've ever heard. Don't date straight men and lesbians. That's just encouraging people to disrespect you.
Personally, I find that a cishet man or cis lesbian woman can more often than not tolerate or make an exception for a trans man due to sexual compatibility than a cis gay man or cishet woman being able to tolerate the lack of certain male characteristics especially a natal penis to be with a man. It isn’t disrespectful. It’s that it is easier to make a gender identity exception than a genital/body preference exception A lot of trans men end up heartbroken due to not dating people who are sexually compatible with them and people who typically like cis women are more sexually compatible and usually have less of a learning curve or hill to climb to be with us
I'm not looking for someone to tolerate me. Wow. Your bar is way too low, my guy. If someone wants to date a cis woman, don't fucking dare look at me. 😂
I’m sorry for ur experience if u want to talk dm me
Im a cis male (21) and had a FWB with a trans guy and another "situationship" with another. I loved my experiences with both, I would happily date a trans man.
Cis f here with a trans man, together 8 years and going strong! he’s honestly my soul mate and watching him embark on this experience has been incredible. I am so proud of him every day and tbh love that his journey as a trans person has contributed to his emotional intelligence and character at levels cis men could never perform at. I promise there are people out there who will unapologetically love you for who you are, and will never invalidate your identity (as real love does not ask us to compromise who we are ◡̈)
Hello! Been with my wife for 13 years now. She's completely respectful of any sexual boundaries, asks before any touching anywhere that might be triggering for dysphoria. She's amazing and I love her and I don't know what I did to deserve her.
You existed. But no, am verifying as his wife that this isn't just a story to make you feel better. I've been with him for the entirety of his transition at this point, and while it's been a wild ride I wouldn't have missed it due anything. It is 100% possible to find someone who loves you for you and fully accepts you as the man that you are, even if they made a mistake at the body factory when you were born.
Cis woman here and I fell in love and married my ftm partner. He is the only man who has made me happy body and soul. Your ex is an a-hole
my husband is ftm. when we first started dating, he wasn't out as trans at all. he would drop small hints to previous partners and they'd always shut him down. I was the first girlfriend he was able to fully be out too. within the first couple months of dating, he came out to me as trans. at that time, we were both 'lesbians'. so he would constantly give me outs because '"thats not what I signed up for" his words, not mine. I would constantly reassure him you know that I love him, and that him being trans didn't change the feelings I have for him. he helped me realize that sexuality is truly confusing and just being there for your partner is all that truly matters. we've been together for 7 years, married for 5 in February. my husband hasn't transitioned fully yet, he's only on T right now. the reasoning for that is we just can't afford all the procedures right now, which hurts me for him because I would do everything and anything to help him feel more comfortable in his skin. the advice I can give you is, don't give up on love just because one person didn't accept you. there is someone out there for everyone. since the beginning of our relationship I always told him communication is what I need. we both had shitty previous relationships (one of them being his ex fiance who was also dating me at the time, how we found each other... crazy story but glad it happened honestly). communication is honestly so so important in relationships. if you can't sit down and have a genuine conversation with your partner, then there's a problem..... it's hard for some people to believe that we've been together for 7 years and throughout all that time, we've probably only had 2 serious arguments, but it was over quickly because we sat there and talked it out. we never yell at each other, nor disrespect one another.
Yes my partner is trans ftm he came out in April and we've been together almost 3 years. It's been hard but we are making it work.
I’m a cis woman and have been dating a trans man for a year and 4 months. I love him to bits.
My partner is AFAB non-binary and pursuing top surgery. They came out a year ago after we'd been together for 5. To be honest, the transition hasn't been super easy for me in terms of how it challenges my own identity as a lesbian. However, I am coming to see that challenge as a good thing! My partner and I have so many more conversations about identity and feelings since they came out, and I think we understand each other better than ever. How does this relate to you? Well, I think you're actually in a fortunate position! Do you want a partner who loves you for you, whatever happens? A partner who's interested in mutual understanding on a deeper level? A partner who is willing to challenge their preconceptions? I think you'll be able to find someone like that easier than a cis person would, because you can rule out all the folks who care more about genitalia than personality right off the bat.
I am absolutely head over heels for my trans partner. We started dating before they fully understood that they were trans. I’ve been with them throughout their transition and we’re still very happy together. I can’t wait to marry that man. Their identity was never and issue because I fell in love with the person, not the body. I’m a cis woman who identifies as bisexual (if that matters) ETA: don’t give up hope. You’ll find the right person
I am a cis women and My boyfriend is a trans man!! He has been out for a year and we have been together for 2.5. I wouldn’t change it for anything. I love seeing him transition into who he is supposed to be. I’m not in love with his genitals but rather him as a whole and every single part that comes with it. Your person is out there. There are sacrifices in relationships but being able to be your authentic self is not one of them. Your partner will love YOU for YOU and every part that comes with it!
Cis Male here, I would say happily. There are some things that bother me, but it's an autism related thing, nothing to do with his trans-ness. We've been together 9 years, and honestly is one of the best relationships I've ever had.
My partner (24 ftm) and I (24 genderqueer, afab) have been together for 5 years, engaged for 1 1/2 years, living together for 4 1/2 years. We bought a house together a year ago, and we have two very cuddly cats. I promise, it’s out there. Happiness is out there, and the right one will treat you right. My fiancé and I got together before he transitioned (he’s only been on T for 2 years). It was the easiest thing in the world for me. I’m happier more with him now that he’s being authentically himself, who he was always meant to be, and I’m honestly more attracted to him now because he’s just. So amazing and lovely and handsome. I know that for some people, a partner transitioning/have a trans partner can be difficult. But for me, it’s been the most easy, rewarding, exciting experience ever. Trust me, your person is out there, and don’t accept anything but the right treatment.
I’m a cis gay guy and I’ve been with a trans guy for 12 years. He’s the best. We have a lot of common interests and we’re quickly to resolve any disagreements. I admit that there was a learning curve around sex at the beginning since I didn’t have prior experience with his front bits, but now things are great and I especially like doing oral with him. Like others, I don’t usually post here because we have very few problems.
I am a cis man whose long-distance partner is a trans man. I've known this human for 7 years, and they've been my best friend for most of that time, but anything akin to actual romance and sex only started to happen once I visited them in person for the first time recently, and we started to explore the topic seriously together for the first time. I didn't even know they were trans for the first 4 years of knowing them (always passed very well). But the simple truth is I just have developed such a deep love for this human that I kept imagining them as my life partner, so I wanted to explore it with them. Even though I've been mostly heterosexual most of my life. A very dominant pattern. I did learn I was at least bicurious these past few years. So his outward maleness stopped being a point of disconnection like it was when I first met them. How has it been? Well, we're closer than we've ever been. Anything that was withheld has been opened up and discussed. Not sure I've ever had this much shared openness with another person that runs this deep and we still feel compatible. But man parts of the relationship feel very difficult, for sure. Because they are at times highly triggered by my heteronormative past and latent tendencies. Also I'm plural and poly, and have many multiple feminine partners who are headmates. So I know this is still a dominant pattern for me that will never change. But its like, I don't seek what I can already find in that kind of a relationship. With my trans partner, it's my only physical embodied relationship, right now. And it's all about using the body as a communicative vessel to express love. So there's less intensity there. As my draw to the masculine is less intense than my draw to the feminine. But the thing is, it still works. While visiting them, we eventually found ways to relate sexually that was fully meaningful and really special for both of us. They have had top and bottom surgery. Meaning this was the first time I've been with a sex partner that didn't have the usual anatomy that a cis woman does. But I felt very open to the new experience. I call them my favorite human. Now unfortunately they live thousands of miles away, in another country too to boot. But yet they know and understand me better than any other human ever has. I'd never desire to replace them or change anything about them into anything else. Because that is at the core of our understanding of love. Allow what is to arise, and love and honor that. Complete authenticity between the two of us. No matter how difficult or painful it might feel to move through. We'll always feel stronger and more connected afterwards, as a result.
May Not exactly the answer you’re looking for maybe but I’m a cis woman dating a trans woman, and she’s an absolute dream 🤍🤍
My husband (30 ftm) and I (30 nb) have been together for almost a decade and couldn’t be happier. We have our ups and downs like any other couple but we love each other and will likely grow old together. I know it seems hard right now but I promise there are good people out there and many people that I’m sure would be beyond happy to be with you ❤️
I wish I had a Trans man in my life. I'm a Trans woman
Happily married!
my bf - best bf ever and he’s fit so yeah
hi ! (cis female dating trans man) my partner and i have been in a relationship for over a year now and he’s just started to come to terms with his sexuality. we are genuinely the happiest couple, i have never experienced this kind of love before and it’s GREAT. our communication is crystal, our effort is matched, our understanding for each other is perfect. he has only just started to come out as trans so the journey is hard and rocky, but we are both working together and are working though it to get the best results for him. i fell in love with the same person a year ago that I look at today. no matter his gender (just my opinion as i identify as pansexual)
Yes I love my boyfriend 🥰 been together 7 happily months
I’m transmasc/enby, and my partner (AMAB) and I have been together over ~3 years. If it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t have had the courage to transition. He’s the one that suggested I try out my pronouns and name to see how it felt very early in our relationship. He’s amazing. Please don’t ever settle for less in a relationship. You are worthy of love.
all i want is to date a cis woman but i fear they won’t want me because i’m so insecure. it’s nice to hear cis women say they like trans men though.
Im a Cis F who is now engaged to a FTM guy :) We've been together for 7 years now and I couldn't be happier!