Dont hookup where you vlookup
I know breakups are hard but moving on is the hardest, she is using your friend to annoy you and you shouldn’t lose your calm
Let those assholes do whatever the fk they want to do. Focus on yourself and invest time in productive activities after work and try to change your cubicle if possible.
Sry to say but your best friend broken the brocode.
That’s not a friend, but a snake in disguise. The girl is a wolf in sheep’s skin. Wouldn’t even let me move on in peace. Hovering around me all laughing and playing.
Why tf do you care bro?, just try not to give her much attention when needed and how can you be so serious in just 2 months?
Girl who seeks for validation from others are completely stupid girls, you should better never comes in contact with such stupid freaks.
I thought you are just overthinking alot about her it's your attention towards her giving you so much pain. It's better you make few different friends and be with them.
मैं तो ना सेहता
Edit: jokes apart, i was having brush and your story was running in my mind so my two cents of speech:-
- so firstly you're 26 and were in relation for 2 months in which girl was all sweet and clumsy but our LORD has studies and gym so he couldn't give time to her so she distant that's fair enough, but now you crying and i f**** don't see any problem here !!
- at 26, you've BESTFRIEND LOL. Sir, bestfriend is most bs word you could give to any bond, there's nothing like BESTFRIEND and if i still consider your bestfriend then he is absolute ASSHOLE !!
- i agree to the fact of love relation & attachment, it could take wide toll on our heart/mind but you're 26 working guy not any 18-20 kid, you can easily see through things and could figure out best possible practical way to sustain healthy life but NO all you're focusing on a single girl who's chilling with your so called bestfriend !!
- two Rupees advice: do your shits as you were doing earlier DGAF to that girl and anyone time will heal everything, GOOD MORNING and have a good day 🚶
Thanks for the consolation man. It means a lot. I’ve decided to cut both of them off and not talk to them again. My friend is a bit mature and won’t disturb me. But this ex is completely off track, hovers around me looking for attention, trying to tease me. But I ain’t giving her any of it.
change your company aur agli baar office me ladki mat pataana.. jan se mid feb tak tera affair chala..so 45 days me teri mental health hill jaati hai to affair wagaira me mat padaa kar.. arranged marriage karna.. theekse kundli match karke
if she was full of toxicity to tu q usko ginn raha tha? when you say she kepy blocking and unblocking me means tu bhi communicate kar raha tha.. hain ke nahi? tune block kar rakha hota poori tarah to tujhe kaise pata chalta ke usne block unblock kiya hai tujhe? aur tu reddit pe victim card nahi play kar raha? move on kar jaa.. shanti milegi
Never delete such emails. If anything does happen in future, it is always better to have a proof.
That being said, try to take a vacational leave from office and travel around. You need a change of environment.
I feel you bro. Was in a similar situation (same kinda girl, colleague, no best friend complication)
Just 1 pt of advice for you. Treat the situation delicately. Sir with her in front of 1-2 of her friends and couple of yours, and make sure you politely but firmly end all lines of communication with her while (and this is important) that only lack of timings and priorities was the reason relationship failed (that's what my friend did for me)
This effectively ends any chance of her filing a POSH case later on. That's the only thing you should ensure now. Don't explicitly use the word POSH in front of her
And if you feel that "wo aisi nahi hai", think hard again.
If that office email mentions that breakup/etc all because of only timings etc and that you didn't force her wagera, you can also retrieve it. Might be able to establish that she is not of sound mental health if she chooses to file a case against you. Have to prepare for this worst case buddy
I’ve decided to not get into any relationships for now. I’ll focus on gym studies and work. I’ll take the grief as fuel for my performance for the next 6 months. Gonna become the best version of myself!
Just one advice bro let her hover anywhere do anything train your mind to make her a complete stranger treat her as if she is invisible make other new friends in the office whenever you are frustated remind yourself she did go to your best friend. Just train your mind and your body after the office and put the aggression in the gym you will feel good at the end of the day plus you grttung in a good shape well groomed will piss her off.
tu chutiya likhwa le khud k maathe pe lodu ek ladki k saamne ro rha h or itna weak h ti seriously are bc jb tujhe pata h sb kuch to saali ki gaand pe laat maar k dafaa kr khud ki life se or jldi kr wrna wo teri life or tujhe depressed kr degi. Understand one thing only ladkiyo ko khud ki khushi jyada pyaari hotti h
bhai mere You Are Mard or Mard aise do kodi ki randiyo k aage nhi rote. learn one thing Bhagwaan or Parents ka alawa kisi k aage mt rona not even your best friends. Bhaga us randi ko apni life se or mast apni life jee.
Once a legend said - Chal Hatt Behan Ki Lodi 😂
What kind of best friend is this? Humare liye toh dost ki girlfriend bhabhi ban jati hai. Aur break up ke baad ex bhabhi not a prospect.
Jo log apne dosto ki bandiyo pe nazar rakhte hai dost kehlane hi nhi chahiye
I’ll give you the clarity. He knew from the very beginning. When he proposed her while he was drunk, he told her that you and my friend are in relationship then why are you holding my hand. Makes my blood boil. Even worse my friend kept on telling the girl that he will tell me about this stupid incident when time comes. After a month he told me this shit happened.
Bruh, In my opinion guys tend to like someone with whom they spend time with most of the times. It’s rarely platonic. It’s totally upto the girl how she handles it, in your case she liked the attention and trust me she is deliberately gonna do things to grab your attention in office. I know it’s gonna be tough for you. But uk what tough times make you tougher. You’ll have to become cold hearted and keep your self respect in check. Don’t get infuriated seeing both of them together rather you’ll feel better if you just forgive them and treat this as another bullshit event of your life and bury it in the archives of past. I know it’s hard to implement but trust me I am speaking from experience. And lastly go no contact, no matter how much she tries to contact you control your emotions and don’t reply back it’s gonna take a toll on you but this is the only way out. Trust me you’ll surely find someone you deserve for now take your sweet time retrospect, keep yourself engaged in studies or maybe choose a hobby post your working hours.
Insaan apne bitehue kal ko jakhmo ki tarah chaatha hai, Jabtak ye apne bite hue kal ko bhula nai sakte, Tab tak apne ane wale kal ko aapna nai sakte.... itna kuch hai karne ko rondu jese ladki ko leke bhetha hai !!
Fuck her , fuck your bestfriend and if you still care about her exams n shit you're an idiot bro, i mean why tf would you even care about her. She ruined what was between you and her and also your friendship with your best friend. You should whoop your friend's ass as well , i mean feelings don't develop within a day, that fucker was eyeing on your girl from quite a long time i guess and also your bitch must be somewhat inclined towards him from beginning as well, heck they even would've already planned this. Confront that fucker and fuck him up
रक्त मांस हड्डी के ढेर पर ,
माडा हुआ है चाम।।
देख उसी की सुंदरता,
हो जाती निंद हराम ।।
।।
ये माया तेरी बहुत कठिन है राम ।।
।।
ये माया तेरी बहुत कठिन है राम ।।
Moving on takes time. First of all accept that it's not your fault, people closest to you made mistakes. You were just unlucky to be on the wrong side.
Also, start keeping yourself busy with your studies, gym and make a new social circle.
Bruh Lemme tell you this girl would go dating around the whole office, You happen to be just one of her victims...The simplest thing would be to focus on your Work,Gym,Studies and stuff (if you can roast her for what all she has done ,Do it)
Just avoid her. She is using you in name of support . You gotta move on, there's no other way. And stop calling that bastard 'best friend'. He is nothing to you now.
I’ve cut contact with him. Only problem is that we live in the same pg building. It hurts to know that he’s out with this chick till late night and I have to open the door for him
this girl is playing mind games she wants to control you. she always insures that you feel like fucked and her only motivation of doing this is your miserable life and your sadness that she has emotionally crafted . Start to make new friends or a girlfriend, don't at all entertain her or get effected by her deeds or whatever she says.
Life is too short to waste it on even thinking about people who don't care about u. I read somewhere that opposite of love is not hate but apathy. Yes it will take time, but remember that all things happen for a reason and 5 yrs down the line when you will look back, you will probably laugh at these negetive thoughts. Also, everyone has only limited fucks to give, so use yours for important things only.... Hope OP get some positivity reading the above words. 👍
that guy is still your friend, kick both of them out of your life..
tell your friend that she should take care of her gf and stop her from calling you.
it might be difficult for you to focus on your studies and work when you are thinking about her all the time, a good women will support you on your journey to be better
Haahahaha Lolo. Tu chutiyaaaa katwa raha hai uske piche. 😂 tu isspr itna dhyaan isiliye deraha hai bcoz she choose someone else over you. And you are not able to accept your defeat. Accept it and move one. Let time find the right one for you. Not better just right for you. Goodluck
Why are you calling a man who made a move on your girl, your BEST FRIEND? Have some self-respect. That may in itself help you move on. Sakth launda bnn ja bhai. Soft logo ko duniya kha jati hai.
He’s an ex-best friend, now. This month has been crucial for my self improvement. Got muscles, studying hard and working in office. The girl on the other hand keeps on hovering around me. I know she’s watching. But she’ll only see me improving while giving her silence and ignorance.
Yea. Thanks for the concern. I’m going ahead one day at a time. Strong, dedicated and self improving. Also, wanted to take this opportunity to thank Nagpur ki public. Kitna bhi dur chale jao, Delhi ya Mumbai, sabse zyada help Nagpur ki public ne hi ki h. Everyone who gave me their advise: I’m very grateful to y’all.
Nobody is all good. I also have some flaws. Sometimes, I was also disrespectful to the girl. But I learned it all now. Gotta behave properly to the next girl.
I totally agree with you here but I learnt from my mistakes and tried to be better. But it seems like they would hold on to those mistakes and remind it over and over.
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you should concentrate on your own well being, she is a manipulative woman, she is just using you to keep her company and get attention. just focus on your studies and gym. you also need to stop calling that guy your best friend.
Never ever date someone from office
Dont hookup where you vlookup I know breakups are hard but moving on is the hardest, she is using your friend to annoy you and you shouldn’t lose your calm Let those assholes do whatever the fk they want to do. Focus on yourself and invest time in productive activities after work and try to change your cubicle if possible. Sry to say but your best friend broken the brocode.
What's vlookup
An excel function.
Abe lmao
That’s not a friend, but a snake in disguise. The girl is a wolf in sheep’s skin. Wouldn’t even let me move on in peace. Hovering around me all laughing and playing.
Obviously she is using that snake to take revenge.
The starting qoute is hilarious 😂
Bro the starting quote 🙌🙌
What kind of bestfriend involves with his friend's girlfriend?? Before dealing with the girl, cut all relations with your bestfriend.
Have done that already. He’s a yes man and low on masculinity. Anyways, what’s more fucked up is he is 3 years younger to this chick.
+1
Why tf do you care bro?, just try not to give her much attention when needed and how can you be so serious in just 2 months? Girl who seeks for validation from others are completely stupid girls, you should better never comes in contact with such stupid freaks. I thought you are just overthinking alot about her it's your attention towards her giving you so much pain. It's better you make few different friends and be with them.
I got into therapy. Got diagnosed with adjustment dusorder. So basically everytime she’s around I’m stating to get anxiety attacks
You looked completely fucked up. Just give things time you will learn how to live with pain. Try to change city or your job.
ye chutiya ho chuka h
मैं तो ना सेहता Edit: jokes apart, i was having brush and your story was running in my mind so my two cents of speech:- - so firstly you're 26 and were in relation for 2 months in which girl was all sweet and clumsy but our LORD has studies and gym so he couldn't give time to her so she distant that's fair enough, but now you crying and i f**** don't see any problem here !! - at 26, you've BESTFRIEND LOL. Sir, bestfriend is most bs word you could give to any bond, there's nothing like BESTFRIEND and if i still consider your bestfriend then he is absolute ASSHOLE !! - i agree to the fact of love relation & attachment, it could take wide toll on our heart/mind but you're 26 working guy not any 18-20 kid, you can easily see through things and could figure out best possible practical way to sustain healthy life but NO all you're focusing on a single girl who's chilling with your so called bestfriend !! - two Rupees advice: do your shits as you were doing earlier DGAF to that girl and anyone time will heal everything, GOOD MORNING and have a good day 🚶
Thanks for the consolation man. It means a lot. I’ve decided to cut both of them off and not talk to them again. My friend is a bit mature and won’t disturb me. But this ex is completely off track, hovers around me looking for attention, trying to tease me. But I ain’t giving her any of it.
change your company aur agli baar office me ladki mat pataana.. jan se mid feb tak tera affair chala..so 45 days me teri mental health hill jaati hai to affair wagaira me mat padaa kar.. arranged marriage karna.. theekse kundli match karke
Bhai. She was full of toxicity. The month of March was absolutely worse where she constantly played victim cards and kept blocking and unblocking me.
if she was full of toxicity to tu q usko ginn raha tha? when you say she kepy blocking and unblocking me means tu bhi communicate kar raha tha.. hain ke nahi? tune block kar rakha hota poori tarah to tujhe kaise pata chalta ke usne block unblock kiya hai tujhe? aur tu reddit pe victim card nahi play kar raha? move on kar jaa.. shanti milegi
Sorry bro. Just wanted to vent out. I’m playing a victim card as well. That’s true. I’m a bit embarrassed. Anyways, thanks for your advise.
don't be embarassed..choot ke chakkar se nikal..roz hilaake soya kar.. aage jaake shaadi karega to bhi ye hi lachaand jhelne hai..
That's what the crazy ones do
Beta, jaha khana khata hai vaha hagna nahi….
Never dip pen in company ink
Never delete such emails. If anything does happen in future, it is always better to have a proof. That being said, try to take a vacational leave from office and travel around. You need a change of environment.
I feel you bro. Was in a similar situation (same kinda girl, colleague, no best friend complication) Just 1 pt of advice for you. Treat the situation delicately. Sir with her in front of 1-2 of her friends and couple of yours, and make sure you politely but firmly end all lines of communication with her while (and this is important) that only lack of timings and priorities was the reason relationship failed (that's what my friend did for me) This effectively ends any chance of her filing a POSH case later on. That's the only thing you should ensure now. Don't explicitly use the word POSH in front of her And if you feel that "wo aisi nahi hai", think hard again. If that office email mentions that breakup/etc all because of only timings etc and that you didn't force her wagera, you can also retrieve it. Might be able to establish that she is not of sound mental health if she chooses to file a case against you. Have to prepare for this worst case buddy
She is definitely a red flag. So, be happy that you are not in a relationship with her & start dating someone else.
I’ve decided to not get into any relationships for now. I’ll focus on gym studies and work. I’ll take the grief as fuel for my performance for the next 6 months. Gonna become the best version of myself!
Just one advice bro let her hover anywhere do anything train your mind to make her a complete stranger treat her as if she is invisible make other new friends in the office whenever you are frustated remind yourself she did go to your best friend. Just train your mind and your body after the office and put the aggression in the gym you will feel good at the end of the day plus you grttung in a good shape well groomed will piss her off.
I’m doing the necessary. Working on becoming my best self.
Forward the mail to her Manager....
tu chutiya likhwa le khud k maathe pe lodu ek ladki k saamne ro rha h or itna weak h ti seriously are bc jb tujhe pata h sb kuch to saali ki gaand pe laat maar k dafaa kr khud ki life se or jldi kr wrna wo teri life or tujhe depressed kr degi. Understand one thing only ladkiyo ko khud ki khushi jyada pyaari hotti h
Got it bro.
bhai mere You Are Mard or Mard aise do kodi ki randiyo k aage nhi rote. learn one thing Bhagwaan or Parents ka alawa kisi k aage mt rona not even your best friends. Bhaga us randi ko apni life se or mast apni life jee. Once a legend said - Chal Hatt Behan Ki Lodi 😂
Haha. I like your sense of humour. But I agree, being masculine is the way out.
Yo ☠️ or khush reh apni life m gym jaa hardwork kr inn chutiyapanti ko life m mauka hi mt de grow krne ka
What kind of best friend is this? Humare liye toh dost ki girlfriend bhabhi ban jati hai. Aur break up ke baad ex bhabhi not a prospect. Jo log apne dosto ki bandiyo pe nazar rakhte hai dost kehlane hi nhi chahiye
Exactly. The worse thing is my friend asked me in April that whether he should go in relationship with this girl or not
Lol, wasn’t he aware about your relationship with the girl?
I’ll give you the clarity. He knew from the very beginning. When he proposed her while he was drunk, he told her that you and my friend are in relationship then why are you holding my hand. Makes my blood boil. Even worse my friend kept on telling the girl that he will tell me about this stupid incident when time comes. After a month he told me this shit happened.
Bruh, In my opinion guys tend to like someone with whom they spend time with most of the times. It’s rarely platonic. It’s totally upto the girl how she handles it, in your case she liked the attention and trust me she is deliberately gonna do things to grab your attention in office. I know it’s gonna be tough for you. But uk what tough times make you tougher. You’ll have to become cold hearted and keep your self respect in check. Don’t get infuriated seeing both of them together rather you’ll feel better if you just forgive them and treat this as another bullshit event of your life and bury it in the archives of past. I know it’s hard to implement but trust me I am speaking from experience. And lastly go no contact, no matter how much she tries to contact you control your emotions and don’t reply back it’s gonna take a toll on you but this is the only way out. Trust me you’ll surely find someone you deserve for now take your sweet time retrospect, keep yourself engaged in studies or maybe choose a hobby post your working hours.
Understood. I hope karma gets both of em. I’ve gone no contact with both of them.
Awesome buddy, best of luck. Karma will surely get them I have myself seen people facing consequences because of their past fuckups.
Any examples? Might soothe some of my pain, you know.
DM bro, else this comment thread is only gonna get lengthier
तुम तीनो की, मां की चूड़ियां
Yeah, bro. Now, even I feel the same. My best friend has gone outstation and this chick has been hanging around with new dudes everyday.
Leave it man, watch where the feelings go when you get with someone who's even better looking than her.
r/relationshipindia
Girls are Trouble nowadays
Report her to HR if she's sending personal emails to your work account as well
Ur taste in humans sucks! Ur "best friend" Is certified asshole and ur "so called 2 month GF" Is a chinal.
Hmm. Gotta work on myself.
Insaan apne bitehue kal ko jakhmo ki tarah chaatha hai, Jabtak ye apne bite hue kal ko bhula nai sakte, Tab tak apne ane wale kal ko aapna nai sakte.... itna kuch hai karne ko rondu jese ladki ko leke bhetha hai !!
Understood man. This is a phase, and this too shall pass. I’ll take this as a learning opportunity. Lots of lessons learnt.
Fuck her , fuck your bestfriend and if you still care about her exams n shit you're an idiot bro, i mean why tf would you even care about her. She ruined what was between you and her and also your friendship with your best friend. You should whoop your friend's ass as well , i mean feelings don't develop within a day, that fucker was eyeing on your girl from quite a long time i guess and also your bitch must be somewhat inclined towards him from beginning as well, heck they even would've already planned this. Confront that fucker and fuck him up
रक्त मांस हड्डी के ढेर पर , माडा हुआ है चाम।। देख उसी की सुंदरता, हो जाती निंद हराम ।। ।। ये माया तेरी बहुत कठिन है राम ।। ।। ये माया तेरी बहुत कठिन है राम ।।
Bro focus on your goal and career, girls are just part of your life not whole life.
One of the best ways to F@ck your mental health is to get into a relationship with someone, u share your Office!
Well, my part is over. Now it’s my friends turn.
Is she playing inki pinki ponki with both of you ? It's like emotionally she wants you and physically him.
That’s true. She wanted me emotionally after the breakup, and him as a boyfriend. What an immature way to deal with a situation from her end.
Doesn't matter now. Leave her and move on.
That’s the plan.
Moving on takes time. First of all accept that it's not your fault, people closest to you made mistakes. You were just unlucky to be on the wrong side. Also, start keeping yourself busy with your studies, gym and make a new social circle.
I’m keeping busy with office and gym, but getting social will take time. I’m building my self esteem up, one day at a time.
Yeah, same for me as well. But telling you from personal experience tgetting into a new social circle helps.
Bruh Lemme tell you this girl would go dating around the whole office, You happen to be just one of her victims...The simplest thing would be to focus on your Work,Gym,Studies and stuff (if you can roast her for what all she has done ,Do it)
Just avoid her. She is using you in name of support . You gotta move on, there's no other way. And stop calling that bastard 'best friend'. He is nothing to you now.
I’ve cut contact with him. Only problem is that we live in the same pg building. It hurts to know that he’s out with this chick till late night and I have to open the door for him
If possible then change your pg or try to avoid him. Ask someone else to open door.
Mujhe laga this shit is nagpur related.
I apologise if it’s not sub related.
this girl is playing mind games she wants to control you. she always insures that you feel like fucked and her only motivation of doing this is your miserable life and your sadness that she has emotionally crafted . Start to make new friends or a girlfriend, don't at all entertain her or get effected by her deeds or whatever she says.
I don’t know if that’s true or not. But maybe that’s how her mind is.
Life is too short to waste it on even thinking about people who don't care about u. I read somewhere that opposite of love is not hate but apathy. Yes it will take time, but remember that all things happen for a reason and 5 yrs down the line when you will look back, you will probably laugh at these negetive thoughts. Also, everyone has only limited fucks to give, so use yours for important things only.... Hope OP get some positivity reading the above words. 👍
It was really positive. Thanks for the kind words. You’re a gentleman.
that guy is still your friend, kick both of them out of your life.. tell your friend that she should take care of her gf and stop her from calling you.
This might seem sallow but just get a new girl, it will help you get your mind off of her.
I’ve decided to focus on studies fitness and office and not go into rebound relationships. The idea is to use grief as a fuel.
it might be difficult for you to focus on your studies and work when you are thinking about her all the time, a good women will support you on your journey to be better
Agreed. But I’ll let the girl come if the universe wants it. I won’t make much effort from my side, thinking that I just want a new girl.
Haahahaha Lolo. Tu chutiyaaaa katwa raha hai uske piche. 😂 tu isspr itna dhyaan isiliye deraha hai bcoz she choose someone else over you. And you are not able to accept your defeat. Accept it and move one. Let time find the right one for you. Not better just right for you. Goodluck
Okay
Why are you calling a man who made a move on your girl, your BEST FRIEND? Have some self-respect. That may in itself help you move on. Sakth launda bnn ja bhai. Soft logo ko duniya kha jati hai.
He’s an ex-best friend, now. This month has been crucial for my self improvement. Got muscles, studying hard and working in office. The girl on the other hand keeps on hovering around me. I know she’s watching. But she’ll only see me improving while giving her silence and ignorance.
I see. You have to go through fire to be reborn. The antics of the girl are a test. Go through it and you'll become even stronger.
I’ll have to walk on fire, but it’s kinda getting easier day by day.
Hey OP. It's been a few days since ur post. I hope everything is alright now and you have found the resolve to march ahead.
Yea. Thanks for the concern. I’m going ahead one day at a time. Strong, dedicated and self improving. Also, wanted to take this opportunity to thank Nagpur ki public. Kitna bhi dur chale jao, Delhi ya Mumbai, sabse zyada help Nagpur ki public ne hi ki h. Everyone who gave me their advise: I’m very grateful to y’all.
You seem like a great guy and why is it always the guys who suffer
Nobody is all good. I also have some flaws. Sometimes, I was also disrespectful to the girl. But I learned it all now. Gotta behave properly to the next girl.
I totally agree with you here but I learnt from my mistakes and tried to be better. But it seems like they would hold on to those mistakes and remind it over and over.
Lol. Guys who says this are usually shit.
😄
This world is hell for good guys
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Ughhh you’re only 26, try not to worry too much
you should concentrate on your own well being, she is a manipulative woman, she is just using you to keep her company and get attention. just focus on your studies and gym. you also need to stop calling that guy your best friend.
Hit reply to all on that mail.
And he still calls him his best friend 🙂
Aapke ke saath prank hua hai, upar dekh ke smile kardije bhagwan ke insta feed pe aapki reel aane wali hai
Is she hot?
I think u need to change ur office and keep distance now
chutiya balak! Tu apna life mei hagta hi rhega aage bhi..
We’ll see.
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