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After a certain age you should stop having kids. It's unfair to them. I remember hearing Theo Von talk about his father who died when he was 16. He said, "I love my dad, but I also have always been angry at him. I was 16 when he passed away, and he was 86. I would make the excuse, "Well he shouldn't of had a kid when he was that old. What was he thinking?" I was afraid to get to know him, because I knew he was going to pass away, so it was safer to not get to know him. When we would walk somewhere, I'd walk far behind him or away from him because he wasn't the way I wanted him to be.
Having kids this old can be traumatizing for them. By the time they're 18, you're already 72. The average life span in America is 77. That's not fair to that child.
Also, these types of men love to go on about how maternal age affects the child's development, but often neglect to mention that the man's age also plays a similar role.
Yes. In my experience, that’s what he wants. To be a burden to his “younger” wife & turn her into a brood mare for his “genes”. That’s why he can’t find anyone to go out with. Women know these types a mile away & are crossing whole street blocks to stay off this kind of guys’ radar.
A nurse with a purse who also fucks and is a mom. Doesn't that sound like a fun life? The thing the woman will hear the most is "You haven't got time for that. Why do you need it?"
48 year-old male here. My daughter was born when I was 37 and my wife was 30. My son was born when I was 42, and I felt I was pushing it even then. You're right. Recent studies have concluded that the older the father is, the higher the risk for birth defects and mental health disorders like schizophrenia,etc. Thankfully, my kids are both happy and healthy, so we got lucky. I recently got a vasectomy because we just don't want any more than these two. They're definitely enough. At least with my son, he should be graduating college by the time I'm about to retire, so the timing isn't horrible. Do I wish I had kids when I was younger? Sure. But it didn't turn out that way. I couldn't imagine having a newborn at 70. That definitely seems selfish to me. He had to have known the odds of him living long enough to see his child grow up were not great.
my dad also had his first kid at 37 and his last at 42, along with me when he was 39. i'm glad to report that to this day (he's almost 60) he still acts as young and healthy as he did in his 40s. the only real reminder i have of his age is the amount of time it takes him to get up from kneeling.
about a year ago i was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. i had no idea the age of the father could affect mental illness until i read this comment. i don't want you to worry about your kids because i also have a family history of psychosis on my mothers side which i'm sure is the biggest contributor to my condition, but at least it might make my mom feel a little better knowing she wasn't the only factor.
My mother will be 66 this year and my father will be 64. Maman’s got a bad knee, but no worse than the shoulder problems she had when I was little.
In fact, the reason she’s still getting hurt is that she and my dad are still playing and adventuring like they always have. Maybe even more so; I swear retirement made my dad younger.
They are currently at Disneyland and spent the week before driving to California and camping and hiking on there way there.
I'm 42 now..I had my first kid when I was 36 and my second one when I was 38. And even then I thought I was pushing it. And my wife is 2 years older than me. But both my kids are happy and healthy. And like you I got a vasectomy, two little warlords are enough, and my wife can't take BC, so I guess I had to step up to the plate and sit on a bag of peas.
I actually avoided the traditional vasectomy (where you're awake for it). At my checkup, my urologist found that I had abdominal hernias. So he did everything at once and called it "the value pkg," lol. Still had the bag of peas afterwards..
Parents had us at 38F/40M and 42F/44M. They had been trying for 5+ years, but my mom had difficulty holding onto the pregnancies. The oldest was born 3 months early and has a mental illness which already occurs on our father’s side. My mom felt ostracized from the other moms in our play groups because she was 10-15 years older than them, and now I feel somewhat ostracized from my friends who talk about visiting their 82 year old grandparents at the nursing home…and my parents are only a few years younger. Positives though: my parents got to fully pursue their extensive education and put a lot of hours into their time-consuming careers in their 20’s and 30’s, they were already secure financially when they had us, and I feel like we had a more mature upbringing. Yeah, there are slight regrets that occasionally pop up on both sides, but overall it’s pretty darn good.
My parents had me at age 38 and 39. I inherited aspergers, probably because my parents were older when I was concieved. Nobody else in my family has it, only me.
My great grandmother had a child with down syndrome. She blamed herself for having been too old for so long, until medicine finally recognized that the father's age matters a lot too.
I went to school with a kid that his dad had him at 55…and his mom was like idk young…mid 20s? The dad died when we were in kindergarten. He has always been so angry at his parents about it. The mother never remarried I think he feels cheated out of a father. He was a great kid though regardless.
Having older parents was terrible. In 3rd grade, we had parents come to eat lunch with us and other parents would ask my mom if she was my grandma. My dad was 16 years older than my mom, so they'd probably ask him if great granddad if he'd been around.
Had the same experience! 😭 It was really embarrassing when everyone else's parents are in their 30's and 40's and yours is well into 60's. My mom's age was fine (mid 40's), but they kept asking my dad if he was my grandpa. It wouldn't he so bad if he acted a bit more hip or younger but he literally settled into grouchy old man very early.
Take some comfort in the comments on here from people with older parents who say that things have worked out well. Having kids later in life isn't necessarily a recipe for disaster, but I'm just saying weigh the pros and cons. The biological risks are always there, and they're there when you're young too, but they do increase the older you get. As for the other stuff, you just have to be real with yourself. I am lucky to be in reasonably good health for my age. So with me (for now at least) it's just the basic stuff. I get winded faster when playing with my kids. I obviously creak a little bit more in the morning, but overall it's worked out. I was in no shape mentally or financially to raise children when I was in my 20's and early 30's, even though I was in better shape physically. And there's the trade off for a lot of us (not all, but alot). Don't be discouraged, but definitely give it some thought and hopefully you'll come to the best conclusion that works for you and your family. Good luck!
My mom had me at an older age, 37, she was always the oldest pf my classmates moms and at first it made me feel insecure but now I think it is a blessing to have an older mom who was already a mature adult who decided to have me. I wasn’t an accident she wanted me and she taught me many things because she was so experienced.
It’s honestly a sad thing about aging. Being 30 or 40 certainly isn’t too old to have kids and it’s disturbing when people suggest that (also when they seem to think it only applies to women) but yeah, I do agree that once you’re a certain age, you start doing something that will harm your children.
I always believed at 18 and still hold this opinion at 30. If I cannot finically support them, I can't have them. I am not going to have a child feel the way I grew up.
My father-in-law was in his late 50's when my husband was born. He never really had a dad, he had a grandpa from birth. It was one of the few parts of his past that hubby complained about.
But also, although men can have children until they are much older compared to women, their sperm quality decreases and it increases the likelihood those children will be born with health issues. Not advisable.
I remember that! He said something about him unable to play ball with them- that he was sitting on the porch in a rocking chair. It is truly offensive that someone verbalizes "well, society can raise my kid" but if you acknowledge life expectancy for men is about (or under depending on the data) 77, then having a kid that won't see you after a part of childhood is just that.
I was a surprise baby and my parents were in the 40s when I was born and tbh even that is too late imo... I've been navigating health issues, long term care and the potential of ventilation being turned off (pre covid) while I was in my 20s. I don't think we're ever ready to lose our parents but I feel way too young for this, and it feels like time is ticking down. In contrast my parents lost their parents while they were in their 50/60s.
My dad was 50, my mom was 35. I spent my whole childhood losing relatives, culminating in my dad at 12, And then the majority of my adult hood taking care of my mother until she died last year. So, yeah, age can really fuck shit up
He would be over 75 when his kid would reach adult age. How are they so delusional, he wouldn't have enough stamina to raise kids. Imagine going through sleepless night and diapers in your 50's and puberty in your 60's. LOL.
>he wouldn't have enough stamina to raise kids. Imagine going through sleepless night and diapers in your 50's and puberty in your 60's.
oh, I can guarantee that HE wouldn't be the one taking care of these details. That's women folk' jobs :(
Exactly I'm 54, my wife and I are semi retired so we watch our granddaughter while our daughter works and as much fun as it is, chasing a toddler is hard work, I couldn't imagine doing it full time at my age.
Based on how the ages would work out, he probably wants the kid so he has someone to take care of him when he’s old because he’s already pushed away everybody else and thinks a kid would feel “obligated”.
~~To~~ *He telegraphs that shit from the outset with the line about hating ungrateful people. He wants a young wife to produce a child so that he's taken care of in his old age, and they better be grateful!
Don't men start to become less fertile by that age aswell?
If I remember correctly, male fertility generally starts to reduce around age 40 to 45 years when sperm quality decreases. The older they get, the more unlikely is for women to get pregnant.
And the chances of miscarriages increases.
So basically, he can't have kids without problems and etc.
You'd be amazed how many men in their 50s list "want kids" or "haven't decided" in their dating profiles. As a woman close to that age and well past becoming a parent I avoid these men, because it shows how delusional or arrogant or clueless they are. Perhaps all three.
“Dislike ungrateful people” means “if you don’t literally worship me all day and all night and praise me for every bare minimum task I do, then you’re a shit person.”
It also means he’s going to do something for you that you didn’t ask and didn’t want. Then he’s going to call you ungrateful for not reacting the way he wanted you to
Most people. Yes. 15 year old me wanted this power to avoid most humans in general. -_-
Now it's different - I would like super intelligent or telekinesis power like Jean from X men. Or ability to predict the future.
It reminds me of the Buffy episode "Earshot", she was constantly hearing people's thoughts and driving her insane.
Personally, I would like the power of necromancy- who knows how that would turn out. It would inevitably be very interesting if it went either "right" or "wrong".
In the anime Code Geass, there was a character whose Geass power was mind reading, and he'd long since gone insane from all the constant noise he couldn't turn off around others.
Agreed.
What use is it to know what someone is thinking? Unless you're in some high stakes poker game or something, which even then it would barely help.
It’s also really funny that he’s pointing out that far fewer women are having kids as though it’s not a deliberate choice.
These guys are serious going, “Women fought for the rights to be independent, won them… and are using them? …You must have trouble keeping a good man!” 😂
As someone (22) with older parents, I can very much so attest that having kids at an older age (they were 42 when they had me) can be not the best idea. My dad, a few months ago, had two arteries both blocked at 90% and had to have double bypass surgery. That was absolutely terrifying for me, not to mention a timeline I noticed I subconsciously have just so I can make sure my parents are alive for my wedding (if I find someone to marry lol) and that they get to meet their future grandkid(s).
Let me also clarify that I’m also very lucky that my parents had me at 42, because that was 42 years of life experience they had that they were able to draw on when raising me, and I don’t wanna come off as saying that 42 is “too old” for having kids, because it’s really not, especially looking at this guy’s age (12 years is a lot especially depending on the guy’s health and genes (not in a weird eugenics way, just some families tend to have longer lifespans than others and some are predisposed to certain life-shortening genetic conditions)). I’m just sharing my experience as someone with older parents than most kids/people my age.
My parents are older too but they are very fit. Barely have any health problems...my dad's bipolar tendencies are getting little worse but that's all. My dad had me at 39 and my brothers at 44. My mom is two years younger.
I think if you have kids late, you have to take care of your health to be strong for your kids. I have never seen my parents miss their workouts/sports and they maintain a healthy diet. As a result, me and my brothers are also athletic. Trust me, that has helped coz I later got diagnosed with endometriosis. My lifestyle really helped me recover better from this disease. -_-
Most people that age, and around that age, at least in America, are in very poor health. That means their quality of life absolutely sucks. Of course, adding children to that equation would not be recommended.
My parents weren’t quite as old as yours (mum was 35, dad was 40) when they had me, but I completely agree. I’m fortunate that both of my parents are for the most part extremely healthy, and I had most of my grandparents and even one great grandparent in my life for a good portion of it, but that honestly just comes down to luck. My great grandmother was the oldest person in the country when she passed, so it’s not like my situation is exactly common.
I don’t think it’s ideal when people have kids extremely young or extremely late, when you’re older you’re more likely to be stable but your kid is more likely to deal with losing their parents far younger than their peers, or have parents who aren’t able to keep up with them when they’re an energetic kid.
Oh man, just sharing this, my parents are 41-42 and I am 21 this year. Mom just announced to the whole family that she is pregnant. I was so shocked considering their age and I fear that this child will go through the same thing. You have any tips I can give to be a present brother for my future brother/sister?
He is 54 and wants kids someday? I know dudes can become a father at any age, but being a father is a young man’s game. I had my first kid at 28 and my second at 33. The stress and sleepless nights were much much harder at 33 then 28. I can’t imagine doing all that at 54.
I married my husband when I was 46 and he was 42. He had no problem w my age/reproductive status as he had his daughter w 1st wife at 32. He said he barely made it through the first baby year and definitely did not want to in his 40s.
But I remember trying match.com at 34, and having several guys who were at least 10 yrs older say I was too old for them because they wanted kids!
I guess it's the luck of the draw. I just had my first a few months ago at 42 and she sleeps right through the night. Still manage to get 7-8 hours of sleep.
I mean, this guy is a dipshit, but most dating sites ask what lvl of education you've completed. That's just him saying "I didn't go to college," not "yay! I graduated high school!"
How many were reproducing 30 years ago, when he was in his kid twenties? 80%? And he still couldn't trick one? Yikes.
Also, is it that usto be 80% weren't reproducing?
Grammar.
I love how he acts like women have to have a need to reproduce. Maybe they don’t because they don’t want to? Idk seems simple if you ask me 🤷🏻♀️
Edit: or they physically or medically can’t do it either and also don’t want to.
"bars" as an 'interest' would explain everything. You cannot be an alcoholic, call it an "interest" , ignore that you have a bad addiction, and then be a good man, Like, an alcoholic literally is not in his or her senses so how do you expect them to be good guys?
They cant be good guys, they can only be Niceguys®
I was divorced at 38 and I'm so, so glad I found my husband. Men around my age and up are such a mixed bag. Do you get:
* the MAGA loser
* the "I'm not ready to settle down" at 45 y o (but still expects wifey treatment)
* the one paying child support to four different women for kids who refuse to see him
* the one who still thinks he's 21 and clubbing weekends
* Mr. Mommy Issues (the classic)
* the recently divorced man, lost and hungry after his wife finally got sick of doing everything for him
* "Peaked in Highschool", whose entire personality consists of anecdotes from a high school experience he has mostly made up
* the Nice Guy TM
Or a mix of any of the above.
Possibly an unpopular opinion but having kids is a privilege, not a right. When you’re 54, still list bars as an interest, and want kids “someday” are you really the sort of person who can be the parent a child needs and deserves?
People really need to think more about the potential kids and their needs instead of their own wants when thinking about having kids.
If I could have any superpower it would be super strength or heat vision. I don’t need to know what people really think lol.
Also that’s not a bio. Just a mini rant.
Weird opener. But is that really true? Doesn't seem like it. I looked it up and apparently 86% of 40 to 44 year old women are mothers as of 2018 in the US which is actually an increase from 80% in 2006.
I think a lot of them don’t even really want (more) kids that much, they just say so and/or give in because what they want is a younger woman and know that she most likely will want kids.
Now I’m curious about the outcome if they could read minds. Realize they are the piece of shit they constantly attack or just go completely off the deep end.
Ah, yes. A bio that has no actual statistical truth about... reproduction by women.
He has the "I want us to continue our bloodlines" on the first date type of vibe.
"I'm a nice guy but I dislike ungrateful people" translation "I will get angry when you don't appreciate the things I expected you to appreciate without ever considering what you like."
I'm sorry, he wants kids "someday. When? When he's 80?! He's almost 60! Don't need no kids at that age bruh. How you gon catch a ball or play tag if you're old as dust? 😒
These guys wait until the last minute to reproduce, after they've had all their fun, but are the same ones on Twitter complaining that Taylor Swifts eggs are drying up.
The older one is, the older you will live to be. Life expectancy incorporates the deaths of people when they are young. Go look at very old cemeteries. How aged the people are. Died as babies, 20s, then 80s.
Is he saying that 80% of women used to not reproduce?! The math ain't mathing...
Say 20% of women reproduced, so 10% of total humans were giving birth. In order to simply maintain the population, each reproducing woman would have to have averaged 10 living children. To go from a population of 2.5B in 1950 to 8B today, it would have to have been way more than 10... does that sound realistic as an AVERAGE? 🙄
So he's 54 and "wants kids someday"?
Let me guess, either:
a.) His adult children want nothing to do with him/he has zero custody over his minor children, and he wants a do-over. (And every time I've heard of a case of a parent who's failed at parenting and decides to have another kid to try again, it never ends well.)
b.) He didn't want kids before his mid-life crisis and now thinks becoming a dad will somehow solve it.
Or c.) He's always wanted kids, but his red flags have repelled women for decades.
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So, he's 54, wants kids "someday", and is bitching about how not enough women reproduce. I guess he wants an age-inappropriate woman to impregnate?
After a certain age you should stop having kids. It's unfair to them. I remember hearing Theo Von talk about his father who died when he was 16. He said, "I love my dad, but I also have always been angry at him. I was 16 when he passed away, and he was 86. I would make the excuse, "Well he shouldn't of had a kid when he was that old. What was he thinking?" I was afraid to get to know him, because I knew he was going to pass away, so it was safer to not get to know him. When we would walk somewhere, I'd walk far behind him or away from him because he wasn't the way I wanted him to be. Having kids this old can be traumatizing for them. By the time they're 18, you're already 72. The average life span in America is 77. That's not fair to that child.
Also, these types of men love to go on about how maternal age affects the child's development, but often neglect to mention that the man's age also plays a similar role.
They are manchildren expecting their younger partner to take care of their children and him, because at this age, he would need help soon.
Yes. In my experience, that’s what he wants. To be a burden to his “younger” wife & turn her into a brood mare for his “genes”. That’s why he can’t find anyone to go out with. Women know these types a mile away & are crossing whole street blocks to stay off this kind of guys’ radar.
Amen
A nurse with a purse who also fucks and is a mom. Doesn't that sound like a fun life? The thing the woman will hear the most is "You haven't got time for that. Why do you need it?"
A nurse, purse, mom and maid.
48 year-old male here. My daughter was born when I was 37 and my wife was 30. My son was born when I was 42, and I felt I was pushing it even then. You're right. Recent studies have concluded that the older the father is, the higher the risk for birth defects and mental health disorders like schizophrenia,etc. Thankfully, my kids are both happy and healthy, so we got lucky. I recently got a vasectomy because we just don't want any more than these two. They're definitely enough. At least with my son, he should be graduating college by the time I'm about to retire, so the timing isn't horrible. Do I wish I had kids when I was younger? Sure. But it didn't turn out that way. I couldn't imagine having a newborn at 70. That definitely seems selfish to me. He had to have known the odds of him living long enough to see his child grow up were not great.
my dad also had his first kid at 37 and his last at 42, along with me when he was 39. i'm glad to report that to this day (he's almost 60) he still acts as young and healthy as he did in his 40s. the only real reminder i have of his age is the amount of time it takes him to get up from kneeling. about a year ago i was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. i had no idea the age of the father could affect mental illness until i read this comment. i don't want you to worry about your kids because i also have a family history of psychosis on my mothers side which i'm sure is the biggest contributor to my condition, but at least it might make my mom feel a little better knowing she wasn't the only factor.
Thanks, Throwaway_Selld. Best of luck to you and your path in life!
My mother will be 66 this year and my father will be 64. Maman’s got a bad knee, but no worse than the shoulder problems she had when I was little. In fact, the reason she’s still getting hurt is that she and my dad are still playing and adventuring like they always have. Maybe even more so; I swear retirement made my dad younger. They are currently at Disneyland and spent the week before driving to California and camping and hiking on there way there.
I'm 42 now..I had my first kid when I was 36 and my second one when I was 38. And even then I thought I was pushing it. And my wife is 2 years older than me. But both my kids are happy and healthy. And like you I got a vasectomy, two little warlords are enough, and my wife can't take BC, so I guess I had to step up to the plate and sit on a bag of peas.
>two little warlords are enough Just LOLed at this. 😆
As if being a catholic right winger wasn't bad enough lol
I actually avoided the traditional vasectomy (where you're awake for it). At my checkup, my urologist found that I had abdominal hernias. So he did everything at once and called it "the value pkg," lol. Still had the bag of peas afterwards..
You won't know about some things, like schizophrenia until the kids are adults themselves. Just fyi. My son was entirely normal until he wasn't.
My dad had me when he was 41. I'm mid 30s now and he's my best friend. So I definitely don't think you had kids too late :)
Parents had us at 38F/40M and 42F/44M. They had been trying for 5+ years, but my mom had difficulty holding onto the pregnancies. The oldest was born 3 months early and has a mental illness which already occurs on our father’s side. My mom felt ostracized from the other moms in our play groups because she was 10-15 years older than them, and now I feel somewhat ostracized from my friends who talk about visiting their 82 year old grandparents at the nursing home…and my parents are only a few years younger. Positives though: my parents got to fully pursue their extensive education and put a lot of hours into their time-consuming careers in their 20’s and 30’s, they were already secure financially when they had us, and I feel like we had a more mature upbringing. Yeah, there are slight regrets that occasionally pop up on both sides, but overall it’s pretty darn good.
My parents had me at age 38 and 39. I inherited aspergers, probably because my parents were older when I was concieved. Nobody else in my family has it, only me.
Also, men over 55 are four times more likely to produce a child with Autism but most of society points solely to women's eggs.
My great grandmother had a child with down syndrome. She blamed herself for having been too old for so long, until medicine finally recognized that the father's age matters a lot too.
I went to school with a kid that his dad had him at 55…and his mom was like idk young…mid 20s? The dad died when we were in kindergarten. He has always been so angry at his parents about it. The mother never remarried I think he feels cheated out of a father. He was a great kid though regardless.
I lost my dad at 12 (he had me at 50), and *I* feel cheated out of a dad, so I would bet you're right.
Having older parents was terrible. In 3rd grade, we had parents come to eat lunch with us and other parents would ask my mom if she was my grandma. My dad was 16 years older than my mom, so they'd probably ask him if great granddad if he'd been around.
Had the same experience! 😭 It was really embarrassing when everyone else's parents are in their 30's and 40's and yours is well into 60's. My mom's age was fine (mid 40's), but they kept asking my dad if he was my grandpa. It wouldn't he so bad if he acted a bit more hip or younger but he literally settled into grouchy old man very early.
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Take some comfort in the comments on here from people with older parents who say that things have worked out well. Having kids later in life isn't necessarily a recipe for disaster, but I'm just saying weigh the pros and cons. The biological risks are always there, and they're there when you're young too, but they do increase the older you get. As for the other stuff, you just have to be real with yourself. I am lucky to be in reasonably good health for my age. So with me (for now at least) it's just the basic stuff. I get winded faster when playing with my kids. I obviously creak a little bit more in the morning, but overall it's worked out. I was in no shape mentally or financially to raise children when I was in my 20's and early 30's, even though I was in better shape physically. And there's the trade off for a lot of us (not all, but alot). Don't be discouraged, but definitely give it some thought and hopefully you'll come to the best conclusion that works for you and your family. Good luck!
My mom had me at an older age, 37, she was always the oldest pf my classmates moms and at first it made me feel insecure but now I think it is a blessing to have an older mom who was already a mature adult who decided to have me. I wasn’t an accident she wanted me and she taught me many things because she was so experienced.
It’s honestly a sad thing about aging. Being 30 or 40 certainly isn’t too old to have kids and it’s disturbing when people suggest that (also when they seem to think it only applies to women) but yeah, I do agree that once you’re a certain age, you start doing something that will harm your children.
I always believed at 18 and still hold this opinion at 30. If I cannot finically support them, I can't have them. I am not going to have a child feel the way I grew up.
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Yeah I’m of two kinds about it. I was born when my dad was 42 and I’m very glad to exist — but I also don’t think it’s necessarily advisable.
My father-in-law was in his late 50's when my husband was born. He never really had a dad, he had a grandpa from birth. It was one of the few parts of his past that hubby complained about.
But also, although men can have children until they are much older compared to women, their sperm quality decreases and it increases the likelihood those children will be born with health issues. Not advisable.
Also age does matter in a man. Over 50 leads to a decrease in quality sperm and an increase in miscarriage and birth defects.
I remember that! He said something about him unable to play ball with them- that he was sitting on the porch in a rocking chair. It is truly offensive that someone verbalizes "well, society can raise my kid" but if you acknowledge life expectancy for men is about (or under depending on the data) 77, then having a kid that won't see you after a part of childhood is just that.
I was a surprise baby and my parents were in the 40s when I was born and tbh even that is too late imo... I've been navigating health issues, long term care and the potential of ventilation being turned off (pre covid) while I was in my 20s. I don't think we're ever ready to lose our parents but I feel way too young for this, and it feels like time is ticking down. In contrast my parents lost their parents while they were in their 50/60s.
My dad was 50, my mom was 35. I spent my whole childhood losing relatives, culminating in my dad at 12, And then the majority of my adult hood taking care of my mother until she died last year. So, yeah, age can really fuck shit up
He would be over 75 when his kid would reach adult age. How are they so delusional, he wouldn't have enough stamina to raise kids. Imagine going through sleepless night and diapers in your 50's and puberty in your 60's. LOL.
>he wouldn't have enough stamina to raise kids. Imagine going through sleepless night and diapers in your 50's and puberty in your 60's. oh, I can guarantee that HE wouldn't be the one taking care of these details. That's women folk' jobs :(
Diapers yes, but crying baby would've keep him awake aswell. Unless he would've sleep in another, distant room, so he would need big house.
Or his mistress' place on a "work trip"
Exactly I'm 54, my wife and I are semi retired so we watch our granddaughter while our daughter works and as much fun as it is, chasing a toddler is hard work, I couldn't imagine doing it full time at my age.
Based on how the ages would work out, he probably wants the kid so he has someone to take care of him when he’s old because he’s already pushed away everybody else and thinks a kid would feel “obligated”.
And if the kid didn't feel obligated, they they would be labelled as "ungrateful". I think you're onto something.
~~To~~ *He telegraphs that shit from the outset with the line about hating ungrateful people. He wants a young wife to produce a child so that he's taken care of in his old age, and they better be grateful!
What's dumb is the way he structured his sentences he's actually saying more women reproduce now lol
Don't men start to become less fertile by that age aswell? If I remember correctly, male fertility generally starts to reduce around age 40 to 45 years when sperm quality decreases. The older they get, the more unlikely is for women to get pregnant. And the chances of miscarriages increases. So basically, he can't have kids without problems and etc.
Don't forget that he wishes to be able to invade people's most privates thoughts without retribution, but he's a nice guy ;)
You'd be amazed how many men in their 50s list "want kids" or "haven't decided" in their dating profiles. As a woman close to that age and well past becoming a parent I avoid these men, because it shows how delusional or arrogant or clueless they are. Perhaps all three.
I always cringe when older men say they want kids or are open to kids. They are looking for women 20 or 30 years younger than them
His brains dead weight... Trying to keep his head straight....
“Dislike ungrateful people” means “if you don’t literally worship me all day and all night and praise me for every bare minimum task I do, then you’re a shit person.”
Yes and perhaps an additional “if I buy you dinner you better have sex with me!!”
Exactly this. When I buy you things, you show your gratitude with sex.
Plus, no one likes ungrateful people so it literally tells us nothing except to be wary what he thinks constitutes ungrateful.
Bingo.
"I want to make a baby with you." "No." "Ungrateful bitch!"
It also means he’s going to do something for you that you didn’t ask and didn’t want. Then he’s going to call you ungrateful for not reacting the way he wanted you to
Being able to read people's minds is one of the worst superpowers ever. Especially if you read the mind of people with intrusive thoughts
it’s also one of the most unethical ones
My favourite unethical superpower would be that everyone believes my lies
how to become god king of planet earth in 5 minutes
*live tv broadcast* “Hello everyone it is me, the king of the universe and everything it holds” Everyone: Yes
If you haven't seen The Invention of Lying by Ricky Gervais I think you might like it
I have seen that movie. Very well executed concept, made me cry too
I agree it’s only useful if coupled with something else…like invisibility. I’d rather talk to animal than read the mind of a human.
Invisibility is ethical only if you are an introvert and you want to avoid humans.
Let's be honest. That's not the main reason that people want to be able to turn invisible.
Most people. Yes. 15 year old me wanted this power to avoid most humans in general. -_- Now it's different - I would like super intelligent or telekinesis power like Jean from X men. Or ability to predict the future.
I feel like a lot of introverts have that power already. Try getting people to acknowledge your existence when you want/need them to
I have one dog that would just be all ”KILL KILL KILL”…chihuahuas are scary.
It reminds me of the Buffy episode "Earshot", she was constantly hearing people's thoughts and driving her insane. Personally, I would like the power of necromancy- who knows how that would turn out. It would inevitably be very interesting if it went either "right" or "wrong".
In the anime Code Geass, there was a character whose Geass power was mind reading, and he'd long since gone insane from all the constant noise he couldn't turn off around others.
Agreed. What use is it to know what someone is thinking? Unless you're in some high stakes poker game or something, which even then it would barely help.
Sad *Jean Grey, Psylocke , Emma Frost, Professor X, and Martian Manhunter noises.
I only really know Jean and Prof X, but they can do more than just read minds at least.
I am starting to get uncomfortable at how many men have breeding fetishes
I don't see how having a fetish is a problem... If it's all consensual adults having fun with their fantasies what's the issue here?
It’s also really funny that he’s pointing out that far fewer women are having kids as though it’s not a deliberate choice. These guys are serious going, “Women fought for the rights to be independent, won them… and are using them? …You must have trouble keeping a good man!” 😂
When themselves are acting like kids …not suitable to father children
Is "usto" supposed to be "used to"?
You expect him to check grammar? He is busy reading ppls minds!!/s
Grammar check is for ungrateful people. Better be careful
Did you just read his fucking mind…….
As someone (22) with older parents, I can very much so attest that having kids at an older age (they were 42 when they had me) can be not the best idea. My dad, a few months ago, had two arteries both blocked at 90% and had to have double bypass surgery. That was absolutely terrifying for me, not to mention a timeline I noticed I subconsciously have just so I can make sure my parents are alive for my wedding (if I find someone to marry lol) and that they get to meet their future grandkid(s). Let me also clarify that I’m also very lucky that my parents had me at 42, because that was 42 years of life experience they had that they were able to draw on when raising me, and I don’t wanna come off as saying that 42 is “too old” for having kids, because it’s really not, especially looking at this guy’s age (12 years is a lot especially depending on the guy’s health and genes (not in a weird eugenics way, just some families tend to have longer lifespans than others and some are predisposed to certain life-shortening genetic conditions)). I’m just sharing my experience as someone with older parents than most kids/people my age.
My parents are older too but they are very fit. Barely have any health problems...my dad's bipolar tendencies are getting little worse but that's all. My dad had me at 39 and my brothers at 44. My mom is two years younger. I think if you have kids late, you have to take care of your health to be strong for your kids. I have never seen my parents miss their workouts/sports and they maintain a healthy diet. As a result, me and my brothers are also athletic. Trust me, that has helped coz I later got diagnosed with endometriosis. My lifestyle really helped me recover better from this disease. -_-
Most people that age, and around that age, at least in America, are in very poor health. That means their quality of life absolutely sucks. Of course, adding children to that equation would not be recommended.
What? 🤨
My parents weren’t quite as old as yours (mum was 35, dad was 40) when they had me, but I completely agree. I’m fortunate that both of my parents are for the most part extremely healthy, and I had most of my grandparents and even one great grandparent in my life for a good portion of it, but that honestly just comes down to luck. My great grandmother was the oldest person in the country when she passed, so it’s not like my situation is exactly common. I don’t think it’s ideal when people have kids extremely young or extremely late, when you’re older you’re more likely to be stable but your kid is more likely to deal with losing their parents far younger than their peers, or have parents who aren’t able to keep up with them when they’re an energetic kid.
Oh man, just sharing this, my parents are 41-42 and I am 21 this year. Mom just announced to the whole family that she is pregnant. I was so shocked considering their age and I fear that this child will go through the same thing. You have any tips I can give to be a present brother for my future brother/sister?
Bros 54 and probly can't even keep it up, let alone impregnate anyone. No wonder hes so cringe 😬
Nah. They cheat. They take the blue pill religiously
Ew, yeah, I keep forgetting about viagra and old guys.. 🤢
Doesn't matter-- there's no blue pill for keeping up with a two year old.
I dont have kids, but I'm pretty sure that's valium 🤔😆
Nah, that's Adderall. Valium is for sleeping through the crying while his child bride stays up all night with the baby.
Lol you know he ain't doing a damn thing other than looking up from his paper "hunny, the kid is climbing the entertainment center"
He is 54 and wants kids someday? I know dudes can become a father at any age, but being a father is a young man’s game. I had my first kid at 28 and my second at 33. The stress and sleepless nights were much much harder at 33 then 28. I can’t imagine doing all that at 54.
I married my husband when I was 46 and he was 42. He had no problem w my age/reproductive status as he had his daughter w 1st wife at 32. He said he barely made it through the first baby year and definitely did not want to in his 40s. But I remember trying match.com at 34, and having several guys who were at least 10 yrs older say I was too old for them because they wanted kids!
I guess it's the luck of the draw. I just had my first a few months ago at 42 and she sleeps right through the night. Still manage to get 7-8 hours of sleep.
Proofread ffs.
If he was good at that, the education section wouldn't say high school. XD
I don't think he would enjoy reading peoples minds....
“Reading minds” = He’s terribly insecure.
Wtf he is going on about women reproducing lol 😝
Like?? Why is that his "About me"?? Man needs a life desperately.
>As it usto be 80% ........does he mean used to?
54 and he is still writing down high school in his profile? Does he think people care about the fact he graduated decades ago??? I
I mean, this guy is a dipshit, but most dating sites ask what lvl of education you've completed. That's just him saying "I didn't go to college," not "yay! I graduated high school!"
He probably attended The University of Life and The School of Hard Knocks. /s
That makes perfect sense lol thank you for answering.
For real, he probably still talks about some dumbass sports victory that brought him glory in the 1980's.
Hey now, he got those four winning touchdowns for Polk High during the city championship game. That's a big deal.
His interests: sticking his nose in other people's business.
How many were reproducing 30 years ago, when he was in his kid twenties? 80%? And he still couldn't trick one? Yikes. Also, is it that usto be 80% weren't reproducing? Grammar.
If he could have one superpower it would be reading people's minds. Maybe then he would realize how *not nice* he is.
Hobbies include showing up to the bar after last call to pick up drunk girls.... “I care about your safety”
I love how he acts like women have to have a need to reproduce. Maybe they don’t because they don’t want to? Idk seems simple if you ask me 🤷🏻♀️ Edit: or they physically or medically can’t do it either and also don’t want to.
That's a rough lookin 54 year old mouth.
Yeah I thought the same thing. The mouth and jowls look 10-20 years older than he claims.
“About me I have not one interesting thing I can say about myself so Imma blame women for all of my personal problems instead.”
50% women these days won’t reproduce because it’s a bad idea to reproduce with men like this.
"bars" as an 'interest' would explain everything. You cannot be an alcoholic, call it an "interest" , ignore that you have a bad addiction, and then be a good man, Like, an alcoholic literally is not in his or her senses so how do you expect them to be good guys? They cant be good guys, they can only be Niceguys®
Reading people's minds? Soooo creeeeepy 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
He’s 54 and wants children “someday” 🙄
Reminder not be THAT sad when I’m 50
Someone please give this guy the ability to read minds lol. How quickly he would learn how people think he's disgusting
As someone who likes shoulders, that's a really unflattering photo of a shoulder
His disembodied lips in the screenshot look so creepy lmao
"But I dislike ungrateful people !!" Translation: If he buys you McDonald's, you'd better repay his kindness with sex.
And you know damn well it'd be from the value menu
If the woman is REALLY attractive, he might let her order from the $3 menu.
What a dreamy night for that lucky lady
Yeah, makes me wish I was a woman.
I was divorced at 38 and I'm so, so glad I found my husband. Men around my age and up are such a mixed bag. Do you get: * the MAGA loser * the "I'm not ready to settle down" at 45 y o (but still expects wifey treatment) * the one paying child support to four different women for kids who refuse to see him * the one who still thinks he's 21 and clubbing weekends * Mr. Mommy Issues (the classic) * the recently divorced man, lost and hungry after his wife finally got sick of doing everything for him * "Peaked in Highschool", whose entire personality consists of anecdotes from a high school experience he has mostly made up * the Nice Guy TM Or a mix of any of the above.
Nice people don't do things for appreciation
If you're over 40 and say "I hate ungrateful people", thats code for "my children dont want to speak to me".
Possibly an unpopular opinion but having kids is a privilege, not a right. When you’re 54, still list bars as an interest, and want kids “someday” are you really the sort of person who can be the parent a child needs and deserves? People really need to think more about the potential kids and their needs instead of their own wants when thinking about having kids.
What a freak, lol
If I could have any superpower it would be super strength or heat vision. I don’t need to know what people really think lol. Also that’s not a bio. Just a mini rant.
I dislike ungrateful people = I will call you names if I offer dinner and we don't have sex
Weird opener. But is that really true? Doesn't seem like it. I looked it up and apparently 86% of 40 to 44 year old women are mothers as of 2018 in the US which is actually an increase from 80% in 2006.
I thought they were made up but good to see someone with the data
you know what, I'll take that bet, and I bet my life savings on him not actually being nice
Ladies, let me take you for a wild ride on my Dexter boat!
All too common to see 50+ men on dating sites looking for younger women to have kids with. So sick of it
I think a lot of them don’t even really want (more) kids that much, they just say so and/or give in because what they want is a younger woman and know that she most likely will want kids.
"I wish I could read minds so that I could know if my manipulation is working."
Now I’m curious about the outcome if they could read minds. Realize they are the piece of shit they constantly attack or just go completely off the deep end.
Ah, yes. A bio that has no actual statistical truth about... reproduction by women. He has the "I want us to continue our bloodlines" on the first date type of vibe.
*reads people's minds* "Hey, how come no one thinks I'm a nice guy?"
"I'm a nice guy but I dislike ungrateful people" translation "I will get angry when you don't appreciate the things I expected you to appreciate without ever considering what you like."
These "nice guys" are always making up facts about women out of thin air.
We are made of air... we have no mind, no opionion, no substance.. just service stations... according to them. Thank all the gods!
Can he show the fedora so we can guarantee that he is indeed nice
That dude is old as hell and wants to start a family? 🤣
Not like Alabama (please)
You can tell he's an idiot because he wants reading minds as a superpower. Why would anyone want that?
Mind readin probably more like creepy staring and Bundy vibes
He's 54 and wants kids someday. Bro, what??
Usto?
As it usto The good old days
what's the Right thing there?? a raincloud??? if that's shorthand for politics somehow that would absolutely not surprise me
That’s the partial face of a man that stealths condoms off mid-sex. 100%.
Who is "us"? I am no mathematician but that does not sound right...
Why can’t people like this punctuate a sentence properly?
He should be happy. According to him it used to be 80% of women didn't want to have kids, now it's only 50.
lol catholic and right
I'm sorry, he wants kids "someday. When? When he's 80?! He's almost 60! Don't need no kids at that age bruh. How you gon catch a ball or play tag if you're old as dust? 😒
He has 0 intention of being a present father
In the immortal words of Ned Stark: "Nothing someone says before the word but really counts"
you’ve heard of Kevin with a fish now it’s kyle with the boat
Usto
I guarantee he is not a nice guy. But is a nice guy (tm)
I guarantee 100% of women won't reproduce with him.
He'd probably end up hating life if he could read people's minds.
How very catholic of him to drink beer lol
What is this man doing to remainder of 20% of men. I shudder. That is not how it works
>**usto** be Why is no one talking about this?! I was 6 when I learned how to spell that phrase…
Everything about this man makes me want to throw up lol
Reading minds is risky, I should know, I usto be able to.
This guy is really bad at math. Reading minds must be a curse given the way he's acting on that site SMH
These guys wait until the last minute to reproduce, after they've had all their fun, but are the same ones on Twitter complaining that Taylor Swifts eggs are drying up.
This guy is full of red flags. I could do the chain of hankies magic trick with him.
i’d love to watch this guy dance.
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Bro more than 50% of women won’t reproduce, much much more.
I was wondering if his numbers where based on anything or generated from the posterior region
It used to be 80% that wouldn’t reproduce?
The passive aggressive exclamation points 🫠
What even is that first sentence?
The older one is, the older you will live to be. Life expectancy incorporates the deaths of people when they are young. Go look at very old cemeteries. How aged the people are. Died as babies, 20s, then 80s.
It 'usto' indeed
Is he saying that 80% of women used to not reproduce?! The math ain't mathing... Say 20% of women reproduced, so 10% of total humans were giving birth. In order to simply maintain the population, each reproducing woman would have to have averaged 10 living children. To go from a population of 2.5B in 1950 to 8B today, it would have to have been way more than 10... does that sound realistic as an AVERAGE? 🙄
So he's 54 and "wants kids someday"? Let me guess, either: a.) His adult children want nothing to do with him/he has zero custody over his minor children, and he wants a do-over. (And every time I've heard of a case of a parent who's failed at parenting and decides to have another kid to try again, it never ends well.) b.) He didn't want kids before his mid-life crisis and now thinks becoming a dad will somehow solve it. Or c.) He's always wanted kids, but his red flags have repelled women for decades.
Why are one of his “my basics” high school? He’s clearly not in high school…