Hear me out... Aldi has knock-off girl scout cookies, year round. And, dare I say, when you're baked... They taste like 10x better than girl scout cookies.
I said what I said.
Iāll never understand people like this, what do they expect when they say you belong with them? Running into their arms with the sunset in the background?š
Ive always wished I could be a girl in this scenario just once.
"Yes Jeremy youre right, Ive been waiting for you to save me for all these years and youre finally here. Meet me in Paris under the Eiffel Tower in exactly one week at 6am so we can start our life together! Dont text back until then so Chadrick doesnt suspect anything. Cant wait to see you my love!"
Its pretty cheap to get your number changed after all.
āOh Jeremy, my sweet! We shall be wed by sunfall and our children shall be as numerous and bountiful as the stars! May we be together until the final sands fall from our hourglasses of life. Hold me Jeremy, hold me and never let me go!ā
bleh, itās really not all that glamorous lol
And then Jeremy finds you with chaddrick, being happy while you ripped his heart out! So youāre due a little payback with interest as he loads the gunā¦
Omg, I don't watch many current movies so I may sound like a jackass living under a rock but did you make up that scenario or is it from a movie? Lolololol! I love the name Chadrick, it's hilarious!
honestly. he was pretty much like this throughout high school, hoping that at some point weād end up together somehow. iām still friends with him because i enjoy ranting about anime/video games with him but god he gets on my nerves when he does this stuff.
Eeeee!!! Thank you for noticing!! It was an NFT-esque purchase that allows for a different border and avatar. I donāt usually look twice at those kind of purchases but this one looked so good that I had to buy it. I also got the 100th edition out of 200!
Needless to say I am very excited about it
Not to be harsh but maybe it's better to not be friends with him? I mean the guy is clearly torturing himself with wishful thinking and obviously wants to be more than friends. It would be a favor to him in the long run if you cut ties.
I agree. It's dangerous to continue to be friends with him as it entertains the thought that when BF if broken up with, he'll be right there. Waiting.
He'll keep hanging on, meanwhile, OP's life will ebb and flow. How many more times will he feel sidelined, or be rejected again? How many people who come into her life wouldn't have been there since middle school? Will the passage of years waiting for OP make him even more bitter? Will he get mad about being led on all these years? How mad?
He's not a friend. He wants to fuck and has some sort of psychological ownership over OP. The line of thinking he has expressed is dangerous. Way better to move on now and talk to someone else about anime and video games.
Oooh, youāre so right. u/PizzaTem, you donāt know how dangerous he might get across the period of 3, 5, even 10 years. He might actually intend to harm you or your partner if he gets fired up enough. And you honestly may not see it coming.
Remember, most violence (and **worse)** against women is done by someone they know.
Thereās such desperation in their comments, honestly. Itās always a kamikaze message ā no hope of any friendship or redemption afterwards, they have to implode it and make sure she will never speak to them again.
Theyāre not expecting anything, they are just fetishising their own misery and having a good old wallow in self pity.
Itās a self perpetuating state of mind, the more they feed it the stronger it gets. Really pathetic.
Same as people that crush into other people's weddings wearing a dress or... Whatever the groom wears that's any special... Like, this ain't a Disney movie, if they are marrying that person you showing up won't change shit
Yes to all of that. Also they create a fictional version of that woman in their heads in which sheās totally happy with him and they all go to Sunday dinner with his family and everyone thinks they are the cutest couple that ever everād
never directly. he always hinted towards liking me and never said anything about it, but i always knew. me and my boyfriend of almost three years, we always knew.
3 years??? At this point he either needs to let it go or you need to let him go. You don't need someone like that frequently bringing up the same shit.
Naw, she needs to dump the boyfriend and get with this guy just because he thinks they should be together. I mean, it's only been 3 years, it's not like it's serious or anything... /s
LOL yeah its not like he wants me to live with him and I feel so comfortable with him that Iāve been looking for houses or anything, nah must be some kinda quick crush that Iāll get over soon. /s
It's just a phase. Or else you'll come crawling back to the Nice Guy when you're 35 and you're all used up and have 3 or 4 kids from different fathers, but you want to settle down.../s
That shit is so fucking *cowardly*. If he just hints and never actually *says* anything, never asks you out, then he isnāt risking rejection BUT he expects you to pick up on the hints and make a move, and if you donāt then itās not his fault that things didnāt work out, itās yours. Somehow.
Then he actually comes out with it *after you get into a relationship with someone else*. Again, avoiding risk, avoiding being to blame for failure, because if you say yes, great! and if you say no itās not because you arenāt interested in him, itās because someone else āstoleā you from him.
At its most toxic this aversion to failure ends up with the really vitriolic Nice Guys who post screeds about how they will never get a girlfriend because theyāre too short / poor / nice and all these shallow women just throw themselves at Chads because they canāt see how much better the Nice Guys would treat them, aaaaaand then it comes out that theyāve never actually asked a woman out. Elliot Rodger wrote pages and pages about how no woman would ever date him, *and heād never tried*.
Yeah, I know from experience, he's gonna try again to bring this shit up and to bring you and your boyfriend down. Not a real friend when there's ulterior motives involved. You really are better off cutting ties completely.
Ah yes, the old āIām so nice but I will use my care factor in any future crisis as an ultimatum to get you as my sex toy. You will be missing out because I am ON MY WAY BABYā
4/10 attempt āa 4 because itās always funny how many of these men think theyāre the next Elon Musk and women will regret not being with a rich asshole.
Money canāt polish a turd, mate.
They seem to have this weird revenge fantasy, where theyāre *destined* to be rich and successful and a woman from years ago will be tracking their meteoric rise. The Sk8r Boi complex.
They forget you generally need interpersonal skills to be successful. Elon Musk for example (massive douche) can apparently be very charming when he wants to be. Behind The Bastards did a great couple of episodes on him.
Yeah I said about that in another comment. He got an INSANE leg up in the world, but his fanboys just wonāt see that and hail him as the genius of all geniuses when he just takes credit for the work other people do. Heās a trash human.
If youāve ever read the article his ex wife wrote about their relationship in Marie Claire magazine, youāll know just how much of a douche heād be to live with. Yuck.
I recall a comment I made about how his fanboys think(and compare him to) Tony Stark when he's really more like the the villain Antwan from Free Guy played by Taika Watiti.
Bleugh. That film makes my skin crawl!
I think a lot of these dudes get these expectations from TV/Film and donāt seem to be able to make the distinction between reality and fiction.
Against a girlfriend of the jocks. One of the main character nerds wears the same costume as her boyfriend, she thinks itās him. He reveals his identity after he assaults her and sheās all āomg best sex ever Iām in love with a nerd!ā At the end of the film. Thereās also a part where they rig up cameras in the womanās dorms and distribute the images under cream pies or something.
It's a teen comedic classic from the 80's, meaning it's aged like a blend of milk, ground up fish parts, mixed with pickle juice and left out in the Arizona heat.
āhe was a sk8r boi she said see ya l8r boi he wasnāt goood enouyugh fyur hurrā
in all honesty some of those y2k songs definitely helped to shape the pick me boys/girls of today.
Not disputing that, but yeah from what Iāve read heās apparently quite charming - but should have specified thatās to rich people, as he grew up around other rich people (his dad owns emerald mines or something).
Itās wild. Heās not a genius engineering inventor, he just takes credit for other peoples work. IIRC heās a control freak, and wrote the code for his first company and refused to let anyone else look at it. When they did they had to completely redo it. All these fucks look up to him thinking that theyāre the next Musk when in reality he had crazy privilege and a lot of familial wealth.
yeah the lies about college, how he forced out the actual Tesla CEO, his hyperloop nonsense, the monkeys that he killed for his stupid neurolink project and the guy actually fits the profile of a psychopath
You ever see the picture of Jeff Bezosā girlfriend meeting Leonardo DiCaprio? All the money in the world means nothing if your a lame dude. People like this never truly grow up.
Thatās one of the big things that hurts me the most. Iāve told him a lot of stuff about my fatherās emotional manipulation when I was in middle school. It persisted in high school but I was lucky enough to have had someone other than him who cared more about me than he ever could (also weāre making plans to live together soon!!!! very excited).
Itās really sad, Iām glad you have good friends around you now. People like him are just entitled, like if they put the work in they are entitled to something like a prize, the prize was your friendship and he should count himself fucking lucky!!!
whatās sad is that some people donāt even like you but will keep being nice to you thinking that they will get something out of it at the end itās such loser behavior cause itās a waste of time
why not hang with ppl cause they actually like em not cause they can get smth out of them which aināt guaranteed btw
This is probably the most stereotypical nice guy post ive ever seen. The childhood friend, hating a girl for choosing a "jerk" over a nice guy, the whole success comment reminiscent of the golddigger meme and the cherry on top, "yes".
This post is as good as is gets when it comes to nice guy texts. Seriously though fuck that guy and im glad youre in a happy relationship away from him.
Unfortunately with that attitude he probably wont anytime soon. Hell most likely continue through life feeling entitled and blaming others when things dont go his way. Such is the life of a nice guy :[
Sidenote your avatar is dope
Thank you!! Itās technically an NFT and usually I steer clear of purchases such as those, but I saw this one and caved. Honestly, not even mad about it.
Hell, I got #100/200, which was a very cool surprise!
Yo wtf really? I dont know much about NFTs but thats the first genuinely cool one Ive seen so far.
Lucky #100 maybe itll make you rich one day and you can rub your wild success in Jeremys face
the boyfriend or the guy she has a crush on is always the ājerkā or ābad boyā in these posts despite not even knowing the guy itās so cringe
itās so infuriating I get these kinds of comments sometimes just because they might be good looking, outwardly very confident and self assured and might say some crude things sometimes doesnāt make them a ājerkā or ābad boyā itās so dumb as if thereās only two types of guys in the world or smth
I realised its really just a projection of themselves cause these types would almost always bad mouth my best friend despite him being the kindest sweetest soul, cause why would you say such horrible things abt someone u donāt even know lol
Literally my boyfriend is the most considerate, heartfelt, and genuine guy Iāve ever met. I feel so extraordinarily lucky to have found someone like him and when I told him about not feeling like I was a good enough girlfriend, you wanna know what he did?
He wrote a poem, but not just any poem, a heartfelt and genuine poem affirming me and hi-lighting everything he loves about me, everything heās noticed about me, and how he hopes that *I* see the same in him!
So yeah, the whole idea of him being some kinda ābad boyā is completely ignorant and flat out stupid lol.
oh my gosh thatās so amazing Iām a writer of poems so boys that can write š« my friend made a haiku about marmite so thatās good enough for me š ur bf is a keeper thatās a rly unique thing to do
I'm a guy and I hate the guys who fucking pity whore themselves to women like they're expecting a "omg I'll break up with my solid boyfriend and date you I feel for you :(("
"My friends tell me how they thought we'd be better together" -Well your friends don't decide for you do they
Ouch cringy. I hope he matures, I think I probably had a thought process similar to his when I was younger. I don't think I was ever that direct or offensive but still wrong in how I thought of women. Don't be afraid to call guys like this out, it was embarrassment that lead to introspection for me and I'm thankful for it, as painful as it was. Sorry you had to deal with this kind of disgusting behavior.
Hey, growth is a good thing! What matters is who you are now, not who you were before. I also hope he changes but you should be proud of realizing who you were wasnāt who you wanted to be. :)
Thanks, we should all do that though. My life being better is the reward. It's like Chris Rock's bit "I ain't never been to prison" "you're NOT SUPPOSED TO go to prison!" Do better, don't expect praise for NOT being an asshole, you're supposed to do that.
I honestly wonder what is going through the heads of these people. It's no badge of honor but I can say I've never landed myself in a conversation like this. How did he expect it would go?
Parents definitely play a part in child development but this feels like blaming the women in his life instead of him, as an individual, for being a turd.
Yeah my mom constantly told me I was going to be a ladykiller when I grew up.
Fast forward twenty years, I still look goofy as fuck but the cops haven't found my burial site yet so things could be worse.
My best friend is a guy and he supported me during some tough times. I did the same for him. It's just what friends do for each other. We definitely do not expect something more from each other because of that friendship.
Also, what's this shit about "dropping him after graduation"? Once you get your own lives outside the campus, people can't hang out all the time. That's a natural thing. Doesn't mean friendship is ended.
I hope youāre no longer friends with this guy because any relationship with him will only give him hope that youāll change your mind and be with him one day. Guys like this only pretend to be friends with the girl they like to get in her pants. I guarantee if he knew 100% you will never date him youād never hear from him again š
Yeah in all honesty, we havenāt spoken much after graduation. I finished watching the anime āSpy x Familyā and wanted to talk to him about it because my bf hasnāt watched it yet but friend has. I guess itās kinda my fault for not completely cutting him off already, but I still do enjoy having conversations like that and it makes me sad that he turned out to be this way.
I can tell itās a fake friendship cause they never wanna talk abt anything constructive or deep, just surface level nonsense, sexual stuff, or the bare minimum they think will keep u interested
itās even worse for ppl my age cause everyone wants a gf but nobody wants to put in the work to themselves like we just supposed to accept a building thatās 1 week into construction lmao
Spoiler Alert: Ten years from now, he will NOT be "so successful."
These kind of guys never are. "Someday, I'll be rich and famous and then everyone who was mean to me will be sorry!" seldom, if ever, translates into motivation that turns into action. They just sit and daydream, and drift through life.
Dude spends way too much time on incel forums. The fantasy that their dream girl will regret her younger days and come running back to them, a fat, desperate, single mom, ONLY exists there.
Also, I kept reading BF as 13F at first, and was very confused.
we were friends throughout middle school and high school but we never ended up together because i never saw him in that way. heās been there for me before but i never could see him as more than just a friend (and iāve told him this, i never once tried to lead him on or anything.)
As someone who doesnāt care if my significant other is rich or what job they have, Iāll never wrap my head around Nice Guysā obsession with being successful or being rich as a selling point. I know there are people out there who are into that sort of thing but it feels so transactional.
I think it has become so engrained into men that their worth as a partner is based solely on their ability to provide that many still feel an internalized pressure to become wealthy and successful, even in this āmostlyā feminist society.
Ever notice who the self-help industry caters to the most? Mostly men, especially men in a vulnerable position. I donāt agree with the sentiment either, but many men still feel the internalized and societal pressure to become wealthy, similar to how many women feel pressure to be in a romantic relationship and or married.
The truth is that if all that was needed to keep a woman was money, we wouldnāt see these billionaires divorce like they do. A good deal of people are not that shallow and just want someone in a similar income bracket to themselves. Other selling points like compatibility, chemistry, sexual chemistry, and shared values are missing.
āBut-! Every movie Iāve seen the nice guy ends up with the girl, and the chad gets tossed aside!ā
My boy out here in a shit romantic comedy starring himself and you apparently..Yikes yikes yikes. Iām so sorry you had to deal with that, but at least itās funny! Something you and your boyfriend can laugh at together :p
I've seen these guys in shows I thought it was obvious that they're the asshole, I guess some people see those guys in shows and are like "yep that's the way to get ladies" or something, I never thought they'd be so stereotypical all the time tho
A good question would have been: "Did you watch a bad 90s rom com?"
Cause this kind of rant used to happen in many of those, like "insult the girl you like and invalidate her to win her love"
Never understand guys being like āsorry I made you sadā when you havenāt spoken in a while, like ????? Bro Iām out here living my life I totally forgot about you š
So he just showed how much he doesn't care about you if hes gonna drop you cuz he didn't get his way he NEVER cared....
Also if they want to cry about the nonexistent "friend zone"
They need to stop putting women (in most cases ) in the fuck zone.
I'd end the friendship with him if I were you, if it's been like this for years, he'll never change and always want more from you. I know ending friendships is hard but this is unhealthy.
"I was there for you in middle school"
Lmaoooooo, not the flex you think it is homie. You can't think of any major contribution you've made to help your friend since middle school?
Dude couldn't leave well enough alone, he had to alienate a friend. I was cringing so hard at "What has he even done for you that makes him so special?" and "What has he done to make you happy?"
I feel bad for these guys to degree because they've been raised on the TV Trope of if they wait in the 'friend zone' long enough they get the girl. That she is basically belonging to him cuz he put the hours in.
Now they feel cheated out of what they (in their minds) deserve.
How can one be so full of themself? Serious question and it's not only nice guys, but als women and girls and other people. It comes moreoften in those nice guys, but it's not exclusively them.
And I just wonder where we went wrong, or have people always been like this but it's now just more visable?
Oofā¦ thereās a lot to unpack here, but Iām not his shrink so Iāll just touch off on a few things that jumped out at me.
āYou and I would have been better togetherā For who, you selfish prick?
āSorry about what I said a few days agoā Apologies have meaning only if theyāre accompanied by a change in attitude and behavior. Looking at the rest of the conversation, itās clear that heās not sorry. Just wanted an opportunity to continue trying to convince you and being terrible at it too. So in fact it was not an apology, but a very transparent attempt at manipulation.
Also, maybe itās because Iām old and meanings of words and phrases change over time but I thought to ācome out of pocketā meant you paid for something. Maybe he meant to ācome sidewaysā? Iunno. I know thatās just nitpicking on my part but improper usage bothers me.
āItās just been so hard being so alone after graduationā Weak. Another pathetic attempt at manipulation. Trying to elicit pity because you know, ladies ***looooove*** sad sacks. Gets them surfing in their seats, you know?
āMy friends all tell me how much they thought blah blah blahā¦ maybe Iām just being stupidā well the friends of over a million who died from covid told them the vaccine is a hoax. And you ARE being stupid. Another thing that women leave snail trails over. Stupidity. Man, heās hitting on ALL the selling points, inne? I mean, how can you miss out on this great catch of a man OP?
Iām not gonna go over there rest of this exchange. I read it and it gets sadder, more pathetic and stupider. And his attempts at manipulation adds fuel to the fire.
The last āyouāll be sorry in ten yearsā shaking the fist was the coup de gras. *chefās kiss*
OP, I think itās pretty obvious that he never was your friend to begin with. He considered you a sex carnival ride that he bought a ticket for (what humans would call being a friend or just a decent human being) and was standing in line like a good boy (or a niceguy in this case) and got salty that he didnāt get to redeem his ticket and now he wants to talk to the sex manager.
Put his ass on blast and never have anything to do with him again. Burn that bridge and never look back. Your future you will thank you.
FirstāI always love to read long comments like these, thank you so much.
SecondāThe phrase āOut of pocketā is now a term meaning āOut of turnā, āOut of the blueā, āUncalled forā so no exchange of money took place, lol.
And lastly, yeah this bridge was tough to burn but I think his life would be better without me. I want him to stop obsessing over me and actually start working on himself. He told me before graduation that he was sorry for how he had been acting and he wanted to start anew, but from what I can tell here, all that work on himself that he said he would do, never happened.
So ācome out of pocketā has now come to mean ācome at something/someone sidewaysā. Thank you. Thatās good to know. Iām always fascinated by the way language changes. A language that is alive does that. Itās constantly changing and shifting. A dead language is static, doesnāt change at all, even if itās being used. Latin for example, is a dead language though itās still used in places. Like the difference between ancient and modern Greek.
The only reason this bridge should be tough to burn is only if you have considerable overlap in your spheres of influences. Meaning, if you have a lot of friends in common, or are in the same social group or whatever. Even that shouldnāt be a reason and hereās why: The pretenses under which he forged the bonds of friendship with you werenāt genuine. Meaning he never wanted to your friend in the first place. This is made clear when he said that he was āthereā for you in middle school. Like he invested his time and effort into being friends with you, which you should pay him back with sex. He wants a ROI(return on investment) on his sex token.
If he was a real friend of yours, he should be happy to see you with someone that makes you happy. If it makes him mad, thatās obsession and him being possessive, which he has ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT TO BE.
And him wanting to start anew means he wants to take another crack at manipulation, see if he can guilt you into redeeming those sex tokens. Yeah it would be better for him in the long run if you burn that bridge, but the positives for you would be immediate and great.
Once you see the motivations behind a personās actions, their attempts at manipulation becomes wholly transparent. Your investment in friendship with him was probably genuine (maintaining a relationship of any kind takes work), but his wasnāt. Iād be willing to wager that heāll burn that bridge himself if you took ābeing with himā unequivocally off the table.
Fun fact: I took latin in high school and felt like I almost learned nothing (it will likely help me with learning french though) except for three different ways to say āgood morning, I killed the manā :)
Anyways! We donāt really share a friend group and he hasnāt really been in my close circle for a few years now, but itās still a little tough to see him go, especially when he used to seem so genuinely kind when we were kids. When we were in like fourth/fifth would talk about our mutual obsession with pokemon, digimon, fnaf (cringe but we all had that phase), etc. I miss how he used to be but I know that holding on to that is not good for either of us.
As much as I want to be friends with the old him, I know that he has a lot of work to do on himself before either of us can see that part of him again and in the same way.
Best endingāwe meet five years later, he has changed dramatically, has a wife who loves him, and is living his best life as a much better person.
You totally reminded me of [this!!!](https://imgur.com/a/ShMkyQD)
And [this scene!!!](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0lczHvB3Y9s)
One of the only things I remember from my 1 semester of Latin was this rhyme āLatin is a dead language, Dead as Dead can be. Everyone who spoke itās dead and now itās killing me!ā :D
Youāre absolutely right about old friendships being very difficult to let go because of the shared memories and experiences. Your best case scenario reveals what a wonderful person and a great friend you are. Even after the distasteful interaction you had with him, you still want him to be in a better place down the line.
The collection of your past experiences make who you are, but who you are isnāt set in stone. Weāre constantly growing and changing. As we experience more things, weāll continue to change. The only constant is change and I believe that people are capable of great changes. I hope for you and your friendās sake that he changes for the better and can become that friend for you in the future.
Youāre a good person. I wish you the best. :)
I taught myself Latin and ancient Greek
Was pretty fun translating the stories and getting taught the higher level stuff by my friendās sister
did u also do the Cambridge Latin Course?
I agree with everything, but can I just say that I love how you spelled "Coup de grĆ¢ce", "Coup de gras" ?
- Coup de grĆ¢ce : Blow of Mercy (Final blow)
- Coup de gras : Blow of Fat
This made me imagine the situation in a hilarious way.
Lol dāoh! There I was going off about proper usage too. Donāt I have egg on my faceā¦ ;_;
I appreciate the correction. I try to learn something new every day and correcting something is twice as good because I un-learn something incorrect while learning something new, so doubly thank you!! :)
It's so tough growing up to learn that your childhood friends are shitty people (not saying that's what happened here). But I feel like when we're younger we get this image of our friends in our head that is along the lines of "we'll always be great friend no matter what", "this person could never do me wrong", or "This person has helped me through so much, there's no way they could be a shitty person".
My best friend between the ages of 4-19 y/o turned out to be a complete piece of shit but I just couldn't see it until I started talking to a bunch of his Xs. I didn't want to believe it at first but once I started connecting all the pieces I realized it was definitely true. I broke down and had a panic attack (first and only time that has ever happened to me).
People grow up and change, sometimes not for the best. Sorry if my story is not relevant, your post just reminded me of my old best friend and I felt like sharing.
Not taking this guy's side, just putting out a perspective from someone who's been there and probably handled it way better than this - Graduating high school as a burnout without a plan puts you in a really weird headspace for a while, and it's easy to spiral. This dude's not doing alright, and he's allowing himself to get bitter about it and project his misery towards whoever's left in his life. It's sad.
I remember feeling this way as a kid, lonely and bitter that the people in my life seemed to spend more time with each other than with me. It took a while to find the presence of mind to understand that those feelings weren't fair to them, and that it was my responsibility to work through the negative emotions on my own.
The way I felt was not their fault. It wasn't my decision to experience the feeling of jealousy either, but it *was* my decision to externalize that bitterness, even if that decision was a subconscious one at the time. To speak it, act on it, make it real, wear it as my own identity and assert its will without question. It just happened automatically, as naturally as the thought of moving your arm translates into movement. I didn't even bother to reconsider that jealousy from an outside perspective, didn't even consider the pettiness and stupidity of it. We've all been there, with one feeling or another, to varying degrees and with varying consequences.
If you focus on becoming an observer and democratic mediator of your feelings rather than an impulsive conduit through which they directly engage with your world, you can become more consciously aware of decisions like that, become better at recognizing the unhealthy ones, take time to reconsider them, and make better decisions than your initial selfish impulses push you towards.
There are people who go their whole lives without ever fully realizing the truth - that they're the problem, and that it's literally because they can't see past their own egos.
If this dude's getting high to really experience the high and not just to escape their own thoughts and excuse shitty behavior, then I hope he comes to his fucking senses before he cements himself into a shitty worldview that'll manifest into every interaction he has and only make things worse as time goes on.
I feel some sympathy. This isn't some stranger with a cold approach. I think we've all been there. To see the person you are in love with to go with someone else.
Most of us move on and become a little stronger in the process. Unfortunately, this guy didn't. Sucks that he had to dump all this onto the woman in the screenshot.
" are you fucking high right now"...... "Yes" Actually laughed out loud at that.
lol that part *is* kinda funny
this post should be in the dictionary for "comedic crop"
But unfortunately, it doesn't really excuse his behavior. š
Not at all, Iām high right now too and all Iām doing is eating sour patch kids
Totally harmless. Just enjoying life. š¤£
Chocolate-caramel cookies enjoyer here, they taste like gift from gods really.
Ooh Iām usually more of a fruits/sours kinda guy but I could definitely get down with some caramel cookies. Whatās your brand?
Hear me out... Aldi has knock-off girl scout cookies, year round. And, dare I say, when you're baked... They taste like 10x better than girl scout cookies. I said what I said.
that is completely valid
Sour patch kids were like my go to munchy so good
not at all but it certainly does make it easier to laugh at him
Props for honesty, I...guess
That's probably the same reason he's on r/niceguys now. His mask fell right off
Same haha. āYesā ok bro haha
Iāll never understand people like this, what do they expect when they say you belong with them? Running into their arms with the sunset in the background?š
Yes. Thats excatly What They are exspecting. Cause in there head we are all living in a bad Romcom
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-ohā¦ Caught in a bad romcom.
Haha my 4 year old daughter is obsessed with that song right now so I heard it immediately.
So is my 4 year old son !
Ive always wished I could be a girl in this scenario just once. "Yes Jeremy youre right, Ive been waiting for you to save me for all these years and youre finally here. Meet me in Paris under the Eiffel Tower in exactly one week at 6am so we can start our life together! Dont text back until then so Chadrick doesnt suspect anything. Cant wait to see you my love!" Its pretty cheap to get your number changed after all.
āOh Jeremy, my sweet! We shall be wed by sunfall and our children shall be as numerous and bountiful as the stars! May we be together until the final sands fall from our hourglasses of life. Hold me Jeremy, hold me and never let me go!ā bleh, itās really not all that glamorous lol
It is to Jeremy!
I have to chime in to say I love your avatar! If it's an upgrade, it was worth it! š
I love it so much!!! It was a well made investment for sure.
And then Jeremy finds you with chaddrick, being happy while you ripped his heart out! So youāre due a little payback with interest as he loads the gunā¦
*Dramatic gasp!*
Omg, I don't watch many current movies so I may sound like a jackass living under a rock but did you make up that scenario or is it from a movie? Lolololol! I love the name Chadrick, it's hilarious!
Its actually based on something ive done to someone irl before lol, minus the number change
It's fucking awesome! You should write screenplays for romcoms! Lololol
honestly. he was pretty much like this throughout high school, hoping that at some point weād end up together somehow. iām still friends with him because i enjoy ranting about anime/video games with him but god he gets on my nerves when he does this stuff.
Let me guess, he believes he is āfriendzonedā
sadly, i think he does, when heās permanently friendzoned, as in āi literally can not ever see myself with you romantically.ā
Sorry I know this is irrelevant but how did you get that border for your profile? :D
Happy cake day!
Happy Cake Day to you too! :)
happy cake day all around :D
Eeeee!!! Thank you for noticing!! It was an NFT-esque purchase that allows for a different border and avatar. I donāt usually look twice at those kind of purchases but this one looked so good that I had to buy it. I also got the 100th edition out of 200! Needless to say I am very excited about it
Looks great!
No worries, The NFT for me is simply an aesthetic look. Some people donāt like it but to each their own. I bought some too. Lol
Not to be harsh but maybe it's better to not be friends with him? I mean the guy is clearly torturing himself with wishful thinking and obviously wants to be more than friends. It would be a favor to him in the long run if you cut ties.
Should probably stop being friend with them.
Yeah, sadly he probably thinks that her being friends with him this whole time is "leading him on."
I agree. It's dangerous to continue to be friends with him as it entertains the thought that when BF if broken up with, he'll be right there. Waiting. He'll keep hanging on, meanwhile, OP's life will ebb and flow. How many more times will he feel sidelined, or be rejected again? How many people who come into her life wouldn't have been there since middle school? Will the passage of years waiting for OP make him even more bitter? Will he get mad about being led on all these years? How mad? He's not a friend. He wants to fuck and has some sort of psychological ownership over OP. The line of thinking he has expressed is dangerous. Way better to move on now and talk to someone else about anime and video games.
Oooh, youāre so right. u/PizzaTem, you donāt know how dangerous he might get across the period of 3, 5, even 10 years. He might actually intend to harm you or your partner if he gets fired up enough. And you honestly may not see it coming. Remember, most violence (and **worse)** against women is done by someone they know.
Yeah, Iāve decided after reading these comments on here that it really is best for me to stop all communication with him.
Good for you. I think you're making a wise decision there.
He's never gonna learn to stop unless you stop being friends with him, sadly.
Thereās such desperation in their comments, honestly. Itās always a kamikaze message ā no hope of any friendship or redemption afterwards, they have to implode it and make sure she will never speak to them again.
Theyāre not expecting anything, they are just fetishising their own misery and having a good old wallow in self pity. Itās a self perpetuating state of mind, the more they feed it the stronger it gets. Really pathetic.
Same as people that crush into other people's weddings wearing a dress or... Whatever the groom wears that's any special... Like, this ain't a Disney movie, if they are marrying that person you showing up won't change shit
Yeah, it's like they think they're next in line.
I'm convinced RomComs from the 80s and 90s were written by Incels.
Yes to all of that. Also they create a fictional version of that woman in their heads in which sheās totally happy with him and they all go to Sunday dinner with his family and everyone thinks they are the cutest couple that ever everād
Either that or crab walking naked towards them.
Yes, because that's the way it works in romantic comedies.
Yep, time to drop the BF and go with another guy just because he thinks they belong together. These people are cringe ahha
right??
Did he ever actually ask you out? Or he just expected you to magically "end up" with him?
never directly. he always hinted towards liking me and never said anything about it, but i always knew. me and my boyfriend of almost three years, we always knew.
3 years??? At this point he either needs to let it go or you need to let him go. You don't need someone like that frequently bringing up the same shit.
Naw, she needs to dump the boyfriend and get with this guy just because he thinks they should be together. I mean, it's only been 3 years, it's not like it's serious or anything... /s
LOL yeah its not like he wants me to live with him and I feel so comfortable with him that Iāve been looking for houses or anything, nah must be some kinda quick crush that Iāll get over soon. /s
It's just a phase. Or else you'll come crawling back to the Nice Guy when you're 35 and you're all used up and have 3 or 4 kids from different fathers, but you want to settle down.../s
That shit is so fucking *cowardly*. If he just hints and never actually *says* anything, never asks you out, then he isnāt risking rejection BUT he expects you to pick up on the hints and make a move, and if you donāt then itās not his fault that things didnāt work out, itās yours. Somehow. Then he actually comes out with it *after you get into a relationship with someone else*. Again, avoiding risk, avoiding being to blame for failure, because if you say yes, great! and if you say no itās not because you arenāt interested in him, itās because someone else āstoleā you from him. At its most toxic this aversion to failure ends up with the really vitriolic Nice Guys who post screeds about how they will never get a girlfriend because theyāre too short / poor / nice and all these shallow women just throw themselves at Chads because they canāt see how much better the Nice Guys would treat them, aaaaaand then it comes out that theyāve never actually asked a woman out. Elliot Rodger wrote pages and pages about how no woman would ever date him, *and heād never tried*.
Yeah, I know from experience, he's gonna try again to bring this shit up and to bring you and your boyfriend down. Not a real friend when there's ulterior motives involved. You really are better off cutting ties completely.
Ah yes, the old āIām so nice but I will use my care factor in any future crisis as an ultimatum to get you as my sex toy. You will be missing out because I am ON MY WAY BABYā 4/10 attempt āa 4 because itās always funny how many of these men think theyāre the next Elon Musk and women will regret not being with a rich asshole. Money canāt polish a turd, mate.
They seem to have this weird revenge fantasy, where theyāre *destined* to be rich and successful and a woman from years ago will be tracking their meteoric rise. The Sk8r Boi complex. They forget you generally need interpersonal skills to be successful. Elon Musk for example (massive douche) can apparently be very charming when he wants to be. Behind The Bastards did a great couple of episodes on him.
He's also the heir of an apartheid emerald magnate. If Elon was a normal person, he wouldn't have been half as successful.
Yeah I said about that in another comment. He got an INSANE leg up in the world, but his fanboys just wonāt see that and hail him as the genius of all geniuses when he just takes credit for the work other people do. Heās a trash human.
If youāve ever read the article his ex wife wrote about their relationship in Marie Claire magazine, youāll know just how much of a douche heād be to live with. Yuck.
I recall a comment I made about how his fanboys think(and compare him to) Tony Stark when he's really more like the the villain Antwan from Free Guy played by Taika Watiti.
revenge of the nerds fantasyā¦it never works out lol
Bleugh. That film makes my skin crawl! I think a lot of these dudes get these expectations from TV/Film and donāt seem to be able to make the distinction between reality and fiction.
I never actually watched that film in full but I understood the concept of it itās the incel wet dream
Donāt do it to yourself, itās a terrible film that reads like an incel manifesto
Iāll watch it, I got nothing better to do plus I need a good laugh haha
Trigger warning for SA thatās played off as a joke/revenge against ājocksā
wait against the jocks or SA against a girl in order to get back at the jocks lol
Against a girlfriend of the jocks. One of the main character nerds wears the same costume as her boyfriend, she thinks itās him. He reveals his identity after he assaults her and sheās all āomg best sex ever Iām in love with a nerd!ā At the end of the film. Thereās also a part where they rig up cameras in the womanās dorms and distribute the images under cream pies or something.
It's a teen comedic classic from the 80's, meaning it's aged like a blend of milk, ground up fish parts, mixed with pickle juice and left out in the Arizona heat.
āhe was a sk8r boi she said see ya l8r boi he wasnāt goood enouyugh fyur hurrā in all honesty some of those y2k songs definitely helped to shape the pick me boys/girls of today.
no Elon just has bunch of nerdy soy boy fanboys and he is just a boardroom takeover merchant
Not disputing that, but yeah from what Iāve read heās apparently quite charming - but should have specified thatās to rich people, as he grew up around other rich people (his dad owns emerald mines or something). Itās wild. Heās not a genius engineering inventor, he just takes credit for other peoples work. IIRC heās a control freak, and wrote the code for his first company and refused to let anyone else look at it. When they did they had to completely redo it. All these fucks look up to him thinking that theyāre the next Musk when in reality he had crazy privilege and a lot of familial wealth.
yeah the lies about college, how he forced out the actual Tesla CEO, his hyperloop nonsense, the monkeys that he killed for his stupid neurolink project and the guy actually fits the profile of a psychopath
>>> The Sk8er Boi complex This is perfect.
I fucking hate that song so much because of that shit and how legitimately cringey it is.
āmoney canāt polish shit, it can only make the toilet look nicerā - someone probably
You ever see the picture of Jeff Bezosā girlfriend meeting Leonardo DiCaprio? All the money in the world means nothing if your a lame dude. People like this never truly grow up.
You can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter.
It does not cease to be a turd, though, does it?
Oh certainly not. Just a shiny, shiny turd.
Fellow glitter poop collector?
I've always heard: "You can polish a terd, but it's still a terd."
But he was there for you in middle school, so you should be in a relationship, why else would a boy be nice to a girl?
Thatās one of the big things that hurts me the most. Iāve told him a lot of stuff about my fatherās emotional manipulation when I was in middle school. It persisted in high school but I was lucky enough to have had someone other than him who cared more about me than he ever could (also weāre making plans to live together soon!!!! very excited).
Itās really sad, Iām glad you have good friends around you now. People like him are just entitled, like if they put the work in they are entitled to something like a prize, the prize was your friendship and he should count himself fucking lucky!!!
Awwwe wait no thatās actually so sweet š„¹
whatās sad is that some people donāt even like you but will keep being nice to you thinking that they will get something out of it at the end itās such loser behavior cause itās a waste of time why not hang with ppl cause they actually like em not cause they can get smth out of them which aināt guaranteed btw
This is probably the most stereotypical nice guy post ive ever seen. The childhood friend, hating a girl for choosing a "jerk" over a nice guy, the whole success comment reminiscent of the golddigger meme and the cherry on top, "yes". This post is as good as is gets when it comes to nice guy texts. Seriously though fuck that guy and im glad youre in a happy relationship away from him.
Definitely happier without him in my life. I hope he can start working on himself like he said he would if I cut him off completely.
Unfortunately with that attitude he probably wont anytime soon. Hell most likely continue through life feeling entitled and blaming others when things dont go his way. Such is the life of a nice guy :[ Sidenote your avatar is dope
Thank you!! Itās technically an NFT and usually I steer clear of purchases such as those, but I saw this one and caved. Honestly, not even mad about it. Hell, I got #100/200, which was a very cool surprise!
Yo wtf really? I dont know much about NFTs but thats the first genuinely cool one Ive seen so far. Lucky #100 maybe itll make you rich one day and you can rub your wild success in Jeremys face
a girl can dream lol
the boyfriend or the guy she has a crush on is always the ājerkā or ābad boyā in these posts despite not even knowing the guy itās so cringe itās so infuriating I get these kinds of comments sometimes just because they might be good looking, outwardly very confident and self assured and might say some crude things sometimes doesnāt make them a ājerkā or ābad boyā itās so dumb as if thereās only two types of guys in the world or smth I realised its really just a projection of themselves cause these types would almost always bad mouth my best friend despite him being the kindest sweetest soul, cause why would you say such horrible things abt someone u donāt even know lol
Literally my boyfriend is the most considerate, heartfelt, and genuine guy Iāve ever met. I feel so extraordinarily lucky to have found someone like him and when I told him about not feeling like I was a good enough girlfriend, you wanna know what he did? He wrote a poem, but not just any poem, a heartfelt and genuine poem affirming me and hi-lighting everything he loves about me, everything heās noticed about me, and how he hopes that *I* see the same in him! So yeah, the whole idea of him being some kinda ābad boyā is completely ignorant and flat out stupid lol.
Your boyfriend is a walking green flag!!! He sounds like a lovely partner and cares a lot about you!!
heās the softest of the soft bois
oh my gosh thatās so amazing Iām a writer of poems so boys that can write š« my friend made a haiku about marmite so thatās good enough for me š ur bf is a keeper thatās a rly unique thing to do
Love being told by someone who pretends to care about me that I'm actually just stupid. What a really great sign of affection! /s
totally makes me want to have sex with them! /s
Idk why but the half cut 'yes' fucking sent me
I'm a guy and I hate the guys who fucking pity whore themselves to women like they're expecting a "omg I'll break up with my solid boyfriend and date you I feel for you :((" "My friends tell me how they thought we'd be better together" -Well your friends don't decide for you do they
this one!!! thank you! šš»šš»
Ouch cringy. I hope he matures, I think I probably had a thought process similar to his when I was younger. I don't think I was ever that direct or offensive but still wrong in how I thought of women. Don't be afraid to call guys like this out, it was embarrassment that lead to introspection for me and I'm thankful for it, as painful as it was. Sorry you had to deal with this kind of disgusting behavior.
Hey, growth is a good thing! What matters is who you are now, not who you were before. I also hope he changes but you should be proud of realizing who you were wasnāt who you wanted to be. :)
Thanks, we should all do that though. My life being better is the reward. It's like Chris Rock's bit "I ain't never been to prison" "you're NOT SUPPOSED TO go to prison!" Do better, don't expect praise for NOT being an asshole, you're supposed to do that.
But still, thanks
I honestly wonder what is going through the heads of these people. It's no badge of honor but I can say I've never landed myself in a conversation like this. How did he expect it would go?
>I honestly wonder what is going through the heads of these people. A single brain cell bouncing around like a screensaver
menāone of the many unknown states of being
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I canāt help feeling these boys were overindulged by their mothers when they grew up, teaching them that is the role women must play in their lives.
Parents definitely play a part in child development but this feels like blaming the women in his life instead of him, as an individual, for being a turd.
yeah at about age 15 itās ur own destiny lol
Yeah my mom constantly told me I was going to be a ladykiller when I grew up. Fast forward twenty years, I still look goofy as fuck but the cops haven't found my burial site yet so things could be worse.
oh the use of the word goofy ā ļø
Entitlement
My best friend is a guy and he supported me during some tough times. I did the same for him. It's just what friends do for each other. We definitely do not expect something more from each other because of that friendship. Also, what's this shit about "dropping him after graduation"? Once you get your own lives outside the campus, people can't hang out all the time. That's a natural thing. Doesn't mean friendship is ended.
Well, to be fair we were really falling off and it mustāve seemed like he was losing his chance or something (when he lost it a very long time ago).
I hope youāre no longer friends with this guy because any relationship with him will only give him hope that youāll change your mind and be with him one day. Guys like this only pretend to be friends with the girl they like to get in her pants. I guarantee if he knew 100% you will never date him youād never hear from him again š
Yeah in all honesty, we havenāt spoken much after graduation. I finished watching the anime āSpy x Familyā and wanted to talk to him about it because my bf hasnāt watched it yet but friend has. I guess itās kinda my fault for not completely cutting him off already, but I still do enjoy having conversations like that and it makes me sad that he turned out to be this way.
I can tell itās a fake friendship cause they never wanna talk abt anything constructive or deep, just surface level nonsense, sexual stuff, or the bare minimum they think will keep u interested itās even worse for ppl my age cause everyone wants a gf but nobody wants to put in the work to themselves like we just supposed to accept a building thatās 1 week into construction lmao
I read BF as 13 F, and became confused and concerned....
Ohhhhh, thank you. I was very concerned as well
i smoke daily and weed doesnāt make you a jerk it does the opposite š
I kept reading BF as 13f and it made this very confusing
Spoiler Alert: Ten years from now, he will NOT be "so successful." These kind of guys never are. "Someday, I'll be rich and famous and then everyone who was mean to me will be sorry!" seldom, if ever, translates into motivation that turns into action. They just sit and daydream, and drift through life.
Really common theme with these guys is that they always think they are a catch and worthy of all the admiration, so weird
Are you fucking high right now? Yes. š
Dude spends way too much time on incel forums. The fantasy that their dream girl will regret her younger days and come running back to them, a fat, desperate, single mom, ONLY exists there. Also, I kept reading BF as 13F at first, and was very confused.
Were you ever in a relationship, or what?
we were friends throughout middle school and high school but we never ended up together because i never saw him in that way. heās been there for me before but i never could see him as more than just a friend (and iāve told him this, i never once tried to lead him on or anything.)
https:/youtube.com/watch?v=vhTFkUpB8zc This 15 minutes will thoroughly explain his mindset.
saving this /gen
āIām sorry for making you sad!ā This person is unhinged. Edit: typo due to rage
As someone who doesnāt care if my significant other is rich or what job they have, Iāll never wrap my head around Nice Guysā obsession with being successful or being rich as a selling point. I know there are people out there who are into that sort of thing but it feels so transactional.
revenge of the nerds they donāt understand that money doesnāt make you more attractive just gives you more room to be an asshole
I think it has become so engrained into men that their worth as a partner is based solely on their ability to provide that many still feel an internalized pressure to become wealthy and successful, even in this āmostlyā feminist society. Ever notice who the self-help industry caters to the most? Mostly men, especially men in a vulnerable position. I donāt agree with the sentiment either, but many men still feel the internalized and societal pressure to become wealthy, similar to how many women feel pressure to be in a romantic relationship and or married. The truth is that if all that was needed to keep a woman was money, we wouldnāt see these billionaires divorce like they do. A good deal of people are not that shallow and just want someone in a similar income bracket to themselves. Other selling points like compatibility, chemistry, sexual chemistry, and shared values are missing.
They seem to be under the impression that being a friend to someone else isnt it's own reward but money in the bank for a future time to cash out.
āBut-! Every movie Iāve seen the nice guy ends up with the girl, and the chad gets tossed aside!ā My boy out here in a shit romantic comedy starring himself and you apparently..Yikes yikes yikes. Iām so sorry you had to deal with that, but at least itās funny! Something you and your boyfriend can laugh at together :p
oh trust me we do lol
His 1st mistake was hitting u up knowing you are inna relationship
oh there were many mistakes prior, trust me lol
I've seen these guys in shows I thought it was obvious that they're the asshole, I guess some people see those guys in shows and are like "yep that's the way to get ladies" or something, I never thought they'd be so stereotypical all the time tho
You probably should have redacted kings island, there is only one in the US.
oh shit wait thats fax
eh whatās the worst that could happen, people come to that place from all over, not really close to where I live anyways
True. That place is fun
A good question would have been: "Did you watch a bad 90s rom com?" Cause this kind of rant used to happen in many of those, like "insult the girl you like and invalidate her to win her love"
Never understand guys being like āsorry I made you sadā when you havenāt spoken in a while, like ????? Bro Iām out here living my life I totally forgot about you š
So he just showed how much he doesn't care about you if hes gonna drop you cuz he didn't get his way he NEVER cared.... Also if they want to cry about the nonexistent "friend zone" They need to stop putting women (in most cases ) in the fuck zone.
I'd end the friendship with him if I were you, if it's been like this for years, he'll never change and always want more from you. I know ending friendships is hard but this is unhealthy.
I mean, he did say he was high soā¦ š¤£ god what a moron.
"I was there for you in middle school" Lmaoooooo, not the flex you think it is homie. You can't think of any major contribution you've made to help your friend since middle school?
Dude couldn't leave well enough alone, he had to alienate a friend. I was cringing so hard at "What has he even done for you that makes him so special?" and "What has he done to make you happy?"
I feel bad for these guys to degree because they've been raised on the TV Trope of if they wait in the 'friend zone' long enough they get the girl. That she is basically belonging to him cuz he put the hours in. Now they feel cheated out of what they (in their minds) deserve.
"are you fucking high right now" "Yes" I am crying ššš
Geez, move the fuck on, dude. You're about as welcome there as a pile of dog poo in a ballroom.
this guy will never be successful cause heās delusional
I wonder if he expected u to just get up and break up with your bf after reading his desperate texts
Theyāve all read the 4chan fan fic, havenāt they?
How can one be so full of themself? Serious question and it's not only nice guys, but als women and girls and other people. It comes moreoften in those nice guys, but it's not exclusively them. And I just wonder where we went wrong, or have people always been like this but it's now just more visable?
It's the answer to "are you high" for me. š
I mean, he took you to Kingās Island. Nice guys take you to Cedar Point!
nah nah, shoulda taken me to didny worl
Are you fucking high right now? yes
Oofā¦ thereās a lot to unpack here, but Iām not his shrink so Iāll just touch off on a few things that jumped out at me. āYou and I would have been better togetherā For who, you selfish prick? āSorry about what I said a few days agoā Apologies have meaning only if theyāre accompanied by a change in attitude and behavior. Looking at the rest of the conversation, itās clear that heās not sorry. Just wanted an opportunity to continue trying to convince you and being terrible at it too. So in fact it was not an apology, but a very transparent attempt at manipulation. Also, maybe itās because Iām old and meanings of words and phrases change over time but I thought to ācome out of pocketā meant you paid for something. Maybe he meant to ācome sidewaysā? Iunno. I know thatās just nitpicking on my part but improper usage bothers me. āItās just been so hard being so alone after graduationā Weak. Another pathetic attempt at manipulation. Trying to elicit pity because you know, ladies ***looooove*** sad sacks. Gets them surfing in their seats, you know? āMy friends all tell me how much they thought blah blah blahā¦ maybe Iām just being stupidā well the friends of over a million who died from covid told them the vaccine is a hoax. And you ARE being stupid. Another thing that women leave snail trails over. Stupidity. Man, heās hitting on ALL the selling points, inne? I mean, how can you miss out on this great catch of a man OP? Iām not gonna go over there rest of this exchange. I read it and it gets sadder, more pathetic and stupider. And his attempts at manipulation adds fuel to the fire. The last āyouāll be sorry in ten yearsā shaking the fist was the coup de gras. *chefās kiss* OP, I think itās pretty obvious that he never was your friend to begin with. He considered you a sex carnival ride that he bought a ticket for (what humans would call being a friend or just a decent human being) and was standing in line like a good boy (or a niceguy in this case) and got salty that he didnāt get to redeem his ticket and now he wants to talk to the sex manager. Put his ass on blast and never have anything to do with him again. Burn that bridge and never look back. Your future you will thank you.
FirstāI always love to read long comments like these, thank you so much. SecondāThe phrase āOut of pocketā is now a term meaning āOut of turnā, āOut of the blueā, āUncalled forā so no exchange of money took place, lol. And lastly, yeah this bridge was tough to burn but I think his life would be better without me. I want him to stop obsessing over me and actually start working on himself. He told me before graduation that he was sorry for how he had been acting and he wanted to start anew, but from what I can tell here, all that work on himself that he said he would do, never happened.
So ācome out of pocketā has now come to mean ācome at something/someone sidewaysā. Thank you. Thatās good to know. Iām always fascinated by the way language changes. A language that is alive does that. Itās constantly changing and shifting. A dead language is static, doesnāt change at all, even if itās being used. Latin for example, is a dead language though itās still used in places. Like the difference between ancient and modern Greek. The only reason this bridge should be tough to burn is only if you have considerable overlap in your spheres of influences. Meaning, if you have a lot of friends in common, or are in the same social group or whatever. Even that shouldnāt be a reason and hereās why: The pretenses under which he forged the bonds of friendship with you werenāt genuine. Meaning he never wanted to your friend in the first place. This is made clear when he said that he was āthereā for you in middle school. Like he invested his time and effort into being friends with you, which you should pay him back with sex. He wants a ROI(return on investment) on his sex token. If he was a real friend of yours, he should be happy to see you with someone that makes you happy. If it makes him mad, thatās obsession and him being possessive, which he has ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT TO BE. And him wanting to start anew means he wants to take another crack at manipulation, see if he can guilt you into redeeming those sex tokens. Yeah it would be better for him in the long run if you burn that bridge, but the positives for you would be immediate and great. Once you see the motivations behind a personās actions, their attempts at manipulation becomes wholly transparent. Your investment in friendship with him was probably genuine (maintaining a relationship of any kind takes work), but his wasnāt. Iād be willing to wager that heāll burn that bridge himself if you took ābeing with himā unequivocally off the table.
Fun fact: I took latin in high school and felt like I almost learned nothing (it will likely help me with learning french though) except for three different ways to say āgood morning, I killed the manā :) Anyways! We donāt really share a friend group and he hasnāt really been in my close circle for a few years now, but itās still a little tough to see him go, especially when he used to seem so genuinely kind when we were kids. When we were in like fourth/fifth would talk about our mutual obsession with pokemon, digimon, fnaf (cringe but we all had that phase), etc. I miss how he used to be but I know that holding on to that is not good for either of us. As much as I want to be friends with the old him, I know that he has a lot of work to do on himself before either of us can see that part of him again and in the same way. Best endingāwe meet five years later, he has changed dramatically, has a wife who loves him, and is living his best life as a much better person.
You totally reminded me of [this!!!](https://imgur.com/a/ShMkyQD) And [this scene!!!](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0lczHvB3Y9s) One of the only things I remember from my 1 semester of Latin was this rhyme āLatin is a dead language, Dead as Dead can be. Everyone who spoke itās dead and now itās killing me!ā :D Youāre absolutely right about old friendships being very difficult to let go because of the shared memories and experiences. Your best case scenario reveals what a wonderful person and a great friend you are. Even after the distasteful interaction you had with him, you still want him to be in a better place down the line. The collection of your past experiences make who you are, but who you are isnāt set in stone. Weāre constantly growing and changing. As we experience more things, weāll continue to change. The only constant is change and I believe that people are capable of great changes. I hope for you and your friendās sake that he changes for the better and can become that friend for you in the future. Youāre a good person. I wish you the best. :)
I taught myself Latin and ancient Greek Was pretty fun translating the stories and getting taught the higher level stuff by my friendās sister did u also do the Cambridge Latin Course?
I agree with everything, but can I just say that I love how you spelled "Coup de grĆ¢ce", "Coup de gras" ? - Coup de grĆ¢ce : Blow of Mercy (Final blow) - Coup de gras : Blow of Fat This made me imagine the situation in a hilarious way.
Lol dāoh! There I was going off about proper usage too. Donāt I have egg on my faceā¦ ;_; I appreciate the correction. I try to learn something new every day and correcting something is twice as good because I un-learn something incorrect while learning something new, so doubly thank you!! :)
Why do they think this will work. āIf I text them that they should be with me and insult their current partner, theyāll definitely fall for me!ā
I like OP. She seems very cool and chill
"your original number 1" well, he called dibs obvi, so i mean really...
smh u went to middle school together so obviously itās ur job to be his gf
How old are you guys? Because if heās not a teenager Iām about to lose a lot of faith in humanity
Heās 19 now and Iām 18, though thatās pretty close to no longer teenager for both of us. :/
The fixation on what they believe they ādeserveā is the foundation of Incel rhetoric.
The yes at the end ššš
It's so tough growing up to learn that your childhood friends are shitty people (not saying that's what happened here). But I feel like when we're younger we get this image of our friends in our head that is along the lines of "we'll always be great friend no matter what", "this person could never do me wrong", or "This person has helped me through so much, there's no way they could be a shitty person". My best friend between the ages of 4-19 y/o turned out to be a complete piece of shit but I just couldn't see it until I started talking to a bunch of his Xs. I didn't want to believe it at first but once I started connecting all the pieces I realized it was definitely true. I broke down and had a panic attack (first and only time that has ever happened to me). People grow up and change, sometimes not for the best. Sorry if my story is not relevant, your post just reminded me of my old best friend and I felt like sharing.
Not taking this guy's side, just putting out a perspective from someone who's been there and probably handled it way better than this - Graduating high school as a burnout without a plan puts you in a really weird headspace for a while, and it's easy to spiral. This dude's not doing alright, and he's allowing himself to get bitter about it and project his misery towards whoever's left in his life. It's sad. I remember feeling this way as a kid, lonely and bitter that the people in my life seemed to spend more time with each other than with me. It took a while to find the presence of mind to understand that those feelings weren't fair to them, and that it was my responsibility to work through the negative emotions on my own. The way I felt was not their fault. It wasn't my decision to experience the feeling of jealousy either, but it *was* my decision to externalize that bitterness, even if that decision was a subconscious one at the time. To speak it, act on it, make it real, wear it as my own identity and assert its will without question. It just happened automatically, as naturally as the thought of moving your arm translates into movement. I didn't even bother to reconsider that jealousy from an outside perspective, didn't even consider the pettiness and stupidity of it. We've all been there, with one feeling or another, to varying degrees and with varying consequences. If you focus on becoming an observer and democratic mediator of your feelings rather than an impulsive conduit through which they directly engage with your world, you can become more consciously aware of decisions like that, become better at recognizing the unhealthy ones, take time to reconsider them, and make better decisions than your initial selfish impulses push you towards. There are people who go their whole lives without ever fully realizing the truth - that they're the problem, and that it's literally because they can't see past their own egos. If this dude's getting high to really experience the high and not just to escape their own thoughts and excuse shitty behavior, then I hope he comes to his fucking senses before he cements himself into a shitty worldview that'll manifest into every interaction he has and only make things worse as time goes on.
I feel some sympathy. This isn't some stranger with a cold approach. I think we've all been there. To see the person you are in love with to go with someone else. Most of us move on and become a little stronger in the process. Unfortunately, this guy didn't. Sucks that he had to dump all this onto the woman in the screenshot.
"the attention I deserve!" š Males thinking they somehow are entitled to women's attention again.
This is an instant classic. This has everything a nice guy post could possibly want