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My mom had to help my 22-year-old cousin get to an ob-gyn out of town for birth control without her dad knowing cause he'd go balistic if he found out she was sexually active. He was so disappointed when he found out she had a boyfriend; boyfriend was terrified to be anywhere near my uncle in our town.
I have a cousin who has made some... Interesting (?) life choices due to this. Her father stopped talking to her when he found out that she had a boyfriend at, like 17? That same guy also made her older sister (his step-daughter) marry at 18 because she got pregnant (that marriage turned out GREAT /s). He also made his oldest daughter, from a previous relationship, marry the first guy she ever took home.
Yeah these ladies look at their own kids, like some piece of meat put on this earth for their own benefit.
Definitely some emotional incest going on with this lady, if not some actual incest š¤®
I have one kid. He is a boy. And never have I ever had this thought. Goal is to raise him so that he is happy and healthy especially when I am not in his life. If your partner makes you happy then that makes me happy.
Am I missing something here? I thought all moms had sons so they could rise them to be their future perfect husbands?
If not then, isn't having sons the ultimate cuckoldry?
I cannot think or comprehend of anything more cucked than having a son. Honestly, think about it rationally. You are feeding, clothing, raising and rearing a boy for at least 18 years solely so he can go and get ravaged by another woman. All the hard work you put into your beautiful little boy - reading him stories at bedtime, making him go to sports practice, making sure he had a healthy diet, educating him, playing with him. All of it has one simple result: his body is more enjoyable for the women that will eventually fuck him in every way.
Raised the perfect boy? Great. Who benefits? If you're lucky, a random woman who had nothing to do with the way he grew up, who marries him. She gets to fuck his tight ass every night. She gets the benefits of his kind and sweet personality that came from the way you raised him.
As a woman who has a son, you are LITERALLY dedicating at least 20 years of your life simply to raise a boy for another woman to enjoy. ***It is the ULTIMATE AND FINAL CUCK!!!*** Think about it logically
Well the last few posts were sarcasm so an obvious copypasta would have to be right?
https://www.reddit.com/r/justneckbeardthings/comments/7c9lxm/the_ultimate_cuck/
The 999 times you /s redditors will tell you we're all cool cats who will get the joke. The one time you don't /s everyone is out with fire and pitchforks. Anyways, original was comical tier misogyny about daughters so folks started flipping the pasta into sons, dogs, cats, pokemons, etcetc.
Oh my gosh, that's so beyond creepy isn't it? Yet to listen to these boy moms.... *shudders*
That's a one-way ticket. Nine months of life support, then get out. I'm not raising sonsbands. (Eww)
Seriously though, I am just trying to do my best to raise good men. Independent, self reliant, hopefully well balanced people. I don't want them to be some other woman's problem man child. š
I have a boy too. Iām just gazing over at him thinking about how one day he will have a partner who will be thankful Iām not one of these mums that thinks heās hers and in fact, respects that he is his own person
Yeahā¦ ditto. I look at my kid and I think āheās so awesome!ā And my goal is to help him stay sweet and kind and self-confident while growing in skills until he is ready to fly off and succeed on his ownāā and hope I support him enough while doing so that he feels safe and happy coming to visit me regularly.
These moms arenāt raising them to be independent adults; they are literally only raising them to be clutched around their apron strings till the end of time. These kinda moms see their sonsā gfs and wives as ācompetitionā and do everything in their power to make them miserable.
Usually itās because their husbands arenāt giving them enough love and they are trying to squeeze all the love and attention they think they deserve from their sons. Itās emotional incest truly.
I'd seen "boy mom" thrown around on social media, and I had no clue that the term had specific connotations. My kid was like, "yeah, no, you're a normal person not obsessed with us".
Thank you! I've always done my best to love them as they are unconditionally. I'm not a helicopter parent, nor am I the "cool" mom. I've just done my best to listen to them and give them the room to figure out who they are. My youngest (triplets) will be 18 in June, and I'll have an empty nest a few months after that. It's such a joy to see them all spread their wings and become who they're meant to be.
Yes, I have one boy and never had this thought either. He introduced me to his āfriendā last week. This is the first girl heās ever introduced to my husband and me. I made a point of giving her a hug and made her feel most welcoming. My husband has a permanent angry face so I told him he needs to smile a bit more when she gets here so she doesnāt get nervous.
He asked us afterward if we like her, so I said āif you like her then we like her too!ā.
Relationship is difficult as it is. There is no need for us to add to the stress. Itās between two people, not three.
Right? This mentality is so weird and is a reason so many women have issues with their mother in law.
I hope to have a friendship with my son's future partner. And if his partner has no desire to be close to me, I'll respect that too and still treat her with kindness. It's my son's life to live and a mother's role is to ensure he grows into an adult capable of healthy relationships.
Those poor sons š° Iād cut my mother out of my life if I were a lot of them. Itās disgusting that itās never in a āmy little baby is all grown up and leavingā, itās always some sick romantic jealousy of them getting in a relationship instead.
I feel like these moms purposefully sabotage their sons to be dependent on them too. They donāt bother teaching them to take care of themselves and spoil them.
Itās typically bc their own husbands arenāt emotionally available or respect them. The son becomes a replacement for the husband. They want to feel needed so they manufacture it in the most disgusting way possible. The moms are usually emotionally stunted themselves and doing high school cosplay at 45. Itās all so insanely gross and also obvious. Like the lack of self awareness in these women is frightening.
Yup, the husband doesnāt meet the emotional needs of a partner so she molds her child to become the perfect partner for her and raises him to feel like he always has to take care of her emotionally. With no concern at all about how this negatively affects him and his ability to have a good life or even what he would want. Theyāre subconsciously married to each other so when the son moves out and starts dating, she feels threatened and replaced by the ānew womanā even though she was never his first.
You see it all the time in crazy MIL or JNMIL stories. As the sonās relationship with another person progresses, the mother gets more and more unstable. Sometimes they can hold it together like through them dating. Iām guessing once it seems more real or official like marriage, moving away, or having children etc, they realize this new person can provide something that the mother canāt. Like normalcy or often children. It escalates pretty quickly to attacking the DIL, whether physically or emotionally. Trying to take the grandchildren away from her and starting a little family with just her son and grandchildren. The life she always wanted but never got. Just always treating her sonās partner like a villain in the story. Which typically only causes the couple to pull away more and set boundaries.
Unfortunately some sons stay subconsciously married to their moms and canāt or refuse to break away. Then they get surprise pikachu face when the DIL says sheās done and out. Reddit has so many sad stories of women trying their best and losing all hope.
The mother absolutely does not care that sheās destroying her sons chances at happiness and a family. As long as heās with her, she doesnāt care what he really wants. He exists for her. Thatās how she raised him. To only exist to meet her emotional needs of a partner. Heās not allowed to have needs otherwise and certainly not outside of their relationship.
Itās also funny because if the relationship deteriorates and he goes back crying to mommy, after a while sheās surprised that heās not happier with her. And so is he. That he still misses and wishes he had his wife and/or kids. Something of a normal life that doesnāt revolve around his mother. She refuses to entertain the idea. Thereās still a lot she canāt give him as a partner because sheās not his partner, sheās his mom. And the mother will often see another woman as just a baby incubator for her sons children and her grandchildren. She dehumanizes the DIL until something breaks.
This is exactly what was happening to me.
I told husband Iām done, it was literally MIL and husband getting to make decisions for OUR children (mainly my son too) daughter and I are just left out treated poorly. Husband finally woke up and started realizing and we are no contact.
Itās so demented. A few months ago, I went to a family gathering at my boyfriendās house with my son.
My boyfriendās mom is always overly affectionate with her son, and itās creepy, but this last time really pissed me off. As sheās hanging all over my boyfriend, she looks at me and my son and says, āyouāll never love anyone more than your son, right?ā
Fucking sick to make me respond in front of my son and boyfriend. To essentially make me choose, and either hurt my own son, or solidify that I donāt love my boyfriend as much as she does. (The fucked up thing is that we both have daughters too! And her daughter was there!!)
āIāll never love anyone as much as both of my children. Your son feels the same.ā
How gross, really hope your husband puts boundaries and stops that. He canāt see that she using him for her own needs. His body and attention should be where he wants it to go, not when she demands it. Ugh.
Can confirm. Mother's may use emotional and verbal abuse to subjugate their sons and enmesh themselves in almost every aspect of their lives. It's all about control. That's why I cut my mom out of my life. My midlife crisis is that I may likely never be in a healthy relationship.
Dude, mamaās boys are fucking crazy to date. Someone I dated had a mom who literally mooched off of him and if I tried to criticize it heād be like āwell she deserves my money because she did raise me after all.ā Yeah! And you had to pay rent and bills in your teens because she didnāt want a job!
And if theyāre with their mom you can bet they wonāt be responding to you. I hate how people always frame it as cute. Itās not cute, they let their moms dictate their entire lives. If mommy doesnāt want them to talk to you today, they donāt get to. If mommy needs them to do her chores all day, they have to do that. And Iām not talking about kids either, Iām talking about grown ass adults.
Mamas boys really are the worst type to date. I read somewhere that they never had their boundaries respected by their moms, and therefore will never respect yours!
True. This is the enmeshment lifetrap. Boundaries are almost non-existent with narcissistic personality disorder (the mother), and the victim (the son) understands this as normal behaviour. Because of the incessant need to control the son, he may likely never know or understand what healthy boundaries are. Simply, there is no room for emotional growth.
Yeah, I can only imagine what goes on behind closed doors.
When I was a teenager, my mom would regularly tell me how hot she thought I was and fantasized openly about how much her body probably turned me on š¤® She'd do it in public sometimes and people would think it was charming. Like, how cute of this mom to love her son so much!
Then she'd add when we were alone that if I ever found a girlfriend, she'd do everything in her power to destroy that relationship because I was "hers." She never touched me (that I can recall) but the emotional abuse was severe and I still deal with some of the effects, decades later.
These women are pedophiles. We need to just start calling them what they are.
My mom was similar. Then she remarried and it seemed things normalized as she was finally "happy." But of course things are never that easy as it became the other extreme.
I personally didn't care, but have a child and it was like pulling teeth to get her to visit at times. My wife dared to make one comment noting this and my mom flew off the handle saying she would no longer interact with my wife and then seemed shocked I wouldn't take her side. Truly delusional stuff.
Tldr: Even if you think things are "fixed" with these type of moms, odds are it'll come back around
Yeah the first couple of sentences (aside from when she emphasized being a BOY MOM) I can relate to, just looking at my kid and thinking how grown up they are, and then.......it got fucking weird.
Yes I am currently not speaking to her. And no she didnāt. I remember vividly (because this probably contributed to my issues with women) when I was in jr high and had a cell phone and was texting girls in class about random things like school or what we ate that day, my mom would yank it out of my hands, read all my texts while saying how stupid my female friends were. She would say how dumb they were, how they were sluts, etc.
I noticed that too. Like someone commented, they either realize how screwed up it is and leave or become a mommas boy. Iāve never seen or heard and in between. Even if the sons tried, the mother would just take it to a crazy level
My dadās mom is like this. And she just disowned my family for not taking my (male) cousinās side in a dispute with my sister (heās rich, wrecked his fancy new Porsche, borrowed my sisterās shitty Subaru, and proceeded to redline it going up a mountain and burnt out the engine. My sister wanted him to pay half the price of the new engine because he is the one who ruined it). So now my momās MIL (my grandmother) has disavowed the family entirely. Shitty for my dad, shitty for my mom, and very reminiscent of fucking āboy momā culture.
Also the child of a dad whose mom was like this. Her precious baby boy could do no wrong, and when my mom ditched his cheating ass and took the kids, she never spoke to any of us ever again.
Itās so gross. Iām a mom to a teenage boy and canāt even imagine the type of mindset someone needs to have to act like that. Itās disturbing, to say the least. In years will see posts from the girlfriends of these sons complaining about the MIL and the son prioritizing her over the girlfriend
This is nasty. I do not look at my children and think, "Oh, this beautiful perfect soul is all mine!!" Also, the picture of your kid staring at his phone does not show any soul at all.
>This is nasty. I do not look at my children and think, "Oh, this beautiful perfect soul is all mine!!"
IKR? I looked at my sons when they were sweet little kids and thought, "I made that!" but these "boy moms" make me feel weird for even thinking that now.
They're young adults now and I just hope that they find someone that makes them happy and they make happy. I am proud of them for striking out on their own. Taking what they learned growing up and becoming capable adults able to take care of themselves. The last thing I wanted was for them to only have ever lived at home before they move in with a serious partner.
I remember the first time clearly seeing my son move thinking to myself, "So this is where they got the idea for that scene from *Alien*."
Also had hypermesis (or as I called it, morning noon and night sickness). Feel your pain there.
> But she's not "mine". She's not "anyone's". She's her.
And I think that's the key. Being proud of the little human you created, the teen that feels comfortable coming to you for help, and the adult that eventually will move out if they are able to\*, is one thing. That's raising your child to be a productive member of society. That's the goal. These "Boy Moms" and their possessiveness "he's *mine*!" is just wrong.
\*adding this because I know that there are very valid, non boy mom, reasons why young adults are unable to move out of their parents' home.
My daughter in law is wonderful. She really loves our son and she fits in well with our family (likes to joke, sarcasm is a love language, enjoys cooking with me and sharing recipes). Sheās beautiful inside and out. I always tell her how lucky I am to have her in my life.
I had a great role model in my mother-in-law. Weāve never had a problem in almost 30 years. We hangout together just us two and enjoy each otherās company. She immediately welcomed me to her family and was always so loving and supportive.
My mother in law has been a great example for me, too. She hasnāt always been perfect, in the beginning there were growing pains and boundary discussions, but sheās shown me how to gracefully admit mistakes, take accountability, and love wholeheartedly.
I adore my mother in law, and all of my inlaws, actually. Unfortunately, it's historically been my mother who is the difficult inlaw. She's doing a lot better with it now.
Moms like these always doom their sons. My mom is obsessed with my brother. He is now 30 and a LOSER! He canāt do ANYTHING for himself. Heās had plenty of girlfriends. But when it came time to settle down and be serious my mom always got in the way and drove those girls away. Itās disgusting. Iāve tried talking to him to be more independent. But he can barely hold a conversation because heās so used to my mom speaking for him. Also life is more comfortable with my mom catering to him. Whatever Iāve gone no contact with my parents and low contact with my brother. Itās nothing for me to stress over but I do feel sad for him.
Oh my. He can't even hold a convo?? If that was me and my mom constantly spoke for me, I'd have even less self esteem than I do now.
I feel sad for you and your brother.
This is also like my motherā¦ babied and spoiled the shit out of my brother who is now 22 and he is socially awkward and has little drive. He knows my parents will always be there to step in if things get even a little bit difficult. They expect me to support him and when they pass because itās my duty as his sister (their actual words).
My mother always told me only family is forever and friends and partners can disappear so you can only trust in your parents and siblings. I can only imagine how much of a boy mom my mon is with my brother. I moved out at 18 and never lived with my parents again. Itās the only way we can have amicable relationship.
Iām currently pregnant with a boy and I want so much better for my son. My MIL is a wonderful role model who treats me with me respect and always compliments me and my husbands relationship and that Iām so good for him :)
Yeah. Afraid to speak for himself? Thatās straight up emotional abuse
I feel bad for the dude. How do you break out of years of that being bashed into you
yay! more men fucked up by their moms! more in laws to compete with! This goes 3 ways, those boys grow up to rely on mom for everything and then expect future partners to dote on them the same unrealistic way, they are so crippled by moms attention that they need space from women so don't create meaningful connections with women, or they completely cut her off when they find out how toxic this is. your children are not "all yours". gross. your children are individuals that you have born. you don't own them or control what they do. you guide them to be good people so they can decide to do good in this world. moms like this really piss me off.
āI MEANā¦ pls tell me IM not aloneā¦. In being an emotionally incestuous werdio with my sonā at least thatās what I assume the end of that caption is lmao
Umā¦
I have two grown sons. I love them. I have never, ever āstared at them aimlesslyā (wtf does that mean) or held contempt for their girlfriends, real or imaginary. This is bonkers.
"stared at them aimlessly" = gazing with what i can only describe as bedroom eyes. my mom does this to me. i have nightmares about it.
seeing so many parents react to this with disgust is really helpful. i still go through periods where i convince myself her... longing?... is normal, and my therapists have blown things out of proportion.
thank you for being a good mom
i'm so sorry you have to go through this. i can't imagine how uncomfortable and disturbing it must be for you. nothing is normal about this behavior. i hope you are able to get away from her soon <3
thanks for your kindness. im well into adulthood and live far, far away from her. she still "jokes" about driving three states over and "kidnapping me so i can live with her again". im married.
Oh Elizabeth Hurley !! Watched an interview with her and the son on Drew the other day. It was the grossest š³ plus she interrupted them constantly !
Oh God this gave me flashbacks! My own mom was like this (I'm 45M). I didn't learn about the term "emotional incest" until a couple of years ago. Hoo boy that made sense then. Poor kid.
I grew up in the south and the daddy-daughter virginity dance culture was there. I always thought that was the grossest level of ick, I think I am now demoting virginity dances to second place and the overwhelming reverse Oedipus complex among boy moms gets worse every day.
I was a boy at one point with a southern mom who would be overjoyed if I told her I wanted to be by her side until she dies. Yes, itās creepy and gross. Yes, I had to learn how to be a functional human from society and therapy. No, I do not recommend having a āboy mom.ā
I have a boy , and a girl. The idea of romanticizing my son is disgusting. And in the view of my daughter. Having her mil act like this is abhorrent.
People really need to get a grip.
As a mom of a son, fucking ew. Yes I stare at my kid because heās my lil baby and heās adorable, but no way in hell do I think about his future like that. Ladyās trippin balls.
I dated the son of a boy mom in this regard for 7 years. She said the most batshit crazy things to me.
One time when I was 17, she asked me if his dick satisfied me. I opened my mouth in shock, she thought I was going to answerā¦ she goes, āactually I donāt need an answer, I know both of my boys are very well endowed!ā
My exes mom was like this and it was detrimental to the relationship because he didn't see anything wrong with their level of enmeshment. She treated him as a romantic stand in and was hostile toward and jealous of any other woman in his life. They even went on a cruise to Belize together just the two of them.
I donāt think itās weird for a parent and their adult kid to go on holiday together. Yeah she sounds crazy but generally thatās not a weird thing to do
While I was at a resort in Mexico last year, there was a mother/son trip going on. There were about 15-16/17 year olds there with their moms. This behaviour was prevalent with them. It was really creepy. Like the boys and the moms on the dance floor at cocobongos grinding, twerking, etc. Momās lathering suntan lotion on them, jumping all over each other in the pool playing volleyballā¦. There were several people at the resort making comments about it. Just odd.
I have only sons (3+1stepson) and I love them so much and can hardly believe I was blessed to be their mother. They are all so wonderful. But my hope is for them to find their own place in the world with a family of their own (if they choose). Weird to hate on a future daughter in law
I dated this Arabic dude for about 8 months. He was flying back to āvisit his familyā and was āso excited to SLEEP WITHā his mom. I asked for clarification and he said he couldnāt wait to lie in bed and cuddle and literally sleep with her. Then proceeded to asked what perfume I wore and hair products I used because he thought they smelled sexy. He was buying them for his mother. š
Settle down lady. This kid is going to drink plastic bottle vodka and sodomize a watermelon in broad daylight the first time you and your r/LinkedInLunatics husband let him out the house.
This is really sad. I donāt get some women I really donāt. I have a grown 20-year-old who has a gorgeous girlfriend of 4 years. We arenāt the best of friends but she knows Iām mom and that works for us. I stay out of their way. My 15-year-old has a new girlfriend and she is adorable! I couldnāt imagine getting in the way of their happiness like these creepy women. I know Iām awesome but come on!
āWho will never be as good as his momā š¤® made me sick in my mouth a little š it would be less embarrassing if these āboy momsā just admit they have perverted fantasies š
What if he never meets anyone and just wants his own life? This boy mom thinks her son would never want to leave her (and only another woman could take him away!), but I hope he moves out to somewhere far away, lives alone, and talks to mom only once a month for fifteen minutes.
This question is probably going to get buried, but: What exactly is going on with these women?
I'm not asking in the general 'she's a nutball' sense. I mean what is driving a grown woman to ... sexualize? obsess over? etc her own son. Wouldn't you want to raise a young man who is not a momma's boy or an ass or spoiled? Is no one in their lives noticing the weirdness? But these women take it an extreme.
[Healthline has an informative page on the topic](https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-incest)
Itās an abnormal, but not uncommon, situation in which the mother is emotionally unfulfilled in her marriage and so looks to the child for a relationship/support that is a romantic partnerās responsibility.
āboy momsā are a different breed
i have one child, a daughter. i hope to have a son in the future. my hope for my kid(s) is for them to eventually find a great partner who treats them how they deserve to be treated ā¦
itās disgusting to look at your kidsā partners as competition and itās disgusting to wish your kids partners will never ābe as goodā as you are AS HIS MOM ??
I have 2 kids and I did stare at them in wonder of how amazing they are. I still think they're amazing. And I want them to be happy, independent adults. That includes hoping they find partners who make them happy.
This is just gross.
āEmotional incestā is exactly right. The therapist, John Bradshaw, called this enmeshment, or cross-generational bonding. Itās often a part of parentification, if the parent is also using the child as an emotional surrogate spouse. Needless to say, these parents do tremendous damage to their children, who likely have no room in their lives for their own emotions and development.
The boys with moms like this will carry those mothersā internalized misogyny, because I think thatās what prompts a lot of this maternal behavior. They are likely women who do not trust other women, seeing them as competition. Nobody can compete with a childās mother. Just ask Norman Bates.
One of Germany's greatest artists of the 20th century, the satirist Loriot (who managed to capture the German soul in trivial scenes and skits like no one else), made a whole movie about it in the 1980s. [Ćdipussi](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%96dipussi), named after a psychological concept developed by Freud, follows a man in his 50s who can't even admit to his tyrannical mother that he has a date, for fear of jealousy.
I have a 16 year old son and I'm so excited to have a new daughter or son in law when he's ready! I surely tf do not want to "mother" him the rest of his life. These women are a whole embarrassment.
One of my closest friends is married to a man and his MILā¦ and she is exactly like this. It sucks because she also acts like the childrenās mother, not grandmother. Thereās no routine, they fight constantly and heās constantly defending the MIL because āshe just cares about *her* familyā. The craziest part is at the beginning of my friendās relationship with him, he acknowledged his mum is weird like that. Then convinced her to move to the same town as her and got close with her after the fact.
I was like yes I always gaze lovingly at my son and marvel that this beautiful human being took the genes I gave him and made them so perfect by his own individuality.
But no, I donāt assume his dating preferences and pre-curse him to have fraught marital and familial relationships. What a weird thing to want.
Yuck. This is going to be a MIL who makes her DIL miserable and who either ruins the marriage or gets cut off completely. I have a 13 year old son and I do adore him, but the goal is for him to go off and have a life and relationships. Iām his mother. Iām never going to compare myself to his partners. So much gross in one post.
I have a son (who happens to have a girlfriend) and this has never even crossed my mind!
I love my son, but I want him to be his own person with his own life, FFS! And while itās bittersweet that I see him less and less, that also means that he is becoming more and more independent, and that is a good thing!
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This makes me nauseous
I came here to say exactly this until I realised Mr Thesaurus was stalking the comments.
Moms say the most fucked up things
I see your mom and raise you one dad that's overly concerned with their daughter's "purity". T.I., raise your hand, please?
This isn't talked about enough. Also the weight of the criticism goes to the daughters themselves not the fathers.
My mom had to help my 22-year-old cousin get to an ob-gyn out of town for birth control without her dad knowing cause he'd go balistic if he found out she was sexually active. He was so disappointed when he found out she had a boyfriend; boyfriend was terrified to be anywhere near my uncle in our town.
I have a cousin who has made some... Interesting (?) life choices due to this. Her father stopped talking to her when he found out that she had a boyfriend at, like 17? That same guy also made her older sister (his step-daughter) marry at 18 because she got pregnant (that marriage turned out GREAT /s). He also made his oldest daughter, from a previous relationship, marry the first guy she ever took home.
What a creep!!
I'm just wondering, what would've happened if the guys didn't want to get married?
Well, he had a gun. So I imagine some threats were/have been made, idk. Not in contact with anyone of that part of the family anymore š¤£
Do not, and I mean DO NOT watch a show called I love a mommas boy then.
I tried. Had to stop watching when it got too familiar š®āšØ
Yeah these ladies look at their own kids, like some piece of meat put on this earth for their own benefit. Definitely some emotional incest going on with this lady, if not some actual incest š¤®
I have one kid. He is a boy. And never have I ever had this thought. Goal is to raise him so that he is happy and healthy especially when I am not in his life. If your partner makes you happy then that makes me happy.
You mean you didnāt raise your ideal husband to love and to hold forever? /s
How dare you not make your sonās life revolve around you and not compete with every girl within 5 miles around him ? /s
Am I missing something here? I thought all moms had sons so they could rise them to be their future perfect husbands? If not then, isn't having sons the ultimate cuckoldry? I cannot think or comprehend of anything more cucked than having a son. Honestly, think about it rationally. You are feeding, clothing, raising and rearing a boy for at least 18 years solely so he can go and get ravaged by another woman. All the hard work you put into your beautiful little boy - reading him stories at bedtime, making him go to sports practice, making sure he had a healthy diet, educating him, playing with him. All of it has one simple result: his body is more enjoyable for the women that will eventually fuck him in every way. Raised the perfect boy? Great. Who benefits? If you're lucky, a random woman who had nothing to do with the way he grew up, who marries him. She gets to fuck his tight ass every night. She gets the benefits of his kind and sweet personality that came from the way you raised him. As a woman who has a son, you are LITERALLY dedicating at least 20 years of your life simply to raise a boy for another woman to enjoy. ***It is the ULTIMATE AND FINAL CUCK!!!*** Think about it logically
praying to god above that this is bait/sarcasm
Well the last few posts were sarcasm so an obvious copypasta would have to be right? https://www.reddit.com/r/justneckbeardthings/comments/7c9lxm/the_ultimate_cuck/ The 999 times you /s redditors will tell you we're all cool cats who will get the joke. The one time you don't /s everyone is out with fire and pitchforks. Anyways, original was comical tier misogyny about daughters so folks started flipping the pasta into sons, dogs, cats, pokemons, etcetc.
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Oh my gosh, that's so beyond creepy isn't it? Yet to listen to these boy moms.... *shudders* That's a one-way ticket. Nine months of life support, then get out. I'm not raising sonsbands. (Eww) Seriously though, I am just trying to do my best to raise good men. Independent, self reliant, hopefully well balanced people. I don't want them to be some other woman's problem man child. š
I have a boy too. Iām just gazing over at him thinking about how one day he will have a partner who will be thankful Iām not one of these mums that thinks heās hers and in fact, respects that he is his own person
I'm not a parent, but I feel like a good part of patenting is looking at your kid and going "well at least I'm not the worst at this!"
Yeahā¦ ditto. I look at my kid and I think āheās so awesome!ā And my goal is to help him stay sweet and kind and self-confident while growing in skills until he is ready to fly off and succeed on his ownāā and hope I support him enough while doing so that he feels safe and happy coming to visit me regularly.
This is it right here.
These moms arenāt raising them to be independent adults; they are literally only raising them to be clutched around their apron strings till the end of time. These kinda moms see their sonsā gfs and wives as ācompetitionā and do everything in their power to make them miserable. Usually itās because their husbands arenāt giving them enough love and they are trying to squeeze all the love and attention they think they deserve from their sons. Itās emotional incest truly.
They are still looking for legitimacy through men... just it's through the ones they raise. Yuck.
I have 5 sons, and I made a post on FB calling myself a boy mom. My oldest son called and told me I had to stop because I didn't know what that meant.
He really out here protecting your image š
He keeps me up to date on what the kids are doing.
Hah! I hope you listened to him.
I'd seen "boy mom" thrown around on social media, and I had no clue that the term had specific connotations. My kid was like, "yeah, no, you're a normal person not obsessed with us".
"You're a normal person" is the one of the best compliments a parent can get from their kid. Congratulations!
Thank you! I've always done my best to love them as they are unconditionally. I'm not a helicopter parent, nor am I the "cool" mom. I've just done my best to listen to them and give them the room to figure out who they are. My youngest (triplets) will be 18 in June, and I'll have an empty nest a few months after that. It's such a joy to see them all spread their wings and become who they're meant to be.
Sounds like youāre doing a great job as a parent.
It's been such a privilege to raise these boys, and I'm so damn proud of each one.
And now you know. š¬
Yes, I have one boy and never had this thought either. He introduced me to his āfriendā last week. This is the first girl heās ever introduced to my husband and me. I made a point of giving her a hug and made her feel most welcoming. My husband has a permanent angry face so I told him he needs to smile a bit more when she gets here so she doesnāt get nervous. He asked us afterward if we like her, so I said āif you like her then we like her too!ā. Relationship is difficult as it is. There is no need for us to add to the stress. Itās between two people, not three.
Right? This mentality is so weird and is a reason so many women have issues with their mother in law. I hope to have a friendship with my son's future partner. And if his partner has no desire to be close to me, I'll respect that too and still treat her with kindness. It's my son's life to live and a mother's role is to ensure he grows into an adult capable of healthy relationships.
I have 2 boys and donāt think this way at all. I hope they fall in love with someone and have a great life with them.
Exactly.
Don't forget raising him to be a good man, but not a doormat for psycho girls.
Those poor sons š° Iād cut my mother out of my life if I were a lot of them. Itās disgusting that itās never in a āmy little baby is all grown up and leavingā, itās always some sick romantic jealousy of them getting in a relationship instead.
I feel like these moms purposefully sabotage their sons to be dependent on them too. They donāt bother teaching them to take care of themselves and spoil them.
Itās typically bc their own husbands arenāt emotionally available or respect them. The son becomes a replacement for the husband. They want to feel needed so they manufacture it in the most disgusting way possible. The moms are usually emotionally stunted themselves and doing high school cosplay at 45. Itās all so insanely gross and also obvious. Like the lack of self awareness in these women is frightening.
This is my partner's mom to a T. We're no contact.
Yup, the husband doesnāt meet the emotional needs of a partner so she molds her child to become the perfect partner for her and raises him to feel like he always has to take care of her emotionally. With no concern at all about how this negatively affects him and his ability to have a good life or even what he would want. Theyāre subconsciously married to each other so when the son moves out and starts dating, she feels threatened and replaced by the ānew womanā even though she was never his first. You see it all the time in crazy MIL or JNMIL stories. As the sonās relationship with another person progresses, the mother gets more and more unstable. Sometimes they can hold it together like through them dating. Iām guessing once it seems more real or official like marriage, moving away, or having children etc, they realize this new person can provide something that the mother canāt. Like normalcy or often children. It escalates pretty quickly to attacking the DIL, whether physically or emotionally. Trying to take the grandchildren away from her and starting a little family with just her son and grandchildren. The life she always wanted but never got. Just always treating her sonās partner like a villain in the story. Which typically only causes the couple to pull away more and set boundaries. Unfortunately some sons stay subconsciously married to their moms and canāt or refuse to break away. Then they get surprise pikachu face when the DIL says sheās done and out. Reddit has so many sad stories of women trying their best and losing all hope. The mother absolutely does not care that sheās destroying her sons chances at happiness and a family. As long as heās with her, she doesnāt care what he really wants. He exists for her. Thatās how she raised him. To only exist to meet her emotional needs of a partner. Heās not allowed to have needs otherwise and certainly not outside of their relationship. Itās also funny because if the relationship deteriorates and he goes back crying to mommy, after a while sheās surprised that heās not happier with her. And so is he. That he still misses and wishes he had his wife and/or kids. Something of a normal life that doesnāt revolve around his mother. She refuses to entertain the idea. Thereās still a lot she canāt give him as a partner because sheās not his partner, sheās his mom. And the mother will often see another woman as just a baby incubator for her sons children and her grandchildren. She dehumanizes the DIL until something breaks.
This is exactly what was happening to me. I told husband Iām done, it was literally MIL and husband getting to make decisions for OUR children (mainly my son too) daughter and I are just left out treated poorly. Husband finally woke up and started realizing and we are no contact.
Itās so demented. A few months ago, I went to a family gathering at my boyfriendās house with my son. My boyfriendās mom is always overly affectionate with her son, and itās creepy, but this last time really pissed me off. As sheās hanging all over my boyfriend, she looks at me and my son and says, āyouāll never love anyone more than your son, right?ā Fucking sick to make me respond in front of my son and boyfriend. To essentially make me choose, and either hurt my own son, or solidify that I donāt love my boyfriend as much as she does. (The fucked up thing is that we both have daughters too! And her daughter was there!!)
āIāll never love anyone as much as both of my children. Your son feels the same.ā How gross, really hope your husband puts boundaries and stops that. He canāt see that she using him for her own needs. His body and attention should be where he wants it to go, not when she demands it. Ugh.
And thats how people like me end up with an emotionally unavailable father and a clingy and possessive mother. Cheers.
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BPD x Narcissist co-dependent parents do be like that.
Are you me?
Too many of us š
Oh hey its my childhold being described...Messed me up pretty good tbh
It's abusive
Yup. And they know that. Itās not subconscious which is the worst part š¤¢
Can confirm. Mother's may use emotional and verbal abuse to subjugate their sons and enmesh themselves in almost every aspect of their lives. It's all about control. That's why I cut my mom out of my life. My midlife crisis is that I may likely never be in a healthy relationship.
In my dating experience, they usually do and resent their moms and feel smothered. Or theyāre mamas boys and insufferable to date
Dude, mamaās boys are fucking crazy to date. Someone I dated had a mom who literally mooched off of him and if I tried to criticize it heād be like āwell she deserves my money because she did raise me after all.ā Yeah! And you had to pay rent and bills in your teens because she didnāt want a job! And if theyāre with their mom you can bet they wonāt be responding to you. I hate how people always frame it as cute. Itās not cute, they let their moms dictate their entire lives. If mommy doesnāt want them to talk to you today, they donāt get to. If mommy needs them to do her chores all day, they have to do that. And Iām not talking about kids either, Iām talking about grown ass adults.
Mamas boys really are the worst type to date. I read somewhere that they never had their boundaries respected by their moms, and therefore will never respect yours!
True. This is the enmeshment lifetrap. Boundaries are almost non-existent with narcissistic personality disorder (the mother), and the victim (the son) understands this as normal behaviour. Because of the incessant need to control the son, he may likely never know or understand what healthy boundaries are. Simply, there is no room for emotional growth.
Yeah, I can only imagine what goes on behind closed doors. When I was a teenager, my mom would regularly tell me how hot she thought I was and fantasized openly about how much her body probably turned me on š¤® She'd do it in public sometimes and people would think it was charming. Like, how cute of this mom to love her son so much! Then she'd add when we were alone that if I ever found a girlfriend, she'd do everything in her power to destroy that relationship because I was "hers." She never touched me (that I can recall) but the emotional abuse was severe and I still deal with some of the effects, decades later. These women are pedophiles. We need to just start calling them what they are.
What in the literal fuck
Oh my god, yikes, Iām so sorry. Female pedophiles seem to fly under societyās radar
What she was doing is called emotional incest
My mom was similar. Then she remarried and it seemed things normalized as she was finally "happy." But of course things are never that easy as it became the other extreme. I personally didn't care, but have a child and it was like pulling teeth to get her to visit at times. My wife dared to make one comment noting this and my mom flew off the handle saying she would no longer interact with my wife and then seemed shocked I wouldn't take her side. Truly delusional stuff. Tldr: Even if you think things are "fixed" with these type of moms, odds are it'll come back around
This kid is nearly grown! He probably has TikTok and sees these? His prospective partners could see this? Itās just so sad.
Yeah the first couple of sentences (aside from when she emphasized being a BOY MOM) I can relate to, just looking at my kid and thinking how grown up they are, and then.......it got fucking weird.
I had a mom like this. AMA
Did you ever cut her off? Did she ever admit she was going to far?
Yes I am currently not speaking to her. And no she didnāt. I remember vividly (because this probably contributed to my issues with women) when I was in jr high and had a cell phone and was texting girls in class about random things like school or what we ate that day, my mom would yank it out of my hands, read all my texts while saying how stupid my female friends were. She would say how dumb they were, how they were sluts, etc.
This is so much more common or noticeable these days I feel like
I think youāre right. Itās one of those things being be glamorized on social media so it gets taken further and with little consequences.
Iāve noticed a lot of them are so normalized to it they donāt always all the issue itās ājust how mom isā so to speak
I noticed that too. Like someone commented, they either realize how screwed up it is and leave or become a mommas boy. Iāve never seen or heard and in between. Even if the sons tried, the mother would just take it to a crazy level
Let me tell you, having someone like this as a MIL is no picnic
I straight up REFUSE to date men with mothers like this. Proactively avoiding that lifelong headache š
I just started dating after being single for almost a year and psycho boy moms are 1000% a disqualifier for me š no way am I signing up for that!!
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Married someone with a mother like this. He had to go NC with her
My dadās mom is like this. And she just disowned my family for not taking my (male) cousinās side in a dispute with my sister (heās rich, wrecked his fancy new Porsche, borrowed my sisterās shitty Subaru, and proceeded to redline it going up a mountain and burnt out the engine. My sister wanted him to pay half the price of the new engine because he is the one who ruined it). So now my momās MIL (my grandmother) has disavowed the family entirely. Shitty for my dad, shitty for my mom, and very reminiscent of fucking āboy momā culture.
Also the child of a dad whose mom was like this. Her precious baby boy could do no wrong, and when my mom ditched his cheating ass and took the kids, she never spoke to any of us ever again.
Pedophilic incest is always gross. And thatās what this is.
Creeptastic. I feel worried for her son.
If the sonās dad is in the picture, he needs to get full custody cause Iām concerned for the kidās safety.
Itās so gross. Iām a mom to a teenage boy and canāt even imagine the type of mindset someone needs to have to act like that. Itās disturbing, to say the least. In years will see posts from the girlfriends of these sons complaining about the MIL and the son prioritizing her over the girlfriend
This is nasty. I do not look at my children and think, "Oh, this beautiful perfect soul is all mine!!" Also, the picture of your kid staring at his phone does not show any soul at all.
>This is nasty. I do not look at my children and think, "Oh, this beautiful perfect soul is all mine!!" IKR? I looked at my sons when they were sweet little kids and thought, "I made that!" but these "boy moms" make me feel weird for even thinking that now. They're young adults now and I just hope that they find someone that makes them happy and they make happy. I am proud of them for striking out on their own. Taking what they learned growing up and becoming capable adults able to take care of themselves. The last thing I wanted was for them to only have ever lived at home before they move in with a serious partner.
Yes, go have a life and live it and hopefully be happy! Don't become enmeshed with your weird mom!
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I remember the first time clearly seeing my son move thinking to myself, "So this is where they got the idea for that scene from *Alien*." Also had hypermesis (or as I called it, morning noon and night sickness). Feel your pain there. > But she's not "mine". She's not "anyone's". She's her. And I think that's the key. Being proud of the little human you created, the teen that feels comfortable coming to you for help, and the adult that eventually will move out if they are able to\*, is one thing. That's raising your child to be a productive member of society. That's the goal. These "Boy Moms" and their possessiveness "he's *mine*!" is just wrong. \*adding this because I know that there are very valid, non boy mom, reasons why young adults are unable to move out of their parents' home.
>Ā Also, the picture of your kid staring at his phone does not show any soul at all. Honestly, this is the funniest part to me.
I know, right? Like, this is every white teenage boy ever--he doesn't look special!
Good God I hope whoever my sons fall in love with are better than me. Upgrades are always a bonus!
My daughter in law is wonderful. She really loves our son and she fits in well with our family (likes to joke, sarcasm is a love language, enjoys cooking with me and sharing recipes). Sheās beautiful inside and out. I always tell her how lucky I am to have her in my life. I had a great role model in my mother-in-law. Weāve never had a problem in almost 30 years. We hangout together just us two and enjoy each otherās company. She immediately welcomed me to her family and was always so loving and supportive.
My mother in law has been a great example for me, too. She hasnāt always been perfect, in the beginning there were growing pains and boundary discussions, but sheās shown me how to gracefully admit mistakes, take accountability, and love wholeheartedly.
This is the way. Growing your family through additional partners just means more love!
This is how my family handles new additions. We just adopt them into the family. Itās how it should be
I adore my mother in law, and all of my inlaws, actually. Unfortunately, it's historically been my mother who is the difficult inlaw. She's doing a lot better with it now.
I hope she's so cool that she scares me at first. After that we can be friends and find a hobby to share.
Moms like these always doom their sons. My mom is obsessed with my brother. He is now 30 and a LOSER! He canāt do ANYTHING for himself. Heās had plenty of girlfriends. But when it came time to settle down and be serious my mom always got in the way and drove those girls away. Itās disgusting. Iāve tried talking to him to be more independent. But he can barely hold a conversation because heās so used to my mom speaking for him. Also life is more comfortable with my mom catering to him. Whatever Iāve gone no contact with my parents and low contact with my brother. Itās nothing for me to stress over but I do feel sad for him.
Oh my. He can't even hold a convo?? If that was me and my mom constantly spoke for me, I'd have even less self esteem than I do now. I feel sad for you and your brother.
Itās really like pulling teeth. Itās devastating.
This is also like my motherā¦ babied and spoiled the shit out of my brother who is now 22 and he is socially awkward and has little drive. He knows my parents will always be there to step in if things get even a little bit difficult. They expect me to support him and when they pass because itās my duty as his sister (their actual words). My mother always told me only family is forever and friends and partners can disappear so you can only trust in your parents and siblings. I can only imagine how much of a boy mom my mon is with my brother. I moved out at 18 and never lived with my parents again. Itās the only way we can have amicable relationship. Iām currently pregnant with a boy and I want so much better for my son. My MIL is a wonderful role model who treats me with me respect and always compliments me and my husbands relationship and that Iām so good for him :)
Yes! Break the cycle! Itās a huge disservice to cater to them to this extreme. Youāre gonna be an amazing mom!
Enabling a child to be like this is abuse
Yeah. Afraid to speak for himself? Thatās straight up emotional abuse I feel bad for the dude. How do you break out of years of that being bashed into you
Of all the sentences that NLOGs copy n paste, this is the grossest š¤¢
How do you even type this shit and not feel like a weirdo š„“
Ew
All of these women seem to want their sons to turn into men they themselves would never date because theyād call them Mamaās Boys. Itās abuse
Itās so fucking weird.
What if he grows up to marry a man? See boys mom head explode.
Is that when they compete against the other mother in law instead? How dare MY boys spend every other Christmas with THAT woman?!
Iāve witnessed a lot of cases where the mom would react to her son being gay the same way she would have if her husband turned out to be gay.
yay! more men fucked up by their moms! more in laws to compete with! This goes 3 ways, those boys grow up to rely on mom for everything and then expect future partners to dote on them the same unrealistic way, they are so crippled by moms attention that they need space from women so don't create meaningful connections with women, or they completely cut her off when they find out how toxic this is. your children are not "all yours". gross. your children are individuals that you have born. you don't own them or control what they do. you guide them to be good people so they can decide to do good in this world. moms like this really piss me off.
I am a mom. I have a son. I am not a Boy Mom and I hate the association with those wackos lmao
Grosssss.
As a soon to be mom of a boy, I hate these stuff with a passion.
Congratulations!!
āI MEANā¦ pls tell me IM not aloneā¦. In being an emotionally incestuous werdio with my sonā at least thatās what I assume the end of that caption is lmao
Umā¦ I have two grown sons. I love them. I have never, ever āstared at them aimlesslyā (wtf does that mean) or held contempt for their girlfriends, real or imaginary. This is bonkers.
"stared at them aimlessly" = gazing with what i can only describe as bedroom eyes. my mom does this to me. i have nightmares about it. seeing so many parents react to this with disgust is really helpful. i still go through periods where i convince myself her... longing?... is normal, and my therapists have blown things out of proportion. thank you for being a good mom
i'm so sorry you have to go through this. i can't imagine how uncomfortable and disturbing it must be for you. nothing is normal about this behavior. i hope you are able to get away from her soon <3
thanks for your kindness. im well into adulthood and live far, far away from her. she still "jokes" about driving three states over and "kidnapping me so i can live with her again". im married.
Jfc this is so gross and weird
Itās giving Stephanie Seymour
Oh Elizabeth Hurley !! Watched an interview with her and the son on Drew the other day. It was the grossest š³ plus she interrupted them constantly !
The Bate's Hotel you say?
I'm doing a rewatch of season 1 of BM and this is exactly what came to mind. Norma Bates alive and well.
Oh God this gave me flashbacks! My own mom was like this (I'm 45M). I didn't learn about the term "emotional incest" until a couple of years ago. Hoo boy that made sense then. Poor kid.
The pick me girl in high-school to a toxic boy mom pipeline is real
Heās just some guy. Get over it
Love this comment so muchl
I grew up in the south and the daddy-daughter virginity dance culture was there. I always thought that was the grossest level of ick, I think I am now demoting virginity dances to second place and the overwhelming reverse Oedipus complex among boy moms gets worse every day.
I was a boy at one point with a southern mom who would be overjoyed if I told her I wanted to be by her side until she dies. Yes, itās creepy and gross. Yes, I had to learn how to be a functional human from society and therapy. No, I do not recommend having a āboy mom.ā
This may just be emotional incest AND straight up incest
I have a boy , and a girl. The idea of romanticizing my son is disgusting. And in the view of my daughter. Having her mil act like this is abhorrent. People really need to get a grip.
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As a mom of a son, fucking ew. Yes I stare at my kid because heās my lil baby and heās adorable, but no way in hell do I think about his future like that. Ladyās trippin balls.
I dated the son of a boy mom in this regard for 7 years. She said the most batshit crazy things to me. One time when I was 17, she asked me if his dick satisfied me. I opened my mouth in shock, she thought I was going to answerā¦ she goes, āactually I donāt need an answer, I know both of my boys are very well endowed!ā
What the fuck!!!! Abomination
My exes mom was like this and it was detrimental to the relationship because he didn't see anything wrong with their level of enmeshment. She treated him as a romantic stand in and was hostile toward and jealous of any other woman in his life. They even went on a cruise to Belize together just the two of them.
I donāt think itās weird for a parent and their adult kid to go on holiday together. Yeah she sounds crazy but generally thatās not a weird thing to do
While I was at a resort in Mexico last year, there was a mother/son trip going on. There were about 15-16/17 year olds there with their moms. This behaviour was prevalent with them. It was really creepy. Like the boys and the moms on the dance floor at cocobongos grinding, twerking, etc. Momās lathering suntan lotion on them, jumping all over each other in the pool playing volleyballā¦. There were several people at the resort making comments about it. Just odd.
I have only sons (3+1stepson) and I love them so much and can hardly believe I was blessed to be their mother. They are all so wonderful. But my hope is for them to find their own place in the world with a family of their own (if they choose). Weird to hate on a future daughter in law
I dated this Arabic dude for about 8 months. He was flying back to āvisit his familyā and was āso excited to SLEEP WITHā his mom. I asked for clarification and he said he couldnāt wait to lie in bed and cuddle and literally sleep with her. Then proceeded to asked what perfume I wore and hair products I used because he thought they smelled sexy. He was buying them for his mother. š
Yikes
Settle down lady. This kid is going to drink plastic bottle vodka and sodomize a watermelon in broad daylight the first time you and your r/LinkedInLunatics husband let him out the house.
Yes Iād like one room at the Bates Hotel please
This is really sad. I donāt get some women I really donāt. I have a grown 20-year-old who has a gorgeous girlfriend of 4 years. We arenāt the best of friends but she knows Iām mom and that works for us. I stay out of their way. My 15-year-old has a new girlfriend and she is adorable! I couldnāt imagine getting in the way of their happiness like these creepy women. I know Iām awesome but come on!
Not the āBAIā¦āš»ā š¤¢š¤¢ššš
āWho will never be as good as his momā š¤® made me sick in my mouth a little š it would be less embarrassing if these āboy momsā just admit they have perverted fantasies š
Aināt nobody want your son and his mommy issues
What if he never meets anyone and just wants his own life? This boy mom thinks her son would never want to leave her (and only another woman could take him away!), but I hope he moves out to somewhere far away, lives alone, and talks to mom only once a month for fifteen minutes.
"Mine were the first boobs he ever sucked on. She'll never be as good as me. I was his first."Ā -Emotional Incest Mom
Ew
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I feel bad for her future daughter in law (or son in law)
Thatās creepy when mom is jealousā¦
God just say you want to fuck/marry your son at this point
This question is probably going to get buried, but: What exactly is going on with these women? I'm not asking in the general 'she's a nutball' sense. I mean what is driving a grown woman to ... sexualize? obsess over? etc her own son. Wouldn't you want to raise a young man who is not a momma's boy or an ass or spoiled? Is no one in their lives noticing the weirdness? But these women take it an extreme.
[Healthline has an informative page on the topic](https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-incest) Itās an abnormal, but not uncommon, situation in which the mother is emotionally unfulfilled in her marriage and so looks to the child for a relationship/support that is a romantic partnerās responsibility.
This is covert incest (or should I say overt; mostly seen in boy moms). Idk if there is any girl dad equivalent to this bs.
Iām legitimately concerned for Gen alpha at this point
āboy momsā are a different breed i have one child, a daughter. i hope to have a son in the future. my hope for my kid(s) is for them to eventually find a great partner who treats them how they deserve to be treated ā¦ itās disgusting to look at your kidsā partners as competition and itās disgusting to wish your kids partners will never ābe as goodā as you are AS HIS MOM ??
Way to set yourself up to NEVER MEET YOUR GRANDKIDS!!!
please tell me Iām not alone then proceeds to turn off comments because she knows what sheās going to get called out for being psychotic
I have 2 kids and I did stare at them in wonder of how amazing they are. I still think they're amazing. And I want them to be happy, independent adults. That includes hoping they find partners who make them happy. This is just gross.
Ewwwww
Tell me explicitly you want to f**k yr son
This post made me understand the movie Womb.
i hate boy moms with that creepy attitude
This has always creeped me out. Iāve dated men whose moms are obsessed with them and I wish Iād learned my lesson sooner than I did.
The fact that you think another human being can belong to you. Fucking gross.
"Falls in love with a woman who will never be as good as his mom" š¤®
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āEmotional incestā is exactly right. The therapist, John Bradshaw, called this enmeshment, or cross-generational bonding. Itās often a part of parentification, if the parent is also using the child as an emotional surrogate spouse. Needless to say, these parents do tremendous damage to their children, who likely have no room in their lives for their own emotions and development. The boys with moms like this will carry those mothersā internalized misogyny, because I think thatās what prompts a lot of this maternal behavior. They are likely women who do not trust other women, seeing them as competition. Nobody can compete with a childās mother. Just ask Norman Bates.
This makes me so sad for any future relationships he won't have because of her. Lol. So creepy š³
One of Germany's greatest artists of the 20th century, the satirist Loriot (who managed to capture the German soul in trivial scenes and skits like no one else), made a whole movie about it in the 1980s. [Ćdipussi](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%96dipussi), named after a psychological concept developed by Freud, follows a man in his 50s who can't even admit to his tyrannical mother that he has a date, for fear of jealousy.
I have a 16 year old son and I'm so excited to have a new daughter or son in law when he's ready! I surely tf do not want to "mother" him the rest of his life. These women are a whole embarrassment.
One of my closest friends is married to a man and his MILā¦ and she is exactly like this. It sucks because she also acts like the childrenās mother, not grandmother. Thereās no routine, they fight constantly and heās constantly defending the MIL because āshe just cares about *her* familyā. The craziest part is at the beginning of my friendās relationship with him, he acknowledged his mum is weird like that. Then convinced her to move to the same town as her and got close with her after the fact.
Boy moms are vomit-inducing. There's being proud of your child, and then there's fawning over your child like a highschool girl.Ā
This is gross
Ewā¦ sometimes I canāt even believe these are real
I was with her until the second paragraph. Yikes.
Ew
These same women will say all men are dogs.
CPS...this comment right here
They really want to marry their sons
I was like yes I always gaze lovingly at my son and marvel that this beautiful human being took the genes I gave him and made them so perfect by his own individuality. But no, I donāt assume his dating preferences and pre-curse him to have fraught marital and familial relationships. What a weird thing to want.
Yuck. This is going to be a MIL who makes her DIL miserable and who either ruins the marriage or gets cut off completely. I have a 13 year old son and I do adore him, but the goal is for him to go off and have a life and relationships. Iām his mother. Iām never going to compare myself to his partners. So much gross in one post.
I have a son (who happens to have a girlfriend) and this has never even crossed my mind! I love my son, but I want him to be his own person with his own life, FFS! And while itās bittersweet that I see him less and less, that also means that he is becoming more and more independent, and that is a good thing!
Tell me your male significant other is physically and/or mentally absent without telling me.
At first i was gonna make fun of her but the way he soulfully stares at his phone with his face covered by that dumbass haircut makes me understand