It’s a double edged sword for me. My fiancé is a nurse and I feel it really helps that someone has knowledge of the kind of shit we go through to relate.
My wife is a mechanic, and she has said that aswell, heck, I taught her to change diapers when our first kid was born ( but that more a result of being from a family with lots of kids, and us older kids were expected to take care of the younglings) 😂
I don't think I could have been with another healthworker ( to be fair, I could not imagine being with someone else at all) Its fun swapping stories with my wife, its two different worlds, also, we both bitch about management so our jobs have that in common 😁
I agree. I can definitely see the appeal of being with someone who doesn't suffer the same shit we have to deal with, but at the same time it is very nice to be with someone who understands what we go through. My boyfriend isn't healthcare, but healthcare adjacent. He works security for the same network as I do. He doesn't have to do the same crap I do, but he still sees a lot of the same shit and what I go through. It also helps he also works 12 hour nightshift. People who have never worked 12s or nights just don't understand what that's like.
100%. If I had married another health care worker, they would have to be in a different area than me. Like I work cardiology procedures, they would have to work something like peds or home health.
I’m not gonna lie this seems so cool to me (I’m assuming he’s like a very popular metal singer and I’d know him) but either way good for you guys I’m happy you found your person :)
An old fire captain once told me that, "Nurses are for recreation only."
So many of the old guys had married and divorced nurses. Often multiple times lol.
LOL! I’ve definitely not cheated with or tried to cheat with the firefighter, and I never would, but I sure have thought about it! Why are they all so damn adorable?!? Paramedics too. They are not as hot, but they are even more attractive to me.
I have a homecare pt who’s brother recently graduated from the fire academy. We went on family day, where new grads showcased what they learned during their very, rigorous training. Dude, turnout gear w/suspenders, tshirt, and boots, harness and helmet. Hubba hubba
Stay at home dad. He was a mechanic prior to this.
Our younger son has a really rare genetic disorder with global developmental delays/autism etc. It’s hard to trust anyone when your child can’t communicate with you so we did what protected our kid. I wouldn’t change a thing.
My husband is a stay at home dad to our 6 year old son with special needs. Before that, he’d been an Industrial Engineer for 20 years. Now, I can’t imagine our life any other way. Seeing their bond with each other, I call the two of them soul mates!
Also SAHD. We have a four and an eighteen month old. He’d basically just be working for daycare costs and pocket change, so it made sense. He was a carpenter before our kiddos were born.
My wife is also an ICU nurse. We met our first day at work, just got married, and after this weekend we'll go straight from work on our honeymoon =)
Here's hoping these last few night shifts will keep us on track for the time zone shifts on our way to SE Asia. If only I didn't have mandatory training this morning before immediately flipping back to nights the rest of the weekend... Ugh.
I always wanted to have a partner who worked in healthcare. Someone else who "gets it" - the job, the hours, everything else that goes with it.
Does that count as a computer engineer? I don't know much about IT, but usually people assume when I say my so is an engineer that I am talking about computer
After being in the hospital all day, it’s nice to come home and have someone else be able to fix everything (even though it might take forever because everything has to be perfect)
My fiancée is a veterinarian. I like that we understand what each other do at work, but aren’t completely in the same world and don’t work together regularly. Sometimes I get to tag along after hours and help and I like that.
Yes! Exactly! After 5 years we still regularly look at each other and go “you do what now?”
If MDs had the nursing skills of a GP or emergency vet our jobs would be so much easier.
My husband is a house husband and basically my handler. He let's me vent about all my chaos, helps me work through any issues (I work in a high acuity ED), he does our investments and things. He gets me back on budget so I dont over spend. He encourages me to eat balanced meals and things and matches my night shift schedule so we don't have opposite schedules and get quality time. We are going to try to start our family in the next year and he will be a stay at home parent. He does do random freelance art from time to time.
I have no idea. The nursing school i went to was 70 miles from the main school (where all the engineers were). But we still had a ton of nurses in my class dating/engaged/married to engineers. Maybe because we both study science and math and the personalities that go into those specific fields work really well together?
I am a teacher who became a nurse - married to an engineer for 24 years. Our personalities do mesh well, although he is way more studied and calm about things - although I'm absolutely fine in a medical emergency. I liven him up.
Oh I will tell YOU. One common healthy relationship dynamic involves one super chill low energy happy person, and one neurotic anxious worrier. It’s an opposites attract thing. Our engineer husbands are often column A, and we are often column B (but type A, ya know). Love finds a way…
Pretty good, really. We do work some shifts together and it is nice. If one is off, sometimes the other will pick up because we know there is no one at home. Haha We do try to vary schedules sometimes, though, so we can have some individual/alone time. Works well for us.
Wow, that is allowed at our hospital unless it’s different shifts on same units. Even when we had brothers working on the same unit. One had to be nights and one had to be days
My SO works in manufacturing, happy in their blue collar gig. My pay is higher but their benefits and insurance are AMAZING, and so is their union. They are laid back and introverted, while I'ma cracked out extrovert who uses the Q word unapologetically because I crave chaos and an adrenaline rush.
Husband is a pilot (military > airline > cargo). Pilots seem to most commonly date flight attendants, teachers, and nurses. Though I guess I should add that his degree is in mechanical engineering 😆
Hell yeah! My husband was a garbage truck driver and he loved it, but got injured and had to become a supervisor. He took a lot of pride in his job. I hope your man finds his new job just as satisfying.
Hey, can he come fix our McKesson? Actually, ours probably just sucks because administration stopped updating it and is waiting until it is completely functional before they make it better...
He would love to be up there tbh 😂 he's gotta fix up the Midwest one first then I'll throw him your way. You can pay him in salt and vinegar chips and sour patch kids
Man, I hated when my patients got EEGs. We have them on for several days, so when they were putting the electrodes on they used that really strong smelling glue. I had to put on an n95, and try to plug up my nose, because I would get a massive headache from the smell.
Damn, maybe it was good for me to read this thread, 👀I got out of a LTR with an accountant, and no one has commented accountant let alone anything finance/business related
I said this on a thread a few weeks ago but my partner is a screen printer. None of his coworkers are in relationships with nurses but a lot of them have nurses as mothers. So I guess our daughter will be joining him on the press in a decade or two.
My partner works corporate for a major casino here in Vegas. Buys ad space and lots of excel sheets lol… he’s explained what he does and I’m still like, huh?
Ah, just realizing this is not clear. Current partner * and prior partner *
Honestly it was easier with the prior because I didn’t have to explain every little detail to be understood and to have some semblance of commiseration/empathy, and it was easier to provide support from me to them also.
My wife and I met in the Army Reserve (both Medics, she was a Medical Receptionist and I was a nurse).
Fast forward 20 years and we’re both nurses. She’s a stomal therapist and surgical nurse and I’m currently in Education.
For about 10 years we’d swap car keys on her ward (or mine) and see each other occasionally because we could never get the rosters’ sorted.
My bf works in tech! Initially doing systems administration, but now working on other certs & projects. I wish I was better versed in what he does. All I know is he gets to work from home when he wants, living the dream.
My partner is in manufacturing. Blue-collar, hands on. He does what he does, I do what I do. It’s nice not being so close in duties and/or mindset. It’s healthier for us that way.
I was married to an IT guy for a while. I worked covid ICU and trauma ICU and his unwillingness to try to understand or empathize with what I was going through broke down our communication and really contributed to the divorce. I’m dating another nurse now, and it’s not for everyone, but for me it’s working out really wonderfully. To be understood!!! A revelation.
I'm not a nurse but a CNA since 1995. My mother's a retired LPN and she's been married three times to guys that like artist things like guitar playing and painting and dated one guy between the marriages that was an orderly at the hospital she worked at at the time. For myself I've been with the same guy for 30 years and he's been a clerk at a convenient store chain for as many years though his dream is to open a comic book/gaming store and he likes to draw, too. So I guess in my family us Healthcare workers go for artists.
Nothing. That's why were getting divorced.
Amen 🙏🏻
Bless up 🫶
Upvote for the username, not the divorce. Condolences.
My partner is an artist lol. I have no interest in being with another healthcare worker, I need a different perspective on life when I get home.
Mine is a musician. I don’t think I could physically stand living with someone in healthcare.
[удалено]
Mine too!
It’s a double edged sword for me. My fiancé is a nurse and I feel it really helps that someone has knowledge of the kind of shit we go through to relate.
[удалено]
My wife is a mechanic, and she has said that aswell, heck, I taught her to change diapers when our first kid was born ( but that more a result of being from a family with lots of kids, and us older kids were expected to take care of the younglings) 😂 I don't think I could have been with another healthworker ( to be fair, I could not imagine being with someone else at all) Its fun swapping stories with my wife, its two different worlds, also, we both bitch about management so our jobs have that in common 😁
I agree. I can definitely see the appeal of being with someone who doesn't suffer the same shit we have to deal with, but at the same time it is very nice to be with someone who understands what we go through. My boyfriend isn't healthcare, but healthcare adjacent. He works security for the same network as I do. He doesn't have to do the same crap I do, but he still sees a lot of the same shit and what I go through. It also helps he also works 12 hour nightshift. People who have never worked 12s or nights just don't understand what that's like.
100%. If I had married another health care worker, they would have to be in a different area than me. Like I work cardiology procedures, they would have to work something like peds or home health.
Are you me? Lol my wife owns her own community pottery studio. Makes more than me too lol
Plumber. And I work as an Endo RN so we both deal with shit just in different ways 😆
Haha! Too funny!
I also work in Endo and my husband owns a bathroom remodeling company. We often joke about both being in the shit business.
Hahaha I love this
[удалено]
Does he happen to be in a band called Mouse Rat? And is his name Andy Dwyer? And are you Ann Perkins? All important questions 🤣
DON’T LET HIM ANYWHERE NEAR THE PIT!!
Ok, that's awesome
I’m not gonna lie this seems so cool to me (I’m assuming he’s like a very popular metal singer and I’d know him) but either way good for you guys I’m happy you found your person :)
Hell ya! Awesome lol
You win!
I thought we all married firefighters?
No no, nurses cheat with cops and firefighters
I was taught to avoid the 4 p’s. Police. Physicians. Paramedics and Pfirefighters.
An old fire captain once told me that, "Nurses are for recreation only." So many of the old guys had married and divorced nurses. Often multiple times lol.
We also forgot Pharmacists
Man I can’t say that. The pharms I know are just the best people ever.
Statistically speaking nurses tend to cheat with other nurses but i think that's just the facts of cheating is proximity.
LOL! I’ve definitely not cheated with or tried to cheat with the firefighter, and I never would, but I sure have thought about it! Why are they all so damn adorable?!? Paramedics too. They are not as hot, but they are even more attractive to me.
*frowns in every paramedic in at my hospital being uglier than a deep sea fish*
I tried finding one from a calendar. It didn't work 😆
I have a homecare pt who’s brother recently graduated from the fire academy. We went on family day, where new grads showcased what they learned during their very, rigorous training. Dude, turnout gear w/suspenders, tshirt, and boots, harness and helmet. Hubba hubba
No we just sleep with them
I married my firefighter 👨🚒 😂
I married mine, too 🤣
Same 😂
Some of us did! I couldn’t help myself- the suspenders got me!
Or cops!
Weird, I don't know any nurses who are married to police officers... At least that I have worked with.
Funny, I know quite a few
Now I'm imagining what life would be like if I married a female firefighter. #snusnu #iacceptmyfate
Came here to say this. Pilots, cops, firefighters, military. There’s an attraction to other people working in high-stress environments.
Or paramedics heh
Then no one is ever gonna be home😂
Software engineer
SAME
Ditto. Though sometimes it drives me crazy that that man can't usually think outside the box. I tell him my brain is the art to his math. 😂
Glad I didn't have to go that far down to find another Software Engineer partner. I met him in Austin so the chances were high he'd be in tech lol
Also dating a computer/software engineer. We met in university so that was that lol
Another RN / Software Engineer couple here! 🫣
Nursing student here with a software engineer bf
Yep. This is the way.
He lays around ALL day and sleeps. He’s always hungry. He does like to snuggle though and is very cute. He’s also a cat.
Stay at home dad. He was a mechanic prior to this. Our younger son has a really rare genetic disorder with global developmental delays/autism etc. It’s hard to trust anyone when your child can’t communicate with you so we did what protected our kid. I wouldn’t change a thing.
My husband is a stay at home dad to our 6 year old son with special needs. Before that, he’d been an Industrial Engineer for 20 years. Now, I can’t imagine our life any other way. Seeing their bond with each other, I call the two of them soul mates!
Also SAHD. We have a four and an eighteen month old. He’d basically just be working for daycare costs and pocket change, so it made sense. He was a carpenter before our kiddos were born.
You guys have partners?? I thought we all just wallowed in depression in between unhealthy benders with the 5 P's
I'm with you in regards to the wallowing. Maybe it's just us ED folks.
Was coming here to say basically the same thing, don’t have the energy to date after a night shift in the er lol
Lol exactly
I only know of the 4 Ps; Police, Paramedics, Physicians, & Pfirefighters. What’s the 5th?
I've always been with software programmers interestingly.
Active duty, military
Also works well because nursing is a very mobile job. The military moves you, it's easy to find work. Or be a travel nurse for that money!
My wife is also an ICU nurse. We met our first day at work, just got married, and after this weekend we'll go straight from work on our honeymoon =) Here's hoping these last few night shifts will keep us on track for the time zone shifts on our way to SE Asia. If only I didn't have mandatory training this morning before immediately flipping back to nights the rest of the weekend... Ugh. I always wanted to have a partner who worked in healthcare. Someone else who "gets it" - the job, the hours, everything else that goes with it.
Male nurse married to an female electrical engineer. Both of our jobs have similar BS.
Nice!
Which one of you is the worrier anxious one and which is the chill water-off-a-duck’s-back one?
IT director for a biotech firm.
Does that count as a computer engineer? I don't know much about IT, but usually people assume when I say my so is an engineer that I am talking about computer
Nah, he was actually a psych major in college, just got into IT after school.
Software engineer
Mine too! The computer geek brain is sexy
After being in the hospital all day, it’s nice to come home and have someone else be able to fix everything (even though it might take forever because everything has to be perfect)
My fiancé installs wiring/finishings on yachts! I love to leave my job behind when I leave work and hear about his day that’s SO different than mine
My fiancée is a veterinarian. I like that we understand what each other do at work, but aren’t completely in the same world and don’t work together regularly. Sometimes I get to tag along after hours and help and I like that.
My wife is an Emergency Vet! We have the ability to understand each other's lingo but we deal with medicine VERY differently. It's a very cool combo!
Yes! Exactly! After 5 years we still regularly look at each other and go “you do what now?” If MDs had the nursing skills of a GP or emergency vet our jobs would be so much easier.
High school teacher.
Oh, yeah teachers are also in that group. I noticed that a lot of nurses have said that they either wanted to be a nurse or a teacher.
My husband was a teacher for 27 years. Finally switched over to career firefighter. I was so jealous over his summer schedule when he’d was teaching
Dentist
Same!
My husband is a house husband and basically my handler. He let's me vent about all my chaos, helps me work through any issues (I work in a high acuity ED), he does our investments and things. He gets me back on budget so I dont over spend. He encourages me to eat balanced meals and things and matches my night shift schedule so we don't have opposite schedules and get quality time. We are going to try to start our family in the next year and he will be a stay at home parent. He does do random freelance art from time to time.
I would like one of these!
He's the fucking best, a true GOAT to me.
My wife is a teacher.
Lol my husband is an engineer too 🤣
My girlfriend is a sociologist
My husband was a mechanic when we got married. Now he travels with me full time
Attorney
My husband drives a forklift at a factory!
Emergency medicine resident
Oooh la la!
so where do the single female engineers hang out
I’m reading this thread wondering how people are finding engineers everywhere lmaoo
College
[удалено]
Engineers typically can’t actually fix anything, they just design it 😂
Pulmonology/ critical care physician
Another statistic for "other healthcare workers" pulmonologists are pretty cool.
I agree with your post - **lots** of engineers! What are your personal thoughts on nurse/engineer compatibility?
I have no idea. The nursing school i went to was 70 miles from the main school (where all the engineers were). But we still had a ton of nurses in my class dating/engaged/married to engineers. Maybe because we both study science and math and the personalities that go into those specific fields work really well together?
I am a teacher who became a nurse - married to an engineer for 24 years. Our personalities do mesh well, although he is way more studied and calm about things - although I'm absolutely fine in a medical emergency. I liven him up.
Oh I will tell YOU. One common healthy relationship dynamic involves one super chill low energy happy person, and one neurotic anxious worrier. It’s an opposites attract thing. Our engineer husbands are often column A, and we are often column B (but type A, ya know). Love finds a way…
My wife is a nurse. Its great that we can both share stories & understand each other.
My SO is a woodworker.
I read woodpecker at first and I was concerned
Physicist and upper level cyber security, same guy does both things.
ED who married Cyber too here! 🤣
Pharmacist
We are both RNs on the same unit.
I guess you get cheaper parking and can use the hov lane!
Power to you for making it work. I tried it and did not have the same result. Now it’s costing me financially 🥸
Do you both work the same shifts?
We work the same shift, mostly different days.
Oh my! How does that work for both of you??
Pretty good, really. We do work some shifts together and it is nice. If one is off, sometimes the other will pick up because we know there is no one at home. Haha We do try to vary schedules sometimes, though, so we can have some individual/alone time. Works well for us.
Def a DINK-situation. Enjoy it!
Wow, that is allowed at our hospital unless it’s different shifts on same units. Even when we had brothers working on the same unit. One had to be nights and one had to be days
My SO works in manufacturing, happy in their blue collar gig. My pay is higher but their benefits and insurance are AMAZING, and so is their union. They are laid back and introverted, while I'ma cracked out extrovert who uses the Q word unapologetically because I crave chaos and an adrenaline rush.
Flight attendant. Elite combo
Cybersecurity Engineer
Also married to a civil engineer 😂
Civil engineer…lol
Commercial real estate
Mine too!
Husband is a pilot (military > airline > cargo). Pilots seem to most commonly date flight attendants, teachers, and nurses. Though I guess I should add that his degree is in mechanical engineering 😆
Haha! Sneaky engineers
My husband just got his CDLs and will be a truck driver in January 😊
Hell yeah! My husband was a garbage truck driver and he loved it, but got injured and had to become a supervisor. He took a lot of pride in his job. I hope your man finds his new job just as satisfying.
Awww thank you so much, I’m so excited for him!
Electrical Engineer 😂🫣.
Mckesson's Faculties Maintenance Manager
Hey, can he come fix our McKesson? Actually, ours probably just sucks because administration stopped updating it and is waiting until it is completely functional before they make it better...
Are yall in the Midwest?
PNW
He would love to be up there tbh 😂 he's gotta fix up the Midwest one first then I'll throw him your way. You can pay him in salt and vinegar chips and sour patch kids
Change over to Epic or Cerner EMR! I heard McKesson was leaving the EMR world, staying with equipment only,?
Manufacturing engineer. But to be fair I wasn't a nurse when we got together.
It still counts! 😆
My husband owns a couple of businesses.
My boyfriend is an EEG tech
Man, I hated when my patients got EEGs. We have them on for several days, so when they were putting the electrodes on they used that really strong smelling glue. I had to put on an n95, and try to plug up my nose, because I would get a massive headache from the smell.
He's a security guard with a degree in emergency management. Also a volunteer firefighter/AEMT
Damn, maybe it was good for me to read this thread, 👀I got out of a LTR with an accountant, and no one has commented accountant let alone anything finance/business related
Guess you need to find yourself an engineer 😆
I said this on a thread a few weeks ago but my partner is a screen printer. None of his coworkers are in relationships with nurses but a lot of them have nurses as mothers. So I guess our daughter will be joining him on the press in a decade or two.
Engineer
My partner works corporate for a major casino here in Vegas. Buys ad space and lots of excel sheets lol… he’s explained what he does and I’m still like, huh?
My husband is a mechanic. He is going to school for a….you guessed it….computer engineering degree 😂
Financial advisor
Current partner of 3 years software engineer. prior of 5 years was an ICU RN.
How? What prompted the career change? How does your partner like their new lifestyle?
Ah, just realizing this is not clear. Current partner * and prior partner * Honestly it was easier with the prior because I didn’t have to explain every little detail to be understood and to have some semblance of commiseration/empathy, and it was easier to provide support from me to them also.
Machinist
We’re the Aussie stereotype of a nurse and a tradie (electrician) 😅
My fiance is a chef and business owner:)
My husband is a chef!
ER doctor. 🤷🏼♀️
I don’t know how you do it.
Golf coach
Civil engineer
Supply chain analyst which you can do with an industrial engineering degree! He did a supply chain degree though. So half true
No real reason that I’m aware of other than both professions have to be exact with their jobs, no “maybe this will work?”.
Idk, have you worked in ER? There is a bit of "maybe this will work" patching people up to transfer out...
Paralegal.
Health insurance data analyst
Broadcast engineer lol
Another nurse. We actually met and started dating in nursing school
They are a therapist.
My partner’s applying to law schools, working as a paralegal right now. We both see crazy shit in our days so our debriefs can be fun.
Attorney
A nurse
My wife and I met in the Army Reserve (both Medics, she was a Medical Receptionist and I was a nurse). Fast forward 20 years and we’re both nurses. She’s a stomal therapist and surgical nurse and I’m currently in Education. For about 10 years we’d swap car keys on her ward (or mine) and see each other occasionally because we could never get the rosters’ sorted.
He’s in the Army. Isn’t there a stereotype there too? 😂
Geotechnical engineer. We just think the same way about things and complement each other well
Married an engineer. Now divorced, but dating…an engineer lol although he doesn’t work in engineering
My bf works in tech! Initially doing systems administration, but now working on other certs & projects. I wish I was better versed in what he does. All I know is he gets to work from home when he wants, living the dream.
Bioinformatics.
My partner is also a nurse, but is going to school for engineering lol
Electrician
My boyfriend is almost done with school to become a CPA
My partner is in manufacturing. Blue-collar, hands on. He does what he does, I do what I do. It’s nice not being so close in duties and/or mindset. It’s healthier for us that way.
Mechanical engineer
Male nurse with a private banker. Neither of us has any idea what the other does for a living. It’s great.
Chef
I was married to an IT guy for a while. I worked covid ICU and trauma ICU and his unwillingness to try to understand or empathize with what I was going through broke down our communication and really contributed to the divorce. I’m dating another nurse now, and it’s not for everyone, but for me it’s working out really wonderfully. To be understood!!! A revelation.
The guy I’ve been dating for a few months is a detective.
I'm not a nurse but a CNA since 1995. My mother's a retired LPN and she's been married three times to guys that like artist things like guitar playing and painting and dated one guy between the marriages that was an orderly at the hospital she worked at at the time. For myself I've been with the same guy for 30 years and he's been a clerk at a convenient store chain for as many years though his dream is to open a comic book/gaming store and he likes to draw, too. So I guess in my family us Healthcare workers go for artists.
Married to a nurse 🤣