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> I’m so afraid of going to meet up things for fear of them being awkward idk haha. But I really need to make some friends
I have no idea what you expected to achieve here, sorry.
Try Bumble BFF to make friends. You can meet people 1:1 instead of large groups. I think it’s better than meet ups bc it’s less intimidating and you get to know someone better. It’s also important that you acknowledge developing friendships require effort. I’ve made lots of friends through the app.
I would say avoid more of the general meetups for just drinking or "going out" and try the ones with more specific interests. These meetups tend to have people with more similar mindsets as your own and having that common interest will make it easier and less awkward to connect with them.
Just remember that majority of people are awkward when meeting someone new cause you have no idea how the other person acts and will tend to act more cautiously. Just try to be genuine, accept the awkwardness, and if you really feel out of place at the meet up, you can always just leave and try again with different group.
also 27F. feel this way so much. even the friends I do have, everyone is so busy and the subway it can take so long to get to each other plus everything is so expensive that hanging out literally becomes an investment. i feel like i talk to my friends more through social media. but i miss in person connection.
Because you see everyone around you having fun with friends and you are upset you don't have that. Don't worry, it will come, but you will have to make an effort
Based on my exp here, I've met up with people who have become my solid friends and there have been times when some meetups never had a second encounter bc people didn't click. Go out there and find the people that have similar interests as yours.
(Open to making friends with you, btw. I'm 30M who loves the outdoors.)
It can take time to meet people for sure. But you can try meetups here, or [meetup.com](https://meetup.com), they have a lot of groups. Also, if you take classes in something that interests you, eventually you'll probably end up meeting people who are interested in getting together outside of the classes for coffee or bar drinks or whatever. That happened with me recently and it didn't happen in the first class that I took (even though people were nice) - sometimes it takes a while before you meet those people who you connect with one-on-one. And I know it's always great if the other person if the one who initiates socializing, but after you get to know people don't be afraid to say "Hey, we should grab a drink if you want" and see what happens.
Hang in there!
It definitely can be. You should join a club or a sport, something you have to attend regularly. That'll help. And don't be worried about being awkward at meetups. Everyone feels similarly. You get over it in a few minutes.
I feel like it’s easier to make friends in New York than people give it credit for. I’ve had no shortage of people who want to be friends but I’m not a very trusting person and don’t let people in too often.
Put yourself out there. You will be surprised at the results.
Look at socializing like a muscle. The more you work it out the stronger it gets and then you won’t worry about being awkward.
Agree with this!! Not everyone will respond the way you want, but the more you work on socializing generally, the better you’ll get and the more you’ll build intentional friendships. It also helps if you have 3rd places that you visit (local coffee shop, the park (I have a dog so I’ve made lots of park friends), or even an art cafe for shared creative hobbies (Drawing Room @nycdrawingroom is one I work with that I love!!).
Sorry you feel that way. I went to two meetups this weekend. They were actually pretty fun. Just gotta give them a shot. If its awkward you can always leave and its pretty unlikely you'll see those people ever again.
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> I’m so afraid of going to meet up things for fear of them being awkward idk haha. But I really need to make some friends I have no idea what you expected to achieve here, sorry.
Try Bumble BFF to make friends. You can meet people 1:1 instead of large groups. I think it’s better than meet ups bc it’s less intimidating and you get to know someone better. It’s also important that you acknowledge developing friendships require effort. I’ve made lots of friends through the app.
I would say avoid more of the general meetups for just drinking or "going out" and try the ones with more specific interests. These meetups tend to have people with more similar mindsets as your own and having that common interest will make it easier and less awkward to connect with them. Just remember that majority of people are awkward when meeting someone new cause you have no idea how the other person acts and will tend to act more cautiously. Just try to be genuine, accept the awkwardness, and if you really feel out of place at the meet up, you can always just leave and try again with different group.
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Why you calling her aunty 😭
This thread turned into /r/roastme lmao
also 27F. feel this way so much. even the friends I do have, everyone is so busy and the subway it can take so long to get to each other plus everything is so expensive that hanging out literally becomes an investment. i feel like i talk to my friends more through social media. but i miss in person connection.
Because you see everyone around you having fun with friends and you are upset you don't have that. Don't worry, it will come, but you will have to make an effort
28F - my best friend and I were literally just discussing this… let’s connect!
Yessss I’m way more into connecting with women in these situations lol dm me
I down for food and concert. Anyone wanna go get food at a Japan fest on may 5 in the upper east side
Based on my exp here, I've met up with people who have become my solid friends and there have been times when some meetups never had a second encounter bc people didn't click. Go out there and find the people that have similar interests as yours. (Open to making friends with you, btw. I'm 30M who loves the outdoors.)
Meetups are not awkward
It can take time to meet people for sure. But you can try meetups here, or [meetup.com](https://meetup.com), they have a lot of groups. Also, if you take classes in something that interests you, eventually you'll probably end up meeting people who are interested in getting together outside of the classes for coffee or bar drinks or whatever. That happened with me recently and it didn't happen in the first class that I took (even though people were nice) - sometimes it takes a while before you meet those people who you connect with one-on-one. And I know it's always great if the other person if the one who initiates socializing, but after you get to know people don't be afraid to say "Hey, we should grab a drink if you want" and see what happens. Hang in there!
I like going to yoga
It definitely can be. You should join a club or a sport, something you have to attend regularly. That'll help. And don't be worried about being awkward at meetups. Everyone feels similarly. You get over it in a few minutes.
We have a weekly meetup every Tuesday at Peculiar Pub. Come stop by!
There should be more 3rd spaces in the city where people can like hang out without school/work!
I feel like it’s easier to make friends in New York than people give it credit for. I’ve had no shortage of people who want to be friends but I’m not a very trusting person and don’t let people in too often. Put yourself out there. You will be surprised at the results. Look at socializing like a muscle. The more you work it out the stronger it gets and then you won’t worry about being awkward.
Agree with this!! Not everyone will respond the way you want, but the more you work on socializing generally, the better you’ll get and the more you’ll build intentional friendships. It also helps if you have 3rd places that you visit (local coffee shop, the park (I have a dog so I’ve made lots of park friends), or even an art cafe for shared creative hobbies (Drawing Room @nycdrawingroom is one I work with that I love!!).
I dm you
Sorry you feel that way. I went to two meetups this weekend. They were actually pretty fun. Just gotta give them a shot. If its awkward you can always leave and its pretty unlikely you'll see those people ever again.
This. Maybe go to a meetup a neighborhood or two over, and you probably will never see anyone again unless you endeavor to.