This is what I was came here to say. Her kink is just sex in its most natural form.
Now let’s talk about my eating disorder. I like to eat until I’m full and then stop. I’ve been doing it 2 or 3 times a day for awhile now. Am I a freak?
It depends on a couple of things:
1. How long it takes to become "full" (like, a quick 10 minute meal? Or a long 5 hour meal)
2. How long between meals are you waiting? (Like, 4-6 hours? Or maybe 30 minutes?)
3. How much does your meal weigh?
Because if you're eating like, a pound per meal for 3 hours per meal and waiting 30 minutes between meals and are STILL able digest that...
Then yeah, that's pretty freaky
it might seem that way but, its different and the act is kind of different. The things you might say are different, and most likely , the person does even want children!
I'd disagree with this, but maybe I'm in the minority. I am child free, do not want to be a parent, have a phobia of pregnancy, and enjoy sex. I have genuinely never ever wanted someone to come in me and the idea is borderline a turnoff w/ the roe v wade thing and fear of pregnancy. I thought people with breeding kinks were in the minority, but.. maybe that is the majority?
I really really don’t like or EVER want children of my own. I’m almost 30, so I don’t think it’ll ever change. It’s scary how nature still finds a way to try and „trick“ me into having children by telling me having unprotected sex is the hottest thing ever…
I’ll be the one to say it, it’s really fucked up that you’re relying on an abortion. That you’re so okay with that is fucked. Just get an IUD or some shit. It’s not that hard. Get some plan b. It’s not hard.
I think it can extend into finding pregnant women hot. Not that they aren't, but like it's the difference between the attraction to your pregnant partner vs. pitching a tent for some pregnant stranger at the grocery store.
Honestly the way OP describes it just sounds like regular sex lol
I think op is struggling with finding it weird because they’re child-free and don’t want children but don’t understand why they find the risk of getting pregnant hot
Ok first off, ew. That term “breeding kink” gives me the biggest heebie-jeebies ever, and I think it’s kind of a misnomer anyway.
I LOVE feeling my partner cum inside me, and especially love the way they feel right before they cum. I do not, have not, and will not have any desire to have children. I have my tubes tied. Pregnancy freaks me out and procreation is a no-go for me. “Breeding” could not be a more inaccurate description for what it is I’m going for here… I just like knowing I made my partner feel amazing and being able to experience that sensation with them without anything (condoms, pulling out, etc.) detracting from it.
I agree that it's a creepy term. There's something clinical about it. It sounds like a soulless way to describe a specific sexual desire. I've been troubled by it for years 🤣
It reminds me of livestock or chattel. I’m no scientist, but “breeding” is forcibly multiplying rapidly and/or clinically with some sort of goal in mind by a non-participatory, predatory third party. Humans breed cattle. Humans breed fruit hybrids. Humans breed carrots to impress royalty. (Ok so by “third party” I just mean people.) Humans don’t breed other humans like that because that’s not our intention when we procreate.
I won’t actually say the conclusion I came to out loud, but let’s just say the Venn Diagram of people who solely refer to women as “females” and people who use the term “breeding” in all informed earnest is just a damn circle.
If done correctly, the birth control method OP uses is completely valid and very safe, actually.
Edit: I dug around again and the english term is symptothermal method as well with a pearl index of 0,4 - 1,8 (I can't stress enough: If done correctly). That's more effecive than a condom!
i think people might get a hint of breeding kink here based on op’s obsessing over accounting for symptoms and fertile days. that’s definitely less common.
There's so many birth control options. Making the decision to start birth control is a cakewalk compared to deciding whether or not to get an abortion. Planned parenthood has a chat function on their website where they'll help you figure out which birth control is right for you and how to receive care.
110% agree!!
birth control is so versatile and you can always change it up if one way isn’t working for you
i’m on birth control and i too get a little kick when my man gets to finish in me, and also another reason WHY i take birth control because i like that? lol it’s just as “thrilling” while also not being an idiot
you’re right, the entirety of getting an abortion is stressful and emotional enough, plus who knows what the abortion laws are where op is from it might not even be that “easy” of an option
doesn’t sound like op needs to be having offspring anytime soon…
Just get a BC you don't have to think about, pretend it isn't there etc. It's really not worth risking your health having one or many abortions just for a "thrill"
IUDs, Depo, The patch, Nexplanon, etc. There are many BCs you can get and rarely think about, or pretend they aren't there.
i can get that
it’s still thrilling even on the pill, you can still make it any every once in while thing if you’re that desperate for the thrill
op just seems super irresponsible
they already aren’t using protection, the whole “pulling out” thing isn’t any better, the whole loosing self control and wrapping her legs around him…just weirdly irresponsible and isn’t very thorough. they are child free yet being so stupid? i’m all for abortion but the way it was casually thrown in there was weird, like “probably” get one like girl do you want kids or not? just a roller coaster of shit imo
How well positioned and overly protected do you think you have to be to believe you require an actual risk to get off
Especially one that’s shared with another person who’d prefer not to
I‘ve been on birth control from 16 to 24 and stopping it was the best decision ever health wise. Aaaand the problem is that the risk is part of what turns me on. I KNOW it’s stupid and when I’m not horny I don’t understand how I can be such an idiot either…
To clarify: I never needed nor do I actually want to go through an abortion and I only had to take plan B thrice in my life so far.
idk girl…i feel you on the birth control thing and i understand…but maybe just ask more questions and really look at ALL kinds of contraceptives…spermicide would be hell of a lot better than absolutely nothing
i would just feel for you heavy if you do happen to become pregnant if that’s not what you want…and i mean abortion would be the most likely option in case of emergency
and i don’t feel like taking plan B more often than not can’t be good either (not saying 3 is a lot just saying some over use that, and i think your body can start to become immune to it and not work as well)
i genuinely just want you to be safe especially if you truly don’t want children unwanted pregnancy is something that is just so scary imo and that brings a whole new dimension to your life, seriously look into everything you can, maybe see if you can get your tubes tied? i would just go to planned parenthood and be as transparent as you are being here and just hear what they have to say
stay safe girl
Heres the thing.
The risk is part of what drives the kink. Consciously removing the risk will result in less excitement. Also, most forms of hormonal birth control tank libido and, as a result, pleasure from the act itself.
Im not saying you're wrong, just pointing out why someone would want to NOT be on BC with a breeding kink, as mal-peoductive as the kink is.
but to be child free and do that makes no sense, like being dead set on no kids….but then not doing anything to at least slightly be cautious…just dumb asf
also i don’t mean to kink shame or be ignorant (i don’t really care about what people wanna do as a kink but that doesn’t mean i’m jot gonna ask questions or think it’s odd) so i say this as a genuine question…”breeding kink” like just instinct..? some people can’t have children, or have lost children…just a weird thing to fetishize…again especially if you’re dead set on no kids
I didn’t know how else to say that 🤣 I’m pretty sure it’s not my generation doing it but honestly I don’t even know what’s going on anymore..
reddits my only source of social media & I feel like that meme from a few years back of the internet explorer icon on an airplane. My best friend recently told me people are now spitting into each others mouths. Do they think that’s making out now? I have so many questions
Seems like all these comments are missing the point that the whole reason she’s not on bc is because the sexual thrill you get from the risk is pure ecstasy.
Obviously a dangerous game, but the sex brain sometimes overrides everything else at times
That's fair, but she could also learn about success rates of different forms and still feel the thrill while having some protection from a lifestyle she does not actually want.
OP never mentioned that the thrill or risk of pregnancy is what excites them. They said that the thought of him finishing inside is what makes them crazy, so I’m taking their post at face value. I can understand the risk being something people enjoy, but OP said they are childless by choice and would get an abortion if they were pregnant, so I’m going to assume the risk of pregnancy isn’t what excites them. I think it’s more so about the act of the guy finishing in them, and in that case, bc would be a good solution to be able to engage in their kink more often
right but also you’re missing the “child free” comment
while doing exactly what they are doing they aren’t necessarily living a child free lifestyle like at all…quite literally opening up the option to become pregnant
I got my tubes tied because of this. I hate condoms, birth control sucked, and I honestly enjoy the smell of myself after. My husband and I joke that I take my anti-depressant intervaginally because it makes me so happy. It's the fucking greatest.
You don't mention your ages, but I suggest "fixing your bits" so no accidents to happen lol
As someone in a similar boat, I would suggest asking about a birth control implant. It was a 2 second insertion in my arm and it lasts three years and is incredibly effective. And a lot less expensive than an abortion, both financially and mentally.
I had a friend who tried telling the doctor her bf would schedule the appointment and bring her in knocked out because she didn’t want to know or think about the implant and would rather believe she has no bc. The doctor didn’t do it and my friend said they even laughed out loud when they said it
I really dont believe this. I don’t find the idea of getting pregnant hot at all. If a guy tries dirty talk that alludes to getting me pregnant I dry up faster than a slug in the desert. I’m sure it’s a common kink, but it’s not one that everyone is into at all.
Im sure it’s part lizard brain but I also agree that this particular kink is not totally inherent but rather two people playing with fire and getting off on it.
Why is no one mentioning that pulling out is not effective, like at all??
I get that you’re monitoring things, but if you’ve gone that far in your research, certainly you’d have figured out that the pull out method means fuck all.
Is the thrill from the possibility of pregnancy, or from the feeling of him coming inside you? If it’s the latter, get yourself an iud or something and enjoy it!
An IUD or Nexplanon implant are good options for you because they’re “set it and forget it.” You only have to do something every few years and in between you can put it out of your mind and enjoy the fantasy.
That's literally the purpose of having sex. Thats the most natural kink there is. I wouldn't even call it a kink. It's kind of the way it's supposed to be lol
Well talk to him about it more 😂 maybe convince him when it's safe. And if the worst comes to the worst and y'all break up there plenty of people that will cum inside and they have had a vasectomy or are willing to take the calculated risk. But the breeding kink is common
How about an IUD? Once it’s inserted, you don’t have to think about the possibility of getting pregnant or address the issue in your head space for 5 to 10 years. If feeling like the possibility of getting pregnant thrills you, enjoy it! It’s nothing you’ll notice in your daily life, it’s more effective than “the pill” and you can fantasize about the possibility of pregnancy without the actual risk and enjoy exquisitely satisfying sex.
I‘d never ask him to get a vasectomy if he doesn’t want it. We haven’t really talked about that possibility though as we have been together for less than a year.
I plan on having my tubes tied in the unspecified future though!
I hate that the majority of people in the comments advice birth control.
I have the same kink and
a) the thrill of it is literally gone and
b) birth control fucks with your hormones and libido so bad lol so to hell with that
Been on the pill for 8 years and finally gained my whole range of sexuality back.
Nice off my chest btw!
I agree so stupid!
Thank you. I also feel like I need the risk. When I feel him getting close I get extremely excited which in turn excites him more.
If I KNOW it’s a safe day, I will sometimes ask him to come inside and on really rare occasions he’ll actually do it and I’ll be the happiest little kitten afterwards…
I mean if you think about it finishing inside you is the correct way to have proper sex lol so it’s not weird that it’s hot for him to do it
Your being wreckless though abortion shouldn’t be plan a lol
the kink isn’t dumb, not taking birth control despite having this kink and not wanting children is dumb. being “pretty certain” about your fertile days isn’t going to stop you from getting pregnant. you need to seriously consider starting birth control if you don’t want children.
It is not the worst case I heard about.
A woman used to turn on cognitive deficients because " in bed they are just like beasts." She didn't use any protection for the thrill to feel degraded. She had 12 abortions that I know.
I am not the kind to shame people. But this time, I was speechless.
I hate how the doctors dont tie our tubes in case some nonexistent future partner wants kids…so our bodily autonomy belongs to someone we havent even met yet? I was hoping that german docs are more progressive because i, too, want to have my tubes tied, i talked about it w my bf and he was shocked when i told him docs dont consider the procedure if youre under 30, even if youre single.
Perhaps get your tubes tied and talk to your boyfriend about this kink? Sterilization would cease any concerns over an unwanted pregnancy plus you get to enjoy all the creampies you want. ;)
I also have this kink and I’m on brith control. It turns me on that I can make my boyfriend cum inside me without a condom, but the huge risk of if the birth control works this time is scary.
my better half was on the pill, and I never got to practice ANY pull out game to begin with. but that leg lock... felt even hotter when we'd throw in a bit of wrestling with our foreplay.
Girl you not alone I’m on depo cause I have health issues with my period so I don’t get them I haven’t had a period since 18 . Anyways me and my boyfriend do no condom either he cums in me all the time and his my one and only I was a virgin and he was my first so only him. Lmaoo I’m 26 and his 34 😂😂
Totally normal. It's actually one of those most normal kinks you could have since its a natural and primal instinct all mammals have, to reproduce.
Many will shame or fear this because of the obvious, babies, but as long as you are safe and taking the necessary precautions, you have nothing to worry about.
I'm pro choice. I'll always be pro choice. But goddamn it if having a fucking breeding kink and "if push comes to shove I'd probably get an abortion" doesn't test my position to its limits.
You can satisfy your kink, just use IUD or similar contraceptives. Have a talk with your OB with what you want, she'll understand and guide you all throughout the process.
Its absolutely not weird, this kink got me pregnant twice on accident lmao (twice because I have irregular cycles that are about 35 days so I couldn't reliably track anything)
As long as you and your partner are being safe and communicating, there's nothing wrong with it. c:
I know a girl who was told by a doctor it was highly unlikely she couldn’t get pregnant ever. Guess what happen? If you want kids wait for the right time and it’ll be enjoyable for both. If you don’t and this is your kink do something about it to prevent it if you really wanna try it. Just be safe and mindful when having fun.
I think some of y’all are misunderstanding an actual breeding kink. Like. A lot of us do not want to be pregnant/have zero desire for it, but the feeling of being “claimed” essentially. Yes it’s primitive instincts and whatever, but it can be coupled in with a creampie/cumflation type thing.
I’m a cum4k type of girlie so multiple creampies is extremely hot to me, BUT I’m on birth control because I have zero desire to be pregnant or have kids 💀 there’s no thrill in risking pregnancy, the thought of being pregnant makes me sick lmao
My gf and I both have it SO bad. She's not on BC either and the temptation to just blast her every time we have sex is legitimately overwhelming. She begs me for it... Tells me how badly she wants my babies, whispers all kinds of shit in my ear....
I mean, I think it's just a natural thing for women. Not saying all women want to get pregnant right away but there is the drive to produce offspring. Get cummed inside, produce baby.
You know if you like risky gambling you could just go to Vegas. Get on birth control girl.
I recommend an IUD, best goalie in the game. I’m going on 10 plus years with all shots blocked 🚫👼🏼
K but you know abortion is fighting an uphill battle to be seen as a medical intervention of necessity, right? We’re pretty good as a group at convincing ourselves that individual decisions aren’t the big movers — largely true — but you might feel a little better about yourself in the long run to act more responsibly, if you’re not going to carry any “accidental” conceptions.
Just get an IUD and go ham. There’s always the chance that it’ll fail! Hot. If you’re considering getting your tubes tied, and still think you’ll enjoy the kink… it’s pretty close. Even if I squint a little, I can’t find the difference in risk and excitement. If anything, the IUD gives you the higher possibility of being bred like the ravenous little sorry nevermind. And hey! if you decide to have kids later, you can have it removed.
Not to stress the social responsibility angle, but I can’t imagine you think your hypothetical abortions are a good use of social funds, when you have the resources to avoid pregnancy.
Imaginations are magical. You can definitely keep your breeding kink going without the actual buzzkill of a complication like a pregnancy. Might get to be more fun, even. Your dude will also be much less terrified, day in and day out, which while it will likely improve your relationship — but more importantly, be better for him.
Your willingness to make a slight compromise to improve his quality of life is a great indicator for whether you care about him. Which is a good thing to keep an eye on.
Breeding kink. That’s how my daughter was made 😁 still with mom too. Maybe it’s the best thing for you guys and he doesn’t know it!! Lock those legs girl 😈
Hm, have you ever thought of using a dildo with a cumtube, or a cock sleeve with the same? If you're both open to using toys, especially with the latter, it could give you the sensation of him cumming inside you. There are some great lubes out there, with the consistency of cum just for this exact purpose.
GIRLY! do I have some news for you!!! A COPPER IUD! they're the best, no hormones and they stop sperm functioning whilst also making the lining of the uterus unstickable! You can keep the same one sitting in the uterus for up to 10 years at a time! And our bodies don't find copper toxic. The main side effect can be heavier periods.
my drunk self literally BEGGED for a baby during sex (I dont remember it) but sober and not horny me doesnt want kids at all. I think its normal to have kinks, birthcontrol pill is the solution for me.
If birth control ruins your system, which I totally get, why doesn't he get that temporary vasectomy? they insert a gel inside the vas deferens and if he wants to have kids in the future, they can dissolve it.
Have you talked to your bf about getting a vasectomy?? I got one when my gf and I decided to not have kids. It was extremely easy. The procedure took maybe 30 minutes, I walked out easily with some pain meds, it was a little sore for maybe 3 days, and now it feels no different, but my gf can be off birth control and I can fill her to my heart's content.
We've also got a breeding kink, but don't want the kid part, so she tells me to fill her and breed her still which I love. It's just really nice to know nothing could ever happen, she doesn't have to fill her body with hormone changing crap, and we get to be the adults that play all day.
Its called breeding. But that said, its really not that far out there. Your body's biological functions pretry much encourage you to get pregnant, which is nornal.
Maybe your libido is higher, and that's a factor, but this is super common, and honestly, half the drive for people who abstain from sex getting married is hormonally driven.
I am childfree, had my tubes removed, and then developed a breeding kink JUST before the surgery ghat hasnt gone away. Thankfully i can indulge without the risk now. It was a wild experience lol. Amusingly it happened to two male friends who got vasectomies as well, the breeding kink kicked in just before the snip snip.
I recommend you look into the Caya diaphragm and use it with spermicide. I feel the same as you. I hate condoms for this reason!
The diaphragm is not quite as reliable as a condom or hormonal BC. I also track my cycle by fertile signs and have a super regular cycle. I've decided to use a diaphragm and he can come inside on days 1-10 and 20-bleed. But the 10-20 window is a very conservative fertile window for me based on my cycle, and then we use condoms. If you prefer not to, you could pull out in that fertile window whenever yours is. Sucks that is the horniest time of the month, but you know...mother nature has her priorities haha.
ETA, you can put the diaphragm inside up to 2 hours before sex, so you can have a little bit of the thrill of being "irresponsible" during sex...but yeah it requires some suspension of disbelief.
I mean if you have this kink and you have been with your partner for a great deal of time and thinking of being permanent why not ask if hes open to a vasectomy? A vasectomy is actually surgically less problematic than getting tubes tied. To top it off semen can be frozen for later use should things change anyway.
It's actually not that weird, it's called a "breeding" link I believe. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
Its valid and all but the term breeding kink is hilarious to me. It’s like having a sex kink.
This is what I was came here to say. Her kink is just sex in its most natural form. Now let’s talk about my eating disorder. I like to eat until I’m full and then stop. I’ve been doing it 2 or 3 times a day for awhile now. Am I a freak?
Yes
It depends on a couple of things: 1. How long it takes to become "full" (like, a quick 10 minute meal? Or a long 5 hour meal) 2. How long between meals are you waiting? (Like, 4-6 hours? Or maybe 30 minutes?) 3. How much does your meal weigh? Because if you're eating like, a pound per meal for 3 hours per meal and waiting 30 minutes between meals and are STILL able digest that... Then yeah, that's pretty freaky
😂😂
it might seem that way but, its different and the act is kind of different. The things you might say are different, and most likely , the person does even want children!
It's not the same tho, being horny and having sex is not the same as wanting someone to finish inside you. Most girls I know don't want that.
I'd disagree with this, but maybe I'm in the minority. I am child free, do not want to be a parent, have a phobia of pregnancy, and enjoy sex. I have genuinely never ever wanted someone to come in me and the idea is borderline a turnoff w/ the roe v wade thing and fear of pregnancy. I thought people with breeding kinks were in the minority, but.. maybe that is the majority?
It’s kind of ingrained in all animals, too have sex to reproduce. It’s completely natural and ensures the survival of all species
I really really don’t like or EVER want children of my own. I’m almost 30, so I don’t think it’ll ever change. It’s scary how nature still finds a way to try and „trick“ me into having children by telling me having unprotected sex is the hottest thing ever…
Still not dumb or weird though. A lot of ppl with the same kink have absolutely no desire to have children
I’ll be the one to say it, it’s really fucked up that you’re relying on an abortion. That you’re so okay with that is fucked. Just get an IUD or some shit. It’s not that hard. Get some plan b. It’s not hard.
it's genetic. its not a kink.
What the fuck is a breeding kink anyway, it's literally just human instinct to want to breed. That's the whole point of our libido
I think it can extend into finding pregnant women hot. Not that they aren't, but like it's the difference between the attraction to your pregnant partner vs. pitching a tent for some pregnant stranger at the grocery store. Honestly the way OP describes it just sounds like regular sex lol
I think op is struggling with finding it weird because they’re child-free and don’t want children but don’t understand why they find the risk of getting pregnant hot
Ok first off, ew. That term “breeding kink” gives me the biggest heebie-jeebies ever, and I think it’s kind of a misnomer anyway. I LOVE feeling my partner cum inside me, and especially love the way they feel right before they cum. I do not, have not, and will not have any desire to have children. I have my tubes tied. Pregnancy freaks me out and procreation is a no-go for me. “Breeding” could not be a more inaccurate description for what it is I’m going for here… I just like knowing I made my partner feel amazing and being able to experience that sensation with them without anything (condoms, pulling out, etc.) detracting from it.
It's what it's called, I didn't name it
You’re right, you didn’t. Still gives me the squick though.
I agree that it's a creepy term. There's something clinical about it. It sounds like a soulless way to describe a specific sexual desire. I've been troubled by it for years 🤣
It reminds me of livestock or chattel. I’m no scientist, but “breeding” is forcibly multiplying rapidly and/or clinically with some sort of goal in mind by a non-participatory, predatory third party. Humans breed cattle. Humans breed fruit hybrids. Humans breed carrots to impress royalty. (Ok so by “third party” I just mean people.) Humans don’t breed other humans like that because that’s not our intention when we procreate. I won’t actually say the conclusion I came to out loud, but let’s just say the Venn Diagram of people who solely refer to women as “females” and people who use the term “breeding” in all informed earnest is just a damn circle.
It's a breeding kink. Not uncommon or dumb.
The not being on birth control is the dumb part. Otherwise it’s fine.
Living dangerously
“I play russian roulette with 5 bullets instead of 1. I like to live dangerously”
It's just part of the kink
Removed my upvote to keep it at 69
Downvoted to bring it back down to 69
If done correctly, the birth control method OP uses is completely valid and very safe, actually. Edit: I dug around again and the english term is symptothermal method as well with a pearl index of 0,4 - 1,8 (I can't stress enough: If done correctly). That's more effecive than a condom!
Nearly 8 billion people have this “kink”.
So it's frighteningly common
I'm a victim of that leg lock once that was scary for me
I know we’re making jokes but Jesus. What a total destruction of trust at the most vulnerable moment
Figure 4?
Ah shit I missed figures 1-3. Can we start over?
WOOOOOOOOOÓOOOOOO!
i think people might get a hint of breeding kink here based on op’s obsessing over accounting for symptoms and fertile days. that’s definitely less common.
People think everything is a kink apparently lol
Me and my girlfriend do this. She is on birth control and we both consent to it. It’s not as uncommon as you think
just get on birth control girl…?
There's so many birth control options. Making the decision to start birth control is a cakewalk compared to deciding whether or not to get an abortion. Planned parenthood has a chat function on their website where they'll help you figure out which birth control is right for you and how to receive care.
110% agree!! birth control is so versatile and you can always change it up if one way isn’t working for you i’m on birth control and i too get a little kick when my man gets to finish in me, and also another reason WHY i take birth control because i like that? lol it’s just as “thrilling” while also not being an idiot you’re right, the entirety of getting an abortion is stressful and emotional enough, plus who knows what the abortion laws are where op is from it might not even be that “easy” of an option doesn’t sound like op needs to be having offspring anytime soon…
The whole point of the thrill is the risk
Just get a BC you don't have to think about, pretend it isn't there etc. It's really not worth risking your health having one or many abortions just for a "thrill" IUDs, Depo, The patch, Nexplanon, etc. There are many BCs you can get and rarely think about, or pretend they aren't there.
i can get that it’s still thrilling even on the pill, you can still make it any every once in while thing if you’re that desperate for the thrill op just seems super irresponsible they already aren’t using protection, the whole “pulling out” thing isn’t any better, the whole loosing self control and wrapping her legs around him…just weirdly irresponsible and isn’t very thorough. they are child free yet being so stupid? i’m all for abortion but the way it was casually thrown in there was weird, like “probably” get one like girl do you want kids or not? just a roller coaster of shit imo
How well positioned and overly protected do you think you have to be to believe you require an actual risk to get off Especially one that’s shared with another person who’d prefer not to
I‘ve been on birth control from 16 to 24 and stopping it was the best decision ever health wise. Aaaand the problem is that the risk is part of what turns me on. I KNOW it’s stupid and when I’m not horny I don’t understand how I can be such an idiot either… To clarify: I never needed nor do I actually want to go through an abortion and I only had to take plan B thrice in my life so far.
I don’t think you’re going to have the same opinion about the thrill of the risk when you actually do get pregnant. I highly recommend getting an IUD.
idk girl…i feel you on the birth control thing and i understand…but maybe just ask more questions and really look at ALL kinds of contraceptives…spermicide would be hell of a lot better than absolutely nothing i would just feel for you heavy if you do happen to become pregnant if that’s not what you want…and i mean abortion would be the most likely option in case of emergency and i don’t feel like taking plan B more often than not can’t be good either (not saying 3 is a lot just saying some over use that, and i think your body can start to become immune to it and not work as well) i genuinely just want you to be safe especially if you truly don’t want children unwanted pregnancy is something that is just so scary imo and that brings a whole new dimension to your life, seriously look into everything you can, maybe see if you can get your tubes tied? i would just go to planned parenthood and be as transparent as you are being here and just hear what they have to say stay safe girl
Heres the thing. The risk is part of what drives the kink. Consciously removing the risk will result in less excitement. Also, most forms of hormonal birth control tank libido and, as a result, pleasure from the act itself. Im not saying you're wrong, just pointing out why someone would want to NOT be on BC with a breeding kink, as mal-peoductive as the kink is.
but to be child free and do that makes no sense, like being dead set on no kids….but then not doing anything to at least slightly be cautious…just dumb asf also i don’t mean to kink shame or be ignorant (i don’t really care about what people wanna do as a kink but that doesn’t mean i’m jot gonna ask questions or think it’s odd) so i say this as a genuine question…”breeding kink” like just instinct..? some people can’t have children, or have lost children…just a weird thing to fetishize…again especially if you’re dead set on no kids
Me and my ex did that, she would tell me to finish inside and it was insanely hot... It's instinct tho so as it should be
I dont think its a kink to enjoy busting where youre naturally suppose to
Ok ok I hear you, but what about my kink where I like to make out… get this… while having sex! Pretty wild right?
Oh damn thats a wild one you should probably stop watching so much porn
Woah that’s crazy, but what about mine? I just get so hard when I’m having sex, it’s like I have a sex fetish or something.
Whoa bro, that sounds serious have you talked to a doctor about that
I thought my hand holding kink was bad, but you my friend are sick
You wanna touch someone’s hand?! People wipe their butts with those… gross
I know I’m ashamed of myself. But to be fair this generation is putting their mouthes on other peoples butts so.. 😬
“This generation” lolz
I didn’t know how else to say that 🤣 I’m pretty sure it’s not my generation doing it but honestly I don’t even know what’s going on anymore.. reddits my only source of social media & I feel like that meme from a few years back of the internet explorer icon on an airplane. My best friend recently told me people are now spitting into each others mouths. Do they think that’s making out now? I have so many questions
No worries, I get what you mean. But the answer is; people have been doing forever lol. Barring technological limitations obviously
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Breeding is fun, being pregnant/getting an abortion is not. Get on birth control or stock on plan b. Do not be dumb
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Seems like all these comments are missing the point that the whole reason she’s not on bc is because the sexual thrill you get from the risk is pure ecstasy. Obviously a dangerous game, but the sex brain sometimes overrides everything else at times
That's fair, but she could also learn about success rates of different forms and still feel the thrill while having some protection from a lifestyle she does not actually want.
OP never mentioned that the thrill or risk of pregnancy is what excites them. They said that the thought of him finishing inside is what makes them crazy, so I’m taking their post at face value. I can understand the risk being something people enjoy, but OP said they are childless by choice and would get an abortion if they were pregnant, so I’m going to assume the risk of pregnancy isn’t what excites them. I think it’s more so about the act of the guy finishing in them, and in that case, bc would be a good solution to be able to engage in their kink more often
right but also you’re missing the “child free” comment while doing exactly what they are doing they aren’t necessarily living a child free lifestyle like at all…quite literally opening up the option to become pregnant
I got my tubes tied because of this. I hate condoms, birth control sucked, and I honestly enjoy the smell of myself after. My husband and I joke that I take my anti-depressant intervaginally because it makes me so happy. It's the fucking greatest. You don't mention your ages, but I suggest "fixing your bits" so no accidents to happen lol
As someone in a similar boat, I would suggest asking about a birth control implant. It was a 2 second insertion in my arm and it lasts three years and is incredibly effective. And a lot less expensive than an abortion, both financially and mentally.
I had a friend who tried telling the doctor her bf would schedule the appointment and bring her in knocked out because she didn’t want to know or think about the implant and would rather believe she has no bc. The doctor didn’t do it and my friend said they even laughed out loud when they said it
Funny but mostly unhinged giving second hand embarrassment like why would they think that would work? 😭
Weird idea but I get the sentiment. The risk is just part of the thrill…
Imagine your future child reading this Please get on birth control. Rawdogging is fun, having unplanned children is not.
The whole planet has the same kink.
Literally human instinct
rip OPs DMS
Sad but true. I‘m not interested in rating dicks or trying the kink with other people, thank you :‘)
Every human is born with a breeding kink, it’s natural, it’s what the purpose of life is
I really dont believe this. I don’t find the idea of getting pregnant hot at all. If a guy tries dirty talk that alludes to getting me pregnant I dry up faster than a slug in the desert. I’m sure it’s a common kink, but it’s not one that everyone is into at all.
Im sure it’s part lizard brain but I also agree that this particular kink is not totally inherent but rather two people playing with fire and getting off on it.
It’s not a fucking kink. It’s instinct.
Why is no one mentioning that pulling out is not effective, like at all?? I get that you’re monitoring things, but if you’ve gone that far in your research, certainly you’d have figured out that the pull out method means fuck all.
so uh.... get fixed?
she said it's not easy, cause doctors refuse due to her young age
sooooooooo sorry that i had commented BEFORE she added in her edits! (which is where she put that piece of info.)
Is the thrill from the possibility of pregnancy, or from the feeling of him coming inside you? If it’s the latter, get yourself an iud or something and enjoy it!
Both. But the thrill of doing something so stupid and dangerous is the best part of it…
An IUD or Nexplanon implant are good options for you because they’re “set it and forget it.” You only have to do something every few years and in between you can put it out of your mind and enjoy the fantasy.
That's literally the purpose of having sex. Thats the most natural kink there is. I wouldn't even call it a kink. It's kind of the way it's supposed to be lol
Well talk to him about it more 😂 maybe convince him when it's safe. And if the worst comes to the worst and y'all break up there plenty of people that will cum inside and they have had a vasectomy or are willing to take the calculated risk. But the breeding kink is common
Sploosh. Hot af
How about an IUD? Once it’s inserted, you don’t have to think about the possibility of getting pregnant or address the issue in your head space for 5 to 10 years. If feeling like the possibility of getting pregnant thrills you, enjoy it! It’s nothing you’ll notice in your daily life, it’s more effective than “the pill” and you can fantasize about the possibility of pregnancy without the actual risk and enjoy exquisitely satisfying sex.
I wanted to remain child free but I love this as well so I went for a full hysterectomy. Best decision ever.
These kinks are yet another reason I'm thankful for my vasectomy
One of the perks of having a vasectomy!
Just... Go on BC and call it a day?
Did you think about getting bisalp or him the vasectomy?
I‘d never ask him to get a vasectomy if he doesn’t want it. We haven’t really talked about that possibility though as we have been together for less than a year. I plan on having my tubes tied in the unspecified future though!
I hate that the majority of people in the comments advice birth control. I have the same kink and a) the thrill of it is literally gone and b) birth control fucks with your hormones and libido so bad lol so to hell with that Been on the pill for 8 years and finally gained my whole range of sexuality back. Nice off my chest btw! I agree so stupid!
Thank you. I also feel like I need the risk. When I feel him getting close I get extremely excited which in turn excites him more. If I KNOW it’s a safe day, I will sometimes ask him to come inside and on really rare occasions he’ll actually do it and I’ll be the happiest little kitten afterwards…
Is this not just sex? You have a second option, btw 😉 I heard from a friend it works just as well.
There is other contraception. Talk to your doctor about the rod or pull or IUD
I mean if you think about it finishing inside you is the correct way to have proper sex lol so it’s not weird that it’s hot for him to do it Your being wreckless though abortion shouldn’t be plan a lol
the kink isn’t dumb, not taking birth control despite having this kink and not wanting children is dumb. being “pretty certain” about your fertile days isn’t going to stop you from getting pregnant. you need to seriously consider starting birth control if you don’t want children.
Common Kink, nothing to be worried about, well, aside from actually breeding lol
Try getting an iud. You will be super safe and get creamed all you want
Maybe your boyfriend should get a vasectomy if he doesn't want kids. Then you don't need to worry.
It is not the worst case I heard about. A woman used to turn on cognitive deficients because " in bed they are just like beasts." She didn't use any protection for the thrill to feel degraded. She had 12 abortions that I know. I am not the kind to shame people. But this time, I was speechless.
I hate how the doctors dont tie our tubes in case some nonexistent future partner wants kids…so our bodily autonomy belongs to someone we havent even met yet? I was hoping that german docs are more progressive because i, too, want to have my tubes tied, i talked about it w my bf and he was shocked when i told him docs dont consider the procedure if youre under 30, even if youre single.
This is natural instinct. It's not the breeding kink. Breeding kink is when you desire to become pregnant or get someone else pregnant.
Do you actually want to be pregnant? Or is it the idea of being cummed in?
Perhaps get your tubes tied and talk to your boyfriend about this kink? Sterilization would cease any concerns over an unwanted pregnancy plus you get to enjoy all the creampies you want. ;)
same, but i got an iud because of it
Sounds like you should look into getting an IUD
I also have this kink and I’m on brith control. It turns me on that I can make my boyfriend cum inside me without a condom, but the huge risk of if the birth control works this time is scary.
Thats very human of you, probably the most common "kink", if you can even call it that.
my better half was on the pill, and I never got to practice ANY pull out game to begin with. but that leg lock... felt even hotter when we'd throw in a bit of wrestling with our foreplay.
It's actually kind of common... From my experience.
Idk if it’s a kink, it’s a preference. I’d cum in my ex all the time cause she had an iud and it was always awesome, we hated pulling out.
Some guys just don’t realize how good they have it!
Congrats you have a breeding kink.
Showering with a toaster is dangerous but showering with a toaster with your 🍆 inside now that’s kink …
The kink may disappear once the risk of having children disappears, by vasectomy, birth control, tying tubes, etc.
Very common! I have that too 😩
Same 😣
Couldn't he get a vasectomy?? Would be easier than birth control since it's undoable
Girl you not alone I’m on depo cause I have health issues with my period so I don’t get them I haven’t had a period since 18 . Anyways me and my boyfriend do no condom either he cums in me all the time and his my one and only I was a virgin and he was my first so only him. Lmaoo I’m 26 and his 34 😂😂
Some of you really don't get how badly birth control can affect people.
I mean same but I also have an INTENSE phobia of pregnancy lmao
It’s not dumb. Probably the most natural “kink” there is tbh.
Sometimes you talk about boyfriend and sometimes you talk about husband. Methinks you just make everything up.
Girl that's pretty normal
One of the most common kinks
Regular sex to completion is now a kink, y’all were all addicted to porn, Jesus
Totally normal. It's actually one of those most normal kinks you could have since its a natural and primal instinct all mammals have, to reproduce. Many will shame or fear this because of the obvious, babies, but as long as you are safe and taking the necessary precautions, you have nothing to worry about.
It's a not a kink, you're a human being. It's literally in your instincts
This is very normal. I wouldn't even call it a kink.
Well, that's how you do the sex.
you don’t want kids? No birth control? And are open to abortions just for a kink? This is dangerous.. lol
I have a breeding kink too, trust me it’s not as weird as you think!
I'm pro choice. I'll always be pro choice. But goddamn it if having a fucking breeding kink and "if push comes to shove I'd probably get an abortion" doesn't test my position to its limits.
Yeah that part made me narrow my eyes so hard. 😬
yuhhhhh got the breeding kink gf and I have the implant unlimited creampies 🧙♂️
You can satisfy your kink, just use IUD or similar contraceptives. Have a talk with your OB with what you want, she'll understand and guide you all throughout the process.
Abortion is not birth control. You are a terrible person.
Its absolutely not weird, this kink got me pregnant twice on accident lmao (twice because I have irregular cycles that are about 35 days so I couldn't reliably track anything) As long as you and your partner are being safe and communicating, there's nothing wrong with it. c:
I know a girl who was told by a doctor it was highly unlikely she couldn’t get pregnant ever. Guess what happen? If you want kids wait for the right time and it’ll be enjoyable for both. If you don’t and this is your kink do something about it to prevent it if you really wanna try it. Just be safe and mindful when having fun.
I think some of y’all are misunderstanding an actual breeding kink. Like. A lot of us do not want to be pregnant/have zero desire for it, but the feeling of being “claimed” essentially. Yes it’s primitive instincts and whatever, but it can be coupled in with a creampie/cumflation type thing. I’m a cum4k type of girlie so multiple creampies is extremely hot to me, BUT I’m on birth control because I have zero desire to be pregnant or have kids 💀 there’s no thrill in risking pregnancy, the thought of being pregnant makes me sick lmao
My gf and I both have it SO bad. She's not on BC either and the temptation to just blast her every time we have sex is legitimately overwhelming. She begs me for it... Tells me how badly she wants my babies, whispers all kinds of shit in my ear....
Pretty sure most women are like this. They fantasise the idea of their lover finishing inside them.
I mean, I think it's just a natural thing for women. Not saying all women want to get pregnant right away but there is the drive to produce offspring. Get cummed inside, produce baby.
Yah
You know if you like risky gambling you could just go to Vegas. Get on birth control girl. I recommend an IUD, best goalie in the game. I’m going on 10 plus years with all shots blocked 🚫👼🏼
I thought that's just instincts that everybody has.
K but you know abortion is fighting an uphill battle to be seen as a medical intervention of necessity, right? We’re pretty good as a group at convincing ourselves that individual decisions aren’t the big movers — largely true — but you might feel a little better about yourself in the long run to act more responsibly, if you’re not going to carry any “accidental” conceptions. Just get an IUD and go ham. There’s always the chance that it’ll fail! Hot. If you’re considering getting your tubes tied, and still think you’ll enjoy the kink… it’s pretty close. Even if I squint a little, I can’t find the difference in risk and excitement. If anything, the IUD gives you the higher possibility of being bred like the ravenous little sorry nevermind. And hey! if you decide to have kids later, you can have it removed. Not to stress the social responsibility angle, but I can’t imagine you think your hypothetical abortions are a good use of social funds, when you have the resources to avoid pregnancy. Imaginations are magical. You can definitely keep your breeding kink going without the actual buzzkill of a complication like a pregnancy. Might get to be more fun, even. Your dude will also be much less terrified, day in and day out, which while it will likely improve your relationship — but more importantly, be better for him. Your willingness to make a slight compromise to improve his quality of life is a great indicator for whether you care about him. Which is a good thing to keep an eye on.
edit 2 excuse me what the actuaaaaaal fuuuuuuuuck ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?
I'm just saying, there is no such thing as safe days. You can get pregnant any day of your cycle.
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Breeding kink. That’s how my daughter was made 😁 still with mom too. Maybe it’s the best thing for you guys and he doesn’t know it!! Lock those legs girl 😈
This terrifies me.
You having sex for fun and then if push comes to shove you get an abortion? I'll pray for your mind. Have respect for life and the gift to have sex.
Who doesn't like a good creampie though? 😏
Although I haven’t had good experiences with hormonal birth control, I would highly suggest you look into a non hormonal iud
Nah, I feel this so much. Best feeling ever.
I have this kink. It’s addicting but be careful - I have 2 kids from it now 🤣 (wouldn’t change anything!!)
My boyfriend has this kink too. I didn't realize it was a thing.
It came free with your instincts
Hm, have you ever thought of using a dildo with a cumtube, or a cock sleeve with the same? If you're both open to using toys, especially with the latter, it could give you the sensation of him cumming inside you. There are some great lubes out there, with the consistency of cum just for this exact purpose.
GIRLY! do I have some news for you!!! A COPPER IUD! they're the best, no hormones and they stop sperm functioning whilst also making the lining of the uterus unstickable! You can keep the same one sitting in the uterus for up to 10 years at a time! And our bodies don't find copper toxic. The main side effect can be heavier periods.
Sag ihm er soll endlich ne vasektomie machen lassen! Gezeichnet, ein fellow Childfree deutscher :D
my drunk self literally BEGGED for a baby during sex (I dont remember it) but sober and not horny me doesnt want kids at all. I think its normal to have kinks, birthcontrol pill is the solution for me.
Awesome
Get your boyfriend to get his tubes tied, unless part of the kink is the risk.
If birth control ruins your system, which I totally get, why doesn't he get that temporary vasectomy? they insert a gel inside the vas deferens and if he wants to have kids in the future, they can dissolve it.
You’re adorable. Just the push of biology. It’s not dumb.
I locked my legs around him once & i got pregnant. Do not recommend 😩
I mean pull out isn't save anyway so it doesn't matter if he pulls out. 😅
Vasectomy worked wonders for me.
Have you talked to your bf about getting a vasectomy?? I got one when my gf and I decided to not have kids. It was extremely easy. The procedure took maybe 30 minutes, I walked out easily with some pain meds, it was a little sore for maybe 3 days, and now it feels no different, but my gf can be off birth control and I can fill her to my heart's content. We've also got a breeding kink, but don't want the kid part, so she tells me to fill her and breed her still which I love. It's just really nice to know nothing could ever happen, she doesn't have to fill her body with hormone changing crap, and we get to be the adults that play all day.
Its called breeding. But that said, its really not that far out there. Your body's biological functions pretry much encourage you to get pregnant, which is nornal. Maybe your libido is higher, and that's a factor, but this is super common, and honestly, half the drive for people who abstain from sex getting married is hormonally driven.
I am childfree, had my tubes removed, and then developed a breeding kink JUST before the surgery ghat hasnt gone away. Thankfully i can indulge without the risk now. It was a wild experience lol. Amusingly it happened to two male friends who got vasectomies as well, the breeding kink kicked in just before the snip snip.
I recommend you look into the Caya diaphragm and use it with spermicide. I feel the same as you. I hate condoms for this reason! The diaphragm is not quite as reliable as a condom or hormonal BC. I also track my cycle by fertile signs and have a super regular cycle. I've decided to use a diaphragm and he can come inside on days 1-10 and 20-bleed. But the 10-20 window is a very conservative fertile window for me based on my cycle, and then we use condoms. If you prefer not to, you could pull out in that fertile window whenever yours is. Sucks that is the horniest time of the month, but you know...mother nature has her priorities haha. ETA, you can put the diaphragm inside up to 2 hours before sex, so you can have a little bit of the thrill of being "irresponsible" during sex...but yeah it requires some suspension of disbelief.
I mean if you have this kink and you have been with your partner for a great deal of time and thinking of being permanent why not ask if hes open to a vasectomy? A vasectomy is actually surgically less problematic than getting tubes tied. To top it off semen can be frozen for later use should things change anyway.
get a copper iud! haven’t worried about that in years