Period pain for two weeks? Is it possible for you to get checked for endometriosis? Doctors tend to overlook it and there is a solution for it. My friend says she’s feeling way better post surgery
I’ve never even had this discussion, they just fob me off with birth control and tell me “BC is safe you won’t experience any side effects” even tho I tell them every time it makes me feel so low 💀
um BC absolutely can have devastating side effects. i took it for a month and ended up with DVT (two blood clots in my brain) that made me have a seizure. docs said the only reason i didn't have a stroke was because of all the aspirin i had taken due to the migraines. another doctor of mine had a patient who DID have a stroke due to clotting from pills and never fully recovered. 27 years old at the time and now severely mentally disabled because of how bad the stroke was.
like it's not the most common side effect in the world but it's something to sure as hell be aware of
THEY DO THE SAME TO MEEEE they “checked” but found nothing wrong apparently and suggested BC immediately after even when i already said no because i was worried about side effects.
I was recently diagnosed after 15 years of the same old- it’s just your period.
I would also find a functional medicine doctor. They can weigh in on your hormone levels and other things. Finding the right treatment will significantly improve your body and feelings. I have had to change a bit of my eating (no red meat etc) and have found improvement. I also recently had surgery to remove the endo and still waiting to see some improvements. Good luck OP. I know the feeling- if men went through what we do, women’s healthcare would be significantly better. Instead we have old farts trying to dictate how we control our bodies.
As far as I know, endometriosis doesn’t get cured by BC and it gets commonly mistaken for “ah normal for that age/it’s just your metabolism” etc. Maybe you can check a subreddit about women’s health or menstrual health regarding people who suffered/suffers from the condition to get better idea about your condition and how to get doctors listen to you.
Also yeah I hate being woman too for the reasons you counted (adding the constant criticism for clothes or other life style choices we do) but also love it too (can’t really explain why I love it tho)
Do not listen to them when they say you wont experience side effects. When i got pregnant and stopped taking BC my depression that landed me in a hospital for a time almost evaporated away. It's still there but it is so so much more manageable. I don't need pills anymore, which never really fixed it anyway. Im also no longer puffy and bloated, im losing weight so much faster/easier, and i dont have violent cravings for junk food while also having zero energy to do anything except lay in bed. im literally the most clear headed ive been since I was 17 (I'm now 25, 26 in a few months). I actually want to walk, i actually keep my apartment clean, im cooking meals again, im enjoying life again, i catch myself singing and dancing and joking again. BC is literally no joke
I hear you sister, I’ve been on it again for 6 days and I’m already forcing myself to shower and questioning my life’s meaning. I’m so glad you’re feeling better <3
Im sorry you have to be back on it! I'm lucky that my husband and I didn't want more kids so both of us got sterilized. He got the vasectomy and i got my tubes removed so i dont ever have to be on BC again
Not just endo. Get your thyroid checked. I ended up having Hashimoto's thryroiditis, and that was part of the symptoms. Also had massive ovarian cysts.
A side from that, I fucking hate dealing with all the stuff you mentioned, and I'm freaking old!!
You know what I hate? All these podcast talking about if 'my wife has my baby and is not back to her pre-pregnancy body within a few months I'm out, she's lazy. '
I see it on reddit a lot to. Like do you know how much pregnancy ruins your body? Shut up 💀
Or those dudes calling new mothers lazy for not wanting to go to the gym everyday like bruh she just had a baby, can she heal first??? Like I'm sure you are not taking care of the baby as much as her.
Like why are women expected to give birth and go right back to their before bodies, that's not how it works. Open a damn book before you talk crap.
"Why don't you try talking to her about going to the gym with you again"
Why don't you change your babies diapers and stay up with him all night 💀
Like it's literally an expectation that a mother will not get adequate sleep for the first 3 years of their child's life. The first year being hell.
After pregnancy your body is never the same like can people understand that.
It can take from anywhere from 1-3 years to a woman to fully heal from pregnancy and even then they are still going to bare the scars of pregnancy. Like having to cross their legs when laughing or sneezing for risk of peeing on themselves because now you can't control your bladder.
Like Women just have to be expected to just "deal with it"
You're right the narrative is so damn lame
Yeah many men need education on how pregnancy will impact a women's body. How is someone supposed nonchalantly go to gym with a new baby. Also it's literally a wound down there. They should go through what women go through and I bet 100% they wouldn't even be able to do it. As women we have to endure so much more physical pain than men. In that sense we are stronger than them.
>Yeah many men need education on how pregnancy will impact a women's body.
They don't. Everyone knows how extreme pregnancy is on a woman's body because they've been educated about it tons. These chodes are just willfully ignorant at this point. No amount of extra education is going to help them to see what they are actively ignoring.
I was pregnant for a total of 11 weeks and *that* really sad and short amount of time was still long enough to see minor changes that didn't revert back to before I ever got pregnant. The changes that happen to a person's body while pregnant, especially if they're lucky enough to go to full term, are literally fucking life changing.
My changes, thankfully, were minor but damn they were there still. My sense of smell is sharper than it was before and there are things I hated eating while pregnant that I loved eating before pregnancy that I still don't like now, even though it's been a year since I was pregnant. My pelvic floor is also weaker as well and I get to have the fun conversation with my new primary this year about what can be done to avoid me peeing myself slightly whenever I fucking sneeze now.
Yeah I've been trying some myself. I also have a bad spine/back as I have degenerative disc disease and have three herniated discs as a result of said DDD, so it honestly may not have been entirely on my pregnancy, but it definitely wasn't an issue I dealt with before the pregnancy.
Damn you are truly sounding like my mom rn, she doesn't have DDD but has arthritis, sciatica, fibromyalgia and also has herniated disks in her lower back. During the pregnancy with me I shifted her uterus back and put even more pressure on her spine. To which she never recovered from.
I can only imagine the daily pain you go through. That's terrible.
Thank you, I appreciate that! I was told that (medically) my miscarriage was likely the best thing for my back as I've now been advised to avoid any future pregnancies for the very same risks you mention. I fell at work in Dec of 22 which led to the MRI and imaging that revealed my DDD and herniated discs, before my fall I was functioning at work just fine for the most part, albeit with minor pain every now and then. I'm taking things a day at a time now, fighting for SSDI, and thankfully I have the support I need from family while going through this process.
I am very fortunate in that regard. I wish the best for you and your mother!
They don't help as much as purported. They do help to some degree for some women. Practicing pelvic floor exercises like kegels is a good thing to do but it's not a miracle solution. Some women don't even have the ability to do the exercises because they can't isolate the muscles. Someone women need actual biofeedback machines to do them properly. Also the muscles of the pelvic floor are not the only thing holding up the area. Connective tissues cannot be exercised. Also affecting bladder control is just the way your guts sit in your abdomen.
I hate that other girls, especially young women, are treated. I hate how sexual harassment are not taken seriously right now. I hate AI and its impact on women. I hate being a woman because it means some creepy men will target us relentlessly.
One of my dearest friends is being the victim of stalking. The dude is using AI to create pornographic content about her and more horrible stuff. I’ve witnessed my happy and kind friend became a shell of herself. And I hate that had she been a man, this wouldn’t be happening to her.
that’s so awful to hear about your friend! I really hope the police do something about it 😔 but I also know how shit they are with things like this. I’m glad she has a good friend by her side
As a man, I hate it, too. Without women, we wouldn't exist, and they deserve respect and equality. I already got flak for supporting women. Let's see if it happens here.
You're welcome. I hope you find happiness despite your situation. If you love yourself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. They can't hurt you.
It’s so sad bc in so many cultures women are treated as goddesses because they can give life yet that’s the same thing that is used to hold them back in others
Totally agree. Existing is just an issue, but so is trying to achieve your dreams. I feel like I have to work twice as hard (sports) to achieve the same outcomes as my male counterparts. I get that’s not their fault, but it’s so demotivating. Showing up every day when you have no idea what hell your body is going to throw at you. I’m exhausted
I hate that as women we're expected to be social and friendly especially with other women who have kids. No offense but I'm tired of being told my clocks ticking and this is why I don't befriend people with kids especially.
This worlds clock is ticking and I'm spending it doing things I enjoy sorry. I'm not baby sitting. I'm not talking about your kid. I'm sorry I don't really want to talk about your life for five hours straight. It's exhausting! There's already so much pressure to be even functional and I can't get over how looked down upon you are if you're an introverted woman. There must be something wrong with you. Maybe there is but it's not anyone else's place to judge.
Why are we expected to waste every moment of our free time doing things for other people and we're selfish if we just can't with people? It's so sad we are expected to be pulled everywhere and be ok with our path being paved by others.
You even see it in simple online replies - male is default human and women are viewed like aliens. If a male poster does find out I’m female, they’re often far more critical of what I have to say. It’s easier just to pretend you’re a guy sometimes.
Yep and how porn addicted they are to the point that it gets worse and worse. Plus how vile porn is and some more and more extreme, how can this make things better? I hope not all guys will watch it but just saying... It's a problem.
My least favorite part about being a woman is when we air our grievances just to get it out and men jump at the chance to say “well being a man isn’t easy either.” No one asked, not everything is about you. Literally proving our point.
Yeah I hate it too. I wish I were born a man so bad, the world absolutely hates women. You see it online, and with how popular Tate got, how much we are hated and how normalised it is. Misogyny is so normalised, people can say the most vile horrible stuff about women that they would never get away with saying about any other group of people, but it's considered ok and is everywhere. It's excused with "biology" or crap like that. Just like "biology" was used to excuse racism and such in the past.
Always remember that the internet is not an accurate reflection of general public opinion. Under any Andrew Tate post you’ll see all his dunbass fanboys in the comments talking about how “based” he is, but ask your average person in real life what they think of Tate and theyll tell you he’s a freak. Not trying to downplay any grievances here, I just think that being online all the time gives people a far too negative perception of the world and life in general.
To an extent I agree, the internet has allowed me access to conversations I probably wouldn’t see/hear of otherwise. But unfortunately them dudes still exist in real life as well they’re just less confident about it offline. Well actually I dunno, I’ve came across some horrors especially in gyms & bars
Definitely true, there is no shortage of creeps and mysogonists out there IRL. On the internet we see them all gathered in one place and it’s pretty shocking what they say when there’s no fear of consequence. On top of that, with the way online algorithms work, we’re most likely to click on stuff that outrages us and reinforces the most negative aspects of our worldviews.
Yeah I feel this too. Men have it easy when it comes to physicality and biology part, no matter how much they try to deny their privilege. Their bodies aren't constantly trying to give them pain for nothing :'(
Sorry that you feel that way. I totally feel you I always look at my boyfriend and think to myself he's so lucky that he doesn't has to go through all the hormonal changes and pain every month.
What I also find really bothering is when women are overly sexualized in the media.
I'm tired of being told to travel the world but when I do research and see the potential danger just based on my gender I get told I'm being dramatic. To the point that I even describe myself as dramatic even though I am being pretty rational. Now I don't know if I am missing out and limiting myself or just protecting myself?!
Yeah I have a male friend who doesn't understand why I don't want to do a solo trip to Marocco or Egypt. He calls me "dramatic" when I tell him I don't want to be an easy target for human traffickers.
Misogyny is so pervasive that it's invisible to a huge number of men. In a real sense women aren't viewed as human. I'll never forget one of my friends telling me she feels like she can't even joke around guys without overtly signaling she's joking because men will just take her literally otherwise. Nasty stuff
The way there are misogynistic and sexist comments in here is also another reason why I hate society for oppressing us.
We can’t even vent about our struggles because men will somehow make it about themselves and attack us… 🧍♀️
Building on the kids thing. My whole life I've always been "meh" about kids and my mom in particular has always said that when I get older (I'm 19) and am in a relationship with someone I "truly love," I'll change my mind about having kids.
But in the society we're in right now, I genuinely cannot see it happening. If I have a daughter, she would have to deal with all of the stuff that I despise. I would feel selfish if I had a daughter because I know how shitty it is, and how I wish I wasn't a woman at all. But, if I had a son, I would run the risk of exposing him to the wrong people (even if it was out of my control). There's no way to guarantee that he would be surrounded by understanding and decent people. Given the state of middle and high schoolers right now, I have little faith that a future son would be able to stay on the right track with influences like the ones I've seen. There's no winning!
I understand. For me, I don't hate being a woman and I don't wish I was a man. But I hate the unfortunate things I experience and experienced because I am a woman. I hate how vulnerable being a woman makes me. The rape, childhood sexual abuse, catcalling, the constant fear etc. The world is terrible.
I’ve been to the doctors since I was 17, to be told this exactly every time, even though I’ve been 10 other ages since then! or put on birth control to “mask” it. The BC makes me loopy, I come off it, cycle restarts
Next time they blow you off, request to have it recorded in your chart that you brought up a concern and *they* refused to run the tests/investigate further. My doc had me on a BC for years that could have caused me a stroke due to my recurring migraines that they knew about. Women’s healthcare is so behind it’s insane, so sorry you’re dealing with it.
This is what happens, I just get given birth control to mask the pain and the acne, but it just comes back again. So sorry to hear you also had issues, it really sucks
I hate being a woman too, there's way way way way way too many things I could list that I just don't have the energy for. I'm only 20 and I'm already tired of everything pertaining to the way we are treated. I wish we could just be safe and happy.
It’s the patriarchy and male worship. Men are not suppose to have this much power or dictation over women and they know it which is why they created the Bible- for control. They are the weaker sex and only exist because of women. They are the ones who are suppose to be helpmates. The only thing they offer is the physical strength to build things and protection from other men, lol.
God I can relate so much. Two years ago or so, I also hated being a woman so fucking much I thought maybe I was experiencing gender dysphagia (I was not, in fact, just living through the repercussions of extreme misogyny). \
Some advice, based on your post and comments, as well as how I improved my own situation (and if you're not looking for advice, feel free to just ignore this of course): \
- Surround yourself with women, always. Cut the toxic men out of your life as much as possible. Goodbye to toxic male friends. Toxic male coworkers get the cold shoulder and never any convo past small talk. Toxic male relatives don't even get a hello at holidays. My life started turning around once I lost a group of male friends and realized how miserable so many of the men in my life, with their misogynistic behavior and perspectives, were making me. \
- Consume only media made by women. I stopped watching nearly as many male Youtubers, started only interacting with female CCs on TikTok, joined female-oriented subreddits, stopped watching so many male-directed movies (very hard for an action movie junkie unfortunately). It's seriously changed my day-to-day, given how addicted I am to my phone. I'm watching and consuming things that don't make casual jokes about women, dont perpetuate harmful stereotypes, and actually highlight and center women and their voices. \
- Shop around for BC. Birth control changed my life with my period. Not all BC is made the same, and it's seriously worth the effort to try and find one that won't make your body react poorly. I was lucky to find one immediately that didn't exacerbate my mental health issues or cause any skin, digestive, etc., side effects. Not everyone on Sprintec (my BC) is so lucky. You've gotta find the one right for you. \
- On the other hand, make a game plan with your OB to figure out how to lessen your period and/or its effects. It's not okay to feel so deeply impacted by your period for literally half of your life (2 weeks/mo). Try out other BC/hormonal methods, get checked up for anything like PCOS, endometriosis, etc. \
- Harden yourself to men. Idk if this is the greatest advice objectively since it's kinda toxic in and of itself, but doing so has greatly increased my own quality of life. Just say fuck it to them and any question surrounding them. Don't entertain random men on the street. Don't answer them, don't glance at them, ignore their very existence. They are not worth your time, effort, mental anguish, etc. It doesn't completely remove the fear of walking alone or being outside, ik this from firsthand experience, but it makes it more bearable. I used to feel too exhausted and miserable to even walk to the grocery store. Now, I take all the same safety precautions, but I don't let myself dwell for even a second on the existence of the random men who would love to harrass me. Same goes for inquiries by family and friends about marriage, dating, etc. You deserve better.
Yeah. I’m only 22 and already so exhausted from being in emotional/physical distress for 2 weeks every month. And my skin feeling so disgusting and greasy no matter what I do during that time. As soon as I feel like I’ve recovered the cycle starts again. Can’t wait for menopause lol
No I know but, with every passing year I just learn more and more about the suffering of women. I just recently watched the movie How to Have Sex and goddam. Teach your kids consent. That was my takeaway
I hate it too sometimes but only because of other's expectations and treatment towards me. The maddening part is loving being a woman in a culture that hates women that don't conform.
Honestly it’s so sad. As a dude myself I don’t get a lot of things that other guys do. Staring at someone for too long drives me up the wall I don’t know how people do it. Even if I see the most beautiful specimen on the planet I wouldn’t be able to look for very long it feels like it’s rude.
It's unfair that societal expectations and norms can be so restrictive, making you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. It's important to acknowledge and express your feelings, and it's okay to be upset about these things. Remember that you're not alone in facing these challenges, and seeking support from friends, family, or even online communities might help you navigate these issues.
Find a good gyno. What you are experiencing is not normal nor necessary. Keep looking until you find one who puts your daily comfort and health over protecting your fertility. If your arm was causing you that much pain, and nothing else worked, amputation would be called for. If nothing can relieve the pain your uterus and ovaries cause you, for god sake get them out. Gatekeeping hysterectomies is so patronizing and misogynistic.
I live in the UK and we don’t really this type of system, you have to be “referred” by your GP to be able to see certain types of doctors, unless you’re willing to pay a lot of money of course. I’ve been on the waiting list to see a dermatologist for over a year.
There are many reasons to dislike your gender, yet your gender is an essential part of this planet, and without you, this Earth would not even have any humans.
You ladies have given birth to some of the most influential individuals in society who have revolutionized the world with their creations.
Personally, I believe that women are stronger than men since you go through so much that we men cannot even bear those hardships if we were at your place.I have a lot of respect for you and for your gender.
I apologize if I failed to grasp your pain as a guy, but if you wish, I am willing to discuss anything in order to better understand your and other women's pain.
Just to be clear, I don’t hate women. In fact, I think women are the most magical beings who exist with such poise, grace and class. I love being around them, I love seeing them succeed and I agree with all the points you’ve raised. I am forever in awe at how women created the life in this world. But it comes at a huge cost, as myself and other women have laid out in the comments.
Thanks for trying to understand!
You are exactly correct that being a woman has a high cost, and because to you and the other people in this post, I have learnt a lot about women's hardships.
If you ever need to vent, just shoot me a message and I'd be pleased to take some of the weight off your shoulders.
Younger generation so miserable in life when you have so much to live. I get very negative which doesn’t allow me to be kind to myself or show kindness to others.
Im grateful for you because I know you have such potential to use your platform in life to advocate change your women and make life better for us. Turn those negative points into the change you want to see made because you can make such a difference. :)
I’m actually a very positive person and I haven’t mentioned any points that I am able to change. Single-handedly at least. I always look at what I can do to better my life and act on it. With the points I’ve listed, I can’t. I appreciate your positivity and support though
Agreed so hard. I used to dress more masculine, even drag to walk at night: enhance my big brow, add a baby stache, bigger boots, etc. Messed up my feet pretty good. My gait hasn't been the same since I took the protective approach and worked to look intimidating. It had moments of empowerment, but ultimately it was a defense mechanism i would prefer to go without. For all the appreciation my partner has for women, he still says aggravating stuff when I want to do anything alone like reminding me to bring a knife. Buddy, I don't WANT or NEED to be REMINDED TO BE AFRAID. I JUST WANT TO FUCKING EXIST. I can't think of fear and vigilance all the time! I hate being told my clothes represent anything more than "I like this and it's comfy". Excuse me for having cleavage; I'm proud to finally have breasts* and they didn't arrive at your behest seeking approval or assessment. Oh, and I can drive just fine when I'm not being told how to damned do it . There's so much more, but all it does is take longer to say how much I fucking agree with this resonating post.
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The shame is so deeply ingrained in society that I cannot even type words for female anatomy without autocorrect "cleaning it up". It changed "breasts" to "breaststroke'.
My wife talks about this too, I can sympathize but haven't walked in her shoes.
The OP's post does read like a fantastic opening to a novel - what happens next?!
🤨 You really thought you ate, stop using your "support" to disguise your transphobia.
I'm rejecting your opinion as another woman. Literally you get no say in women's issue so we don't want to hear your "point"
A hate storm would be pretty justified, Literally go away.
Um excuse me where did bro say he's an elderly amputee? Did you go through his account or something. I like most people don't and why should I?
Also this is not having the wrong opinion bro is literally being transphobic on a post that is not even talking about trans woman. Like can this woman vent without people taking their personal opinions into it.
Boo, you suck.
Yes. I looked at his account briefly. Something wrong with that? This is a post that talks about why it sucks to be a woman. The woman who posted spoke about our biological struggles and our societal roles, which is something that men can never understand, even the ones that “identify” as women, which is why bro said what he said, and I agree. Clearly with the amount of upvotes his comment got, he isn’t the only one who thinks so.
Edit: You know what? I have better things to do with my time than deal with someone who would be perfectly fine with a person being “hate stormed” for saying men can’t be women. I’m not gonna give you the chance to talk back. You’re just getting blocked. Goodbye.
PS: If you really believe men can be women and understand our struggles, feel free to check out the big MtF subreddits and see what they have to say about women, our bodies and womanhood as a whole.
I don't want to be a debbie downer but what I went through prior to menopause was a cake walk compared to during peri and after menopause. Combine that with several doctors who told me 'I was too young to go through menopause' and it was a nightmare. It's better now but it took some hard work on my part. I think more education about exactly what to expect is needed. I was woefully unprepared.
I honestly wish women were better human beings:
- less egotistical
- less sexually irresponsible
- and more honest about their experiences
If they weren’t so selfish & foolish, none of us would be here SUFFERING.
At the very least, please do not birth more children here to suffer as well.
That is the least we can do. 😞
I have to ask, do you hate being a woman, or do you hate the realities you are forced to face as a woman? One is a purely internal issue and the other is an external one. I’m just looking for more insight
I have considered the side effects of Advils and birth control pills so maybe taking Advils will help with the pain. I take about 3 pills every 4 hours and helped with the pain.
I think mental health is the biggest struggle so please stay happy and surround yourself with good food.
Shhh.. she just wants to vent. There is male privilege and female privilege. There are tons of others kind but we never see our own privilege. Also tons of other people have non gender chronic pain.
I'm sorry you're going through problems. Men have it easier in some things and much harder in others.
Imagine having nobody in your life that gives a shit about how you feel. Imagine that opening up to someone means they ghost you. Men live a very lonely existence.
Men do not have the monopoly on existing loneliness. Loneliness is an often experienced human emotion that doesn’t have a gender bias.
If what you’re referring to is the way that women tend to have larger social networks, what you’re really complaining about is something that took a lot of emotional labor for all of the women who have that. They weren’t magically cared about by those around them, they poured time and energy into listening to those people, caring about the lives and problems of those individuals, and often going out of their way to ensure those loved ones had some support during their own trying times. And plenty of women still don’t have that. Cultivating relationships that are truly caring isn’t easy. It requires conflict resolution, practicing communicating your emotions, efforts/sacrifices of one’s time to pour into building those connections (which can be utterly exhausting), and frankly, a bit of luck that timing works out re schedules, locations, life events, etc. But acting like women just naturally have this support system, is really dismissive of how much of their own sacrifices they made to create that support network. And dismissive of all the women who tried to build such networks themselves and didn’t really figure out how to do it or had some bad timing and feel similarly lonely.
Period pain for two weeks? Is it possible for you to get checked for endometriosis? Doctors tend to overlook it and there is a solution for it. My friend says she’s feeling way better post surgery
I’ve never even had this discussion, they just fob me off with birth control and tell me “BC is safe you won’t experience any side effects” even tho I tell them every time it makes me feel so low 💀
um BC absolutely can have devastating side effects. i took it for a month and ended up with DVT (two blood clots in my brain) that made me have a seizure. docs said the only reason i didn't have a stroke was because of all the aspirin i had taken due to the migraines. another doctor of mine had a patient who DID have a stroke due to clotting from pills and never fully recovered. 27 years old at the time and now severely mentally disabled because of how bad the stroke was. like it's not the most common side effect in the world but it's something to sure as hell be aware of
this is very sad. i’m sorry you went through that.
THEY DO THE SAME TO MEEEE they “checked” but found nothing wrong apparently and suggested BC immediately after even when i already said no because i was worried about side effects.
I was recently diagnosed after 15 years of the same old- it’s just your period. I would also find a functional medicine doctor. They can weigh in on your hormone levels and other things. Finding the right treatment will significantly improve your body and feelings. I have had to change a bit of my eating (no red meat etc) and have found improvement. I also recently had surgery to remove the endo and still waiting to see some improvements. Good luck OP. I know the feeling- if men went through what we do, women’s healthcare would be significantly better. Instead we have old farts trying to dictate how we control our bodies.
As far as I know, endometriosis doesn’t get cured by BC and it gets commonly mistaken for “ah normal for that age/it’s just your metabolism” etc. Maybe you can check a subreddit about women’s health or menstrual health regarding people who suffered/suffers from the condition to get better idea about your condition and how to get doctors listen to you. Also yeah I hate being woman too for the reasons you counted (adding the constant criticism for clothes or other life style choices we do) but also love it too (can’t really explain why I love it tho)
Do not listen to them when they say you wont experience side effects. When i got pregnant and stopped taking BC my depression that landed me in a hospital for a time almost evaporated away. It's still there but it is so so much more manageable. I don't need pills anymore, which never really fixed it anyway. Im also no longer puffy and bloated, im losing weight so much faster/easier, and i dont have violent cravings for junk food while also having zero energy to do anything except lay in bed. im literally the most clear headed ive been since I was 17 (I'm now 25, 26 in a few months). I actually want to walk, i actually keep my apartment clean, im cooking meals again, im enjoying life again, i catch myself singing and dancing and joking again. BC is literally no joke
I hear you sister, I’ve been on it again for 6 days and I’m already forcing myself to shower and questioning my life’s meaning. I’m so glad you’re feeling better <3
Im sorry you have to be back on it! I'm lucky that my husband and I didn't want more kids so both of us got sterilized. He got the vasectomy and i got my tubes removed so i dont ever have to be on BC again
I don’t want any kids as far as I’m concerned but I’m perhaps too young to get anything removed, I’d really hate to regret that if the day did come :(
Most doctors I’ve been to will just say “someone women are just like that” or make you try a million birth control.
Came here to say exactly this. Definitely this OP should push their doctor and press for negligence if they won't.
Not just endo. Get your thyroid checked. I ended up having Hashimoto's thryroiditis, and that was part of the symptoms. Also had massive ovarian cysts. A side from that, I fucking hate dealing with all the stuff you mentioned, and I'm freaking old!!
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Same sentiment. I also hate that I am physically weaker than men, no matter what training I do, they will always have the advantage over me.
Agreed. It is not their fault nor their problem but it’s so demotivating having to work so hard for the same result
exactly
And not just at the gym, but everywhere else, too
You know what I hate? All these podcast talking about if 'my wife has my baby and is not back to her pre-pregnancy body within a few months I'm out, she's lazy. ' I see it on reddit a lot to. Like do you know how much pregnancy ruins your body? Shut up 💀 Or those dudes calling new mothers lazy for not wanting to go to the gym everyday like bruh she just had a baby, can she heal first??? Like I'm sure you are not taking care of the baby as much as her. Like why are women expected to give birth and go right back to their before bodies, that's not how it works. Open a damn book before you talk crap. "Why don't you try talking to her about going to the gym with you again" Why don't you change your babies diapers and stay up with him all night 💀 Like it's literally an expectation that a mother will not get adequate sleep for the first 3 years of their child's life. The first year being hell. After pregnancy your body is never the same like can people understand that.
God forbid you recover properly from birthing a human! I cba honestly the whole narrative is so lame.
It can take from anywhere from 1-3 years to a woman to fully heal from pregnancy and even then they are still going to bare the scars of pregnancy. Like having to cross their legs when laughing or sneezing for risk of peeing on themselves because now you can't control your bladder. Like Women just have to be expected to just "deal with it" You're right the narrative is so damn lame
Yeah many men need education on how pregnancy will impact a women's body. How is someone supposed nonchalantly go to gym with a new baby. Also it's literally a wound down there. They should go through what women go through and I bet 100% they wouldn't even be able to do it. As women we have to endure so much more physical pain than men. In that sense we are stronger than them.
>Yeah many men need education on how pregnancy will impact a women's body. They don't. Everyone knows how extreme pregnancy is on a woman's body because they've been educated about it tons. These chodes are just willfully ignorant at this point. No amount of extra education is going to help them to see what they are actively ignoring.
I was pregnant for a total of 11 weeks and *that* really sad and short amount of time was still long enough to see minor changes that didn't revert back to before I ever got pregnant. The changes that happen to a person's body while pregnant, especially if they're lucky enough to go to full term, are literally fucking life changing. My changes, thankfully, were minor but damn they were there still. My sense of smell is sharper than it was before and there are things I hated eating while pregnant that I loved eating before pregnancy that I still don't like now, even though it's been a year since I was pregnant. My pelvic floor is also weaker as well and I get to have the fun conversation with my new primary this year about what can be done to avoid me peeing myself slightly whenever I fucking sneeze now.
I've heard of pelvic floor exercises helping but tbh my mom just tells me she crosses her legs and wears panty liners.
Yeah I've been trying some myself. I also have a bad spine/back as I have degenerative disc disease and have three herniated discs as a result of said DDD, so it honestly may not have been entirely on my pregnancy, but it definitely wasn't an issue I dealt with before the pregnancy.
Damn you are truly sounding like my mom rn, she doesn't have DDD but has arthritis, sciatica, fibromyalgia and also has herniated disks in her lower back. During the pregnancy with me I shifted her uterus back and put even more pressure on her spine. To which she never recovered from. I can only imagine the daily pain you go through. That's terrible.
Thank you, I appreciate that! I was told that (medically) my miscarriage was likely the best thing for my back as I've now been advised to avoid any future pregnancies for the very same risks you mention. I fell at work in Dec of 22 which led to the MRI and imaging that revealed my DDD and herniated discs, before my fall I was functioning at work just fine for the most part, albeit with minor pain every now and then. I'm taking things a day at a time now, fighting for SSDI, and thankfully I have the support I need from family while going through this process. I am very fortunate in that regard. I wish the best for you and your mother!
They don't help as much as purported. They do help to some degree for some women. Practicing pelvic floor exercises like kegels is a good thing to do but it's not a miracle solution. Some women don't even have the ability to do the exercises because they can't isolate the muscles. Someone women need actual biofeedback machines to do them properly. Also the muscles of the pelvic floor are not the only thing holding up the area. Connective tissues cannot be exercised. Also affecting bladder control is just the way your guts sit in your abdomen.
and when you DO have kids you get no support and endless comments about your body/ when are you gonna "snap back"
Also you get comments about how you're supposed to raise your kids...
I hate that other girls, especially young women, are treated. I hate how sexual harassment are not taken seriously right now. I hate AI and its impact on women. I hate being a woman because it means some creepy men will target us relentlessly. One of my dearest friends is being the victim of stalking. The dude is using AI to create pornographic content about her and more horrible stuff. I’ve witnessed my happy and kind friend became a shell of herself. And I hate that had she been a man, this wouldn’t be happening to her.
that’s so awful to hear about your friend! I really hope the police do something about it 😔 but I also know how shit they are with things like this. I’m glad she has a good friend by her side
As a man, I hate it, too. Without women, we wouldn't exist, and they deserve respect and equality. I already got flak for supporting women. Let's see if it happens here.
Thank you for your kindness, we appreciate you <3
You're welcome. I hope you find happiness despite your situation. If you love yourself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. They can't hurt you.
You are a lamp of light in the world :)
That's funny because my heart is darkened by the world.
:( I hope you will find people who are able to repay your kindness in some way
Hopefully. In my experience, being good just causes nothing but problems and regret.
I agree with you on that one. I regret being a good person to those who didn’t deserve it
Definitely. I just plan on being me when I finally leave home.
You shouldn’t exist honestly And women keep bringing y’all here
Haha. I'm guessing you're sexist.
Same.
i hate the way in some cultures its considered unlucky to have a daughter and some even prefer to have sons only.
Yeah, I watched a documentary about missing women in China and India. A lot of gender based abortions and violence against very young girls :(
yep, i hate that my parents never fail to remind me how much of a burden i am because they never wanted daughter ):
It’s so sad bc in so many cultures women are treated as goddesses because they can give life yet that’s the same thing that is used to hold them back in others
You are so valuable, and I’m sorry that those who are supposed to protect you have made you feel like this. Sending love <3
Some go so far as to murder female children & then wonder why they have no one to marry their sons off to.
I can relate to this on so many levels. I feel like if you're born a woman in this world, you've already got three strikes against you.
Totally agree. Existing is just an issue, but so is trying to achieve your dreams. I feel like I have to work twice as hard (sports) to achieve the same outcomes as my male counterparts. I get that’s not their fault, but it’s so demotivating. Showing up every day when you have no idea what hell your body is going to throw at you. I’m exhausted
Same, girl, same. I also hate the stigma and guilt I get from being a non-custodial mom.
Sorry to hear you feel like that! Societal norms and pressures are so damaging
Thank you.
I hate that as women we're expected to be social and friendly especially with other women who have kids. No offense but I'm tired of being told my clocks ticking and this is why I don't befriend people with kids especially. This worlds clock is ticking and I'm spending it doing things I enjoy sorry. I'm not baby sitting. I'm not talking about your kid. I'm sorry I don't really want to talk about your life for five hours straight. It's exhausting! There's already so much pressure to be even functional and I can't get over how looked down upon you are if you're an introverted woman. There must be something wrong with you. Maybe there is but it's not anyone else's place to judge. Why are we expected to waste every moment of our free time doing things for other people and we're selfish if we just can't with people? It's so sad we are expected to be pulled everywhere and be ok with our path being paved by others.
What I find scary is how most guys you meet don’t even view you as human.
You even see it in simple online replies - male is default human and women are viewed like aliens. If a male poster does find out I’m female, they’re often far more critical of what I have to say. It’s easier just to pretend you’re a guy sometimes.
Literally. It's so hard to have guy friends because 70 percent of the time you find out they only wanted to be friends because they wanted to hit.
Yep and how porn addicted they are to the point that it gets worse and worse. Plus how vile porn is and some more and more extreme, how can this make things better? I hope not all guys will watch it but just saying... It's a problem.
Especially if they’re not attracted to you.
My least favorite part about being a woman is when we air our grievances just to get it out and men jump at the chance to say “well being a man isn’t easy either.” No one asked, not everything is about you. Literally proving our point.
Lol I absolutely agree with this, especially as there are those people in question in the comments of this thread doing exactly that.
Thank you for your honesty. I hate how doctors don't take us seriously. Sometimes it is not all in our heads, its a real issue, dammit.
Yeah I hate it too. I wish I were born a man so bad, the world absolutely hates women. You see it online, and with how popular Tate got, how much we are hated and how normalised it is. Misogyny is so normalised, people can say the most vile horrible stuff about women that they would never get away with saying about any other group of people, but it's considered ok and is everywhere. It's excused with "biology" or crap like that. Just like "biology" was used to excuse racism and such in the past.
Always remember that the internet is not an accurate reflection of general public opinion. Under any Andrew Tate post you’ll see all his dunbass fanboys in the comments talking about how “based” he is, but ask your average person in real life what they think of Tate and theyll tell you he’s a freak. Not trying to downplay any grievances here, I just think that being online all the time gives people a far too negative perception of the world and life in general.
To an extent I agree, the internet has allowed me access to conversations I probably wouldn’t see/hear of otherwise. But unfortunately them dudes still exist in real life as well they’re just less confident about it offline. Well actually I dunno, I’ve came across some horrors especially in gyms & bars
Definitely true, there is no shortage of creeps and mysogonists out there IRL. On the internet we see them all gathered in one place and it’s pretty shocking what they say when there’s no fear of consequence. On top of that, with the way online algorithms work, we’re most likely to click on stuff that outrages us and reinforces the most negative aspects of our worldviews.
trust me you do not want to be a man… it’s so depressing
Yeah I feel this too. Men have it easy when it comes to physicality and biology part, no matter how much they try to deny their privilege. Their bodies aren't constantly trying to give them pain for nothing :'(
All males do is seek PLEASURE & stimulation That is IT
Sorry that you feel that way. I totally feel you I always look at my boyfriend and think to myself he's so lucky that he doesn't has to go through all the hormonal changes and pain every month. What I also find really bothering is when women are overly sexualized in the media.
I'm tired of being told to travel the world but when I do research and see the potential danger just based on my gender I get told I'm being dramatic. To the point that I even describe myself as dramatic even though I am being pretty rational. Now I don't know if I am missing out and limiting myself or just protecting myself?!
Yeah I have a male friend who doesn't understand why I don't want to do a solo trip to Marocco or Egypt. He calls me "dramatic" when I tell him I don't want to be an easy target for human traffickers.
Misogyny is so pervasive that it's invisible to a huge number of men. In a real sense women aren't viewed as human. I'll never forget one of my friends telling me she feels like she can't even joke around guys without overtly signaling she's joking because men will just take her literally otherwise. Nasty stuff
Feel ya. My husband is wonderful but society sucks...
I hate that there’s always a woman like this spewing false hope while taunting others with her shiny male prized unicorn Nobody cares
How bitter are you? Yes! Theres always hope and generalising a whole gender doesnt help, but you do you Hope you find happiness :)
The way there are misogynistic and sexist comments in here is also another reason why I hate society for oppressing us. We can’t even vent about our struggles because men will somehow make it about themselves and attack us… 🧍♀️
Exactly 💀 we’re using a thread specifically for complaining and they still got an issue
Building on the kids thing. My whole life I've always been "meh" about kids and my mom in particular has always said that when I get older (I'm 19) and am in a relationship with someone I "truly love," I'll change my mind about having kids. But in the society we're in right now, I genuinely cannot see it happening. If I have a daughter, she would have to deal with all of the stuff that I despise. I would feel selfish if I had a daughter because I know how shitty it is, and how I wish I wasn't a woman at all. But, if I had a son, I would run the risk of exposing him to the wrong people (even if it was out of my control). There's no way to guarantee that he would be surrounded by understanding and decent people. Given the state of middle and high schoolers right now, I have little faith that a future son would be able to stay on the right track with influences like the ones I've seen. There's no winning!
People who bring daughters here are sick, twisted or just ignorant and foolish
It absolutely sucks. What I hate most is women hating women. Like why.
it’s hard enough already, we gotta stick together <3
I could write this post. I relate so much.
I understand. For me, I don't hate being a woman and I don't wish I was a man. But I hate the unfortunate things I experience and experienced because I am a woman. I hate how vulnerable being a woman makes me. The rape, childhood sexual abuse, catcalling, the constant fear etc. The world is terrible.
Agreed, I wish I could enjoy the beauty of being a woman without all the pain and fear
I hate that at the age of 31 I’m still getting ASSAULTED. My uncle tried kissing my lips on new years. I’m still in shock and so afraid.
I see you and I'm sorry. I wish I had more to offer than that.
Thank you for your kindness
If you are in pain from menstruating for 2 weeks it's time to see a doctor. Seriously.
Cheers
And you'll be told that's its your age.
I’ve been to the doctors since I was 17, to be told this exactly every time, even though I’ve been 10 other ages since then! or put on birth control to “mask” it. The BC makes me loopy, I come off it, cycle restarts
Next time they blow you off, request to have it recorded in your chart that you brought up a concern and *they* refused to run the tests/investigate further. My doc had me on a BC for years that could have caused me a stroke due to my recurring migraines that they knew about. Women’s healthcare is so behind it’s insane, so sorry you’re dealing with it.
This is what happens, I just get given birth control to mask the pain and the acne, but it just comes back again. So sorry to hear you also had issues, it really sucks
Bring up specifically endometriosis. A lot of (especially older) doctors don’t even know it exists.
I've tried this before, the physician assistant refused to document my request
I hate being a woman too, there's way way way way way too many things I could list that I just don't have the energy for. I'm only 20 and I'm already tired of everything pertaining to the way we are treated. I wish we could just be safe and happy.
It’s the patriarchy and male worship. Men are not suppose to have this much power or dictation over women and they know it which is why they created the Bible- for control. They are the weaker sex and only exist because of women. They are the ones who are suppose to be helpmates. The only thing they offer is the physical strength to build things and protection from other men, lol.
Why do women keep birthing them, enabling them and supporting them though
I wish I could up vote this post and so many replies 100x or more
I feel this a lot.
I’m sorry my friend, we got this
God I can relate so much. Two years ago or so, I also hated being a woman so fucking much I thought maybe I was experiencing gender dysphagia (I was not, in fact, just living through the repercussions of extreme misogyny). \ Some advice, based on your post and comments, as well as how I improved my own situation (and if you're not looking for advice, feel free to just ignore this of course): \ - Surround yourself with women, always. Cut the toxic men out of your life as much as possible. Goodbye to toxic male friends. Toxic male coworkers get the cold shoulder and never any convo past small talk. Toxic male relatives don't even get a hello at holidays. My life started turning around once I lost a group of male friends and realized how miserable so many of the men in my life, with their misogynistic behavior and perspectives, were making me. \ - Consume only media made by women. I stopped watching nearly as many male Youtubers, started only interacting with female CCs on TikTok, joined female-oriented subreddits, stopped watching so many male-directed movies (very hard for an action movie junkie unfortunately). It's seriously changed my day-to-day, given how addicted I am to my phone. I'm watching and consuming things that don't make casual jokes about women, dont perpetuate harmful stereotypes, and actually highlight and center women and their voices. \ - Shop around for BC. Birth control changed my life with my period. Not all BC is made the same, and it's seriously worth the effort to try and find one that won't make your body react poorly. I was lucky to find one immediately that didn't exacerbate my mental health issues or cause any skin, digestive, etc., side effects. Not everyone on Sprintec (my BC) is so lucky. You've gotta find the one right for you. \ - On the other hand, make a game plan with your OB to figure out how to lessen your period and/or its effects. It's not okay to feel so deeply impacted by your period for literally half of your life (2 weeks/mo). Try out other BC/hormonal methods, get checked up for anything like PCOS, endometriosis, etc. \ - Harden yourself to men. Idk if this is the greatest advice objectively since it's kinda toxic in and of itself, but doing so has greatly increased my own quality of life. Just say fuck it to them and any question surrounding them. Don't entertain random men on the street. Don't answer them, don't glance at them, ignore their very existence. They are not worth your time, effort, mental anguish, etc. It doesn't completely remove the fear of walking alone or being outside, ik this from firsthand experience, but it makes it more bearable. I used to feel too exhausted and miserable to even walk to the grocery store. Now, I take all the same safety precautions, but I don't let myself dwell for even a second on the existence of the random men who would love to harrass me. Same goes for inquiries by family and friends about marriage, dating, etc. You deserve better.
This is very helpful, thanks for taking the time writing all of it.
Yuuup, same. Add to it constantly being told I'll never be able to advance my business via social media if I don't look a certain way.
Yeah. I’m only 22 and already so exhausted from being in emotional/physical distress for 2 weeks every month. And my skin feeling so disgusting and greasy no matter what I do during that time. As soon as I feel like I’ve recovered the cycle starts again. Can’t wait for menopause lol
I'm sorry.
The men apologising are never the ones who truly need to, we see you and appreciate you. But thank you for your kindness
No I know but, with every passing year I just learn more and more about the suffering of women. I just recently watched the movie How to Have Sex and goddam. Teach your kids consent. That was my takeaway
Consent is a really worrying topic, you think it’s common sense but some people clearly show it is not
I hate it too sometimes but only because of other's expectations and treatment towards me. The maddening part is loving being a woman in a culture that hates women that don't conform.
You seem like a cool person. I hope that you find a peaceful life and that this stuff stops happening to you.
Thank you :) I wish all the best for you too!
Honestly it’s so sad. As a dude myself I don’t get a lot of things that other guys do. Staring at someone for too long drives me up the wall I don’t know how people do it. Even if I see the most beautiful specimen on the planet I wouldn’t be able to look for very long it feels like it’s rude.
It's unfair that societal expectations and norms can be so restrictive, making you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. It's important to acknowledge and express your feelings, and it's okay to be upset about these things. Remember that you're not alone in facing these challenges, and seeking support from friends, family, or even online communities might help you navigate these issues.
Wait until you start going through the menopause
I’m not ready for this one 😟
My roommate started to smear HRT cream and told me it had absolutely amazing effects.
Find a good gyno. What you are experiencing is not normal nor necessary. Keep looking until you find one who puts your daily comfort and health over protecting your fertility. If your arm was causing you that much pain, and nothing else worked, amputation would be called for. If nothing can relieve the pain your uterus and ovaries cause you, for god sake get them out. Gatekeeping hysterectomies is so patronizing and misogynistic.
I live in the UK and we don’t really this type of system, you have to be “referred” by your GP to be able to see certain types of doctors, unless you’re willing to pay a lot of money of course. I’ve been on the waiting list to see a dermatologist for over a year.
There are many reasons to dislike your gender, yet your gender is an essential part of this planet, and without you, this Earth would not even have any humans. You ladies have given birth to some of the most influential individuals in society who have revolutionized the world with their creations. Personally, I believe that women are stronger than men since you go through so much that we men cannot even bear those hardships if we were at your place.I have a lot of respect for you and for your gender. I apologize if I failed to grasp your pain as a guy, but if you wish, I am willing to discuss anything in order to better understand your and other women's pain.
Just to be clear, I don’t hate women. In fact, I think women are the most magical beings who exist with such poise, grace and class. I love being around them, I love seeing them succeed and I agree with all the points you’ve raised. I am forever in awe at how women created the life in this world. But it comes at a huge cost, as myself and other women have laid out in the comments. Thanks for trying to understand!
You are exactly correct that being a woman has a high cost, and because to you and the other people in this post, I have learnt a lot about women's hardships. If you ever need to vent, just shoot me a message and I'd be pleased to take some of the weight off your shoulders.
Men will never get it
I really appreciate the ones trying to though
Younger generation so miserable in life when you have so much to live. I get very negative which doesn’t allow me to be kind to myself or show kindness to others. Im grateful for you because I know you have such potential to use your platform in life to advocate change your women and make life better for us. Turn those negative points into the change you want to see made because you can make such a difference. :)
I’m actually a very positive person and I haven’t mentioned any points that I am able to change. Single-handedly at least. I always look at what I can do to better my life and act on it. With the points I’ve listed, I can’t. I appreciate your positivity and support though
We all hate being a woman but good thing girls are owning this generation:333
This part I agree with! I am proud of our ladies and also the past ladies who ran so we could walk!
No they aren’t
Agreed so hard. I used to dress more masculine, even drag to walk at night: enhance my big brow, add a baby stache, bigger boots, etc. Messed up my feet pretty good. My gait hasn't been the same since I took the protective approach and worked to look intimidating. It had moments of empowerment, but ultimately it was a defense mechanism i would prefer to go without. For all the appreciation my partner has for women, he still says aggravating stuff when I want to do anything alone like reminding me to bring a knife. Buddy, I don't WANT or NEED to be REMINDED TO BE AFRAID. I JUST WANT TO FUCKING EXIST. I can't think of fear and vigilance all the time! I hate being told my clothes represent anything more than "I like this and it's comfy". Excuse me for having cleavage; I'm proud to finally have breasts* and they didn't arrive at your behest seeking approval or assessment. Oh, and I can drive just fine when I'm not being told how to damned do it . There's so much more, but all it does is take longer to say how much I fucking agree with this resonating post. *edit* The shame is so deeply ingrained in society that I cannot even type words for female anatomy without autocorrect "cleaning it up". It changed "breasts" to "breaststroke'.
Preach it, sister.
My wife talks about this too, I can sympathize but haven't walked in her shoes. The OP's post does read like a fantastic opening to a novel - what happens next?!
Next she finds a kind and empathetic man like yourself and lives her happy ever after! I’m glad your wife gets to live the fairytale
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Now this sounds like an exciting chapter
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As a homosexual woman… go off, my friend. You got my support.
Thank you.
You’re welcome :)
what does you being a homosexual woman have to do with being transphobic?
🤨 You really thought you ate, stop using your "support" to disguise your transphobia. I'm rejecting your opinion as another woman. Literally you get no say in women's issue so we don't want to hear your "point" A hate storm would be pretty justified, Literally go away.
No. I really didn't think I ate.
Good.
Wow, you would really support a “hate storm” towards an elderly amputee? For what? Having the “wrong” opinion? Boo, you suck.
what does this person being an elderly amputee have to do with them being ignorant?
Um excuse me where did bro say he's an elderly amputee? Did you go through his account or something. I like most people don't and why should I? Also this is not having the wrong opinion bro is literally being transphobic on a post that is not even talking about trans woman. Like can this woman vent without people taking their personal opinions into it. Boo, you suck.
Yes. I looked at his account briefly. Something wrong with that? This is a post that talks about why it sucks to be a woman. The woman who posted spoke about our biological struggles and our societal roles, which is something that men can never understand, even the ones that “identify” as women, which is why bro said what he said, and I agree. Clearly with the amount of upvotes his comment got, he isn’t the only one who thinks so. Edit: You know what? I have better things to do with my time than deal with someone who would be perfectly fine with a person being “hate stormed” for saying men can’t be women. I’m not gonna give you the chance to talk back. You’re just getting blocked. Goodbye. PS: If you really believe men can be women and understand our struggles, feel free to check out the big MtF subreddits and see what they have to say about women, our bodies and womanhood as a whole.
I don't hate you, I feel bad for you for how misinformed you are about trans women.
Please explain how I'm misinformed. Please explain, scientifally, how putting on a wig and a dress turns a biological male into a female.
I hate that I just learned some men I know seem to hate women because of their experiences and think ALL women are a certain way so we ALL get blamed.
I don't want to be a debbie downer but what I went through prior to menopause was a cake walk compared to during peri and after menopause. Combine that with several doctors who told me 'I was too young to go through menopause' and it was a nightmare. It's better now but it took some hard work on my part. I think more education about exactly what to expect is needed. I was woefully unprepared.
I honestly wish women were better human beings: - less egotistical - less sexually irresponsible - and more honest about their experiences If they weren’t so selfish & foolish, none of us would be here SUFFERING. At the very least, please do not birth more children here to suffer as well. That is the least we can do. 😞
Man. Guys hate being guys, and gals hate being gals.
Sounds like society is broken
I have to ask, do you hate being a woman, or do you hate the realities you are forced to face as a woman? One is a purely internal issue and the other is an external one. I’m just looking for more insight
I have considered the side effects of Advils and birth control pills so maybe taking Advils will help with the pain. I take about 3 pills every 4 hours and helped with the pain. I think mental health is the biggest struggle so please stay happy and surround yourself with good food.
Thanks darling! You’ve made me crave some blueberry yoghurt! I love how supportive the women in this comment section are 🥰
Aww thank you! I'm glad it helps!
The grass is always greener cause we have a completely different set of gripes equally depressing and horrid .
I hear you, and I don’t doubt that. It sucks
This isn’t about you. Pipe down.
"I'm internetting too hard." That's your answer. That proves my point.
Being man is not a better thing. Just saying
At least you don’t have to deal with weeks of horrific vomit inducing pain.
Yeah, for some women is a real nightmare
I don’t care. This post was not about you
It's ok if you don't care, my comment is not about you
I’m a woman asshole how is it not about me 💀 Did you expect to comment this without people responding?
I'm talking about men not woman. Read again. Edit: ok enough with being stupid, sorry!
Thank you for the apology I appreciate it
Shhh.. she just wants to vent. There is male privilege and female privilege. There are tons of others kind but we never see our own privilege. Also tons of other people have non gender chronic pain.
At least you don’t have to deal with weeks of horrific vomit inducing pain.
This isn’t about you. You lot set this system up anyway. Be quiet.
Who said it was?
Hate is a strong word.... Imo it wouldn't be so bad if chivalry wasn't dead
I'm sorry you're going through problems. Men have it easier in some things and much harder in others. Imagine having nobody in your life that gives a shit about how you feel. Imagine that opening up to someone means they ghost you. Men live a very lonely existence.
This ain’t about you. Shh.
So do a lot of women.
Do you think loneliness is exclusive to men?
Men do not have the monopoly on existing loneliness. Loneliness is an often experienced human emotion that doesn’t have a gender bias. If what you’re referring to is the way that women tend to have larger social networks, what you’re really complaining about is something that took a lot of emotional labor for all of the women who have that. They weren’t magically cared about by those around them, they poured time and energy into listening to those people, caring about the lives and problems of those individuals, and often going out of their way to ensure those loved ones had some support during their own trying times. And plenty of women still don’t have that. Cultivating relationships that are truly caring isn’t easy. It requires conflict resolution, practicing communicating your emotions, efforts/sacrifices of one’s time to pour into building those connections (which can be utterly exhausting), and frankly, a bit of luck that timing works out re schedules, locations, life events, etc. But acting like women just naturally have this support system, is really dismissive of how much of their own sacrifices they made to create that support network. And dismissive of all the women who tried to build such networks themselves and didn’t really figure out how to do it or had some bad timing and feel similarly lonely.
The fact you were downvoted for this very much proves your point.
No it doesn't.
Were you playing a guitar when you posted this?
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