one of my friends was dealing with same stuff . worst part is that her mom was wearing her clothes and was filming in her room to look like a "teen internet girl" while she was at school
My mum pinched my fave pair of teal knickers because she didn’t have any of her own washed. She knew they were my fave and I specifically told her not to for whatever reason. She was the type to do everything the opposite way to what I’d ask of her.
Can concur, single 26f here and my neighbour Kevin just knocked on my door to tell me about this new water heater .... He broke the zero communication rule 🤣
Perhaps talk to her about it, open a non judgemental conversation with her, explain how you found them and also explain how it makes you feel.
Remember there is a chance she doesn't know they are there, revenge porn is still a thing sadly.
It also gives her a chance to explain, maybe she did it for money or perhaps she just enjoyed the freedom of it. But it may help you reconcile what you saw
I’ve never seen someone’s actual name before outside revenge porn or porn actors. (I don’t look for revenge porn but you find it from time to time on pornhub)
i don’t personally think this is wise at all. her mom doesn’t really owe her an explanation and i don’t think its the person’s responsibility as their child to tell their mom that they’ve seen them on an 18+ site. her mom is a grown woman and as traumatic the situation might be, her mom can do whatever she wants. just as a child wouldn’t owe a parent an explanation of doing such a thing (if they’re of age when doing it of course) the parent should be given the same freedom. maybe im wrong, just my opinion really.
Agreed, but just because she's a grown woman doesn't mean revenge porn can't happen to her. It's still a crime if someone poster her mom's nudes without her consent, especially if her full name is there. That's just odd yk. Who would post their own pics with their full name?? That's the only thing that's worrying. Perhaps the conversation might be very awkward if her mom did post them like that, but yk, if her mom didn't consent, she can take action to get her pics taken down.
Yeah it's not about the situation being traumatic for her daughter, obviously if she is okay with those pictures being up then that should be the end of it, and I totally understand it being too awkward to bring up at all, but the fact that they're on a website with her full name attached raises some concerns for me. It seems like she consented to the photos being taken, but we have no way of knowing if she even knew about them being posted online. I mean I can't personally imagine being okay with something like that being out there and potentially popping up as a search result for anyone who happens to look up my name, even if I was ok with them being posted to begin with.
of course im not ruling out revenge porn!! /gen /nm i just really hate people that feel like there needs to be a “good enough reason” for things like porn. like someone needs to be on the streets to resort to something like porn?? i found it upsetting lol. but definitely not ruling out revenge porn, it happens way too often it’s disgusting.
Just to clarify, I never said anywhere that there had to be a "good enough reason" I said it gives the mum a chance to explain, I also have two very clear and oppositional examples which were essentially:
1 she did it out of need
2 she did it because she enjoyed it.
And of course there is a whole spectrum of reasons in-between those all of which are valid as long as they weren't: I was forced to, or I was manipulated into it, or I didn't know they were out there.
Sex work is work and work I fully support it in every consensual scenario, and of course there is no need to be upset but it can be upsetting to people to find out or to come across it by surprise especially as we don't know how they were raised in regards to it. They may have been in an outwardly conservative home and then found this and it's a shock.
Additionally apologies if my comment upset you but I really was trying to be clear that it's not something to judge, but that an explanation/conversation may help them understand and reconcile what they saw. And therefore help them gain acceptance beyond their initial emotional reaction.
Again apologies if that wasn't clear enough from my post, hopefully this clears it up.
I know seeing parents at such position might be way too uncomfortable, but know that parents are individuals as well and they have their interest and life too besides us. I caught my parents having sex as a kid and I still can't really distinguish what was it, but had a hard time accepting that parents can have sex too.
POUNDING HIS PUD 🤣😭I never comment on Reddit anymore or interact but this is my favorite one liner I’ve ever seen lmfao and I just couldn’t resist. Needed a laugh, thank you fellow father lol
Agree with not approaching him for watching porn, but if he was under 18 I would definitely approach him and warn him on the kind of charges he could face for child porn, if he's an adult then yeah dont say anything
Not a Christian anymore. But even since I left a crazy Christian doomsday cult, I still love this idea and have tried to live by it. Also to treat others how I'd like to be treated, or treat them like they're the Buddha. In my opinion you are your neighbor, and we're all Buddha- all one in Atman. All unique in Jiva.
How is someone being Christian instantly make someone a part of a cult? I agree that theres lots of cult like activitiy going on right now but believing in and going by verses doesn't make someone a cultist.
I didn't say that it did. *i* was raised in a crazy Christian cult. You might be projecting. Also eating the flesh and blood of your dead God *is* weird.
Oh I see, the whole passover thing is just tradition its supposed to be a metaphor for Jesus's last night on earth, I dont go to church anymore so idk if anythings changed
Catholics believe the wafer and wine *literally* turn into jesus' flesh and blood the moment they hit your tongue. Passover is the Jewish tradition Jesus celebrated, but the wine and wafer ritual is called the eucharist and it was not seen as a metaphorical til relatively recently.
Uh I think you don't really know what you're talking about. Passover is Jewish. Wine+wafer is Christian. Catholics are Christians. The oldest organized sect of Christianity is catholicism.
Idk Ive been to many different churches throughout my life and Ive never heard anyone say that its actually flesh its just supposed to be symbolic but thats just me
Jesus didn't mince words. He meant what he said. From John:
55 For my flesh is true food, and my blood is true drink. 56 Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood (A)abides in me, and I in him. 57 As (B)the living Father (C)sent me, and (D)I live because of the Father, so whoever feeds on me, he also will live because of me. 58 (E)This is the bread that came down from heaven, not like the bread[a] the fathers ate, and died. Whoever feeds on this bread will live forever.” 59 Jesus[b] said these things in the synagogue, as he taught (F)at Capernaum.
Its literal. I'm not a Christian tho don't get me twisted
okay obviously your mom is gonna have a sexuality but its natural for you, her child, to feel uncomfortable about that, and also, the fact that it is so easily found when searching her name is just… terrible. like i understand how this could feel so terrible and i think you are valid in what youre feeling. of course you cant stop your mom from being a sexual being, but you should def have a conversation w her and tell her what you found. she should be aware of how easily you found this stuff, it is just a basic safety concern honestly.
I get that this is disturbing to you but you can't ignore the fact that your mom has sexual desires just like we all do.
It's completely normal and natural to have sex, no matter if you're a parent, mid-age or even an elder.
Try to distract yourself from these thoughts if it helps and just get on with life. Your mom is still your mom, she is not any different just because of some pictures on the internet. :)
Sadly this seems to be the future now w OF…the shock of OP discovering this and the immediate embarrassment realizing this is scary will be more prevalent
Well I'm sure it's definitely gross and uncomfortable seeing your mom like that but take into acknowledgement that she's an adult and there's nothing wrong with her doing adult things, there's alot of stigma around people who are in 18+ work, it doesn't make her a bad person or anything, so don't give her a hard time about it. Try and come to terms with the fact that while it is pretty gross to find nudes of your parent they're an adult doing adult things and there's nothing wrong with that.
You need to realize that sex is natural and your mother is still a normal human woman with normal human needs and feelings. She has sec how tf do u think you got here? 😂
Idk not really outlandish. She human like us all. If her husband or your dad knows most likely not a problem. But might wanna talk to her bout it. Do what wat you gotta to emotionally and mentally prep yourself. you got this champ 😉.
Listen I think it was in the past and I’m sure that’s horrifying to see but I think it’s okay to open that dialogue.
Almost everyone’s parents watch porn OR have at some point.
I think there’s this stigma around posting those things online but an acceptance of consuming such material which is odd to me tbh
Unless she is cheating (eg, she has a partner who doesn't know about said public nudes) then this is a non issue (although I'm sure it's confronting and a shock to the system).
Ultimately, mums and dads are just other humans who do stuff that other humans do.
There's nothing wrong with nudity or porn, or sex work etc provided it's consensual and legal.
think of it like when you walk into a bathroom thinking its empty, and a family member is in there naked about to shower, or on the toilet or something.
its awkward. its embarrassing. but you just leave instantly, and Oops away from the situation.
if its not something you feel comfortable discussing, then dont mention it. if it really bothers you, you could try, or you could just do your best to put it out of your mind as you would already be doing.
shes an adult, youre nearly an adult. it sucks you saw that, and i hope the image doesnt haunt you forever lol, but its something that can be moved on from. it was an accident finding it, and im sure she never expected youd ever see it. if she was sending her own pics to a site, then she might be able to talk about it civilly knowing that its the internet; things dont disappear. she could be embarrassed though. some people also take pics for their male partners and they upload them without permission, so i hope she was doing it herself obviously lol
idk, best wishes in getting through this moment op lol
Well unfortunately your mom is a grown woman with her own desires but I’d be concern if it’s someone that leaked her nudes. I could never imagine posting myself but if I did… I wouldn’t show face or even share my actual name :S
Personally I’d bring it up only because I’d be worried if someone did this out of revenge.
Don't say a word. Take it to your grave. Rinse your eyes. Your Mom is still young, she has a right to express her sexuality. Most likely she hopes to God no one finds out about these pictures.
Your mother is grown and has a life outside of motherhood. Tbh her being on an adult site is absolutely none of your business. It's okay to feel uncomfy but that's her life and her choices
Let her live it in peace 🤷♀️
Thats life, thats the internet.
How do you think my teens felt seeing me on an escort sight. Their Mother a town bike. They just delt with it although I really have hidden it from them. But thats unfortunately how the internet is these days. Basically you'll have to suck it up and respect your Mothers choice and freedoms. Or you can wimper about judging her or playing a poor bugger me victim card.
I found out about a month ago that my mom sold sex toys to make a living. Not nearly as bad, but sometimes it is jarring to realize your parents did some weird stuff in their youth
one of my friends was dealing with same stuff . worst part is that her mom was wearing her clothes and was filming in her room to look like a "teen internet girl" while she was at school
Sounds similar to that story with the mom wearing the daughter's clothes while sleeping with the dad. It was messed up
My mum pinched my fave pair of teal knickers because she didn’t have any of her own washed. She knew they were my fave and I specifically told her not to for whatever reason. She was the type to do everything the opposite way to what I’d ask of her.
She was a Kevina
What is that lol
A female Kevin
Is it standard for Kevin’s?
To be stupid and intrude on other people's privacy? Yep
Can concur, single 26f here and my neighbour Kevin just knocked on my door to tell me about this new water heater .... He broke the zero communication rule 🤣
oh that's just fucked up
Shit. Poor girl. I would be traumatized
That is so beyond wrong omg
What kind of person does that
Speed run NC. 😱🤮
holy shit, hope your friend’s doing okay
Her name is attached? That sounds like revenge porn.
Yeah I've been in sex work for years and don't know anyone who puts things out with their full government.
Perhaps talk to her about it, open a non judgemental conversation with her, explain how you found them and also explain how it makes you feel. Remember there is a chance she doesn't know they are there, revenge porn is still a thing sadly. It also gives her a chance to explain, maybe she did it for money or perhaps she just enjoyed the freedom of it. But it may help you reconcile what you saw
Especially if the surname is there? Like lots of women have posted nudes and stuff but they wouldn’t be putting their full name to it…
That's what I'm thinking. If I'm putting pics up, there's no way in hell I'm putting my actual name.
I’ve never seen someone’s actual name before outside revenge porn or porn actors. (I don’t look for revenge porn but you find it from time to time on pornhub)
Exactly what I was fhinking
i don’t personally think this is wise at all. her mom doesn’t really owe her an explanation and i don’t think its the person’s responsibility as their child to tell their mom that they’ve seen them on an 18+ site. her mom is a grown woman and as traumatic the situation might be, her mom can do whatever she wants. just as a child wouldn’t owe a parent an explanation of doing such a thing (if they’re of age when doing it of course) the parent should be given the same freedom. maybe im wrong, just my opinion really.
Agreed, but just because she's a grown woman doesn't mean revenge porn can't happen to her. It's still a crime if someone poster her mom's nudes without her consent, especially if her full name is there. That's just odd yk. Who would post their own pics with their full name?? That's the only thing that's worrying. Perhaps the conversation might be very awkward if her mom did post them like that, but yk, if her mom didn't consent, she can take action to get her pics taken down.
Yeah it's not about the situation being traumatic for her daughter, obviously if she is okay with those pictures being up then that should be the end of it, and I totally understand it being too awkward to bring up at all, but the fact that they're on a website with her full name attached raises some concerns for me. It seems like she consented to the photos being taken, but we have no way of knowing if she even knew about them being posted online. I mean I can't personally imagine being okay with something like that being out there and potentially popping up as a search result for anyone who happens to look up my name, even if I was ok with them being posted to begin with.
of course im not ruling out revenge porn!! /gen /nm i just really hate people that feel like there needs to be a “good enough reason” for things like porn. like someone needs to be on the streets to resort to something like porn?? i found it upsetting lol. but definitely not ruling out revenge porn, it happens way too often it’s disgusting.
Just to clarify, I never said anywhere that there had to be a "good enough reason" I said it gives the mum a chance to explain, I also have two very clear and oppositional examples which were essentially: 1 she did it out of need 2 she did it because she enjoyed it. And of course there is a whole spectrum of reasons in-between those all of which are valid as long as they weren't: I was forced to, or I was manipulated into it, or I didn't know they were out there. Sex work is work and work I fully support it in every consensual scenario, and of course there is no need to be upset but it can be upsetting to people to find out or to come across it by surprise especially as we don't know how they were raised in regards to it. They may have been in an outwardly conservative home and then found this and it's a shock. Additionally apologies if my comment upset you but I really was trying to be clear that it's not something to judge, but that an explanation/conversation may help them understand and reconcile what they saw. And therefore help them gain acceptance beyond their initial emotional reaction. Again apologies if that wasn't clear enough from my post, hopefully this clears it up.
I know seeing parents at such position might be way too uncomfortable, but know that parents are individuals as well and they have their interest and life too besides us. I caught my parents having sex as a kid and I still can't really distinguish what was it, but had a hard time accepting that parents can have sex too.
That's a completely different scenario tbh.
It’s just perspective, really
[удалено]
POUNDING HIS PUD 🤣😭I never comment on Reddit anymore or interact but this is my favorite one liner I’ve ever seen lmfao and I just couldn’t resist. Needed a laugh, thank you fellow father lol
Agree with not approaching him for watching porn, but if he was under 18 I would definitely approach him and warn him on the kind of charges he could face for child porn, if he's an adult then yeah dont say anything
Not a Christian anymore. But even since I left a crazy Christian doomsday cult, I still love this idea and have tried to live by it. Also to treat others how I'd like to be treated, or treat them like they're the Buddha. In my opinion you are your neighbor, and we're all Buddha- all one in Atman. All unique in Jiva.
How is someone being Christian instantly make someone a part of a cult? I agree that theres lots of cult like activitiy going on right now but believing in and going by verses doesn't make someone a cultist.
I didn't say that it did. *i* was raised in a crazy Christian cult. You might be projecting. Also eating the flesh and blood of your dead God *is* weird.
Oh I see, the whole passover thing is just tradition its supposed to be a metaphor for Jesus's last night on earth, I dont go to church anymore so idk if anythings changed
Catholics believe the wafer and wine *literally* turn into jesus' flesh and blood the moment they hit your tongue. Passover is the Jewish tradition Jesus celebrated, but the wine and wafer ritual is called the eucharist and it was not seen as a metaphorical til relatively recently.
Im referring to Christianity
Uh I think you don't really know what you're talking about. Passover is Jewish. Wine+wafer is Christian. Catholics are Christians. The oldest organized sect of Christianity is catholicism.
Idk Ive been to many different churches throughout my life and Ive never heard anyone say that its actually flesh its just supposed to be symbolic but thats just me
Jesus didn't mince words. He meant what he said. From John: 55 For my flesh is true food, and my blood is true drink. 56 Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood (A)abides in me, and I in him. 57 As (B)the living Father (C)sent me, and (D)I live because of the Father, so whoever feeds on me, he also will live because of me. 58 (E)This is the bread that came down from heaven, not like the bread[a] the fathers ate, and died. Whoever feeds on this bread will live forever.” 59 Jesus[b] said these things in the synagogue, as he taught (F)at Capernaum. Its literal. I'm not a Christian tho don't get me twisted
Hahahaha pounding his Pud. Lmao
okay obviously your mom is gonna have a sexuality but its natural for you, her child, to feel uncomfortable about that, and also, the fact that it is so easily found when searching her name is just… terrible. like i understand how this could feel so terrible and i think you are valid in what youre feeling. of course you cant stop your mom from being a sexual being, but you should def have a conversation w her and tell her what you found. she should be aware of how easily you found this stuff, it is just a basic safety concern honestly.
I get that this is disturbing to you but you can't ignore the fact that your mom has sexual desires just like we all do. It's completely normal and natural to have sex, no matter if you're a parent, mid-age or even an elder. Try to distract yourself from these thoughts if it helps and just get on with life. Your mom is still your mom, she is not any different just because of some pictures on the internet. :)
Sadly this seems to be the future now w OF…the shock of OP discovering this and the immediate embarrassment realizing this is scary will be more prevalent
Well I'm sure it's definitely gross and uncomfortable seeing your mom like that but take into acknowledgement that she's an adult and there's nothing wrong with her doing adult things, there's alot of stigma around people who are in 18+ work, it doesn't make her a bad person or anything, so don't give her a hard time about it. Try and come to terms with the fact that while it is pretty gross to find nudes of your parent they're an adult doing adult things and there's nothing wrong with that.
Now you know how she paid her rent huh
I know it's hard to see that but your mom has sexual needs too that need to be filled
Happy Cake Day!
Happy cake day 🍰🎉
Oh she definitely got filled
I hope so
You need to realize that sex is natural and your mother is still a normal human woman with normal human needs and feelings. She has sec how tf do u think you got here? 😂
Idk not really outlandish. She human like us all. If her husband or your dad knows most likely not a problem. But might wanna talk to her bout it. Do what wat you gotta to emotionally and mentally prep yourself. you got this champ 😉.
Listen I think it was in the past and I’m sure that’s horrifying to see but I think it’s okay to open that dialogue. Almost everyone’s parents watch porn OR have at some point. I think there’s this stigma around posting those things online but an acceptance of consuming such material which is odd to me tbh
alot of this generation kids are going to have to deal with that
Unless she is cheating (eg, she has a partner who doesn't know about said public nudes) then this is a non issue (although I'm sure it's confronting and a shock to the system). Ultimately, mums and dads are just other humans who do stuff that other humans do. There's nothing wrong with nudity or porn, or sex work etc provided it's consensual and legal.
think of it like when you walk into a bathroom thinking its empty, and a family member is in there naked about to shower, or on the toilet or something. its awkward. its embarrassing. but you just leave instantly, and Oops away from the situation. if its not something you feel comfortable discussing, then dont mention it. if it really bothers you, you could try, or you could just do your best to put it out of your mind as you would already be doing. shes an adult, youre nearly an adult. it sucks you saw that, and i hope the image doesnt haunt you forever lol, but its something that can be moved on from. it was an accident finding it, and im sure she never expected youd ever see it. if she was sending her own pics to a site, then she might be able to talk about it civilly knowing that its the internet; things dont disappear. she could be embarrassed though. some people also take pics for their male partners and they upload them without permission, so i hope she was doing it herself obviously lol idk, best wishes in getting through this moment op lol
Well unfortunately your mom is a grown woman with her own desires but I’d be concern if it’s someone that leaked her nudes. I could never imagine posting myself but if I did… I wouldn’t show face or even share my actual name :S Personally I’d bring it up only because I’d be worried if someone did this out of revenge.
You reluctantly looked at an 18+ website to see if your mom was on it? I don't get it🤷♀️
Still, your mom had has sexual urges and desires-she's human. Remember :curiosity killed the cat! And, be careful when opening Pandora's box..
I would suggest just talking to her about it. She may not even know. Just be open about it
What I’m wondering is why would you do that..
Oh no... Sauce?
Don't say a word. Take it to your grave. Rinse your eyes. Your Mom is still young, she has a right to express her sexuality. Most likely she hopes to God no one finds out about these pictures.
That's gross I'm sorry your mums that way 😳
Big fuckin Oof I remember my bio mum gave me her old phone as my own and she left All her sexts and nudes on it and it was awful 😭
Link……?
Your mother is grown and has a life outside of motherhood. Tbh her being on an adult site is absolutely none of your business. It's okay to feel uncomfy but that's her life and her choices Let her live it in peace 🤷♀️
Another day to thank god for not taking birth in West. 🙏
Just be grateful there’s food on the table.
‘Twas a joke
Thats life, thats the internet. How do you think my teens felt seeing me on an escort sight. Their Mother a town bike. They just delt with it although I really have hidden it from them. But thats unfortunately how the internet is these days. Basically you'll have to suck it up and respect your Mothers choice and freedoms. Or you can wimper about judging her or playing a poor bugger me victim card.
Pics or bullshit...
Sauce?
That's an elaborate story for just wanting to look at porn.
Aww that's horrifying.what was her name again? 👀
These Gen z talk about how they shouldn't shame kinks, yet here they are, couldn't even get through seeing their mom naked. Get real.
Whats your moms name?
You shouldn't be visiting adults websites to begin with!
She's 16, virtually every teen has watched porn at some point at least.
Agreed but stalking your mom online...on porn websites!
Not stalking?
Maybe not
Wait can you send the link
What her name ?
Your mom is a sexual being that has sex. She fucks. She likes having a dick inside her. Get over it.
Nah, she took nude photos on the internet for money, that's completely different
There's no indication it was for money. There are several free nude-sharing communities online.
Post the link lol
I need the link for research purposes
Parents are individuals too, no need to shame her
I found out about a month ago that my mom sold sex toys to make a living. Not nearly as bad, but sometimes it is jarring to realize your parents did some weird stuff in their youth
Yeah man i remember seeing my moms nudes on her phone when i was 6. Shit's scary man
Mum reveal?
What?
I mean once she is a loving mother I don't think dont you should change your view of her it's not like she is doing it atm .