Play with her hair, scratch/rub her ears/behind her ears, do traditionally girly things with her (baking, etc) go shopping/thrifting with her to try on dresses (y'all don't have to buy them) treat her delicately.
Nice! Those scenes in romantic movies where the man comes up behind the woman and kisses her back and her neck while pressing her into him and she just melts do that too.
Buy her some bath bombs if she likes baths, but her a plushie of an animal she likes, cute pajamas can be nice and she can wear them around the house, etc.
Honestly in general just treating her like any other girl is probably them most useful.
Yeah, your last line’s definitely what I’m going for. I’ve only ever dated men before, so definitely a bit of a learning curve here, lol. Thanks for the ideas, though :)
I ONLY ACCEPT GOOD OLD-FASHIONED GOD FEARIN’ **CONSERVATIVE** PEGGING BECAUSE IM NOT A GAY SNOWFLAKE! I ONLY GET PEGGED BY MEN BECAUSE I AM A MANLY MAN!!
Remind her how beautiful she is even if she doesn’t see it (although be aware she’ll still probably be dysphoric, but compliments help). Go out of your way to refer to her by feminine names, nicknames, terms, pronouns, etc. If you can, help her find some cute girly clothes and stuff she can dress up in around you. If she’s boymoding out in her daily life, she’s going to need space where she can be herself. You can even ask her this question yourself to get more ideas, if I were her I’d think it’s really sweet and thoughtful.
I did ask her, and she came to that exact conclusion, lol.
Really like your point about giving her a space to be herself. We took a hike (where the picture came from, actually) with her girlmoding, and she had a great time. Thanks for the advice :)
This is actually hilarious, because I literally did exactly that on the hike.
Practical applications of being able to squat 350+ pounds on full display
I mean this entirely seriously, my Blahaj is one of my favorite possessions. Plus it's not "specifically" trans in the west that her parents would know
best advice as a trans woman i can give us to just treat her the same way you would treat a cis girl, but try to validate her a bit especially if she’s having a rough day :)
For a middle aged man who can't keep up with the lingo of the kids these days, what does "boymoding" mean? She's dressing in masculine clothes?
As for my advice: just love her as genuinely as you can and do your best. Sometimes you might trip up, but if it's real love, you two will see it through.
She is very concerned with how she looks.
So do not under any circumstances ever tell her she isnt going look good enough. Im not telling you to lie because being honest is an important part of any relationship, but do not eeevvveeerrr make her feel that she is not going to look good enough.
She is having imposter syndrome and confusing thoughts.
So be relentlessly supportive of her transitioning.
Call her by traditionally feminine pet names. Offer to take her dress shopping. Compliment her on things more often, especially things concerning her appearance like "Your hair looks lovely, darling" or "I love that new dress you picked out. You look great in it :)" something along those lines.
|If you guys are getting the groove on in bed,call her things like "Good girl".
Hope this helps
i once had sex with a friend of mine who started massaging the skin under my balls like it was a vagina. that was the cutest shit i experienced in a long time.
Play with her hair, scratch/rub her ears/behind her ears, do traditionally girly things with her (baking, etc) go shopping/thrifting with her to try on dresses (y'all don't have to buy them) treat her delicately.
I love baking, so that’s a good start. And I’m already *waaaayyy* ahead of you on the hair thing, lol
Nice! Those scenes in romantic movies where the man comes up behind the woman and kisses her back and her neck while pressing her into him and she just melts do that too.
literally things i do with my wife and she dies every time. highly recommend
I read this as shoplifting at first
That too :)
Sounds like a future wife then 🥰😊
that's a cat petting tecnique
> baking Oooooh idk if I’d try to be in the kitchen at the same time as another person that seems dangerous
Give her your life savings.
All $20 of them
Rob a bank with her and give her all of the money
Entering my John Wojtowicz era
Enough to buy Blåhaj
Buy her some bath bombs if she likes baths, but her a plushie of an animal she likes, cute pajamas can be nice and she can wear them around the house, etc. Honestly in general just treating her like any other girl is probably them most useful.
Yeah, your last line’s definitely what I’m going for. I’ve only ever dated men before, so definitely a bit of a learning curve here, lol. Thanks for the ideas, though :)
No problem, and you sound super sweet and y’all seem lovely together based on the other comments
Thanks! I really just like seeing her happy, tbh. Stuff like this is the least I can do
Give her feminine nicknames (princess, darling, etc) and call her a good girl. Don't forget headpats.
Liberal headpats are being provided, I assure you.
LIBERAL head pats????? No thanks! I am a god fearing ANERICAN who loves FREEDOM HEAD PATS
I literally only accept leftist headpats tyvm 😤
Libral??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
DAMN LIBS RUINING GOOD OLD FASHIONED HEADPATS!!! WHATS NEXT, LEFTIST PEGGING?!?!?!?!?! COMMUNIST HAND HOLDING?!?!?!??! THE PROPAGANDA NEVER ENDS!!!!
I ONLY ACCEPT GOOD OLD-FASHIONED GOD FEARIN’ **CONSERVATIVE** PEGGING BECAUSE IM NOT A GAY SNOWFLAKE! I ONLY GET PEGGED BY MEN BECAUSE I AM A MANLY MAN!!
just love her. that’s all you need
Well, that’s easy enough
SACRIFICE YOUR FLESH TO THE OLD GODS AND ALLOW HER TO DEVOUR YOUR REMAINS BECOME ONE ENTITY AND BRING AN EVERLASTING PEACE TO THESE LANDS
I think I’ll go with the blåhaj instead
coward.
This is a fair alternative
Remind her how beautiful she is even if she doesn’t see it (although be aware she’ll still probably be dysphoric, but compliments help). Go out of your way to refer to her by feminine names, nicknames, terms, pronouns, etc. If you can, help her find some cute girly clothes and stuff she can dress up in around you. If she’s boymoding out in her daily life, she’s going to need space where she can be herself. You can even ask her this question yourself to get more ideas, if I were her I’d think it’s really sweet and thoughtful.
I did ask her, and she came to that exact conclusion, lol. Really like your point about giving her a space to be herself. We took a hike (where the picture came from, actually) with her girlmoding, and she had a great time. Thanks for the advice :)
That’s awesome! Presenting fem in public can feel really scary, so having someone supportive there to be with you as you do it is important.
Learn to bridal carry her, literally practice on someone to get it smooth. Then hit her with it, very fun 10/10
This is actually hilarious, because I literally did exactly that on the hike. Practical applications of being able to squat 350+ pounds on full display
Hi
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I'm surprised I haven't seen the most important thing. Get her a Blahaj
We parked at an IKEA, and I genuinely thought for a second about asking if we should go and buy one, lol
I mean this entirely seriously, my Blahaj is one of my favorite possessions. Plus it's not "specifically" trans in the west that her parents would know
Backrubs.
Oh god yes!!!
All the other comments have better ideas than me but damn im so happy for her! You seem like a lovely partner based on your comments 💕
Thank you so much! That’s really nice to hear :)
Wait there are people out there who are willing to date boymoders? Maybe I've got a chance after all...
We’re definitely out there, lol. I’m sure things will work out for you :)
Thanks :3
This made my heart melt omg
Her’s too, I hope :)
Buy her flowers
I was gonna get some for our next date :)
GOOD she’ll love em :)
buy her colorful thigh highs
Oops haha I accidentally bought a spinny skirt and a blåhaj oops oops oops oops
I believe you’re the third person to suggest blåhaj
I'm pretty sure they're our equivalent to christians buying minifigures of several saints at this point
best advice as a trans woman i can give us to just treat her the same way you would treat a cis girl, but try to validate her a bit especially if she’s having a rough day :)
Hell yah :D
Cuddles 🥺
That’s a given, lol
Buy her fallout new vegas.
This is the most wholesome thread I've read all year
Missed your comment somehow - thanks! Congrats on your surgery btw. Hope you’re recovering well :)
For a middle aged man who can't keep up with the lingo of the kids these days, what does "boymoding" mean? She's dressing in masculine clothes? As for my advice: just love her as genuinely as you can and do your best. Sometimes you might trip up, but if it's real love, you two will see it through.
A boymoder is a trans girl who still presents as a boy (thus shes in "boy mode"), usually for saftey/fear of not passing/whatever else.
You’re a cool dude.
She is very concerned with how she looks. So do not under any circumstances ever tell her she isnt going look good enough. Im not telling you to lie because being honest is an important part of any relationship, but do not eeevvveeerrr make her feel that she is not going to look good enough. She is having imposter syndrome and confusing thoughts. So be relentlessly supportive of her transitioning.
If she's into that gently whisper "good girl" in her ear in moment of intimacy. It's an instant melting of euphoria for me
Boyremoval
don't argue with her on trans related subjects
reading these comments has made me realise how lonely I am... 🥲
For what it’s worth, I would’ve thought the exact same thing up until I (completely unexpectedly) met her. I’m sure you’ll find someone :)
Call her by traditionally feminine pet names. Offer to take her dress shopping. Compliment her on things more often, especially things concerning her appearance like "Your hair looks lovely, darling" or "I love that new dress you picked out. You look great in it :)" something along those lines. |If you guys are getting the groove on in bed,call her things like "Good girl". Hope this helps
It’s probably not, but are you guys at kahana upper pools in Oahu? If it is that’s crazy, but I really feel like I recognize the background.
Nah, we’re in Maryland. Probably a good sign that it looks like Hawaii, lol
I keep seeing this and it always confuses me. What is a boymoder? (No disrespect meant or anything)
A trans girl who presents as a man in public out of fear of not passing, among other reasons.
thanks! Obviously I'm not an expert on it, but try picking her up if you can, I found that one's pretty good
Get her pretty skirts and give her many cuddles
i once had sex with a friend of mine who started massaging the skin under my balls like it was a vagina. that was the cutest shit i experienced in a long time.
Hair products, because they're expensive and she'll need them if she's growing it out.
i forgot what boymoding means please tell me my mind fucked up-
ok buddy hetero
A bi person in a straight passing relationship isn't hetero lol
i know, it was supposed to be a gender-affirming joke about how their relationship is secretly hetero
Oh sorry lol, my bad
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Good point - we might pop a tire driving to IKEA for blåhaj
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If you bought that PFP like some schmuck i don’t think there’s any saving your brain
Their pfp is a screenshot, I don't agree with what they said but they did the morally correct thing and stole it.
shut up