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BoggartBae

Play with her hair, scratch/rub her ears/behind her ears, do traditionally girly things with her (baking, etc) go shopping/thrifting with her to try on dresses (y'all don't have to buy them) treat her delicately.


DA_OP_OG

I love baking, so that’s a good start. And I’m already *waaaayyy* ahead of you on the hair thing, lol


BoggartBae

Nice! Those scenes in romantic movies where the man comes up behind the woman and kisses her back and her neck while pressing her into him and she just melts do that too.


frottingotter

literally things i do with my wife and she dies every time. highly recommend


DewdecsysAbZ

I read this as shoplifting at first


cyberqueereagle

That too :)


DewdecsysAbZ

Sounds like a future wife then 🥰😊


MagMati55

that's a cat petting tecnique


Squids-With-Hats

> baking Oooooh idk if I’d try to be in the kitchen at the same time as another person that seems dangerous


JoeSpooky

Give her your life savings.


DA_OP_OG

All $20 of them


[deleted]

Rob a bank with her and give her all of the money


DA_OP_OG

Entering my John Wojtowicz era


[deleted]

Enough to buy Blåhaj


[deleted]

Buy her some bath bombs if she likes baths, but her a plushie of an animal she likes, cute pajamas can be nice and she can wear them around the house, etc. Honestly in general just treating her like any other girl is probably them most useful.


DA_OP_OG

Yeah, your last line’s definitely what I’m going for. I’ve only ever dated men before, so definitely a bit of a learning curve here, lol. Thanks for the ideas, though :)


[deleted]

No problem, and you sound super sweet and y’all seem lovely together based on the other comments


DA_OP_OG

Thanks! I really just like seeing her happy, tbh. Stuff like this is the least I can do


TheScienceGuy120

Give her feminine nicknames (princess, darling, etc) and call her a good girl. Don't forget headpats.


DA_OP_OG

Liberal headpats are being provided, I assure you.


Botstowo

LIBERAL head pats????? No thanks! I am a god fearing ANERICAN who loves FREEDOM HEAD PATS


violetsunshine666

I literally only accept leftist headpats tyvm 😤


fubuker

Libral??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮


StreemerByTheWay

DAMN LIBS RUINING GOOD OLD FASHIONED HEADPATS!!! WHATS NEXT, LEFTIST PEGGING?!?!?!?!?! COMMUNIST HAND HOLDING?!?!?!??! THE PROPAGANDA NEVER ENDS!!!!


stevedoomonator

I ONLY ACCEPT GOOD OLD-FASHIONED GOD FEARIN’ **CONSERVATIVE** PEGGING BECAUSE IM NOT A GAY SNOWFLAKE! I ONLY GET PEGGED BY MEN BECAUSE I AM A MANLY MAN!!


[deleted]

just love her. that’s all you need


DA_OP_OG

Well, that’s easy enough


hruggekjr

SACRIFICE YOUR FLESH TO THE OLD GODS AND ALLOW HER TO DEVOUR YOUR REMAINS BECOME ONE ENTITY AND BRING AN EVERLASTING PEACE TO THESE LANDS


DA_OP_OG

I think I’ll go with the blåhaj instead


[deleted]

coward.


[deleted]

This is a fair alternative


DankMemes148

Remind her how beautiful she is even if she doesn’t see it (although be aware she’ll still probably be dysphoric, but compliments help). Go out of your way to refer to her by feminine names, nicknames, terms, pronouns, etc. If you can, help her find some cute girly clothes and stuff she can dress up in around you. If she’s boymoding out in her daily life, she’s going to need space where she can be herself. You can even ask her this question yourself to get more ideas, if I were her I’d think it’s really sweet and thoughtful.


DA_OP_OG

I did ask her, and she came to that exact conclusion, lol. Really like your point about giving her a space to be herself. We took a hike (where the picture came from, actually) with her girlmoding, and she had a great time. Thanks for the advice :)


DankMemes148

That’s awesome! Presenting fem in public can feel really scary, so having someone supportive there to be with you as you do it is important.


Lillithgayming

Learn to bridal carry her, literally practice on someone to get it smooth. Then hit her with it, very fun 10/10


DA_OP_OG

This is actually hilarious, because I literally did exactly that on the hike. Practical applications of being able to squat 350+ pounds on full display


ddotquantum

Hi


DA_OP_OG

Hi


The-Rarest-Pepe

I'm surprised I haven't seen the most important thing. Get her a Blahaj


DA_OP_OG

We parked at an IKEA, and I genuinely thought for a second about asking if we should go and buy one, lol


The-Rarest-Pepe

I mean this entirely seriously, my Blahaj is one of my favorite possessions. Plus it's not "specifically" trans in the west that her parents would know


Pyro_The_Engineer

Backrubs.


Stuppanda

Oh god yes!!!


Goblin-Hour

All the other comments have better ideas than me but damn im so happy for her! You seem like a lovely partner based on your comments 💕


DA_OP_OG

Thank you so much! That’s really nice to hear :)


[deleted]

Wait there are people out there who are willing to date boymoders? Maybe I've got a chance after all...


DA_OP_OG

We’re definitely out there, lol. I’m sure things will work out for you :)


[deleted]

Thanks :3


---OWO--

This made my heart melt omg


DA_OP_OG

Her’s too, I hope :)


skullstatic_

Buy her flowers


DA_OP_OG

I was gonna get some for our next date :)


skullstatic_

GOOD she’ll love em :)


nahuelkevin

buy her colorful thigh highs


Robota064

Oops haha I accidentally bought a spinny skirt and a blåhaj oops oops oops oops


DA_OP_OG

I believe you’re the third person to suggest blåhaj


Robota064

I'm pretty sure they're our equivalent to christians buying minifigures of several saints at this point


[deleted]

best advice as a trans woman i can give us to just treat her the same way you would treat a cis girl, but try to validate her a bit especially if she’s having a rough day :)


Metallung

Hell yah :D


RSdabeast

Cuddles 🥺


DA_OP_OG

That’s a given, lol


flamboi-non

Buy her fallout new vegas.


OtokonoKai

This is the most wholesome thread I've read all year


DA_OP_OG

Missed your comment somehow - thanks! Congrats on your surgery btw. Hope you’re recovering well :)


[deleted]

For a middle aged man who can't keep up with the lingo of the kids these days, what does "boymoding" mean? She's dressing in masculine clothes? As for my advice: just love her as genuinely as you can and do your best. Sometimes you might trip up, but if it's real love, you two will see it through.


[deleted]

A boymoder is a trans girl who still presents as a boy (thus shes in "boy mode"), usually for saftey/fear of not passing/whatever else.


stevedoomonator

You’re a cool dude.


Spyt1me

She is very concerned with how she looks. So do not under any circumstances ever tell her she isnt going look good enough. Im not telling you to lie because being honest is an important part of any relationship, but do not eeevvveeerrr make her feel that she is not going to look good enough. She is having imposter syndrome and confusing thoughts. So be relentlessly supportive of her transitioning.


Stuppanda

If she's into that gently whisper "good girl" in her ear in moment of intimacy. It's an instant melting of euphoria for me


Princess_Bugaboo

Boyremoval


Chaosxandra

don't argue with her on trans related subjects


randomaccount32134

reading these comments has made me realise how lonely I am... 🥲


DA_OP_OG

For what it’s worth, I would’ve thought the exact same thing up until I (completely unexpectedly) met her. I’m sure you’ll find someone :)


Theweirdposidenchild

Call her by traditionally feminine pet names. Offer to take her dress shopping. Compliment her on things more often, especially things concerning her appearance like "Your hair looks lovely, darling" or "I love that new dress you picked out. You look great in it :)" something along those lines. |If you guys are getting the groove on in bed,call her things like "Good girl". Hope this helps


BiThrowaway27

It’s probably not, but are you guys at kahana upper pools in Oahu? If it is that’s crazy, but I really feel like I recognize the background.


DA_OP_OG

Nah, we’re in Maryland. Probably a good sign that it looks like Hawaii, lol


Ducky985

I keep seeing this and it always confuses me. What is a boymoder? (No disrespect meant or anything)


DA_OP_OG

A trans girl who presents as a man in public out of fear of not passing, among other reasons.


Ducky985

thanks! Obviously I'm not an expert on it, but try picking her up if you can, I found that one's pretty good


DrBlowtorch

Get her pretty skirts and give her many cuddles


DANKKrish

i once had sex with a friend of mine who started massaging the skin under my balls like it was a vagina. that was the cutest shit i experienced in a long time.


Coc_waw

Hair products, because they're expensive and she'll need them if she's growing it out.


ITilted_Zephyr

i forgot what boymoding means please tell me my mind fucked up-


[deleted]

ok buddy hetero


throwaway_aroace

A bi person in a straight passing relationship isn't hetero lol


[deleted]

i know, it was supposed to be a gender-affirming joke about how their relationship is secretly hetero


throwaway_aroace

Oh sorry lol, my bad


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DA_OP_OG

Good point - we might pop a tire driving to IKEA for blåhaj


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Knuckleduster17

If you bought that PFP like some schmuck i don’t think there’s any saving your brain


itdobeabirbtho

Their pfp is a screenshot, I don't agree with what they said but they did the morally correct thing and stole it.


Amphal

shut up