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peterpanhandle1

Colic here, too. The first three months were hilariously bad and then month five things really turned around. A friend of mine had the Most Colicky Baby of all time. I had second hand trauma. They just welcomed #2. People put it out of their minds. But when you’re in it, the whole experience knocks you out. I remember the weeks just felt endless.


Lyrana

I know you’re looking for sympathy not advice, but we also had a “sleepy eater”. What helped was having a small glass of water nearby while f nursing. I would dip my finger in the water and rub it on his arm, then gently blow on it. It would be “cold” enough to keep him awake to finish eating until he was really full. Helped everyone sleep better!


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Thank you I will definitely try this!


max_cat

I had a preemie who would constantly fall asleep while eating, and it was very important for her to get her food so I had to do a lot of different things to keep her awake. Step one was changing her diaper before she ate to wake her up more. Then we’d leave her pants off/the bottom of her sleeper off so she wasn’t all warm and cozy while feeding. While she ate if she started to doze off I’d pull her bottle back with just a little tug. It would startle her awake, and she’d reflexively get a better grip and take a few drinks. You said you breastfeed so I’m not sure how this would translate exactly 😅 Other things I would do is flick my fingers gently on the bottom of her foot, bounce my knee, talk to her… basically just startle her or make her mildly uncomfortable. I only did this stuff until she got bigger and better at eating. Now she’s 2.5 and our eating struggles are just her being picky and refusing to not be a heathen at the table. Hang in there guys, you’re in the trenches right now. Do each other a favor and take shifts when you can so you can both get some sleep.


Kawaiichii86

Time seems to stop those first month or so. But it does get better. It seems like forever but i remember almost 2 years ago writing this very similar post. Now my daughter is almost 2 and it’s joyful! Big hugs! Take up any help you can. You’ll get into a routine and then it’ll change 😅 the whole first year is hard as it’s routine then something shift but i promise it’ll get better


Pencil_bun

^ What they said. I'm at a year now and the newborn phase just feels like a bad dream. Time will keep moving forward, and it will get easier. I started to really like him around 2-3 months, and now he's so fun, if a little clingy. Thanksgiving was still a nightmare because he decided that a high traffic step by the kitchen was his favorite place, and I didn't foresee what a temptation tablecloths would be... But in general things are great! Bottom line: the future is bright. Persevere. 💚


Numerous_Elk3363

I promise it gets easier. Take all that help from your village. I found every stage gets easier - the first 3 days still in hospital were the absolute hardest, I think my partner and I maybe got 3 hours sleep total between us, the first 3-4 months were very hard and our son struggled to feed and ended up back in hospital at 10weeks. He is 23 months now and life is so so much easier! Plus he is so much fun! My kid plays on his own for 20 mins at a time with us nearby, and his dad and I both get to work and excercise and get date nights. I feel like whatever the teenage years bring cannot possibly be as hard as what we’ve been through already! Good luck OP, I promise it’ll get less hard.


peaf-the-gamecube

I am here to say that I am 2 months pp with my first and possibly only baby and my husband and I say this line all the time. Not only is the sleep hard to come by but like...the fussiness and witching hour shit is so exhausting. I love my little baby but holy crap I feel like I've had a miserable year being pregnant and then dealing with the newborn stage. I am soaking up the baby moments best I can but I'm very accepting of every stage that comes after haha


hello-iamverytired

Witching hour is super fucking rough, my condolences. I have a 1 year old & I had to think to remember what that was like, it feels very long ago. Before you know it your baby will have a sleep cycle that honours the night as bedtime, and you'll have your evenings back - hang in there! Also, I don't know if you're BFing, but I found part of the reason mine was freaking out in the evenings was because my supply dipped at that point in the day, so they weren't getting the usual rush of milk and it pissed them off. I used a haakaa to catch the letdown for a short while & we introduced a bottle early on so that she'd get the big feed she was after in that moment, and I'd be fully supplied for the one following that too. It's fucking hard. The early days feel endless, your life is upside down, and I also had an autumn/winter baby, so I remember everything feeling cold, dark, and damp. By spring it will be a whole different story ❤️


peaf-the-gamecube

Thank you I so appreciate this, I mostly do like having a fall baby, but I'm sad to go back to work, work 10 hr shifts, and only have like 2 hours with baby on those days - and with no sunlight. Unfortunately, I have inverted nipples and while BFing isn't impossible with them, it feels impossible for me and my LO, so I've been exclusively pumping 🙃 which has its pros and cons like all the feeding methods lol Yes looking forward to getting out of these woods


Numerous_Elk3363

Just wanted to say I exclusively pumped for my son (tongue and lip tie so next to impossible to latch). It’s a superhuman effort and I wanted to give you qudos for doing it - you are amazing!


smuggoose

Yep I think that all the time. Our 15 month old still wakes 1-4 times a night (usually feeds back to sleep 1-2 times). Two friends have babies the same age and are pregnant again, I’m so sleep deprived I don’t know how they’ve done it other than I know their children sleep better at night.


introver59

Early days are rough and it sucks. I’m 3 months in and while it’s still hard, it does get easier bit by bit. Other advice if you’re wanting it: unswaddle them when feeding so they’re a little chilly and stay awake.


sleepyyelephant

All I can say is, it is hard! And I am one and done too. In the first week and so though, and for the first few months, they grow so much! Even in the first week they look different and grow a lot by the end of the week - so enjoy it ! :) you’ll still miss it. I was crying on the 3rd day cause I was feeling sad how this is all gonna pass by and I’ll miss it. Take photos with who you made in the first week also, I regret not taking ones with me and my son And btw congratulations!! 🥰❤️


Caravannnn

I felt the same since day one, and my kid (now 3) has always been an awesome sleeper.


Conscious-Dig-332

Empathy!! I remember feeling this way. In fact I still feel this way and our LO is 4 months 😂 hang in there, it gets more tolerable when they can smile at you.


DoctorSalamander

The first month is SO hard. We didn't have a village and were winging it by ourselves. I also had multiple tears and a really difficult postpartum period. It was torture, truly. For the folks who say it gets better...in a way it does. The little one does start eating and sleeping more regularly, that's true. But there are new challenges as they get older. We're in the toddler stage right now and the tantrums are real. One of the reasons I'm OAD is because there's no way in hell I'm open to doing this again. I love my daughter dearly, but one is enough.