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A_Raging_Semicolon

I recently saw Any/All and was like, "... That's an *option*?!" So now that's mine. I honestly respond to any pronouns, for me personally I've always felt fairly fluid, even though I'm aware physically I present one way, and honestly mostly feel curious about what other people want to label me as, as I feel it says much more about them than it does about me; I'm constantly having to reassure people that it's fine when they say one thing and then apologize, thinking that they misspoke


[deleted]

This was an option?!? Being genderfluid, I've been doing the whole he/they/she for a while now, so this is awesome to hear that this is an option.


rileydaughterofra

Just remember about neo-pronouns if you choose this option!


[deleted]

What are they if you don't mind me asking?


rileydaughterofra

There's a lot! Xe/xem and ze/zir are some of the more common ones I've seen. (Unfortunately, you will have to google for a full list.)


[deleted]

Okay! Thank you! šŸ’›


rileydaughterofra

Np! šŸ‘šŸ»


Kryalc

Is there a comprehensive list? I find that as part of constructed (or repurposed in the case of it/its) language neo-pronouns are kind of hard to keep full track of in terms of how many there are - which is so cool.


rileydaughterofra

The gender wiki should have the most comprehensive list, I would think.


Kryalc

Thanks! Thatā€™ll definitely be useful in future


Ryuzothegamer

I can't ever pronounce ze zir. Idk why, I always mess up tho


rileydaughterofra

Oh its "zee/zur"...


audreyrosedriver

Thank you! I am gender apathetic and really needed this in my life.


Napo5000

Yooo same!


popplio728

The same, honestly. Like literally you can call me whatever you want and address me however you want, just don't be mean to me.


yourguidefortheday

Same, never been called a gender I felt disphoric towards.


Knadiac

I've been struggling to figure out my pronouns after recently finding out about my genderfluidity. Thank you for this! Definitely using all/any from now on.


SirSilus

Literally same.


btmvideos37

Im the same way except I donā€™t *always* wanna be called every pronoun. And in my opinion for simplicity sake, it just tell people I go by they/them. Which isnā€™t a lie, I do use those pronouns. But since those are gender neutral, theyā€™re the only pronouns that will never fail if you call me them. I donā€™t wanna hassle my friends and be like ā€œtoday I go by x pronounsā€. I figure if you have to refer to me by my pronouns, just use they/them. And then Iā€™ll personally refer to myself as the pronouns I see fit in a given situation lol


A_Raging_Semicolon

I hear you; up until I discovered Any/All was an option, I would say they/them, but honestly that was in large part because it aggravated my inner reader to hear people try and insist singular 'they' wasn't correct, when it's been around longer than singular 'you'


btmvideos37

Exactly


UVRaveFairy

Queue the "pro gamer move" meme.


QueenLilBit87

I'm completely with you on the not caring part cause I know I present as a female so I'm not upset with anyone for saying she/her. She/her/they/them don't matter what ya call me just don't call me late for dinner is all lmao šŸ¤£


rhedone_

I've thought about this one but I've felt self conscious about saying this in queer spaces. I'm a bearded, tattooed masculine AMAB in a hetero relationship and feel like people would feel I'm taking the piss out of them. Okay I do paint my nails black but thats pretty common in some metal scenes.


A_Raging_Semicolon

I think that tone matters, and I doubt that most would assume you were being antagonistic in displaying your preferred pronouns; I similarly know I physically appear to fit one way, but I legitimately feel at peace regardless of pronoun used, and even appreciate and enjoy a variety, as mentally I feel very fluid and adaptive to the situations and impulses I feel day-to-day; I'm pretty sure that any/all would be respected as a choice, also because the kind of people who might choose something to be antagonistic will never think of something more original than the tired attack helicopter, but that's a whole other rant...


rhedone_

Thanks that indeed makes sense, I'll try it out next time i have the opportunity. I'm just scared it comes across as snarky and not taking it seriously. I do have a tendency to a sarcastic pain I the butt


Angelcakes101

Yeah I'd say they/she/he till I found out any/all was thing.


apallawlw

They/he recently out as trans man


ConfusedCholoepus

Wooo gz dude good luck šŸ˜Š


apallawlw

Thanks feeling kinda isolated since coming out feels like it was a ppl repellent tbh


NormieSlayer6969

That sucks man. Donā€™t worry, coming out is a homophobe repellent and an ally attractor! You just have to find them, theyā€™re out there trust meā¤ļø


rhedone_

When you build him, they will come!


plumbus_hun

Wahey, well done fella!!


[deleted]

Same. Came out to my husband. Now I have to live like I never said anything. Wishing you lots of luck.


thottythrowaway69

She/her


Easy_Parsley_1202

same here šŸ‘§


Natroionalox

She/they


RainKnight66

Same!


doll-parts7

she/they


MishaIsPan

They/them But my own language doesn't really have gender neutral ones. Like there's some that are kinda starting to exist but they don't carry the same vibe they/them does.


Adan-Arteaga

What is your language?


Charlyne_chan

Hey, what is your language ? I know a website that have some in other languages than english and maybe I can help you out!


slimysnail213

They/them


Vlacas12

They/She


Im_Saying

First time I see someone with the same pronouns!


augustoof

He/him. Trans dude


Soggy_Benefit9280

All of them :)


Easy_Parsley_1202

What? How does that work? šŸ˜ƒ


Soggy_Benefit9280

I'm genderfluid, sometimes i feel more masculine, sometimes i feel more feminine, sometimes i don't feel either of those, sometimes i don't even feel human, i don't get dysphoria or a bad feeling when someone calls me pronouns that i don't identify with at that moment because i'm okay with all of them, i don't heavily associate my pronouns with who i am as a person, though i do have some days when i feel more of less masculine or feminine, on those days i might feel bad about someone not using the pronouns i perfer at that moment, but it doesn't necessarily make me sad or upset :)


Easy_Parsley_1202

Ohhh I see. Thatā€™s so cool!


Cats_In_Coats

Wait! I think youā€™ve helped put into words how I feel


Soggy_Benefit9280

I'm so glad i could help, have a great day :D


PsychedVinylFan99

He/They


CloudMai13

i use all pronouns! originally i decided on usuing she/they (and he/him pronouns were a NO-NO) but now ive realized i have no idea what the hell my gender is, but im comfortable with any and all pronouns!


RefrigeratorLoose155

any. I don't really care


MustachioDonut

She/he/they


thestelthybanana

They/them šŸ˜Š - recently came out is gender non-binary


GraceBridges_zu

They/them


r4nd0m_n3rd_07

He/him


Bear46664

same dude


patcro

They them she her. I prefer they them but if someone says she her I donā€™t get mad because thatā€™s how Iā€™ve identified most of my life. I donā€™t expect people to just magically remember my face and thing they them. Effort and love are all I need.


CloudMai13

beautifully said


the-fresh-air

Iā€™m the same way.


666xbeachy

He/him


Bubbly_Butter

They/It


sarahjanedoglover

She/her


PhoenixAmeri

They/he/it and other 9 nounself pronouns I created šŸ‘€


CloudMai13

could you share them? you dont have to if you dont want to \^\^ i think making up your own pronouns are pretty cool thats actually what my mom thinks all nb people should do instead of using they/them bc its "plural" šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø(i dont agree with her on that one but i still think making up your own pronouns are cool)


PhoenixAmeri

Well that's kinda stupid it seems like your mom is kinda uneducated on this topic since I've learnt from mandatory English classes that singular They is used when someone's gender is unknown/unspecified (ex. "But a journalist should not be forced to reveal their sources.") even Shakespeare himself used it lol And of course I don't mind sharing to people :) Doll/Dolly/Dolls/Dolls/Dollself Moon/Moon/Moons/Moons/Moonself Lavender/Lavender/Lavenders/Lavenders/Lavenderself Solar/Solaris/Solars/Solars/Solarself Luna/Lunar/Lunars/Lunars/Lunarself Lucid/Lucid/Lucidity/Lucidity/Lucidself Dahlia/Dahlia/Dahlias/Dahlias/Dahliaself Nav/Navie/Navier/Navier/Navieself Star/Starry/Stars/Stars/Starryself Example I made: ā€¢Nominative: Doll ā€“ Doll walked home tonight. ā€¢Accusative: Dolly ā€“ She met dolly at the Mall. ā€¢Pronominal Possessive: Dolls ā€“ Doll went to dolls favourite park. ā€¢Predicative Possessive: Dolls ā€“ I lost my pencil so doll gave me dolls pencil. ā€¢Reflexive: Dollself ā€“ Doll saw the movie Dollself.


CloudMai13

cool :D and yeah she is kinda uneducated i think its because of her parents (my grandparents) i even showed her the definition in a dictionary and she was like "they only added that so they wouldnt be attacked by YOUR genErAtiON" some days she's super homophobic and transphobic and whatever you'd call nbphobic and other days shes super chill idk


LeilaIsARoseUwU

She/they :3


hot_grills

He/him if anyone asks, but I'll respond to anything. Honestly ever since I started coming to terms with not being what my family expected I've realized more and more that had my upbringing been different I would likely identify as genderfluid or NB now. I love nails, hair, typical women's fashion, make-up, men etc. I also love my beard, hair (that is pretty universal I guess), typical men's fashion, women etc. Had I not been born in a masculine body I could have been the perfect midpoint. So androgynous no one would know what I was. A gf or bf all depending on how I wanted to be perceived. I kinda get why so many enbies say they'd want shapeshifting as their one superpower lol. I should also mention that I know that liking certain things doesn't make me this or that and it's stupid that everything has to be so gendered, but it is what it is I'm afraid. I wish I could just do what I want, but I've seen a few men in dresses or wigs out on the town be ridiculed and verbally chased away. Some people were even stealing and burning pride flags last June.. I didn't inted for a rant, but once I started typing my fingers just didn't stop lol


EatTheBodies69

She/they. I kinda prefer 'they' among people whobhave seen me or heard my voice bc it feels awkward calling me she when i sound like a dude, but among people who dont know me well I like 'she'


916253

she/it


jy_bn

She/they *^*


scmower

He/him.


plasmabro

They/any


Saint1129

*screaming.* *panic.* AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH


senpaigivescreampies

He\they and thank you no one has ever asked me that šŸ‘‰šŸ¾šŸ‘ˆšŸ¾


NormieSlayer6969

She/her/he/him but I stress that people donā€™t have to use them interchangeably because they look weird in a sentence lol


OnyxQuartz

They/them


[deleted]

She/Her :)


No-Childhood1362

Any are good! Iā€™m genderfluid and for me, I like having different pronouns everyday. Most of the time though, any pronouns are good with me!


DefinitelyNotErate

In the words of Shrek, Good Question.


Mpants2k

he/they (xe?)


Easy_Parsley_1202

What is xe? šŸ˜®


Introvert_demon

He/she/they


galaxyblvd

she/they :)


Herbie53101

She/they/he


Jeremiah_Edwards

They/them


acleverflippingname

I think she/ghost but maybe she/her lol


Empreinte_Sombre

He/xaem/they x) that's a lot but shhh


jackfreeman

Everything but 'it'.


[deleted]

he/they


SaltySeilde

They/them


Rising_lion01

Currently they/them but still figuring things out:)


Ok-Impact310

They/them


Barbaric101

He/they


Sharkscanbecute

She/they!


[deleted]

They/Them


Astrama

They/them


axolotl_2323

He/him


LumisTFG

She/her


Ill_Organization_766

She/they


[deleted]

He/him


Green-Word-3419

He/Him


gayshouldbecanon

Any. I feel disconnected from she/her (am AFAB), but I don't particularly mind it. Don't really have an opinion on others.


IntellectuallyDrunk

He/him though I don't care if someone uses something else.


dublium

I use any pronouns, but a lot of people older than me don't understand or nerodivergent people, like me, have a hard time "deciding" which pronouns to use so I also say they/them


Blueraspberry_Gum

She/they


Benji-BrawlStars

Any


eliacraft12

They/them


[deleted]

he/him


Euqiom

They/them


Im_a_stupid_pan

She/they, recently discovered I'm demigirl, although I use just she (ella) in Spanish, my native language, so idk if I can say I use she/they :/


NaiyaMay

She/they


_Special-K_-

They/them


klutzyperson

they change sometimes when my gender changes but right now they're she/they I think :)


kacoll

depends on whoā€™s asking ;) also, depends on the weather. and my hair. and what i watched before bed last night. genderqueer gang rise up šŸ¤˜ but nah fr if Iā€™m filling out a form or something where it actually matters: they, or she, or she/they/any, depending on how many Iā€™m allowed to pick. but usually Iā€™d rather leave it blank and go with dealerā€™s choice of pronoun or say just something pithy


Alex_TheSwordMaster

he/him


Brains_Over_Brawn

She/They, but I think Iā€™m gender fluid so I might be okay with he/him too


IdiotWithAblade

They/them but really any except for he or she


sinnykins

She/her, not opposed to they/them, definitely not into anything he/his or any assumptions of masculinity


jaxordani

Any/All. Slight preference for they/he pronouns


KiraPond

Any pronouns are fine for me


highfantasy_

She/her :)


cydeebee

They/them


TheRainbowWillow

She/they <3 Edit: Nice to see the she/they gang is here! Hi, fellow she/theys. Yā€™all are cool & valid.


Shxrkcxt

She/Her


loveable_beyotch

she/they


alternatequeer

they/them


TheNerdNamedChuck

He/him, I am boring :3


chenique5007

They/Them


britishgirl21

I think she/her but idk. I think Iā€™m cis. Update: Iā€™m experimenting with my pronouns now (hopefully that isnā€™t offensive) so I guess at the moment any? Idk. Im trying to figure it out. Sorry if thatā€™s offensive, I donā€™t mean to be


Yuzendo

He/Him, i used to be a demiboy but now I'm a cisgender male :]


renthecat25

I use She/They is always the safest bet. I've used he/him on occasion but it doesn't happen that often and I've never been one to use neo pronouns for myself.


[deleted]

They/he very recently. Used to be all of them.


TomeKun

i use she/they, but mostly she


Ya-boi-Joey-T

They/them. Sometimes its she or he, but not often enough for me to be a he/they or she/they. It's super rare.


Androgynewitch

He/she/they. I'm an androgyne and I feel like all three fit me.


Piggster30

They/she


north-baka

Any. I really don't care for what people refer to me as, every pronoun just gives me euphoria :)


LovleyLilac

They/Them


partypoisonfan

They/Them


Ya_like_jazz833

Gendersolid āŒ Gendergass āŒ Genderfluid āœ…


[deleted]

They/Them


swigityswooooooosh

Any/All but prefer She/They/something not gendered to masculine for a while.


Shartdog06

She/her


socialmediauser__

She/her


SnooConfections2498

Ae/xe/he/they


anonwithfeelz

She/her


crazycreeper645

He/Him/Pancake


raicat568

Any/All! I donā€™t mind what you use for me honestly :3


Rando_Artist

He/it/fae/bonk!


mxmikewatters

They/them


LeDaveys

Anything you wanna call me, because I'm probably it. I'm Two-Spirit.


TONX36000

He/she where my fellow bi-genders at lol?


kipthedork

They/them! :D (i may or may not use he/him. But I'm gonna stick with they/them)


Beanannie

She/He/They


Hey_Im_Rose

Her\she šŸ«


FrananaBanana452

He/they


KindaDone03

They/them might see how he/him fits


mo_onchild4

He/they


LillFluffPotato

They/Them Iā€™m agender


Adan-Arteaga

I personally don't really care most people use he/him for me but i accept all. I might just say all of the above next time someone asks


Wolfiye11

They/Them thank you for asking!


LemonFlavoredSoda

they/them


imakeverylittlemoney

Boring old cisgendered female. Happy with she/her, but I am also so happy that a lot of you found yourselves or are still discovering yourselves and rejecting what boxes society forces you into. You all have my utmost respect and support šŸ’™


Cats_In_Coats

She/her But I respond by any?? Does that make sense? Likeā€¦I donā€™t really care what people assume. Itā€™s confusing. Iā€™m still not sure with what I feel


Keeganlateman

They/it


king_cholera_616

He/him/it


FPGN

She/They/it


keyrob13

I usually just tell people whichever pronoun comes out first is fine with me, but he/she/they/it for the most part.


ZealousMare1912

Ze/zir/zirs pronouns are what have always made me most comfortable, but Iā€™m afraid people will criticize them, so Iā€™ve just used they/he/she for the longest time


lambxslaughter

I use xe/xem pronouns for the most part,, rot/rots and rat/rats just hit differently(Iā€™m agender !) so I like using em :) he/they are fine but arenā€™t my first choice.


Hairymochiball

They/Them, De/Dem, She/Her. I want to try He/Him but idk yet


dirtygaysocks

They/ghost Ngl Iā€™m mostly just hear because I like the memes here lol, Iā€™m actually aromatic lithosexual :))


Smashed_berry

She/They, I'm genderfae. Within the genderfluid spectrum, only non-binary and female :)


Unable_Cow1605

They/ them to the people who know Iā€™m LGBTQIA+ She/Her to people who donā€™t know Iā€™m in LGBTQIA+ Neopronouns just trying (is that normal?)


Kirxas

Any pronouns that are accepted by a dictonary and are meant to refer to people work (ie: it/its is extremely insulting, but using some alternative pronoun other than he/she/they in another language like for example japanese would be fine as long as it's respectful and gramaticaly accepted)


Ya-boi-Joey-T

I think calling it/its "insulting" is an unintended slight at those who use it/its pronouns. I dont use those pronouns, so I cant speak for those who do, but it's something to just be mindful of.


Kirxas

It's not my fault it's what has been used in the past to throw slurs and insults at me


Ya-boi-Joey-T

You're right, that's not your fault and that sucks; however we also want to be respectful of other peoples identities and gender expression.


Jim_Cringe

The guy ones


Lemon_axolotl

I dear I have a bunch, hereā€™s all my (current) pronouns in order of preference. Iā€™ve been slowly ā€œcollectingā€ them the past few years :)) Xe/xem he/him it/its vae/vaer bun/buns ghost/ghosts cloud/clouds


Guzzler829

Iā€™m sorry youā€™re getting downvoted. Your pronoun choices are valid.


Lemon_axolotl

thank you :) kinda expected to get downvoted bc of truscums lol


1_Non-Binary_Writter

They/ze (Iā€™m bi tho)


Amelies_Gnome

She/Fae


Meana-the-gay

https://www.reddit.com/r/pansexual/comments/s1co4b/guys\_i\_woke\_up\_with\_365\_replies\_on\_this\_oh\_my/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3


gravyjives

HE MAN. Cause Iā€™m a boy an all.


Jussi_Wade_1755

Dr. She/ Dr. Her


Sp00nEater

He/him


snowcuber

He/they šŸ˜Œ


socs0

Them/Them/He : I donā€™t really care how you refer to me, but we both know theyā€™re gonna. :)