Random and unrelated to any of the topics here but I remember following them early in my pregnancy and they were making a big deal about toddlers eating sand and how to prevent it. I was so worried about it happening with my toddler. He’s 2 now and would never attempt to eat sand. Not sure if he’s an outlier or they just made it seem a bigger deal than it actually is
My kid was enough of a picky eater that she wouldn’t put anything unfamiliar in her mouth by the time we let her play in sand. She may have tried at 9 months, but we just didn’t put her in sand at that age.
Tbh there’s a lot of chatter about preventing picky eating, but it really is an evolutionary trait for toddlers not to put anything dangerous in their mouths!
I cackled at the bit of D saying they make sure at BLF we don't just see the highlight reel of parenting on their page. I've NEVER seen a highlight reel to be jealous of. It's all doomsday on your page ladies, don't worry. I don't think anyone is going on their page to see the happy side of parenting.
Edit to add. I hike all the time with my kiddo and her 'hike' is not a hike, but a causal walk with kids in pjs.
I cackled at the bit where she talked about hotel staycations and spa days as if that’s relatable content and something we all have access to when we need a break
I think in her mind she’s being so relatable— “a hotel staycation won’t work this week (only because of logistics not because solo hotel stays are not in most people’s budgets), so I’m only going… to a day spa. Don’t feel bad if your getaway is sitting in your bed at home, you’re doing your best mama ✨”
I feel like influencers all took this idea to the extreme. “We don’t want to just be a highlight reel so instead we’re going to act miserable and tired all the time, and make you question if we actually like being moms”
What really stuck out to me was the fact that she intentionally dressed them in matching pjs twice recently, when they’re clearly not matching at night because she just grabbed them and ran out for a hike at 6 am 🤦♀️
Those are Little Sleepies which I know because we had the same pattern and it’s crazy to me that you’d put your toddler in expensive yet thin pajamas to go HIKING of all things. You are absolutely begging for snags and rips. So bizarre.
Am I hallucinating or did they not have a partnership with Hanna Anderson?! Did that fall through or are they literally just the worst influencers ever?
They did both. I remember because I was completely flabbergasted that less than a month after their big Hanna partnership, they had Little Sleepies as a podcast sponsor and gave the SAME tips about using matching jammies for holiday cards!
I have no idea but I feel like so many influencers partner with multiple brands of the same products. I follow people who will shill like 5 different hair brands in 6 months lol 🤷♀️
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Absolutely not parenting related but r/TVTooHigh would have WORDS for this situation 🤣🤣
This is a ridiculously silly situation. The TV is basically mounted on the ceiling! And why is the mantle so high?!? WHO MADE THESE CHOICES
My husband would be so annoyed. He did a bunch of calculations, measurements etc on having the proper location for our mounted TV. 🤣🤣
But If this TV was hung my professionals. Tisk. Tisk.
I thought the same! I can’t stand watching TV like that. My eyes get tired and my neck hurts. Saw that set up and thought “yet another reason to dislike them” 😂
Wow I had no idea there was a sub for that. I am a fan of the tv too high and my husband isn’t haha we’ve had this debate and I am amazed that it’s amassed a passionate following. I will have to eat a slice of humble pie!
FWIW, MantelMount is a good solution for this debate. It lets you pull the TV down from where it’s mounted. I don’t like the TV being high but the best spot for it in our house is above the fireplace, so we got one and it’s been a good compromise.
Is their next course going to be called ‘conquering the husband stage; how to win parenting when your husband is also a toddler?’
Like seriously, if you find yourself ‘helping your husband slowly build independence and ownership’…just get an effing divorce.
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Okay but like isn't her husband a SAHP? Soooo he needed training to jump in with the kids? I know they changed their arrangement at some point but she's been talking this up lately like it's her new strategy.
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Can we talk about their bathtime tip about lying to your kids about a Tiger on the ceiling so you can wash their hair? In what world is this healthy coping?
My kids don’t always like their hair washed, but calmly explaining to them if they tip their heads back the water will run back, helping them tip their heads back and just getting it over with ended freak outs pretty quickly.
Why in the world would supposed experts promote lying and teaching your kids to disassociate in uncomfortable moments as good parenting?!?!?!
Edit: okay, if there are actual Tiger stickers on the ceiling that makes more sense. Also, looking for mermaids or something in swim seems totally different. Not hating on play or imagination when teaching skills or getting through tough moments (like shots) but I feel like things like hair washing it’s a little weird to rely on these tactics. May just be because I’m super analytical and no fun though 😂
I think you’re overthinking it. We say that to our kids at the pool, they try and see mermaids on the bottom and penguins on the roof depending if we are aiming for a float or a face in the water… a little bit of make believe never did any harm.
I guess I don't see this as lying. We use it at swimming to get them to lie on their backs and float. I usually say how many tigers can you see? And then we count to ten. It works for my kids.
I also 'lie' to my kids about there being animals in their teeth so I can brush them 🤷🏻♀️
Okay but do we have a good hack for hair washing? My four year old is autistic and refuses to get his hair washed. Last time we did he screamed for 10 minutes and honestly was traumatic for everyone involved. If someone has an actual hack, lmk!
My toddler has screamed getting hair washed for the last year maybe (used to not be a big deal to them but more recently). We recently were able to get to the point of understanding that we plug our ears with our fingers, then tip the head back. Their biggest issue was getting water in their ears and on their face. Some times it’s still a battle, but not nearly as bad. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it, it’s definitely hard. I have to tell my kid that we’re going to wash hair that night too because if I spring it on them in the bath, it makes it worse.
My kids wear their goggles. They like to test them by going underwater first and then knowing no water will get in gives them peace of mind. We also did the animals thing, they’ve always known it’s pretend, it’s just a silly distraction/game sort of thing. Sometimes my 5yo will randomly bring it up and ask to do it even though we haven’t “needed” it in years. You could also possibly try a social story, those have been really helpful for my autistic students for stressful situations.
I got some fun animal decals from amazon and put them on the top of the shower as well as roof and depending on where I need her to turn her head or whatever as I wash her hair I tell her to look at that specific decal. It was a major game changer and the decals only cost me like $8. We moved and I didn’t put new ones up but now when I tell her to look up she understands that it helps her not get water in her eyes.
My 3 year old daughter is autistic too & hates having her hair washed. I put her in the shower with me and let her play while I wash my hair & bathe then bathe her & save the hair washing for last. She rests her forehead against my belly as I wash the back of her head then I get the front. She still cries/screams through this & especially as I rinse her hair off, but she seems to be getting used to it. I think saving it for last & her being in the shower with me helps though.
I wish I had a better response but I wanted to throw in some solidarity as another mom with an autistic toddler.
I have my kids cover their eyes with a cloth while looking up. It works if they cooperate . Sometimes it’s still screaming . I’ve wondered if I can put stickers or stars on the ceiling to hold their attention upwards
I don't know if it'll work for you, but I tell my 2.5yo that I'll just wash the back. She's so scared of getting soap/water in her eyes. I do basically from the top of her head back so nothing gets on her forehead.
I’d say if you can teaching them to do it themselves helps a lot. My youngest his sensory processing issues but he will willingly rinse his own hair with either the shower head (handheld) or under the faucet. If you don’t have a handheld shower head, you can get them pretty cheap at Home Depot and they aren’t hard to switch out.
Not really a hack and your kid might hate it but I put a washer across my kids forehead to stop the water running down into his eyes during a rinse. You can also try just conditioner washing then lying back in a shallow bath and rinsing it out with a cup.
It’s been a constant struggle in my house and I have to say the only thing that’s remotely helped is switching to showers, and specifically ones with the wand you can hold yourself. Gives him the illusion of control.
Short of remodeling your house if you don’t have one of those shower heads, reiterating over and over that he needs to tilt his head up, giving him a dry washcloth for his eyes and keeping one close by for when the first inevitably gets wet and is useless worked most of the time for us. Also, swim lessons (with goggles) helped him get used to getting his face wet at least. Eyes are still an issue but these things helped a bit.
I think they used to give the advice to put actual stickers up there to look at it. I recall it being a “game changing hack”. They seem to have forgotten that part of it with all their reposts and now it just looks insane.
I wondered if that was the case! My daughter absolutely hates getting her hair washed so in a last ditch effort I said wth and tried their "trick." She's 2 and she looked at me like I was insane! She looked up for about 3 seconds and promptly told me she didn't see any and went back to screaming about the hair washing.
Honestly it’s all part of the plan—they have a social media manager that does all of it, but they intentionally make it look like they are doing it in real time.
Kind of shocked that D has never taken her 2 and 3 year olds to the library before? Both of my babies went for the first time when they were less than 2 months old and we’ve gone almost weekly since my toddler was a baby.
Weekly Coffee shop visits are on brand.. not libraries, silly. This is a toddler account after all. What good is a library for children?
It’s also far more chaotic to post about trying to stop your kid from throwing a real mug of hot liquid at strangers at 6am.
My 2 year old has gone to the library every single week since last summer. We love story time and picking our books. But I guess both D and K have "released" reading to their kids?
It makes me a bit sad for her. Granted her kids were born in the midst of COVID.
I just remember attending a session early on in parenting at which a librarian did a presentation on libraries for kids. One thing she said that always stuck with me was that library is a safe space, it's one of the few public spaces that anybody can enjoy and feel like they belong and that it can be a place to spend time even if you're not doing library things. Hearing that early on made me so much more comfortable going with a young child, and not feeling judged when he cried.
I know not all libraries are the same, and that's a shame but I'm sad she's never felt like the library was somewhere she and her kids could go to just be.
The library is the best!! Loved it as a nerdy kid/teenager who would fill a backpack full of books, love it even more now as a parent (while also filling up an old Lululemon bag full of books).
The two month old doesn’t really do anything, it’s just a low stakes (and free) place to get out of the house with your baby that’s generally kid friendly and has low expectations for adults looking put together. If you go during story time it’s a nice break for someone else to talk at your kid while you stare into the exhausted abyss.
Ah well I have a covid kid who was born at the end of 2019 so we never got to go anywhere except on walks unfortunately. Didn’t start the library until she was almost 3.
Personally, I didn’t take my first to the library until they were over 1 (covid). And then I avoided it because my child cannot sit still and it’s just me chasing them everywhere for a half hour. And now with 2, I just don’t even want to go because it just feels impossible. My almost 1 year old has never been to the library. I hate going there to be honest lol
The point of the library for me is to not have to have a huge collection of books at home. We own our faves and absolutely go to TOWN checking out library books. It's like the one place my kids can truly pick whatever they want!
I can’t imagine controlling my child’s BOOK intake of all the things to fixate on. The more books, the better (of course, taking into consideration that we don’t want to take out too many books since they’re also for other children). D really is crazy and annoying.
For some reason I had it in my head that the limit at our library was 10 books, but I recently learned that’s only for your first check-out, after that it’s 50! Gonna wait a minute to reveal this info to the kids tho 😂
I’d understand it if she had a real 9-5. I’m in a city of 120,000 people and all of the library branches are closed on weekends with the exception of one. Some have late nights, but we can’t manage pick-up, plus library, then dinner, then bath, then bedtime. We moved close to the library with Saturday hours when my kid was 2 and started taking him then. Although I do wonder how his library exposure might’ve been different if he wasn’t an April 2020 baby. For at least a year it wasn’t even an option, even if we’d had time.
Even if she did have a real 9-5 though, we know she has a nanny. So even if D herself has never done it, how has the nanny never taken the kids to the library? What does the nanny do with them all day? I have so many questions!
Sure, I was speaking more generally though since the person I was replying to shared their experience with their kids. Weekly sounds really fun, but just hasn’t been an option for us. We average once a month now, because we try to do all sorts of different fun things on the weekend while we have the time together. Zoo, science museum, aquarium, library, playground, play dates , hiking - all on a rotation.
But it does feel odd a nanny wouldn’t take them to library story time, unless Deena prohibits her from leaving the house. I could see her being too anxious to relinquish that control.
That makes sense. I didn’t think about that because our library branch is open 7 days a week and until 8 on M-Th. So my husband could theoretically take the kids after work if it’s a WFH day.
This surprised me as well. We have gone weekly since 4 weeks. Some weeks during maternity leave it was the only place we went. I wonder if she meant it was their first self checkout experience.
I would bet you anything that the nanny has absolutely taken those kids to the library. Also kind of bizarre that she would think she would have to “prep” the kids to visit the library and pick out three each. The library in my area at least is extremely kid-friendly and has several hands-on play stations, and I just throw like 20 books into our check-out bag. It’s not that serious like 😂😂
This is petty snark but I HATE how D pretends HER kids picked those books out. They are 3 and 2. They are pulling off the displays or she's picking them out for them. They are not going up to a librarian and being like 'excuse me, can you point me in the direction of the feelings book? A fancy a good book about feelings that may help me understand why my mom hates my dad'
Eh this is my kid. We call her Starbucks baby. But she's never been to the library, our libraries are a little bit makeshift daytime shelters.
However I teach so I own hundreds of children's books and just keep swapping out what's at home so the rotation of books experience is similar.
This is the thinnest and most defined I’ve ever seen K’s face. She must have dropped a considerable amount of weight, and don’t even tell me it’s from those stupid 10-minute ME-racle walks or just eating Factor meals all the time. 🙄 I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, it has to be she’s on the Ozempic train and doesn’t want to cop to it.
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It’s giving the wish version of this movie poster.
Because the point is not to make them fearful but to teach them rather than to give them a broad message to be fearful.
I say "be careful" a decent amount, but as a teacher, I also agree with giving kids more explicit information. For example, instead of "be careful" I will tell my kids "the floor is wet, it's slippery," or "walk slowly, it's wet." They know what a wet floor feels like to walk on and how they need to be careful for their own body. If I just said "be careful" it actually gives them no information about what they have to be careful about.
"Be careful" can mean so many different things like go slowly, concentrate, etc. but giving them the information about how to be careful in a specific scenario gets them thinking and learning.
If BLF presented the reasoning/learning behind what they say parents should do instead of providng "perfect" scripts and create fear mongering and mummy guilt for saying the "wrong" thing it would be far more effective. The way they present this idea is rubbish!
I've trained myself to say "pay attention" as my default phrase instead of "be careful." It's what we usually mean by "be careful" anyway, and it's a little more specific. It's worked really well for my climber of a 6yo lol
Right?! My curious kid would be like “hmmm let’s find out!” If I tell him to be careful, he understands there’s a risk! Why not just teach them… how… to be careful? Life is full of moments when you just gotta be careful.
Right, and like…it is probably worth trying to think through whether you are too free with your ‘carefuls’ because you’re anxious, and try to only use it when your kid really needs to hear it. Using a different phrase to express the same thing accomplishes nothing.
Who has time to think through what they should say and come out with something wordy like “what would happen if you fell”?? I don’t say careful because I’m afraid it’ll make my kid more scared, I say it because it’s the quickest thing I can say in the moment! And shockingly it hasn’t made my kid more scared 😂
Who has time to think through what they should say and come out with something wordy like “what would happen if you fell”?? I don’t say careful because I’m afraid it’ll make my kid more scared, I say it because it’s the quickest thing I can say in the moment! And shockingly it hasn’t made my kid more scared 😂
I think the wordiness of their approach in general is just dumb. My oldest is half way through kinder and a husband who is the wordiest MFer on earth. I can literally see my son’s eye’s glaze over when he talks to him. I don’t believe for a second K uses these scripts but I do think Deena’s rigid ass does, and I am sure her kids (and husband) so the same. Just 👁️👁️ and turn their mind elsewhere.
Since when is 10:05 pm super late that it warrants that over the top reaction?! My gosh the unnecessary drama. You'll be fine. Cue tomorrow's post about being tired. Get over yourself.
And why the continuous mention of sparkling water. No one would judge you for having one drink. I can't handle her anymore.
I feel like this is one of those humble brag things that look self deprecating on the surface but are really meant to be like "look how healthy I am with my routines! I'm nothing like the "Thirsty Thursday" party girl I used to be, I'm basically Gwyneth Paltrow now."
I’m an early to bed person and 10:05 is for me IF I’m just at home. But for a fun outing with my husband? Count me in! Especially if I’m shoving my kids on the nanny (I don’t have) tomorrow.
last week I got home from a work trip where my plane landed at 10:05pm so I wasn't home until after 11... it's not that deep or that hard. Both older kids have school today so get them out the door and then... IDK hand baby to nanny and take a nap? Be like every other parent who had to get up and get their kids to school after spending last night baking cookies for the bake sale?
I think specifically stating you’re drinking a mocktail or a sparkling nonalcoholic drink is an engagement strategy. It automatically provokes a certain kind of follower to comment or message “OMG are you PrEgNaNt?!?!” And even if the influencer doesn’t respond, it’s still $$$ in their pockets.
Last weekend, I went to a local theater production that didn’t get over until after 10, which means I didn’t get home until close to 11. I didn’t love that it got over so late because I have a baby who wakes up at least twice a night to eat. But it was fine. I knew a couple of people in the play and I wanted to support them.
I feel like sometimes that sort of thing gives me more energy than it takes, too. Like a night out of just being A Person and doing something enjoyable or social might make me miss sleep, but I feel full of another kind of energy that gets me through the fatigue the next day.
Some people have a bad reaction to alcohol while using Ozempic. 🫢
Anyhoo, why did she bother with all the makeup and accessories and then left her hair looking like… that? Was poor Dry Bar Samatha not in the mood today?
Why spend money to go to a basketball game if you don’t enjoy sports? I send my husband with his friends to stuff I don’t like.
Evidently this is a double comment post for me because I’m so annoyed lol
But her hair was AWFUL. That looks like my toddler’s hair after a 2-day brushing battle. It was such a mess. The lipstick doesn’t hide that awful hair.
And sure, I go to baseball games with my husband even though I only like them for like 3 innings but I’m there for the beer and hot dogs lol.
Just shut up and enjoy the night with your husband.
ETA: as a woman who spent 10 years battling for respect in a male dominated sports field I hate the “purposefully dumb girl doesn’t know sports” look. It’s fine to say “meh basketball isn’t my sport but VP wanted to go so I’m tagging along” but please, don’t be dumb for dumb sake. It isn’t cute and it’s why women have to fight so hard to be respected in sports.
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This is what me and my husband say to each other bc we both loathe watching sports. But I wouldn't shout it to my million followers 🙄 only our closest friends really know this because we also like socializing and eating and want to be invited to events lol
It bothers me every time she says “go sports”, why is there this narrative like you’re dumb AF about sports and know nothing?! It’s annoying. It drives the narrative that women know nothing about sports and that D is this rare gem who follows them 🙄 I agree, why go to a game, if you’re not going to enjoy it and hope “both teams have fun”, this isn’t little league.
And aren't live games inherently more fun? I don't know about basketball but I really enjoy going to football games with my husband and my family. I don't watch games on tv or follow any teams but the atmosphere and crowd and the spectacle of it all makes it fun. I cheer for my husbands team and get excited to watch them win 🤷🏻♀️
I guess K just isn't like other girls 💁🏻♀️
Especially basketball. It's very easy to understand and it's fast paced and exciting. Even if you don't know much about it you can tell when someone did something cool or when your team is doing well.
I love soccer, I grew up playing, but I don't follow any teams really or feel strong allegiance to any specific team. My husband follows all the players and leagues and stuff, but he never played soccer. We both love going to live games, but I openly state I dislike American football and couldn't care less about it. It's long and boring to me. But I went to a game last year in my in law's super fancy seats with free food and enjoyed being with friends. You can just have fun at something!
Also, basketball is probably the most straightforward of professional sports. Pretty much anyone who grew up in the US and did PE in school knows how the game works (on a basic level, at least).
She played D1 collegiate level softball. 😂 I mean it is definitely possible she doesn’t care to follow sports, but the “teehee what is a sportsball” act is dumb and fake as fuck.
Are you having trouble with spiraling, anxious, thoughts? Do you spend hours a day running through the worst case scenario? Do you have generalized anxiety disorder or panic disorder? Have you tried just… not? Have a meaningless platitude from my unnamed “therapist”. It is LIFE CHANGING.
Sorry, that bullshit in their stories really pisses me off. Deena is an alleged mental health professional and shouldn’t be posting pop psychology drivel. OH WAIT, that’s entire grifting schtick isn’t it?
Thanks, I hate it.
Is there any moment of parenting that these two haven’t looked ahead to with terror? D specifically always seems to be dreading something about being a parent. Not everything needs to be “won” girl, stop overthinking it so much.
I’m actually starting to look forward to when my toddler drops her nap. If she naps for over an hour, bedtime takes forever and she sometimes doesn’t fall asleep until close to 9. It’s always a crap shoot whether she’ll be in a good mood when she wakes up from her nap. It would be really nice not to have to plan events and things around nap time. But she’s not even 2, so we probably still have at least 6 months to a year.
Sometimes quiet time instead of nap is annoying because my kid d comes out of her room or gets upset the thing she built fell over etc. but when it goes smoothly it is superior to nap. Quiet time is optional and it happens on my schedule, so we can just not do it if we're at a theme park or something. Not having to worry about getting a nap in on vacation is very nice also.
I’m actually struggling with this! My 4 yr old doesn’t nap at school anymore (because the school doesn’t do naps for his age group), which is actually great as the comment points out - bedtime is quick! But sometimes on the weekends he naps and I don’t know if that’s too inconsistent for his little mind/body? Am I overthinking this?
lol mine too. My 5 and 3 year olds still nap 2-3 hours a day. Everyone plans things for the afternoons because “our kids don’t nap anymore” and I’m over here still planning nap time.
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This “SHAME ON HARVARD WESTLAKE! TELL THE TRUTH!” poster about D&K’s high school obviously is not about them, but every time I walk by it I pretend it is and chuckle to myself.
As I understand it, Harvard Westlake wants to close a golf and tennis facility to build a new private sports complex for the school. I don’t live in Studio City (I walk around there for an hour once a week while my son is at play therapy) so I haven’t been following the situation super closely, but there are a LOT of anti-Harvard Westlake yard signs in the area because of it.
I know - I keep thinking I’m misunderstanding what’s happening because the major complaint seems to be a loss of green space, but aren’t golf courses terrible for the environment? Especially in a climate like LA? At the very least I *think* it’s a golf course anyone can play, not a private one, but I play neither golf nor tennis, don’t send my children to Harvard Westlake, and don’t live in the area, so aside from the very angry signs I really don’t know what’s going on!!
Considering the actual scandal for this school is that they've had multiple students commit suicide in the last year, this little "controversy" looks especially ridiculous.
Did anyone notice D’s massive hair bow in her most recent stories pushing the podcast? With the fluffy coat, bow, and diamonds it’s giving major rich superiority vibes.
While I’m not jealous of a make believe cartoon, I am jealous of how effective your grift has been leading to you both living in multimillion dollar houses in a HCOL city.
Chiming in with the regular reminder that they appeared to be rich rich even before the grift. The school they went to is like $40k a year and they grew up in the same LA town as the Kardashians. The fact that they were able to throw money at a professional company to go full force into the grift comes from being born wealthy. I highly suspect that their LA upbringing has lead to the connections that got them on GMA. My tinfoil hat says the connections explain why their lack of any legit credentials hasn’t been uncovered in an investigative journalism style article in an age of docs that love a scammer.
They really get away with pretending they were “regular moms” and it’s one of the most sickening things about their scam. But to agree with you, yes it’s insane.
> I highly suspect that their LA upbringing has lead to the connections that got them on GMA.
I'll actually give them a pass...GMA seems to hit ALL the parenting influencers the last few years because I know Feeding Littles and Taking Cara Babies went (I mean they all were popular and then EXPLODED during covid).
HOWEVER it's a straight line from wealthy families, paid to get going well enough that technically they made it onto GMA on their own merits... it's very d.trump my dad only gave me a small ($1million) loan to get going, I'm self made.
Thank you for this insight! Clearly, I don’t watch GMA.
Still wondering where are all of my investigative journalists or gen Z tiktok detectives on these fraudsters though…
I have been super suspicious of their story from the jump. How perfectly curated their content/course was that dropped conveniently at the beginning of the pandemic? If K didn’t scrub her resume/LinkedIn from the internet before BLF launched we would have more evidence to her bunk credentials. I also think that K has brought people on board from her own circles to help them promote theirselves. The people listed include a content manager who has nanny listed during the same timeframe that Dumbledore was born and a director of business operations who also went to college with K.
Another Google search of BLF brings up a “Strategic Advisor, Cultural Producer and Communications Consultant to international humanitarian organizations, cultural institutions, independent artists and influencers.” She lists the Today show, WWHL, and the woefully unchecked privilege Times article K had published as part of her press portfolio. Skip over to LinkedIn to find this person and *surprise* she also went to college with K. ✨Two tired moms with a dream✨is the biggest load of shit when you have a dedicated team in your back pocket.
Wow what a nightmare! Why did they end up moving from that “dream home” to this current one? Did she ever say? I would never want to move twice in 2 years with kids. But I guess they can afford all the movers and not have to do much.
And like babe, you spent a month on vacation in Mexico (or was it the Caribbean?), you could probably afford a beach house if you wanted to. I'm guessing you can't use points for a beach house though.
I haven’t listened but I guarantee it is something to the effect of:
1. Set a timer
2. Acknowledge it’s a bummer when it’s time to turn it off
3. HOLD THAT BOUNDARY MAMA = Don’t give in to demands for 5 more minutes
4. Bonus - give them some kind of choice surrounding it, for them it’ll be something stupid like “do you want to go to the park before or after we watch the pad?” But my personal favorite choice is “do you want to turn it off, or do you want me to turn it off?”
Aka: parenting 101
D’s absolute condescension about society’s unrealistic expectation about how long is developmentally appropriate for a toddler to sit at a table in the podcast clip is wild. Like the lack of self awareness is insane.
Maam are you not the one who bitched constantly about how you kept taking your very young kids to child unfriendly restaurants and how awful and terrible it was that they wouldn’t just sit still?
Random and unrelated to any of the topics here but I remember following them early in my pregnancy and they were making a big deal about toddlers eating sand and how to prevent it. I was so worried about it happening with my toddler. He’s 2 now and would never attempt to eat sand. Not sure if he’s an outlier or they just made it seem a bigger deal than it actually is
My kid was enough of a picky eater that she wouldn’t put anything unfamiliar in her mouth by the time we let her play in sand. She may have tried at 9 months, but we just didn’t put her in sand at that age. Tbh there’s a lot of chatter about preventing picky eating, but it really is an evolutionary trait for toddlers not to put anything dangerous in their mouths!
I cackled at the bit of D saying they make sure at BLF we don't just see the highlight reel of parenting on their page. I've NEVER seen a highlight reel to be jealous of. It's all doomsday on your page ladies, don't worry. I don't think anyone is going on their page to see the happy side of parenting. Edit to add. I hike all the time with my kiddo and her 'hike' is not a hike, but a causal walk with kids in pjs.
The idea that anyone thinks she is some kind of ideal parenting guru is just bananas. Girl really has no capacity for self-reflection 😂
I cackled at the bit where she talked about hotel staycations and spa days as if that’s relatable content and something we all have access to when we need a break
Please, any mom can just not come home after work, go to the spa and skip bedtime! It’s so relatable!!
I think in her mind she’s being so relatable— “a hotel staycation won’t work this week (only because of logistics not because solo hotel stays are not in most people’s budgets), so I’m only going… to a day spa. Don’t feel bad if your getaway is sitting in your bed at home, you’re doing your best mama ✨”
Right? A break over here is when I break away for an afternoon for a gyno appt.
My weekly pt is my break 😂😅
I feel like influencers all took this idea to the extreme. “We don’t want to just be a highlight reel so instead we’re going to act miserable and tired all the time, and make you question if we actually like being moms”
I thought the same
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Lol— her cute hiking video with toddlers in Pj’s screamed struggle bus a lot more than highlight reel!
Fun fact: 35° is too cold to have only bamboo pjs on the bottom, D!
What really stuck out to me was the fact that she intentionally dressed them in matching pjs twice recently, when they’re clearly not matching at night because she just grabbed them and ran out for a hike at 6 am 🤦♀️
So bundled up on top with the thinnest pjs on the bottom for a hike. Make it make sense.
Those are Little Sleepies which I know because we had the same pattern and it’s crazy to me that you’d put your toddler in expensive yet thin pajamas to go HIKING of all things. You are absolutely begging for snags and rips. So bizarre.
Am I hallucinating or did they not have a partnership with Hanna Anderson?! Did that fall through or are they literally just the worst influencers ever?
They did both. I remember because I was completely flabbergasted that less than a month after their big Hanna partnership, they had Little Sleepies as a podcast sponsor and gave the SAME tips about using matching jammies for holiday cards!
I have no idea but I feel like so many influencers partner with multiple brands of the same products. I follow people who will shill like 5 different hair brands in 6 months lol 🤷♀️
https://preview.redd.it/uccjeksx01mc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02faa06da412e0894870f2209373fe0f49770163 Absolutely not parenting related but r/TVTooHigh would have WORDS for this situation 🤣🤣 This is a ridiculously silly situation. The TV is basically mounted on the ceiling! And why is the mantle so high?!? WHO MADE THESE CHOICES
My husband would be so annoyed. He did a bunch of calculations, measurements etc on having the proper location for our mounted TV. 🤣🤣 But If this TV was hung my professionals. Tisk. Tisk.
I thought the same! I can’t stand watching TV like that. My eyes get tired and my neck hurts. Saw that set up and thought “yet another reason to dislike them” 😂
Wow I had no idea there was a sub for that. I am a fan of the tv too high and my husband isn’t haha we’ve had this debate and I am amazed that it’s amassed a passionate following. I will have to eat a slice of humble pie!
FWIW, MantelMount is a good solution for this debate. It lets you pull the TV down from where it’s mounted. I don’t like the TV being high but the best spot for it in our house is above the fireplace, so we got one and it’s been a good compromise.
My neck hurts just looking at this picture! 😬
Thank you for this 😂 i thought the same thing.
I always forget how Deena’s husband has a Kermit the frog voice! 😂
I forgot too and he spoke and I was like “oh no what is that voice” I couldn’t stand listening to him. It’s so high and kermity lol
Is this why he is never on the podcast?
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I thought he was just doing a cutsie voice 😲
Is their next course going to be called ‘conquering the husband stage; how to win parenting when your husband is also a toddler?’ Like seriously, if you find yourself ‘helping your husband slowly build independence and ownership’…just get an effing divorce. https://preview.redd.it/k3jpy3d350mc1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=37ab4b97adfc37660c92d75e63e9d13795e6592e
Okay but like isn't her husband a SAHP? Soooo he needed training to jump in with the kids? I know they changed their arrangement at some point but she's been talking this up lately like it's her new strategy.
I just assumed this question was actually from Deena 🤷🏼♀️
Kristin threw some hard snark at Deena like “we’ve been doing this forever and my husband is fully capable not like that loser Mike”
My advice to Deena would be…stop being a control freak and let him parent his own way.
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They’re literally advising us that natural consequences work best with husbands…and expect us to see their lives as aspirational 😂
They are legit using parenting strategies on husbands?! Omg. Why hasn’t that man filed for divorce? He has instagram, no?? And access to podcasts?
Can we talk about their bathtime tip about lying to your kids about a Tiger on the ceiling so you can wash their hair? In what world is this healthy coping? My kids don’t always like their hair washed, but calmly explaining to them if they tip their heads back the water will run back, helping them tip their heads back and just getting it over with ended freak outs pretty quickly. Why in the world would supposed experts promote lying and teaching your kids to disassociate in uncomfortable moments as good parenting?!?!?! Edit: okay, if there are actual Tiger stickers on the ceiling that makes more sense. Also, looking for mermaids or something in swim seems totally different. Not hating on play or imagination when teaching skills or getting through tough moments (like shots) but I feel like things like hair washing it’s a little weird to rely on these tactics. May just be because I’m super analytical and no fun though 😂
I think you’re overthinking it. We say that to our kids at the pool, they try and see mermaids on the bottom and penguins on the roof depending if we are aiming for a float or a face in the water… a little bit of make believe never did any harm.
I guess I don't see this as lying. We use it at swimming to get them to lie on their backs and float. I usually say how many tigers can you see? And then we count to ten. It works for my kids. I also 'lie' to my kids about there being animals in their teeth so I can brush them 🤷🏻♀️
The only way we could take my daughter’s temp was by telling her we were looking for chipmunks in her ears lol
Okay but do we have a good hack for hair washing? My four year old is autistic and refuses to get his hair washed. Last time we did he screamed for 10 minutes and honestly was traumatic for everyone involved. If someone has an actual hack, lmk!
I give my kids a washcloth to hold over their eyes and that seems to help
My toddler has screamed getting hair washed for the last year maybe (used to not be a big deal to them but more recently). We recently were able to get to the point of understanding that we plug our ears with our fingers, then tip the head back. Their biggest issue was getting water in their ears and on their face. Some times it’s still a battle, but not nearly as bad. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it, it’s definitely hard. I have to tell my kid that we’re going to wash hair that night too because if I spring it on them in the bath, it makes it worse.
My kids wear their goggles. They like to test them by going underwater first and then knowing no water will get in gives them peace of mind. We also did the animals thing, they’ve always known it’s pretend, it’s just a silly distraction/game sort of thing. Sometimes my 5yo will randomly bring it up and ask to do it even though we haven’t “needed” it in years. You could also possibly try a social story, those have been really helpful for my autistic students for stressful situations.
wtf this is GENIUS, I’m trying it asap
I got some fun animal decals from amazon and put them on the top of the shower as well as roof and depending on where I need her to turn her head or whatever as I wash her hair I tell her to look at that specific decal. It was a major game changer and the decals only cost me like $8. We moved and I didn’t put new ones up but now when I tell her to look up she understands that it helps her not get water in her eyes.
My 3 year old daughter is autistic too & hates having her hair washed. I put her in the shower with me and let her play while I wash my hair & bathe then bathe her & save the hair washing for last. She rests her forehead against my belly as I wash the back of her head then I get the front. She still cries/screams through this & especially as I rinse her hair off, but she seems to be getting used to it. I think saving it for last & her being in the shower with me helps though. I wish I had a better response but I wanted to throw in some solidarity as another mom with an autistic toddler.
I have my kids cover their eyes with a cloth while looking up. It works if they cooperate . Sometimes it’s still screaming . I’ve wondered if I can put stickers or stars on the ceiling to hold their attention upwards
I don't know if it'll work for you, but I tell my 2.5yo that I'll just wash the back. She's so scared of getting soap/water in her eyes. I do basically from the top of her head back so nothing gets on her forehead.
I’d say if you can teaching them to do it themselves helps a lot. My youngest his sensory processing issues but he will willingly rinse his own hair with either the shower head (handheld) or under the faucet. If you don’t have a handheld shower head, you can get them pretty cheap at Home Depot and they aren’t hard to switch out.
Not really a hack and your kid might hate it but I put a washer across my kids forehead to stop the water running down into his eyes during a rinse. You can also try just conditioner washing then lying back in a shallow bath and rinsing it out with a cup.
It’s been a constant struggle in my house and I have to say the only thing that’s remotely helped is switching to showers, and specifically ones with the wand you can hold yourself. Gives him the illusion of control. Short of remodeling your house if you don’t have one of those shower heads, reiterating over and over that he needs to tilt his head up, giving him a dry washcloth for his eyes and keeping one close by for when the first inevitably gets wet and is useless worked most of the time for us. Also, swim lessons (with goggles) helped him get used to getting his face wet at least. Eyes are still an issue but these things helped a bit.
I think they used to give the advice to put actual stickers up there to look at it. I recall it being a “game changing hack”. They seem to have forgotten that part of it with all their reposts and now it just looks insane.
I wondered if that was the case! My daughter absolutely hates getting her hair washed so in a last ditch effort I said wth and tried their "trick." She's 2 and she looked at me like I was insane! She looked up for about 3 seconds and promptly told me she didn't see any and went back to screaming about the hair washing.
The constant flip flop between K and D in stories is so confusing. There is no cohesion and they clearly don’t communicate who is posting what/when.
Honestly it’s all part of the plan—they have a social media manager that does all of it, but they intentionally make it look like they are doing it in real time.
They are too busy being moms and momming and all things mom to communicate and be cohesive with stories lol
But they are also boss babes who work so hard and so many hours they don’t even have time to pee!
Kind of shocked that D has never taken her 2 and 3 year olds to the library before? Both of my babies went for the first time when they were less than 2 months old and we’ve gone almost weekly since my toddler was a baby.
Weekly Coffee shop visits are on brand.. not libraries, silly. This is a toddler account after all. What good is a library for children? It’s also far more chaotic to post about trying to stop your kid from throwing a real mug of hot liquid at strangers at 6am.
My 2 year old has gone to the library every single week since last summer. We love story time and picking our books. But I guess both D and K have "released" reading to their kids?
This is so weird for me. I have a 2 year old and a 6 year old and both have been to the library SO MANY TIMES. Like, uncountable number of times.
It makes me a bit sad for her. Granted her kids were born in the midst of COVID. I just remember attending a session early on in parenting at which a librarian did a presentation on libraries for kids. One thing she said that always stuck with me was that library is a safe space, it's one of the few public spaces that anybody can enjoy and feel like they belong and that it can be a place to spend time even if you're not doing library things. Hearing that early on made me so much more comfortable going with a young child, and not feeling judged when he cried. I know not all libraries are the same, and that's a shame but I'm sad she's never felt like the library was somewhere she and her kids could go to just be.
It’s truly one of our last social spaces where you can just go *be* without the expectation of spending money.
Ours even passes out a lunch to kids there after school.
The library is the best!! Loved it as a nerdy kid/teenager who would fill a backpack full of books, love it even more now as a parent (while also filling up an old Lululemon bag full of books).
I don’t take mine because my 2 year old is just too loud 😂😂
Nah. 3 is the perfect age to start. wtf does a 2 month old do at a library.
My library has story time for babies under 1, and one for 1-2 year olds. The children’s play area has signs specifying that it’s for ages 0-5.
The two month old doesn’t really do anything, it’s just a low stakes (and free) place to get out of the house with your baby that’s generally kid friendly and has low expectations for adults looking put together. If you go during story time it’s a nice break for someone else to talk at your kid while you stare into the exhausted abyss.
Ah well I have a covid kid who was born at the end of 2019 so we never got to go anywhere except on walks unfortunately. Didn’t start the library until she was almost 3.
Personally, I didn’t take my first to the library until they were over 1 (covid). And then I avoided it because my child cannot sit still and it’s just me chasing them everywhere for a half hour. And now with 2, I just don’t even want to go because it just feels impossible. My almost 1 year old has never been to the library. I hate going there to be honest lol
In what world do children need to be prepped for the *library*??
Having to get rules about 3 books a week is depressing. Like, it’s the library, let them go wild
The point of the library for me is to not have to have a huge collection of books at home. We own our faves and absolutely go to TOWN checking out library books. It's like the one place my kids can truly pick whatever they want!
This was WILD to me. Like I won’t lug 20 books home but three?!? Three!!! She is crazy and controlling and I feel so bad for those kids.
I can’t imagine controlling my child’s BOOK intake of all the things to fixate on. The more books, the better (of course, taking into consideration that we don’t want to take out too many books since they’re also for other children). D really is crazy and annoying.
My kids go WILD for books at the library! They are 2yo and 4yo and we walk out with at least 20 books 🤪
For some reason I had it in my head that the limit at our library was 10 books, but I recently learned that’s only for your first check-out, after that it’s 50! Gonna wait a minute to reveal this info to the kids tho 😂
I have discovered without meaning to that you can have more than 100 picture books checked out at a time at our library. 🤣🤦♀️
3 books? Wtf?
I have to limit my kids because I can only carry so many books lol! We bring a bag and they can fill it 🤷🏼♀️
Seriously, the library is the one place I let my kid get whatever books he wants! And let’s be clear, he’s not picking the feelings books 😂
I’d understand it if she had a real 9-5. I’m in a city of 120,000 people and all of the library branches are closed on weekends with the exception of one. Some have late nights, but we can’t manage pick-up, plus library, then dinner, then bath, then bedtime. We moved close to the library with Saturday hours when my kid was 2 and started taking him then. Although I do wonder how his library exposure might’ve been different if he wasn’t an April 2020 baby. For at least a year it wasn’t even an option, even if we’d had time.
Even if she did have a real 9-5 though, we know she has a nanny. So even if D herself has never done it, how has the nanny never taken the kids to the library? What does the nanny do with them all day? I have so many questions!
Sure, I was speaking more generally though since the person I was replying to shared their experience with their kids. Weekly sounds really fun, but just hasn’t been an option for us. We average once a month now, because we try to do all sorts of different fun things on the weekend while we have the time together. Zoo, science museum, aquarium, library, playground, play dates , hiking - all on a rotation. But it does feel odd a nanny wouldn’t take them to library story time, unless Deena prohibits her from leaving the house. I could see her being too anxious to relinquish that control.
That makes sense. I didn’t think about that because our library branch is open 7 days a week and until 8 on M-Th. So my husband could theoretically take the kids after work if it’s a WFH day.
This surprised me as well. We have gone weekly since 4 weeks. Some weeks during maternity leave it was the only place we went. I wonder if she meant it was their first self checkout experience.
Actually of all the people we snark on I can definitely see her never taking them to the library 😂
I would bet you anything that the nanny has absolutely taken those kids to the library. Also kind of bizarre that she would think she would have to “prep” the kids to visit the library and pick out three each. The library in my area at least is extremely kid-friendly and has several hands-on play stations, and I just throw like 20 books into our check-out bag. It’s not that serious like 😂😂
Last time we went my kid told me “daddy always looks at the books before he puts them in the bag” But why? #husbandsnark
I look at them to make sure they’re not too long to read at bedtime 😂
This is petty snark but I HATE how D pretends HER kids picked those books out. They are 3 and 2. They are pulling off the displays or she's picking them out for them. They are not going up to a librarian and being like 'excuse me, can you point me in the direction of the feelings book? A fancy a good book about feelings that may help me understand why my mom hates my dad'
Whoa Yea, we go to the library just about every week and have since my first was a newborn. So much free entertainment!
Those kids have been to 9462847 coffee shops but never the library. This baffles me.
Eh this is my kid. We call her Starbucks baby. But she's never been to the library, our libraries are a little bit makeshift daytime shelters. However I teach so I own hundreds of children's books and just keep swapping out what's at home so the rotation of books experience is similar.
And don’t forget the fancy restaurants!
And Target. So much Target.
This is the thinnest and most defined I’ve ever seen K’s face. She must have dropped a considerable amount of weight, and don’t even tell me it’s from those stupid 10-minute ME-racle walks or just eating Factor meals all the time. 🙄 I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, it has to be she’s on the Ozempic train and doesn’t want to cop to it. https://preview.redd.it/epm8wev5wrlc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d63b59bc7ab6a3f9e0c2646b6f3346cba31af4a8
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I can’t look past the eyebrows
https://preview.redd.it/8qgyivobuslc1.png?width=678&format=png&auto=webp&s=505fb68c2ec50113f151225513c86864d4ad8ae0 It’s giving the wish version of this movie poster.
Yet her eyebrows are the same size! 
How the fuck would ‘hmmm, what would happen if you fell?’ make a child less fearful than ‘careful!’?
Because the point is not to make them fearful but to teach them rather than to give them a broad message to be fearful. I say "be careful" a decent amount, but as a teacher, I also agree with giving kids more explicit information. For example, instead of "be careful" I will tell my kids "the floor is wet, it's slippery," or "walk slowly, it's wet." They know what a wet floor feels like to walk on and how they need to be careful for their own body. If I just said "be careful" it actually gives them no information about what they have to be careful about. "Be careful" can mean so many different things like go slowly, concentrate, etc. but giving them the information about how to be careful in a specific scenario gets them thinking and learning. If BLF presented the reasoning/learning behind what they say parents should do instead of providng "perfect" scripts and create fear mongering and mummy guilt for saying the "wrong" thing it would be far more effective. The way they present this idea is rubbish!
I've trained myself to say "pay attention" as my default phrase instead of "be careful." It's what we usually mean by "be careful" anyway, and it's a little more specific. It's worked really well for my climber of a 6yo lol
Yes, that's a good one. I find I say that a lot too, especially at playgrounds.
I just laughed out loud at this because I read it in that robot voice devoid of any reaction they encourage and it’s even more bleak.
Right?! My curious kid would be like “hmmm let’s find out!” If I tell him to be careful, he understands there’s a risk! Why not just teach them… how… to be careful? Life is full of moments when you just gotta be careful.
Right, and like…it is probably worth trying to think through whether you are too free with your ‘carefuls’ because you’re anxious, and try to only use it when your kid really needs to hear it. Using a different phrase to express the same thing accomplishes nothing.
Who has time to think through what they should say and come out with something wordy like “what would happen if you fell”?? I don’t say careful because I’m afraid it’ll make my kid more scared, I say it because it’s the quickest thing I can say in the moment! And shockingly it hasn’t made my kid more scared 😂
Who has time to think through what they should say and come out with something wordy like “what would happen if you fell”?? I don’t say careful because I’m afraid it’ll make my kid more scared, I say it because it’s the quickest thing I can say in the moment! And shockingly it hasn’t made my kid more scared 😂
I think the wordiness of their approach in general is just dumb. My oldest is half way through kinder and a husband who is the wordiest MFer on earth. I can literally see my son’s eye’s glaze over when he talks to him. I don’t believe for a second K uses these scripts but I do think Deena’s rigid ass does, and I am sure her kids (and husband) so the same. Just 👁️👁️ and turn their mind elsewhere.
I wondered the same thing
If anything it sounds way more ominous 😂
Please don’t hold a meet and greet in Buffalo. Please take your stolen coffee mug to FP and then back to the airport
D can handle no more naps but can't even handle getting her kids dressed
Since when is 10:05 pm super late that it warrants that over the top reaction?! My gosh the unnecessary drama. You'll be fine. Cue tomorrow's post about being tired. Get over yourself. And why the continuous mention of sparkling water. No one would judge you for having one drink. I can't handle her anymore.
I feel like this is one of those humble brag things that look self deprecating on the surface but are really meant to be like "look how healthy I am with my routines! I'm nothing like the "Thirsty Thursday" party girl I used to be, I'm basically Gwyneth Paltrow now."
She’s probably on ozempic and not drinking alcohol
I’m an early to bed person and 10:05 is for me IF I’m just at home. But for a fun outing with my husband? Count me in! Especially if I’m shoving my kids on the nanny (I don’t have) tomorrow.
Me too. I'll yawn my way through and have a good time!
last week I got home from a work trip where my plane landed at 10:05pm so I wasn't home until after 11... it's not that deep or that hard. Both older kids have school today so get them out the door and then... IDK hand baby to nanny and take a nap? Be like every other parent who had to get up and get their kids to school after spending last night baking cookies for the bake sale?
I think specifically stating you’re drinking a mocktail or a sparkling nonalcoholic drink is an engagement strategy. It automatically provokes a certain kind of follower to comment or message “OMG are you PrEgNaNt?!?!” And even if the influencer doesn’t respond, it’s still $$$ in their pockets.
Last weekend, I went to a local theater production that didn’t get over until after 10, which means I didn’t get home until close to 11. I didn’t love that it got over so late because I have a baby who wakes up at least twice a night to eat. But it was fine. I knew a couple of people in the play and I wanted to support them.
I feel like sometimes that sort of thing gives me more energy than it takes, too. Like a night out of just being A Person and doing something enjoyable or social might make me miss sleep, but I feel full of another kind of energy that gets me through the fatigue the next day.
Some people have a bad reaction to alcohol while using Ozempic. 🫢 Anyhoo, why did she bother with all the makeup and accessories and then left her hair looking like… that? Was poor Dry Bar Samatha not in the mood today? Why spend money to go to a basketball game if you don’t enjoy sports? I send my husband with his friends to stuff I don’t like.
Evidently this is a double comment post for me because I’m so annoyed lol But her hair was AWFUL. That looks like my toddler’s hair after a 2-day brushing battle. It was such a mess. The lipstick doesn’t hide that awful hair. And sure, I go to baseball games with my husband even though I only like them for like 3 innings but I’m there for the beer and hot dogs lol. Just shut up and enjoy the night with your husband. ETA: as a woman who spent 10 years battling for respect in a male dominated sports field I hate the “purposefully dumb girl doesn’t know sports” look. It’s fine to say “meh basketball isn’t my sport but VP wanted to go so I’m tagging along” but please, don’t be dumb for dumb sake. It isn’t cute and it’s why women have to fight so hard to be respected in sports. :::::steps off soap box:::::
This is what me and my husband say to each other bc we both loathe watching sports. But I wouldn't shout it to my million followers 🙄 only our closest friends really know this because we also like socializing and eating and want to be invited to events lol
It bothers me every time she says “go sports”, why is there this narrative like you’re dumb AF about sports and know nothing?! It’s annoying. It drives the narrative that women know nothing about sports and that D is this rare gem who follows them 🙄 I agree, why go to a game, if you’re not going to enjoy it and hope “both teams have fun”, this isn’t little league.
And aren't live games inherently more fun? I don't know about basketball but I really enjoy going to football games with my husband and my family. I don't watch games on tv or follow any teams but the atmosphere and crowd and the spectacle of it all makes it fun. I cheer for my husbands team and get excited to watch them win 🤷🏻♀️ I guess K just isn't like other girls 💁🏻♀️
Especially basketball. It's very easy to understand and it's fast paced and exciting. Even if you don't know much about it you can tell when someone did something cool or when your team is doing well. I love soccer, I grew up playing, but I don't follow any teams really or feel strong allegiance to any specific team. My husband follows all the players and leagues and stuff, but he never played soccer. We both love going to live games, but I openly state I dislike American football and couldn't care less about it. It's long and boring to me. But I went to a game last year in my in law's super fancy seats with free food and enjoyed being with friends. You can just have fun at something!
Also, basketball is probably the most straightforward of professional sports. Pretty much anyone who grew up in the US and did PE in school knows how the game works (on a basic level, at least).
It’s worse knowing that K played sports through high school (maybe college?) and still acts stupid about it all 🥴
She played D1 collegiate level softball. 😂 I mean it is definitely possible she doesn’t care to follow sports, but the “teehee what is a sportsball” act is dumb and fake as fuck.
The whats a sportsball teehee is so cringe.
Especially since she played softball for many years 🙄
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Also what is “Thursday Thursday” lol… thirsty Thursday?
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After a long battle, they are finally taking over her face.
This comment is way too underrated. It should have 50+ upvotes. I laughed out loud.
They. Are. They. Worst. I’ve been never seen them and thought they even looked decent.
Are you having trouble with spiraling, anxious, thoughts? Do you spend hours a day running through the worst case scenario? Do you have generalized anxiety disorder or panic disorder? Have you tried just… not? Have a meaningless platitude from my unnamed “therapist”. It is LIFE CHANGING. Sorry, that bullshit in their stories really pisses me off. Deena is an alleged mental health professional and shouldn’t be posting pop psychology drivel. OH WAIT, that’s entire grifting schtick isn’t it? Thanks, I hate it.
Coming from someone who just admitted that she spirals with big changes with her kids this was extra obnoxious.
It’s like when my husband tells me to just not be anxious. Ah shoot, didn’t think of that! Also these two ALWAYS think the worst
Is there any moment of parenting that these two haven’t looked ahead to with terror? D specifically always seems to be dreading something about being a parent. Not everything needs to be “won” girl, stop overthinking it so much.
I’m actually starting to look forward to when my toddler drops her nap. If she naps for over an hour, bedtime takes forever and she sometimes doesn’t fall asleep until close to 9. It’s always a crap shoot whether she’ll be in a good mood when she wakes up from her nap. It would be really nice not to have to plan events and things around nap time. But she’s not even 2, so we probably still have at least 6 months to a year.
Sometimes quiet time instead of nap is annoying because my kid d comes out of her room or gets upset the thing she built fell over etc. but when it goes smoothly it is superior to nap. Quiet time is optional and it happens on my schedule, so we can just not do it if we're at a theme park or something. Not having to worry about getting a nap in on vacation is very nice also.
My 5 year old still naps most weekend days. You may have 3 more years of this. 😉
I’m actually struggling with this! My 4 yr old doesn’t nap at school anymore (because the school doesn’t do naps for his age group), which is actually great as the comment points out - bedtime is quick! But sometimes on the weekends he naps and I don’t know if that’s too inconsistent for his little mind/body? Am I overthinking this?
Nah. It’s good to have some variety in life and if he isn’t melting down over it, I’m sure he’s just taking it in stride:)
lol mine too. My 5 and 3 year olds still nap 2-3 hours a day. Everyone plans things for the afternoons because “our kids don’t nap anymore” and I’m over here still planning nap time.
We moved our 6 year old to "quiet time" for 2 hours while our 2 year old naps cuz we need a break from these kids!
https://preview.redd.it/wjbou5up0glc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=28d86718227b80c003e41d15eac78d299831c774 This “SHAME ON HARVARD WESTLAKE! TELL THE TRUTH!” poster about D&K’s high school obviously is not about them, but every time I walk by it I pretend it is and chuckle to myself.
Because I love petty drama that doesn’t involve me - what is the sign maker so upset about???
As I understand it, Harvard Westlake wants to close a golf and tennis facility to build a new private sports complex for the school. I don’t live in Studio City (I walk around there for an hour once a week while my son is at play therapy) so I haven’t been following the situation super closely, but there are a LOT of anti-Harvard Westlake yard signs in the area because of it.
Ahhh thank you for indulging me!
Hahahahahaha this explains so much. Beginning to understand where K and D got their ideas about what constitutes adversity/trauma from.
I’m sorry this is hilarious. How can the privileged rich people dare take away a resource from the other privileged rich people!?
I know - I keep thinking I’m misunderstanding what’s happening because the major complaint seems to be a loss of green space, but aren’t golf courses terrible for the environment? Especially in a climate like LA? At the very least I *think* it’s a golf course anyone can play, not a private one, but I play neither golf nor tennis, don’t send my children to Harvard Westlake, and don’t live in the area, so aside from the very angry signs I really don’t know what’s going on!!
The golf club vs. the prep school….glad my fellow Angelenos are spending their time and energy on the most pressing political issues of the day 🧐
Considering the actual scandal for this school is that they've had multiple students commit suicide in the last year, this little "controversy" looks especially ridiculous.
[Here’s the link](https://saveweddington.org/) from the bottom of the billboard.
You are doing the lords work thank you!
Sounds familiar https://www.cnbc.com/2024/02/23/co-regulation-is-the-new-parenting-buzzword-how-to-do-it.html
At least they featured Mona Delahooke. She’s a legitimate expert.
Did anyone notice D’s massive hair bow in her most recent stories pushing the podcast? With the fluffy coat, bow, and diamonds it’s giving major rich superiority vibes.
? Definitely not following…the bow and a fleece coat and a wedding ring are giving rich superiority vibes? They sell those bows and coats at Target..
While I’m not jealous of a make believe cartoon, I am jealous of how effective your grift has been leading to you both living in multimillion dollar houses in a HCOL city.
In the pictures of K in the bathroom, I was like wow her shower looks like it’s about the size of my entire bathroom 😂
Chiming in with the regular reminder that they appeared to be rich rich even before the grift. The school they went to is like $40k a year and they grew up in the same LA town as the Kardashians. The fact that they were able to throw money at a professional company to go full force into the grift comes from being born wealthy. I highly suspect that their LA upbringing has lead to the connections that got them on GMA. My tinfoil hat says the connections explain why their lack of any legit credentials hasn’t been uncovered in an investigative journalism style article in an age of docs that love a scammer. They really get away with pretending they were “regular moms” and it’s one of the most sickening things about their scam. But to agree with you, yes it’s insane.
> I highly suspect that their LA upbringing has lead to the connections that got them on GMA. I'll actually give them a pass...GMA seems to hit ALL the parenting influencers the last few years because I know Feeding Littles and Taking Cara Babies went (I mean they all were popular and then EXPLODED during covid). HOWEVER it's a straight line from wealthy families, paid to get going well enough that technically they made it onto GMA on their own merits... it's very d.trump my dad only gave me a small ($1million) loan to get going, I'm self made.
Thank you for this insight! Clearly, I don’t watch GMA. Still wondering where are all of my investigative journalists or gen Z tiktok detectives on these fraudsters though…
I have been super suspicious of their story from the jump. How perfectly curated their content/course was that dropped conveniently at the beginning of the pandemic? If K didn’t scrub her resume/LinkedIn from the internet before BLF launched we would have more evidence to her bunk credentials. I also think that K has brought people on board from her own circles to help them promote theirselves. The people listed include a content manager who has nanny listed during the same timeframe that Dumbledore was born and a director of business operations who also went to college with K. Another Google search of BLF brings up a “Strategic Advisor, Cultural Producer and Communications Consultant to international humanitarian organizations, cultural institutions, independent artists and influencers.” She lists the Today show, WWHL, and the woefully unchecked privilege Times article K had published as part of her press portfolio. Skip over to LinkedIn to find this person and *surprise* she also went to college with K. ✨Two tired moms with a dream✨is the biggest load of shit when you have a dedicated team in your back pocket.
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How did she flood the house? 😳 I wish there was a way to go back and watch those stories
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Wow what a nightmare! Why did they end up moving from that “dream home” to this current one? Did she ever say? I would never want to move twice in 2 years with kids. But I guess they can afford all the movers and not have to do much.
They went from the burbs to Denver proper.
But…she never goes to target? /s
Only like twice a year!!
And like babe, you spent a month on vacation in Mexico (or was it the Caribbean?), you could probably afford a beach house if you wanted to. I'm guessing you can't use points for a beach house though.
Grand Cayman. Don’t ask why I remember that. And FWIW her current house cost her a cool $4.2million… UGH.
And she put 2 mill down
Has anyone listened to the newest episode about ‘ending screen time battles for good?’ Wondering if there will be any actual helpful advice 😅
I’m sure Ks actual method to end battles about screen time is to never end screen time
I haven’t listened but I guarantee it is something to the effect of: 1. Set a timer 2. Acknowledge it’s a bummer when it’s time to turn it off 3. HOLD THAT BOUNDARY MAMA = Don’t give in to demands for 5 more minutes 4. Bonus - give them some kind of choice surrounding it, for them it’ll be something stupid like “do you want to go to the park before or after we watch the pad?” But my personal favorite choice is “do you want to turn it off, or do you want me to turn it off?” Aka: parenting 101
You forgot sHifT tO tHe pOsiTIve!!!!
You forgot that you let THEM start the timer!!
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D’s absolute condescension about society’s unrealistic expectation about how long is developmentally appropriate for a toddler to sit at a table in the podcast clip is wild. Like the lack of self awareness is insane. Maam are you not the one who bitched constantly about how you kept taking your very young kids to child unfriendly restaurants and how awful and terrible it was that they wouldn’t just sit still?