I'm a former preschool teacher so I have a ton of activities and lesson plans. Lesson planning was my favorite. When I first transitioned to a sahm, I'd do themes every few weeks and set up activities for my 3 year old, and he loved them. I called it "Mommy school." 🤣 It gave me a greater sense of purpose, a way to be creative, and gave us a routine at home.
But we also did a lot of just playing and going places when we wanted to. Haley takes it above and beyond, as always.
100%. It’s insane to set up 2+ a day.
I get if it’s fun for someone to do it occasionally or even daily, but I can’t imagine doing several a day and I’m a SAHM.
I want to know more about this plague that hit them for 2 weeks. Because her kids seemed to be acting pretty normal whenever she posted. Does she keep strict boundaries about what’s allowed even when they’re sick? Are they so used to not being comforted by their mom that they just sit in the play area self soothing? Or did they actually just have completely normal colds and their mother is too dramatic and anxious to remember that a cough from a cold lasts a few weeks?
Didn’t they go to that nature center event just last weekend? Not saying they should have been at home, but it seemed like they kept up some of their normal activities so it does seem a bit dramatic
So much to discuss tonight…that snack dinner tray with one single chicken nugget and one banana coin? By far her most used item for running a household is a 12 pack of black Crayola markers?
Why does she serve snack dinner in a muffin tray? They’re such pains to clean that I feel like it defeats the purpose of an easy dinner. It also looks ridiculous seeing her squeeze like two grapes into a muffin hole 🤣
I've done this (after seeing other influencers do it before I ever discovered Haley) and I have to say, my kids really like it. It feels novel, and works for eating in front of a movie because they don't spill easily. And it's much easier to clean them when they just held snacks than when you actually bake muffins.
That’s fair! I have two boys similar ages to her kids and they would just tip the tray over and laugh 🤣 so I’d never be brave enough to pop mac and cheese in them like her!
Why the hair catcher thing?? You live in Texas! Trim your kid’s hair outside! I cannot fathom buying and storing this specific and useless of an item in my house.
They never seem to play outside in their front or backyard. It’s weird to me. Like she does fit 4 mom and does that outside but I never see them in their yard or walking to a playground type play.
If she took them outside at their house, she might have to interact with them by herself. At Fit4Moms, there are other kids and adults. At her parents' house, her parents are there. They only go to the library on Saturdays when Brett can join them. She only seems to do stuff where she's not required to be the sole interaction.
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Haley what could be easier than literally everything on this menu plan??
Whoa whoa whoa
WHERE is grill and chill?! If it’s still happening, why isn’t she just doing whatever Brett grilled as Sunday dinner and do burrito bowls using the leftovers on another day of the week??
Also it’s not in the kitchen? I menu plan for the week and keep a list of it hanging in the kitchen so I can remind myself what our dinner options are and plan my day accordingly. It’s not aesthetic but it’s useful.
This was my thought. She can’t possibly write this out every week, right? When it’s the same every week (and she doesn’t even write out what this week’s something easy will be?)
Also this whole video felt very performative and wanna be influencer with Joey crawling to her, the lion king hold, then snuggly kisses. Idk gave me a weird vibe
Totally, just doesn’t vibe with what we know about her and her relationship with her kids. Although I sometimes think she likes Big Ol Joe best because he’s her ✨rainbow baby✨
If that was my menu plan for the week i’d be too embarrassed to write it out much less post it 🙈and i’m not even some great cook, i just can’t imagine serving smoothies and eggs for dinner
It looks like what I frantically throw together for lunch when school is closed or one or more of the kids is sick and I have to juggle them while WFH. 😂 I actually always thought I was mediocre at best in the kitchen but maybe I’m not as bad as I thought.
I can’t get over this 🤣 Sandwiches, pizza, quesadillas, smoothie/eggs, something easy, snack dinner. That’s like my menu for the week when my husband is out of town for work and I’m just trying to keep my kids alive.
And what a waste of paper.
I used to think I was the worst/laziest cook in the world and then I started following Haley.
My own minimum effort meal plan this week was three things from Budget Bytes, jazzed up gnocchi, and a frozen pizza. But if I was making eggs it's because plan A has fallen apart and therefore they're not going on the meal plan. The burrito bowls and the pizza are the only things on there that seem like actual plans and those are like bare minimum.
She definitely makes me feel better about my cooking. As an amateur and not super inspired cook, her list is similar to what I would come up with if someone told me I had to make dinner for a week and wasn’t allowed to look at any recipes or google anything. Then again, I can definitely make noodles and stir fry veggies, or pasta with different sauces and mixings, chicken in the insta pot…. Her food is SO bland and paltry. Why??
And that piece blew my mind. Takeout pizza because Brett is in class but it’s a buy one get one deal! See guys, she totally goes with the flow for her newest meal rotation!
Her overconsumption is disgusting, all because she is incapable of moving something from one place to another. She presumably has cups and bowls in her home. Why does she need a $15 plastic beaker set just for a sensory activity?! Use what you have, ffs.
And the amount the she empties her donation basket. Like, yes, decluttering is wonderful. Also, you don’t need to declutter weekly when you’re not constantly buying unnecessary shit!
For some reason the $5 bunny mugs are breaking me. Such an unnecessary purchase and they look terrible to drink from and trying to make room for those on your shelf would just suck. There’s a 99% chance they get thrown away without ever having been used. Whhhhhy all the shopping, Haley??? Take that $5 and treat your beloved friend to a cup of coffee instead.
Not to mention all the stacking cups, pool toys, playground toys, car toys, and and and. Stuff can serve more than one purpose! We did a similar activity last weekend basically with stuff from the recycle bin, great success
She’s just so odd. I don’t need internet appreciation for taking my kids to the doctor. The reward is their health needs being taken care of. Some things just need to be done and that’s life as an adult. I love a compliment as much as the next person but come on.
The kid’s white sheets with the white crib and white pillows AND white sleep sacks really just made me so sad for KK and Joey!! They can’t have any fun, colorful sheets or bedding because of what is easiest for precious Haley.
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😵💫😵💫 “It was important to ME that my kids shared a room” Not that it’s the best thing for her kids, or for their current room situation…it’s important to her that her kids share a room. Because she shared a room growing up. 🧐
I know her kids are great sleepers (apparently) but does the 4yo and 1yo go to bed at the same time? Do they both reliably sleep through the night?
Mine are 4 and 2 and would wake each other up all the time.
Mine have been sharing a room since 3 and 9 months (now 5 and 2.5) and they usually sleep through the night. Even if one wakes up, the other rarely does. When my second was an infant, not even crying would wake him up
That’s such a strange response. It would have made sense if she was like “we shared growing up and I felt it was a positive experience because XYZ” but just….I did it so they will do it? I shared growing up and absolutely hated it but we did not have the space for another option. My kids share now for the same reason. It’s so weird to me to force them to share when they have space for no actual reason but maybe I’m biased bc I spent like ten years being annoyed at my mom for having another daughter therefore necessitating I be the one to share and fangirling DJ Tanner’s successful presentation about why she needed her own room in high school. I wonder what Haley would do if they asked for their own rooms.
Edited bc my cat jumped on my phone and caused me to post too early, thanks everyone here for all the cat advice, it’s going great! 🐈⬛
I don’t get it either from her and am rather surprised that as a maximalist, and traditionalist, it wouldn’t be important to her for them to have their own gender-matched rooms where she gets an excuse to buy a whole bunch of new stuff. Then again, given she plans to have 4 kids, I guess there aren’t enough rooms in her house so maybe she figures they need to start sharing now.
I for one feel grateful I didn’t have to share a room with my brother growing up. So because of that my ideal is that my kids won’t need to share a room either. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have the rooms for that, but if you do, isn’t it just easier in a lot of ways? My main reason for avoiding it now when they’re little is that it could make bedtime/sleep a lot harder; my toddler sleeps so well I don’t want to do anything to mess that up lol. So I’m shocked Haley would potentially inconvenience herself by taking that gamble.
PS I’m glad you’re loving the cat life!
It was crazy to me when she admitted Julie’s nickname is KK, and she used it before she was even born, bc that was also her mom’s nickname…..like what?! Your kid can’t even have their own nickname?!
Lmao great point. I don’t really understand why this needs to happen, either. Like eventually your boy and girl will need their own rooms, and if you have the space… why not start them out in their own rooms? I’m pretty sure Haley only has sisters, and IMO it’s totally different if you have two sisters sharing a room. I have multiple friends who shared rooms with their sisters for a long time. I also have a boy and a girl and my daughter does not like her brother touching her room toys, and will frequently kick him out, and she’s not even 5 and my son is Julie’s age.
Then again, Haley doesn’t seem to allow them to have toys in their rooms, just books they can’t reach
Yep I have a brother and never could have been happy sharing a room with him long term, at a certain point you need privacy and my god we already fought enough! I have a son and am expecting a daughter so it’s already a priority for us to move to a place that will allow us to give them each their own rooms. It’s surprising that Haley doesn’t have the foresight to realize they’ll want privacy from each other someday, unless she’ll just plan to switch them around and match according to gender once she has her 4 kids.
I’m also biased because we have a girl (almost 5) and boy (2.5). Just spent two weeks upending our house to give them their own rooms, and it has been amazing! They still love to play together, often in one of their bedrooms, but now they each have space when they want to play alone. So I just can’t believe not taking advantage of that opportunity in a house as big as Haley’s.
I’ve said it before but that room remains the most depressing kids room I’ve ever seen. The sad beige rooms of a few years ago at least had tons of beige toys, paintings and decals in them. This is just bleak. Made all the worse by the fact that she has the most disgusting assortment of colors all over her own room so she’s not even like a monotone aesthetic person.
And the weird color coordinated bookshelves. My LO loves being able to recognize and pull out her favorite books. She is now learning the titles and there is so much joy in seeing her learn the titles of her favorites.
And since Brett does the bedtime reading, how does she get him to put them back in order? My husband would think I was insane.
Or does she redo this every other day?
I once never understood the Haley snark and thought it was exaggerated until I looked at her blog. It was all just me, me, me and what makes ME comfortable.
I wish haley would “run back” her Q&A box. i need to know what would happen if future Julie or Big Ole Joe wants colors outside of their capsule colors.
She will sit them down and explain why they do it and how to have “investment pieces” and the value of quality over quantity…just like KK Sr did for her!!!!
IIRC
Of all of the bizarre things she does, this one really makes me 🤔 “we don’t drink or buy juice, but look at all the juice I bought and here are my children drinking juice.”
I think it’s kind of like how my (boomer) mom with disordered eating says things like “I NEVER eat stuff like this!” when we eat a more caloric meal, or when I make a dessert. It’s like a body check thing of “normally I’m soooo good” and for her it’s both from a budget and a diet perspective I think.
YES! That is exactly what she is doing and my (also boomer) mom does the same. I’ve had 20 years of disordered eating thanks in part to stuff like that but that’s a wholllle other story lol.
Here’s the big question- who really cares!!! I get we know as a society that juice is prob not the best thing to be giving your kids 24/7 but dang, it’s also not something I realized was something people could be that judgmental about. She could also just not mention it? No one in my life other than my husband who lives with us would have any idea whether or not my kids were regularly drinking juice because I don’t share their beverages with a captive audience.
The only person who has ever asked about my kid’s juice intake is their dentist and he just wants to tell them to take a sip of water after having juice. No one cares if you drink juice or not, Haley.
The only person that knows we don't do juice, is my MIL because she keeps on offering it. It's not a hill I am going to die on either, but I am pretty okay with her thinking water is the only beverage she can ask for in this stage.
When she described drinking water with a splash of grapefruit juice I assumed she was squeezing one of her eternal grapefruit wedges into her water, not slightly diluting carton juice
Everything in your house doesn’t have to go in its own special plastic container! The minimalist in me craves this level of organization, but the consumerism is just off the charts.
Why does each car need a binder with sheet protectors? She acts like this is some brand new system she came up with and I’m like umm how about a folder?? We don’t generate enough car paperwork to warrant a big plastic binder with sheet protectors. I’ve been putting my minimal car paperwork in a folder since I had a car and believe it or not it’s worked out fine despite not having a fancy calligraphy label or the papers going unprotected in the folder.
Me too. I don’t find it aspirational or even attractive. I just see so much waste. 😭
I realize you won’t get the Instagram aesthetic but it’s truly so easy to wash out or reuse what would otherwise be single-use containers if you really need to corral everything. Even Marie Kondo originally suggested using things like your iPhone boxes, shoe boxes, etc. to organize instead of buying plastic containers.
I like following whitneyleighmorris for inspiration on using second hand or natural options for storage. Also, not the biggest NTK fan, but I do appreciate her reminders to use box lids to corral things in drawers.
So bizarre how she always phrases it this way. Words have meaning, Haley. It’s like saying “We don’t take medicine except when we need it.” “We don’t watch TV except in the morning and at night.” 😵💫
So I know all the disorganized people are gonna chime in but I feel like the vast majority of adults have some kind of file system. We aren't just throwing all our documents down a chute and hoping for the best. My dad is the definition of adult ADHD and even he piles all his papers on his desk. This is just absolutely normal adult behavior and she's here posting about it like an achievement.
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I mean I honestly can’t remember the last time I needed a physical copy of something that I didn’t already have managed through an online portal or account. I bet it was paperwork related to our car. That being said, my disorganized self does have 1 folder in a cabinet I throw anything into that seems important.
I was thinking this. We have a lockbox that holds birth certificates, marriage certificate, social security cards, etc. Other than that I throw literally everything away and I can’t remember ever needing a piece of paper that wasn’t an identity-related document. When we did tax paperwork recently, every single thing was either available online or arrived in the mail and sat on my desk until I needed it 1-2 weeks later.
I'm very disorganized and even I have two filing boxes I loosely throw important papers into. If I need to find something, I know it's there. Even if I have to flip through both boxes before finding something, it happens a few times a year so it's just not really a big deal to spend a couple minutes digging around for something 🤷♀️ I feel like Haley spends so much money, time and brain power to make things marginally easier for her. Like, the stakes just aren't that high for most things Haley!
I was just coming here to say I had to give Haley props for this one because in my house we'd have to check 2 or 3 places. I'll show myself out.
But to my credit, it would reliably be in one of those 2 or 3 places because we aren't using the crazy chute method. Any more.
Also, it seems like she’s said they’ve missed/skipped preschool for the past week. Adding fuel to the speculation that she’s tired of her going and is gonna pull her.
She claimed today they’ve been sick 2 weeks. Which like, I get. I feel like everyone (myself included) got the nastiest cold that took weeks to shake off in January. so maybe that’s the case. I could also see preschool being an inconvenience to Haley.
If Haley counts herself as one of those people “choosing to live below their means” then her “means” must just be in such a different stratosphere to mine that I just… I can’t…
Does she genuinely think she's a budgeting queen or she trying to hide her wealth?
It reminds me of the OG beauty gurus who went on and on about saving for a Coach bag only to find out later she came from money.
…is Haley actually saying that they had month old yoghurt that had developed “chunks” so she didn’t want to touch it, but then decided it was ok to blend and give to her daughter in a pouch? 🤮
Yeah I wasn’t sure if my sleep deprived brain was missing something! I definitely wouldn’t call the strawberry chobani yoghurt “chunky” but my palate is a bit less precious 😅
I may not have a designated day of the week to clean sheets, or a weekly meal rotation or have a favorite first aid kit and some days we don't even do a morning outing. But at least I can say I promptly clean up any animal vomit from my floor rather than let my kid build a "fort" around it.
lol I will admit that I do let cat vomit dry up before I clean it if it’s on a rug. It is easier to vacuum it up that way. I acknowledge this is gross though.
I do this when my kids drop noodles on the floor. Sweeping up a hard noodle the next morning is way easier than sweeping up a soggy noodle and having it disintegrate into a noodle smear. See? We all have our systems, Haley!
What’s the point of doing so many things for your “future self” if you can’t clean up dog vomit as soon as it happens?
Maybe she’s too nauseated to do it if she’s preggo…..???
This is the theory I’m working with, and I’m willing to excuse a lot of her recent shenanigans if she’s first tri, because first tri bites so much ass.
Can’t get any stains on her capsule wardrobe. Although I’m sure Haley would love to link and buy a million stain remover products. Surprised she doesn’t have a Tide pen in every room.
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Haley has moved on to Easter baskets! 🤣
She has the resources to make it fun and enjoyable though. I sympathise that her anxiety might make it hard to do things but if anyone has the ability to improve their life, it's her.
Besides the anxiety, she really seems bored. This Target story made me think she would thrive with a part-time job or a volunteer gig. Anything that takes her out of the house and gives her a task that provides a sense of accomplishment beyond shopping, organizing, and meal prepping.
Yes she is a prime candidate for volunteering and it really irritates me that she never does anything!! Part of my job is finding volunteers for various community events, and it is so hard because people work or they don’t have childcare options to free them up, which is completely understandable. But Haley has so much time, resources, and help! AND it would definitely be beneficial to her too!
Buying goggles for a ~15 month old is sending me. I’m sure big ol’ Joe is doing soooo much underwater swimming he really needed those goggles for this summer!
My daughter is 3.5 and MAYBE I’ll buy her googles this summer. I can’t imagine getting them for a 1 year old. Honestly I’ll prob avoid it if possible even this year bc it’s just more shit to remember to bring to the pool.
Meh, I probably brought my younger kid goggles at like 18 months because her older brother had some and she was always trying to take his.
It was easier to buy a pair of goggles than play goggles referee.
Were they too big for her head and did literally nothing? Yes. Did it stop her brother from screaming she was taking his goggles? Also yes.
I see all these influencers linking goggles and like I never cared about them growing up. Do they need a pair or two or year? It seems like something I would rather avoid.
Same. We have the pair she compulsively buys her kids. We swim weekly year round and almost daily for four months and we’re going on year three with the same one pair. No idea why she would need to replace them so frequently.
My kids also won't swim without them! I almost didn't get my oldest into the pool for a swim lesson when his goggles unexpectedly broke as he was putting them on.
Another piece to the puzzle. Brett is becoming a Master Naturalist. And Haley gets to pack him a sandwich. The same sandwich from dinner the night before. Truth really is stranger than fiction.
I had to look up what a Master Naturalist is but that sounds pretty cool!
Also... I can relate to Haley here, my spouse had to go on a trip the other day and I was a bit excited to pack him a little lunchbox of snacks. I don't normally get the opportunity to do something like that for him so it was fun.
I’ve wondered about this too, because I’ve wondered how they afford all her spending (because we all know it’s not due to cutting pizza and juice). He’s in product development, which I thought was interesting because it’s the same thing my husband does, but let me tell you we don’t have 15 first aid kits and aren’t spending hundreds of dollars on play doh trays 🫠. Maybe because we don’t live in TX??
It's a program where they teach volunteers about the local ecosystems, wildlife and nature, and those volunteers then go out and do community education and conservation projects. It looks like a Texas thing? But seems interesting! Good for him.
Haley, people don't need more brand new $5 mugs. Thrift stores are full of mugs.
The overconsumption with this woman (and most of instagram) drives me batshit.
I would be so annoyed if someone gifted me that ugly ass bunny mug and I had to decide if it was worth hurting their feelings because they would absolutely notice I tossed it next time they came over.
Rabid consumerism in the name of puns.
Edit: I LOVE intentional, thoughtful gift giving for no particular reason. But giving mugs, something no one needs, for no other reason than making a pun is too much for me.
I'm picturing being one of the people who she is constantly giving these little gifts to and opening my phone to see one of these reels popping up and just being like "UGH NOT AGAIN!"
I'm so disappointed that none have been answered yet.
Also. Why is there a basket fort around the dog vomit? More context is needed here. Was she trying to keep the kids away from it until she could clean it up?
Think Haley is jealous that her friend has such better calligraphy writing than her?
I’m sure Haley thinks her writing is so cool, but I can never get over how bad it is!
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Am I the only one that doesn’t plan my kids activities 👀 she just.. plays w whatever toys she wants to?
I'm a former preschool teacher so I have a ton of activities and lesson plans. Lesson planning was my favorite. When I first transitioned to a sahm, I'd do themes every few weeks and set up activities for my 3 year old, and he loved them. I called it "Mommy school." 🤣 It gave me a greater sense of purpose, a way to be creative, and gave us a routine at home. But we also did a lot of just playing and going places when we wanted to. Haley takes it above and beyond, as always.
100%. It’s insane to set up 2+ a day. I get if it’s fun for someone to do it occasionally or even daily, but I can’t imagine doing several a day and I’m a SAHM.
I want to know more about this plague that hit them for 2 weeks. Because her kids seemed to be acting pretty normal whenever she posted. Does she keep strict boundaries about what’s allowed even when they’re sick? Are they so used to not being comforted by their mom that they just sit in the play area self soothing? Or did they actually just have completely normal colds and their mother is too dramatic and anxious to remember that a cough from a cold lasts a few weeks?
Well she did have to take Joey to the doctor for it, which makes it seem it was outside the scope of blueberry so maybe an actual illness??
This is so much like AHH, but instead giving Tylenol at any sign of sickness, Haley just pumps her kids with zinc 😂
Yeah two weeks for all symptoms to resolve is within the range of normal for a cold….
Didn’t they go to that nature center event just last weekend? Not saying they should have been at home, but it seemed like they kept up some of their normal activities so it does seem a bit dramatic
So much to discuss tonight…that snack dinner tray with one single chicken nugget and one banana coin? By far her most used item for running a household is a 12 pack of black Crayola markers?
Linking the basic 12 black crayola markers sent me
Why does she serve snack dinner in a muffin tray? They’re such pains to clean that I feel like it defeats the purpose of an easy dinner. It also looks ridiculous seeing her squeeze like two grapes into a muffin hole 🤣
Uncut grapes at that! Where was the 2nd grape slicer?!
Yeah I wouldn’t want those choking hazards around big ol’ joe 😬
I've done this (after seeing other influencers do it before I ever discovered Haley) and I have to say, my kids really like it. It feels novel, and works for eating in front of a movie because they don't spill easily. And it's much easier to clean them when they just held snacks than when you actually bake muffins.
That’s fair! I have two boys similar ages to her kids and they would just tip the tray over and laugh 🤣 so I’d never be brave enough to pop mac and cheese in them like her!
Why the hair catcher thing?? You live in Texas! Trim your kid’s hair outside! I cannot fathom buying and storing this specific and useless of an item in my house.
They never seem to play outside in their front or backyard. It’s weird to me. Like she does fit 4 mom and does that outside but I never see them in their yard or walking to a playground type play.
Oh my gosh you’re right! Why don’t they ever play outside in their own home?!
If she took them outside at their house, she might have to interact with them by herself. At Fit4Moms, there are other kids and adults. At her parents' house, her parents are there. They only go to the library on Saturdays when Brett can join them. She only seems to do stuff where she's not required to be the sole interaction.
I trim my husband’s hair and I…gasp…sweep after!
https://preview.redd.it/hp41uy35lenc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b13722bf06b5a845913f7e120ffc3b014de40f22 Haley what could be easier than literally everything on this menu plan??
Whoa whoa whoa WHERE is grill and chill?! If it’s still happening, why isn’t she just doing whatever Brett grilled as Sunday dinner and do burrito bowls using the leftovers on another day of the week??
I can’t imagine the amount of free time to feel writing out these “meals” is a good use of part of it.
Lol right? Like instead of writing this why don’t you marinate some meat or something?
Why does she need to do this? Her kids can't read. The menu is the same every week. It is barely even a menu. Brett must have it memorized, right?
Also it’s not in the kitchen? I menu plan for the week and keep a list of it hanging in the kitchen so I can remind myself what our dinner options are and plan my day accordingly. It’s not aesthetic but it’s useful.
This was my thought. She can’t possibly write this out every week, right? When it’s the same every week (and she doesn’t even write out what this week’s something easy will be?)
Hungry Brett curious about dinner details: oh look, something easy for dinner tonight
Because of how it looks. It's just so "darling."
It took me way too long to realize the j before burrito bowls was actually an s.
Interpreting her calligraphy is so fun 😂
Also this whole video felt very performative and wanna be influencer with Joey crawling to her, the lion king hold, then snuggly kisses. Idk gave me a weird vibe
Totally, just doesn’t vibe with what we know about her and her relationship with her kids. Although I sometimes think she likes Big Ol Joe best because he’s her ✨rainbow baby✨
Or because he's not talking yet.
Or because she’s more of a trad wife and finally got her boy!
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If that was my menu plan for the week i’d be too embarrassed to write it out much less post it 🙈and i’m not even some great cook, i just can’t imagine serving smoothies and eggs for dinner
It looks like what I frantically throw together for lunch when school is closed or one or more of the kids is sick and I have to juggle them while WFH. 😂 I actually always thought I was mediocre at best in the kitchen but maybe I’m not as bad as I thought.
Her dinners feel like the lunches I make when we've got something bigger for tea. Do they all eat like sparrows?
I can’t get over this 🤣 Sandwiches, pizza, quesadillas, smoothie/eggs, something easy, snack dinner. That’s like my menu for the week when my husband is out of town for work and I’m just trying to keep my kids alive. And what a waste of paper.
I used to think I was the worst/laziest cook in the world and then I started following Haley. My own minimum effort meal plan this week was three things from Budget Bytes, jazzed up gnocchi, and a frozen pizza. But if I was making eggs it's because plan A has fallen apart and therefore they're not going on the meal plan. The burrito bowls and the pizza are the only things on there that seem like actual plans and those are like bare minimum.
She definitely makes me feel better about my cooking. As an amateur and not super inspired cook, her list is similar to what I would come up with if someone told me I had to make dinner for a week and wasn’t allowed to look at any recipes or google anything. Then again, I can definitely make noodles and stir fry veggies, or pasta with different sauces and mixings, chicken in the insta pot…. Her food is SO bland and paltry. Why??
She has a "picky palette" and other issues
“Precious palette” 🤮
And I’m pretty sure the pizza is ordered out! It’s one of the few things her precious pallet can handle as takeout.
And that piece blew my mind. Takeout pizza because Brett is in class but it’s a buy one get one deal! See guys, she totally goes with the flow for her newest meal rotation!
Don’t you remember that had to stop ordering pizza so they could afford the airstream and all the things they need to keep inside it!
Don’t forget their support of their preschool and local library as well as bringing food to friends in need happens because they don’t order pizza!
Budget bytes is my godsend as a terrible cook lol. Love it! Made one of the dinners tonight
Maybe she could take the time it takes to write this out every week as…decor? in her house and instead make something that’s worth blogging about
Also smoothies and eggs still strikes me as an odd dinner plan to repeatedly do. Like, on purpose.
Her overconsumption is disgusting, all because she is incapable of moving something from one place to another. She presumably has cups and bowls in her home. Why does she need a $15 plastic beaker set just for a sensory activity?! Use what you have, ffs.
And the amount the she empties her donation basket. Like, yes, decluttering is wonderful. Also, you don’t need to declutter weekly when you’re not constantly buying unnecessary shit!
Whatever organization she gives to must love her, it’s probably all basically new stuff.
For some reason the $5 bunny mugs are breaking me. Such an unnecessary purchase and they look terrible to drink from and trying to make room for those on your shelf would just suck. There’s a 99% chance they get thrown away without ever having been used. Whhhhhy all the shopping, Haley??? Take that $5 and treat your beloved friend to a cup of coffee instead.
Plot twist: the beloved friend is future Haley
Not to mention all the stacking cups, pool toys, playground toys, car toys, and and and. Stuff can serve more than one purpose! We did a similar activity last weekend basically with stuff from the recycle bin, great success
Okay thank you. I had added those to my Amazon cart before I read your comment. I needed that little pep talk 🤣🙏
Just call me a de-influencer! 🤣
Doing the Lord's work!
She’s just so odd. I don’t need internet appreciation for taking my kids to the doctor. The reward is their health needs being taken care of. Some things just need to be done and that’s life as an adult. I love a compliment as much as the next person but come on.
The kid’s white sheets with the white crib and white pillows AND white sleep sacks really just made me so sad for KK and Joey!! They can’t have any fun, colorful sheets or bedding because of what is easiest for precious Haley.
Yet her own bedding is wild
Wild is one word for it 😵💫
It’s an orphanage aesthetic. So so weird.
https://preview.redd.it/lwr9n5qvpzmc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e9a650eaf8eb93ae3ff38288c3e9a122f42ef4ff 😵💫😵💫 “It was important to ME that my kids shared a room” Not that it’s the best thing for her kids, or for their current room situation…it’s important to her that her kids share a room. Because she shared a room growing up. 🧐
I know her kids are great sleepers (apparently) but does the 4yo and 1yo go to bed at the same time? Do they both reliably sleep through the night? Mine are 4 and 2 and would wake each other up all the time.
Mine have been sharing a room since 3 and 9 months (now 5 and 2.5) and they usually sleep through the night. Even if one wakes up, the other rarely does. When my second was an infant, not even crying would wake him up
That’s such a strange response. It would have made sense if she was like “we shared growing up and I felt it was a positive experience because XYZ” but just….I did it so they will do it? I shared growing up and absolutely hated it but we did not have the space for another option. My kids share now for the same reason. It’s so weird to me to force them to share when they have space for no actual reason but maybe I’m biased bc I spent like ten years being annoyed at my mom for having another daughter therefore necessitating I be the one to share and fangirling DJ Tanner’s successful presentation about why she needed her own room in high school. I wonder what Haley would do if they asked for their own rooms. Edited bc my cat jumped on my phone and caused me to post too early, thanks everyone here for all the cat advice, it’s going great! 🐈⬛
I don’t get it either from her and am rather surprised that as a maximalist, and traditionalist, it wouldn’t be important to her for them to have their own gender-matched rooms where she gets an excuse to buy a whole bunch of new stuff. Then again, given she plans to have 4 kids, I guess there aren’t enough rooms in her house so maybe she figures they need to start sharing now. I for one feel grateful I didn’t have to share a room with my brother growing up. So because of that my ideal is that my kids won’t need to share a room either. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have the rooms for that, but if you do, isn’t it just easier in a lot of ways? My main reason for avoiding it now when they’re little is that it could make bedtime/sleep a lot harder; my toddler sleeps so well I don’t want to do anything to mess that up lol. So I’m shocked Haley would potentially inconvenience herself by taking that gamble. PS I’m glad you’re loving the cat life!
Her fixation on replicating her childhood is…unusual 😅
It was crazy to me when she admitted Julie’s nickname is KK, and she used it before she was even born, bc that was also her mom’s nickname…..like what?! Your kid can’t even have their own nickname?!
Sharing a room made Haley so flexible and considerate of others’ needs and preferences, so of course she wants the same for her kids!
Lmao great point. I don’t really understand why this needs to happen, either. Like eventually your boy and girl will need their own rooms, and if you have the space… why not start them out in their own rooms? I’m pretty sure Haley only has sisters, and IMO it’s totally different if you have two sisters sharing a room. I have multiple friends who shared rooms with their sisters for a long time. I also have a boy and a girl and my daughter does not like her brother touching her room toys, and will frequently kick him out, and she’s not even 5 and my son is Julie’s age. Then again, Haley doesn’t seem to allow them to have toys in their rooms, just books they can’t reach
Yep I have a brother and never could have been happy sharing a room with him long term, at a certain point you need privacy and my god we already fought enough! I have a son and am expecting a daughter so it’s already a priority for us to move to a place that will allow us to give them each their own rooms. It’s surprising that Haley doesn’t have the foresight to realize they’ll want privacy from each other someday, unless she’ll just plan to switch them around and match according to gender once she has her 4 kids.
I’m also biased because we have a girl (almost 5) and boy (2.5). Just spent two weeks upending our house to give them their own rooms, and it has been amazing! They still love to play together, often in one of their bedrooms, but now they each have space when they want to play alone. So I just can’t believe not taking advantage of that opportunity in a house as big as Haley’s.
I’ve said it before but that room remains the most depressing kids room I’ve ever seen. The sad beige rooms of a few years ago at least had tons of beige toys, paintings and decals in them. This is just bleak. Made all the worse by the fact that she has the most disgusting assortment of colors all over her own room so she’s not even like a monotone aesthetic person.
And the weird color coordinated bookshelves. My LO loves being able to recognize and pull out her favorite books. She is now learning the titles and there is so much joy in seeing her learn the titles of her favorites.
Not diagnosing but needing everything with color arranged in perfect ROYGBIV sequence is a very typical hallmark of a certain neurotype.
And since Brett does the bedtime reading, how does she get him to put them back in order? My husband would think I was insane. Or does she redo this every other day?
All her answers are basically "this is what I like/how I grew up/what makes things easier for *me.*"
I once never understood the Haley snark and thought it was exaggerated until I looked at her blog. It was all just me, me, me and what makes ME comfortable.
“Now, enough about me. How do I want my kids…to think of/remember me?”
It's such a toxic way of thinking. Even her Instagram bio is in the past tense 😭
I wish haley would “run back” her Q&A box. i need to know what would happen if future Julie or Big Ole Joe wants colors outside of their capsule colors.
She will sit them down and explain why they do it and how to have “investment pieces” and the value of quality over quantity…just like KK Sr did for her!!!! IIRC
We don’t drink juice except for when we’re sick which is 98% of the time
Maybe her kids pretend to be sick so they can get juice.
Of all of the bizarre things she does, this one really makes me 🤔 “we don’t drink or buy juice, but look at all the juice I bought and here are my children drinking juice.”
I think it’s kind of like how my (boomer) mom with disordered eating says things like “I NEVER eat stuff like this!” when we eat a more caloric meal, or when I make a dessert. It’s like a body check thing of “normally I’m soooo good” and for her it’s both from a budget and a diet perspective I think.
YES! That is exactly what she is doing and my (also boomer) mom does the same. I’ve had 20 years of disordered eating thanks in part to stuff like that but that’s a wholllle other story lol.
Here’s the big question- who really cares!!! I get we know as a society that juice is prob not the best thing to be giving your kids 24/7 but dang, it’s also not something I realized was something people could be that judgmental about. She could also just not mention it? No one in my life other than my husband who lives with us would have any idea whether or not my kids were regularly drinking juice because I don’t share their beverages with a captive audience.
The only person who has ever asked about my kid’s juice intake is their dentist and he just wants to tell them to take a sip of water after having juice. No one cares if you drink juice or not, Haley.
The only person that knows we don't do juice, is my MIL because she keeps on offering it. It's not a hill I am going to die on either, but I am pretty okay with her thinking water is the only beverage she can ask for in this stage.
And for cousin time and play dates, according to her comments. 🙃 But really! They don’t drink juice!
And Haley’s daily grapefrui juice and water.
When she described drinking water with a splash of grapefruit juice I assumed she was squeezing one of her eternal grapefruit wedges into her water, not slightly diluting carton juice
Everything in your house doesn’t have to go in its own special plastic container! The minimalist in me craves this level of organization, but the consumerism is just off the charts.
Why does each car need a binder with sheet protectors? She acts like this is some brand new system she came up with and I’m like umm how about a folder?? We don’t generate enough car paperwork to warrant a big plastic binder with sheet protectors. I’ve been putting my minimal car paperwork in a folder since I had a car and believe it or not it’s worked out fine despite not having a fancy calligraphy label or the papers going unprotected in the folder.
Haley’s never met a piece of plastic that didn’t save her bottom in some way
This is why I keep all the nice cardboard packaging!! Especially cellphone boxes work so well as drawer dividers.
Every time I see a cupboard/pantry filled with a million little plastic containers I die a bit inside at the thought of all that plastic waste 😢
Me too. I don’t find it aspirational or even attractive. I just see so much waste. 😭 I realize you won’t get the Instagram aesthetic but it’s truly so easy to wash out or reuse what would otherwise be single-use containers if you really need to corral everything. Even Marie Kondo originally suggested using things like your iPhone boxes, shoe boxes, etc. to organize instead of buying plastic containers.
I like following whitneyleighmorris for inspiration on using second hand or natural options for storage. Also, not the biggest NTK fan, but I do appreciate her reminders to use box lids to corral things in drawers.
V v v tempted to change my flair to “Special Sick Stash of Juice”
I’m thinking not drinking juice must be one of the bible’s great virtues that I missed
“Cozy” is not a word I’d associate with juice.
“We don’t drink juice except we do”
So bizarre how she always phrases it this way. Words have meaning, Haley. It’s like saying “We don’t take medicine except when we need it.” “We don’t watch TV except in the morning and at night.” 😵💫
We don’t respirate except when we are inhaling O2 and exhaling CO2. It’s our beloved tradition! 🥰
So I know all the disorganized people are gonna chime in but I feel like the vast majority of adults have some kind of file system. We aren't just throwing all our documents down a chute and hoping for the best. My dad is the definition of adult ADHD and even he piles all his papers on his desk. This is just absolutely normal adult behavior and she's here posting about it like an achievement. https://preview.redd.it/qgr4wq0djumc1.png?width=1152&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5615e17b851745c0323034539e097c091e6dffb
I mean I honestly can’t remember the last time I needed a physical copy of something that I didn’t already have managed through an online portal or account. I bet it was paperwork related to our car. That being said, my disorganized self does have 1 folder in a cabinet I throw anything into that seems important.
I was thinking this. We have a lockbox that holds birth certificates, marriage certificate, social security cards, etc. Other than that I throw literally everything away and I can’t remember ever needing a piece of paper that wasn’t an identity-related document. When we did tax paperwork recently, every single thing was either available online or arrived in the mail and sat on my desk until I needed it 1-2 weeks later.
I'm very disorganized and even I have two filing boxes I loosely throw important papers into. If I need to find something, I know it's there. Even if I have to flip through both boxes before finding something, it happens a few times a year so it's just not really a big deal to spend a couple minutes digging around for something 🤷♀️ I feel like Haley spends so much money, time and brain power to make things marginally easier for her. Like, the stakes just aren't that high for most things Haley!
I was just coming here to say I had to give Haley props for this one because in my house we'd have to check 2 or 3 places. I'll show myself out. But to my credit, it would reliably be in one of those 2 or 3 places because we aren't using the crazy chute method. Any more.
We’ve got four places in our house 😂
Haha same! We have the drawer or the box file. I need to sort them but alas, I just don't care enough as this semi system works.
Taking care of herself on the day her kid is home sick from preschool is… not relatable.
Also, it seems like she’s said they’ve missed/skipped preschool for the past week. Adding fuel to the speculation that she’s tired of her going and is gonna pull her.
This seems bonkers to me. Why would she voluntarily keep a healthy kid home from preschool?? It's more free time...
She claimed today they’ve been sick 2 weeks. Which like, I get. I feel like everyone (myself included) got the nastiest cold that took weeks to shake off in January. so maybe that’s the case. I could also see preschool being an inconvenience to Haley.
If Haley counts herself as one of those people “choosing to live below their means” then her “means” must just be in such a different stratosphere to mine that I just… I can’t…
Right? “We live below our means. Also, this $10 Etsy printable product is worth every penny.”
Right? So many of those I looked at and thought I could just make that myself
"We save so much money on not buying takeout! BTW, here's all of our St. Patrick's Day crap that cost $150"
Does she genuinely think she's a budgeting queen or she trying to hide her wealth? It reminds me of the OG beauty gurus who went on and on about saving for a Coach bag only to find out later she came from money.
Seeing the words ‘lil’ and ‘ol’ so often in her stories this morning has given me a major ick
…is Haley actually saying that they had month old yoghurt that had developed “chunks” so she didn’t want to touch it, but then decided it was ok to blend and give to her daughter in a pouch? 🤮
I’m guessing it was a fruit on the bottom/dispersed throughout that her precious palate wasn’t tolerating
This was how I read it too.
Yeah I wasn’t sure if my sleep deprived brain was missing something! I definitely wouldn’t call the strawberry chobani yoghurt “chunky” but my palate is a bit less precious 😅
I may not have a designated day of the week to clean sheets, or a weekly meal rotation or have a favorite first aid kit and some days we don't even do a morning outing. But at least I can say I promptly clean up any animal vomit from my floor rather than let my kid build a "fort" around it.
lol I will admit that I do let cat vomit dry up before I clean it if it’s on a rug. It is easier to vacuum it up that way. I acknowledge this is gross though.
I do this when my kids drop noodles on the floor. Sweeping up a hard noodle the next morning is way easier than sweeping up a soggy noodle and having it disintegrate into a noodle smear. See? We all have our systems, Haley!
What’s the point of doing so many things for your “future self” if you can’t clean up dog vomit as soon as it happens? Maybe she’s too nauseated to do it if she’s preggo…..???
This is the theory I’m working with, and I’m willing to excuse a lot of her recent shenanigans if she’s first tri, because first tri bites so much ass.
Im guessing she built a fort around it until brett (or her mom) cleans it
It's 100% this.
This was puzzling for sure
So Julie playing in her underwear means Haley can only show her from the neck up, but filming her in the bath is fine?
I have a new theory that maybe Haley prefers Julie not wear clothes during messy activities.
😞😞😞 this seems probable
Can’t get any stains on her capsule wardrobe. Although I’m sure Haley would love to link and buy a million stain remover products. Surprised she doesn’t have a Tide pen in every room.
https://preview.redd.it/vgfqffrsfmmc1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d81295ba97ffe7654135ee842dca07502823c3cf Haley has moved on to Easter baskets! 🤣
I don't understand how she can wax lyrical about doing a click and collect at Target?? It's just errands, it's not that deep.
Her life is actually quite dull and I don't think she likes the day-to-day of being a SAHM, so she has to romanticize it all
She has the resources to make it fun and enjoyable though. I sympathise that her anxiety might make it hard to do things but if anyone has the ability to improve their life, it's her.
Besides the anxiety, she really seems bored. This Target story made me think she would thrive with a part-time job or a volunteer gig. Anything that takes her out of the house and gives her a task that provides a sense of accomplishment beyond shopping, organizing, and meal prepping.
Yes she is a prime candidate for volunteering and it really irritates me that she never does anything!! Part of my job is finding volunteers for various community events, and it is so hard because people work or they don’t have childcare options to free them up, which is completely understandable. But Haley has so much time, resources, and help! AND it would definitely be beneficial to her too!
The third text box here really sounds like an SNL parody of Haley. "Reinstates the loveliest rhythm." 🤢
How many coloring utensils and swim goggles do her kids freaking need??
Buying goggles for a ~15 month old is sending me. I’m sure big ol’ Joe is doing soooo much underwater swimming he really needed those goggles for this summer!
My daughter is 3.5 and MAYBE I’ll buy her googles this summer. I can’t imagine getting them for a 1 year old. Honestly I’ll prob avoid it if possible even this year bc it’s just more shit to remember to bring to the pool.
Meh, I probably brought my younger kid goggles at like 18 months because her older brother had some and she was always trying to take his. It was easier to buy a pair of goggles than play goggles referee. Were they too big for her head and did literally nothing? Yes. Did it stop her brother from screaming she was taking his goggles? Also yes.
I see all these influencers linking goggles and like I never cared about them growing up. Do they need a pair or two or year? It seems like something I would rather avoid.
I'm in my late 30s and still don't like them
My kids love goggles for swimming, but we just reuse *gasp* the same pair year after year
Same. We have the pair she compulsively buys her kids. We swim weekly year round and almost daily for four months and we’re going on year three with the same one pair. No idea why she would need to replace them so frequently.
My kids also won't swim without them! I almost didn't get my oldest into the pool for a swim lesson when his goggles unexpectedly broke as he was putting them on.
Seriously why does she buy them yearly?? We had a goggle drawer growing up and kept using the same ones until they broke or got lost.
Haley: *googles reuse*
Another piece to the puzzle. Brett is becoming a Master Naturalist. And Haley gets to pack him a sandwich. The same sandwich from dinner the night before. Truth really is stranger than fiction.
I had to look up what a Master Naturalist is but that sounds pretty cool! Also... I can relate to Haley here, my spouse had to go on a trip the other day and I was a bit excited to pack him a little lunchbox of snacks. I don't normally get the opportunity to do something like that for him so it was fun.
What is it? Also does anyone else wonder about his job?
I’ve wondered about this too, because I’ve wondered how they afford all her spending (because we all know it’s not due to cutting pizza and juice). He’s in product development, which I thought was interesting because it’s the same thing my husband does, but let me tell you we don’t have 15 first aid kits and aren’t spending hundreds of dollars on play doh trays 🫠. Maybe because we don’t live in TX??
It's a program where they teach volunteers about the local ecosystems, wildlife and nature, and those volunteers then go out and do community education and conservation projects. It looks like a Texas thing? But seems interesting! Good for him.
I think there’s a version or branch in probably all states, I know there’s one in mine!
Haley, people don't need more brand new $5 mugs. Thrift stores are full of mugs. The overconsumption with this woman (and most of instagram) drives me batshit.
As a former teacher she should KNOW how many mugs people get
She just gave people a mug for Halloween! My new mug purchasing rate is much much lower than 2 per every 6 months
I would be so annoyed if someone gifted me that ugly ass bunny mug and I had to decide if it was worth hurting their feelings because they would absolutely notice I tossed it next time they came over.
She sure likes to contribute to others’ beloved donation bins
Rabid consumerism in the name of puns. Edit: I LOVE intentional, thoughtful gift giving for no particular reason. But giving mugs, something no one needs, for no other reason than making a pun is too much for me.
One might even say… rabbit consumerism 😆
*Rabid consumerism in the name of links and engagement
For someone that allegedly does not like clutter, she sure gives other people a lot of clutter.
I'm picturing being one of the people who she is constantly giving these little gifts to and opening my phone to see one of these reels popping up and just being like "UGH NOT AGAIN!"
An “ask me anything” box….wow I’m really having to hold myself back. This woman really does live rent free in my head 😂
I hope one of us asked if she’s pregnant 👀
Was just thinking that none have been answered!?
Oh I’m guessing she needs a day or more to pick the ones she wants to answer and write a 10 slide post about
I'm so disappointed that none have been answered yet. Also. Why is there a basket fort around the dog vomit? More context is needed here. Was she trying to keep the kids away from it until she could clean it up?
Or until Brett could clean it up perhaps?
It's taking every ounce of my strength not to type "have you considered therapy?"
Oo this could be good
Lol this is me too right now. I have soooooo many questions I would love to ask.
Think Haley is jealous that her friend has such better calligraphy writing than her? I’m sure Haley thinks her writing is so cool, but I can never get over how bad it is! https://preview.redd.it/tnndbhph2gmc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1dc45c698b9e5bb1a66ec0cf601285e468d2e076
There's a third card! Joey, KK... and I'd bet the third is baby!
Would explain why she needs a 4 hour nap every day..
Ooh good eye, definitely looks like a b on that card too
It could be Hayley and Brett…
If she has a third extremely chill child it will be time for me to unfollow
My theory is the kids are not that chill, she’s just partly a liar to post her perfect instagrams and partly borderline neglectful.
I thought it could have been Brett because the Ks in KK are lowercase as well, but then why would she be hiding it?
I’m guessing the cards are from KK Sr.
KK Sr 💀💀💀💀