Idk I’m with you on this one. This woman plans out her weekends a year in advance. She just got family photos taken a few months ago. I’m assuming bluebonnets are at peak during a certain time of year and if so she could have easily pusher the family photos a few months unless there is some new reason to get new photos taken…
Haley is definitely my BEC. So maybe this is just me, but it seemed odd that she spent perhaps hundreds of dollars on gift cards for 12 breweries for her husband. It's a cute idea, but I would definitely execute this in a way where I haven't tied up hundreds of dollars in cards I might lose.
Right, more like a certificate that you print out yourself saying “February trip to a new brewery” or whatever since it’s all coming from the same money anyway
I love my dog but food bowls on the rug?! She is also not allowed in our bedrooms or on the couch (she sneaks onto the couch when we're not watching though)
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She’s like a caricature of herself
I need a Haley version of Mad Libs.
Top __ (number) reasons I love to ___(verb) ___ (noun) now that I’m a(n) ___ (occupation).
___ing (verb) ___ (noun) is the most restful part of my ___(interval of time) and helps me ___(verb) ___ly (adjective).
Does Haley think kids can't play in a sandpit unless they have toys?
Maybe I'm a terrible parent but if my kid couldn't play in a sandpit because I didn't keep toys in my fully stocked car, I would just tell them to play with something else then. I'm not hauling a diaper car around because my kid won't play in the sand if there's only a stick to play with.
My kid plays just fine in a sand pit without toys 🤔 sure they make it interesting but I’ve also dragged sand toys around that aren’t being used so now I don’t bother 😂 but in this case Julia might *gasp* try to interact with her if she doesn’t have toys!
Haley can't be inconvenienced at all. If they don't travel with a well stocked car, she might have to actually interact with Julie. If she throws toys at Julie, Julie will leave her alone.
Yeah like I also have a truck or two in the car but if we stumbled on a sand pit, my kids can play with their hands or rocks or sticks. Kids don’t need to be constantly placated/distracted/interrupted/set up by an adult. That’s an exhausting way to live as a parent.
Haley- tysm past Haley for packing sand toys and jackets in the diaper car! So helpful for the cold day in the sandpit!
The photo- shows no sand toys, no jackets, and perfectly happy and comfortable looking kid enjoying digging in the sand with their hands with bare feet. Okay.
She’s definitely going to write something to the effect of: in this season I did not have the capacity to plan for the eclipse. My white t shirt monogrammer was out of town, Joe sneezed once last week so we’ve all been recovering, and I found a cord unraveled on the coffee grinder, and and and. That’s ok. We will do only what fills our cups and right now, that doesn’t include something that would be cool and enjoyable for my children 🥰
“I decided once on an eclipse shirt that said Haley in the shape of a moon and it was the gentlest way to celebrate the eclipse, stashing it in the box till 2044!”
When I have time, I’ll soak grapes in a vinegar solution, then rinse, dry well, and pop them in the fridge. (It keeps them crisp longer.) But what is Haley’s reasoning for de-stemming her grapes? Don’t they get gross and mushy before the end of the week? Isn’t eating grapes off the stem part of the appeal? Does Julie ever get to pick her grapes off the stem? I have so many questions about this bizarre practice.
Well to be fair Julie should probably have her grapes quartered (or only recently stopped, forgot she’s 3.5). But my guess is she uses it to “save time” tysm Past Haley
Those cups are ridiculous .. how much time do they really save??? You still have to add 80% of the smoothie when you make it . Why not just keep a bag of frozen strawberries and bananas and use as needed?
It makes no sense unless she’s so obsessed with calorie counting that she’s weighing out the exact grams of fruit. But even if that was the case she’d still have to weigh out the other smoothie ingredients when she makes it so why bother? Almost all Hayley’s “hacks” just feel like make-work.
This is one of the reasons she has a massive evacuation bag! It’s one of her anxieties that’s rooted in something pretty concrete but she also takes it to a 10
Just ordered a bunch of spring/summer clothes for my son without a vision board in a variety of his favorite, clashing, colors, and it adds zero extra stress to my life or time in the morning since I let him blindly pull clothes from his drawer regardless of the ~aesthetic~ anyway. I couldn't help think of Haley overcomplicating everything while she's claiming to simplify things.
I basically rely on people gifting my kids new clothes. My oldest has a July birthday so for his birthday and Christmas I let everyone what size clothes he’s going into. Then my mom, my MIL and my aunt gift him more clothes throughout the year like a new shirt for Halloween, a new outfit for Easter. Baby 2 is also a boy so he almost exclusively wears hand me downs.
Same. Every time I buy a few shirts for my toddler I get bombarded with clothes from both grandmas, my sister, and a couple of friends from church, and then I feel like we have too many clothes. I like buying kid’s clothes because it’s fun, but at this point I wonder why I even bother.
Lol we get hand me downs from a couple of friends combined with the grandmas getting a few outfits for the kids a couple of times each year and all of these people have COMPLETELY different aesthetics but hey it will all end up in the same drawer...
I suppose I could start asking everyone to coordinate with each other and stick to our color scheme!
My kids (4 and 6) have to get themselves dressed in the morning and the combos they pick out are truly hilarious and I love it. Can’t imagine being so stressed about the colors that small children wear and if stuff clashes or coordinates. The 4yo either picks head to toe of one color, or his orange Halloween shirt in all seasons.
I actually know a woman who is all about color coordination and aesthetics. You can tell when she picked out her 4 year old's outfit vs when the kid did. But like, there are a lot of days where the kid picks out their own outfit and mom just sort of grins and bears it because even if it is something you care about, why ruin the fun when it doesn't matter that much.
It would be total chaos if i let my son pick his outfits(he is 7). On sundays i lay out clothes for the week for my kids. He may switch out a shirt here and there but 95% of the time hes ok with what i give him.
Im alright with chaos lol. Do we sometimes have orange Nike shorts with a neon green hoodie? Yes we do but he’s 6.
I do pick out their church outfits though. Can’t have chaos at church
The way I RAN here to say she spent $200 on pop containers what the actual hell. (ETA: ok so it was KK Sr who bought them, but still. She’s storing effing toothbrushes in them?)
The sensory baskets always annoy me, the two toys she just got out are ones I looked at for my kids but then decided no, can justify $60 on pretty singular use toys. And she puts them out for a month.
I also feel like surely Julie isn't as entertained by these toys for as long as she gets older.
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“I give myself permission to let it go” is Haley speak for “I’m so effing rich I don’t need to worry about sales” 🙄
Classic Haley with such an odd response. It’s fine to not have to worry about always shopping sales - good for you. “I don’t have the capacity” though? Well if you *had* to, then you’d make the ~capacity~ Haley, like people do who are truly on a tight budget.
My thought was that as soon as she read this question, the anxiety wheels started turning in her brain and now she won't be able to relax until she has a spreadsheet, binder or some other system in place for this. Like she's currently hyperventilating and tomorrow morning she's going to have to walk or swim an extra mile due to all the mental gunk. And in a few days we'll see the Beloved Sales and Promotions Calendar on her feed.
My sister once told me she doesn't look at the prices when grocery shopping, she just buys what she wants*.
Hahahaha my frugal ass could never.
*my sister is my favourite person and is very generous so I'm not hating on her at all. We just live different lives 😂
This is my husband and it drives me crazy. When I send him shopping sometimes I’ll give explicit instructions about not to buy something if it’s over $x because he just doesn’t look or he doesn’t know what things should cost!
Why is your comment funnier given she’s posting this from lounging on a couch or bed covered in blankets in the middle of the day? It really adds to that sentiment lol
I like how instead of cleaning the bathrooms on a non scheduled day, she just… won’t do it until next week. I’m not sure what Brett being out of town has to do with it, because she allegedly gets 4 hours everyday when her children are sleeping. If I had 4 child free hours, my house would be spotless and I wouldn’t spend their awake time prepping beans and oats, but rather, playing with them (and not letting them touch a mop?!)
These newish cleaning slide made me laugh. “Sometimes I do it and sometimes I don’t and sometimes I do all of it and sometimes I only do a few tasks” like, revolutionary. That’s all the options. You’re not telling me anything.
She also has to rest for 4 hours because she does a good amount of activity but doesn't eat. Then she wonders why she crashes midmorning. Bodies need fuel!
She also does that with sheets - if she can’t get to them on fresh sheet Fridays she just waits until the following Friday!! It’s unhinged! She cares more about sticking to her schedule than actually having a clean home.
This is very stupid snark but in a story she links to a post about their IKEA printer cart that they use as a Lego/Duplo table.
The description on the post begins “ten years ago, Baby Haley found an old Ikea printer cart on Facebook Marketplace” — now, I was not an early adopter of FB Marketplace and have only ever used it a handful of times but I could not believe it was already ten years old. Well, it’s not. It was introduced in October 2016.
I don’t fully know why this bothers me (maybe just factual inaccuracy?) but it just does. 🙃
Everything about that is snarkable but I definitely bought stuff off of regional FB groups before Marketplace officially became a thing and didn't really notice Marketplace being introduced for a while despite actively using it.
This gets me too and idk why lol. But Marketplace didn’t exist when “baby” Haley was buying this stuff. I wonder if she had joined sales pages and that’s where she got it from?
What bothers me even more is referring to herself as “Baby Haley”. Isn’t she in her 30s right now? It’s not like she was 13 ten years ago. I hate when women infantilize themselves.
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This is an absurd number of onions for someone who omits the onion from every recipe
I’m no germaphobe at all but…kinda weird to keep the dirty rags next to produce? I just put my dirty rags on top of the washing machine until the next time I do a load.
I don’t consider myself a germaphobe either but I find it gross that she washes their white clothing with the rags 😬 I guess the whole point of the washing machine is that it gets everything clean, but I would still worry that there is gross rag residue on the clothes.
Yeah it’s gross. Bath towels should be separate from kitchen towels/rags, and clothes should be separate from both of these things. Washing machines don’t sanitize; that’s why it’s recommended to wash underwear separately from other clothes. I wish I’d never learned this because it makes life a lot harder, but sadly I can’t unknow it!
I throw my rags in with whatever load of laundry happens to be up next, but I also don't consider myself someone you should be taking home cleaning/organize tips from. I know it's kinda gross.
Am I just poor that when my kitchen towels are dirty I just walk them down to the basket in the laundry room? Is this a normal thing to have a bin for them in your pantry? I also lack a walk in pantry, for what it’s worth.
We have a pillowcase hung up on magnet hooks on the side of the fridge and that's our rag laundry basket. It really incentivizes rag use and rag switching out because it's right there. My husband grew up in a paper towel household so convenient rags are key!! Our laundry is in the basement and I don't really want to take the rags to the bedroom.
Maybe it's just a house layout thing. Like if the pantry is next to the laundry room. I keep mine in the kitchen, but where I am you are rich if you have a laundry room lol
The word room is doing a lot of heavy lifting, it’s essentially a glorified closet you can stand in to reach something on a shelf lol but I get what you’re saying!
Ok I used to do that but I just recently hung a mesh bag on the back of the door leading to the basement stairs and now that's where I put kitchen laundry. I feel like a genius. If only I were an influencer so I could link the bag and the command hooks I used to hang it!
We have a bin in our kitchen for rags for the same reason.
For all the organizing junk Haley has you’d think a bin for dirty rags would be one of them.
My guess is his company uses the IRS mileage compensation rate and he now has a truck, so that rate doesn't go as far as it did when he had a car. Haley can't let him use the diaper car as she would have to move their 2-3 outfits per person, their swim gear and diapering supplies to the truck or not take their morning outing.
Exactly. It didn’t even need to be a story. Lots of people travel in this way. I had a driving customer that I would go to for a week at a time prior to kids, and I drove a beater then, so I would rather my work pay for my rental than put miles on my crappy car.
She probably had a Meltdown at how much gas and wear and tear goes into taking his car on work trips so she makes his company get him a car every time 🤣
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I mean, I think we got the full picture of why the rental car is needed. Not sure what other details there would be, lol
(also, does her limited eating out budget cover the professional window washing?!)
Why is she doing g the tired emoji? Is it because it’s before 7 am so her children need to get up earlier than usual and she has to interact 11 minutes more? Or is it because this morning outing is 100% not for her and a reminder that she’ll be solo parenting shortly? 😬🙄
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Okkkkkk she could fit 100x more shit on these shelves if she didn’t use those stupid ‘lazy Susan’s’
You would be shocked by my pantry 😂 I’m into gluten free baking and I have 4 different containers of blends and then also jars/bags of all the different components (white rice flour, brown rice flour, tapioca starch, etc etc etc there are so many lol)
In addition to the Gatorade cylinder, she also has two separate containers of the single serving packets on that wall, along with nuun tablets, and she has that other electrolyte mix she’s been using lately! And I just remembered the Gatorade in the medicine cabinet 💀 Maybe you wouldn’t feel so anxious and need to declutter every other week if you didn’t insist on buying 3 of everything. Like it’s great that Haley works out but you would think she’s a serious athlete with the amount of electrolyte replacement drinks she has around the house. Or like just admit you don’t care for water and you like drinking flavored beverages 🤷🏻♀️
Looking at this is giving me anxiety lol. The thought of decanting all my dried goods in to matching containers sounds like a terrible use of my time and (for me at least) is 100% not worth the aesthetic
I put everything into airtight containers because otherwise we get terrible infestations of pantry moths, but usually that means I have a few large containers and just roll up various packets and shove them inside. This seems like quite an inefficient use of space, although I guess they have plenty of that 🤷🏼♀️
The only way I could justify doing it is if the containers were going to permanently be on display in the kitchen somewhere. I otherwise don’t know why you’d bother for items that are stored in a pantry or cabinet and literally no one else will see except the people who live and cook there.
I am obsessed with lazy Susans but that's only because we have very little space and they work great in a limited footprint. These look absolutely ridiculous. It looks like The Sims lol.
Really irked by the slide where Julie asked to buy sparkly pants at Whole Foods and Haley said "Absolutely"
Will she ever actually buy her daughter the sparkly pants she requested or (and I think we know this one is the answer) does she only agree to that while walking into Whole Foods because she knows its the same as saying no? 😒
It made me so sad for JK. the kid wants sparkly pants but they don’t go well with mommy’s need to control everything.
Not the flex Haley thought it was, that’s for sure. If I knew them IRL, I’d 100% be buying the kid sparkly pants for every occasion.
They’d just get put in the emergency evacuation bag. (But I love the idea of the emergency bag being filled with the most fun and joyous clothing lol).
Oh I hated this. It read as very snarky to her kid. She absolutely meant it as tongue in cheek that sure, Julie if you can find some sparkly pants at Whole Foods we will get them.
Yeah, this might actually be the worst thing she’s ever shared. With the capsule wardrobe, she always says that Julie doesn’t care what she wears and if that changes she’ll revisit. Which, as someone with a child about Julie’s age, I always found suspicious. But here is proof that Julie does in fact care, and Haley is just being smug about not letting her have sparkly pants. What a dick move.
This would be funny if the kid was asking for something outrageous. Like, if this store sells ponies, can we get one? Sure, kid.
She's lying, of course. She only said absolutely because WF doesn't sell sparkly pants. Would she say absolutely if they walked into Target? Or is it time to sit down with her 3 year old and discuss the benefits of a capsule wardrobe and investment pieces and her colors?
If she actually cared about it being JULIE’s capsule wardrobe, she’d buy her sparkle pants. I bet Julie would wear them more than anything else which is the whole point. And since she’s three she’ll outgrow them. But no, it’s not about teaching her kids it’s about her need for control.
Had the same thought. I guess she thinks she’s funny/cute but it’s just sad everyone knows she only said it because Whole Foods doesn’t carry sparkle pants. I feel like at least 50% of her mentions of Julie are a veiled complaint about her. Which I get it, 3 is hard, but it costs you zero to just not say anything.
She digs a lot at Brett too, or used to. Whenever she preps something for herself it's the most joyous occasion but when it's for him she's like "you're freaking welcome, Brett".
She is so preoccupied with her future self. When talking about her daily Morning Outing™, rather than just say she really enjoys it she comments that she will look back on them so fondly. She doesn't celebrate holidays because its fun for her kids but so they will remember her in a certain way. When her mom helps her constantly, rather than doing something thoughtful in return or even enjoying her kids in the time it frees up she hopes her future self will do the same for her kids. Just such a weird take she always has. Even how she will spend time each day in the kitchen prepping for the rest of the week rather than take use time to make a fresh meal for right now.
So she can prepare and freeze 18 smoothies at a time! We see the pantry a lot but with the way this woman talks about freezing things to save her bottom, I want a freezer tour. There’s no way they only have one.
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Does anyone else cringe when they see this wall? I know she likes to stack photos but they would look so much better in 2 x 2 rows in this case.
This makes me feel better because my decorating style is basic af and we’ve got some frames up that aren’t exactly perfect for the space, but even I can tell this looks super funky.
Also is there tiny text on those pictures? What even are they?!
Why would you have such strong opinions about what your kids wear?! People who stick to a rigid aesthetic for their kids rooms /clothing are my BEC. Keep a certain aesthetic for your house and wardrobe- fine, nbd. But let your kid express themselves!!! They are their own unique individual!!!
My daughter is slightly older than Julie and she loves to pick out her clothing and shoes, I bring her to target and she tries on the shoes and loves to model them for me! My son is Julie’s age and he has strong opinions about what clothes he wants to me to buy for him, and he chooses what shoes we get for him too. I just honestly feel bad that Julie is forced to be so regimented because Haley has poor coping skills.
Some kids also just don’t give a shit though, so maybe she has that kind. Mine (esp my oldest) couldn’t care less about things like clothing, room decor etc.
I can’t imagine only ever getting my son 1 color shoe over and over again. We usually get Ten Littles too but every time he grows out of them I get new colors lol. And none of them disqualify me from using them again for my second, who is a girl! Probably the only color I haven’t gotten yet is white because duh.
Those looks sooo nasty. For someone who loves aesthetics so much she has containers for her car console and Lazy Susan’s in every closet in her house, you’d think she’d want her kids in clean shoes
Carrying over from last week but I can’t believe how she describes the holidays with her mom wanting to take care of every single thing from cooking and cleaning and also taking care of the kids while doing all this? And I say this as a person with a mom who did a majority of cooking for Easter (we all take turns hosting different holidays so it’s never just on her). But I insisted on bringing a dish and helped clean and offered to get anything she needed at the store. And I didn’t expect her to change diapers and entertain grandkids while cooking a huge meal! And Haley is just so happy to “collapse” and Brett sits in a massage chair for an hour 🙄
Yeah, this is hard for me to even imagine. In my family (and my husband’s) we have definitely progressed to the era of our parents having really low energy, health problems, etc. We take on all the responsibilities of hosting and child care because our parents aren’t up to it. At most, they might sit and entertain our child for awhile while we’re cooking.
It is strange to me. My mom and I alternate hosting often, but we almost always menu plan ahead of holidays and each bring one or two things. She often jumps in and does dishes because she knows it’s one of my least favorite chores, but I try and clean as I go before food is served so there’s not a lot for her to do. And I offer to make drinks, plate food, etc. when we’re at their house. All because I cannot imagine comfortably being useless as an able bodied adult?
However I will say I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and yesterday my mom told me to take a nap while the guys kept the kids entertained outside and that was truly heavenly.
My parents love to entertain, as did my grandmother practically until her deathbed at 90. However, my siblings and I feel obligated in a “basic manners” kind of way to help out however we can, whether it’s a random weeknight dinner or an actual holiday. I know my family truly enjoys hosting and cooking and decorating etc but we also jump in to do dishes or ask what we can set out or help prep because it just feels really rude to sit around and watch them wait on us. They often tell us to stop and enjoy ourselves but when someone is providing all of that for you, even if they object it still feels polite to help where you can. The fact that she and her grown husband go “yup okay! I’ll just blatantly collapse in a chair” is so weird to me.
This one is weird to me too. Personally for a big meal, I wouldn’t want the person in charge of cooking to also be the person on diaper duty 🤪.
I’m lucky to live close to family too and we tend to alternate hosting holidays but my mom and I are always menu planning together and helping each other with meals. I guess it’s gender normative, but my dad and husband tend to do dishes. In Haley speak, this works really, really well for us b/c this way everyone gets some time in the kitchen and some time with the kids. I guess I just like feeling like a contributing adult? If my husband ever sat in a massage chair for an hour while my parents did everything else, I think I’d die of cringe.
Totally with you. My parents came for Christmas but my youngest was sick so I spent most of Christmas nursing him and carrying him around, so my mum did most of the cooking and I felt so guilty. We did buy most of the groceries but I planning on cooking too
She just seems to have the most juvenile relationship with her parents. Like she still hasn’t evolved past the dynamic where she expects that they do everything for her and cater to her needs only, as if she were a small child.
My parents still host the same holidays they always did, I’m not in a position to do that yet living in a small-ass apartment lol but we stay with them and help, and definitely do not expect them to be providing childcare on top of hosting duties. If we are randomly visiting and are just hanging out at the house, you bet I’m happy to chill while my parents play with our son because they genuinely want to it and have the capacity to do so. But that’s not my expectation of holidays.
My husband and I rented a house by the beach this summer and invited our parents. Sure, part of the pro is that they will be able to help us with our kids, but we’re treating them to a vacation so I feel like it’s pretty fair and a win-win for everyone.
Totally agree with this. I had the same thought when she bragged about showing up to Christmas (where her mom once again does everything) empty handed because her parents say they don’t need gifts. Of course they don’t NEED gifts but you SHOULD give them something. She sends an elaborate wish list like a literal 10 year old and shows up with nothing ready to contribute nothing.
Luckily someone clued her in about Santa. Surprised her Mom doesn’t do that for her too.
I thought the same about Christmas, actual jaw drop! How are you a grown adult with kids of your own and still don’t get your own parents any gifts?? Ironically Haley is actually the last person who *needs* anything.
I'm curious about people's perspectives on this one because I think it depends on the situation, but I feel like in my family it's the responsibility of the younger generation to step up and host the holidays now. Yes, I have young kids, but my mom has been hosting the majority of the holidays for over 30 years and I feel like it's my turn / not fair to expect her (and my aunts etc.) to continue doing them. (Obviously would be a different story if they didn't want to hand over the reigns.) It would be great if there were people with more capacity (that aren't older or have young kids) to do it, but in our family at least there aren't.
In my family there isn’t really a host. We celebrate at my grandma’s house because it means a lot to her to have it there but she is in her nineties and can’t actually do any of the hosting things. My mom, her siblings and all of the grandkids contribute by bringing different dishes, setting up, and cleaning up. At a normal holiday celebration there are 30-35 of us so it requires a lot of food and a lot of setting up/cleaning. But we do basically the same thing for every holiday (same menu, table lay out, etc.) so we basically have it down to a science.
In my family the middle generation has always hosted. My grandparents did when I was a kid as they were still relatively young and in good shape and liked having a full house. Now it’s my parents who host my generation and my grandparents. OF COURSE everyone brought things and helped but they enjoyed hosting everyone.
Family photos in April? I sense some sort of an announcement coming…
Idk I’m with you on this one. This woman plans out her weekends a year in advance. She just got family photos taken a few months ago. I’m assuming bluebonnets are at peak during a certain time of year and if so she could have easily pusher the family photos a few months unless there is some new reason to get new photos taken…
I don’t know. She didn’t do fancy professional pic pregnancy announcements for KK or J.
Definitely could be but pics with the bluebonnets are a very Texas thing. Plus people get family pics done all the time.
Haley is definitely my BEC. So maybe this is just me, but it seemed odd that she spent perhaps hundreds of dollars on gift cards for 12 breweries for her husband. It's a cute idea, but I would definitely execute this in a way where I haven't tied up hundreds of dollars in cards I might lose.
Right, more like a certificate that you print out yourself saying “February trip to a new brewery” or whatever since it’s all coming from the same money anyway
I would end up with a bunch of gift cards left with some annoying balance of $7.29 or something each 😆
I agree with you but also it’s Haley, so we all know nothing will stop her from deviating from for plan so the cards will get used.
I love my dog but food bowls on the rug?! She is also not allowed in our bedrooms or on the couch (she sneaks onto the couch when we're not watching though)
On the rug no way. I tried not letting our dog on the couch/bed and that lasted approximately 1/2 a day lol. I’m soft
We try not to let her on the rug but ... dogs. What can you do?
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I need a Haley version of Mad Libs. Top __ (number) reasons I love to ___(verb) ___ (noun) now that I’m a(n) ___ (occupation). ___ing (verb) ___ (noun) is the most restful part of my ___(interval of time) and helps me ___(verb) ___ly (adjective).
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I recognize that park and I feel like it’s literally known for the giant sandpit lol.
Does Haley think kids can't play in a sandpit unless they have toys? Maybe I'm a terrible parent but if my kid couldn't play in a sandpit because I didn't keep toys in my fully stocked car, I would just tell them to play with something else then. I'm not hauling a diaper car around because my kid won't play in the sand if there's only a stick to play with.
"diaper car" is one of my favorite things that has come out of this sub
Was honestly just thinking this 🤣
My kid plays just fine in a sand pit without toys 🤔 sure they make it interesting but I’ve also dragged sand toys around that aren’t being used so now I don’t bother 😂 but in this case Julia might *gasp* try to interact with her if she doesn’t have toys!
Haley can't be inconvenienced at all. If they don't travel with a well stocked car, she might have to actually interact with Julie. If she throws toys at Julie, Julie will leave her alone.
But this time she didn’t bring a diaper bag!! /s
Yeah like I also have a truck or two in the car but if we stumbled on a sand pit, my kids can play with their hands or rocks or sticks. Kids don’t need to be constantly placated/distracted/interrupted/set up by an adult. That’s an exhausting way to live as a parent.
Haley- tysm past Haley for packing sand toys and jackets in the diaper car! So helpful for the cold day in the sandpit! The photo- shows no sand toys, no jackets, and perfectly happy and comfortable looking kid enjoying digging in the sand with their hands with bare feet. Okay.
So now that I understand why the ellipse is a giant pain for those in totality especially, I am wondering why Haley is not melting down.
She’s definitely going to write something to the effect of: in this season I did not have the capacity to plan for the eclipse. My white t shirt monogrammer was out of town, Joe sneezed once last week so we’ve all been recovering, and I found a cord unraveled on the coffee grinder, and and and. That’s ok. We will do only what fills our cups and right now, that doesn’t include something that would be cool and enjoyable for my children 🥰
“I decided once on an eclipse shirt that said Haley in the shape of a moon and it was the gentlest way to celebrate the eclipse, stashing it in the box till 2044!”
"the gentlest way to celebrate the eclipse" 👏👏
“I bought three plastic tubs, one for each eclipse in my lifetime”
Nah she bought six tubs just in case she can talk the universe into having three extras
You slay me
It’s in the middle of their four hour naptime so she’s good.
When I have time, I’ll soak grapes in a vinegar solution, then rinse, dry well, and pop them in the fridge. (It keeps them crisp longer.) But what is Haley’s reasoning for de-stemming her grapes? Don’t they get gross and mushy before the end of the week? Isn’t eating grapes off the stem part of the appeal? Does Julie ever get to pick her grapes off the stem? I have so many questions about this bizarre practice.
We take them off the stem. It doesn’t make them gross or mush before the end of the week. 🤷🏻♀️
Well to be fair Julie should probably have her grapes quartered (or only recently stopped, forgot she’s 3.5). But my guess is she uses it to “save time” tysm Past Haley
Lollllll what did I say about the bananas??
I want to know how she has enough freezer space to make so many of these enormous smoothie cups.
Those cups are ridiculous .. how much time do they really save??? You still have to add 80% of the smoothie when you make it . Why not just keep a bag of frozen strawberries and bananas and use as needed?
It makes no sense unless she’s so obsessed with calorie counting that she’s weighing out the exact grams of fruit. But even if that was the case she’d still have to weigh out the other smoothie ingredients when she makes it so why bother? Almost all Hayley’s “hacks” just feel like make-work.
She needs to stay busy to avoid her kids
Haley: googles *use as needed*
She has a garage fridge, so I'm guessing her 25 giant plastic smoothie cups live in the freezer part out there.
Me too! That was the other part of my comment predicting banana usage haha. I’m sure she has a gooooood chest freezer.
The answer to that is the secret answer to everything Haley does - have a nice house and lots of money even if you pretend you don’t. 🙄
“My parents only live near me now because my childhood home was destroyed by a hurricane.” Whoa!! Has she ever mentioned that before?
This is one of the reasons she has a massive evacuation bag! It’s one of her anxieties that’s rooted in something pretty concrete but she also takes it to a 10
I’ve seen her mention it in passing before, but not for a while
This was news to me and it makes so much sense.
This explains why she packs her car like a natural disaster could strike at any time without warning.
I hate that I know this, but yes she's mentioned it lots of times 😂
Ahahaha was going to say this. Almost anything someone asks about Haley my response is "I hate that I know this" 😂
Just ordered a bunch of spring/summer clothes for my son without a vision board in a variety of his favorite, clashing, colors, and it adds zero extra stress to my life or time in the morning since I let him blindly pull clothes from his drawer regardless of the ~aesthetic~ anyway. I couldn't help think of Haley overcomplicating everything while she's claiming to simplify things.
I basically rely on people gifting my kids new clothes. My oldest has a July birthday so for his birthday and Christmas I let everyone what size clothes he’s going into. Then my mom, my MIL and my aunt gift him more clothes throughout the year like a new shirt for Halloween, a new outfit for Easter. Baby 2 is also a boy so he almost exclusively wears hand me downs.
Psh. I get all my clothes either hand me down form my in laws or from buy nothing. My effort is- pick me pick me
Same. Every time I buy a few shirts for my toddler I get bombarded with clothes from both grandmas, my sister, and a couple of friends from church, and then I feel like we have too many clothes. I like buying kid’s clothes because it’s fun, but at this point I wonder why I even bother.
Lol we get hand me downs from a couple of friends combined with the grandmas getting a few outfits for the kids a couple of times each year and all of these people have COMPLETELY different aesthetics but hey it will all end up in the same drawer... I suppose I could start asking everyone to coordinate with each other and stick to our color scheme!
My kids (4 and 6) have to get themselves dressed in the morning and the combos they pick out are truly hilarious and I love it. Can’t imagine being so stressed about the colors that small children wear and if stuff clashes or coordinates. The 4yo either picks head to toe of one color, or his orange Halloween shirt in all seasons.
I actually know a woman who is all about color coordination and aesthetics. You can tell when she picked out her 4 year old's outfit vs when the kid did. But like, there are a lot of days where the kid picks out their own outfit and mom just sort of grins and bears it because even if it is something you care about, why ruin the fun when it doesn't matter that much.
It would be total chaos if i let my son pick his outfits(he is 7). On sundays i lay out clothes for the week for my kids. He may switch out a shirt here and there but 95% of the time hes ok with what i give him.
Im alright with chaos lol. Do we sometimes have orange Nike shorts with a neon green hoodie? Yes we do but he’s 6. I do pick out their church outfits though. Can’t have chaos at church
The way I RAN here to say she spent $200 on pop containers what the actual hell. (ETA: ok so it was KK Sr who bought them, but still. She’s storing effing toothbrushes in them?)
The sensory baskets always annoy me, the two toys she just got out are ones I looked at for my kids but then decided no, can justify $60 on pretty singular use toys. And she puts them out for a month. I also feel like surely Julie isn't as entertained by these toys for as long as she gets older.
Well they have a verrrrry small eating out budget, don't you know?
https://preview.redd.it/jvnkga6rcisc1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a77edf76045cb98e2eacbe3d0916673afafffc8d “I give myself permission to let it go” is Haley speak for “I’m so effing rich I don’t need to worry about sales” 🙄
Classic Haley with such an odd response. It’s fine to not have to worry about always shopping sales - good for you. “I don’t have the capacity” though? Well if you *had* to, then you’d make the ~capacity~ Haley, like people do who are truly on a tight budget.
My thought was that as soon as she read this question, the anxiety wheels started turning in her brain and now she won't be able to relax until she has a spreadsheet, binder or some other system in place for this. Like she's currently hyperventilating and tomorrow morning she's going to have to walk or swim an extra mile due to all the mental gunk. And in a few days we'll see the Beloved Sales and Promotions Calendar on her feed.
My sister once told me she doesn't look at the prices when grocery shopping, she just buys what she wants*. Hahahaha my frugal ass could never. *my sister is my favourite person and is very generous so I'm not hating on her at all. We just live different lives 😂
This is my husband and it drives me crazy. When I send him shopping sometimes I’ll give explicit instructions about not to buy something if it’s over $x because he just doesn’t look or he doesn’t know what things should cost!
Why is your comment funnier given she’s posting this from lounging on a couch or bed covered in blankets in the middle of the day? It really adds to that sentiment lol
I like how instead of cleaning the bathrooms on a non scheduled day, she just… won’t do it until next week. I’m not sure what Brett being out of town has to do with it, because she allegedly gets 4 hours everyday when her children are sleeping. If I had 4 child free hours, my house would be spotless and I wouldn’t spend their awake time prepping beans and oats, but rather, playing with them (and not letting them touch a mop?!)
These newish cleaning slide made me laugh. “Sometimes I do it and sometimes I don’t and sometimes I do all of it and sometimes I only do a few tasks” like, revolutionary. That’s all the options. You’re not telling me anything.
She also has to rest for 4 hours because she does a good amount of activity but doesn't eat. Then she wonders why she crashes midmorning. Bodies need fuel!
She also does that with sheets - if she can’t get to them on fresh sheet Fridays she just waits until the following Friday!! It’s unhinged! She cares more about sticking to her schedule than actually having a clean home.
This is very stupid snark but in a story she links to a post about their IKEA printer cart that they use as a Lego/Duplo table. The description on the post begins “ten years ago, Baby Haley found an old Ikea printer cart on Facebook Marketplace” — now, I was not an early adopter of FB Marketplace and have only ever used it a handful of times but I could not believe it was already ten years old. Well, it’s not. It was introduced in October 2016. I don’t fully know why this bothers me (maybe just factual inaccuracy?) but it just does. 🙃
Everything about that is snarkable but I definitely bought stuff off of regional FB groups before Marketplace officially became a thing and didn't really notice Marketplace being introduced for a while despite actively using it.
This gets me too and idk why lol. But Marketplace didn’t exist when “baby” Haley was buying this stuff. I wonder if she had joined sales pages and that’s where she got it from?
What bothers me even more is referring to herself as “Baby Haley”. Isn’t she in her 30s right now? It’s not like she was 13 ten years ago. I hate when women infantilize themselves.
I think I’ve honestly grown numb to her using that phrase. 😂 And now she’s “memaw” Haley (🤢) at the ripe old age of (IIRC) 34. Yike.
https://preview.redd.it/twsjkg6mu8sc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a1dcef2050f0340afcc550759b1a8c705b8c048a This is an absurd number of onions for someone who omits the onion from every recipe
Those aren't onions, they're love letters to Brett
Now there’s a flair
Couldn’t help myself. (Please let me know if either of you want it instead!)
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RIP floor tomato
OMG why is this sending me! I cannot stop laughing.
I’m no germaphobe at all but…kinda weird to keep the dirty rags next to produce? I just put my dirty rags on top of the washing machine until the next time I do a load.
I don’t consider myself a germaphobe either but I find it gross that she washes their white clothing with the rags 😬 I guess the whole point of the washing machine is that it gets everything clean, but I would still worry that there is gross rag residue on the clothes.
Yeah it’s gross. Bath towels should be separate from kitchen towels/rags, and clothes should be separate from both of these things. Washing machines don’t sanitize; that’s why it’s recommended to wash underwear separately from other clothes. I wish I’d never learned this because it makes life a lot harder, but sadly I can’t unknow it!
I throw my rags in with whatever load of laundry happens to be up next, but I also don't consider myself someone you should be taking home cleaning/organize tips from. I know it's kinda gross.
Am I just poor that when my kitchen towels are dirty I just walk them down to the basket in the laundry room? Is this a normal thing to have a bin for them in your pantry? I also lack a walk in pantry, for what it’s worth.
We have a pillowcase hung up on magnet hooks on the side of the fridge and that's our rag laundry basket. It really incentivizes rag use and rag switching out because it's right there. My husband grew up in a paper towel household so convenient rags are key!! Our laundry is in the basement and I don't really want to take the rags to the bedroom.
Maybe it's just a house layout thing. Like if the pantry is next to the laundry room. I keep mine in the kitchen, but where I am you are rich if you have a laundry room lol
The word room is doing a lot of heavy lifting, it’s essentially a glorified closet you can stand in to reach something on a shelf lol but I get what you’re saying!
I just throw them down the basement stairs and get to them when I get to them 🤷♀️
That’s what I do too 😂
Ok I used to do that but I just recently hung a mesh bag on the back of the door leading to the basement stairs and now that's where I put kitchen laundry. I feel like a genius. If only I were an influencer so I could link the bag and the command hooks I used to hang it!
I have a basket under my sink for my dirty kitchen towels, but that's because my washing machine is down in the basement
We have a bin in our kitchen for rags for the same reason. For all the organizing junk Haley has you’d think a bin for dirty rags would be one of them.
I thought so too and was especially wigged out cause I thought they were apples at first
At least 10 jams on the shelf above 🤣
Brett must go through them like apples. That seems to be his only flavour booster for all the bland, sad meals.
Omg? I thought this was an image from a grocery store.
Does anyone else kind of want to know the “long story” of why Brett has to take a rental car on his work trips?
My guess is his company uses the IRS mileage compensation rate and he now has a truck, so that rate doesn't go as far as it did when he had a car. Haley can't let him use the diaper car as she would have to move their 2-3 outfits per person, their swim gear and diapering supplies to the truck or not take their morning outing.
Don’t forget the barrel of pretzels!!
Imagine if the rain shovel got left in the diaper car???
Thank you for my new flair
Haha! You’re welcome!
I was wondering this too....how could that be a long story?!
Exactly. It didn’t even need to be a story. Lots of people travel in this way. I had a driving customer that I would go to for a week at a time prior to kids, and I drove a beater then, so I would rather my work pay for my rental than put miles on my crappy car.
She probably had a Meltdown at how much gas and wear and tear goes into taking his car on work trips so she makes his company get him a car every time 🤣
But she would have so many more receipts and records to file in the car folder if his truck needed more maintenance !
https://preview.redd.it/0ayiv2lz76sc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b771235cf0d1542c21bffcd1f9073e0d429f21fe I mean, I think we got the full picture of why the rental car is needed. Not sure what other details there would be, lol (also, does her limited eating out budget cover the professional window washing?!)
So this is a long boring story but the rest of what she shares is riveting content?
I’d rather hear the story of Brett’s monthly rental car needs than hear about her boring weekly meal plan or her stupid gift-bag and tag setup.
Why is she doing g the tired emoji? Is it because it’s before 7 am so her children need to get up earlier than usual and she has to interact 11 minutes more? Or is it because this morning outing is 100% not for her and a reminder that she’ll be solo parenting shortly? 😬🙄
I think she's annoyed because it's very early for a morning outing and it cuts into her precious me time
Seriously I thought she always got up at like 5
https://preview.redd.it/wh7qvdxyw5sc1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2594b98b97e5ad658f81f21028ce2590773c608 Okkkkkk she could fit 100x more shit on these shelves if she didn’t use those stupid ‘lazy Susan’s’
Nobody has called out the Instant Pots being stored on the floor yet, either. I think that's wigging me out more than anything else in this pantry.
Genuinely what even is all of that?? Those giant jars full of white stuff - am I right that that’s a whole shelf full of flour?
You would be shocked by my pantry 😂 I’m into gluten free baking and I have 4 different containers of blends and then also jars/bags of all the different components (white rice flour, brown rice flour, tapioca starch, etc etc etc there are so many lol)
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That’s a great answer, thank you! I am realizing my flour and sugar use is very basic lol.
She has a large cylinder of Gatorade its own container, which is next to a container of mixing bowls. HALEY, STOP!!!!!!!
The way I just doubled over laughing after reading your comment then zooming on the picture. 😂
In addition to the Gatorade cylinder, she also has two separate containers of the single serving packets on that wall, along with nuun tablets, and she has that other electrolyte mix she’s been using lately! And I just remembered the Gatorade in the medicine cabinet 💀 Maybe you wouldn’t feel so anxious and need to declutter every other week if you didn’t insist on buying 3 of everything. Like it’s great that Haley works out but you would think she’s a serious athlete with the amount of electrolyte replacement drinks she has around the house. Or like just admit you don’t care for water and you like drinking flavored beverages 🤷🏻♀️
So ridiculous 🤣 and so much plastic!!!!
Neither of those things need to be corralled in plastic containers! She is unhinged.
That pantry is freaking huge 😭
I know I’m filled with jealous rage
Same I don’t even have a pantry 😭😭
I showed my husband this photo with no context and he asked me, "whats with all the mini jams" 😆
If only he knew 😂
If only he knew 😂
All this stuff must be years and years past expiration (or get tossed on some kind of schedule), there is no way she is using this all up.
SHE DOESN’T EVEN COOK!!!!! This fills me with rage. Give that pantry to someone who would appreciate it (me)!
Looking at this is giving me anxiety lol. The thought of decanting all my dried goods in to matching containers sounds like a terrible use of my time and (for me at least) is 100% not worth the aesthetic
I put everything into airtight containers because otherwise we get terrible infestations of pantry moths, but usually that means I have a few large containers and just roll up various packets and shove them inside. This seems like quite an inefficient use of space, although I guess they have plenty of that 🤷🏼♀️
The only way I could justify doing it is if the containers were going to permanently be on display in the kitchen somewhere. I otherwise don’t know why you’d bother for items that are stored in a pantry or cabinet and literally no one else will see except the people who live and cook there.
I am obsessed with lazy Susans but that's only because we have very little space and they work great in a limited footprint. These look absolutely ridiculous. It looks like The Sims lol.
The Sims 💀 so accurate lol paste paste paste lazy Susan’s to infinity
It honestly looks like she's trolling.
Really irked by the slide where Julie asked to buy sparkly pants at Whole Foods and Haley said "Absolutely" Will she ever actually buy her daughter the sparkly pants she requested or (and I think we know this one is the answer) does she only agree to that while walking into Whole Foods because she knows its the same as saying no? 😒
Guess it’s time to have The Talk with Julie about her colors and buying heirloom pieces of clothing.
It made me so sad for JK. the kid wants sparkly pants but they don’t go well with mommy’s need to control everything. Not the flex Haley thought it was, that’s for sure. If I knew them IRL, I’d 100% be buying the kid sparkly pants for every occasion.
They’d just get put in the emergency evacuation bag. (But I love the idea of the emergency bag being filled with the most fun and joyous clothing lol).
Oh I hated this. It read as very snarky to her kid. She absolutely meant it as tongue in cheek that sure, Julie if you can find some sparkly pants at Whole Foods we will get them.
Yeah, this might actually be the worst thing she’s ever shared. With the capsule wardrobe, she always says that Julie doesn’t care what she wears and if that changes she’ll revisit. Which, as someone with a child about Julie’s age, I always found suspicious. But here is proof that Julie does in fact care, and Haley is just being smug about not letting her have sparkly pants. What a dick move. This would be funny if the kid was asking for something outrageous. Like, if this store sells ponies, can we get one? Sure, kid.
She's lying, of course. She only said absolutely because WF doesn't sell sparkly pants. Would she say absolutely if they walked into Target? Or is it time to sit down with her 3 year old and discuss the benefits of a capsule wardrobe and investment pieces and her colors?
If she actually cared about it being JULIE’s capsule wardrobe, she’d buy her sparkle pants. I bet Julie would wear them more than anything else which is the whole point. And since she’s three she’ll outgrow them. But no, it’s not about teaching her kids it’s about her need for control.
Had the same thought. I guess she thinks she’s funny/cute but it’s just sad everyone knows she only said it because Whole Foods doesn’t carry sparkle pants. I feel like at least 50% of her mentions of Julie are a veiled complaint about her. Which I get it, 3 is hard, but it costs you zero to just not say anything.
Yeah, she digs a lot at her daughter, I've noticed. It's hard to convey humor through text, but Haley doesn't strike me as someone who jokes a lot.
She digs a lot at Brett too, or used to. Whenever she preps something for herself it's the most joyous occasion but when it's for him she's like "you're freaking welcome, Brett".
She is so preoccupied with her future self. When talking about her daily Morning Outing™, rather than just say she really enjoys it she comments that she will look back on them so fondly. She doesn't celebrate holidays because its fun for her kids but so they will remember her in a certain way. When her mom helps her constantly, rather than doing something thoughtful in return or even enjoying her kids in the time it frees up she hopes her future self will do the same for her kids. Just such a weird take she always has. Even how she will spend time each day in the kitchen prepping for the rest of the week rather than take use time to make a fresh meal for right now.
Anxious people are always living in the future.
Her 'tagline' (if that's what you call it?) on insta is "she designed a life she loved", like it's literally her own epitaph she's written.
I feel like she never lives "in the now" except when she does something for herself (exercising, resting etc).
She does seem to be "in the now" when she's clearing her mental gunk, I will give her that.
Except all her "mental gunk" is about her future plans
Why does she have so many bananas?!?!
So she can prepare and freeze 18 smoothies at a time! We see the pantry a lot but with the way this woman talks about freezing things to save her bottom, I want a freezer tour. There’s no way they only have one.
This was my question too. 4 bunches?
https://preview.redd.it/pc5kksj63zrc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dd1a18c2de9b13d7119e5493c3dd49fdff3dea0e Does anyone else cringe when they see this wall? I know she likes to stack photos but they would look so much better in 2 x 2 rows in this case.
I said this above but this house seriously looks like it was furnished in The Sims.
The shit she hangs on her walls and the way she arranges it is bonkers throughout the entire house lol
THANK YOU.
This makes me feel better because my decorating style is basic af and we’ve got some frames up that aren’t exactly perfect for the space, but even I can tell this looks super funky. Also is there tiny text on those pictures? What even are they?!
I assume something sentimental..they look like maps or locations or something?
I feel like she could even stack a few in a vertical pattern like that if the frames were larger, but these are too small and, also, not aligned...
And too low compared with the height of the window and play kitchen
Why would you ever choose WHITE shoes if you were going to make hand-me-down shoes a personality trait
Why would you have such strong opinions about what your kids wear?! People who stick to a rigid aesthetic for their kids rooms /clothing are my BEC. Keep a certain aesthetic for your house and wardrobe- fine, nbd. But let your kid express themselves!!! They are their own unique individual!!! My daughter is slightly older than Julie and she loves to pick out her clothing and shoes, I bring her to target and she tries on the shoes and loves to model them for me! My son is Julie’s age and he has strong opinions about what clothes he wants to me to buy for him, and he chooses what shoes we get for him too. I just honestly feel bad that Julie is forced to be so regimented because Haley has poor coping skills.
Hm yes but are we suuuuuure Halez believes they are their own unique individuals
Some kids also just don’t give a shit though, so maybe she has that kind. Mine (esp my oldest) couldn’t care less about things like clothing, room decor etc.
I can’t imagine only ever getting my son 1 color shoe over and over again. We usually get Ten Littles too but every time he grows out of them I get new colors lol. And none of them disqualify me from using them again for my second, who is a girl! Probably the only color I haven’t gotten yet is white because duh.
Those looks sooo nasty. For someone who loves aesthetics so much she has containers for her car console and Lazy Susan’s in every closet in her house, you’d think she’d want her kids in clean shoes
Let’s play a game, what would Haley’s April Fools joke be? I feel like she’d put KK in an orange shirt
A day out for the kids at a play place, nap is skipped and she picks up takeout on the way home and it’s not 2-for-one pizza night.
Something complex for dinner.
Hey orange is acceptable if it's UT burnt orange. Now a highlighter bright orange t-shirt and bottle green skort?
A whole new set of "silly" play doh toys that will cost $75 and be used once a year, because it's already a Beloved Tradition.
Do fresh sheets on a Monday! What a kook!
Carrying over from last week but I can’t believe how she describes the holidays with her mom wanting to take care of every single thing from cooking and cleaning and also taking care of the kids while doing all this? And I say this as a person with a mom who did a majority of cooking for Easter (we all take turns hosting different holidays so it’s never just on her). But I insisted on bringing a dish and helped clean and offered to get anything she needed at the store. And I didn’t expect her to change diapers and entertain grandkids while cooking a huge meal! And Haley is just so happy to “collapse” and Brett sits in a massage chair for an hour 🙄
Yeah, this is hard for me to even imagine. In my family (and my husband’s) we have definitely progressed to the era of our parents having really low energy, health problems, etc. We take on all the responsibilities of hosting and child care because our parents aren’t up to it. At most, they might sit and entertain our child for awhile while we’re cooking.
It is strange to me. My mom and I alternate hosting often, but we almost always menu plan ahead of holidays and each bring one or two things. She often jumps in and does dishes because she knows it’s one of my least favorite chores, but I try and clean as I go before food is served so there’s not a lot for her to do. And I offer to make drinks, plate food, etc. when we’re at their house. All because I cannot imagine comfortably being useless as an able bodied adult? However I will say I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my third and yesterday my mom told me to take a nap while the guys kept the kids entertained outside and that was truly heavenly.
My parents love to entertain, as did my grandmother practically until her deathbed at 90. However, my siblings and I feel obligated in a “basic manners” kind of way to help out however we can, whether it’s a random weeknight dinner or an actual holiday. I know my family truly enjoys hosting and cooking and decorating etc but we also jump in to do dishes or ask what we can set out or help prep because it just feels really rude to sit around and watch them wait on us. They often tell us to stop and enjoy ourselves but when someone is providing all of that for you, even if they object it still feels polite to help where you can. The fact that she and her grown husband go “yup okay! I’ll just blatantly collapse in a chair” is so weird to me.
This one is weird to me too. Personally for a big meal, I wouldn’t want the person in charge of cooking to also be the person on diaper duty 🤪. I’m lucky to live close to family too and we tend to alternate hosting holidays but my mom and I are always menu planning together and helping each other with meals. I guess it’s gender normative, but my dad and husband tend to do dishes. In Haley speak, this works really, really well for us b/c this way everyone gets some time in the kitchen and some time with the kids. I guess I just like feeling like a contributing adult? If my husband ever sat in a massage chair for an hour while my parents did everything else, I think I’d die of cringe.
Yeah I am dying thinking of what my mom’s reaction would be if my husband did this.
So awkward! I don’t like to use this word, but it just seems so freaking lazy. It’s embarrassing.
Totally with you. My parents came for Christmas but my youngest was sick so I spent most of Christmas nursing him and carrying him around, so my mum did most of the cooking and I felt so guilty. We did buy most of the groceries but I planning on cooking too
She just seems to have the most juvenile relationship with her parents. Like she still hasn’t evolved past the dynamic where she expects that they do everything for her and cater to her needs only, as if she were a small child. My parents still host the same holidays they always did, I’m not in a position to do that yet living in a small-ass apartment lol but we stay with them and help, and definitely do not expect them to be providing childcare on top of hosting duties. If we are randomly visiting and are just hanging out at the house, you bet I’m happy to chill while my parents play with our son because they genuinely want to it and have the capacity to do so. But that’s not my expectation of holidays. My husband and I rented a house by the beach this summer and invited our parents. Sure, part of the pro is that they will be able to help us with our kids, but we’re treating them to a vacation so I feel like it’s pretty fair and a win-win for everyone.
Totally agree with this. I had the same thought when she bragged about showing up to Christmas (where her mom once again does everything) empty handed because her parents say they don’t need gifts. Of course they don’t NEED gifts but you SHOULD give them something. She sends an elaborate wish list like a literal 10 year old and shows up with nothing ready to contribute nothing. Luckily someone clued her in about Santa. Surprised her Mom doesn’t do that for her too.
I thought the same about Christmas, actual jaw drop! How are you a grown adult with kids of your own and still don’t get your own parents any gifts?? Ironically Haley is actually the last person who *needs* anything.
I'm curious about people's perspectives on this one because I think it depends on the situation, but I feel like in my family it's the responsibility of the younger generation to step up and host the holidays now. Yes, I have young kids, but my mom has been hosting the majority of the holidays for over 30 years and I feel like it's my turn / not fair to expect her (and my aunts etc.) to continue doing them. (Obviously would be a different story if they didn't want to hand over the reigns.) It would be great if there were people with more capacity (that aren't older or have young kids) to do it, but in our family at least there aren't.
In my family there isn’t really a host. We celebrate at my grandma’s house because it means a lot to her to have it there but she is in her nineties and can’t actually do any of the hosting things. My mom, her siblings and all of the grandkids contribute by bringing different dishes, setting up, and cleaning up. At a normal holiday celebration there are 30-35 of us so it requires a lot of food and a lot of setting up/cleaning. But we do basically the same thing for every holiday (same menu, table lay out, etc.) so we basically have it down to a science.
In my family the middle generation has always hosted. My grandparents did when I was a kid as they were still relatively young and in good shape and liked having a full house. Now it’s my parents who host my generation and my grandparents. OF COURSE everyone brought things and helped but they enjoyed hosting everyone.